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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the

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Speaker 1: time poor parent who just wants answers.

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Speaker 2: Now, might I'll do Better Tomorrow? Is really just going

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Speaker 2: back to that idea of being a part of the village. Yes,

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Speaker 2: you know, if we want people to be a part

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Speaker 2: of our village, what part do we play in other

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Speaker 2: people's villages?

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Speaker 1: And now here's the stars of our show, my mom

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Speaker 1: and dad.

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Speaker 3: Before we start today's podcast. No, this is not an ad.

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Speaker 3: This is me saying before we start today's podcast. This

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Speaker 3: is the podcast we've actually started. I don't know what

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Speaker 3: I'm saying. My dad's birthdays today, So happy birthday, Dad.

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Speaker 3: I'm excited for you. I hope you have a great day.

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Speaker 3: And I have the list of the podcast so that

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Speaker 3: you know that I've said happy birthday just in case.

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Speaker 2: Don't care.

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Speaker 4: I don't because things get.

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Speaker 3: Busy sometimes, all right, Kylie, Every Friday, I love I'll

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Speaker 3: Do Better Tomorrow.

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Speaker 4: I think this is my favorite podcast. We get to

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Speaker 4: do it every week.

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Speaker 3: It's a bit personal. We dive into our lives. We

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Speaker 3: reflect on what we've been doing with our kids, what's working,

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Speaker 3: what's not, what we're trying so hard to get right,

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Speaker 3: and essentially we're talking about what we'll do better tomorrow,

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Speaker 3: how we can be more intentional in our parenting to

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Speaker 3: make our family function better.

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Speaker 4: Kylie, I've thought long and hard about what i want

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Speaker 4: to talk about today, and I'm going to go first.

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Speaker 3: You've always finished with so much heart, you make everyone cry,

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Speaker 3: You've always got such great things to say, So I'm

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Speaker 3: just going to dive straight.

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Speaker 4: Into it, all right.

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Speaker 3: What's the others I travel? We don't make any secrets

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Speaker 3: of this. We talk about it probably a little bit

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Speaker 3: too often on the podcast. I travel a lot for work,

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Speaker 3: and I've been gone. So I've been back for two

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Speaker 3: days or a day and a half. I've been gone

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Speaker 3: for like the last ten days. There's been so much travel.

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Speaker 3: I've been all over the place, Bunderberg, Melbourne, the Gold Coast, Adelaide,

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Speaker 3: Like I can't even remember where I've been a lot

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Speaker 3: when COVID hit and I essentially had two years at

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Speaker 3: home and I just thought, Oh, this is heaven. I'd

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Speaker 3: because I love the work that I do, and because

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Speaker 3: it makes a differentference. The number of people who were

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Speaker 3: able to touch and help as a result of the

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Speaker 3: talks that I give. It's just something that I can

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Speaker 3: it does come at a price, and that price is

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Speaker 3: time with our family. I'm really excited, though, because you're

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Speaker 3: I'm totally the parent, and I've started with completely wholehearted

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Speaker 3: And it just reminded me of the power of presence,

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Speaker 2: Well, it gave me the opportunity to have a little

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're you're doing the single parent thing. So the

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Speaker 2: And so I went for my run first up, and

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Speaker 3: I know he's written the books, but I'm the one

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Speaker 3: I think that there's a second message there in this

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Speaker 3: Wherever you can get to work a bit later be

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Speaker 3: Just on this whole intentional presence. I was able to

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Speaker 4: It feels so good to do it. I just love it.

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Speaker 3: I know that you've been go for some bike rides

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Speaker 3: same thing for you, just that time where it's carefree,

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Speaker 4: You're just in the moment. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yep, yep, yep. So that's my older better tomorrow.

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Speaker 3: It's the power of intention, the power of presence, the

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Speaker 4: And I'm super excited for the next few days.

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Speaker 3: I can't wait to get the house in order, get

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Speaker 2: So she's been living out of our home now for

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Speaker 2: couple of weeks ago, on the podcast, we talked about

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Speaker 2: and have loved our daughter for different reasons and in

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Speaker 2: of felt like my wedding day. They were literally there.

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Speaker 3: It makes me think of that saying that I always share,

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Speaker 3: And that's the point when you've got your seven year

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Speaker 3: Well, Hey, we really hope that there's been an uplifting

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Speaker 3: and helpful conversation for you. We hope that it helps

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Speaker 3: to make your family happier. The Happy Family's podcast is

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Speaker 4: It's talking about parent well.

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