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Speaker 2: Finally, welcome back to the Rise and Conker podcast. This

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Speaker 2: podcast is for women who want to take control of

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Speaker 2: I'm your host Georgie Stevenson, former lawyer turned entrepreneur and

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Speaker 1: behind yourself. It just makes you feel unstoppable.

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Speaker 3: Like you would say you crowned yourself.

436
00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:08,119
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, And we all need to cround ourselves, you know.

437
00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:10,719
Speaker 1: It's like if you don't do it, who will, right,

438
00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:12,879
Speaker 1: Like we can't wait around. Life is so short. And

439
00:22:13,119 --> 00:22:15,479
Speaker 1: that's like something I remind myself of every time I

440
00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:18,320
Speaker 1: start something new, because like I am multi passionate, and

441
00:22:18,359 --> 00:22:20,840
Speaker 1: I do love dipping my toes into new industries and

442
00:22:20,880 --> 00:22:23,840
Speaker 1: new waters and new passions. But it can be scary.

443
00:22:23,880 --> 00:22:25,800
Speaker 1: We all get a little bit of the imposter syndrome.

444
00:22:25,880 --> 00:22:29,280
Speaker 1: But you've got to realize that like everybody starts from

445
00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:32,440
Speaker 1: the same place, everybody starts at zero, right, everybody's building

446
00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:35,000
Speaker 1: themselves into whatever it is that they're doing. I think

447
00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:37,160
Speaker 1: the people who make it and people who are successful

448
00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:38,439
Speaker 1: are just the ones that stick with it.

449
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that, and so talk us through. I

450
00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:46,920
Speaker 2: know that you said you self published all your books

451
00:22:47,320 --> 00:22:50,399
Speaker 2: and girl Code started to take off, and then like

452
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Speaker 2: you said, Penguin pick that up.

453
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Speaker 3: And then I know that you.

454
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Speaker 2: Did publish your book actually owns the Place, which is

455
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Speaker 2: also one of my favorites, and you went through a

456
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Speaker 2: popa but then your most recent book, Girl on Fire,

457
00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:08,359
Speaker 2: was then self published. Can you talk us through why

458
00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:10,600
Speaker 2: that was and what sort of happened there?

459
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Speaker 1: Yeah, so, like she owns the place is the book

460
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Speaker 1: I did with Penguin. So I did that book from

461
00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:19,159
Speaker 1: start to finish with them, and I had an interesting experience.

462
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:21,439
Speaker 1: I had a great editor, and I love her and

463
00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:24,280
Speaker 1: she's amazing, and she helped that book become what it is,

464
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Speaker 1: But there were other things about the process that I

465
00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:30,680
Speaker 1: really just did not prefer. You know, it's it takes

466
00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:33,200
Speaker 1: much longer to work with the publisher. So you're looking

467
00:23:33,200 --> 00:23:35,320
Speaker 1: at about a year and a half from when you

468
00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:37,119
Speaker 1: sign your contract to when that book is going to

469
00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:40,240
Speaker 1: be out there. You are dealing with a lot more

470
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Speaker 1: people that have interest in the way that the book

471
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Speaker 1: is going to be brought out to the world, from

472
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Speaker 1: the cover to the editing to the marketing plan. You know,

473
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Speaker 1: you're dealing with people who you know, they're working with

474
00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:55,840
Speaker 1: so many other authors, right, Like, no one is ever

475
00:23:55,880 --> 00:23:57,760
Speaker 1: going to be as excited about your work as you are.

476
00:23:58,160 --> 00:24:00,240
Speaker 1: So when you're working with a team who's you know,

477
00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:03,520
Speaker 1: dealing with other authors and you know, maybe not fully

478
00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:06,399
Speaker 1: understanding your vision, that can be a little bit frustrating

479
00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:09,760
Speaker 1: and also, I mean financially, it just makes so much

480
00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:11,720
Speaker 1: more sense to self publish. You know, you're really giving

481
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Speaker 1: the lie and share of the royalties away when you

482
00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:16,919
Speaker 1: enter into a book deal. But for me, it was

483
00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:18,879
Speaker 1: a strategic move and it was a dream that I

484
00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:21,919
Speaker 1: had to realize and it was something I needed to

485
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:25,840
Speaker 1: like just do for myself. But it did lead me

486
00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:28,840
Speaker 1: to realize that I preferred being an independent author and

487
00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:31,600
Speaker 1: I prefer self publishing, and that's what Girl on Fire

488
00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:35,240
Speaker 1: really was all about. I did that book after my

489
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:39,320
Speaker 1: experience with a publisher, and the whole you know ethos

490
00:24:39,359 --> 00:24:41,840
Speaker 1: of the book is really about blazing your own trail

491
00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:47,159
Speaker 1: and not needing anyone and recognizing that success really is

492
00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:49,879
Speaker 1: lies within you. It doesn't you know, you're not going

493
00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:53,040
Speaker 1: to find success in some external outcome. I think for me,

494
00:24:53,160 --> 00:24:55,840
Speaker 1: I still had that dream like, well, once I'm with

495
00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:58,399
Speaker 1: a publisher, that I'm like a quote real author, But

496
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Speaker 1: that was just untrue. So Throw on Fire, I think,

497
00:25:02,200 --> 00:25:04,480
Speaker 1: to me, that's my most favorite book. It's I think

498
00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:06,040
Speaker 1: it's the best one that I've written, and I think

499
00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:07,960
Speaker 1: there was just so much heart and energy that I

500
00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 1: poured into that coming off the heels of that experience

501
00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:14,359
Speaker 1: that I did have being published, and I hope that

502
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Speaker 1: it inspires women to realize that, you know, they've got

503
00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:21,600
Speaker 1: to give themselves the permission that they think they need, right,

504
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:23,679
Speaker 1: Like you've got to just figure out like how to

505
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:25,679
Speaker 1: do it, how to move forward and not lead on

506
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Speaker 1: anyone else to pick.

507
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Speaker 2: You one hundred percent. And yes, that is definitely Like

508
00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:33,600
Speaker 2: I could feel the energy coming out of Gala on fire,

509
00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 2: and I love how like you turn that around so fast,

510
00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:39,760
Speaker 2: Like I remember you talking about it and then it

511
00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:43,640
Speaker 2: was out and I was like, yes, I love how fast.

512
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Speaker 3: That process was, and I think it's so interesting.

513
00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:49,080
Speaker 2: Like you said, you really came full circle, like you

514
00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:52,040
Speaker 2: at the start your self publishing and all you wanted

515
00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:54,200
Speaker 2: to do was have a publisher and have that book

516
00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:57,359
Speaker 2: deal and you know that book signing and those book

517
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Speaker 2: parties and that sort of thing, and then you realize

518
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:02,800
Speaker 2: that you didn't actually need that, And I think that

519
00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:07,439
Speaker 2: is It's huge. And I love that you share the

520
00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:11,159
Speaker 2: journey with your audience and us. I would love to

521
00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:15,560
Speaker 2: pick your brain about on on the RNC pod. We

522
00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:20,320
Speaker 2: love giving actionable tips to our audience and so I

523
00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:23,480
Speaker 2: would love for you to give advice to the listeners

524
00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:28,440
Speaker 2: who are possibly facing judgment for wanting to pursue a typical,

525
00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:32,200
Speaker 2: you know, risky path like giving up a solid job

526
00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:35,719
Speaker 2: or a quote unquote safe job to pursue a dream,

527
00:26:36,400 --> 00:26:39,280
Speaker 2: much like me and you did after leaving corporate.

