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Speaker 1: Part one of those you gotta let cars pass, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: You're there this way, tell her me come forward.

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Speaker 1: Yep. So she's pushing two kids, twins right up this hill.

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Speaker 1: It's a hill, myad. So she gets comes past my car.

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Speaker 3: Congratulations, you should have just given a little push in

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Speaker 1: I don't want to run around for you.

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Speaker 2: Freaking Welcome back to Two Doing Dads.

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Speaker 1: I'm Mada Jay, I'm ash you said there was a

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Speaker 1: big sigh.

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Speaker 3: This is a podcast all about parenting. It is the good,

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Speaker 3: it is the bad and the relatable, and we are

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Speaker 3: starting to give advice. Fuck what has happened? Twenty twenty six?

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Speaker 3: The advice has begun.

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Speaker 1: That's two weeks in a row we've started the episode

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Speaker 3: I have to warn you. I have to warn everyone

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Speaker 1: Is that what that smell is?

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Speaker 3: I have strep throat? I am positive for the strep throat?

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Speaker 1: What is that?

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Speaker 1: How do you get it? Well?

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Speaker 3: I got it from Laura. This may be completely wrong,

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Speaker 3: That's what I was like. Oh that's where the name

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Speaker 3: comes from, is it? But I got from Laura. Laura

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Speaker 3: was sick and she kissed me a lot when she

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Speaker 1: You guys kiss.

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Speaker 3: So I am now on penicillin. Oh really, which sounds impressive,

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Speaker 3: doesn't It sounds like I'm pollio or something.

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Speaker 1: Fun fact, I'm allergic to some penicillins.

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Speaker 3: If you get this strep throat, You're gone.

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Speaker 1: I'm dead, you are. There'll be one donting dad.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, be careful.

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Speaker 3: We gotta stop kissing after recording. No, but you have

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Speaker 3: strep throat, so I cannot kiss. I'm a week now

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Speaker 3: we can't kiss all right, So you have to do

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Speaker 3: It's a little, a little I kiss two fingers. They

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Speaker 1: That seems wrong.

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Speaker 2: What do you.

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Speaker 3: It's I love my kids, they love me.

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Speaker 3: No, because she's not then kissing it like it's.

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Speaker 1: Get your fingers out of your mouth.

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Speaker 1: WHOA, yeah, double up. I love that.

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Speaker 1: What you go with me? Housekeeping?

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Speaker 1: Look in a world where everyone's already divided, let's not

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Speaker 3: Well there is, the man has spoken.

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Speaker 1: Thank you very much, house Let's continue housekeeping? Where else

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Speaker 3: Do you know what I you know?

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Speaker 3: I spent four days coming up with a concept of housekeeping.

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Speaker 1: I'm glad you did the work and not me. One

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Speaker 3: It working well? Macy only speaks in one word sentences

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Speaker 1: She's just like yep ah to Mac, I love you.

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Speaker 1: A lot of them.

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Speaker 3: This is my story, not yours, but yeah, compound sentences.

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Speaker 3: What Lula's pretting pretty good? Just Marley, just I keep

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Speaker 3: Do you if there's a hat with no name on it, Oh.

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Speaker 3: Well, can I just say you the fact that you

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Speaker 1: No, you aren't.

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Speaker 1: It's acting that right.

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Speaker 3: I believe in a world of efficiency.

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Speaker 1: You gave me ship for brushing my teeth on an aeroplane. Whoa,

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Speaker 1: and efficiently I drank the water from the glass ash toothbrush.

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Speaker 3: The cup is just it's white, It has a it

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Speaker 1: I think it's an ick. And I'm with Laura on

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Speaker 3: Okay, that was that was a perfect out. That was

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Speaker 1: No, it's not closed, the door. It's disgusting, all right,

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Speaker 1: moving on, I will say, moving on, I'm in charge

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Speaker 2: Please or wife?

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Speaker 1: That's an egg put it outside the shirt.

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Speaker 1: I told you that I couldn't come. I know, thanks

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Speaker 1: It felt so good. Recall this a few episodes ago.

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Speaker 1: I was invited to last minute.

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Speaker 3: Sash didn't come because he's a ship friend.

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Speaker 1: Everyone knows that's not true. So you that felt good?

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Speaker 1: Did it? I needed that?

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Speaker 3: So it was last minute. Laura and I we work

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Speaker 3: see you never. Let's all be honest, let's call it

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Speaker 3: spade of spade. We can all agree those friendships.

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Speaker 3: she moves classroom and it's something we just wasted.

445
00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:07,879
Speaker 1: Then you get out.

446
00:20:08,680 --> 00:20:11,959
Speaker 3: But we decided we didn't invite the school friends. We

447
00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:14,840
Speaker 3: invited the friends, which is where you went back.

448
00:20:15,000 --> 00:20:16,160
Speaker 1: I thought you were going to say we went back

449
00:20:16,160 --> 00:20:21,280
Speaker 1: to the preschool friends, like, hey, are you guys available?

450
00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:25,760
Speaker 1: We can Ah, he is back, But you didn't.

451
00:20:26,000 --> 00:20:28,919
Speaker 3: We had we had family friends that you know, the

452
00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:31,240
Speaker 3: ones we just say close friends, close friends. You made

453
00:20:31,280 --> 00:20:32,160
Speaker 3: the close friends list.

454
00:20:32,200 --> 00:20:32,600
Speaker 1: Thank you.

455
00:20:32,760 --> 00:20:35,760
Speaker 3: One of the only people who didn't come to the

456
00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:38,520
Speaker 3: party that were before I did. I gave it a

457
00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:44,199
Speaker 3: week anyway. Parenting is hard because in the background of

458
00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:48,080
Speaker 3: your mind, you were conscious that you were organizing events

459
00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:52,160
Speaker 3: that will become lasting memories for your kids, core memories

460
00:20:52,880 --> 00:20:55,560
Speaker 3: for years to come. Correct, And at the same time

461
00:20:55,560 --> 00:20:57,159
Speaker 3: as you trying to make something which is going to

462
00:20:57,200 --> 00:21:00,240
Speaker 3: be enjoyable and memorable for your child, you were also

463
00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:03,679
Speaker 3: under a lot of stress. Yep, especially when things are

464
00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:05,000
Speaker 3: left last minute.

465
00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:06,560
Speaker 1: Which you do work to a tight deadline.

466
00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:07,800
Speaker 3: And you don't want to let your child know that

467
00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:10,720
Speaker 3: organizing something which is so enjoyable for them is actually

468
00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:13,840
Speaker 3: a real pain point for yourself, don't you And the

469
00:21:13,840 --> 00:21:15,040
Speaker 3: cause of a lot of arguments.

470
00:21:15,080 --> 00:21:17,159
Speaker 1: I let him know. Do you know how hard I

471
00:21:17,280 --> 00:21:18,000
Speaker 1: worked on this?

472
00:21:18,760 --> 00:21:20,880
Speaker 3: I may have said, should we get a face painter?

473
00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:24,280
Speaker 3: She said yes, and I said, great, I'll organize it

474
00:21:25,720 --> 00:21:29,880
Speaker 3: morning of God Parties. At one thirty ten thirty, Laura says,

475
00:21:29,880 --> 00:21:30,840
Speaker 3: did you get the face painter?

476
00:21:31,119 --> 00:21:34,080
Speaker 1: Oh, it's the insurance all over again.

477
00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:37,040
Speaker 3: And I said, I said I haven't, and she goes,

478
00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:39,440
Speaker 3: that's okay. We've got some games that we can play.

479
00:21:39,480 --> 00:21:40,920
Speaker 3: And I said, well, what games are you going to play?

