Speaker 1: Flex and Frooms Flex and Frooms.
Speaker 2: This is the Flex and Frooms catch.
Speaker 1: Up podcast, Friday Freaks. Oh my god, I'm so happy
Speaker 1: it's Friday. Thank you If you listen every week, we
Speaker 1: really love you. Today we want to advocate for behaving
Speaker 1: like a baby that's on the potty. Have a lovely weekend.
Speaker 1: But first, here's the podcast you're listening to, Flex and
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Speaker 3: I've come to a bit of an epiphany recently. And
Speaker 3: I know I don't like to say that word, but
Speaker 3: this really was an epiphany, and I was thinking about
Speaker 3: how babies are really on like X Games mode when
Speaker 3: it comes to living. Babies just understand how to do
Speaker 3: life right. And what I mean by that is like
Speaker 3: I spent a lot of time surrounded by kids, or
Speaker 3: like more than the average person, and I'm so like
Speaker 3: just infatuated by observing them, especially toddlers and babies because
Speaker 3: they can't speak, which means, like you take out this
Speaker 3: whole way that we're used to communicating, and yet we
Speaker 3: find other ways to determine are they okay?
Speaker 2: Are they well? Are they happy? Are they good?
Speaker 3: We become more accountable and more responsible for reading between
Speaker 3: the lines in the right way. We're not just trying
Speaker 3: to assign meaning to them. We're like, oh, wait, what
Speaker 3: does this baby need from me right now?
Speaker 2: And I was.
Speaker 3: Thinking, like, especially watching how people respond to figuring out
Speaker 3: what babies need when they're not parents, Oh what's going on?
Speaker 2: Are they okay? Are they not okay?
Speaker 3: And then I was like, oh, because when you interact
Speaker 3: with a baby, you're not leading with logic first. It's empathy,
Speaker 3: it's emotions, it's body language, it's big picture. It's not
Speaker 3: over intellectualized because you can't intellectualize what this sack of
Speaker 3: skin is doing. And so then I was like, oh,
Speaker 3: my goodness, babies are the blueprint. What other ways are
Speaker 3: they just like nailing it at life? Have you ever
Speaker 3: seen a baby or a toddler in particular, pick up something,
Speaker 3: no perfect posture, bent to the knee. Really I had
Speaker 3: to teach myself that working in hospitality, babies naturally bend
Speaker 3: at the knee to pick up stuff.
Speaker 1: Actually I could have picture that with it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they were Also I was watching this video and
Speaker 3: was talking about how a lot of adults complain about
Speaker 3: lower back pain, and then this guy was like, you
Speaker 3: need to lie down on your stomach, lifting from your
Speaker 3: bust and your chest and the interact with the world
Speaker 3: that way. That will strengthen your back muscles and make
Speaker 3: your back hurt less. I said, don't babies do that? Yeah,
Speaker 3: babies do that. And then also when you are going
Speaker 3: through like the rollerdeck of what a baby needs, it's
Speaker 3: like one of eight things. Eat, sleep, play, who, be cuddled,
Speaker 3: be doted on, be acknowledged, I say, And realistically, as
Speaker 3: a person, isn't that all you need as well acts?
Speaker 3: Like all the other stuff, it's too complex. Simplify, simplify, simplify,
Speaker 3: allow the people in your life to view you as
Speaker 3: just a baby. Don't ask me to explain anything. I
Speaker 3: don't have the words, but what I do have is
Speaker 3: a scratch right here.
Speaker 2: You know what I did for three me.
Speaker 3: When you're coming to radio touchy touchy, touchy baby needs
Speaker 3: her skin to skin.
Speaker 2: I don't. Oh, I get it.
Speaker 1: Welcome back to the Flex and Frooms Show. We here
Speaker 1: at Flex and Frims love to get to the bottom
Speaker 1: of life's big issues. We love it when you send
Speaker 1: us voice memos all little tiny dms to Flex and
Speaker 1: Frooms on Instagram ask us for advice. We won't always
Speaker 1: give you things that are coherent. However, we will always
Speaker 1: attempt to make it entertaining. We have a it's so true.
Speaker 1: We have an anonymous submission by one of our listeners,
Speaker 1: and it's about when to re spark a friendship. It's
Speaker 1: a long one guy, so strap in, here we go.