528
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Speaker 3: What advice would you give them?

529
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Speaker 1: So you need to start with a crystal clear vision.

530
00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:46,879
Speaker 1: You have to know exactly what it is that you

531
00:26:46,920 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 1: want and where you're going, and you've got to be

532
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:53,199
Speaker 1: really conscious of who you share that vision with. You know,

533
00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:56,639
Speaker 1: I think that a lot of people like to share

534
00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 1: and like to do what I call pull different people. Right,

535
00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:01,400
Speaker 1: do you think I should do this? Do you think

536
00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:03,000
Speaker 1: I should quit my job? Do you think I should

537
00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:06,159
Speaker 1: start this business? You're going to wind up just finding

538
00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:09,200
Speaker 1: yourself in a worse place than you were before. Your

539
00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:11,119
Speaker 1: head is going to be spinning. I made this mistake

540
00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:13,280
Speaker 1: when I was first, you know, getting ready to leave MTV.

541
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Speaker 1: So be really cautious of who you share this dream with.

542
00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:18,720
Speaker 1: Maybe pick one or two people that you're going to

543
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:21,760
Speaker 1: bounce these ideas off of that you really trust, you know,

544
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:23,679
Speaker 1: someone to share the vision with. I think it is

545
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:25,720
Speaker 1: important if you can find at least one person to

546
00:27:25,760 --> 00:27:29,439
Speaker 1: share with, So create that vision really, like, you know,

547
00:27:29,520 --> 00:27:32,000
Speaker 1: pick your team so to speak, right, like you know,

548
00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 1: your inspiration motivation team, and then set small goals. You know.

549
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:40,000
Speaker 1: One of the things I love about coaching is inspiring

550
00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 1: my clients to pick small goals and stick with them

551
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:46,159
Speaker 1: and let those goals build momentum. So when I was

552
00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:48,119
Speaker 1: leaving MTV, I knew that I wanted to hit a

553
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:51,560
Speaker 1: certain income goal for myself, and I started small. So

554
00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:53,080
Speaker 1: you know, it's like, Okay, I want to make an

555
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:56,280
Speaker 1: extra five hundred dollars this month. Okay, the next month,

556
00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:58,440
Speaker 1: Let's see if I can make one thousand dollars. A

557
00:27:58,560 --> 00:28:01,119
Speaker 1: month after that? Can I make two thousand dollars? You know?

558
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:03,080
Speaker 1: And figure out how you're going to make it happen.

559
00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:05,119
Speaker 1: What are the revenue streams you're going to bring in,

560
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:08,640
Speaker 1: what's your plan? You know? So when you see yourself,

561
00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:11,200
Speaker 1: you know, on this plan, and when you see yourself

562
00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:14,200
Speaker 1: hitting those goals, I think that really builds the confidence

563
00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 1: to know that you can do whatever you want to do.

564
00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:19,880
Speaker 1: I think taking action is probably the most important thing.

565
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:23,879
Speaker 1: So even if that action for that week looks like

566
00:28:24,240 --> 00:28:27,399
Speaker 1: making a phone call to someone or asking someone for

567
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:29,480
Speaker 1: coffee to see if you could chat with them about

568
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:32,879
Speaker 1: something or pick their brain, or like just taking a

569
00:28:32,880 --> 00:28:34,960
Speaker 1: half hour for yourself and taking a journal and writing

570
00:28:34,960 --> 00:28:37,199
Speaker 1: out what that vision looks like for your future. But

571
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:39,440
Speaker 1: staying in motion. I think the worst thing we could

572
00:28:39,440 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 1: do is just stay in our heads and start to

573
00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:46,520
Speaker 1: over analyze. You know, it's the term analysis paralysis when

574
00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:51,239
Speaker 1: we start overthinking things. So just commit to action and

575
00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:54,040
Speaker 1: realize that every action step counts. It doesn't have to

576
00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:56,920
Speaker 1: be this big, huge goal that you're working towards every

577
00:28:56,960 --> 00:28:59,920
Speaker 1: single week. As long as you're working and moving forward,

578
00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:02,880
Speaker 1: you're on the right path, and you're honestly like further

579
00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:06,280
Speaker 1: along than most people are because most people, unfortunately do

580
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:08,160
Speaker 1: stay in their heads and they you know, I think

581
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Speaker 1: the saddest thing is like when people come to the

582
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:12,240
Speaker 1: end of their life and they feel like they haven't

583
00:29:12,280 --> 00:29:14,600
Speaker 1: reached the goals they wanted to reach. So they have

584
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 1: these dreams they haven't you been able to make happen,

585
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:21,040
Speaker 1: and they have regret. So keeping that also top of

586
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 1: mind is really important. I talked about a study in

587
00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:26,520
Speaker 1: one of my books about this. You know, this nurse

588
00:29:26,560 --> 00:29:29,240
Speaker 1: who worked with these patients at the end of their lives,

589
00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 1: and it's called the I think it's it was a

590
00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:33,400
Speaker 1: study and I think it turned into a book and

591
00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 1: it was called The Top Regrets of the Dying, and

592
00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:39,000
Speaker 1: the number one regret was that people felt they didn't

593
00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 1: live a life that was true to themselves. And I

594
00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:44,600
Speaker 1: always remind myself of that story and that study because

595
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:47,320
Speaker 1: it's just I mean, I can't even imagine feeling that way.

596
00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:50,000
Speaker 1: So whenever I don't want to work or I don't

597
00:29:50,040 --> 00:29:52,120
Speaker 1: want to take that step or create that small goal

598
00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:56,080
Speaker 1: for myself, I just really refocus and go back to

599
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:58,400
Speaker 1: my vision and think about how I want to feel

600
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 1: in my life and what I'm capable of creating, and

601
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:04,480
Speaker 1: that just gives me the strength and the you know,

602
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:05,880
Speaker 1: the power to move forward.

603
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Speaker 2: I love that, and I love what you said at

604
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Speaker 2: the start about creating that momentum because I think, you know,

605
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Speaker 2: like when I get this question too, the biggest thing

606
00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:23,160
Speaker 2: I kind of trying to explain is, yeah, of course

607
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:25,640
Speaker 2: it feels risky, and of course it feels scary when

608
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:29,080
Speaker 2: you haven't you know, even taken that small step. But

609
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:31,280
Speaker 2: then you just put one foot in front of the other,

610
00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:35,560
Speaker 2: and you know, it gets easier, and you have those

611
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:38,920
Speaker 2: small winds, and then from those small winds you're able

612
00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:41,680
Speaker 2: to create momentum and get to the biggest staff.

613
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Speaker 1: If that makes sense exactly exactly. It really is all

614
00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:47,000
Speaker 1: about those small steps that add up. It's never just

615
00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 1: one big move. It's just it's tedious and it's time consuming,

616
00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:52,680
Speaker 1: but if you want it bad enough, it's worth it.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So I want to chat about some of my

618
00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:58,920
Speaker 2: favorite content and two of your books that it's really

619
00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:01,320
Speaker 2: stuck with me and I think it's going to be

620
00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:05,920
Speaker 2: super valuable for the R and C listeners. So firstly,

621
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:09,440
Speaker 2: let's chat about your book, Girl Code, which is this

622
00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:13,000
Speaker 2: idea that you talk about that jealousy is dead and

623
00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:17,120
Speaker 2: how collaboration is one of the most underrated keys to success.

