1 00:00:06,040 --> 00:00:08,240 Speaker 1: Hello, this is the Happy Families podcast. So glad that 2 00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:10,399 Speaker 1: you're with us as we wrap up another week. Oh 3 00:00:10,400 --> 00:00:13,600 Speaker 1: my goodness, missus Happy Families. This is the end of 4 00:00:13,640 --> 00:00:17,120 Speaker 1: November when we hit the new week on Monday, first 5 00:00:17,120 --> 00:00:23,480 Speaker 1: of December. Wooo, things are going so fast. Today on 6 00:00:23,560 --> 00:00:25,800 Speaker 1: the podcast, it's Old Do Better Tomorrow, which means we've 7 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:28,840 Speaker 1: got a little bit of housekeeping, some schoolies news. Also, 8 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:32,200 Speaker 1: what's going on with this social media minimum age legislation, 9 00:00:32,520 --> 00:00:36,199 Speaker 1: the social media ban. There's been an update that we 10 00:00:36,200 --> 00:00:38,360 Speaker 1: need to keep you abreast of. That's in the housekeeping 11 00:00:38,479 --> 00:00:43,720 Speaker 1: and do our children pay attention to anything we say 12 00:00:44,400 --> 00:00:50,200 Speaker 1: that's our old do Better Tomorrow? Up next. Hello, Welcome 13 00:00:50,200 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 1: to the Happy Families podcast, where you get real parenting 14 00:00:53,080 --> 00:00:57,320 Speaker 1: solutions every single day on Australia's most downloaded parenting podcast. 15 00:00:57,680 --> 00:01:00,600 Speaker 1: We are Justin and Kylie call some the parents of 16 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:02,760 Speaker 1: six children on the author of like nine or ten 17 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:05,520 Speaker 1: or eleven books or something like that, host of that 18 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:08,160 Speaker 1: TV show you might have seen, Parental Guidance on Channel 19 00:01:08,280 --> 00:01:12,399 Speaker 1: nine and this podcast, So Kylie, as we always do 20 00:01:12,440 --> 00:01:14,240 Speaker 1: on a Friday, a little bit of housekeeping, a bit 21 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:20,640 Speaker 1: of this week in parenting, the latest news, about what's 22 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:22,440 Speaker 1: going on for parents. 23 00:01:23,160 --> 00:01:23,800 Speaker 2: Not a whole lot. 24 00:01:23,920 --> 00:01:26,760 Speaker 1: Actually, school is wrapping up around the country in various states. 25 00:01:26,760 --> 00:01:28,480 Speaker 1: Things are slowing down. Kids are going to school and 26 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:33,240 Speaker 1: watching TV, watching movies, or not going at all schoolings. 27 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:37,160 Speaker 1: If you read the most popular news websites in the country, 28 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:40,640 Speaker 1: schoolies is making headlines on a daily basis. Whether it's 29 00:01:40,680 --> 00:01:43,200 Speaker 1: on the Gold Coast or whether it's in Bustleton in 30 00:01:43,360 --> 00:01:46,160 Speaker 1: WA for Leaver's Week, or whether it's happening in Victor 31 00:01:46,160 --> 00:01:49,200 Speaker 1: Harbor in South Australia or Byron Bay or I mean, 32 00:01:49,200 --> 00:01:52,120 Speaker 1: it doesn't really matter. It's happening everywhere, even Balley and Fiji. 33 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:58,400 Speaker 1: And basically the news is as follows. Adolescents, school leaders 34 00:01:58,520 --> 00:02:04,640 Speaker 1: are behaving badly. Any surprises. Do we need to talk 35 00:02:04,680 --> 00:02:08,720 Speaker 1: about it anymore? No, I mean they're kind of just 36 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:11,720 Speaker 1: this is the same headline every single year, being teenagers 37 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:15,160 Speaker 1: who are not supervised and have access to a whole 38 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:16,720 Speaker 1: lot of things that they normally wouldn't have access to 39 00:02:16,800 --> 00:02:18,919 Speaker 1: at home. Hope, if your kids are there that they're 40 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:21,200 Speaker 1: doing okay. Hope if your kids are not there because 41 00:02:21,240 --> 00:02:24,040 Speaker 1: they're too young, that you listened to