480
00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:42,760
Speaker 3: She goes, I got ball games. I said what balls

481
00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:45,880
Speaker 3: have you got and she's like, I don't know. I'll

482
00:21:45,920 --> 00:21:48,000
Speaker 3: look upstairs. And I'm like, well, we don't have any

483
00:21:48,000 --> 00:21:51,800
Speaker 3: balls because we've got lost one. One's flat. And she goes, well,

484
00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:53,440
Speaker 3: I wouldn't have to look for the balls if you

485
00:21:53,600 --> 00:21:56,639
Speaker 3: organize a face painter. And I said, what do you

486
00:21:56,680 --> 00:21:59,679
Speaker 3: think I'm doing right now? I'm messaging And then I

487
00:21:59,680 --> 00:22:01,760
Speaker 3: look over. Lola's there in a party dress, being like.

488
00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:06,320
Speaker 1: Oh no, she's witnessing it all come crashing down.

489
00:22:06,880 --> 00:22:09,840
Speaker 3: Also, she's like, should we get some helium balloons? And

490
00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:11,320
Speaker 3: I'm like, well, that's exactly what I want to do,

491
00:22:11,320 --> 00:22:13,040
Speaker 3: but I'm trying to organize a face painter. Is go

492
00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:15,399
Speaker 3: to the shops to buy some helium for the party,

493
00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:16,480
Speaker 3: which we don't really need.

494
00:22:18,160 --> 00:22:20,160
Speaker 1: You're digging a big hole here, big guy.

495
00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:25,840
Speaker 3: And so just let's just say we save the day.

496
00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:27,400
Speaker 1: Okay, go, how did you say the day?

497
00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:29,400
Speaker 3: Well, at ten thirty I booked in a face painter

498
00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:32,520
Speaker 3: on the day off. On the day off, I got lucky.

499
00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:35,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, that is very lucky.

500
00:22:35,280 --> 00:22:38,359
Speaker 3: But it was. It was a very stressful race to

501
00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:41,200
Speaker 3: the finish line to get everything organized by the one thirty.

502
00:22:41,200 --> 00:22:43,000
Speaker 3: We got there. At one thirty five, we were eight

503
00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:44,520
Speaker 3: for Lola's birthday party.

504
00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:45,320
Speaker 1: Am I not surprised?

505
00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:47,560
Speaker 3: We had a parent message and say, am I at

506
00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:51,560
Speaker 3: the right place? No one's here, and I'm like coming shortly.

507
00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:54,960
Speaker 3: But it was like, you know, very hot day, very

508
00:22:54,960 --> 00:22:56,760
Speaker 3: hard to get parking. There was a soccer tournament on

509
00:22:56,760 --> 00:22:58,960
Speaker 3: on the field where it was East Rugby Club, great

510
00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:02,280
Speaker 3: venue for birthdays by the in Rose Bay, but it

511
00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:04,200
Speaker 3: was it was very, very, very very stressed.

512
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:06,920
Speaker 1: That's another reason I don't throw birthday parties. One because

513
00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:09,880
Speaker 1: I'm cheap, but two is that it's just so much

514
00:23:10,119 --> 00:23:12,960
Speaker 1: organizing and like you've got enough on your plate. I

515
00:23:13,000 --> 00:23:13,359
Speaker 1: get it.

516
00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:16,000
Speaker 3: And Laura and I, you know, we're having a little

517
00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:18,760
Speaker 3: jabs at each other all morning. We're both very stressed,

518
00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:20,280
Speaker 3: and then we get to the party and we're like

519
00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:22,480
Speaker 3: everything's great, We're having an awesome time.

520
00:23:22,640 --> 00:23:23,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, we haven't fought all day.

521
00:23:24,200 --> 00:23:25,280
Speaker 3: Sell each other in the car.

522
00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:29,720
Speaker 1: You gotta put on that that awkward like you're really

523
00:23:29,800 --> 00:23:31,800
Speaker 1: nice to each other, but Djen and you're like when

524
00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:34,280
Speaker 1: we get home, there's.

525
00:23:34,040 --> 00:23:37,000
Speaker 3: Not much to a kids' birthday party, but far out

526
00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:40,520
Speaker 3: organizing that amongst everything else that's going on in your life.

527
00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:43,919
Speaker 3: It's just if anyone can get through organizing a birthday

528
00:23:43,920 --> 00:23:47,199
Speaker 3: party without fighting at their partner, kudos to you.

529
00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:48,920
Speaker 1: Do the venue take care of the food and stuff

530
00:23:49,000 --> 00:23:51,119
Speaker 1: or do you have to like eat book a spot.

531
00:23:51,240 --> 00:23:52,120
Speaker 3: They took care of the food.

532
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:54,399
Speaker 1: Having to cook just ads an extra not that I've

533
00:23:54,400 --> 00:23:55,800
Speaker 1: ever done. Nightmare.

534
00:23:55,840 --> 00:24:00,199
Speaker 3: And then also I was like, do you did you

535
00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:03,159
Speaker 3: invite Stevens and Sarah? And she's like you were going

536
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:04,159
Speaker 3: to invite them and I was like.

537
00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 1: Oh my god. And now Stevens Therea's seen all all

538
00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:09,600
Speaker 1: over your Instagram A nice party. They weren't invited.

539
00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:12,280
Speaker 3: And then she's like, why is an Ash here?

540
00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:18,280
Speaker 1: I had another birthday party, an organized one. Oscar did

541
00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:21,080
Speaker 1: have a birthday party, shame on you. But Macy was

542
00:24:21,119 --> 00:24:25,479
Speaker 1: sick with the vomiting. Yeah, how convenient? Yeah, any more

543
00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:29,320
Speaker 1: excuses you on for me. Speaking of Macy, she's gone

544
00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:33,120
Speaker 1: back to KINDI daycare, lot whatever, preschool, let's say preschool.

545
00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:36,080
Speaker 1: She goes three days a week. And even so, they

546
00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:38,879
Speaker 1: still have the midday rest time. Like it's like it's

547
00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:41,320
Speaker 1: not a sleep, it's like they play all morning and

548
00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:44,200
Speaker 1: do their arts and crafts and whatever part of their curriculum,

549
00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:45,760
Speaker 1: whatever you call it. And then in the middle of

550
00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:47,480
Speaker 1: the day they have their rest so that they can

551
00:24:47,480 --> 00:24:50,080
Speaker 1: play in the afternoon. But they're allowed to bring in

552
00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:52,240
Speaker 1: something that comforts them.

553
00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 3: What does she bring?

554
00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:56,119
Speaker 1: So usually she brings in something from bed, but the

555
00:24:56,200 --> 00:24:58,879
Speaker 1: other day she wanted to take something in and I

556
00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:01,520
Speaker 1: was like, okay, that's fine. Look to be honest, I'll

557
00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:05,639
Speaker 1: show you a little video of little Macie. What have

558
00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:17,920
Speaker 1: you got there? Teddy Sorry, it's heavy. That's the doorstop though.

559
00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 3: Okay, it's a doorstop, I tell you, so she's picked up.

560
00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:27,760
Speaker 1: It's a teddy doorstop.

561
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:29,640
Speaker 3: That is very confusing.

562
00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:32,679
Speaker 1: It's like, okay, so it's it's shaped like a teddy bear,

563
00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:34,399
Speaker 1: it's soft like a teddy bear. But at the bottom

564
00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:36,679
Speaker 1: of it is it must be full of sand or

565
00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:39,639
Speaker 1: something heavy to stop the kid's door from closing in

566
00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:42,760
Speaker 1: the middle of it, though, and she's picked She's picked

567
00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:44,760
Speaker 1: it up and gone, I want to take this for comfort.

568
00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:48,159
Speaker 1: And I didn't really realize until we're walking and I

569
00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:48,639
Speaker 1: was like.

570
00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:51,600
Speaker 3: I thought she was looking buff.

571
00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:54,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's like doing curls. And I was like yeah.

572
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:56,560
Speaker 1: I was like, what do you got there? And then

573
00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:58,480
Speaker 1: you turn around. It's a fucking doorstop.

