WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - Holding on, viagra, bad Dad and bad haircuts 0:00:19.400 --> 0:00:22.920 Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:23.000 --> 0:00:25.880 I'm Laura and I'm Brittany, and this is Ask Uncut, 0:00:26.000 --> 0:00:29.360 our quick, down and dirty little episode where we answer 0:00:29.600 --> 0:00:33.320 you're deep, dark and burning questions and I'm. 0:00:33.159 --> 0:00:35.440 Back, baby. Lovely to have you back. 0:00:35.520 --> 0:00:37.960 Not that I absolutely did not love having produced a 0:00:38.040 --> 0:00:40.760 kisha on, but you have been well, you haven't been 0:00:40.800 --> 0:00:41.280 under the weather. 0:00:41.560 --> 0:00:42.560 Yeah, I just want to say. 0:00:42.680 --> 0:00:46.480 I was actually like kind of like, she's like really 0:00:46.560 --> 0:00:49.640 jealous listening to the start of the episode. So if 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:52.800 you guys listen to Tuesday's episode, I missed the intro. 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:54.040 Brittan I actually recorded. 0:00:54.120 --> 0:00:56.360 We recorded the body of the episode and then the 0:00:56.400 --> 0:00:59.920 second sweet and then that night after I got home 0:01:00.520 --> 0:01:02.520 and I was saying in the second suite that Lola 0:01:02.560 --> 0:01:04.280 had been a bit sick, and I got home and 0:01:04.319 --> 0:01:07.759 her eye was just completely glued shut. She had really 0:01:07.800 --> 0:01:11.920 hectic conjunctivitis. And then I felt like such a I 0:01:11.959 --> 0:01:14.160 just feed an idiot going to hospital with a kid 0:01:14.160 --> 0:01:17.120 that had conjunctivitis, being like, Hi, I know this is 0:01:17.160 --> 0:01:19.560 completely treatable from something from the chemists, but it was 0:01:19.640 --> 0:01:22.360 late at night. Anyway, turns out we ended up staying 0:01:22.360 --> 0:01:25.000 there for two nights. Yeah, because I said to Laura, 0:01:25.440 --> 0:01:27.560 I don't feel ridiculous going to hospital. 0:01:27.560 --> 0:01:28.240 It's what they're there for. 0:01:28.319 --> 0:01:29.920 And I can't tell you how many people walk into 0:01:29.920 --> 0:01:32.000 a hospital and say, oh, I'm so sorry I'm here, 0:01:32.040 --> 0:01:33.880 like I'm so embarrassed. But guys, if you're on, well, 0:01:33.920 --> 0:01:36.640 that's what a hospital's for, and be so glad that 0:01:36.680 --> 0:01:39.600 you went. Because it wasn't conjunctiveus. It was something called 0:01:39.880 --> 0:01:44.920 ocular colliitis like it was. Yeah, So basically, it's like 0:01:45.000 --> 0:01:48.160 when poo gets into a scratch into an eyeball. 0:01:48.200 --> 0:01:50.280 So I'm going to blame the toddler. Oh, Marley has 0:01:51.040 --> 0:01:53.320 poetry in the eye with pooh, that's what happens. 0:01:53.360 --> 0:01:55.720 So anyway, the wild beast poked the melon head in 0:01:55.760 --> 0:01:58.040 the eye and that resulted in us having two nights 0:01:58.040 --> 0:02:01.120 in hospital. But that's a great tweety first birthday story. 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:02.920 I poked you in the eye with my poo and 0:02:02.960 --> 0:02:04.000 you got put in hospital. 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:05.160 Kids are hard. 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:06.920 But I just want to say to any parent, and 0:02:06.960 --> 0:02:08.919 I know that there's going to be someone who needs 0:02:08.919 --> 0:02:12.320 to hear this, if you were ever at home contemplating 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:14.720 is my child sick enough to take them to hospital, 0:02:14.720 --> 0:02:16.920 like should I shouldn't I just fucking go. 0:02:17.560 --> 0:02:19.200 Don't gamble that question yourself. 