WEBVTT - Can You Go Barefoot In The Office? 💼 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:03.840 The Flex and Rooms Daily podcast. 0:00:04.160 --> 0:00:08.280 We're back Flex and Rooms Podcast edition. It's just as 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:10.719 good as the radio version, but not live. 0:00:11.280 --> 0:00:13.000 I think people want to go and listen to it live. 0:00:13.520 --> 0:00:14.040 Huh. 0:00:14.120 --> 0:00:15.960 I think people want to go and listen to our 0:00:16.000 --> 0:00:16.560 shown lives. 0:00:16.960 --> 0:00:20.120 Like a second, make assumptions or assumptions. 0:00:20.600 --> 0:00:24.040 All right, let's get to it. Flex Andros Flexa. 0:00:24.160 --> 0:00:27.840 We are both Internet girlies, were constantly online. I quite 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:30.440 like it, Like I don't really have a negative experience online. 0:00:30.720 --> 0:00:31.520 No, I like it. 0:00:31.560 --> 0:00:34.440 I think that my perception of it changes based on 0:00:34.479 --> 0:00:38.360 who's observing my experience online. So when people thought influencers 0:00:38.400 --> 0:00:41.239 were lame, I was like, is this lame? Then they 0:00:41.280 --> 0:00:43.960 started making money. Now everyone wants to be like, oh 0:00:44.000 --> 0:00:44.400 my god. 0:00:44.240 --> 0:00:48.839 It's say greatly, you doing so inspiring? Is a big shift. 0:00:48.960 --> 0:00:49.720 It's a big shift. 0:00:49.800 --> 0:00:51.760 I don't know when you're an influencer and I knew 0:00:51.760 --> 0:00:53.000 and I didn't know you. I didn't think you were 0:00:53.000 --> 0:00:54.960 a cringe ebba thank you, but I did think of 0:00:55.000 --> 0:00:57.000 it was an influencer. But the new breed of influencer, 0:00:57.040 --> 0:00:59.000 which is actually quite appropriate for what I'm about to 0:00:59.000 --> 0:01:02.840 tell you, which is, oh, a new era in Internet 0:01:02.880 --> 0:01:05.000 that we have aged out of and apparently we are 0:01:05.040 --> 0:01:06.839 part of a thing called millennial pause. 0:01:06.920 --> 0:01:08.440 Let me play for you TBD. 0:01:08.760 --> 0:01:10.840 When you say we identifies gen Z. 0:01:12.080 --> 0:01:13.840 I'm more gend than you. I'm a year younger than you, 0:01:13.920 --> 0:01:14.560 So okay. 0:01:14.720 --> 0:01:18.559 Please sure many of us have seen videos like this 0:01:18.880 --> 0:01:20.840 and this on our for you. 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:26.119 Pages and just to explain this and this, uh piece 0:01:26.160 --> 0:01:28.640 to cameras, so people talking to the camera, even. 0:01:28.480 --> 0:01:33.600 Saying piece to camera, are you eighty five? Just say 0:01:33.600 --> 0:01:35.919 recording with the phone and selfie my piece to camera? 0:01:36.440 --> 0:01:38.840 See gen Z boomer? 0:01:40.040 --> 0:01:44.320 Yeah, I'll take boomer. This is a crush generational radio show. 0:01:45.880 --> 0:01:48.040 It's called are you sure You're not guilty of the 0:01:48.080 --> 0:01:49.000 millennial pause? 0:01:49.080 --> 0:01:50.400 And the millennial pause. 0:01:50.160 --> 0:01:52.040 Is a phrase that was coined by a creator named 0:01:52.080 --> 0:01:56.200 Lisa and is that split second between when a millennial 0:01:56.480 --> 0:01:59.440 hits record and when they start talking because they're checking 0:01:59.440 --> 0:02:02.720 to make sure that their camera actually is recording. I 0:02:02.720 --> 0:02:05.600 thought this was a super funny observation and also part 0:02:05.640 --> 0:02:08.120 of a larger trend that I've been seeing, which is 0:02:08.200 --> 0:02:10.480 basically that millennials are aging. 0:02:10.200 --> 0:02:11.079 Out of the Internet. 