574
00:25:58,680 --> 00:26:01,480
Speaker 3: That's come on, let's c I looked at that even.

575
00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:02,480
Speaker 3: I'm like, that's a cute tea.

576
00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:05,280
Speaker 1: And I got to kindy and I said to the lady.

577
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:08,360
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, ma, she's just got a doorstop

578
00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:11,720
Speaker 1: for her comforter today. And she was like, excuse me.

579
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:13,520
Speaker 3: Wallet like a little wedge.

580
00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:16,960
Speaker 1: She was like a doorstop. I'm like, it's a doorstop

581
00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:20,200
Speaker 1: shaped like a Teddy Bear. And she was like okay,

582
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:22,480
Speaker 1: like kids do weird things.

583
00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:23,520
Speaker 3: Is she still into it?

584
00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:26,359
Speaker 1: No? I think she worked it out. But she was like,

585
00:26:26,400 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 1: I's back near the door again. She keeps to escape.

586
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:30,520
Speaker 3: It's really heavy.

587
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:33,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, this teddy is really heavy.

588
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:34,919
Speaker 3: I was like, what is she talking about?

589
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:36,600
Speaker 1: But I've never seen it. She just grabbed it on

590
00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:37,920
Speaker 1: the way out. I was like, take this. I was

591
00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:40,040
Speaker 1: like okay, and then yeah, she was struggling with it

592
00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:41,000
Speaker 1: because I made a carry it.

593
00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:44,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, that's how she starts preschool. She'll be jacked.

594
00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:48,520
Speaker 1: He She's like, you have the way you charms when

595
00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:51,800
Speaker 1: you were in primary school. Do you recall when you

596
00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:55,600
Speaker 1: moved up a grade them separating you from your friends

597
00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 1: from the year before, or will you the same group

598
00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:00,439
Speaker 1: go up to the next year, Because I know in

599
00:27:00,480 --> 00:27:03,359
Speaker 1: different countries the same I think you were telling me this.

600
00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:05,440
Speaker 3: Well, in primary school we only ever had There was

601
00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:09,520
Speaker 3: one class per grade, so there was no option for classes.

602
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:11,960
Speaker 1: It was one of those rural schools, was it. All

603
00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:13,040
Speaker 1: grades are in the one class.

604
00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:16,040
Speaker 3: That is accusatree, that's what's.

605
00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:18,240
Speaker 1: You guys all share the same dry toothbrush.

606
00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:21,320
Speaker 3: Too, What's what's with the tone? How many classes did

607
00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:22,280
Speaker 3: you have a primary school?

608
00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:23,399
Speaker 1: At least three?

609
00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:26,960
Speaker 3: Oh, you're one of the pretty folk. Three classes must

610
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:27,640
Speaker 3: be nice.

611
00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:28,520
Speaker 2: Not us.

612
00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:30,320
Speaker 1: We had three different toothbrush We had.

613
00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:35,240
Speaker 3: The whole school of one class. That's Upper Brookfield where

614
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 3: I went to grade one.

615
00:27:36,600 --> 00:27:39,000
Speaker 1: Well, i've downed Upper Brookfield now it.

616
00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 3: Was grade one to four was one class? Really? Yeah,

617
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:45,720
Speaker 3: it was a very small school. Everyone pretty much like

618
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 3: came to school on their cows. From the country.

619
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:51,680
Speaker 1: Well, the reason I'm to say this is because it

620
00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:55,320
Speaker 1: reminded me of when I would move up grades and

621
00:27:55,359 --> 00:27:58,920
Speaker 1: we had yeah, three or four different classrooms for that year,

622
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 1: and when you would leave to go to the next year,

623
00:28:01,840 --> 00:28:04,520
Speaker 1: they would say, hey, here's like a little slip. And

624
00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:06,040
Speaker 1: I don't know if anyone listens out, they had the

625
00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:09,280
Speaker 1: same thing and little they would be like, hey, you're

626
00:28:09,280 --> 00:28:12,320
Speaker 1: trying to encourage you to who are your friends you

627
00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:15,919
Speaker 1: hang out with? And you're like person, yeah, yeah, and

628
00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 1: you're like I love this person and like we like

629
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:22,080
Speaker 1: right down, like make sure we write down each other.

630
00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:23,680
Speaker 1: Thinking they we're all going to be in the same

631
00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:25,720
Speaker 1: class next year, separated us all.

632
00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:27,879
Speaker 3: Well, that's because I think you were cut from a

633
00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 3: very different type of class. You're a trouble maker.

634
00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:36,760
Speaker 1: A trouble maker. But anyway, so they separated everyone that year,

635
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:40,800
Speaker 1: and I was like, get what other fuckers they separated

636
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:43,960
Speaker 1: us all? They like made different classes for everyone, that

637
00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:47,520
Speaker 1: separate all these group of boys. But anyway, then the

638
00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:50,760
Speaker 1: end of that year, they tried it again, didn't they

639
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 1: We all caught on gave the SWITCHERU. So we put

640
00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:56,920
Speaker 1: down a couple of friends. So we didn't get found out.

641
00:28:57,200 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 3: Mind you is this still on the same class or

642
00:28:59,240 --> 00:29:01,680
Speaker 3: to sit next week the same class, so you got

643
00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 3: different you weren't in and saying, oh my god.

644
00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:05,040
Speaker 1: Completely separate.

645
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:05,960
Speaker 3: A hard year.

646
00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:07,640
Speaker 1: It was a hard year. But then we thought we'd

647
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 1: get the system back. Okay, so we get the little

648
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:11,640
Speaker 1: sleep again. We're like, all right, write a couple of

649
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:15,880
Speaker 1: names down, friends that we like, but not like that much. Yeah,

650
00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:20,880
Speaker 1: twice the scammers got scammed the next year. The following year,

651
00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:23,880
Speaker 1: it was year five, me and every single one of

652
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:27,520
Speaker 1: my friends in the same class, and then those couple

653
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:31,320
Speaker 1: of random people figured it out. Best year ever. My

654
00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:34,880
Speaker 1: year five teacher somehow is still at that school, which

655
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:37,720
Speaker 1: is wild because that was like forty years ago.

656
00:29:38,080 --> 00:29:39,600
Speaker 3: Get it, a grade five?

657
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:44,120
Speaker 1: A grade five beating the system, beat the system. Yeah,

658
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:48,600
Speaker 1: the disruption in that classroom was fucking unbelievably. You get

659
00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:51,960
Speaker 1: every day. Yeah, we were all like.

660
00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:53,840
Speaker 3: I'm imagine trying to teach you.

661
00:29:53,960 --> 00:29:56,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, you've met a couple of my friends, right, think

662
00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:58,840
Speaker 1: about all those guys that you've met all this and

663
00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 1: it was like can consistent disruption And then I think

664
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Speaker 1: it was halfway through the year they actually split the

665
00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:07,920
Speaker 1: class up because it was too big.

666
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:10,720
Speaker 3: Oh that is such a fucking lie.

667
00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:13,480
Speaker 1: And then the slips were never used again, and then

668
00:30:13,880 --> 00:30:15,120
Speaker 1: we debunked.

669
00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:16,960
Speaker 3: The school out of the slips, got it, But also

670
00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:19,400
Speaker 3: like silly of the teachers to try and use the

671
00:30:19,400 --> 00:30:22,040
Speaker 3: same trick twice, Like that's on you, guys.

672
00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, there was a girl in my class in year

673
00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:28,640
Speaker 1: four who she was very academic. I wasn't we know

674
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:31,880
Speaker 1: that as soon as people meet me. Shocker.

675
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:33,640
Speaker 2: I know I can't believe it.

676
00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:35,840
Speaker 1: I know I can't believe it either, my mom can.