our episode back 42 00:02:24,160 --> 00:02:28,919 Speaker 1: on the twentieth of November last Thursday, when we discussed 43 00:02:28,960 --> 00:02:30,920 Speaker 1: how not everyone goes to school is and that's not 44 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:32,640 Speaker 1: a bad thing and how you can talk to your 45 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:35,920 Speaker 1: kids about not going Hey. Also one other item of 46 00:02:35,919 --> 00:02:38,680 Speaker 1: housekeeping that is that the E Safety Commissioner has updated 47 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:41,880 Speaker 1: the website again with the services that the social media 48 00:02:41,960 --> 00:02:44,600 Speaker 1: minimum age legislation are going to be affecting from December ten. 49 00:02:44,720 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 1: So we've only got like twelve days until this comes in. 50 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:49,280 Speaker 1: If you've got kids that are on social media, their 51 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:55,720 Speaker 1: days are numbered. Facebook, Instagram, Kick, Reddit, snapchat, threads, TikTok, 52 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 1: twitch x which was formerly Twitter, and YouTube are all 53 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:02,799 Speaker 1: the services that E Safety considers will be age restricted 54 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:06,080 Speaker 1: social media platforms. So if the kids are on there, 55 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:07,480 Speaker 1: their days are numbered. 56 00:03:08,160 --> 00:03:09,679 Speaker 2: Your housekeeping is boring. 57 00:03:11,680 --> 00:03:13,680 Speaker 1: My house? What do you want in housekeeping? What should 58 00:03:13,680 --> 00:03:14,280 Speaker 1: I be talking about? 59 00:03:14,520 --> 00:03:16,919 Speaker 2: Well, I can't believe you haven't acknowledged that we went 60 00:03:16,960 --> 00:03:18,880 Speaker 2: and saw Wicked Part two. 61 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:20,800 Speaker 1: It was a bit of a letdown. Didn't like it, 62 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:24,359 Speaker 1: brand the room, it was a quick pitted West of the. 63 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:26,560 Speaker 2: West, unbelievable. 64 00:03:26,639 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 1: You like that? 65 00:03:27,120 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 2: Why we wasted a. 66 00:03:27,919 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 1: Ticket on you? You enjoyed it? 67 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:32,560 Speaker 2: Did you not see all of your girls in the room. 68 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:35,280 Speaker 1: Although crying, they were boiling their eyes out. Though yeah, 69 00:03:35,840 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 1: I mean I love the musical. We've been to see 70 00:03:37,200 --> 00:03:39,960 Speaker 1: the musical what three times now something like that, and 71 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:42,000 Speaker 1: the movie was just I felt like it was a letdown. 72 00:03:42,080 --> 00:03:44,000 Speaker 1: Didn't enjoy it. You're terrible. 73 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 2: They did such a good job better. I think part 74 00:03:47,680 --> 00:03:49,800 Speaker 2: two was way better than part one. 75 00:03:49,680 --> 00:03:52,160 Speaker 1: Not even close. It was nice to be with the 76 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 1: family and to go to a movie. We discovered that 77 00:03:54,600 --> 00:03:57,720 Speaker 1: there's a movie a cinema what like twenty minutes away 78 00:03:57,720 --> 00:04:00,320 Speaker 1: from our home that is less than half the price 79 00:04:00,560 --> 00:04:02,600 Speaker 1: of the standard movie theater. 80 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:04,400 Speaker 2: And it's gold class. 81 00:04:03,960 --> 00:04:06,680 Speaker 1: And we were able to rock up. Like the gold class. 