Speaker 1: So I was part of a five person friend group
Speaker 1: in Brackets, all girls, for the past four and a
Speaker 1: half years, and then left late last year. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: this is like leaving a cult. Long story short, I
Speaker 1: was going through a lot of personal issues and basically
Speaker 1: I had a mental breakdown and went mute out of nowhere.
Speaker 1: Mind you, four of us were roommates and one curl
Speaker 1: live next door. The root of all problems here is
Speaker 1: that I didn't communicate what was going what I was
Speaker 1: going for, and essentially shut them all out. Wow it happens,
Speaker 1: though naturally, while I was caught up in my misery,
Speaker 1: they took offense to that and assumed I had it
Speaker 1: out for them. One girl recently reached out to let
Speaker 1: me know. I was so shocked when they started making
Speaker 1: a little tiktoks and basically yapping around campus about this
Speaker 1: whole thing, and I was left friendless. I was so heartbroken.
Speaker 1: Thus because their reaction was so violent and living situation
Speaker 1: became very passive, aggressive and just hostile. Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Last week one of the girls in the friend group
Speaker 1: reach out and apologize for their behavior and rudeness and
Speaker 1: basically wanted to meet and talk to get over things
Speaker 1: like adults in Bunny Rabbit quotations? Do you think I
Speaker 1: should go? Not gonna lie? I don't feel ready because
Speaker 1: now every time I think that life changing period in
Speaker 1: my life, I can't get over how the people I
Speaker 1: love most are being vile ps I genuinely do realize
Speaker 1: that all this could have been avoided with a single conversation.
Speaker 1: Couldn't everything in life? I am a big fan of
Speaker 1: the podcast You're Going Plantnum on my Spotify rapp this year.
Speaker 2: Thank you incredible work.
Speaker 3: Okay, So it's funny because when producer Mickey sent this in,
Speaker 3: she did preface it by saying, I think the answer
Speaker 3: is obvious, which I think is very surprising because I
Speaker 3: feel like.
Speaker 2: We could have different answers on this.
Speaker 3: I think Fremianni and Mickey Yanni have a habit of
Speaker 3: thinking the exact same thing.
Speaker 1: So Mickey, please tell us what do you think about
Speaker 1: the situation? What would you do?
Speaker 4: Hello, Basically, she had a bit of a moment and
Speaker 4: then she stepped back from the group because that's what
Speaker 4: she needed for her mental health, which is we've all
Speaker 4: been there, Like I think I've done that multiple times
Speaker 4: in a friendship where I've taken a step back because
Speaker 4: I needed that for me. But I think any friends
Speaker 4: who don't understand that you might have something else going
Speaker 4: on behind the scenes, which might mean that you step
Speaker 4: back from the friendship I don't necessarily know have your
Speaker 4: best interest at heart, Like if they're making all these
Speaker 4: tiktoks about you.
Speaker 3: And TikTok's got me but one thing to have a
Speaker 3: bit of a bit of a gossip in the group.
Speaker 2: Yeah, totally tiktoks.
Speaker 4: It just makes me realize, like, ah, these girls your
Speaker 4: real friends and how long have they been around for?
Speaker 4: Because I can't say that any of my friends would
Speaker 4: be making tiktoks about me behind my back before actually
Speaker 4: checking in on me.
Speaker 3: The living situation confuses me though, because I wonder how
Speaker 3: you've been able to sustain your friendship while still living together.
Speaker 4: That's hard work having to avoid picking.
Speaker 3: Part of the thing that I'm understanding with aging is
Speaker 3: that I did speak earlier that I was once honestly
Speaker 3: is the best policy type babe. And similarly, I don't
Speaker 3: know how I feel about being the bigger person because
Speaker 3: all the things will tell you, you know, have this conversation,
Speaker 3: see it through.
Speaker 2: But who is that for?
Speaker 3: If you in this current state can't imagine the benefit
Speaker 3: of going and exposing yourself to a potentially horroring situation.
Speaker 3: People on the defense, you're outnumbered, which means that you're
Speaker 3: out experienced. You have four different people, five friends, people
Speaker 3: who have all these really extreme opinions about what you
Speaker 3: did to them, even though it was passive and in adirect.