0:02:11.280 --> 0:02:13.120 I don't mean we can't use it anymore, that we 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:15.840 don't belong here but that the Internet that we built 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:18.840 and used for the past fifteen years is not the 0:02:18.840 --> 0:02:22.280 Internet that we are on anymore. But millennials are still 0:02:22.400 --> 0:02:25.960 using a lot of the hallmarks and behavior and ticks 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:29.200 from that old Internet. Michael is one of the creators 0:02:29.240 --> 0:02:31.840 who makes those millennial parity videos, and he explained it 0:02:31.840 --> 0:02:35.120 to me like this, The way the quintessential millennial behaves 0:02:35.120 --> 0:02:38.040 online is basically a bunch of silly little nuances strung 0:02:38.200 --> 0:02:41.040 together to create a personality that is very giddy and 0:02:41.120 --> 0:02:44.920 excitable about the normal or mundane zooming in on our faces, 0:02:45.919 --> 0:02:50.600 talking in a BuzzFeed accent, using Internet speak in real 0:02:50.639 --> 0:02:53.200 life where it's like doggo or I did a thing. 0:02:53.560 --> 0:02:57.000 Those are all millennial Internet issms, and if you use them, 0:02:57.240 --> 0:03:00.000 you've just immediately added yourself as a millennial longline. 0:03:00.160 --> 0:03:02.920 We'll leave it there, And you sure thought it's FLEXI 0:03:03.120 --> 0:03:05.800 I do recognize that. I thought it was a content 0:03:05.880 --> 0:03:10.360 creator versus a non content creative thing, because I feel 0:03:10.360 --> 0:03:13.400 as though when you do this regularly enough, you develop 0:03:13.400 --> 0:03:15.800 a sense of confidence and easy Like I've pressed it. 0:03:15.800 --> 0:03:18.320 It's on all you're smart enough to edit out that 0:03:18.400 --> 0:03:19.440 really awkward gap when. 0:03:19.360 --> 0:03:20.600 You're like, oh, I'm checking. 0:03:20.639 --> 0:03:22.080 I'm checking it exists. 0:03:22.080 --> 0:03:25.840 I've seen it, maybe myself, maybe in others, but yeah, 0:03:25.840 --> 0:03:28.720 it definitely exists. To call it a millennial pause, I think, 0:03:28.919 --> 0:03:31.240 you know, it's referring to a very specific type of 0:03:31.280 --> 0:03:34.160 millennial who publishes on the internet, who is like on 0:03:34.240 --> 0:03:36.440 the younger end of the spectrum. I don't think it's 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:39.600 like a generational thing. I also think it can become 0:03:39.600 --> 0:03:42.960 a really slippery slope to like pathologize every single human 0:03:43.000 --> 0:03:46.360 thing to do. Everybody checks before they record a video. 0:03:46.760 --> 0:03:49.760 Unless you're doing an Instagram story or a Snapchat, we've 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:53.160 already held the button, and holding the button indicates it's recording. 0:03:53.520 --> 0:03:55.160 I'm a different platform, different vibe. 0:03:55.400 --> 0:03:57.680 See, I totally disagree. I feel like it's the older 0:03:57.720 --> 0:04:00.000 millennials that do it. It's like when a yoga teach 0:04:00.200 --> 0:04:04.760 comes on to explain their class or whatever, and they 0:04:05.160 --> 0:04:06.680 like it's a specific thing that they do with their 0:04:06.680 --> 0:04:09.200 eyes as well. Obviously they're looking, but it's also like 0:04:09.320 --> 0:04:11.960 looking at the cameras on looking at themselves out Whereas 0:04:11.960 --> 0:04:13.760 when you're doing a piece of camera, I think you 0:04:13.840 --> 0:04:15.640 often need to make sure you're not looking at yourself 0:04:15.680 --> 0:04:18.360 because it becomes really obvious, but also looking straight down 0:04:18.400 --> 0:04:20.360 the barrel of the camera is also scary. 0:04:20.640 --> 0:04:23.599 The youngest millennials at the moment would be twenty six 0:04:24.160 --> 0:04:25.680 and the oldest would be forty. 