82 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:10,280 Speaker 1: Tickets were fifteen bucks, which is I mean, that's winning 83 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:12,840 Speaker 1: when you pay twenty five dollars to go to the 84 00:04:12,920 --> 00:04:13,720 Speaker 1: movies down the road. 85 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:16,760 Speaker 2: How much was your large popcorn? Oh, that's a win. 86 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:19,000 Speaker 1: Even that was only like six or seven dollars, which 87 00:04:19,480 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 1: it's still preposterous, but eighteen when you go to the 88 00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:25,760 Speaker 1: other like, it's longers. So we splashed out. 89 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:29,599 Speaker 2: We don't do the movies very often at all, not 90 00:04:29,880 --> 00:04:32,240 Speaker 2: as a whole, as a whole family, but it was 91 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:34,919 Speaker 2: so delightful to spend that time with the kids. 92 00:04:35,080 --> 00:04:36,520 Speaker 1: So is that you're oldly better? Tomorrow we took the 93 00:04:36,560 --> 00:04:37,159 Speaker 1: kids to the movies. 94 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:38,000 Speaker 2: You're so funny. 95 00:04:38,040 --> 00:04:38,640 Speaker 1: It's not hard. 96 00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:41,720 Speaker 2: No, it's not my I'll do better tomorrow. 97 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:45,719 Speaker 1: Is coming up right after the break, because guess what, 98 00:04:46,200 --> 00:04:49,720 Speaker 1: it's a short one today. We are well depending on 99 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:52,039 Speaker 1: when you listen to this on Friday morning, hopefully we're 100 00:04:52,040 --> 00:04:54,120 Speaker 1: on an aurplane by now, or we're about to be. 101 00:04:55,160 --> 00:04:59,440 Speaker 1: My fiftieth birthday was last month. Last month, yeah, last month, Yeah, 102 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:01,480 Speaker 1: a month and a bit of like five or six 103 00:05:01,520 --> 00:05:04,320 Speaker 1: weeks ago, and we're taking the whole family to New 104 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:05,920 Speaker 1: Zealand and we're going to go for one hundred and 105 00:05:05,960 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 1: sixty kilometer bike ride across four days and then spend 106 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 1: a couple of days hanging out in Queenstown. Really excited 107 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:11,400 Speaker 1: about it. 108 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:14,000 Speaker 2: I've been doing the countdown with our two year old 109 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:15,000 Speaker 2: granddaughter Indye. 110 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:15,440 Speaker 1: Yeah. 111 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:17,480 Speaker 2: Every day I talk to her and I'm like, three 112 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:20,840 Speaker 2: more sleeps and we're going on a big plane. And 113 00:05:20,880 --> 00:05:23,640 Speaker 2: she said, with pops, And I said yes, and she said, 114 00:05:23,680 --> 00:05:27,120 Speaker 2: and auntie em she's so excited. Yeah, she's never going 115 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:28,160 Speaker 2: to want to travel any other way. 116 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:30,560 Speaker 1: So that's housekeeping. That's important housekeeping. I mean, it's a 117 00:05:30,560 --> 00:05:32,760 Speaker 1: little bit of it's attle bit of news about the causons. 118 00:05:32,800 --> 00:05:36,360 Speaker 1: But I'm fifty. We've got a granddaughter, and we're taking 119 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:38,800 Speaker 1: the whole family over to New Zealand so that we 120 00:05:38,800 --> 00:05:40,200 Speaker 1: can go for a big bike ride. It's going to 121 00:05:40,200 --> 00:05:42,680 Speaker 1: be cold, it's probably going to rain, and we're just 122 00:05:42,680 --> 00:05:46,520 Speaker 1: going to make memories. The memories. I've said to the kids, 123 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:48,920 Speaker 1: it's going to be memorable. It's going to be memorable. 124 00:05:48,920 --> 00:05:50,000 Speaker 1: You'll decide why. 125 00:05:50,839 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 2: We've been begging them to get on a bike for 126 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:54,360 Speaker 2: about six months. 