624
00:31:17,640 --> 00:31:18,760
Speaker 3: Can you expand on this?

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00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:22,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, So, when I was starting out and I was,

626
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 1: you know, coming out as an entrepreneur and had the

627
00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:28,320
Speaker 1: blog going and I was building my coaching practice, I

628
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:30,920
Speaker 1: was working still full time at MTV. I worked for

629
00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 1: like six out of the eight years I was at MTV.

630
00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:36,200
Speaker 1: I was what we call side hustling, right, So I

631
00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:38,440
Speaker 1: was meeting people on my journey and I was going

632
00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:41,480
Speaker 1: to events and networking events, and I was in Facebook

633
00:31:41,520 --> 00:31:44,360
Speaker 1: groups and I was noticing that there were these two

634
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:48,120
Speaker 1: very distinct groups of women that I was coming across

635
00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 1: other entrepreneurs. There were a lot of the women, sadly,

636
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:57,120
Speaker 1: were very caddy and very competitive and sort of, you know,

637
00:31:57,560 --> 00:32:00,280
Speaker 1: kind of put on this front of lego. I'm all

638
00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:02,320
Speaker 1: about like lifting other women up. But when you would

639
00:32:02,360 --> 00:32:04,240
Speaker 1: actually go to the events, they wouldn't speak to you

640
00:32:04,280 --> 00:32:06,040
Speaker 1: and it was very cliquish and it just didn't feel

641
00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 1: good to me. And then there was another group of women,

642
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:12,120
Speaker 1: smaller group, unfortunately, but they were there and I was

643
00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 1: meeting them along the way, and they were so just amazing,

644
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:19,360
Speaker 1: and they were like happy all the time and positive

645
00:32:19,400 --> 00:32:22,440
Speaker 1: and encouraging, and they would introduce you to people, and

646
00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:25,320
Speaker 1: you know, they wanted to collaborate, and I knew from

647
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:27,080
Speaker 1: that point, I was like, I want to be with them.

648
00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 1: I want to be with those girls. They are thriving,

649
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:34,360
Speaker 1: they're happy, they're just their their energy is completely different.

650
00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:37,720
Speaker 1: So I made it my business to become one of

651
00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 1: those women and to be there and to help other people,

652
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:44,680
Speaker 1: and to look for ways to join forces and introduce

653
00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:47,440
Speaker 1: anyone I knew to someone like I'm like a super

654
00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 1: connector like, if I know someone that I think could

655
00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:51,760
Speaker 1: help you, I'm all about it. I'm setting up phone

656
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:53,920
Speaker 1: dates and emails like I just I don't know, it

657
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:57,680
Speaker 1: just feels better to be that person. So girl Code

658
00:32:57,720 --> 00:33:00,160
Speaker 1: is really a manifesto about what it looks like to

659
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 1: come together as women, to join forces, to just completely

660
00:33:05,800 --> 00:33:08,600
Speaker 1: eradicate jealousy, to realize that it doesn't serve a purpose.

661
00:33:08,640 --> 00:33:10,320
Speaker 1: It just makes us feel like crap at the end

662
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:12,600
Speaker 1: of the day. Nobody feels good when they're in a

663
00:33:12,600 --> 00:33:15,680
Speaker 1: bad mood and they're comparing themselves to strangers on the internet. Right,

664
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 1: That's never like a high VI of activity. So it's

665
00:33:19,240 --> 00:33:22,040
Speaker 1: just that's kind of the concept behind it. And I

666
00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:24,480
Speaker 1: can't even tell you, like that book is just the

667
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:26,960
Speaker 1: one book that just people keep coming back to and

668
00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 1: people keep talking about and reading and sharing. So it's

669
00:33:31,360 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 1: obvious to me that we need to keep spreading this

670
00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:36,800
Speaker 1: message as women, and I think what we need to

671
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:39,640
Speaker 1: do is find a way to empower ourselves and build

672
00:33:39,640 --> 00:33:41,680
Speaker 1: that confidence so that we can get out there and

673
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:43,959
Speaker 1: support someone else, because I think the only reason why

674
00:33:44,040 --> 00:33:48,000
Speaker 1: people are jealous or are envious or hateful towards other

675
00:33:48,040 --> 00:33:51,320
Speaker 1: women is because of fear. You know, it's a scarcity mindset,

676
00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:53,440
Speaker 1: like there's not enough for me, or I'm not good enough,

677
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 1: I'm not going to make it, so I can't let

678
00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:57,400
Speaker 1: anyone else make it. But when you realize that, like

679
00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:00,600
Speaker 1: the universe is abundant and limitless. I talk about the

680
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:03,440
Speaker 1: term limitless looks in girl Code right, like there's so

681
00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:06,320
Speaker 1: much out there for all of us to go and grab,

682
00:34:06,360 --> 00:34:08,840
Speaker 1: and if someone else has something to me, that's a

683
00:34:08,880 --> 00:34:10,799
Speaker 1: sign that I could have it too. You know. Like

684
00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:13,520
Speaker 1: I'm in the process right now of building out my

685
00:34:13,600 --> 00:34:15,759
Speaker 1: Vintage brand and really wanting to take it to the

686
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:17,840
Speaker 1: next level and have a little retail space here in

687
00:34:17,880 --> 00:34:20,200
Speaker 1: New York, and I'm looking around at people with stores

688
00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:22,919
Speaker 1: and I'm so happy. Like I literally go walking around

689
00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:24,600
Speaker 1: my neighborhood and I'm like, oh my god, her store

690
00:34:24,640 --> 00:34:27,319
Speaker 1: is so cute, so excited this person just moves in

691
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:30,880
Speaker 1: this space, or this person's opening this business. That fuels me,

692
00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:34,280
Speaker 1: Like to me, that makes me feel like, wow, it's possible.

693
00:34:34,320 --> 00:34:37,080
Speaker 1: I'm next. So it's just about making that shift in

694
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:40,080
Speaker 1: your mindset and realizing that someone else's success takes nothing

695
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:42,759
Speaker 1: away from your own, if anything, use that as a

696
00:34:42,800 --> 00:34:44,520
Speaker 1: catalyst to inspire yourself.

697
00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:49,400
Speaker 2: Yes, I absolutely love this so much. And it's funny

698
00:34:49,440 --> 00:34:52,480
Speaker 2: because just the other day on my Stories, I got

699
00:34:52,640 --> 00:34:54,680
Speaker 2: a question. I was doing one of those Q and

700
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:57,960
Speaker 2: A question things and I got a question and as

701
00:34:58,040 --> 00:35:02,320
Speaker 2: someone was asking about how how do you not feel

702
00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:07,160
Speaker 2: competitive with you know, other women in the same space

703
00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:10,040
Speaker 2: and recently not recently, it was a good year ago,

704
00:35:10,120 --> 00:35:13,000
Speaker 2: but I did a podcast tour where I did some

705
00:35:13,080 --> 00:35:16,279
Speaker 2: live events and I did it with another podcast and

706
00:35:17,320 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 2: we became such good friends and you know, toured together

707
00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:23,560
Speaker 2: and it was amazing, and I explained, I put up

708
00:35:23,560 --> 00:35:27,280
Speaker 2: a photo of me and the other podcast touring together,

709
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:31,240
Speaker 2: and I explained, you know, I don't see other people

710
00:35:31,239 --> 00:35:34,160
Speaker 2: in this space as competitors, like there is room for

711
00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:37,320
Speaker 2: all of us. And so I love that that book

712
00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:39,960
Speaker 2: is just all about that. And then you live your

713
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:40,839
Speaker 2: life like that too.