0:04:25.960 --> 0:04:26.159 Yeah. 0:04:26.160 --> 0:04:27.440 I think it's forty year olds that do it more 0:04:27.480 --> 0:04:30.919 than twenty six year olds. Yeah. Well, I also like 0:04:31.080 --> 0:04:34.400 pathologizing things because it's about time that millennials started getting 0:04:34.400 --> 0:04:39.680 some boomer treatment. And I was also thinking, like gen Z, 0:04:40.040 --> 0:04:42.440 sure gen zs that we aren't part of because again 0:04:42.760 --> 0:04:46.040 I consider us CUSP and more gen Z adjacent. There's 0:04:46.040 --> 0:04:47.640 going to be things that they do that are then 0:04:47.680 --> 0:04:51.720 going to become embarrassing. Let me name a few minions 0:04:52.279 --> 0:04:57.880 minion obsessions doing this yew like, how would you describe 0:04:57.880 --> 0:04:59.719 that when you put your two point things together? 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:01.120 I do puppy dog guys. 0:05:01.720 --> 0:05:02.240 I hate that. 0:05:03.040 --> 0:05:04.440 Hey really I love it. 0:05:04.680 --> 0:05:07.280 And I will say I have been guilty of doing 0:05:07.320 --> 0:05:09.640 the millennial pause, but it's only when I started going 0:05:09.680 --> 0:05:13.120 on TikTok and making tiktoks. Because if you record on Instagram, 0:05:13.160 --> 0:05:15.440 like I, press the button straight away, it captures pretty 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:17.800 much everything that you've said. But sometimes if you press 0:05:17.839 --> 0:05:19.680 it too quickly and start talking, it. 0:05:19.680 --> 0:05:22.680 Misses the first like vowel Yeah, I agree, But on 0:05:22.720 --> 0:05:25.239 TikTok you have the millennial breath. Though, when you start 0:05:25.240 --> 0:05:29.279 a sentence you go it's do I absolutely? 0:05:29.520 --> 0:05:30.520 What's the opposite? 0:05:30.720 --> 0:05:33.360 You're like, this is this is an example? I'll be like, hey, sweetie, 0:05:33.400 --> 0:05:37.680 is flexing rooms? You'll be like, hey, everyone, is. 0:05:37.640 --> 0:05:40.520 That a bad thing? Brooke, I'm talking about producer. Leave 0:05:40.560 --> 0:05:41.240 Brook out of it. 0:05:41.920 --> 0:05:44.640 I like it because it's kind of like HARKing back, 0:05:44.720 --> 0:05:48.120 harkening back to, you know, the oldie world of broadcasting. 0:05:48.320 --> 0:05:50.559 I'm just living my dream. And if everyone else doesn't 0:05:50.600 --> 0:05:52.920 like it, you know, you know what you've done. Just then, 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:54.919 now everyone listening to this is gonna wait for. 0:05:58.360 --> 0:06:00.120 Flex and frooms right now. 0:06:00.120 --> 0:06:02.159 Now we have a bit of a moral dilemma. Listen 0:06:02.200 --> 0:06:02.440 to this. 0:06:02.640 --> 0:06:05.200 Do I tell my coworker that she's going to be 0:06:05.279 --> 0:06:06.440 laid off soon? 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:08.240 Do you see? 0:06:09.240 --> 0:06:11.680 Basically what's happened is that within the last year they've 0:06:11.680 --> 0:06:15.080 had this sweet and hard working employee on their team. However, 0:06:15.200 --> 0:06:18.000 despite working hard and putting in an extra effort, she's 0:06:18.040 --> 0:06:20.240 not able to meet the standards or catch up to 0:06:20.279 --> 0:06:23.520 the standards of the other coworkers. This person says, believe me, 0:06:23.640 --> 0:06:25.920 when they say they've had they've had to put more 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:28.479 than triple the amount of work that others do just 0:06:28.560 --> 0:06:33.880 to get to not even the same point. They're incredibly respectful, helpful, generous, hardworking, 0:06:33.920 --> 0:06:37.159 and considerate, and they're also quite older with this single 0:06:37.200 --> 0:06:39.320 income as their sole livelihood. 