WEBVTT - Ask Uncut - When a threesome turns into a pregnancy 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.680 Life Uncut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country. We pay 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:06.520 our respects to their elders past and present, Always was, 0:00:06.800 --> 0:00:10.159 always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was recorded on 0:00:10.280 --> 0:00:23.000 Drug Wallamuta Land. Hi guys, and welcome back to another 0:00:23.000 --> 0:00:23.960 episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:24.040 --> 0:00:27.639 I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and Brittany's back baby. Yeah it 0:00:27.720 --> 0:00:32.839 was weird. I got a day off. I mean, yeah, 0:00:32.960 --> 0:00:35.040 so be nice. 0:00:34.840 --> 0:00:38.800 Not intentionally, So you guys know, I'm doing their fertility journey, 0:00:38.840 --> 0:00:41.400 the egg freezing, which is the two weeks of hormones. 0:00:41.440 --> 0:00:43.319 And I've spoken about it many times, but if you're 0:00:43.400 --> 0:00:45.920 new here, I'm in the middle of doing my egg freezing. 0:00:46.440 --> 0:00:50.040 But what it means it's so time specific. Well, we 0:00:50.080 --> 0:00:50.720 didn't realize. 0:00:50.760 --> 0:00:52.519 I mean actually I did, because I knew last time 0:00:52.560 --> 0:00:55.160 it was time specific. But like it's to the men, 0:00:55.600 --> 0:00:56.960 it's very time specific. 0:00:57.080 --> 0:00:58.840 And I mean when I say didn't realize, this is 0:00:58.880 --> 0:01:01.280 my third time doing it, so know now. But going 0:01:01.280 --> 0:01:03.320 into the process, and I think it's a really interesting 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:05.399 thing that a lot of people don't know. And this 0:01:05.480 --> 0:01:07.360 is what I say to people when they're saying I 0:01:07.440 --> 0:01:08.760 want to do it. What do I need to know 0:01:09.760 --> 0:01:12.200 you need to be available. And when I say available 0:01:12.240 --> 0:01:15.080 for a two week period, you have to be available 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:17.400 to go into the clinic to have your blood test, 0:01:17.520 --> 0:01:20.720 to have your ultrasounds, their internal ultrasounds where the probe 0:01:20.760 --> 0:01:24.000 goes in in your cervix. They scan the follicles from 0:01:24.000 --> 0:01:26.480 the inside, and they check the lining, and they check 0:01:26.520 --> 0:01:29.560 that they're growing. They do all their measurements, but that 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:31.319 is all very time sensitive. 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:33.440 So you'll do a blood test. I did a blood 0:01:33.440 --> 0:01:34.400 test a couple of days ago. 0:01:34.440 --> 0:01:36.440 Then they get the results and then they say, okay, 0:01:36.680 --> 0:01:40.399 you need to come in Monday morning between seven and 0:01:40.680 --> 0:01:41.279 eight thirty. 0:01:41.520 --> 0:01:41.880 That's it. 0:01:41.920 --> 0:01:43.600 So it doesn't matter what you've got on, you have 0:01:43.680 --> 0:01:47.000 to be available because stove. Yeah, because the rest of 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:50.120 the testing and the rest of the injections and the 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:55.160 dosages depend on that result. So once that result comes back, 0:01:55.200 --> 0:01:57.760 then I'll know when my next appointment is. So I 0:01:57.800 --> 0:01:59.680 know now that I have to go back tomorrow morning 0:02:00.080 --> 0:02:03.560 for another scan and another blood test to check how 0:02:03.560 --> 0:02:06.400 they're growing. And so I couldn't come to the recording 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:08.800 last minute because I had to go and do this testing. 