127 00:05:54,560 --> 00:05:56,880 Speaker 1: It's forty k's a day. Forty k's a day. I 128 00:05:56,920 --> 00:05:59,599 Speaker 1: mean that's not very far, and it's not particularly herely 129 00:05:59,640 --> 00:06:02,000 Speaker 1: because it's a rail trail and trails don't go uphills 130 00:06:02,000 --> 00:06:03,800 Speaker 1: and downhills. But it's one hundred and sixty k's over 131 00:06:03,839 --> 00:06:06,680 Speaker 1: four days. Forty k's a day. And we've said day 132 00:06:06,720 --> 00:06:09,240 Speaker 1: one you'll be fine, but day two, if you don't 133 00:06:09,240 --> 00:06:12,560 Speaker 1: get your butt used to a saddle, a bicycle saddle, 134 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:14,159 Speaker 1: you are going to feel it on day two and 135 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:17,360 Speaker 1: on day three you're going to cry. And guess how 136 00:06:17,360 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 1: many bike rides they've been on. None? Zero, we've been 137 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:23,960 Speaker 1: giving them, like we gave them three or four months notice, 138 00:06:24,000 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 1: we've been reminding them every week no bike rides. So 139 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:28,240 Speaker 1: we've just said it's going to be memorable. You'll decide why. 140 00:06:28,760 --> 00:06:31,600 Speaker 1: But we're going and we're going to have fun. You 141 00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:33,400 Speaker 1: might not, but we're going to have fun every day. 142 00:06:33,480 --> 00:06:35,560 Speaker 1: So that's the end of the housekeeping. After the break, 143 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:37,360 Speaker 1: we need to talk about it. I'll do better tomorrow 144 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:42,520 Speaker 1: because sometimes I just wonder if our kids hear a 145 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:53,880 Speaker 1: word we say. That's next. We're back. This is the 146 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:58,960 Speaker 1: Happy Families Podcast. I'll Do Better Tomorrow, Friday edition. Kylie, 147 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 1: You're going to tell the story because you probably ran 148 00:07:03,440 --> 00:07:08,920 Speaker 1: this more than I did, but I don't know. Did 149 00:07:08,920 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 1: it work? Did it not work. Let's talk about what 150 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:13,200 Speaker 1: we're learning about family life as we continue to raise 151 00:07:13,640 --> 00:07:14,320 Speaker 1: our children. 152 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:17,000 Speaker 2: If you've been listening to us for a while now, 153 00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:19,800 Speaker 2: you will have heard us talk about family meetings. We 154 00:07:20,520 --> 00:07:23,240 Speaker 2: try to have them as regularly as possible. When we're 155 00:07:23,480 --> 00:07:26,440 Speaker 2: spot on. It's a weekly event on a Sunday afternoon, 156 00:07:26,800 --> 00:07:29,360 Speaker 2: we sit down and we spend maybe fifteen twenty minutes 157 00:07:29,480 --> 00:07:33,520 Speaker 2: max with them. We ask them three questions, what's going well? 158 00:07:33,720 --> 00:07:36,160 Speaker 2: What's not and what do we want to focus on, 159 00:07:37,360 --> 00:07:40,160 Speaker 2: So we haven't done that for a little while. We 160 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:42,680 Speaker 2: now have three adult children in our house, and we 161 00:07:42,760 --> 00:07:46,640 Speaker 2: have got there is more movement in our home than 162 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:50,600 Speaker 2: we've ever experienced, three extra drivers, There's just a lot 163 00:07:50,640 --> 00:07:54,600 Speaker 2: going on. So trying to organize and orchestrate a family 164 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:58,960 Speaker 2: meeting and one specific timeframe is tricky, to say the least. 