0:06:39.800 --> 0:06:41.760 Do that makes sense? I don't know. Yeah, I get it. 0:06:42.240 --> 0:06:45.160 My work environment, however, can be toxic. With our manager 0:06:45.240 --> 0:06:48.240 practically announcing it to the team that this employee's ours 0:06:48.240 --> 0:06:50.840 will be cut and eventually terminated. Do I let my 0:06:50.880 --> 0:06:54.280 coworker know of their eventual fate so they can prepare, 0:06:54.680 --> 0:06:56.880 or do I continue to say nothing and wait in 0:06:56.960 --> 0:07:00.600 fear of repercussions. Additionally, I haven't been working for long. 0:07:00.720 --> 0:07:05.680 Is this naive to consider? Yet hate it? It's a 0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:09.520 shame because there just the way that work environments are 0:07:09.560 --> 0:07:12.640 set up. Even if you are all friendly and chill 0:07:12.680 --> 0:07:14.560 and comfortable, it does feel a bit like a dog 0:07:14.600 --> 0:07:18.600 eat dog world, like you're all there for a joint reason. 0:07:19.560 --> 0:07:22.240 But the stakes are high for different people. So it's 0:07:22.280 --> 0:07:25.280 a shame that someone you like a lot it's just 0:07:25.320 --> 0:07:26.720 not meeting standards. 0:07:27.000 --> 0:07:29.120 Yeah, but what are you gonna do? 0:07:29.120 --> 0:07:30.680 Do you be the one to break the bad news. 0:07:31.040 --> 0:07:31.680 I don't know. 0:07:32.160 --> 0:07:35.200 See, part of what I'm learning as I get older 0:07:35.440 --> 0:07:40.240 is that there is a virtue in minding your own 0:07:40.280 --> 0:07:44.080 business and not like letting your ego decide that you 0:07:44.120 --> 0:07:46.200 deserve to be the center of someone else's narrative just 0:07:46.240 --> 0:07:49.080 because you feel bad or feel good or whatever. But 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:52.640 then on the other end of the spectrum, I really 0:07:52.800 --> 0:07:57.200 like considering that we're all responsible for each other. And 0:07:57.240 --> 0:08:01.200 so if I know this information, why wouldn't I tell her? Like, 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:03.080 why wouldn't I share it with her? Why would I 0:08:03.200 --> 0:08:05.640 keep her at a loop? It's her business? Why do 0:08:05.720 --> 0:08:06.480 I know so? 0:08:06.560 --> 0:08:09.800 FLEXI This poor woman, let's call her Sandra. Sandra has 0:08:09.840 --> 0:08:12.720 been working at a new company for quite a while. 0:08:12.760 --> 0:08:15.800 I think she's a new employee. She's busting her bussy 0:08:16.680 --> 0:08:20.040 to be a good employee, to try and get work done. 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:22.280 But it's taking her three times as long to do 0:08:22.400 --> 0:08:25.520 a job that is quite easy, and we are trying 0:08:25.560 --> 0:08:29.240 to decide if it's worth Another employee who is a 0:08:29.680 --> 0:08:34.200 protagonist in this question, should she let Sandra know that 0:08:34.240 --> 0:08:35.280 she's about to get cut? 0:08:36.600 --> 0:08:38.480 What do you reckon? Like, let's take it out of 0:08:38.520 --> 0:08:41.439 the context of Sandra and whoever is her name? Sandra? 0:08:41.600 --> 0:08:44.840 Yeah, call her hen Creative Liberty. 0:08:45.280 --> 0:08:48.960 Let's just imagine we're in a similar scenario. Imagine some 0:08:49.000 --> 0:08:53.199 of the old work environments you've been in where you 0:08:53.200 --> 0:08:54.800 can imagine this is happening to someone. 0:08:55.000 --> 0:08:56.880 What would you do? I feel like I have seen 0:08:56.880 --> 0:09:01.280 this happen before, have you sure? In some ways? Yeah? 0:09:01.360 --> 0:09:01.840 I think so. 0:09:02.520 --> 0:09:04.640 You know, when someone's not pulling their weight and everyone 0:09:04.679 --> 0:09:07.120 knows it but them either they're quite a shy person 0:09:07.240 --> 0:09:10.160 or they're quite sweet, or I don't know the status quo, 0:09:10.240 --> 0:09:12.959 they're not gelling in terms of like social interactions in 0:09:13.000 --> 0:09:16.280 the office. If I was put in this situation, I 0:09:16.320 --> 0:09:19.240 would make hints to Sandra, but I wouldn't tell her outright. 