0:02:09.600 --> 0:02:11.480 So produce a Keisha field in. Did it go all right, 0:02:11.520 --> 0:02:14.280 it went great. That was Tuesday's episode. But how are 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:16.079 the baby little follicles blip? 0:02:16.200 --> 0:02:19.519 Well, they're still unfortunately baby follicles. 0:02:19.560 --> 0:02:21.120 So I have quite a lot. 0:02:21.200 --> 0:02:23.680 So I've got about fourteen on one side and thirteen 0:02:23.720 --> 0:02:26.040 on the other. So that's what the sonographer tells you. 0:02:26.360 --> 0:02:28.840 But that's irrelevant because she didn't tell me the sizes. 0:02:28.919 --> 0:02:30.359 She's like, oh, this is how many you've gotten. That 0:02:30.440 --> 0:02:33.840 I got excited. That's what happened last time. But basically 0:02:34.040 --> 0:02:36.440 it's how big they are and if they're mature enough 0:02:36.480 --> 0:02:39.040 so quote unquote, so they do all the measurements. So 0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:42.840 I've got a lot, but they're measuring most of them 0:02:42.840 --> 0:02:44.080 are measuring really small. 0:02:44.360 --> 0:02:46.079 What are you going to do this time? Do you 0:02:46.120 --> 0:02:47.679 feel like this is the last time or do you 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:50.320 think it's something that you could do again. I mean, 0:02:50.360 --> 0:02:52.519 I thought the last time was the last time. It's 0:02:52.520 --> 0:02:53.040 hard to know. 0:02:53.200 --> 0:02:55.880 I won't know until I get my results, and I 0:02:55.919 --> 0:02:56.919 don't want to do it again. 0:02:57.080 --> 0:02:58.000 I already know that. 0:02:58.480 --> 0:03:02.640 But if I get none again like last time, yes, 0:03:02.680 --> 0:03:04.560 I'll probably keep going until I get some more. 0:03:04.600 --> 0:03:06.280 Because none is none like. 0:03:06.280 --> 0:03:10.240 None none zeropsent chance of me using those in the future. 0:03:10.600 --> 0:03:12.720 So if I get none, I guess I'll go again. 0:03:13.600 --> 0:03:15.840 But I wonder, and I know that so many people 0:03:15.840 --> 0:03:19.160 in my dams, you know, I'm like third time. People 0:03:19.160 --> 0:03:20.639 are like, oh my gosh, good luck, I'm up to 0:03:20.680 --> 0:03:23.640 my fifteenth time. And I just think, oh my god, 0:03:23.800 --> 0:03:26.280 like what you have gone through so many times? And 0:03:26.320 --> 0:03:28.919 it's so common, like so many women saying thank you, 0:03:29.000 --> 0:03:29.880 I feel so alone. 0:03:30.520 --> 0:03:32.040 And that's why I put some polls up on my 0:03:32.160 --> 0:03:33.359 Instagram a couple of days ago. 0:03:33.400 --> 0:03:35.640 If you follow me, just trying to try and engage 0:03:35.680 --> 0:03:38.880 how many you have done this process or about it? Yeah, 0:03:39.080 --> 0:03:41.560 so people can look at it and see it's actually 0:03:41.640 --> 0:03:44.480 really quite common because so many people are messaging saying 0:03:44.520 --> 0:03:46.760 they feel so lonely in the process, which is really 0:03:46.800 --> 0:03:50.920 sad because it's really common and a lot of women 0:03:50.960 --> 0:03:52.440 are going through it, I guess, just not a lot 0:03:52.440 --> 0:03:53.280 of talking about it. 0:03:53.400 --> 0:03:56.360 I read this really interesting article which I can't remember 0:03:56.360 --> 0:03:57.880 where it was, but it was. I mean, it was 0:03:57.920 --> 0:04:02.520 an opinion piece around how prolific conversations are about egg 0:04:02.520 --> 0:04:05.800 freezing and how it's like, are we being made to 0:04:06.000 --> 0:04:08.760 worry more than we should now about our fertility because 0:04:08.760 --> 0:04:10.880 it seems like everyone is talking about egg freezing, and 0:04:10.880 --> 0:04:12.680 I know it's been a big conversation for us over 0:04:12.680 --> 0:04:15.320 the last couple of months, and it's something that is 0:04:15.360 --> 0:04:17.960 so important to be aware of. But I wonder where 0:04:17.960 --> 0:04:21.200 the tipping scale is in terms of how important it 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:23.960 is and how many people should have in terms of 