714
00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:43,719
Speaker 1: Yes, Yes, I love that you did that. That's so

715
00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:46,960
Speaker 1: awesome and it probably felt so good to be around

716
00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:49,239
Speaker 1: other people who are like minded, Like it's a good

717
00:35:49,239 --> 00:35:51,479
Speaker 1: feeling to connect with people who are doing cool things.

718
00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 1: It's just to me that like fuels my creativity.

719
00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:57,439
Speaker 2: One hundred yeah, one hundred ten percent and then now

720
00:35:57,480 --> 00:35:59,960
Speaker 2: we like, we're such close friends and we talk all

721
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 2: the time. So yeah, it created such a beautiful relationship too. Okay,

722
00:36:04,760 --> 00:36:09,400
Speaker 2: So moving on to go on fire, how to choose yourself,

723
00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:12,360
Speaker 2: burn the real book, and blaze your own trail in

724
00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:17,200
Speaker 2: your life and business. Yes, you can definitely feel your

725
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:20,520
Speaker 2: energy in this, and I absolutely love it. One of

726
00:36:20,600 --> 00:36:22,799
Speaker 2: my favorite chapters in this book. And we're kind of

727
00:36:22,840 --> 00:36:25,840
Speaker 2: touched about this at the start, but I really really

728
00:36:25,920 --> 00:36:28,200
Speaker 2: want to touch on this because I yeah, it's one

729
00:36:28,239 --> 00:36:31,480
Speaker 2: of my favorite and I think the listeners will absolutely love.

730
00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:32,279
Speaker 3: Your chat on this.

731
00:36:32,400 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 2: So one of my favorite chapters is stop waiting for

732
00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:39,560
Speaker 2: the title and crown Yourself. Could you tell us more

733
00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 2: about this concept?

734
00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:44,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, so that really is just about knowing that you

735
00:36:44,680 --> 00:36:46,759
Speaker 1: deserve to live the kind of life you want to live,

736
00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:49,919
Speaker 1: and you have what it takes already. I think we

737
00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:55,600
Speaker 1: assume that other people have more connections, more talent, something

738
00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:58,360
Speaker 1: else that we lack. Right, We constantly compare ourselves to

739
00:36:58,440 --> 00:37:00,960
Speaker 1: go saying earlier, and we're talking about girl code concept

740
00:37:01,600 --> 00:37:04,080
Speaker 1: and we wait, We let things pass us by, We

741
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:07,640
Speaker 1: let opportunities pass us by when we could be actively

742
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:10,640
Speaker 1: seeking out ways to do the things that we want

743
00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:12,520
Speaker 1: to do and be creative and put ourselves out there.

744
00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 1: So choosing yourself, crowning yourself is really just about knowing

745
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:18,120
Speaker 1: that you have what it takes. You know, it's exactly

746
00:37:18,120 --> 00:37:20,440
Speaker 1: what I did when I became an author, and it

747
00:37:20,520 --> 00:37:22,439
Speaker 1: takes time. You know. It's one of those things where

748
00:37:22,440 --> 00:37:25,200
Speaker 1: you really have to remind yourself of who you are

749
00:37:25,239 --> 00:37:27,560
Speaker 1: every single day. You know, I didn't call myself an

750
00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:30,280
Speaker 1: author for years. I felt weird calling myself an author,

751
00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:32,840
Speaker 1: and finally I was like, no, I am. I've written books.

752
00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:36,359
Speaker 1: So if you're thinking of starting a blog, you are

753
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:39,359
Speaker 1: now a blogger. If you love taking photographs, you're now

754
00:37:39,400 --> 00:37:41,359
Speaker 1: a photographer. You know, you've got to get in the

755
00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:44,520
Speaker 1: energy of the woman that you want to be, and

756
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:47,280
Speaker 1: you have to do it. Be like, start before you're ready.

757
00:37:47,400 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 1: You know, you figure it out as you go along.

758
00:37:49,040 --> 00:37:51,400
Speaker 1: I think we wait for everything to be perfect. Sometimes

759
00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:54,239
Speaker 1: it's never perfect, and the messy stuff is where the

760
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:57,480
Speaker 1: magic is. So when you crown yourself, you know, you

761
00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:00,600
Speaker 1: put it out there to the universe, like this is

762
00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:02,360
Speaker 1: who I am, and this is what I'm creating and

763
00:38:02,400 --> 00:38:05,120
Speaker 1: what I'm building, and I'm worthy of doing this now.

764
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Speaker 3: I love that.

765
00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:08,360
Speaker 2: I love what you said about the messy stuff creates

766
00:38:08,360 --> 00:38:08,840
Speaker 2: the magic.

767
00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:10,399
Speaker 3: So true.

768
00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 2: Okay, So, and another great chapter I absolutely love is

769
00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:19,279
Speaker 2: your chapter that says what are you available for? And

770
00:38:19,320 --> 00:38:22,919
Speaker 2: you talk about this often even in your podcast and

771
00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:26,840
Speaker 2: on social media. Can you tell us more about how

772
00:38:26,920 --> 00:38:30,359
Speaker 2: you set energetic boundaries in your life and why this

773
00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:31,720
Speaker 2: is so important?

774
00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:34,759
Speaker 1: Yes? So, you know, everybody in this world is having

775
00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:37,960
Speaker 1: a different experience, even if they're seemingly living, you know,

776
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:39,880
Speaker 1: the same kind of a life. You know, people that

777
00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:42,000
Speaker 1: live in the same town, people that have the same career,

778
00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:45,920
Speaker 1: whatever it is you're going through. Let's take even COVID

779
00:38:45,960 --> 00:38:48,360
Speaker 1: for an example. Everything the world is going through right now,

780
00:38:48,400 --> 00:38:53,600
Speaker 1: but you will have a different experience based on your boundaries,

781
00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:56,080
Speaker 1: based on the energy that you're available for, based on

782
00:38:56,480 --> 00:38:59,760
Speaker 1: the things that you put into your mind, what you consume,

783
00:39:00,160 --> 00:39:02,400
Speaker 1: you or who you are around, what you speak about

784
00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:05,600
Speaker 1: you know. So for me, one of the questions I

785
00:39:05,640 --> 00:39:07,239
Speaker 1: love to ask myself in the morning, and actually a

786
00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:09,080
Speaker 1: lot of my clients do this too, is like what

787
00:39:09,200 --> 00:39:12,719
Speaker 1: am I available for today? And what am I unavailable

788
00:39:12,719 --> 00:39:15,520
Speaker 1: for today? So you know, you may wake up in

789
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:18,480
Speaker 1: the morning and say you know, I'm unavailable for stress,

790
00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:22,920
Speaker 1: I'm unavailable for anger, I'm unavailable for people draining me.

791
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:26,399
Speaker 1: And that's a powerful affirmation, right Like, just to set

792
00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:30,120
Speaker 1: that tone and understand and remind yourself that you control

793
00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:34,279
Speaker 1: your reality and you are responsible for your energy and

794
00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:36,279
Speaker 1: the experiences that you have in the world, and not

795
00:39:36,320 --> 00:39:38,680
Speaker 1: only the experiences you have, but how you interpret them.