Speaker 3: I don't think you're in a particularly safe spot to
Speaker 3: come out of that unscathed.
Speaker 1: I think if they are reaching out to you, I
Speaker 1: would go. I would just keep your guard up. We
Speaker 1: know we don't like guard up culture. The fact that
Speaker 1: you've come out the gate to acknowledge that you shut
Speaker 1: off like some people really don't take to that kindly.
Speaker 1: They might have been really offended. And then, like the group,
Speaker 1: when you're in a group situation, you egg each other
Speaker 1: on to think, oh, that is really rude, that is
Speaker 1: really rude. Maybe you just need to diffuse the situation.
Speaker 1: Go in there, have the chat, but kind of like
Speaker 1: have low expectations.
Speaker 3: See that's crazy, though, because right now she's in a
Speaker 3: quite fine place where she's saying, like, I don't feel ready.
Speaker 3: Every time I think about that life changing period, I
Speaker 3: can't get over how the people I love most were
Speaker 3: being vile. You're mad, you're a odds like You've got
Speaker 3: five people who think that you're the villain. You're like,
Speaker 3: I'm the victim. You've only got one representative who's got
Speaker 3: to reach out and talk to you. Now they're playing
Speaker 3: both sides. It's just like it doesn't feel like a
Speaker 3: dust hands, like let's just kiss and makeup. To be honest,
Speaker 3: it feels like the girl that reached out is experiencing
Speaker 3: what you experienced.
Speaker 2: And she said, hold on, let.
Speaker 1: Me go on the right side of history for a second.
Speaker 3: Let me you know, I've actually got pick my side properly.
Speaker 3: Friendships are definitely you shouldn't just throw them out. I
Speaker 3: think they're worth investing time and energy into. But not
Speaker 3: all friendships are built the same. And like MICKI was saying,
Speaker 3: I don't know any of my friends who if I
Speaker 3: was going through something and I dipped out for a bit,
Speaker 3: the instinct is to go and make tiki talkies about me.
Speaker 1: The tiki TALKI is not just like, oh.
Speaker 3: I had a friend and like she's been having a
Speaker 3: moment and she's disappeared, but like and I quote yapping
Speaker 3: around campus and I was left friendless.
Speaker 1: This is so weird.
Speaker 4: It's really I would assess the value of these friends
Speaker 4: before the drama, and if they were of value and
Speaker 4: really important to you, then I would go down the
Speaker 4: fumi route. But if I was this cut up about
Speaker 4: it and they had been humiliating me in a public forum,
Speaker 4: I don't think it's worth it. I think you can
Speaker 4: find other friends.
Speaker 1: Truly start from scratch, and you can make really good
Speaker 1: friends all through your life. Don't know if you're you know,
Speaker 1: twenty something and you're like, oh, I should be friends
Speaker 1: with my high school friends, trusty, babes, There's so many
Speaker 1: opportunities to make new friends. You know what's right in
Speaker 1: your gut, babes. That's all I'll say. Flex and frilms
Speaker 1: on KEDA, guys, let's do a visulation visualization a vigilante
Speaker 1: visualization exercise. Everybody was your.
Speaker 2: Eyes done, don't ask me twice.
Speaker 1: Okay, on listening. Take a deep breath in and a
Speaker 1: deep breath out. Now I'm going to paint a picture
Speaker 1: in your mind's eye. You were dating someone that you
Speaker 1: really liked, You kind of thought they were better than you,
Speaker 1: and you were really.
Speaker 2: You've really pulled.
Speaker 1: You know, yourself in this scenario. Okay, you honestly think, God,
Speaker 1: they're a catch, they are a real fine piece of.
Speaker 2: Thing, piece of thing.
Speaker 1: Okay, Now they break up with you seemingly out of
Speaker 1: the blue. You think, oh my god, I'm so upset.
Speaker 1: I really really like this person, and I just feel
Speaker 1: so devastated. Nothing is fun for me anymore. What do
Speaker 1: I do?
Speaker 2: What do I do?
Speaker 1: But there is a part of you that thinks I
Speaker 1: think I can get them back if I make them jealous,
Speaker 1: if I make them think I'm having the best life ever.