165 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:03,040 Speaker 2: This time we were missing one child. Yep, she's like, 166 00:08:03,080 --> 00:08:05,440 Speaker 2: I'm not going to be there. But we decided that 167 00:08:05,480 --> 00:08:07,320 Speaker 2: we just we just needed to move forward and do it. 168 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:09,720 Speaker 2: I think one of the things that stands out to 169 00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:13,480 Speaker 2: me is so often and I feel it personally myself, 170 00:08:13,640 --> 00:08:15,040 Speaker 2: is that we get towards the end of the year 171 00:08:15,080 --> 00:08:18,080 Speaker 2: and we kind of drop our bundle trying to drag 172 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:20,800 Speaker 2: ourselves to the finish line because we are done where 173 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:24,600 Speaker 2: we've got nothing left in the tank. But for me, 174 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:28,200 Speaker 2: I really want to cross that finish line feeling strong. 175 00:08:28,680 --> 00:08:31,080 Speaker 2: And there are some things that have been happening in 176 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:33,000 Speaker 2: our family for a little while now that just needed 177 00:08:33,000 --> 00:08:35,320 Speaker 2: a bit of a tweak. So we sat down. I 178 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:37,280 Speaker 2: asked them what was going well, do you remember what 179 00:08:37,320 --> 00:08:38,040 Speaker 2: the first thing was? 180 00:08:38,080 --> 00:08:41,439 Speaker 1: They said, no, now that you've raced it. I can't remember. 181 00:08:42,280 --> 00:08:45,760 Speaker 1: Didn't they say something like we're all getting along or they. 182 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:47,480 Speaker 2: Talked about contribution and how they were doing. 183 00:08:47,760 --> 00:08:49,880 Speaker 1: Oh, they talked about how much they were contributing. That's right, 184 00:08:49,880 --> 00:08:52,320 Speaker 1: that was the first thing they said. Oh my joor 185 00:08:52,400 --> 00:08:56,520 Speaker 1: nearly hit the floor, like are we living in parallel universes? 186 00:08:56,480 --> 00:08:59,160 Speaker 1: Do you think you're contributing? Like seriously? It was at 187 00:08:59,160 --> 00:09:01,520 Speaker 1: the point. No, it was later on, later on I 188 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:03,440 Speaker 1: made this conversation because when we got to the what's 189 00:09:03,440 --> 00:09:07,720 Speaker 1: not going well? I said contribution and me like, have 190 00:09:07,800 --> 00:09:09,840 Speaker 1: you bean something bad? Like what is going on here? 191 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:14,520 Speaker 1: And I said to them, the thing is like Mum's threshold. 192 00:09:14,559 --> 00:09:17,160 Speaker 1: And I pointed at you. I said, your threshold, Mum's 193 00:09:17,200 --> 00:09:21,400 Speaker 1: threshold for when something needs to be tidy is here. 194 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:24,360 Speaker 1: And I put my hand at a certain level. And 195 00:09:24,960 --> 00:09:28,199 Speaker 1: before I could even say another word, they've all gone, yeah, 196 00:09:28,240 --> 00:09:31,920 Speaker 1: where's your threshold? And they pretty they'll put their hands 197 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 1: on the floor like like I'm the perfectionist, like like 198 00:09:34,720 --> 00:09:36,599 Speaker 1: I'm the one who can't stand a messy kitchen or 199 00:09:36,600 --> 00:09:38,559 Speaker 1: something like that. And I said, okay, you don't know 200 00:09:38,559 --> 00:09:40,440 Speaker 1: where they would have my mind might be a little 201 00:09:40,480 --> 00:09:42,600 Speaker 1: bit lower. And then I'm like, but yours And then 202 00:09:42,640 --> 00:09:44,720 Speaker 1: I stood up. I'm like, yours is a right up here, 203 00:09:45,080 --> 00:09:47,440 Speaker 1: and you guys are feeling Yeah, you guys are happy 204 00:09:47,480 --> 00:09:49,680 Speaker 1: to contribute when you notice. But the thing is, you 205 00:09:49,679 --> 00:09:54,840 Speaker 1: don't notice until about four days after we noticed. Contribution 206 00:09:54,960 --> 00:09:58,760 Speaker 1: is about initiative and noticing. It's about it's about seeing 207 00:09:58,840 --> 00:10:00,679 Speaker 1: that there's something that needs to be and just doing 208 00:10:00,720 --> 00:10:04,800 Speaker 1: it without being asked. Oh my goodness, like they're adults. 209 00:10:05,440 --> 00:10:08,079 Speaker 1: They're adults, kylie seriously. 