0:02:19.240 --> 0:02:20.639 And I know that I've done it so many times 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:23.440 where I've kind of been like, oh, good temperature, should 0:02:23.440 --> 0:02:25.720 I shouldn't I? And I think that this occasion really 0:02:25.800 --> 0:02:28.600 made me realize, especially with things like eyes, like just 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:31.560 don't gamble with it. So anyway, she's completely fine now. 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:35.320 Fully on the end, I was so jealous listening back 0:02:35.360 --> 0:02:36.519 to the episode, only. 0:02:36.320 --> 0:02:38.840 Because producer Keisha was really really good. 0:02:38.880 --> 0:02:41.360 Well, so yeah, last minute Laura had to obviously go 0:02:41.440 --> 0:02:43.359 to the hospital, so we hadn't done the start of 0:02:43.400 --> 0:02:46.640 the episode yet. I had been with Keisha at an 0:02:46.680 --> 0:02:48.440 event and I said, you know, you just need to 0:02:48.480 --> 0:02:49.320 step on in and she was like. 0:02:49.360 --> 0:02:50.880 Yeah, cool, I can do that. And then poor Laura 0:02:51.000 --> 0:02:51.840 sitting in the hospital. 0:02:52.240 --> 0:02:54.000 We sent a photo to Laura in the hospital of 0:02:54.080 --> 0:02:55.760 us together and Laura's like, stop it. 0:02:55.800 --> 0:02:58.119 I'm so rationally jealous. I want you to be separated 0:02:58.120 --> 0:02:59.960 in a different rooms. Not only that, I was like. 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:02.320 Texting them bow we have like a worker group chat, 0:03:02.320 --> 0:03:04.240 and I was texting them both and no one was replying, 0:03:04.280 --> 0:03:07.080 So I was like, how did I get sidelined so 0:03:07.360 --> 0:03:08.720 quickly from this three zero. 0:03:09.040 --> 0:03:11.239 I was like, girl, we're working in separate rooms. Don't 0:03:11.280 --> 0:03:11.840 be jealous. 0:03:11.919 --> 0:03:14.960 Anyway, the hospital was very boring. Melon Head is back 0:03:15.000 --> 0:03:17.280 to the picture of health. She's so much better, And 0:03:17.320 --> 0:03:20.840 here we are to answer all of your mishaps and 0:03:21.280 --> 0:03:23.280 whatever they are, just the shit that's going wrong in 0:03:23.320 --> 0:03:26.600 your life. So, speaking of Tuesday's episode, Britt, things did 0:03:26.639 --> 0:03:31.359 go a little bit south. Yeah, south where the seamen 0:03:31.440 --> 0:03:31.880 comes out. 0:03:32.720 --> 0:03:34.560 That's where we went to. What was the pole? 0:03:35.000 --> 0:03:37.280 So I was listening to the episode. If you heard 0:03:37.280 --> 0:03:41.320 Tuesday's episode, somehow Britt and Keisha got onto the conversation 0:03:41.440 --> 0:03:45.200 of men shooting their semen across the room and whether 0:03:45.400 --> 0:03:48.000 or not people do it, and they put a pole 0:03:48.120 --> 0:03:49.920 up on Instagram. I had nothing to do with this, 0:03:50.000 --> 0:03:52.360 all right, people, I was just as shocked and mortified 0:03:52.360 --> 0:03:52.880 as the rest of you. 0:03:53.040 --> 0:03:55.840 Laura send a requestion from the hospital was like, what 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:57.760 the fuck they're talking about. 0:03:57.880 --> 0:03:59.720 I don't know why that shocks you after everything we 0:03:59.760 --> 0:04:02.360 have spoken about. I think because I'd never ever thought 0:04:02.400 --> 0:04:05.680 about a man masturbating and then purposely trying to shoot 0:04:05.680 --> 0:04:07.680 semen across the room. I still stand by the fact 0:04:07.720 --> 0:04:09.240 that most people would have tried it once in their 0:04:09.240 --> 0:04:11.920 life out of curiosity. So, guys, we put a poll 0:04:12.040 --> 0:04:14.760 up and we received so many messages from you who 0:04:14.800 --> 0:04:17.559 went and actually asked your husband's or your significant others, 0:04:17.680 --> 0:04:20.080 the male in your life and us, you know, have 0:04:20.160 --> 0:04:22.120 you shot semen across the room to see how far 0:04:22.120 --> 0:04:24.599 it'll go. This