677
00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:39,760
Speaker 1: But like I remember, I was like, I'm going to

678
00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:41,320
Speaker 1: put her name in the sky. I think it was

679
00:30:41,360 --> 00:30:43,520
Speaker 1: She's lovely. Don't get me wrong, I didn't really know

680
00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:45,360
Speaker 1: her because she was smart and I was dumb, and

681
00:30:45,400 --> 00:30:48,440
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, this will confuse hell. And then

682
00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 1: I kind of thought, now, looking back, I think, if

683
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:53,720
Speaker 1: I'm a teacher and I get up Ash Wicks's thing

684
00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:56,320
Speaker 1: and it has this person's name on it, and I

685
00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 1: pick up her thing and it doesn't have my name

686
00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:00,320
Speaker 1: on it, why would I put them in the same

687
00:31:00,320 --> 00:31:00,920
Speaker 1: class together.

688
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:04,120
Speaker 3: Maybe they were thinking that Ash is ready to change

689
00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:06,200
Speaker 3: his ways, he's ready to become a new man, and

690
00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 3: he's trying to align himself with certain individuals in the

691
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:11,440
Speaker 3: class who are really excelling, and they thought this is

692
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:12,600
Speaker 3: this is the year of.

693
00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 1: Ashwick's fucking jokes on them.

694
00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:23,560
Speaker 3: Hey, we have a new family member, two new family members.

695
00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:25,520
Speaker 1: But you're precreating like the speed of light.

696
00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:28,200
Speaker 3: We have Poppy, who's now just gone four months. And

697
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:32,720
Speaker 3: then with Poppy, we've recruited another person to join the

698
00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:33,680
Speaker 3: Johnson household.

699
00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 1: Oh yes, the nanny. That nana. We just confusing nanny.

700
00:31:38,200 --> 00:31:41,600
Speaker 3: We decided to hold off putting Poppy in the daycare.

701
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:46,280
Speaker 3: And we've got a beautiful nanny. She's great. In fact,

702
00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:47,280
Speaker 3: she's too good.

703
00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 1: Send him my way, brouh.

704
00:31:48,680 --> 00:31:52,760
Speaker 3: She's you know, I can't afford that. My biggest my

705
00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:55,440
Speaker 3: biggest fear, the biggest fear is that she's going to

706
00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:59,959
Speaker 3: leave us. Oh she is. She is incredible. Like Laura's

707
00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:02,360
Speaker 3: out the door really bloody early in the morning, so

708
00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 3: you know I'm there, Maley, Lola. You know, I normally

709
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:09,320
Speaker 3: do a feed with Poppy around like seven o'clock ish,

710
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 3: sometimes a little bit later. As soon as she comes

711
00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:13,720
Speaker 3: in and she's like, let me take the baby.

712
00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:14,760
Speaker 1: What time has she done?

713
00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:18,160
Speaker 3: She starts at seven forty five, so to help getting

714
00:32:18,160 --> 00:32:19,960
Speaker 3: the kids out the door. So when I take money

715
00:32:19,960 --> 00:32:22,240
Speaker 3: and law to school, she's there with Poppy.

716
00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:24,080
Speaker 1: Ye, Nana can't be trusted.

717
00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:26,600
Speaker 3: She can I even though she's like, I'll take the

718
00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:29,880
Speaker 3: baby and I'm like a she can barely stand up

719
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 3: without falling over.

720
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:32,840
Speaker 1: Also, happy birthday and now happy birthday. And I love

721
00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:35,600
Speaker 1: her center text yas I love her dearly did you Yeah, But.

722
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:40,560
Speaker 3: I feel guilty hanging over my child to the nanny

723
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 3: and like it sounds really shuid because that's what she's

724
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:42,680
Speaker 3: there for.

725
00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:46,000
Speaker 1: She's there, yeah, look after someone who's walked in off

726
00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:46,360
Speaker 1: the street.

727
00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:48,440
Speaker 3: I don't know. I feel like I'm not enough of

728
00:32:48,480 --> 00:32:51,480
Speaker 3: a dad when I hand over my baby to do

729
00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:54,480
Speaker 3: it all, to do it all, I mean, and she's

730
00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:58,400
Speaker 3: very experienced nanny, Like she's better at parenting than I am.

731
00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:00,680
Speaker 3: My child as a new born, as a four.

732
00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 1: Months, like having a midwife in the house or whatever.

733
00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:04,000
Speaker 1: I just knows what they're doing.

734
00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:07,040
Speaker 3: She has She's done this for many, many years, so

735
00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:10,120
Speaker 3: she's just got it dialed. I mean, even like you

736
00:33:10,160 --> 00:33:12,720
Speaker 3: can't be in she folds the towels better than I do.

737
00:33:13,000 --> 00:33:15,680
Speaker 3: We have a way of folding towels, and she has

738
00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:17,160
Speaker 3: a way of following the towers where they're like they're

739
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:21,960
Speaker 3: more compressed fits. She's step one of our I was like, fuck,

740
00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:23,760
Speaker 3: I was like, how do you fold the towels?

741
00:33:23,760 --> 00:33:25,320
Speaker 1: Next she's going to be making the bed different, the

742
00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 1: pillow arrangement's going to be different, and then you'll be

743
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:27,880
Speaker 1: out on the street. No.

744
00:33:28,360 --> 00:33:30,720
Speaker 3: I know. I'm like, this household doesn't need me anymore.

745
00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:33,720
Speaker 3: But I think the hardest part of having a help

746
00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:36,719
Speaker 3: out that I didn't expect was coming home in the

747
00:33:36,760 --> 00:33:41,040
Speaker 3: afternoon and when she wraps up, I take Poppy. She

748
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 3: now smells like the nanny.

749
00:33:42,840 --> 00:33:43,000
Speaker 1: Oh.

750
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:48,920
Speaker 3: And it's a part that obviously she's had one on

751
00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:51,640
Speaker 3: one time during the day with Poppy, so it doesn't

752
00:33:51,680 --> 00:33:54,440
Speaker 3: really happen in I don't remember having that in daycares.

753
00:33:54,680 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, because obviously you don't know your house smells smell

754
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:01,160
Speaker 1: unless you leave for a while and come back.

755
00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:03,720
Speaker 3: And she's not wearing like a really strong perfume. It's

756
00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:05,640
Speaker 3: a very mild smell. But when I have Poppy on

757
00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:08,320
Speaker 3: my chest and I'm smelling her, she smells like someone

758
00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:09,600
Speaker 3: else who's not Laura.

759
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, And that.

760
00:34:11,200 --> 00:34:14,640
Speaker 3: Just like the guilt is Oh, it smacks your heart.

761
00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:18,239
Speaker 3: It's a lovely scent. It's just it's not it's not Laura,

762
00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:18,920
Speaker 3: it's not me.

763
00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:21,839
Speaker 1: And it's funny how your senses pick that up and go.

764
00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:24,600
Speaker 3: Oh and for me as soon as I grab my baby.

765
00:34:24,719 --> 00:34:27,400
Speaker 3: It just highlights the fact that I wasn't with her.

766
00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:30,719
Speaker 1: All day, okay, and you makes you feel guilty. You

767
00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:33,040
Speaker 1: can't be in two places at one you course.

768
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 3: I know that, I know that, we all, but it's

769
00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:39,359
Speaker 3: just the way your brain is wired. It's just it's

770
00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 3: like it kind of says in the back of your head, like, oh,

771
00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:45,799
Speaker 3: your child spent more time with someone else that wasn't you. Yeah,

772
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:49,080
Speaker 3: but yeah, it's it's a it's a part of parenting

773
00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:52,880
Speaker 3: and having someone else help with your child. That's surprised

774
00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:55,080
Speaker 3: me With Marley. I don't think we put Marley in

775
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:57,440
Speaker 3: a daycare until she was like one and a half.