210 00:10:08,480 --> 00:10:11,040 Speaker 2: And so over the past week, as I was planning 211 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:13,000 Speaker 2: that we would sit down and have this meeting, I 212 00:10:13,040 --> 00:10:15,440 Speaker 2: was thinking about how things were not functioning very well 213 00:10:15,480 --> 00:10:19,400 Speaker 2: at the moment and that the brunt of the running 214 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:21,679 Speaker 2: of the house is falling on my shoulder. 215 00:10:21,720 --> 00:10:24,920 Speaker 1: They really, truly, honestly think that they're contributing. They do, 216 00:10:25,160 --> 00:10:26,520 Speaker 1: Oh my goodness. 217 00:10:26,320 --> 00:10:30,200 Speaker 2: They do. And so I created I thought, you know what, 218 00:10:30,240 --> 00:10:32,000 Speaker 2: we actually have to go back to a roster. 219 00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:33,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, we. 220 00:10:34,480 --> 00:10:37,480 Speaker 2: Need to bring the chor chart back. So I created 221 00:10:37,679 --> 00:10:40,360 Speaker 2: four workstations essentially. 222 00:10:40,440 --> 00:10:44,319 Speaker 1: Yes, so instead of saying this is your chore, you 223 00:10:44,720 --> 00:10:47,280 Speaker 1: created like, this is a cluster of chores that all 224 00:10:47,280 --> 00:10:51,240 Speaker 1: hang together yep. And then I jumped in as I 225 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:52,959 Speaker 1: just have now over the top of you, and I said, 226 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:54,439 Speaker 1: you can do them for a week, you can do 227 00:10:54,480 --> 00:10:55,640 Speaker 1: them for a month, or you can just say this 228 00:10:55,679 --> 00:10:58,360 Speaker 1: is my permanent job because we're not going to swap daily. 229 00:10:58,720 --> 00:11:01,040 Speaker 1: And I think weekly not enough. I think you just 230 00:11:01,120 --> 00:11:02,920 Speaker 1: stuck with this one thing for a month and then 231 00:11:03,679 --> 00:11:05,640 Speaker 1: we rotate around and that way you get good at 232 00:11:05,679 --> 00:11:06,160 Speaker 1: it as well. 233 00:11:06,760 --> 00:11:12,360 Speaker 3: And they were like, ohugh, So we have a laundry station, 234 00:11:12,480 --> 00:11:15,360 Speaker 3: we have a bathroom station, we have a floors station, 235 00:11:15,880 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 3: and we have a kitchen station. 236 00:11:17,880 --> 00:11:22,480 Speaker 2: And I'm actually we're only a few days in, but. 237 00:11:22,640 --> 00:11:27,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, and we're about to go away. 238 00:11:28,400 --> 00:11:30,880 Speaker 2: But while there was some general pushback in the beginning, 239 00:11:30,960 --> 00:11:34,240 Speaker 2: once we talked it through, I think there was some 240 00:11:34,320 --> 00:11:37,319 Speaker 2: buy in. And the last few days, as we've prepared 241 00:11:37,480 --> 00:11:40,400 Speaker 2: to head away, the girls have checked in and said, 242 00:11:40,440 --> 00:11:42,840 Speaker 2: all right, does this need to be done today? 243 00:11:43,600 --> 00:11:47,079 Speaker 1: Yep. So the takeome messages. You've just got to keep 244 00:11:47,080 --> 00:11:48,800 Speaker 1: on doing the reminders, no matter how old they are, 245 00:11:48,880 --> 00:11:50,560 Speaker 1: and no matter how many times you've had the conversation, 246 00:11:51,160 --> 00:11:54,800 Speaker 1: and with appropriate structure, you can actually get the kids 247 00:11:54,840 --> 00:11:55,440 Speaker 1: to do their thing. 248 00:11:56,200 --> 00:11:58,600 Speaker 2: Yeah. I think it's so easy, and I fall into 249 00:11:58,600 --> 00:12:00,200 Speaker 2: this trap all the time. I kind of just ruw 250 00:12:00,280 --> 00:12:01,679 Speaker 2: my hands up in the air and go, you know what, 251 00:12:01,760 --> 00:12:05,720 Speaker 2: I've asked them so many times, there's no point. I 252 00:12:05,800 --> 00:12:07,920 Speaker 2: just can't be bothered. I'll just do it myself. But 253 00:12:07,960 --> 00:12:10,280 Speaker 2: then I run myself ragged and I don't show up 254 00:12:10,320 --> 00:12:12,000 Speaker 2: with my best self, and they don't get the best 255 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:14,959 Speaker 2: of me. Yeah, and I don't teach them anything either, 256 00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:20,000 Speaker 2: And so I think that the take home for me 257 00:12:20,640 --> 00:12:24,800 Speaker 2: is don't give up. You've got to have the conversation. 