is just one of the replies that 0:04:24.640 --> 0:04:27.599 we received. I asked my hobby about sperm shooting and 0:04:27.680 --> 0:04:30.280 he reckons it's a super boss move if you can 0:04:30.279 --> 0:04:32.880 shoot your sperm. He also added that they move pretty 0:04:32.920 --> 0:04:36.360 fast and can go several kilometers an hour. There you go, guys, 0:04:36.400 --> 0:04:38.800 that's it. The answers are in, and it seems like 0:04:38.839 --> 0:04:40.880 some men do it. Honestly, it's not. I don't want 0:04:40.920 --> 0:04:42.520 you guys think it's a thing like. It's not that 0:04:42.640 --> 0:04:44.400 some men do it for fun. You walk in the 0:04:44.400 --> 0:04:45.840 bedroom and there's like something stick on you. 0:04:45.920 --> 0:04:48.400 Really, babe. Again, from everyone. 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:50.560 I've spoken to, this is a thing that a man 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:52.479 will do at least once in life. I would do 0:04:52.480 --> 0:04:54.479 it one hundred percent if I had a penis at 0:04:54.480 --> 0:04:57.279 some point in my life out of curiosity, I'd be like, like, 0:04:57.400 --> 0:04:58.719 long jump, how far could this go? 0:04:58.920 --> 0:04:59.680 I'm curious, and. 0:04:59.600 --> 0:05:03.840 That's what they anyway, Hollwood's and upwards, guys, here we are. 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:06.279 We have received quite a few questions this week, but 0:05:06.320 --> 0:05:08.800 we've picked out some of the ones that we think we. 0:05:08.760 --> 0:05:09.800 Can add some value to. 0:05:10.200 --> 0:05:12.279 We might have some experience or some knowledge to be 0:05:12.279 --> 0:05:14.480 able to give you a bit of worldly and life advice. 0:05:15.000 --> 0:05:19.200 And I am going to kick this off all right. 0:05:20.200 --> 0:05:22.839 So I recently broke up with my boyfriend of three years. 0:05:23.040 --> 0:05:25.200 I am desperately in love with him, and I'm not 0:05:25.320 --> 0:05:27.560 over the breakup. We were supposed to be going to 0:05:27.600 --> 0:05:29.320 a really big event coming up in a couple of 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:32.240 weeks time, which we had both bought tickets to. Now 0:05:32.360 --> 0:05:34.200 he has said that I can still go, or we 0:05:34.240 --> 0:05:36.640 should still go together, but we should go as friends. 0:05:36.960 --> 0:05:40.040 I'm contemplating going, but I know deep down it's because 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:41.120 I really want to be with him. 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:44.800 What should I do? Sell your ticket? Fucking don't go, 0:05:45.040 --> 0:05:45.360 my friend. 0:05:45.480 --> 0:05:47.320 Yeah, that's a really tough one, and I feel for 0:05:47.360 --> 0:05:49.760 you because I've been in that situation before where you 0:05:49.800 --> 0:05:52.640 want to hold on with everything that you've got, all 0:05:52.680 --> 0:05:55.120 of your being. You are absolutely not ready for that breakup. 0:05:55.160 --> 0:05:56.680 You're not ready to let go. You're not ready to 0:05:56.720 --> 0:05:59.520 not have him in your life. But the fact that 0:05:59.560 --> 0:06:03.080 the matter is is he does not feel like that 0:06:03.200 --> 0:06:07.000 about you, and that is really hard pill to swallow, 0:06:07.040 --> 0:06:08.960 but it is one that unfortunately do need to swallow. 0:06:09.279 --> 0:06:11.240 Can you, guys be friends down the track? And can 0:06:11.240 --> 0:06:13.599 you have him in your life? I mean, yeah, maybe 0:06:13.680 --> 0:06:15.800 I don't know the rest of your story. Also maybe not, 0:06:16.080 --> 0:06:18.360 but also maybe not, But I don't think right now 0:06:18.400 --> 0:06:21.640 in this situation where he has said in his friendship 0:06:21.680 --> 0:06:26.480 and you know you want more, it's going to end disastrously. 