796
00:39:38,960 --> 00:39:40,560
Speaker 1: You know, I have been through a lot of struggle

797
00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:42,399
Speaker 1: in my life, like most of us have. We've all

798
00:39:42,600 --> 00:39:45,920
Speaker 1: had our challenges, and whenever I'm going through those challenges,

799
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:49,520
Speaker 1: I just remind myself, like, there's two ways to see this.

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00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:52,520
Speaker 1: This is either happening for me or this is happening

801
00:39:52,560 --> 00:39:55,759
Speaker 1: to me. And when I think something's happening to me,

802
00:39:55,840 --> 00:39:58,279
Speaker 1: that's more of a victim mindset, right Like, I'm never

803
00:39:58,320 --> 00:39:59,719
Speaker 1: going to get out of this. This is always going

804
00:39:59,760 --> 00:40:01,759
Speaker 1: to be a struggle, This is always challenging for me.

805
00:40:02,280 --> 00:40:04,560
Speaker 1: But if we realize, like this is happening for me,

806
00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:07,920
Speaker 1: this is helping me grow, this is helping me evolve,

807
00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:10,360
Speaker 1: this is helping me change. I think that to me

808
00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 1: is how you create a good energy. That's how you

809
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:19,320
Speaker 1: get yourself from that place of feeling victimized, feeling down,

810
00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:22,200
Speaker 1: feeling low vibrational. That's how you move into that space

811
00:40:22,239 --> 00:40:26,080
Speaker 1: of feeling empowered. You know, So look at every situation

812
00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:28,480
Speaker 1: in your life and ask yourself, like what am I

813
00:40:28,520 --> 00:40:30,680
Speaker 1: available for today? Am I going to have a great day?

814
00:40:30,719 --> 00:40:34,040
Speaker 1: Am I available for thoughts of positivity and optimism and

815
00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:39,000
Speaker 1: hope and creativity and fuel and you know, a sense

816
00:40:39,040 --> 00:40:42,320
Speaker 1: of knowing that I'm in control? Or am I available

817
00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:44,839
Speaker 1: to feel like garbage? Am I available to feel like crap?

818
00:40:44,880 --> 00:40:48,040
Speaker 1: Because whatever you open yourself up to, you will experience

819
00:40:48,120 --> 00:40:50,919
Speaker 1: in your life. So just try to be as you know,

820
00:40:51,280 --> 00:40:53,920
Speaker 1: as intentional about it as you can. It really makes

821
00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:54,680
Speaker 1: a big difference.

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Speaker 3: I love that so much.

823
00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:03,040
Speaker 2: And like I was saying, off egg Cara is your

824
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:07,640
Speaker 2: work was definitely the first time that I realized that

825
00:41:07,960 --> 00:41:11,160
Speaker 2: you know, energetic boundaries and being intentional with your time

826
00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:14,080
Speaker 2: and energy is an actual thing and it is so

827
00:41:14,239 --> 00:41:15,000
Speaker 2: life changing.

828
00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:16,520
Speaker 3: So thank you for touching on that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and you know, even with people right like like yes,

830
00:41:20,640 --> 00:41:24,080
Speaker 1: being aware of who you're talking to and the conversations

831
00:41:24,120 --> 00:41:27,040
Speaker 1: that you're having. If you realize, if you notice that

832
00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:29,160
Speaker 1: every single time you talk to a certain friend you

833
00:41:29,239 --> 00:41:32,279
Speaker 1: feel drained, afterward, you know, you've got to really take

834
00:41:32,280 --> 00:41:35,120
Speaker 1: that into consideration and maybe limit the time you spend

835
00:41:35,120 --> 00:41:38,120
Speaker 1: with that person, or maybe don't respond to their text

836
00:41:38,120 --> 00:41:40,279
Speaker 1: messages every single time they try to talk to you.

837
00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:42,319
Speaker 1: Maybe we turn off a little bit from them, take

838
00:41:42,360 --> 00:41:44,920
Speaker 1: a little break. It's not selfish to do that, you know,

839
00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:47,280
Speaker 1: it's necessary to protect your peace.

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00:41:47,880 --> 00:41:53,880
Speaker 2: M Yeah, and so often you're so optimistic, and I

841
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:56,800
Speaker 2: love that you always talk about shifting into a higher vibe.

842
00:41:57,239 --> 00:42:00,839
Speaker 2: I would love to know what are your ways that

843
00:42:00,960 --> 00:42:04,759
Speaker 2: you personally shift into a high vibe that you find effective.

844
00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:07,080
Speaker 1: Oh that's a great question. You know. There are such

845
00:42:07,280 --> 00:42:09,400
Speaker 1: so many little things you can do to feel better,

846
00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:12,120
Speaker 1: So think about like what makes you feel good. For me,

847
00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:16,400
Speaker 1: it's music, putting on a playlist that I love, getting

848
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:19,160
Speaker 1: dressed up, you know, I think being home. I work

849
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:21,320
Speaker 1: from home, so making sure every single day that I

850
00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:24,600
Speaker 1: get dressed up, I put on some jewelry, having a

851
00:42:24,640 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 1: cup of coffee, like anything that feels comforting, anything that

852
00:42:27,719 --> 00:42:30,560
Speaker 1: makes me feel good, going for a walk outside. I

853
00:42:30,560 --> 00:42:33,879
Speaker 1: think it's so important to shift your environment as often

854
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:35,920
Speaker 1: as you can, especially when you're feeling down. I mean,

855
00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:38,319
Speaker 1: it changes you on a cellular level. Right, when you

856
00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:41,640
Speaker 1: physically move your body, you see new things, you have

857
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:45,360
Speaker 1: you know, experienced new things. So something simple as taking

858
00:42:45,400 --> 00:42:48,440
Speaker 1: a walk, going for a workout, going for you know,

859
00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:52,560
Speaker 1: ride on my peloton, or doing some stretches, just like

860
00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:56,480
Speaker 1: having a go to almost like a little toolkit for yourself,

861
00:42:56,520 --> 00:42:58,480
Speaker 1: so to speak, right, like a little like set of

862
00:42:58,480 --> 00:43:00,960
Speaker 1: things that you know work for you. Everybody's different, so

863
00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:03,680
Speaker 1: for you know, for anyone listening now, like, just think

864
00:43:03,719 --> 00:43:05,279
Speaker 1: about what are the things that make you feel good?

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Speaker 1: And I always write down. I love doing this. It's

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Speaker 1: in some of my workbooks, writing down a low vibelist

867
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Speaker 1: and a high vibel list what are the things that

868
00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:15,480
Speaker 1: make me feel like garbage? Right, And when you're in

869
00:43:15,480 --> 00:43:17,920
Speaker 1: the moment, write it down. Keep that little journal with you.

870
00:43:18,320 --> 00:43:21,600
Speaker 1: You're having a hard day, ask yourself, like, what happens

871
00:43:21,640 --> 00:43:23,680
Speaker 1: today that's making me feel this way? What are the

872
00:43:23,719 --> 00:43:27,400
Speaker 1: things that make me feel blah or low vibe? And

873
00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:29,040
Speaker 1: what are the things that make me feel good? So

874
00:43:29,080 --> 00:43:31,719
Speaker 1: when you're in those good moments, like you'll know you'll

875
00:43:31,719 --> 00:43:33,879
Speaker 1: be able to go to them to kind of pull

876
00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:35,160
Speaker 1: yourself out of it the next time.

877
00:43:35,920 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 3: I love that.

