WEBVTT - She Was Told She’d Never Make It. 200 Rejections Later, She Proved Them Wrong. 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:02.960 My name is Tatasha Bamblet. I'm a proud First Nations 0:00:03.000 --> 0:00:07.280 woman and I'm here to acknowledge country t Glenn Young 0:00:07.320 --> 0:00:11.400 Ganya Niana, Kaka yah Ya bin Ahaka nian Ar gay 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:17.120 In Mbina yakarum jar dominyamiga Umagahawakawaman damon imlan Bumba bang 0:00:17.160 --> 0:00:22.439 Gadabomba in and now in wakah ghana on yakraum jar Watnadaa. Hello, 0:00:22.480 --> 0:00:25.920 beautiful friends, we gather on the lands of the Aboriginal people. 0:00:26.360 --> 0:00:29.080 We thank acknowledge and respect the Aberiginal people's land that 0:00:29.120 --> 0:00:31.880 we're gathering on today. Take pleasure in all the land 0:00:32.080 --> 0:00:35.320 and respect all that you see. She's on the Money 0:00:35.360 --> 0:00:41.960 podcast acknowledges culture, country, community and connections, bringing you the tools, 0:00:42.400 --> 0:00:44.560 knowledge and resources for you to thrive. 0:00:45.080 --> 0:00:47.840 She's on the Money. She's on the Money. 0:01:08.080 --> 0:01:11.119 Hello, and welcome to She's on the Money, the podcast 0:01:11.200 --> 0:01:14.760 that lets you be pervy about other people's money situations. 0:01:14.480 --> 0:01:18.119 For educational purposes of course. Welcome back to another one 0:01:18.200 --> 0:01:19.040 of our Money. 0:01:18.880 --> 0:01:21.880 Daries episodes where I get the absolute pleasure of sitting 0:01:21.920 --> 0:01:24.200 down and having a chat with one of our beautiful 0:01:24.319 --> 0:01:27.880 community members all about their journey. Let's jump straight into it, 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:30.360 because we got a message this week and it sounded 0:01:30.520 --> 0:01:34.920 exactly like this, dear, she's on the money. I went 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:37.280 from being a small town country kid where there were 0:01:37.400 --> 0:01:40.560 only eight people in my year in primary school to 0:01:40.680 --> 0:01:43.440 being a big tael lawyer who is finding her feet 0:01:43.600 --> 0:01:48.279 financially after applying for two hundred jobs to get. 0:01:48.160 --> 0:01:49.160 My first law job. 0:01:49.720 --> 0:01:52.680 I have savings and investments for the first time, and 0:01:52.800 --> 0:01:55.960 I no longer spend every single cent on random items, 0:01:56.000 --> 0:01:59.160 and of course I have big career goals too. My 0:01:59.280 --> 0:02:01.720 money story is and I would love to share it 0:02:01.800 --> 0:02:05.520 with the community. Money Diarist, Welcome to the show. 0:02:05.840 --> 0:02:06.760 Thank you for having me. 0:02:07.080 --> 0:02:09.440 I'm very excited. People aren't going to know this, but 0:02:10.080 --> 0:02:12.160 I saw your name out producer book to you because 0:02:12.200 --> 0:02:13.880 you obviously had a great story. And then I saw 0:02:13.919 --> 0:02:16.079 your name and I'm like, hey, we're internet friends, like 0:02:16.160 --> 0:02:18.040 we talk in my DMS all the time, and I 0:02:18.160 --> 0:02:21.120 was like kind of low key excited because you've messaged 0:02:21.200 --> 0:02:23.600 me along this career journey of yours. 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:24.959 Being like, Hey, what should I do here or what 0:02:25.040 --> 0:02:25.799 does this look like? 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:28.600 And I think we've bonded over it, so I'm excited 0:02:28.680 --> 0:02:30.920 that you've come out of my dms and now you're 0:02:30.960 --> 0:02:32.800 on my show, Like this is so exciting. 0:02:33.160 --> 0:02:36.760 The way I squealed when immering me, I was like, 0:02:37.440 --> 0:02:42.079 no way. And then I've told literally everyone. 0:02:42.280 --> 0:02:43.560 It's a good story. 0:02:44.600 --> 0:02:46.920 And it's one of those things where like I'm obviously 0:02:47.000 --> 0:02:49.280 quite active on socials, but I'm also very active in 0:02:49.360 --> 0:02:51.919 my dms, Like I love having a yap with my community, 0:02:52.040 --> 0:02:54.840 Like it's not you know, I just post random stories 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:56.960 and then don't reply to you, like if you ask 0:02:57.040 --> 0:02:58.840 me a career question, I'm like, all right, sit down, babe. 0:02:58.880 --> 0:03:01.799 So my thoughts are I have been known to send 0:03:02.200 --> 0:03:06.359 voice notes, I send like attachments, I'll find links on 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:08.680 the internet for you, Like I just think we're besties 0:03:08.720 --> 0:03:11.800 that haven't met yet, and so I think we became 0:03:12.040 --> 0:03:14.200 like that, and you would ask me all these career questions, 0:03:14.280 --> 0:03:17.160 and I remember always saying, like, girl, this is so common. 