0:09:19.880 --> 0:09:22.120 Just an example for example, I'd. 0:09:22.000 --> 0:09:25.880 Be like, Oh, how did you feel about like that interaction? 0:09:25.960 --> 0:09:27.400 Like I might see someone in the office kind of 0:09:27.400 --> 0:09:29.600 like blowing them off or them like not really getting 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:31.080 the work, Like, oh, how do you feel about that? 0:09:31.200 --> 0:09:34.880 I'm like, yeah, damn, I've been in that position before, 0:09:34.960 --> 0:09:37.160 Like do you think it's just not really like? Do 0:09:37.240 --> 0:09:39.840 you like working here? Kind of put it back on them? 0:09:40.600 --> 0:09:42.400 So do you even like this. 0:09:42.520 --> 0:09:45.839 A self reflection? Yeah, And like do you want to quit? 0:09:47.559 --> 0:09:49.040 Put the seed of doubt in their heads. 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:51.800 So they're questioning because whether or not they know it, 0:09:51.960 --> 0:09:53.960 you know when things aren't working, like you know, when 0:09:54.000 --> 0:09:55.600 you're not one hundred percent jelling. I think for the 0:09:55.800 --> 0:09:58.000 for the most part, you might know it's as dire 0:09:58.040 --> 0:10:00.600 as you're going about to get fired. Usually have some 0:10:00.600 --> 0:10:02.240 sort of idea, so I'd warm them up to it. 0:10:02.640 --> 0:10:06.319 My issue with telling them is that things change. They 0:10:06.360 --> 0:10:09.040 could have a blow up, and you know, they might 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:11.320 get parleyed into a different role in the business and 0:10:11.360 --> 0:10:12.400 be fantastic at it. 0:10:12.520 --> 0:10:13.640 And then what do you look like? 0:10:13.960 --> 0:10:16.080 You look like A you were trying to sabotage them, 0:10:16.320 --> 0:10:18.040 or B you were getting in the way of someone 0:10:18.040 --> 0:10:19.920 else's business. It's like when you have an issue with 0:10:19.960 --> 0:10:22.800 a friend of yours and you tell another friend venting, 0:10:23.160 --> 0:10:25.400 and then they go and tell the friend, not giving 0:10:25.440 --> 0:10:29.280 you the not giving you the chance to tell your 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:32.320 own story and give the reasons why. So let's say 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:35.040 this woman is hearing the chatter about Sander and needing 0:10:35.080 --> 0:10:38.440 to yeat off. She might not be hearing the whole story, 0:10:38.480 --> 0:10:40.960 and she probably isn't equipped to tell her that news. 0:10:40.960 --> 0:10:43.319 She could probably be doing more harm because, believe it 0:10:43.400 --> 0:10:46.640 or not, I haven't had very good experiences with HR. 0:10:47.160 --> 0:10:49.560 But HR is there for a reason. I have never 0:10:49.640 --> 0:10:51.000 had a proper HR before. 0:10:51.640 --> 0:10:54.520 I mean, that's pretty regular given you work in media. 0:10:54.679 --> 0:10:56.960 But even yeah, I think it's a media thing. The 0:10:57.000 --> 0:11:01.800 point you made before, this idea that things change. What 0:11:01.840 --> 0:11:04.560 the information was when you heard it might not be 0:11:04.800 --> 0:11:08.000 the outcome of what's gonna happen, and so you intercepting 0:11:08.040 --> 0:11:11.120 at this very point could be the thing that derails 0:11:11.160 --> 0:11:14.000 what's happening. But I also feel like this issue with 0:11:14.040 --> 0:11:16.480 Sandra may she restu. 