878
00:43:36,760 --> 00:43:40,040
Speaker 2: So simple but so effective, so I want to switch

879
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:44,200
Speaker 2: gears and end on a topic I'm very passionate about

880
00:43:44,239 --> 00:43:49,120
Speaker 2: and I love speaking about. I love talking about manifesting.

881
00:43:49,320 --> 00:43:53,360
Speaker 2: And I know that you're big manifestor yourself. And something

882
00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:57,000
Speaker 2: that I love about you is you know you can

883
00:43:57,120 --> 00:44:00,920
Speaker 2: be this boss babe, and you're an entrepreneur and you

884
00:44:01,000 --> 00:44:05,120
Speaker 2: have this successful business and you're an author, but also

885
00:44:05,239 --> 00:44:10,000
Speaker 2: you are super intentional and you know spiritual and you

886
00:44:10,080 --> 00:44:14,399
Speaker 2: do both and I absolutely love that. Can you kind

887
00:44:14,440 --> 00:44:18,440
Speaker 2: of chat to us about how you use manifesting within

888
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 2: your business and your goals and what are some simple

889
00:44:22,160 --> 00:44:27,719
Speaker 2: ways entrepreneurs can incorporate elements of this into their routine.

890
00:44:28,280 --> 00:44:30,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you for that. I love that you said that,

891
00:44:30,280 --> 00:44:32,359
Speaker 1: And I really do try to balance the both, right.

892
00:44:32,400 --> 00:44:35,240
Speaker 1: It's kind of like balancing like the masculine feminine energy

893
00:44:35,280 --> 00:44:37,680
Speaker 1: that we all have within us. And it's hard sometimes

894
00:44:37,680 --> 00:44:40,279
Speaker 1: because a lot of times I find myself in hustle moode.

895
00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:42,360
Speaker 1: I'm a New Yorker. You know, we make things happen,

896
00:44:42,600 --> 00:44:46,400
Speaker 1: So it could be challenging sometimes to sit back and

897
00:44:46,440 --> 00:44:48,520
Speaker 1: sort of let the universe do its work or God

898
00:44:48,640 --> 00:44:51,640
Speaker 1: or whatever you believe in, whatever higher power you know, spiritually,

899
00:44:51,960 --> 00:44:54,279
Speaker 1: but we have to really balance that and realize that

900
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:58,200
Speaker 1: we can't always control everything. So when I'm manifesting something,

901
00:44:58,480 --> 00:45:00,800
Speaker 1: there are a couple of things that I I personally

902
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:04,400
Speaker 1: do my little process, if you will, that gets me

903
00:45:04,760 --> 00:45:06,759
Speaker 1: to a place where I feel like I can make

904
00:45:06,800 --> 00:45:10,080
Speaker 1: things happen. So, like I mentioned earlier, writing down my vision,

905
00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:14,960
Speaker 1: getting clear. The universe loves clarity. So the clear you

906
00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:17,719
Speaker 1: can get about what you want, and the more you

907
00:45:17,760 --> 00:45:19,879
Speaker 1: can picture it in your mind. One of the things

908
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:22,840
Speaker 1: I love to do is almost picture something happening like

909
00:45:22,880 --> 00:45:26,480
Speaker 1: a movie in my mind, you know, So like picturing,

910
00:45:26,520 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 1: like if you want something to happen in your business

911
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:30,799
Speaker 1: or in your life, imagine it happening. And I love

912
00:45:30,840 --> 00:45:32,399
Speaker 1: to do this before I go to sleep at night.

913
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:35,240
Speaker 1: And I think that that's a really powerful time because

914
00:45:35,239 --> 00:45:38,480
Speaker 1: you're sending a message to your mind, right you're closing

915
00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:41,600
Speaker 1: out your day with these images, and subconsciously, when you

916
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 1: go to sleep, your brain is going to work that out.

917
00:45:43,640 --> 00:45:45,440
Speaker 1: It's gonna see that as truth, and it's going to

918
00:45:45,480 --> 00:45:48,040
Speaker 1: find a way to make that happen. So writing down

919
00:45:48,080 --> 00:45:51,319
Speaker 1: your vision, visualizing it, picturing it in your head like

920
00:45:51,320 --> 00:45:53,480
Speaker 1: a movie. When when you're going to sleep at night,

921
00:45:53,480 --> 00:45:56,200
Speaker 1: I think is honestly one of my favorite ways to manifest.

922
00:45:56,880 --> 00:45:59,680
Speaker 1: And then setting the goals, like I said earlier, making

923
00:45:59,719 --> 00:46:02,800
Speaker 1: sure that you're working, making sure that you're taking those

924
00:46:02,840 --> 00:46:06,239
Speaker 1: inspired action steps right, because we can't just wish for

925
00:46:06,320 --> 00:46:09,400
Speaker 1: something to happen. Otherwise it's just you know, that's great

926
00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:11,200
Speaker 1: and it's wonderful to have the vision, but if you're

927
00:46:11,200 --> 00:46:14,040
Speaker 1: not showing up and doing the work and doing those

928
00:46:14,560 --> 00:46:17,040
Speaker 1: you know, things that you need to do, those little

929
00:46:17,120 --> 00:46:19,400
Speaker 1: nudges you get like whatever that looks like for you,

930
00:46:20,320 --> 00:46:24,440
Speaker 1: that's super important. And at the same time, detaching from

931
00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:27,359
Speaker 1: the outcome. I think the hardest part of manifesting is

932
00:46:27,600 --> 00:46:30,319
Speaker 1: really detaching from the outcome. And you know, you can

933
00:46:30,360 --> 00:46:32,799
Speaker 1: think about when you order something online, like let's say

934
00:46:32,800 --> 00:46:35,759
Speaker 1: you're shopping on the internet, you buy a dress, you

935
00:46:36,040 --> 00:46:38,160
Speaker 1: order that dress, you pay for it, and then you

936
00:46:38,200 --> 00:46:40,160
Speaker 1: trust that that dress is going to get to your house,

937
00:46:40,200 --> 00:46:41,759
Speaker 1: that it's going to get delivered, and you're going to

938
00:46:41,840 --> 00:46:44,560
Speaker 1: have that dress in a couple of days. You probably

939
00:46:44,600 --> 00:46:47,680
Speaker 1: are not you know, thinking staying up at night wondering

940
00:46:47,680 --> 00:46:49,920
Speaker 1: if the dress is going to come to you, you know,

941
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:54,279
Speaker 1: stalking the website refreshing tracking the package, feeling like it's

942
00:46:54,320 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 1: never going to happen. You're never going to get this dress.

943
00:46:56,160 --> 00:46:57,960
Speaker 1: You trust that it's coming. So you have to do

944
00:46:58,000 --> 00:47:00,000
Speaker 1: the same thing with your desires. You have to trust

945
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:02,439
Speaker 1: that they're coming to you and know that as soon

946
00:47:02,440 --> 00:47:05,160
Speaker 1: as you set that intention, you create the vision, and

947
00:47:05,200 --> 00:47:07,240
Speaker 1: you show up and work for it, it's going to happen.