Speaker 1: Open your eyes, everybody, Are you going to do some
Speaker 1: breakup revenge?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: No, Niki, you.
Speaker 4: Like it has to have crossed your mind, right, Yes,
Speaker 4: you're not.
Speaker 2: You're not going from on the high road. No, you're
Speaker 2: notting it.
Speaker 3: But what is that quote like, don't let someone that,
Speaker 3: don't let someone tell you they don't want you twice facts.
Speaker 1: So hey, the synopsis here, or rather the idea of this,
Speaker 1: was the idea of breakup revenge we heard in the
Speaker 1: early two thousands of the breakup revenge body. I think, yeah,
Speaker 1: still gonna say we're past to others to say, I
Speaker 1: think that's a lie. But however, here we are, apparently
Speaker 1: gen Z and now doing a thing where they make
Speaker 1: their lives look amazing on Instagram. Honestly, I don't think
Speaker 1: this is gen Z. I think gen X are even
Speaker 1: doing these ones. Posting your best life online is the
Speaker 1: newest breakup revenge.
Speaker 2: Okay, this makes sense.
Speaker 1: So this involves posting on Instagram, like going to places
Speaker 1: that are really cool, doing a little bit KINI pick
Speaker 1: if you like, like posting with other guys. That's a
Speaker 1: really classical one, guys. I love to employ that one,
Speaker 1: not personal experience. However, I think that this is not
Speaker 1: a good idea because, as you said, don't let someone
Speaker 1: reject you twice. I think as well, if they're watching
Speaker 1: your story and they broke up with you, I know
Speaker 1: what we're thinking, Oh my god, you watch my story.
Speaker 1: He's obsessed Watching a story takes a second. They're probably
Speaker 1: going they're not even looking at it properly you shouldn't.
Speaker 2: Or they're just curious.
Speaker 3: I'm curious a lot, but I have been known very
Speaker 3: recently to hear people with the mute when it's when
Speaker 3: it's done, for fear of not wanting to give them
Speaker 3: the illusion that I care heaps to be viewing their story.
Speaker 1: Oh I do that too.
Speaker 2: I learned that from you.
Speaker 1: I agree with your FLEXI I also think like you
Speaker 1: are worth the price that you put on your head.
Speaker 1: And I think that it's actually very obvious to people
Speaker 1: when you're trying to go them. Oh yeah, you think
Speaker 1: you're being subtle. There's nothing subtle about it. You're going
Speaker 1: to the restaurant they really likes. Like, I'll never forget.
Speaker 1: The one like breakup revenge experience that I had was
Speaker 1: when I was eighteen and I had just been dumped.
Speaker 1: It was like the worst, what a dog pain of
Speaker 1: my life And I thought about the breakup and this
Speaker 1: person constantly for one whole year. Took me one year,
Speaker 1: which I think is fair. It was my first, but
Speaker 1: I mean, like, I have a quite obsessive way of thinking,
Speaker 1: so it was every second.
Speaker 3: I think people should people need more time to get
Speaker 3: over breakups.
Speaker 1: Thank you. I gave myself the exit one year. What happened?
Speaker 1: One day? I'm thinking about him coming home from Chadston,
Speaker 1: the fashion capital, in a beautiful outfit. I was killing it.
Speaker 1: I looked incredible, and I randomly my head turns to
Speaker 1: the left and I see him and all of his
Speaker 1: friends sitting outside at a pizza restaurant, and I'm like, whoa,
Speaker 1: I was just thinking about him. I've just come home
Speaker 1: from Thursday night shopping. I've got a whole new loop
Speaker 1: kind so like I remember that exactly. I was doing
Speaker 1: a little pussy bow moment, like, oh, I was killing it.
Speaker 1: I've got to do a walk by. Oh, I go
Speaker 1: and park up at Red Rooster one Danonong Road or whatever,
Speaker 1: and I struck. I've also got these little acne boots
Speaker 1: that I just bought. Huge, I'm strutting down past the
Speaker 1: piece of shop, pretending to go to the pancake parlor.
Speaker 2: Huge, you knowing?
Speaker 1: How do you know?
Speaker 2: You say bad bittery is fake?