0:11:17.360 --> 0:11:20.160 Viasuring Sandra Bullet in that movie where she's like on 0:11:20.200 --> 0:11:20.520 a lake. 0:11:22.200 --> 0:11:24.960 It reminds me of this myth of meritocracy, this idea 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:27.880 if you work really hard, you'll be rewarded fairly and 0:11:27.960 --> 0:11:31.360 compensated for your efforts, and that your efforts should mean 0:11:32.160 --> 0:11:35.079 that you're doing well, that you're improving. And it must 0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:38.560 be a weird thing for Sandra to eventually hear that 0:11:38.840 --> 0:11:41.480 even though you're working really hard, you're putting in three 0:11:41.520 --> 0:11:44.680 times the work you're really you know, lovely and charismatic 0:11:44.720 --> 0:11:48.360 people like you, You're gonna get fined. It's just not good enough. 0:11:48.720 --> 0:11:51.840 What kind of messaging is that? I also find that 0:11:51.960 --> 0:11:55.160 wouldn't this be the kind of employee to invest your 0:11:55.200 --> 0:11:59.520 time and energy into, because very rarely do you find 0:11:59.559 --> 0:12:02.680 people who are pleasant to be around and willing to 0:12:02.760 --> 0:12:05.560 work to do the job with a little bit of direction, 0:12:05.760 --> 0:12:07.720 could they not turn out to be someone who is 0:12:07.760 --> 0:12:11.920 amazing for the team? And this emphasis that this poster 0:12:12.000 --> 0:12:15.080 made on you know Sandra's a bit older, It's like, okay, 0:12:15.080 --> 0:12:18.800 so you've set her up Like I've known a bunch 0:12:18.840 --> 0:12:22.199 of incompetent young people who were just allowed to stay 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:24.880 because the value of their presence was assumed to be 0:12:24.960 --> 0:12:27.600 higher because they're young, and like, you know, young people 0:12:27.640 --> 0:12:30.080 know how to do stuff, and you know that person's old, 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:32.600 they can't learn blah lah lah. Still, in this instance, 0:12:32.880 --> 0:12:35.760 I say, it's a dog eat dog world. You know, 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:39.200 our situations are never equally yoked. It's unfortunate. But mind 0:12:39.240 --> 0:12:44.880 your business. Unless you really feel like you're gonna ride 0:12:45.520 --> 0:12:49.120 for Sandra the full way through, don't do this saviorism thing. 0:12:49.120 --> 0:12:51.000 We're gonna jump in like I really really bad and 0:12:51.040 --> 0:12:53.359 I really want to help Sandro. What are you gonna be? 0:12:52.880 --> 0:12:55.200 What you what are you willing to do Like you're 0:12:55.200 --> 0:12:58.360 you gonna talk to your higher ups for her. You 0:12:58.400 --> 0:13:01.120 know you're gonna step in when times get You're going 0:13:01.160 --> 0:13:03.720 to vouch for her personally. If you're not really going 0:13:03.800 --> 0:13:05.920 to do what it takes a shop for her in 0:13:05.960 --> 0:13:08.320 a way that's going to be conducive to the outcome 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:09.440 of her keeping her job. 0:13:09.920 --> 0:13:10.880 Stay out of it, babe. 0:13:11.520 --> 0:13:13.640 Yeah, I want her to walk away and think, Yeah, 0:13:13.760 --> 0:13:15.960 but the memories I made I will cherish to ever 0:13:16.080 --> 0:13:19.840 with these colleagues. Yeah, and make him just blame whoever's 0:13:19.880 --> 0:13:23.520 higher up than you exactly. That's the goal. Yes, remain innocent. 0:13:23.760 --> 0:13:29.559 Yes, give platitudes, vibe out platitudes, cliches. The best thing 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:32.520 you can do for Sandra is make the last couple 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:34.760 months she has at work the most enjoyable. 0:13:34.920 --> 0:13:35.160 Mmm. 0:13:35.400 --> 0:13:40.760 Free coffees, yes, yes, laugh a little bit more, tell stories, 0:13:41.280 --> 0:13:44.120 enjoy you know. See if you know, you know any 0:13:44.160 --> 0:13:46.720 friends in the Grapevine who can hire her like that 0:13:46.760 --> 0:13:47.600 would be amazing. 0:13:48.040 --> 0:13:50.880 As for this job in Sandra, Mmmm, it's a shame. 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:52.880 This is flex and frooms. 