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:26.239 if they were to go down the path of egg freezing, 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:29.640 because I do think I think like the algorithm now knows, 0:04:29.680 --> 0:04:32.479 like I even get advertised egg freezing, and I'm like, 0:04:32.680 --> 0:04:35.080 hold ahda, but do you know what I mean. It's 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:37.280 like something that we never would have thought about ten 0:04:37.360 --> 0:04:40.279 fifteen years ago, and now it's almost become so commonplace 0:04:40.560 --> 0:04:42.760 that you hit your thirties and you are thinking about 0:04:42.880 --> 0:04:45.159 or expecting to go down the path of egg freezing. 0:04:45.320 --> 0:04:47.560 And I genuinely think, now that I've done it for 0:04:47.560 --> 0:04:49.600 a few years, I think it should be commonplace. I 0:04:49.640 --> 0:04:52.800 think this should be a really common discussion. Not commonplace 0:04:52.839 --> 0:04:56.640 that you freeze your eggs, but commonplace that we're talking 0:04:56.680 --> 0:04:59.400 about it and that you're aware of it. Because education 0:04:59.560 --> 0:05:00.920 is the key. I think a lot of the time 0:05:00.920 --> 0:05:04.600 people aren't educated enough to know that they might have problems, 0:05:04.760 --> 0:05:07.200 what those problems could be, what they look like what 0:05:07.320 --> 0:05:10.640 masks those problems? When I think it should be common conversation. 0:05:11.200 --> 0:05:13.200 I think it should become a conversation that people are 0:05:13.200 --> 0:05:15.719 aware enough to say, hey, you know what, I don't 0:05:15.720 --> 0:05:17.440 know if i'll egg freeze, but I might just go 0:05:17.480 --> 0:05:20.599 and do that initial testing to see where I'm at, 0:05:20.640 --> 0:05:22.560 just so you have the knowledge to make the decision, 0:05:22.600 --> 0:05:23.640 because it's not for everyone. 0:05:23.839 --> 0:05:25.800 Not everyone's going to want to do it. And I 0:05:25.839 --> 0:05:29.240 think it is a really interesting conversation. And I'm fascinated 0:05:29.240 --> 0:05:31.799 by this idea that the pendulum almost has to swing 0:05:31.880 --> 0:05:34.240 so far in the opposite direction. And it's not in 0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:38.200 terms of like giving people fertility anxiety, but it's around 0:05:38.560 --> 0:05:41.599 at least knowing what your fertility is and having a 0:05:41.600 --> 0:05:44.600 bit of awareness over it, because I think, like for 0:05:44.680 --> 0:05:47.240 so many of us for so long, it's this like 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:50.280 unknown until you're trying, I mean, until you're in the 0:05:50.320 --> 0:05:52.000 position that you want to have a baby, you just 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:54.400 don't know. You're just assuming and you're going off what 0:05:54.480 --> 0:05:57.680 you think might be the case. But I do think it. 0:05:57.800 --> 0:05:59.960 I mean I wonder whether in set of ten year 0:06:00.200 --> 0:06:02.600 time it will be something, or five years time even 0:06:02.920 --> 0:06:07.159 that becomes more and I don't want to say more 0:06:07.160 --> 0:06:09.880 of an anxiety for people, but becomes like more front 0:06:09.880 --> 0:06:12.560 of mine because it is becoming so common and now 0:06:12.600 --> 0:06:15.400 the algorithms are selling us egg freezing. There is like 0:06:15.520 --> 0:06:18.599 advertising around it, and it's just becoming something that does 0:06:18.640 --> 0:06:22.400 play into people's insecurities around where their fertility sits, especially 0:06:22.400 --> 0:06:23.640 for people who are single as well. 0:06:24.160 --> 0:06:26.320 Yeah, and that's why I think it's important to go 0:06:26.360 --> 0:06:28.240 and get the testing so you have the knowledge. You 0:06:28.240 --> 0:06:31.120 don't have to go and make that decision because you 0:06:31.120 --> 0:06:33.640 saw an ad Totally. Oh my god, I'm thirty and 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:35.279 I've seen an ad. I've got to go egg freeze. 