258 00:12:26,920 --> 00:12:27,600 Speaker 1: Don't give up. 259 00:12:27,760 --> 00:12:31,120 Speaker 2: One hundred times, you can get there. You just don't 260 00:12:31,160 --> 00:12:31,559 Speaker 2: give up. 261 00:12:31,679 --> 00:12:33,719 Speaker 1: Don't do it. It's a long game. This parent a 262 00:12:33,800 --> 00:12:38,360 Speaker 1: game long one last highlight on this as this wrapped 263 00:12:38,440 --> 00:12:43,200 Speaker 1: up on whatever night. It was Sunday night, and I 264 00:12:43,240 --> 00:12:48,480 Speaker 1: just emphasized again guys, girls, initiative, contribution, eyes open, notice, 265 00:12:48,520 --> 00:12:52,199 Speaker 1: things that need doing. For some reason, I got out 266 00:12:52,200 --> 00:12:54,280 Speaker 1: of bed at like nine point thirty ten o'clock because 267 00:12:54,320 --> 00:12:55,719 Speaker 1: I know one of the kids was doing something and 268 00:12:55,760 --> 00:12:56,920 Speaker 1: I wanted to find out what was going on and 269 00:12:56,920 --> 00:13:00,320 Speaker 1: tell them to go to bed, turn off the lights. Office. 270 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:02,360 Speaker 1: The studio that we're recording this podcast in is outside 271 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:04,760 Speaker 1: the house right, like we've it's separate, there's a separate 272 00:13:04,960 --> 00:13:09,200 Speaker 1: entry to get into the office. And somehow, for some reason, 273 00:13:09,320 --> 00:13:13,240 Speaker 1: somebody had left my office light on and the door 274 00:13:13,280 --> 00:13:18,040 Speaker 1: wide open, and I was like, what's going on there? 275 00:13:18,080 --> 00:13:21,240 Speaker 1: And then it occurred to me that our twenty something, 276 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:25,000 Speaker 1: one of our twenty something doaorters, had walked out of 277 00:13:25,040 --> 00:13:27,600 Speaker 1: the house at about nine pm to walk the dog 278 00:13:27,640 --> 00:13:30,040 Speaker 1: and had walked back into the house at nine point thirty, 279 00:13:30,679 --> 00:13:33,920 Speaker 1: and she'd walked past that open office door with the 280 00:13:34,000 --> 00:13:39,160 Speaker 1: light beaming out and hadn't noticed, hadn't taken the initiative, 281 00:13:39,160 --> 00:13:41,840 Speaker 1: and hadn't made the contribution. And I said to her, 282 00:13:42,760 --> 00:13:45,520 Speaker 1: how hard is this? Like contribution? There's a light on, 283 00:13:45,600 --> 00:13:47,400 Speaker 1: turn it off, there's a door open, close it. And 284 00:13:47,440 --> 00:13:50,360 Speaker 1: she's like, I didn't notice. I don't notice these things. 285 00:13:50,400 --> 00:13:53,200 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my goodness, why are we saying this? 286 00:13:55,040 --> 00:13:58,120 Speaker 1: What's the point? Anyway? We need to wrap it up there. 287 00:13:58,120 --> 00:14:01,360 Speaker 1: We've got a plan to catch we do. So. We 288 00:14:01,679 --> 00:14:04,440 Speaker 1: have put together a whole lot of great podcasts for 289 00:14:04,480 --> 00:14:07,120 Speaker 1: the next few days or the next week while we're 290 00:14:07,160 --> 00:14:08,920 Speaker 1: doing this bike ride. Oh, I can't wait to tell 291 00:14:08,920 --> 00:14:11,160 Speaker 1: you the story about the bike ride. Just I hope 292 00:14:11,200 --> 00:14:13,880 Speaker 1: it works. I have it, guys, okay, to help you 293 00:14:13,920 --> 00:14:16,840 Speaker 1: to experience the psychology of Christmas, magic and all. 294 00:14:16,720 --> 00:14:18,000 Speaker 2: The good psychology. 295 00:14:19,000 --> 00:14:21,960 Speaker 1: So yeah, very good. That's all next week on the pod, 296 00:14:22,120 --> 00:14:24,080 Speaker 1: and we'll be back with another. I'll do better tomorrow 297 00:14:24,120 --> 00:14:26,720 Speaker 1: to let you know how it's all gone. If we 298 00:14:26,800 --> 00:14:29,840 Speaker 1: make it, have a wonderful weekend. Hopefully this has helped 299 00:14:29,880 --> 00:14:31,680 Speaker 1: your family to do better tomorrow. I do those meetings. 300 00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:33,800 Speaker 1: They really do make a difference. What's working, what's not. 301 00:14:33,920 --> 00:14:37,200 Speaker 1: What we do to make things better this week. We 302 00:14:37,240 --> 00:14:39,280 Speaker 1: hope that it does make your week better. 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