0:13:54.120 --> 0:13:55.679 I want to tell you a bit of a fact 0:13:55.720 --> 0:13:57.760 I read on the internet that I'm very surprised by 0:13:57.840 --> 0:14:02.199 it did come from a verifiable, reputable sauce world atlist 0:14:02.320 --> 0:14:05.839 dot com. The logos are glow, so it looks legit 0:14:05.880 --> 0:14:08.840 to me. They have this tear list of the animals 0:14:08.840 --> 0:14:11.079 that kill the most people. What do you think is 0:14:11.160 --> 0:14:11.760 number one? 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:12.480 Bees? 0:14:12.800 --> 0:14:13.280 Number two? 0:14:13.880 --> 0:14:16.440 Dogs, number three bullants? 0:14:16.760 --> 0:14:17.000 Wrong? 0:14:17.120 --> 0:14:18.000 Wrong, and wrong. 0:14:18.080 --> 0:14:21.440 I'm going to read from the most to the least kills. 0:14:21.960 --> 0:14:24.720 Number one mosquitos. I didn't know mosquitoes were animals. There 0:14:24.760 --> 0:14:28.280 were bugs, but beggars. The choosing a serious Yeah, I 0:14:28.360 --> 0:14:30.680 thought mosquitoes are bugs. Bugs are animals. I don't think 0:14:30.720 --> 0:14:34.920 so that's a whole other thing. Two humans, humans skill 0:14:35.000 --> 0:14:38.160 humans are true. Well, then I didn't think we were animals, right, 0:14:38.560 --> 0:14:42.760 that's what I'm saying, followed by snake, dog, setsy fly, 0:14:43.120 --> 0:14:49.040 assassin bug, freshwater snail, ascaris, roundworm, tapeworm, and crocodile. Is 0:14:49.080 --> 0:14:52.160 that completely nonsense. I'm not sure where are these stats 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:54.800 coming from. Don't ask, but I'm happy to go with it. 0:14:54.840 --> 0:15:00.640 I'm surprised by the crocodile because one thousand people a year. Yeah, 0:15:00.920 --> 0:15:03.280 a thousand people are eaten by crocodiles a year. I think, 0:15:03.320 --> 0:15:06.800 so that's wild. That's my biggest fear no way. Seriously, 0:15:06.800 --> 0:15:08.400 I have dreams about a crocodile. 0:15:09.480 --> 0:15:13.240 A crocodile. Sorry, got something on my brain today. I 0:15:13.320 --> 0:15:15.080 always have dreams. 0:15:14.800 --> 0:15:17.720 About crocodiles grabbing me and spinning me around on the 0:15:17.720 --> 0:15:18.080 bottom of. 0:15:18.040 --> 0:15:21.200 The floor, like the floor of the ocean. Yeah, the river. 0:15:21.280 --> 0:15:25.000 They're not ocean. Okay, sorry, I'm sorry. 0:15:24.440 --> 0:15:26.520 But actually they could be. So don't take my word. 0:15:27.600 --> 0:15:29.160 This is flex and Frooms. 0:15:30.400 --> 0:15:32.800 It's going to be a full show full of advice 0:15:32.880 --> 0:15:36.320 because the people need answers and life is really difficult 0:15:36.360 --> 0:15:37.000 to do alone. 0:15:37.120 --> 0:15:39.680 So why not lean on two girls. 0:15:39.360 --> 0:15:44.760 From Australia who have no psychology degrees? And I guess 0:15:44.920 --> 0:15:47.880 some life experience says more limited than other. 0:15:48.240 --> 0:15:49.800 Perhaps I'll let you decide. 0:15:50.360 --> 0:15:52.800 This person says, am I the asshole for telling my 0:15:52.920 --> 0:15:56.040 coworker I will cover up my shoulders when he starts 0:15:56.040 --> 0:15:59.600 wearing shoes off the bat. I'm very confused, but let's 0:15:59.600 --> 0:16:02.880 just see what where this takes us. So this person says, 0:16:02.920 --> 0:16:05.800 my workplace doesn't have a dress code, so everyone dresses 0:16:06.120 --> 0:16:09.360 very casually. Today I was wearing a top with thin 0:16:09.480 --> 0:16:13.000 straps with long pants, and my shoulders were showing. Sounds 0:16:13.080 --> 0:16:16.000 chill to me, but I also wear my whole mid 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:19.640 drift out at all times. One of the coworkers, Brian, 0:16:20.160 --> 0:16:22.400 was giving me angry looks all day, and when I 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:24.800 finally asked him what's wrong, he told me that he 0:16:24.840 --> 0:16:27.840 thought better of me than to dress in barely any 0:16:27.880 --> 0:16:29.920 clothes to work at that. 