0:06:35.320 --> 0:06:38.720 That's not it at all. But it's knowing what your 0:06:38.760 --> 0:06:41.960 situation is, what your biological situation is, because it's different 0:06:42.000 --> 0:06:44.600 for everybody. So I don't think it's a scare tactic. 0:06:44.600 --> 0:06:47.000 And I never want to be talking about this and 0:06:47.080 --> 0:06:50.080 scare anybody. But I want to talk about this and 0:06:50.120 --> 0:06:54.080 have somebody sit there and say, oh, maybe I'll just check. 0:06:53.920 --> 0:06:56.120 It out totally and have visibility around it. Yeah. So 0:06:57.160 --> 0:06:57.960 this is Thursday. 0:06:58.240 --> 0:07:01.080 I think my collection will be sad, but you don't 0:07:01.080 --> 0:07:05.200 know until probably two days ago. Harvest time again, when 0:07:05.200 --> 0:07:07.279 they do that is an operation they do go under 0:07:07.279 --> 0:07:08.800 for a local or can you be awake for that? 0:07:09.320 --> 0:07:11.760 You can do either, but I always go under. 0:07:11.880 --> 0:07:14.720 Yeah, I think I would too, because for a local, 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:16.280 the way I think about it, and I mean, like, 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:18.840 I'm sure everyone that's ever given birth is like, suck 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:21.920 it up, Brittany, But for a local, it's like you're 0:07:22.000 --> 0:07:25.680 awake and they have to put the anesthetic into your cervix, 0:07:25.800 --> 0:07:27.720 so you still have to have that moment where you're 0:07:27.760 --> 0:07:29.800 not anesetized to be an esetized, you know what I mean. 0:07:29.840 --> 0:07:31.240 So it's still got to go in there and you've 0:07:31.240 --> 0:07:33.200 got to have that. And I was just like, just 0:07:33.200 --> 0:07:35.920 just put me out. I was like, knock me out 0:07:35.960 --> 0:07:38.080 and wake me up like an hour later. I don't 0:07:38.080 --> 0:07:40.280 know so I feel about childbirth. Just put me under 0:07:40.280 --> 0:07:41.520 and take it out of me. I don't want to 0:07:41.560 --> 0:07:42.920 know about it totally, Like. 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:44.840 Wait, I want to know when I have a baby. 0:07:44.920 --> 0:07:46.920 I want to know. I want to wake up like 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:50.800 two years later. You don't it, just put me in 0:07:50.960 --> 0:07:53.520 in juice coma. I honestly, every time I see like 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:57.080 mother Earth, mothers who are like fucking water birthing and 0:07:57.160 --> 0:08:00.160 home birthing and breathing their way through it. I'm just like, 0:08:00.240 --> 0:08:02.320 you are a better human than I am. And I 0:08:02.400 --> 0:08:04.040 know that that's not how we should look at it, 0:08:04.120 --> 0:08:07.280 but really I'm like, wow, you are so much stronger 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:09.520 than me. I am pathetic and weak and scared. I know. 0:08:09.600 --> 0:08:12.440 I think actually more of my friends than not I 0:08:12.520 --> 0:08:16.080 have done water births just at home or like at 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:18.360 a hospital that provides the water birth. I don't. 0:08:18.520 --> 0:08:21.720 I I don't know if I can even think about that, 0:08:22.120 --> 0:08:24.160 And I think I'd be one of those people that thinks. 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:26.280 It's a great idea. I honestly, and I say this 0:08:26.360 --> 0:08:29.240 with the greatest admiration. When people are like, breathe the 0:08:29.360 --> 0:08:31.840 baby out, I'm like, I screamed that motherfucking baby out, 0:08:32.480 --> 0:08:35.840 slid straight across the count. No, it certainly did not 0:08:35.920 --> 0:08:38.439 trust me. Didn't four cents in a s suction cap 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:40.200 and everything. That kid came out with a cone head. 0:08:41.360 --> 0:08:44.199 It was locked down. Honestly, Molly May was still holding 0:08:44.200 --> 0:08:46.199 onto the lining of my uterus. She was like, I'm 0:08:46.240 --> 0:08:47.720 not going anywhere. She was two and a half weeks 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:49.720 late and she was holding on for due life. And 0:08:49.720 --> 0:08:51.160 that's funny. She's so small too. 