948
00:47:07,320 --> 00:47:10,640
Speaker 1: And if it doesn't happen for some reason, being okay

949
00:47:10,680 --> 00:47:13,360
Speaker 1: with that outcome and knowing that it's all serving your

950
00:47:13,440 --> 00:47:15,879
Speaker 1: higher good. I know, for me when something doesn't work out,

951
00:47:15,920 --> 00:47:18,680
Speaker 1: like my book deal for example, that was a big

952
00:47:18,719 --> 00:47:22,040
Speaker 1: test for me in being able to manifest and detach

953
00:47:22,160 --> 00:47:24,960
Speaker 1: right like feeling like, okay, there's a bigger purpose here,

954
00:47:25,000 --> 00:47:27,000
Speaker 1: there's a reason why it didn't work out this way,

955
00:47:27,560 --> 00:47:30,319
Speaker 1: and now when I connect the dots looking backward right,

956
00:47:30,360 --> 00:47:32,960
Speaker 1: I'm able to see it happened exactly as it should have.

957
00:47:33,600 --> 00:47:37,080
Speaker 1: So knowing that whatever is going on in your life,

958
00:47:37,120 --> 00:47:41,000
Speaker 1: everything happens in divine timing, everything happens exactly as it should.

959
00:47:41,560 --> 00:47:44,319
Speaker 1: So trust that you know, trust that and show up

960
00:47:44,360 --> 00:47:47,319
Speaker 1: every single day and know that you're doing your part.

961
00:47:47,360 --> 00:47:50,520
Speaker 1: As long as you're clear, you know you're imagining it,

962
00:47:50,600 --> 00:47:53,200
Speaker 1: you're taking the steps, and you're doing what you need

963
00:47:53,239 --> 00:47:55,319
Speaker 1: to do, and you're trusting. I think, to me, that's

964
00:47:55,400 --> 00:47:58,640
Speaker 1: just like the winning combination when it comes to manifesting something.

965
00:48:00,760 --> 00:48:03,560
Speaker 3: Such such a good way to explain it.

966
00:48:03,600 --> 00:48:07,200
Speaker 2: With the drastic dress example, I was like sitting here

967
00:48:07,200 --> 00:48:09,000
Speaker 2: and nodding my head as you were saying.

968
00:48:08,840 --> 00:48:12,800
Speaker 3: It because it's so true. Thank you so much, Kara.

969
00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:17,080
Speaker 2: So you have published nine books, you do so much

970
00:48:17,080 --> 00:48:20,840
Speaker 2: in the self development community, and you've achieved so much.

971
00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:22,400
Speaker 3: What is next for you?

972
00:48:23,120 --> 00:48:25,840
Speaker 1: Oh, that's a hard question. I know. I'm not the

973
00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:29,320
Speaker 1: kind of I'm not the kind of person that plans

974
00:48:29,360 --> 00:48:32,040
Speaker 1: too too far in advance. I'm very much like, if

975
00:48:32,040 --> 00:48:36,000
Speaker 1: this feels right, if I get this like spiritual download right,

976
00:48:36,040 --> 00:48:38,640
Speaker 1: this divine download, I go for it. So I am

977
00:48:38,680 --> 00:48:40,239
Speaker 1: working on a couple of things. I'm going to be

978
00:48:40,239 --> 00:48:43,000
Speaker 1: doing another mastermind in the fall, which I'm really excited about.

979
00:48:43,080 --> 00:48:46,480
Speaker 1: I do these group coaching masterminds for boss babes and

980
00:48:46,520 --> 00:48:48,920
Speaker 1: we get together. It's usually like six or eight women

981
00:48:49,080 --> 00:48:51,759
Speaker 1: come together on zoom calls, and you know, we really

982
00:48:51,760 --> 00:48:54,160
Speaker 1: support each other. It's usually six or eight weeks and

983
00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:57,680
Speaker 1: it's all about just creating this like container of just

984
00:48:57,760 --> 00:49:02,279
Speaker 1: like excitement and support and this little sisterhood. So that's

985
00:49:02,360 --> 00:49:04,640
Speaker 1: happening for sure in the fall. I love doing those.

986
00:49:05,520 --> 00:49:08,560
Speaker 1: I am actually relaunching my blog, so that's really exciting.

987
00:49:08,600 --> 00:49:10,800
Speaker 1: So the Champagne Die dot com is getting a total

988
00:49:10,800 --> 00:49:13,560
Speaker 1: makeover as we speak, and I'm going to go back

989
00:49:13,560 --> 00:49:15,319
Speaker 1: to blogging. I took a break from it, and I

990
00:49:15,360 --> 00:49:17,840
Speaker 1: think I got a little caught up in Instagram. And

991
00:49:18,120 --> 00:49:20,319
Speaker 1: I love Instagram, but at the end of the day,

992
00:49:20,360 --> 00:49:23,160
Speaker 1: I think content, especially as a writer, it really needs

993
00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:26,480
Speaker 1: a home base. So relaunching the blog, giving it a

994
00:49:26,520 --> 00:49:28,840
Speaker 1: little bit of a facelift and getting back to blogging

995
00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:31,480
Speaker 1: is exciting for me too. And then I've got my

996
00:49:31,560 --> 00:49:34,640
Speaker 1: vintage line, dagmar Rose, and that's fun and we'll see

997
00:49:34,680 --> 00:49:36,719
Speaker 1: what happens with that, and hopefully I'll be able to

998
00:49:37,080 --> 00:49:39,840
Speaker 1: find a little space or do some trunk shows or

999
00:49:39,840 --> 00:49:42,080
Speaker 1: pop up events, you know, when things start to open

1000
00:49:42,160 --> 00:49:45,359
Speaker 1: up a little bit more here, and yeah, we'll see

1001
00:49:45,360 --> 00:49:47,640
Speaker 1: what else. We'll see where else the universe takes me.

1002
00:49:47,760 --> 00:49:51,239
Speaker 1: I am always open, so it's yeah, well we'll have

1003
00:49:51,360 --> 00:49:51,960
Speaker 1: to see.

1004
00:49:52,400 --> 00:49:54,759
Speaker 2: I absolutely love that, And like I said, you were

1005
00:49:54,880 --> 00:49:56,360
Speaker 2: so multi passionate.

1006
00:49:56,600 --> 00:49:58,120
Speaker 3: It is. It's amazing.

1007
00:49:58,800 --> 00:49:59,160
Speaker 1: Thank you.

1008
00:49:59,360 --> 00:50:02,759
Speaker 2: I y our last question, Kara, And this is how

1009
00:50:02,760 --> 00:50:06,399
Speaker 2: I finish out all my interviews for season three. What

1010
00:50:06,719 --> 00:50:10,040
Speaker 2: is advice that you would give yourself? And what I'm

1011
00:50:10,080 --> 00:50:11,600
Speaker 2: kind of looking for here is a bit of a

1012
00:50:11,600 --> 00:50:14,919
Speaker 2: pep talk to leave the audience. So what advice would

1013
00:50:14,920 --> 00:50:18,480
Speaker 2: you give yourself in moments of self doubt or fear

1014
00:50:19,239 --> 00:50:22,160
Speaker 2: around a next step or something new?

1015
00:50:22,400 --> 00:50:24,480
Speaker 3: What do you tell you? What do you tell yourself?

1016
00:50:24,719 --> 00:50:27,480
Speaker 1: Oh that is such a great question. How do you

1017
00:50:27,520 --> 00:50:30,479
Speaker 1: just remind myself of everything else that I have done?