0:06:26.560 --> 0:06:28.920 It will be very, very painful for you while you're there. 0:06:29.760 --> 0:06:32.560 I did this, so I'm giving you this one from 0:06:32.560 --> 0:06:36.000 some real personal experience. Remember Mattress guy, the guy who 0:06:36.120 --> 0:06:38.599 want to legs behind my knee? How can we forget 0:06:38.880 --> 0:06:41.320 sexy leg Mattress? I really forgot about this one. He 0:06:41.440 --> 0:06:43.880 was just such an early relationship I had. I mean, 0:06:43.880 --> 0:06:46.200 we were together for six years, but we broke up 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:49.200 when I was twenty three, so like it was a 0:06:49.279 --> 0:06:51.720 long time ago. I'm old, guys, this is over ten 0:06:51.760 --> 0:06:54.640 years ago. So he broke up with me. He broke 0:06:54.640 --> 0:06:57.520 my heart. I was absolutely devastated when we broke up. Really, 0:06:57.560 --> 0:07:01.400 really really struggled for a really long time, and I 0:07:01.520 --> 0:07:04.240 had tickets to go and see Matchbox twenty. 0:07:04.640 --> 0:07:06.600 Oh oh my god, this shows that age. So that 0:07:06.680 --> 0:07:07.920 is how long ago this was. 0:07:08.080 --> 0:07:09.840 And I had bought tickets. I really wanted to go 0:07:09.880 --> 0:07:11.240 and see a Matchbox twenty. 0:07:11.280 --> 0:07:12.400 I was obsessed with them at the time. 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:14.120 I had bought a ticket for him as well, because 0:07:14.120 --> 0:07:16.960 we were together, and even though it wasn't for like 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:19.679 a birthday or anything, he convinced me that I should 0:07:19.720 --> 0:07:22.520 still let him go because he was tired us and 0:07:22.560 --> 0:07:24.800 also really loved Matchbox twenty two, and because I was 0:07:24.840 --> 0:07:26.679 still so in love with him even though he'd broken 0:07:26.720 --> 0:07:28.440 up with me. I was like, yes, of course, Like, 0:07:28.480 --> 0:07:30.680 it's an opportunity for me to see you, It's an 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:34.440 opportunity for me to like be my funniest My ideas 0:07:34.520 --> 0:07:37.120 were you back, Yeah, I would change your mind. You know, 0:07:37.200 --> 0:07:38.880 you'll spend the night with me and then realize you 0:07:38.880 --> 0:07:42.720 made the wrong decision. He did it lassic female move totally. 0:07:42.800 --> 0:07:46.120 He didn't. He didn't change his mind. I tried my 0:07:46.280 --> 0:07:49.520 hardest to be everything that he would want, like knowing 0:07:49.720 --> 0:07:51.360 what he liked about me, and I tried to be 0:07:51.400 --> 0:07:53.800 the perfect version for him, and all it did was 0:07:53.880 --> 0:07:59.400 leave me bitterly disappointed and feel so pathetic and useless 0:07:59.480 --> 0:08:02.040 because at the end of the night, he still didn't 0:08:02.040 --> 0:08:03.920 want to be with me and he had just even 0:08:03.920 --> 0:08:05.400 though he knew I was in love with him, still 0:08:05.440 --> 0:08:06.680 he just wanted to be my friend. 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:08.400 And I was like, you know what, fuck your friendship. 0:08:08.440 --> 0:08:11.520 I've got friends. Yeah, go find another leg to fuck 0:08:14.000 --> 0:08:16.320 watch me walk on out of here. 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:18.320 Leave. 0:08:19.440 --> 0:08:21.920 I love that. But it's honestly, that is so true. 0:08:22.000 --> 0:08:23.960 And the fact is, you could have had a whole 0:08:23.960 --> 0:08:26.360 different experience with Matchbox twenty. You could look back at 0:08:26.360 --> 0:08:28.000 that differently. You could have taken a friend, you could 0:08:28.000 --> 0:08:29.760 have had a great time. But now when you think 0:08:29.760 --> 0:08:31.800 of it, you think of that time that you try 0:08:31.800 --> 0:08:33.280 to be someone you're not to woo back a guy 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:35.280 that wanted to have a safety leg totally and do 0:08:35.320 --> 0:08:36.599 you know what. Okay, if you guys don't know what 0:08:36.600 --> 0:08:38.560 we're talking about, go and listen to the bonus episode. 