Speaker 1: I STI rut past. I see him look at me
Speaker 1: and his jaw it his jaw drops, and he looked
Speaker 1: so he looked really sad, which like I don't want
Speaker 1: him to be sad. No, you love that.
Speaker 2: That was his cherry on top for you. Yeah, she said,
Speaker 2: make ing suffer.
Speaker 1: It was like, there's all these moments in my life
Speaker 1: where I realized my life is a movie. That was like,
Speaker 1: you couldn't make that up. He lived, He lived an
Speaker 1: hour away. I don't know what he.
Speaker 2: Was doing there.
Speaker 3: He was loitering, trying to get a little a little
Speaker 3: look at.
Speaker 1: It's Friday. That means silliness must ensue in the studio.
Speaker 1: Cute Mickeyani Floriano, Oh produced to the Stars. She's come
Speaker 1: up with a game. It's a guessing game.
Speaker 2: She hasn't come up with this game.
Speaker 1: We've got to give credit where it's okay, who's I
Speaker 1: was doing this?
Speaker 3: And she said allow plagiarism.
Speaker 2: We only allow nepotism. That's what we drop the one.
Speaker 1: Truly, we have to guess what this song is that
Speaker 1: you're going to play using one second.
Speaker 4: It is from dj DC on TikTok if you wanted
Speaker 4: to know where it was coming from. We're not going
Speaker 4: to page lies, so.
Speaker 2: Not page.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 2: I was going to let it go when I could
Speaker 2: it Okay, ready, can you name this?
Speaker 5: Two thousand song and just one note? This is the
Speaker 5: easy level.
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm umbrella? Next one, please, sir, this is not
Speaker 1: a group effort.
Speaker 2: That's one nil.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 5: Can you name a twenty song? One note? Level? Three?
Speaker 1: Again?
Speaker 2: Is it jet?
Speaker 1: Who is it? Gives life back to music?
Speaker 2: Dart punk?
Speaker 1: Okay, I never heard that song.
Speaker 2: Laugh, there's only one dark punk song ever released.
Speaker 1: One more term?
Speaker 5: Can you name this ninety song and just one note?
Speaker 5: This is the request level?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 3: Check, check, and just one What is it called poison?
Speaker 1: Did you know that?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Okay, that's worrying.
Speaker 5: Can you name this song from the two thousands in
Speaker 5: one note?
Speaker 1: Again?
Speaker 2: I wish Jesus walks?
Speaker 1: Can you West?
Speaker 4: Do you want my more?
Speaker 1: Please?
Speaker 5: More? More?
Speaker 3: More?
Speaker 4: Guys not doing well?
Speaker 1: Hey, Mickey, watch your manners please. That's not how you
Speaker 1: coach a team by I think flex is one up.
Speaker 1: That's all for me? All right, come bro, check check check.
Speaker 2: You don't stop because that was that's in the first
Speaker 2: eight bas.
Speaker 1: Babe, Just do a bunch of Mickey. I'm here all day,
Speaker 1: I got nowhere to be.
Speaker 5: You name the song from the two thousand and tens
Speaker 5: and just one note?
Speaker 1: Other one film, down, down down, down down California Girls,
Speaker 1: Katie Perry. Yeah, it's given, It's given feet Snoop Dogg
Speaker 1: not to be alright ready? This is from the twenty tens.
Speaker 5: Can you name this twenty and ten song? And just
Speaker 5: one note other one.
Speaker 1: Gang dumb stuff?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Wow, oh this is fun.
Speaker 1: We gotta keep playing this.
Speaker 4: You get one more the song from the two thousands
Speaker 4: and just one note level one.
Speaker 3: Sorry, you gotta hold the phone to win. Good job
Speaker 3: for me podcast? What she does have a playlist? It's
Speaker 3: called for Me Fridays. It was it was unfairly taken
Speaker 3: down by the FED.
Speaker 1: Still haven't heard from insert streaming service.
Speaker 3: Mickey has some suspicions that it had never left that.
Speaker 3: If you type in through Me Fridays and you can't
Speaker 3: find the playlist, it's because Spotify don't want you to
Speaker 3: have it.
Speaker 1: They've also left me on Red so I'm really off it.
Speaker 1: I've spent six months making that plays and new pay
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