776
00:34:58,280 --> 00:35:00,279
Speaker 3: And then with Poppy it was a little bit harder

777
00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:04,000
Speaker 3: because you have two kids. So I think, I think, Lola, sorry,

778
00:35:04,080 --> 00:35:08,799
Speaker 3: you Ski, there's someone such a fucking parent thing to do.

779
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:09,600
Speaker 1: As a middle child.

780
00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:10,839
Speaker 3: I love that middle child.

781
00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:13,560
Speaker 1: It's already start.

782
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:20,800
Speaker 3: Sorry, Lola is gonna be like we'll have to delete

783
00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:25,759
Speaker 3: all evidence podcast, so enjoy it right now, share it

784
00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:26,240
Speaker 3: with a friend.

785
00:35:27,960 --> 00:35:29,760
Speaker 1: Sorry.

786
00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 3: Lola was about one when she started daycare.

787
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:33,759
Speaker 1: Yeah one, I think like one. Same with us.

788
00:35:33,800 --> 00:35:36,160
Speaker 3: And you know, as much as we would love to

789
00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:40,360
Speaker 3: still have more time with Poppy, it's it's hard. You know,

790
00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:42,600
Speaker 3: Laura has to go back to work. I'm obviously back

791
00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:45,759
Speaker 3: at work. We just don't have that luxury with three

792
00:35:45,800 --> 00:35:46,479
Speaker 3: kids in the mix.

793
00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:47,640
Speaker 1: You're out numbered.

794
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:51,240
Speaker 3: We're out numbered, and I just think at the moment,

795
00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:53,879
Speaker 3: what weighs heavy on my mind is the fact that

796
00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:56,560
Speaker 3: when you weigh up the hours at the end of

797
00:35:56,560 --> 00:36:00,239
Speaker 3: each week, there are certain days where somebody else else

798
00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 3: has clocked up more ours with my child than I

799
00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:06,279
Speaker 3: have as a parent, And that, to me, in a

800
00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 3: simple equation, just makes me feel like I'm being an

801
00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:12,840
Speaker 3: absent father because I just don't have the hours clocked

802
00:36:12,920 --> 00:36:16,200
Speaker 3: up like someone else does. And it's not to say

803
00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:17,920
Speaker 3: that just because you haven't clocked up more ours than

804
00:36:17,960 --> 00:36:20,680
Speaker 3: someone else, you can't be a present dad or a

805
00:36:20,680 --> 00:36:23,200
Speaker 3: present mum. But it's just the way that my brain

806
00:36:23,239 --> 00:36:24,840
Speaker 3: is wide. I don't know if other parents are the same,

807
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:27,600
Speaker 3: but that is a thought that I'm trying to rub

808
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 3: out in my own mind.

809
00:36:28,719 --> 00:36:30,680
Speaker 1: It is just parent guilt, That's what it is. Yeah,

810
00:36:30,719 --> 00:36:32,880
Speaker 1: a lot of the time people can't articulate why they

811
00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:36,719
Speaker 1: feel guilty. You just articulated so their first step already

812
00:36:37,080 --> 00:36:41,080
Speaker 1: you've acknowledged it anyway. And if someone who didn't care,

813
00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:43,319
Speaker 1: and this has been says all the time, didn't care,

814
00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:45,759
Speaker 1: wouldn't even acknowledge it. So the fact that you care

815
00:36:46,320 --> 00:36:48,680
Speaker 1: means that you'll be more mindful of the time that

816
00:36:48,719 --> 00:36:52,040
Speaker 1: when you're with her it might be shorter, but it

817
00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:54,640
Speaker 1: will be a bit deeper and more meaningful.

818
00:36:54,920 --> 00:36:55,279
Speaker 3: Thank you.

819
00:36:57,719 --> 00:37:02,200
Speaker 1: Let me just make sure I got that correct. And

820
00:37:02,200 --> 00:37:06,319
Speaker 1: there's my cosh.

821
00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:08,919
Speaker 3: Can I squeeze in something really quick? Do you mind?

822
00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 1: That's what she said, But yes, he said, time for

823
00:37:12,719 --> 00:37:18,040
Speaker 1: this one of it frees.

824
00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:19,360
Speaker 2: You say, what.

825
00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:25,120
Speaker 1: Man, I feel like a paran.

826
00:37:28,520 --> 00:37:31,239
Speaker 3: This is from Kate. Her pear rant is and just

827
00:37:31,239 --> 00:37:34,480
Speaker 3: for those wondering pair ants is just little gripes that

828
00:37:35,080 --> 00:37:37,080
Speaker 3: you parents can get off your chest, send it to

829
00:37:37,160 --> 00:37:40,000
Speaker 3: us and air it out. Give me oxygen. Her paraunt

830
00:37:40,200 --> 00:37:43,880
Speaker 3: is not being able to discipline other people's kids. It

831
00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:47,919
Speaker 3: is such a moodkiller. I want to disagree. I think

832
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:53,120
Speaker 3: discipline away honestly. Yeah, I'm not saying hit the child

833
00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:54,160
Speaker 3: you are.

834
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:57,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I think it depends on how close you

835
00:37:57,320 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 1: are with that family, you know, Okay, even at the park, bro, Well,

836
00:38:01,560 --> 00:38:03,839
Speaker 1: this is what I mean. There's a there's a how

837
00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:06,160
Speaker 1: close you are, and then how much of a distance.

838
00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 1: There's a sweet spot.

839
00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:09,520
Speaker 3: What about if a kid is throwing sand in Macy's

840
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:10,520
Speaker 3: face in the past.

841
00:38:10,400 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 1: Fucking punched the fuck out, you throw out a little bit,

842
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:18,960
Speaker 1: I grab hold of I grab hold of their parents,

843
00:38:19,320 --> 00:38:22,600
Speaker 1: and I say your kid, no, you don't sand, No,

844
00:38:22,800 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 1: you got it.

845
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:25,200
Speaker 3: You've got to say I have no problem and stepping

846
00:38:25,239 --> 00:38:27,480
Speaker 3: in and saying that's not a kind thing to do.

847
00:38:28,120 --> 00:38:29,120
Speaker 3: Put your hand down.

848
00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fine with the rant. I do agree that

849
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:36,400
Speaker 1: if you're not up to it, like in terms of

850
00:38:36,520 --> 00:38:38,720
Speaker 1: up to okay, well, I've got my kids. I would

851
00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:40,960
Speaker 1: hate it if someone was to tell if my kids

852
00:38:40,960 --> 00:38:43,360
Speaker 1: without saying, hey, your kid's doing this. I get there's different,

853
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:46,320
Speaker 1: as my wife would say, different strokes for different folks.

854
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:47,360
Speaker 1: Whatever that means.

855
00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:49,600
Speaker 3: If you do, you know where it is a perfect example.

856
00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:53,399
Speaker 3: If you're at the pool, not to reference back, could

857
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:56,880
Speaker 3: come back to the pool, but if you're at a

858
00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:59,120
Speaker 3: resort where there's a pool and lots of kids playing,

859
00:38:59,600 --> 00:39:03,280
Speaker 3: and there are certain boys, yeah, got a little bit older,

860
00:39:03,440 --> 00:39:06,319
Speaker 3: being a bit more rough in the water. That is

861
00:39:06,320 --> 00:39:09,440
Speaker 3: a hard environment to be. I can't discipline a kid

862
00:39:09,440 --> 00:39:11,960
Speaker 3: who's over the age of once they're in double digits.

863
00:39:12,560 --> 00:39:13,279
Speaker 3: I can't touch them.

864
00:39:13,360 --> 00:39:16,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I can't approach them. I I have

865
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:18,520
Speaker 1: done it before. I did tell a story or I

866
00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:21,319
Speaker 1: told that kid to fuck off and remember his and

867
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 1: that was the wrong choice of words. But that's just

868
00:39:23,520 --> 00:39:24,960
Speaker 1: an insight to how my mind works.

869
00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:26,080
Speaker 3: Remind me, where was it again?