0:08:38.600 --> 0:08:40.800 It's really funny. It's from last week. It's the funniest 0:08:40.800 --> 0:08:41.480 moment of my life. 0:08:41.600 --> 0:08:43.680 Okay, So like that, then the whole having sex with 0:08:43.679 --> 0:08:45.199 the back of my leg will make sense. It's a 0:08:45.320 --> 0:08:48.280 very funny episode, but I completely agree. I wish I'd 0:08:48.280 --> 0:08:49.840 had a bit more confidence, and I wish I'd had 0:08:49.920 --> 0:08:53.320 a little bit more self worth and known that. Don't 0:08:53.360 --> 0:08:55.760 put yourself in a situation one that you can't get 0:08:55.760 --> 0:08:57.680 out of because you're at a you're physically at an event. 0:08:57.720 --> 0:08:59.440 It's not like catching up for a coffee or going 0:08:59.480 --> 0:09:02.480 for a chat, like you're going to something together. But 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:06.520 by going to this event as friends, you're solidifying this 0:09:06.720 --> 0:09:07.880 new status in. 0:09:07.800 --> 0:09:10.040 Your relationship, which is that you are not what you 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:10.560 used to be. 0:09:10.679 --> 0:09:12.480 And I think the reality is that you will be 0:09:12.559 --> 0:09:16.000 bitterly disappointed if you are not ready to be friends yet. 0:09:16.160 --> 0:09:16.600 So don't go. 0:09:17.440 --> 0:09:19.960 This is an easy one, guys. If you're ever in 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:22.960 this situation, just don't do it. Fight the urge, yeah, 0:09:23.000 --> 0:09:25.280 because then you'll have suppressed troumo about match Box twenty 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:28.080 and fourteen years later, you'll still talk about it as 0:09:28.080 --> 0:09:29.400 a really painful time in your life. 0:09:29.400 --> 0:09:30.319 For I'm coming in. 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:33.360 Hot, I have my anniversary coming up and want to 0:09:33.360 --> 0:09:35.680 get a couple of small gifts for my partner. 0:09:36.280 --> 0:09:39.719 Do you think buying viagra would be. 0:09:39.679 --> 0:09:43.400 Taken as sexy or insulting? I feel this is a 0:09:43.520 --> 0:09:45.720 very funny. I want to add our sex life is 0:09:45.720 --> 0:09:47.960 actually amazing. I just thought it might be something fun 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:50.000 to do for a once off. What are your thoughts 0:09:50.200 --> 0:09:51.679 sexy or insulting? 0:09:51.920 --> 0:09:52.240 Okay? 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:54.160 So I actually had to call in a bit of 0:09:54.200 --> 0:09:58.160 help on this question. I had to ask Matthew Johnson, 0:09:58.920 --> 0:10:01.800 he said, and then he really wanted me to preface. 0:10:01.840 --> 0:10:04.000 He's like, I've never tried viagra. And then he was like, oh, 0:10:04.000 --> 0:10:05.640 but I have tried liquid viagra, and I was like, 0:10:05.640 --> 0:10:08.160 well that's viagra. Pretty sure it's the same thing. Okay, 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:11.160 So he said, I don't think it's offensive, so long 0:10:11.160 --> 0:10:13.400 as you preface it by saying, you know, I just 0:10:13.440 --> 0:10:17.040 wanted to try something new, spice things up. He said, However, 0:10:17.400 --> 0:10:19.720 you do have to be prepared to go to poundtown 0:10:19.760 --> 0:10:21.640 for about six hours because the guy is going to 0:10:21.720 --> 0:10:24.040 have a raging stiffy and he's not going to be 0:10:24.040 --> 0:10:25.600 able to do anything else with it. So if you 0:10:25.679 --> 0:10:29.880 enjoy being pounded today for six hours, six hours, I mean, no, 0:10:29.960 --> 0:10:31.920 we all, I'm like a six minute wonder. 