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:54.320 I mean, I know that doesn't mean anything, but usually 0:08:54.480 --> 0:08:57.040 she's so small. Usually you think when they go over 0:08:57.480 --> 0:08:59.880 they're any more in there, you know, like they're growing bigger. 0:09:00.000 --> 0:09:02.319 But she was a tiny little thing. I yeah, she 0:09:02.400 --> 0:09:05.079 was so so small that it makes me think maybe 0:09:05.120 --> 0:09:08.320 she wasn't that overcooked, Maybe didn't actually get the time. Maybe. 0:09:08.520 --> 0:09:10.959 But I mean, I'm pretty sure that people who I'm 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:13.840 pretty sure the midwives and whoever were doing the testing 0:09:13.880 --> 0:09:15.679 and the obstecutions and everything else know a lot more 0:09:15.679 --> 0:09:17.200 than I do. I'm sure they were correct and I 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:19.000 was very wrong. But anyway, but I. 0:09:18.960 --> 0:09:22.839 Put Originally, when I started to talk about this third process, 0:09:23.040 --> 0:09:24.800 like we've said, I felt like I was over talking 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:27.360 about it, not over it, but like talking too much 0:09:27.400 --> 0:09:29.640 about it. And I didn't want to talk about something 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:31.040 you guys didn't want to hear about. So I put 0:09:31.080 --> 0:09:33.480 a poll up about what you want to hear if 0:09:33.480 --> 0:09:35.439 I talk about it? Is it seeing the injections, is 0:09:35.480 --> 0:09:37.280 it how to do it? Is it how I'm feeling? 0:09:37.360 --> 0:09:41.080 Is it the result? And overwhelmingly the response was like 0:09:41.679 --> 0:09:45.320 the physiological differences and how I'm looking and how I'm feeling. 0:09:45.640 --> 0:09:47.080 But the number one thing is. 0:09:47.120 --> 0:09:51.520 I'm just so emotional, like the number of times I 0:09:51.559 --> 0:09:54.760 cry a day, and what I'm crying about makes me 0:09:54.800 --> 0:09:57.840 want to cry about it, Like I'm having the most 0:09:57.920 --> 0:09:59.280 ridiculous fights with Ben. 0:09:59.400 --> 0:10:01.760 Okay, just I talked me through the most recent fire. 0:10:02.080 --> 0:10:04.679 The most recent argument was only yesterday. I shouldn't say 0:10:04.720 --> 0:10:06.760 it's a fight, but because it's not. It's him being 0:10:06.800 --> 0:10:09.439 so confused and me just being so upset. 0:10:09.160 --> 0:10:11.640 You being a psychopath. And came being like what have 0:10:11.679 --> 0:10:12.600 I gotten myself into? 0:10:13.360 --> 0:10:16.560 There were two actually that are actually so ridiculous that 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:18.440 I don't even want to put it out to the universe. 0:10:19.080 --> 0:10:22.080 Yesterday's one was Ben's been a bit unwell and he 0:10:22.160 --> 0:10:23.920 had to go and get an X ray. And so 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:25.760 he went to get the X ray and because I 0:10:25.840 --> 0:10:27.600 encouraged him, right, I'm like, you're not well, just go 0:10:27.679 --> 0:10:29.480 and check it out, you know, like appease me. 0:10:29.559 --> 0:10:32.559 So he did, went got an X ray. 0:10:32.760 --> 0:10:34.440 I woke up the next day and he's like, hey, 0:10:34.480 --> 0:10:36.480 hey babe, got my X ray. I was like, cool, 0:10:37.240 --> 0:10:38.800 send the X ray three so I can have a look. 0:10:38.800 --> 0:10:40.559 Because you guys know, or you might not know, but 0:10:40.559 --> 0:10:42.280 I worked in radiology for thirteen years. 