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:32.000 Moment, giving Virgin no offense. 0:16:32.440 --> 0:16:35.640 At that moment, Brian was wearing pretty short shorts and 0:16:35.800 --> 0:16:40.720 was barefoot. He dressed like this the whole summer. The 0:16:40.760 --> 0:16:43.640 office is carpeted. He only puts on his slippers if 0:16:43.640 --> 0:16:45.440 he's going to the bathroom or the kitchen. 0:16:45.720 --> 0:16:47.200 Yuck, tinier. 0:16:48.200 --> 0:16:50.560 I told Brian that I will start covering up my 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:53.880 shoulders when he starts wearing shoes to the office. If 0:16:53.920 --> 0:16:56.400 I have to watch his hairy toes at work, he 0:16:56.400 --> 0:16:58.320 can deal with the sight of my shoulders. 0:16:58.880 --> 0:17:00.160 That, of course didn't help. 0:17:00.200 --> 0:17:02.400 He put on his headphones and didn't even look in 0:17:02.440 --> 0:17:04.040 my direction the rest of the workday. 0:17:04.359 --> 0:17:05.520 Now I'm wondering if. 0:17:05.359 --> 0:17:07.720 I was wrong to say that he's a coworker and 0:17:07.760 --> 0:17:10.720 I should thrive for good work relationships. But I felt insulted, 0:17:11.040 --> 0:17:13.600 so I kicked back at him. Am I the asshole? 0:17:14.520 --> 0:17:15.680 Before you share? 0:17:15.760 --> 0:17:16.440 Your thoughts. 0:17:17.000 --> 0:17:20.560 I encourage us both just sit into our brains for 0:17:20.600 --> 0:17:24.639 a second. Think about how we would feel at Cado 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:28.119 if somebody said to us verbatim that they thought better 0:17:28.160 --> 0:17:30.560 of us than to dress in barely any clothes. 0:17:30.840 --> 0:17:32.320 Did she take it too far? What do you think? 0:17:32.359 --> 0:17:33.040 No, not at all. 0:17:33.119 --> 0:17:35.440 I love that she has a little thing to get 0:17:35.520 --> 0:17:37.159 him on, which is him not wearing shoes. It's the 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:40.320 perfect like throw back in the face. Yes, it reminds 0:17:40.359 --> 0:17:42.639 me in year nine, my friend Rachel, We're at school 0:17:43.040 --> 0:17:45.040 and we were wearing I think it was like pe 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:47.640 so you could see her brass traps under her little top. 0:17:48.119 --> 0:17:51.040 And this teacher fully was like, you can't show your 0:17:51.040 --> 0:17:53.800 brass traps to school, And no other teacher did it. 0:17:54.320 --> 0:17:56.119 He was a bit odd. Oh yeah, there we go, 0:17:56.320 --> 0:17:57.360 and he said too much. 0:17:57.560 --> 0:18:00.240 Yeah, it was giving, like it was a It was 0:18:00.320 --> 0:18:03.080 very odd. I remember even thinking it was odd back then. Personally, 0:18:03.160 --> 0:18:05.640 I am seeing things as you're telling me this story. 0:18:05.840 --> 0:18:08.119 The guy is giving and no offense to anyone who 0:18:08.200 --> 0:18:09.359 fits into these stereotypes. 0:18:11.320 --> 0:18:15.680 The guy is no offense. That's my new thing. 0:18:17.359 --> 0:18:23.000 He is giving Kumbaya ishka energy incense Byron Bay ten 0:18:23.119 --> 0:18:26.800 years ago, so true Byron Bay, like true neutral Byron Bay. 0:18:27.480 --> 0:18:30.840 She is giving city girl. She's a city girl, could 0:18:30.880 --> 0:18:33.600 have been from Bartowance to pray no longer. 0:18:33.359 --> 0:18:37.800 Exists, but she per exists, doesn't. Yeah, oh, pardon me, 0:18:37.880 --> 0:18:38.240 so pray. 0:18:39.440 --> 0:18:43.880 Let's say cotton on little Sydney Sweeney Cross race back. 0:18:44.560 --> 0:18:45.720 Yeah, I get it. 0:18:45.800 --> 0:18:48.440 I mean this is easy. Clearly he's got to stick 0:18:48.520 --> 0:18:49.920 up his boomba. 0:18:50.240 --> 0:18:53.879