0:10:31.920 --> 0:10:34.560 I'm like, all right, all right, you're done, let's go all. 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:36.440 I can think of the Hipleixes, the next day. 0:10:36.600 --> 0:10:38.559 So if you're a ready to spend a whole day 0:10:38.600 --> 0:10:41.080 in poundtown go for a girlfriend, it could be a really, 0:10:41.120 --> 0:10:43.040 really fun little day for you. Also, it could be 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:45.160 exhausting and you might just want to put on Netflix 0:10:45.160 --> 0:10:47.160 and cuddle on the couch. Okay, So I asked Jordan 0:10:47.240 --> 0:10:49.520 to because I feel like this is hard fast to answer, 0:10:50.040 --> 0:10:53.880 obviously being female, Jordan said, the first thing that you 0:10:53.920 --> 0:10:56.719 would think of immediately would be like, Okay, is there 0:10:56.760 --> 0:10:58.520 something that you're not happy with? Is there some sort 0:10:58.520 --> 0:11:01.800 of performance issue that you don't like, because that's essentially 0:11:01.800 --> 0:11:03.640 what my agree is. It's saying that you want it harder, 0:11:03.679 --> 0:11:05.520 and it's saying that you want it longer. So that's 0:11:05.520 --> 0:11:08.520 definitely something to consider if there is any sort of 0:11:08.600 --> 0:11:11.400 issue in your relationship. I mean, you've said it's amazing. 0:11:11.960 --> 0:11:14.240 I think if I got given, I just tried to 0:11:14.240 --> 0:11:14.839 put it back to me. 0:11:14.880 --> 0:11:18.440 I was if it was fine. It was my anniversary. 0:11:19.679 --> 0:11:23.120 Fake vagina likely came home with a pill that was 0:11:23.160 --> 0:11:25.880 like this will make you hornier or this will make 0:11:25.880 --> 0:11:28.000 you vagina tighter. I'd be cool, but where's the diamond? 0:11:28.200 --> 0:11:30.640 It was like, it's my anniversary, Like you've literally given 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:33.120 me a pill to make your pleasure go longer. For me, 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:36.240 I think it's like a touching. I think maybe maybe 0:11:36.240 --> 0:11:37.800 do it for fun one night if you really want 0:11:37.840 --> 0:11:38.680 to and have the conversation. 0:11:38.760 --> 0:11:41.480 But maybe maybe're not an anniversary gift. Yeah, I think you 0:11:41.520 --> 0:11:42.000 can try it. 0:11:42.040 --> 0:11:43.800 I think if you wanted to spice thing something, you 0:11:43.800 --> 0:11:46.160 can totally try it. But Brita is right, it doesn't 0:11:46.200 --> 0:11:47.959 have to be for an anniversary present. It's kind of 0:11:48.000 --> 0:11:49.760 a weird adniversary present. Let's just do it on a 0:11:49.760 --> 0:11:52.200 Saturday night. Well, you've got to make sure austually do 0:11:52.240 --> 0:11:54.800 it on a Saturday morning. It's gonna take you six hours. Girlfriend, 0:11:54.880 --> 0:11:56.400 you're gonna start that in the afternoon. 0:11:56.480 --> 0:11:57.200 You're the schedule. 0:11:57.280 --> 0:11:59.040 You have to live schedule because he's not going to 0:11:59.080 --> 0:12:01.120 be doing anything or gold anyway. It is going to 0:12:01.120 --> 0:12:03.000 be like he is pitching a tent and you were 0:12:03.040 --> 0:12:04.000 staying in for the day. 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:08.000 All right. I think we answered that one too. All 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:08.800 right in next. 0:12:08.679 --> 0:12:11.880 Question hit me, oh lad, we're just powering through these today. 0:12:12.120 --> 0:12:15.679 This is one that makes me extremely uncomfortable. But I 0:12:15.679 --> 0:12:17.480 think it's a really important to have a chat about. 