0:10:42.320 --> 0:10:44.120 I'd taken them every day my life. So I was like, 0:10:44.160 --> 0:10:45.920 send it through. He's like, well, what I send through? 0:10:45.920 --> 0:10:47.800 I was like the x ray? It's like, I don't 0:10:47.800 --> 0:10:49.920 have it. I was like, what what do you mean? 0:10:49.960 --> 0:10:51.520 I fucking have it. He's like, well, babe, I just 0:10:51.559 --> 0:10:53.760 went to the hospital. They kept it, got the x ray, 0:10:53.760 --> 0:10:56.160 and they keep it file. And I was like, you 0:10:56.200 --> 0:10:58.320 didn't ask them for the picture. He's like, why would 0:10:58.320 --> 0:10:58.720 I ask them? 0:10:58.760 --> 0:11:01.079 I was like, I don't know, Ben, maybe because I 0:11:01.160 --> 0:11:02.920 this is my job, this is what I do. Did 0:11:02.920 --> 0:11:05.600 you not think i'd anyway? It went on and on 0:11:05.640 --> 0:11:08.360 and on, and he couldn't understand. He's like I'm sorry, no, no, no, no, 0:11:08.360 --> 0:11:09.280 no one can understand. 0:11:09.559 --> 0:11:09.760 No. 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:12.320 He's like he couldn't understand. And I was upset that. 0:11:12.400 --> 0:11:13.880 I was like, you don't even understand me, you don't 0:11:13.880 --> 0:11:15.000 even know me, Like. 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:16.640 What were you going to do that the doctor wasn't 0:11:16.640 --> 0:11:18.560 already going to do or the radiographer who took the 0:11:18.559 --> 0:11:20.200 photo in the first place was going to do. That's 0:11:20.200 --> 0:11:20.600 my point. 0:11:20.679 --> 0:11:22.760 And the thing is, I know, deep down and I'm 0:11:22.760 --> 0:11:25.800 being completely irrational and such a twat, like I know it. 0:11:26.240 --> 0:11:28.840 And I came back later on and apologize, but at 0:11:28.840 --> 0:11:30.960 the moment, I really sat in it. I really made 0:11:31.040 --> 0:11:34.520 him feel bad for I said, quote unquote not considering 0:11:34.559 --> 0:11:38.280 me in this situation in his illness, in his hospital visit. 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:39.720 And I was like, you didn't even consider me. 0:11:39.880 --> 0:11:42.600 He was like, of course I didn't. You're on the 0:11:42.600 --> 0:11:46.360 other side. Fuck. It's so annoying because you're like, I 0:11:46.360 --> 0:11:48.280 don't want to give in too the hormones. Not that 0:11:48.320 --> 0:11:49.480 you don't want to give into them, but you're like, 0:11:49.600 --> 0:11:51.439 I don't want to believe that they run my life 0:11:51.480 --> 0:11:54.120 this much, but they really do. And every time, And 0:11:54.160 --> 0:11:55.720 I know this was part of you guys at the 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:56.920 live show. It was part of my one of my 0:11:56.920 --> 0:11:59.360 stories of the live show, the amount of crazy that 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:02.319 I feel two days before getting my period. Do you 0:12:02.320 --> 0:12:03.800 remember I called you the other night and I was like, 0:12:03.840 --> 0:12:07.640 I just can't stop crying, or called me balling, And 0:12:07.640 --> 0:12:09.160 then Matt said to me once again, he was like, 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:12.080 are you sure? And it's like every time it comes 0:12:12.120 --> 0:12:14.480 as a surprise to me. Every month, I don't track 0:12:14.520 --> 0:12:16.080 my period, so it's kind of like a bit of 0:12:16.080 --> 0:12:18.199 a kinder surprise. I'm not exactly sure what day it's 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:20.560 gonna come, but I should know by now. That the 0:12:20.600 --> 0:12:23.079 two days that I'm fucking balling my eyes at is 0:12:23.120 --> 0:12:25.640 a pretty clear indication that it's on its way. Well, also, 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:27.920 maybe you should just track it, nah cuvy bother. That's 0:12:27.920 --> 0:12:29.520 another thing I'll forget about. Let's be real. 0:12:31.880 --> 0:12:33.520 I'm like, I feel like I feel like Satan is 0:12:33.520 --> 0:12:34.400 going to make your life easier. 