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Speaker 1: You're listening to the Jonesy and Demander podcast. This isn't

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Speaker 1: like you to bring up married at First Site for

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Speaker 1: the pub test. I've fallen into married at First Site again.

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Speaker 1: I know I'm addicted. I have a problem.

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Speaker 2: I live vicariously through you because I choose not to

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Speaker 2: watch it, and you said this year you weren't going to.

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Speaker 3: But I know you've been sucked back in.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so married at first site this year.

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Speaker 1: There's a lot of first The most disgusting kiss ever

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Speaker 1: on Australian TV.

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Speaker 4: I'm going to a mango eating competition that was dreadful.

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Speaker 4: The most irritating man on Australian TV. No, no, this guy? Hello, Hello,

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Speaker 4: what do you watch five minutes? Mate?

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Speaker 1: Anyway, one of the brides on the show has a

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Speaker 1: child and someone let the cat out of the bag.

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Speaker 2: She didn't want to let the cat out of the bag.

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Speaker 2: She didn't want people to know, apparently.

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Speaker 4: And as she so maternally put.

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Speaker 3: It, who the hell told him I had a kid?

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Speaker 1: I'd be pointing the finger at by drunken uncle Jeer.

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Speaker 3: So what does what is jeer?

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Speaker 2: Jeer does?

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Speaker 3: She's the housemim a daughter? Oh okay, she's got a daughter.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so uncle's five beers deep.

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Speaker 2: I'd be pointing the finger at the drunken uncle. And

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Speaker 2: also cesarean scars always a giveaway.

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Speaker 4: They're always a giveaway? Where get those from?

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Speaker 3: See?

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Speaker 2: What point are you going to discuss this? This is

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Speaker 2: the thing that I find interesting. And I know this

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Speaker 2: is a TV show and it's you know, supposed real relationships,

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Speaker 2: et cetera, But it does start a conversation. If you're

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Speaker 2: not going to admit to being a parent a that's

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Speaker 2: a red flag that the child's not front and center

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Speaker 2: for you.

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Speaker 3: But I think you have the right of going.

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Speaker 2: Into this show to know if someone you're matched with

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Speaker 2: has a child, because it's okay to say you're not

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Speaker 2: up to that, and she should want to know whether

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Speaker 2: he's up for that.

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Speaker 1: When this is different times When we were kids, my

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Speaker 1: parents said, don't come home with a single mother.

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Speaker 4: That was the that was the thing. That's how they

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Speaker 4: the prism of nineteen ninety.

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Speaker 2: I've been married since two There are lots of single

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Speaker 2: parents around. But also you are allowed to not want

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Speaker 2: to parachute into somebody's life and raise their children.

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Speaker 3: That may be a wonderful thing for you. But you're

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Speaker 3: allowed to have the choice.

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Speaker 1: But I'm looking from Geo's side of this at the

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Speaker 1: moment because in a way, you're sort of going on

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Speaker 1: well at the older merredith first side is not a

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Speaker 1: natural thing.

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Speaker 2: No, but she has filled out a million forms, she's

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Speaker 2: had a psyched test.

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Speaker 4: But isn't her job to tell the yes, it is

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Speaker 4: the groom.

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Speaker 3: No, it's her job to put that in her information.

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Speaker 2: And if he hasn't been informed of that, that's probably

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Speaker 2: the producer's deliberate story.

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Speaker 1: We of course, Yeah, that's why we're talking about it,

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Speaker 1: that's why we're watching it.

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 2: But I do think that that sets up a terrible

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Speaker 2: person if people think, oh, that's what happens. I do

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Speaker 2: know someone who did that. She thought it'd be a

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Speaker 2: short term fling one point. At what point, if it

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Speaker 2: becomes more serious, do you say, here's something I need

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Speaker 2: to tell you.

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Speaker 3: I just think it's fraught. It's a red flag if.

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Speaker 2: It's not important enough to you. Yep, and he or

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Speaker 2: she has a right to know if you have a child, I.

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Speaker 3: Think, what do you think you're putting this to the

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Speaker 3: pub test today? Not saying early in a relationship that

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Speaker 3: you have a child. Does this pass the pub test?

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Speaker 3: I'd say it's a big no. Got to mention the kids.

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Speaker 2: Do you want to relate to with somebody?

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Speaker 1: How do you know if they want kids or not?

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Speaker 3: You're setting yourself up fail.

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Speaker 2: You should bring it up first thing.

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Speaker 4: You know, you should say.

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Speaker 3: That you have a kid.

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Speaker 4: I'm twenty three years old, I'm.

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Speaker 1: A full time single dad and I get on the Tinder,

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Speaker 1: I get on the day and app I cut it

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Speaker 1: forward and just say I've got a kid. Love.

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Speaker 2: No, I think it depends whether it's a not negotiable

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Speaker 2: on your list. For me, it's a not negotiable no children,

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Speaker 2: and so no, it doesn't pass the pub test for me.

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm with Jonesy firstly that I've been dragged into

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Speaker 1: marriag at first side again.

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Speaker 4: But I'm with Amanda. Is the having a child or is.

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Speaker 2: A kid as you referred to, it should be front

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Speaker 2: and center, So not mentioning it definitely doesn't pass.

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Speaker 4: The public No.

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Speaker 3: Upfront and honest. Your children are your life. You know

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Speaker 3: that's coming with you into the relationship. It happened to

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Speaker 3: my daughter and she was upfront and honest. So upfront

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Speaker 3: and honest you're keeping your priority.

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Speaker 4: You should be telling guys that you're serious about that.

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Speaker 3: You've got a kids. But if you're at the pub,

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Speaker 3: I'm looking for a one night stand, I don't think

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Speaker 3: you need you.

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Speaker 2: That's interesting because what happens if you have a one

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Speaker 2: night stand and it ends up oldest, it'll be a

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Speaker 2: two nights stand? Look what I'll see him from a

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Speaker 2: month and a night. What if you end up having

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Speaker 2: a long term relationship? This is the stuff of movies.

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Speaker 2: At what point do you confess.

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Speaker 4: This is what you say? He's a packet of chips. Mate,

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Speaker 4: I'm sit in the car for a bit.

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Speaker 3: Save that to the kid.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm not saying it to the person.

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Speaker 2: Idiots, I want to make kid to school. Do you

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Speaker 2: mind sitting in the back of the car with a

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Speaker 2: packet of chips?

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Speaker 4: What is old? May think?

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Speaker 3: Sha sha with him? I'm with him.

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Speaker 4: You have to be so.

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Speaker 2: I know you're going to talk about this show again

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Speaker 2: tomorrow and you're going to say I just dragged back in.

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Speaker 4: It's an addiction.

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Speaker 3: Okay, you can do something about that.

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Speaker 4: I've got to get help