0:12:17.920 --> 0:12:19.800 That wasn't a question that was me, guys, I feel 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:22.480 like I was reading that in my question voice. One night, 0:12:22.520 --> 0:12:25.360 after babysitting for a family I worked for for six years, 0:12:25.480 --> 0:12:27.840 I got a call from the father, who was still 0:12:27.880 --> 0:12:29.599 on his night out. The mom had come home and 0:12:29.640 --> 0:12:32.360 that's why I had left. He was drunk and slurring 0:12:32.400 --> 0:12:34.560 his words, but he just wanted to check that I 0:12:34.600 --> 0:12:37.200 made it home. Okay, that was all fine, So I 0:12:37.240 --> 0:12:39.800 tried to go back to sleep. It was twelve thirty am, 0:12:40.160 --> 0:12:42.680 but then he called back three more times, so I 0:12:42.720 --> 0:12:45.800 eventually answered, and he started off with don't talk to 0:12:45.840 --> 0:12:48.480 me in that smoky voice. I was whispering so I 0:12:48.480 --> 0:12:51.360 as to not wake my housemates. Long story short, he 0:12:51.440 --> 0:12:53.080 told me that he has a thing for me and 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:55.720 he thought I was sexy and hot and asked if 0:12:55.760 --> 0:12:59.040 I would come over right then he said would we 0:12:59.120 --> 0:13:02.680 ever be a thing and could we ever meet? Obviously, 0:13:02.720 --> 0:13:04.959 I was in utter shock, so I didn't say much 0:13:05.000 --> 0:13:08.960 apart from no. Also, please note I'm twenty four and 0:13:09.000 --> 0:13:10.360 I met them when I was eighteen. 0:13:10.520 --> 0:13:11.439 He is forty. 0:13:12.120 --> 0:13:14.880 The next day he messaged, apologizing and asking if we 0:13:14.920 --> 0:13:16.880 are all good? But now I don't know what to do. 0:13:17.240 --> 0:13:19.160 They introduced me as part of the family to their 0:13:19.200 --> 0:13:21.320 friends at the kids' birthdays, And it has been so 0:13:21.600 --> 0:13:24.280 long that I don't feel like I can just leave. 0:13:24.960 --> 0:13:27.120 I also don't know how i'd feel facing him though, 0:13:27.120 --> 0:13:30.040 and being in his house again, especially if the wife 0:13:30.080 --> 0:13:32.160 is not there. Do I tell her? 0:13:32.400 --> 0:13:35.680 Do I go back? Can I leave? Help? Noboddy? We 0:13:35.720 --> 0:13:37.480 are not all good? Not all good? 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:40.880 Yeah, A bought not absolutely not. Hey, so I called 0:13:40.880 --> 0:13:43.360 you and sexually harassed you last night? Are we cool? 0:13:43.480 --> 0:13:45.360 And tried to share to my wife? And like, yeah, 0:13:45.440 --> 0:13:46.960 makes you feel completely uncomfortable? 0:13:47.000 --> 0:13:47.280 Wow? 0:13:47.559 --> 0:13:51.439 No, absolutely, just I'm so mad for a lot of reasons. 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:53.679 One of the lesser reasons, I'm gonna say it anyway, 0:13:53.720 --> 0:13:55.240 is that it's so fucking hard to find a really 0:13:55.280 --> 0:13:55.920 good babysitter. 0:13:55.920 --> 0:13:56.360 If I was that. 0:13:56.400 --> 0:13:59.040 Wife, If I was that wife, that's where you had 0:13:59.240 --> 0:14:02.560 Matt messed up my babysitter that I'd had for five years. 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:03.880 I would be so dirty. 0:14:04.280 --> 0:14:07.680 Ah, Okay, you have to quit your job, Like you 0:14:07.720 --> 0:14:10.160 cannot work with this family anymore. You can't work in 0:14:10.200 --> 0:14:14.520 an environment where you know that the dad feels something 0:14:14.600 --> 0:14:17.160 more for you or would try something on if he 0:14:17.200 --> 0:14:20.760 gets another opportunity, because like it's a really really uncomfortable 0:14:20.840 --> 0:14:23.560 environment for you. It's probably not a very safe environment 0:14:23.600 --> 0:14:27.360 for you. And I think by working there and showing 0:14:27.440 --> 0:14:30.320 up in that environment without addressing it, you may even 0:14:30.360 --> 0:14:32.880 be giving him some sort of indication that this is okay, 0:14:33.160 --> 0:14:35.520 because if you don't address this, he's gonna think this 0:14:35.640 --> 0:14:38.040 is fine, which is absolutely not fine. And that's not 0:14:38.080 --> 0:14:40.840 saying that that's your fault at all, but he needs 0:14:41.160 --> 0:14:43.480 a fucking dressing down. That's what he needs for starters. 