0:12:34.400 --> 0:12:35.960 But you do your boo, you do your boo, but 0:12:36.280 --> 0:12:38.120 you live your life. I like the spontaneity in the 0:12:38.160 --> 0:12:40.800 surprise of not knowing. Matt can sniff that out. He's 0:12:40.840 --> 0:12:43.319 like a period bower Bird. He's like, I know what's 0:12:43.360 --> 0:12:47.120 happening here. He's always right. That's the problem. It's so infuriating. Well, 0:12:47.120 --> 0:12:48.959 I was just I think the emotion's only going to 0:12:49.040 --> 0:12:49.400 get worse. 0:12:49.440 --> 0:12:51.200 So that was yesterday, and I was just driving to 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:54.000 work today and I was listening to the Eras playlist, 0:12:54.040 --> 0:12:55.920 like Taylor Swift because. 0:12:55.840 --> 0:12:56.719 I'm crying in the car. 0:12:56.920 --> 0:12:59.360 I'm trying to really get in the tailor zone for 0:12:59.400 --> 0:13:01.960 her concept, and so I was listening to Taylor, I've 0:13:02.000 --> 0:13:03.640 got the set list, which you should start to listen 0:13:03.720 --> 0:13:05.640 to so you know the whole set. And I was 0:13:05.679 --> 0:13:08.320 crying the whole way and every lyric hit me differently, 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:10.480 and like I sat there and cried for like forty 0:13:10.480 --> 0:13:12.440 five minutes on the whole trip, every song, and I 0:13:12.520 --> 0:13:14.559 was thinking of Bend the whole time, and then I 0:13:14.600 --> 0:13:15.920 would cry be of happiness. 0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:20.920 I hate me. I hate me right now. 0:13:21.320 --> 0:13:26.959 But speaking of Taylor, did you see her moment last night? Well, 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:28.600 this was two days ago when this comes out, But 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:32.360 her moment in Argentina where Travis, her boyfriend, was at 0:13:32.360 --> 0:13:34.760 the show and she changed the lyrics to him. 0:13:34.840 --> 0:13:37.640 Did you see the moment? No? Okay, I have not 0:13:37.800 --> 0:13:40.319 been following anything, and I think I'm the only person 0:13:40.360 --> 0:13:42.560 in Australia who's not or the only person who actually 0:13:42.640 --> 0:13:45.520 enjoys Taylor Swift. I have not been following this relationship 0:13:45.559 --> 0:13:45.960 at all. 0:13:46.320 --> 0:13:48.600 Okay, do you have an opinion on the relationship if 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:50.120 you think it's before we get into this, if you 0:13:50.120 --> 0:13:51.280 think it's PR or real? 0:13:51.640 --> 0:13:55.400 Oh, I don't have No. I don't have a firm 0:13:55.480 --> 0:13:58.280 feeling either way. The only thing though, is I would 0:13:58.360 --> 0:14:02.320 suspect that someone as big as Taylor, as medius savvy, 0:14:02.320 --> 0:14:05.319 as PR savvy as Taylor, knows what she's doing. I 0:14:05.360 --> 0:14:07.880 don't think it's a PR relationship, but I definitely think 0:14:07.920 --> 0:14:11.960 that she knows how to use her relationships to her advantage. Yes, 0:14:12.000 --> 0:14:14.600 I agree, And she's the queen of storytelling, so I 0:14:14.600 --> 0:14:16.880 don't think she's going to miss a storytelling opportunity. Like 0:14:16.920 --> 0:14:19.280 I know, the whole friendship bracelet thing like that is 0:14:19.320 --> 0:14:20.480 a storytelling moment. 0:14:20.920 --> 0:14:24.000 So I when it first came out, when the relationship 0:14:24.000 --> 0:14:26.240 first came out, because you know, we're not going to 0:14:26.320 --> 0:14:27.720 deep dive into that because I'm sure you guys have 0:14:27.720 --> 0:14:30.440 all heard it. But Travis went to her concert. He 0:14:30.480 --> 0:14:33.560 loved Taylor. Travis Kelsey. He's the American football player. Yeah, 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:36.000 he's got the big mo he's hot, he's big, manly, 0:14:36.520 --> 0:14:37.920 not Taylor's usual type. 