870
00:39:26,120 --> 00:39:27,800
Speaker 1: He was at a part of the playground and Macy

871
00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:30,000
Speaker 1: was like six months old, and this kid was throwing

872
00:39:30,680 --> 00:39:32,880
Speaker 1: it was like a makeshift Jenger set out of like

873
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:35,839
Speaker 1: timber and he's throwing them and I did say, hey,

874
00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:38,160
Speaker 1: can you not? And then he threw it again and

875
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:40,480
Speaker 1: I was like, can you stop fucking throwing the timber?

876
00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:42,560
Speaker 1: And he walked back, he went got his dad. His

877
00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:46,279
Speaker 1: dad came around. He was his massive bikey. He was

878
00:39:46,320 --> 00:39:50,520
Speaker 1: a nightmare. So there is look, things do backfire sometimes. Thankfully,

879
00:39:50,520 --> 00:39:53,000
Speaker 1: Macy was six months old and that dad, of his

880
00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:56,640
Speaker 1: right mind looked at me, looked at Macy. Went, I

881
00:39:56,800 --> 00:39:59,319
Speaker 1: see what's happening here, and he said to me, Hey,

882
00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:01,920
Speaker 1: you can tell my kid off, just don't use any language.

883
00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:04,360
Speaker 1: And I said, look, I'm really sorry. As you can imagine,

884
00:40:04,640 --> 00:40:09,400
Speaker 1: new Dad, I wasn't. I alwaysl my way out of anything,

885
00:40:09,400 --> 00:40:12,440
Speaker 1: trust me. Anyway, it was all fine, but there's.

886
00:40:12,239 --> 00:40:13,840
Speaker 3: Time that comes over and you push them out of

887
00:40:13,880 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 3: the way.

888
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 1: I tell my friend's kids off all the time, like

889
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:19,880
Speaker 1: I am. I am known as scary Uncle Wiggs, especially

890
00:40:19,880 --> 00:40:22,440
Speaker 1: in the every my space. I think you're allowed to

891
00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:24,640
Speaker 1: be a bit more like, hey, don't do that, this

892
00:40:24,760 --> 00:40:27,959
Speaker 1: is my spae. But like if a kid is noticeably

893
00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:31,200
Speaker 1: not listening and playing up and even not listening to

894
00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:34,160
Speaker 1: mum or whatever, my kid's involved and whatever, and I'll

895
00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:36,120
Speaker 1: be like, first or I'll be like to my kids, hey,

896
00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:39,160
Speaker 1: don't encourage us any further. And then if it continues,

897
00:40:39,200 --> 00:40:42,919
Speaker 1: I'll be like, hey, don't because you yeah. Yeah, I'll

898
00:40:42,920 --> 00:40:45,520
Speaker 1: be like, hey don't because I don't want Oscar or

899
00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:47,960
Speaker 1: Macie picking up that baby. Can you stop?

900
00:40:48,120 --> 00:40:50,239
Speaker 3: Whenever we hang out together, I always have to say

901
00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:52,160
Speaker 3: to my kids the moment before they come in contact

902
00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:54,520
Speaker 3: with you, just remember we're about to see big scary

903
00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:57,279
Speaker 3: uncle ash and at any moment he may explode. So

904
00:40:57,440 --> 00:40:59,840
Speaker 3: just when he says something and he's getting frustrated.

905
00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:02,319
Speaker 1: Run, oh, you couldn't have described me any better. All

906
00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:09,239
Speaker 1: right here he is, Hey, hey, yeah, yeah, I'm going

907
00:41:09,280 --> 00:41:11,960
Speaker 1: to go back to there's a sweet spot. Okay, there

908
00:41:12,040 --> 00:41:14,960
Speaker 1: is a sweet spot. And if you feel comfortable and

909
00:41:15,000 --> 00:41:17,120
Speaker 1: it's like you did it where it's like, hey, don't

910
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:20,279
Speaker 1: do that. Fine. If it's a complete random kid and

911
00:41:20,320 --> 00:41:23,040
Speaker 1: they're a shithead, mouth off as much as you like,

912
00:41:23,080 --> 00:41:25,200
Speaker 1: because at the end of the day, it's your word

913
00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:26,640
Speaker 1: against theirs.

914
00:41:26,239 --> 00:41:27,880
Speaker 3: As long as the parent is not a bikey.

915
00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:31,120
Speaker 1: Yeah. But to check out big big and tattooed. Their

916
00:41:31,120 --> 00:41:31,680
Speaker 1: parents are.

917
00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:37,719
Speaker 3: First as quick question, quick question. We're calling this now

918
00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:39,600
Speaker 3: Doda dilemmas.

919
00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:42,480
Speaker 1: I love it. Okay, yeah, just when I thought this

920
00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 1: show couldn't get any better.

921
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:46,280
Speaker 3: Previously called listener questions.

922
00:41:46,520 --> 00:41:53,880
Speaker 1: That was real creative a long time. Yeah yeah. A

923
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:56,040
Speaker 1: new age of two doting dances upon us.

924
00:41:56,360 --> 00:41:58,400
Speaker 3: First one from someone in the Facebook group, and they

925
00:41:58,400 --> 00:42:01,359
Speaker 3: are wanting to know when you're playing games, will your

926
00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:03,840
Speaker 3: kid could be spork be any other game? Do you

927
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:06,759
Speaker 3: let them win? Or do you say stuff it? I'm

928
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:07,840
Speaker 3: on the victory myself.

929
00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:09,240
Speaker 1: You gotta find a balance.

930
00:42:09,520 --> 00:42:13,760
Speaker 3: I was bowling with the kids recently and I wasn't

931
00:42:13,880 --> 00:42:18,120
Speaker 3: trying to win, but I was ahead of Lola by

932
00:42:18,160 --> 00:42:20,600
Speaker 3: a few points. There was about three rounds to go

933
00:42:21,120 --> 00:42:24,160
Speaker 3: in ten pin bowling, and I thought I could tell

934
00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:26,280
Speaker 3: she really wanted to win. And I was thinking to myself,

935
00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:28,840
Speaker 3: do I throw a couple of gutter balls because the

936
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:31,400
Speaker 3: kids would have the gutters come up for me? No gutters?

937
00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:38,360
Speaker 1: Okay, don't want to, but I don't know, anta guy.

938
00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:39,880
Speaker 1: They came out right, no bumpers.

939
00:42:40,920 --> 00:42:42,360
Speaker 3: And I thought to myself, what do I do. Do

940
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:44,960
Speaker 3: I teach my child an important life lesson in that

941
00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:47,480
Speaker 3: you don't always win, yes? Or do I give her

942
00:42:47,480 --> 00:42:48,000
Speaker 3: the victory?

943
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:49,680
Speaker 1: He gave it to her, didn't.

944
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:55,000
Speaker 3: I accidentally bowld a strike, oh yeah, who followed by

945
00:42:55,600 --> 00:43:02,799
Speaker 3: another strike and she was very, very very upset. And

946
00:43:02,840 --> 00:43:05,560
Speaker 3: the thing is, you try and teaching this important life lesson,

947
00:43:05,560 --> 00:43:07,799
Speaker 3: but then you've got to deal with the aftermath. You know,

948
00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:11,760
Speaker 3: you're talking half an hour of winging, like I've just forked.

949
00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:14,880
Speaker 1: Out all rub it in the lesson. I think it

950
00:43:14,920 --> 00:43:17,759
Speaker 1: can't be that they're gonna lose every time you're right,

951
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:21,239
Speaker 1: especially if they're putting in hard work. But also as well,

952
00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:23,280
Speaker 1: they can't win every time. Like I always say to Oscar,

953
00:43:23,520 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 1: you can win everything, but be a good winner about it.