0:14:43.880 --> 0:14:45.480 What would I do if I was in a situation, 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:49.240 I would quit. I would quit, and I would speak 0:14:49.280 --> 0:14:51.400 to the wife and say because it's going to be 0:14:51.440 --> 0:14:53.280 a shock to them if you're a babysitting and it's 0:14:53.320 --> 0:14:55.160 a casual work, it's going to be a shock if 0:14:55.200 --> 0:14:57.640 you're saying, hey, I can't work for you at all 0:14:57.720 --> 0:15:00.480 ever again. And I don't have a reason, I do 0:15:00.520 --> 0:15:02.880 think you should speak to the wife and say I 0:15:02.920 --> 0:15:03.600 can't work. 0:15:03.400 --> 0:15:04.040 For you anymore. 0:15:04.360 --> 0:15:07.160 Your husband was very inappropriate to me on a night 0:15:07.200 --> 0:15:10.400 out after he'd had a few drinks. I feel completely uncomfortable, 0:15:10.720 --> 0:15:13.280 and you can leave it at that, because I think 0:15:13.320 --> 0:15:15.920 that you will want to say something. You will probably 0:15:15.960 --> 0:15:19.400 feel incomplete if you don't. And it's also really hard 0:15:19.440 --> 0:15:21.640 because you have a relationship with these children. You've been 0:15:21.680 --> 0:15:23.720 part of their lives for the past five six years. 0:15:23.720 --> 0:15:26.200 This is not a small thing. This makes me really 0:15:26.200 --> 0:15:30.680 angry too, and I feel so angry. Yeah, I want 0:15:30.680 --> 0:15:34.120 to start by saying, this really fucking sucks that this 0:15:34.200 --> 0:15:35.920 happens to you, and you're the one that has to 0:15:35.920 --> 0:15:37.320 go and lose your job, and you're the one that 0:15:37.360 --> 0:15:39.560 has to go and lose the family that you're close to, 0:15:39.680 --> 0:15:42.560 and it feels unfair, and it is unfair because you 0:15:42.600 --> 0:15:44.680 shouldn't have to go and quit your job because somebody 0:15:44.680 --> 0:15:46.960 else did the wrong thing and made you feel uncomfortable. 0:15:47.200 --> 0:15:48.600 But what Laura said is right. 0:15:49.120 --> 0:15:51.600 Regardless of all of that, you're in an environment that 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:53.680 you're extremely uncomfortable in and you shouldn't have to be 0:15:53.720 --> 0:15:55.600 in that, And the only option is for you to 0:15:55.680 --> 0:15:58.160 leave because a family can't leave. So I think what 0:15:58.280 --> 0:16:02.360 Laura said is correct. You absolutely do not have to 0:16:02.640 --> 0:16:04.440 if you don't want to. You don't have to tell 0:16:04.480 --> 0:16:06.720 them the reason, like you're entitled to be, like, Hey, 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:08.000 it's time for me to move on to my next 0:16:08.080 --> 0:16:10.320 chapter and I won't be working here anymore. 0:16:10.840 --> 0:16:12.840 But I also don't want you. 0:16:12.800 --> 0:16:15.360 To feel bad at all about bringing this up to 0:16:15.400 --> 0:16:16.920 the wife if that's what you feel like you want 0:16:16.920 --> 0:16:18.760 to do, and that's what's going to help you, because 0:16:19.160 --> 0:16:20.120 he's done the wrong thing. 0:16:20.160 --> 0:16:20.880 This is not you. 0:16:21.800 --> 0:16:25.240 It's completely in your hands what you want to do 0:16:25.360 --> 0:16:27.160 and how much you want to divulge and what you're 0:16:27.200 --> 0:16:29.160 comfortable with. You could walk away and not say a thing, 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:31.600 and you're then going to feel guilty and wish you did. 0:16:31.640 --> 0:16:32.640 Is that going to eat you alive? 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:34.680