1018
00:50:30,880 --> 00:50:32,360
Speaker 1: I was actually it's funny you say this because I

1019
00:50:32,360 --> 00:50:34,200
Speaker 1: was just thinking this on my walk home. I was

1020
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:36,680
Speaker 1: out this afternoon, was coming back here to do this podcast,

1021
00:50:37,200 --> 00:50:39,360
Speaker 1: and I was having those moments. I still get those moments,

1022
00:50:39,400 --> 00:50:41,160
Speaker 1: even though I write about this stuff and I teach

1023
00:50:41,200 --> 00:50:43,400
Speaker 1: about this stuff. Oh we all faced out. No one

1024
00:50:43,440 --> 00:50:46,520
Speaker 1: is immune to self doubt. But I remind myself, like,

1025
00:50:46,719 --> 00:50:49,359
Speaker 1: you've done it before. You didn't know how you were

1026
00:50:49,400 --> 00:50:51,520
Speaker 1: going to do it, but you did it, and you're

1027
00:50:51,520 --> 00:50:53,600
Speaker 1: going to do it again, you know, So lean on

1028
00:50:53,640 --> 00:50:55,839
Speaker 1: those moments in your life where you have pulled through

1029
00:50:55,880 --> 00:50:58,719
Speaker 1: and you've made stuff happen, and you've shocked yourself and

1030
00:50:58,760 --> 00:51:03,359
Speaker 1: you've surprised yourself, and in those moments really channel who

1031
00:51:03,400 --> 00:51:06,120
Speaker 1: you were back then, how fearful you felt, how afraid

1032
00:51:06,160 --> 00:51:08,319
Speaker 1: you felt, but you shined and you did it and

1033
00:51:08,320 --> 00:51:11,279
Speaker 1: you made it happen. So even if right now you're

1034
00:51:11,320 --> 00:51:14,120
Speaker 1: looking something you know in the face and you're like,

1035
00:51:14,160 --> 00:51:16,040
Speaker 1: I really want this to happen. I really want this

1036
00:51:16,080 --> 00:51:17,680
Speaker 1: for myself. I don't know how I'm going to make

1037
00:51:17,680 --> 00:51:20,640
Speaker 1: it happen, just know that you will. You always have,

1038
00:51:20,920 --> 00:51:24,799
Speaker 1: you always will, you know, and again staying true to

1039
00:51:24,840 --> 00:51:27,440
Speaker 1: the vision and staying focused and being what I call

1040
00:51:27,480 --> 00:51:30,840
Speaker 1: it best case scenario girl. Right, Like, so instead of wondering,

1041
00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:33,120
Speaker 1: oh god, what if this doesn't work, you know, what

1042
00:51:33,160 --> 00:51:35,719
Speaker 1: if it falls apart, start to get into the vibe

1043
00:51:35,760 --> 00:51:39,239
Speaker 1: of imagining like the best possible outcome for yourself, Like

1044
00:51:39,760 --> 00:51:42,040
Speaker 1: play the movie in your head of it all working out,

1045
00:51:42,200 --> 00:51:44,719
Speaker 1: Like what if this actually does happen? What if I

1046
00:51:44,800 --> 00:51:47,799
Speaker 1: actually do make it work? What if I can you know,

1047
00:51:47,880 --> 00:51:50,920
Speaker 1: start that business, you know, find that person you know,

1048
00:51:51,160 --> 00:51:53,440
Speaker 1: move to that city, whatever it is, and really just

1049
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:56,880
Speaker 1: get lost in the fantasy of it. Let yourself get lost.

1050
00:51:57,160 --> 00:52:00,279
Speaker 1: I think sometimes we forget how fun it can be

1051
00:52:00,360 --> 00:52:04,440
Speaker 1: to manifest, right, We just we imagine all the negative things.

1052
00:52:04,480 --> 00:52:07,920
Speaker 1: But manifestation is such a fun process, right, So really

1053
00:52:07,960 --> 00:52:11,520
Speaker 1: get creative, use your imagination. And when you're using your

1054
00:52:11,560 --> 00:52:15,560
Speaker 1: imagination and your mind to create those positive visions and thoughts,

1055
00:52:15,680 --> 00:52:18,120
Speaker 1: there's no room to worry, you know, you just run

1056
00:52:18,160 --> 00:52:21,839
Speaker 1: out of space for the fear. So yeah, focus on that.

1057
00:52:21,920 --> 00:52:23,880
Speaker 1: And I think the biggest thing to know is that like,

1058
00:52:24,640 --> 00:52:27,480
Speaker 1: everything is possible, you know, and I think more things

1059
00:52:27,520 --> 00:52:30,319
Speaker 1: are possible than we even realize. So don't sell yourself short.

1060
00:52:30,440 --> 00:52:33,040
Speaker 1: If there's something you're picturing and you want it, you know,

1061
00:52:33,080 --> 00:52:36,000
Speaker 1: one of the mantras I love is this or something better?

1062
00:52:36,400 --> 00:52:38,600
Speaker 1: I want this or something better and put that out

1063
00:52:38,600 --> 00:52:41,120
Speaker 1: to the universe every single day and know that it's

1064
00:52:41,120 --> 00:52:41,880
Speaker 1: going to happen for you.

1065
00:52:42,320 --> 00:52:45,479
Speaker 3: Amazing. That was so good.

1066
00:52:45,640 --> 00:52:49,520
Speaker 2: Thank you so much, Kara. The audience would have loved that.

1067
00:52:50,040 --> 00:52:52,640
Speaker 2: And so can you let the R and C listeners

1068
00:52:52,760 --> 00:52:56,520
Speaker 2: know where they can go to find all your amazing stuff?

1069
00:52:56,800 --> 00:52:59,960
Speaker 1: Sure? So. My blog is at the Champagne Diet dot com.

1070
00:53:01,080 --> 00:53:04,120
Speaker 1: My podcast is called Style Your Mind, and I am

1071
00:53:04,160 --> 00:53:07,799
Speaker 1: on Instagram at the Champagne diet amazing.

1072
00:53:07,880 --> 00:53:11,120
Speaker 2: Well, it has just been an absolute pleasure to have

1073
00:53:11,160 --> 00:53:11,759
Speaker 2: you on the show.

1074
00:53:11,840 --> 00:53:12,120
Speaker 1: Kara.

1075
00:53:12,280 --> 00:53:13,480
Speaker 3: Thank you so much, Thank.

1076
00:53:13,320 --> 00:53:18,080
Speaker 1: You so much, Georgie. This is awesome.

1077
00:53:22,239 --> 00:53:26,200
Speaker 2: Oh my god, guys, how bloody amazing is Kara? That

1078
00:53:26,360 --> 00:53:29,600
Speaker 2: was actually such a surreal moment for me because I

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Speaker 2: have been following her for such a long time. I

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Speaker 2: am obsessed with her podcast style of your Mind, and

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Speaker 2: I've read most of her books. I honestly cannot recommend

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Speaker 2: Girl on Fire like so much. It was such an

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Speaker 2: amazing read. But thank you so much for listening, guys.

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Speaker 2: I hope you enjoyed such a stella interview for our

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Speaker 2: first interview of season three.

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Speaker 3: If you, guys did.

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Speaker 2: Enjoy this and you like listening to the Writing Conquer podcast,

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Speaker 2: it'd be amazing if you could leave.

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Speaker 3: Us a review.

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Speaker 2: And also, guys, we have a Facebook a private Facebook group,

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Speaker 2: just the Rise and Conquer community. Just search Rise and

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Speaker 2: Conquer Facebook community sorry, Rise and Conquer Podcast community, and

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Speaker 2: you can come find us then otherwise I will love

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Speaker 2: and leave you have an amazing day and I'll chat

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Speaker 2: to you in our next episode.

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Speaker 1: Bye.