954
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:29,200
Speaker 1: So like, for example, if he beats you still be like, hey, good,

955
00:43:29,200 --> 00:43:31,440
Speaker 1: that was a good game, right. I think that's really important,

956
00:43:31,520 --> 00:43:34,799
Speaker 1: especially when you're playing team sports and you aren't in

957
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:37,279
Speaker 1: control of everything and you're not gonna win everything all

958
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:39,080
Speaker 1: the time. Like you can try your best as long

959
00:43:39,080 --> 00:43:41,040
Speaker 1: as you try your best. But then at the same time,

960
00:43:41,160 --> 00:43:43,799
Speaker 1: I don't think that letting them win everything is good

961
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:45,560
Speaker 1: as well, because if they go out to school and

962
00:43:45,560 --> 00:43:48,480
Speaker 1: they're like, oh yeah, I always win. Like at the

963
00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:50,480
Speaker 1: moment Oscar and I play you know, the game horse

964
00:43:50,600 --> 00:43:53,360
Speaker 1: right where you shoot from a spot with basketball and

965
00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:55,960
Speaker 1: you get the letters ours is called pooh because one

966
00:43:56,200 --> 00:43:58,719
Speaker 1: they think it's funny and two it's way shorter.

967
00:43:58,560 --> 00:43:59,240
Speaker 3: Easy to spell.

968
00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:02,440
Speaker 1: It's way and Oscar loves he loves just saying you're

969
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:04,359
Speaker 1: a poo at the end of it. Great bit of fun,

970
00:44:04,800 --> 00:44:07,880
Speaker 1: but it's a lower hoop and whatever like that. And

971
00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:10,120
Speaker 1: I let him win a couple I win, and we

972
00:44:10,480 --> 00:44:12,480
Speaker 1: try and keep it as even as possible. Sometimes I'm

973
00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:16,600
Speaker 1: just on. But then we went to a park that

974
00:44:16,640 --> 00:44:18,680
Speaker 1: had a basketball hoop that's regulation high.

975
00:44:18,680 --> 00:44:20,640
Speaker 3: And you actually fucking dominated.

976
00:44:20,800 --> 00:44:25,000
Speaker 1: I was dunking on that boy. No, but he was like, oh, yeah,

977
00:44:25,040 --> 00:44:27,280
Speaker 1: this is easy, and bragging to his mates and stuff

978
00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:29,080
Speaker 1: like that. And then I didn't say anything.

979
00:44:29,080 --> 00:44:30,920
Speaker 3: You take your shirt off and you're like left dance.

980
00:44:31,320 --> 00:44:33,960
Speaker 1: I didn't say anything because I thought, you're not strong

981
00:44:34,040 --> 00:44:36,360
Speaker 1: enough to reach that hoop with the ball, young boy,

982
00:44:36,520 --> 00:44:37,640
Speaker 1: And I'm not going to tell you that. I'm gonna

983
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:38,600
Speaker 1: let you figure it out.

984
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:39,960
Speaker 3: It's resilience building.

985
00:44:40,080 --> 00:44:42,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, And he was hitting the rim, hitting the rim

986
00:44:42,160 --> 00:44:44,680
Speaker 1: from the bottom because he's saying he's like four foot

987
00:44:45,520 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 1: and the hoop's like seven and a half feet or whatever.

988
00:44:47,880 --> 00:44:50,280
Speaker 1: And I said to him, Hey, you can't be walking

989
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:52,880
Speaker 1: around here thinking you're dominating. I think that's even worse

990
00:44:52,960 --> 00:44:55,440
Speaker 1: because if they're going and winning everything their whole lives

991
00:44:55,480 --> 00:44:58,360
Speaker 1: because your parents, your parents have let them win, then like,

992
00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:00,279
Speaker 1: how are they going to build any resistance? How are

993
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:02,040
Speaker 1: they going to act when they go out and get

994
00:45:02,040 --> 00:45:04,080
Speaker 1: flogged by someone, which happens.

995
00:45:04,640 --> 00:45:06,239
Speaker 3: Do you remember when I said this would be a

996
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:06,759
Speaker 3: quick one.

997
00:45:08,160 --> 00:45:14,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, Do you think I fucking listened? I got that.

998
00:45:15,440 --> 00:45:17,720
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna let you win this one, all right,

999
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:19,719
Speaker 1: But I think no, I think no, I think you've

1000
00:45:19,719 --> 00:45:20,399
Speaker 1: got to find a balance.

1001
00:45:20,680 --> 00:45:21,359
Speaker 3: You've made your point.

1002
00:45:21,640 --> 00:45:26,759
Speaker 1: What okay, I got one as well for you. We

1003
00:45:26,840 --> 00:45:28,920
Speaker 1: just had like a really rainy Sunday. So this is

1004
00:45:28,960 --> 00:45:33,040
Speaker 1: a good one. Actually, What family movies left you traumatized

1005
00:45:33,080 --> 00:45:33,760
Speaker 1: as a child?

1006
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:39,200
Speaker 3: The first one that sticks out? And I blame my

1007
00:45:39,320 --> 00:45:42,560
Speaker 3: older sister for this. Shout out to Kate, who is listening.

1008
00:45:43,080 --> 00:45:44,280
Speaker 3: Do you remember my girl?

1009
00:45:45,040 --> 00:45:45,120
Speaker 4: No?

1010
00:45:45,960 --> 00:45:47,400
Speaker 1: What my girl?

1011
00:45:47,440 --> 00:45:49,960
Speaker 3: It's Macaulay Culkin. He plays a little boy.

1012
00:45:50,200 --> 00:45:54,520
Speaker 1: That's home alone. Bro also rip to the mum and

1013
00:45:54,560 --> 00:45:55,440
Speaker 1: home alone died.

1014
00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:57,360
Speaker 3: Thank you home, I mean.

1015
00:45:59,080 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 1: My girl gotcha.

1016
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:03,560
Speaker 3: It is a beautiful story of a young boy a

1017
00:46:03,640 --> 00:46:07,959
Speaker 3: young girl. It's a love story essentially, but the young

1018
00:46:08,040 --> 00:46:13,360
Speaker 3: children and tragically the boy dies. He's allergic to bees, okay,

1019
00:46:13,400 --> 00:46:17,480
Speaker 3: And then they have this open casket funeral in the house.

1020
00:46:18,480 --> 00:46:21,680
Speaker 3: Oh my god, and he's had you can see literally

1021
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:25,160
Speaker 3: open casket. He's got bee stings all over his face.

1022
00:46:25,239 --> 00:46:29,440
Speaker 3: And then the girl runs up to the coffin and

1023
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:31,840
Speaker 3: she's saying he can't see. He doesn't have his glasses

1024
00:46:32,320 --> 00:46:36,160
Speaker 3: because he wears glasses. It's horrific. What is it with?

1025
00:46:36,440 --> 00:46:38,319
Speaker 3: And it's a kid's film. I remember watching it with

1026
00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:41,399
Speaker 3: my sister being like, A, I.

1027
00:46:41,360 --> 00:46:44,279
Speaker 1: Know what, Like, there's so much death in these old movies. Look,

1028
00:46:44,280 --> 00:46:46,480
Speaker 1: we were watching The Emperor's New Groove with the kids,

1029
00:46:46,480 --> 00:46:47,839
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, that's a fun line.

1030
00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:48,000
Speaker 4: Hu.

1031
00:46:48,520 --> 00:46:51,279
Speaker 1: She tries to kill the Emperor and then they're like,

1032
00:46:51,320 --> 00:46:53,719
Speaker 1: look at these peasants wish they're trying to kill you.

1033
00:46:53,880 --> 00:46:57,000
Speaker 1: It's like, what the fuck? Like, Oh, my god, is

1034
00:46:57,120 --> 00:46:57,520
Speaker 1: the Grooves?

1035
00:46:57,640 --> 00:46:59,160
Speaker 3: It's not old? Is it? It's how old?