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:40.800 Right, Yeah, he's a footy player. So he went to 0:14:40.800 --> 0:14:43.920 the concert. He wanted to ask her out. 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:46.360 He tried to give her a friendship, his own friendship 0:14:46.400 --> 0:14:48.880 bracelet to Taylor, like with his number on it. It 0:14:48.920 --> 0:14:50.520 was a whole thing, right, But he couldn't get to 0:14:50.560 --> 0:14:52.440 her in terms of she was like, I'm not saying anyone, 0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:53.280 like no, I don't even. 0:14:53.120 --> 0:14:53.560 Know who you are. 0:14:54.160 --> 0:14:57.960 But then publicly he told that story and he's like, ah, 0:14:58.000 --> 0:14:59.960 he threw it out there. I want to bite Taylor 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:03.320 to one of my matches. I tried to give her 0:15:03.320 --> 0:15:04.840 my phone number. I couldn't get to us, so the 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:07.240 media took that Taylor heard about it. Taylor turned up 0:15:07.240 --> 0:15:10.680 to the game, this big thing, right. But since they've 0:15:10.720 --> 0:15:13.240 come out, both of them have skyrocketed. And I know 0:15:13.320 --> 0:15:17.600 you think she can't skyrocket anymore, but she has. I mean, 0:15:17.680 --> 0:15:20.160 he's definitely doing better out of her than she. Hondy Honey, 0:15:20.880 --> 0:15:22.000 definitely punching. 0:15:22.240 --> 0:15:24.720 So oh, I don't know if he's punching because he's 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:26.800 pretty hot. No, I don't mean, I don't mean, I 0:15:26.840 --> 0:15:29.200 mean hotness does not come into punching. I think. I 0:15:29.240 --> 0:15:32.800 mean as in, like this in terms of success has 0:15:32.880 --> 0:15:35.360 been way more advantageous to him, I think than her. 0:15:35.480 --> 0:15:37.160 Well yeah, but I don't know a man in the 0:15:37.200 --> 0:15:39.720 world that it would be opposite, Like any man that 0:15:39.800 --> 0:15:41.880 dates Taylor Swift. She's the biggest thing in the world, right, 0:15:41.920 --> 0:15:44.240 So anyone's going to be punching or like, it's going 0:15:44.240 --> 0:15:45.840 to be advantageous. 0:15:45.160 --> 0:15:46.160 Which is the sad thing. 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:48.160 And like it must be so hard to be someone 0:15:48.280 --> 0:15:51.880 like Taylor Swift who has to second guess everyone that 0:15:51.920 --> 0:15:52.800 wants to be in a life. 0:15:53.960 --> 0:15:57.240 I remember when it first came out. I am guilty. 0:15:56.840 --> 0:16:01.040 Of saying, oh, this is probably PR her coming out, 0:16:01.400 --> 0:16:03.240 and he's got all these matches that it's. 0:16:03.120 --> 0:16:04.360 Going to do him good as well. 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:06.680 And it was such a different relationship for her that 0:16:06.720 --> 0:16:08.640 I didn't believe it at the start, But I didn't 0:16:08.680 --> 0:16:12.440 care either, like everyone in Hollywood does PR relationships, So 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:14.400 I wasn't off it, but I didn't believe it. 0:16:14.440 --> 0:16:15.280 I was like, cute. 0:16:15.520 --> 0:16:16.760 You know, they're gonna do what they're gonna do for 0:16:16.800 --> 0:16:18.560 a couple of weeks. They're gonna get a lot of publicity, 0:16:18.720 --> 0:16:21.240 they're gonna say that they're better off as friends and 0:16:21.320 --> 0:16:21.920 part ways. 0:16:22.120 --> 0:16:23.800 But I'm so in this relationship now. 0:16:23.880 --> 0:16:27.320 I think it's so real. I think they're genuinely in love. 0:16:27.760 --> 0:16:30.640 So they had this moment last night in Argentina at 0:16:30.640 --> 0:16:33.600 her concert. He's flown over there to watch her. He's 0:16:33.640 --> 0:16:37.040