1036
00:46:59,360 --> 00:47:03,960
Speaker 1: Yeah? We're talking like animation, like a late nineties to

1037
00:47:04,080 --> 00:47:06,719
Speaker 1: early two thousands animation before Toy Story and stuff like

1038
00:47:06,719 --> 00:47:09,320
Speaker 1: that really like took stride and became more three D.

1039
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:12,879
Speaker 1: I'm talking to two D stuff. One that really like

1040
00:47:13,000 --> 00:47:15,640
Speaker 1: stands out for me that I can recall is Bambi.

1041
00:47:15,920 --> 00:47:16,760
Speaker 3: What happens in Bambi?

1042
00:47:16,920 --> 00:47:19,440
Speaker 1: From what I recall, there's a bush fire and the

1043
00:47:19,560 --> 00:47:22,320
Speaker 1: mum of this baby deer dies.

1044
00:47:22,600 --> 00:47:25,200
Speaker 3: Okay, she dies, she gets burnt, she gets burned alive.

1045
00:47:25,320 --> 00:47:30,040
Speaker 1: Do you hear? I can steal her screaming? No, there's that. Okay,

1046
00:47:30,080 --> 00:47:33,759
Speaker 1: So let's just recall really quick Bambi, there's a bushfire,

1047
00:47:33,920 --> 00:47:38,480
Speaker 1: the mum dice, traumatic lion king. There's a stampede. Of course,

1048
00:47:38,680 --> 00:47:42,480
Speaker 1: Scar pushes the dad off. He murders the dad on

1049
00:47:42,600 --> 00:47:45,440
Speaker 1: a children's film in front of all the children. The brother.

1050
00:47:45,800 --> 00:47:48,040
Speaker 1: I can't even watch it. I'm in my thirties, the brother.

1051
00:47:48,120 --> 00:47:51,200
Speaker 1: So can you imagine your uncle murdering your dad? That's

1052
00:47:51,239 --> 00:47:52,600
Speaker 1: pretty much what's happened.

1053
00:47:54,000 --> 00:47:56,719
Speaker 3: Of you, and not just you know, you're falling from

1054
00:47:56,719 --> 00:48:00,640
Speaker 3: a great height. You were then trampled to death by

1055
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:01,440
Speaker 3: other animals.

1056
00:48:01,520 --> 00:48:05,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, but then he also after that, he forces his

1057
00:48:05,200 --> 00:48:10,239
Speaker 1: nephew to run away. It's a child, so it's horrific.

1058
00:48:10,320 --> 00:48:13,160
Speaker 1: How did I no wonder I've got a fear of abandonment, like,

1059
00:48:13,239 --> 00:48:16,239
Speaker 1: for God's sake, how would I know? Like as a

1060
00:48:16,280 --> 00:48:18,920
Speaker 1: child watching that, I think that's just normal. Granted it

1061
00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:20,360
Speaker 1: is animation and the lions.

1062
00:48:20,840 --> 00:48:22,040
Speaker 3: Did you watch the lamb before time?

1063
00:48:22,360 --> 00:48:23,680
Speaker 1: That's what I was gonna say. And I don't know

1064
00:48:23,719 --> 00:48:25,680
Speaker 1: the details of that, but I know the mom dies.

1065
00:48:25,840 --> 00:48:28,320
Speaker 3: Let me just littlefoot, Okay. I think they're like a

1066
00:48:28,360 --> 00:48:31,400
Speaker 3: diplodocus long neck dinosaur. Herb before the one was like

1067
00:48:31,480 --> 00:48:35,400
Speaker 3: a penis. Yes, go go on? So littlefoot. They're walking

1068
00:48:35,440 --> 00:48:39,120
Speaker 3: along what comes along t rex, but the mom is

1069
00:48:39,239 --> 00:48:43,880
Speaker 3: so brave that she fights, fights to the death to

1070
00:48:44,000 --> 00:48:48,240
Speaker 3: save her little child. She then gets the t rex,

1071
00:48:48,440 --> 00:48:52,640
Speaker 3: she beats him, but then she is so badly hurt

1072
00:48:52,719 --> 00:48:55,400
Speaker 3: that she is no longer able to continue. And then

1073
00:48:55,440 --> 00:48:58,160
Speaker 3: the mom's last words are to her child as she

1074
00:48:58,239 --> 00:49:01,360
Speaker 3: is taking her last breath, remember the way to the

1075
00:49:01,400 --> 00:49:04,839
Speaker 3: hidden valley, and she's saying like, mum, please.

1076
00:49:05,280 --> 00:49:06,880
Speaker 1: And then she slowly passes away, and.

1077
00:49:06,880 --> 00:49:10,839
Speaker 3: Then she then dies. I can't. I can't. Even now,

1078
00:49:11,200 --> 00:49:13,520
Speaker 3: as a man in his forties, we're living that moment.

1079
00:49:14,000 --> 00:49:15,280
Speaker 3: It's bringing me to tears.

1080
00:49:15,600 --> 00:49:18,840
Speaker 1: Oh I know the bush fire from Bambi is burned

1081
00:49:18,880 --> 00:49:20,160
Speaker 1: in the back of my head.

1082
00:49:20,160 --> 00:49:21,839
Speaker 3: Literally choice of words, ask come on.

1083
00:49:22,600 --> 00:49:26,960
Speaker 1: And also like, honey, I shrunk the kids. Oh my god,

1084
00:49:27,480 --> 00:49:29,360
Speaker 1: I was so worried I was going to be shrunk

1085
00:49:29,520 --> 00:49:31,520
Speaker 1: everywhere I went. I'm like, Dad, get away from me,

1086
00:49:31,600 --> 00:49:35,400
Speaker 1: don't shrink me. The ant oh my god, the ant

1087
00:49:35,440 --> 00:49:38,439
Speaker 1: in it. Anyway, it's all traumatic. How did we get

1088
00:49:38,480 --> 00:49:40,680
Speaker 1: by ash ash?

1089
00:49:40,719 --> 00:49:43,239
Speaker 3: We need to go?

1090
00:49:43,360 --> 00:49:46,160
Speaker 1: Yes, we do, sorry around We know you didn't, but

1091
00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:49,120
Speaker 1: I do want to know dotor dilemmas if there are

1092
00:49:49,200 --> 00:49:51,920
Speaker 1: any listeners out there, go to our Facebook group if

1093
00:49:51,920 --> 00:49:54,120
Speaker 1: you're not a friend already requested to be a friend

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Speaker 1: and give us your dot dilemmas so we can try

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Speaker 1: and solve them, or we could just reminisce and traumatize ourselves.

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Speaker 3: A please also finance on social media at Two Doting

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Speaker 3: Dads on TikTok on Instagram.

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Speaker 1: Instagram, TikTok YouTube said that a race said, no, you didn't,

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Speaker 1: I said to TikTok, yeah I didn't.

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Speaker 3: I did. I did.

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Speaker 1: Go back listen.

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Speaker 3: To the taps.

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Speaker 1: If you did like this episode, please leave a review,

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Speaker 1: send it to a friend. Five stars Spotify. We we

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Speaker 1: are going to do a tutory on how to leave

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Speaker 1: a review if you don't know how to keep an

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Speaker 1: eye out for that time to go.

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Speaker 3: I think that's it. Yep, it's been a pleasure recording.

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Speaker 2: With you today.

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Speaker 1: I wish I could say the same.

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Speaker 3: Like what a joy, What a joy every Tuesday spending

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Speaker 3: it with yourself?

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Speaker 2: Wow?

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Speaker 5: Wow, Okay, okay, goodbye.

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Speaker 3: Two Doting Dads podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country

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Speaker 3: throughout Australia and the connections to land, see and community.

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Speaker 1: We pay our respects to their elders past and present,

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Speaker 1: and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torrestrate Islander

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Speaker 1: peoples today. This episode was recorded on Gadagal Land.