0:03:17.240 --> 0:03:18.160 Stop stressing. 0:03:18.800 --> 0:03:20.720 And so now I'm glad that we're talking about this 0:03:20.840 --> 0:03:24.840 on the podcast because I'm hoping that those dms become 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:28.600 an episode that help other people feel confident going through this, 0:03:28.720 --> 0:03:31.880 because it can be heartbreaking to be like I applied 0:03:31.880 --> 0:03:34.239 for two hundred jobs like so many people would have 0:03:34.240 --> 0:03:35.000 given up before then. 0:03:35.120 --> 0:03:39.400 Right, Yeah, I am definitely known for my grit end 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:43.720 my never giving up. But if I could just even 0:03:43.800 --> 0:03:48.040 help one baby, lawere, just know that it's so common, 0:03:48.520 --> 0:03:49.360 you will. I love it. 0:03:49.640 --> 0:03:51.960 So our friend from across the Ditch is on the 0:03:52.000 --> 0:03:54.280 show now to give us a lot of confidence. But 0:03:54.360 --> 0:03:56.760 before we get there, and before I dive further into 0:03:56.840 --> 0:03:59.400 your story, my Nita Aust, I need to know what 0:03:59.600 --> 0:04:02.200 grade'd you grade your habits from A three to F 0:04:02.280 --> 0:04:04.080 If I forced you to give them a grade. 0:04:04.120 --> 0:04:07.080 I would give myself either an A minus or a 0:04:07.200 --> 0:04:10.640 B plus. Considering where I've come from, I'm definitely reckon. 0:04:10.680 --> 0:04:13.280 I'd be about an ANS B plus good of range. 0:04:13.800 --> 0:04:16.960 I'm very excited to learn more about this. I know 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:19.720 a little bit about you, but now's your time to shine. 0:04:19.960 --> 0:04:22.480 Tell me. Tell me a little bit more about your 0:04:22.520 --> 0:04:23.200 money story. 0:04:23.720 --> 0:04:26.960 So I grew up in a very small town North 0:04:27.360 --> 0:04:30.000 y Keatto, much like what my money story. See if 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:33.479 here was eight of us in my class. So when 0:04:33.600 --> 0:04:38.080 I started having big city dreams, it was you're not 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:41.520 good enough, you won't make it. Tall poppy syndrome was 0:04:41.920 --> 0:04:45.000 rife that kind of thing, and I grew up in 0:04:45.120 --> 0:04:50.120 a i'd say probably middle class sort of household. We 0:04:50.279 --> 0:04:55.239 weren't riding the poverty line, but we also weren't going 0:04:55.400 --> 0:05:00.240 on yearly holidays. We weren't splurging on big items and 0:05:00.320 --> 0:05:03.680 that kind of thing. Money was never really talked about either, 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:09.640 So I would pick up on signals from my parents, 0:05:10.480 --> 0:05:15.200 and I knew that money was tight, but it wasn't 0:05:15.760 --> 0:05:22.880 talked about still. And then I moved from the Northway 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:25.360 Heado to chrish It with five hundred dollars to my 0:05:25.520 --> 0:05:29.960 name and a dream of somehow I'm going to make it. 0:05:30.080 --> 0:05:32.680 I don't know how, I don't know when, but I will. 0:05:33.680 --> 0:05:38.960 I started a Bachelor of Law after working out that 0:05:39.080 --> 0:05:42.360 law is a lot easier than forensic science. Oh yeah. 0:05:44.040 --> 0:05:47.800 I was doing chemistry papers and not doing very good. 0:05:47.880 --> 0:05:51.280 But my law papers I just found so much easier. 0:05:51.839 --> 0:05:53.760 I don't know how that makes sense, but it does 0:05:53.839 --> 0:05:54.040 for me. 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:55.960 What do you mean it doesn't like that makes a 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:58.120 lot of sense, Like you just have an area that 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:01.320 you flourish here. Yeah, it's like some people they're like, girl, 0:06:01.480 --> 0:06:04.160 I couldn't do financial management, what the hell? But I'm 0:06:04.240 --> 0:06:07.400 actually really good at marketing and economics, like we all 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:10.440 just have something that somehow just makes sense to the 0:06:10.520 --> 0:06:12.159 way that our brain is wired. 0:06:12.520 --> 0:06:15.640 Had just clicked and off I went. In the end. 0:06:16.400 --> 0:06:20.760 During my four years at Yoni, I dealt with my 0:06:20.920 --> 0:06:25.479 dad being terminally ill. As you know, he's from our Deans. 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:29.120 He's going down hellative care end of life at the moment, 0:06:29.160 --> 0:06:32.840 which is really sad and hard, but unfortunately it is 0:06:32.880 --> 0:06:36.320 the way of life. My ex fiance was in a 0:06:36.400 --> 0:06:39.720 motorcycle accident and almost died, and I set exams on 0:06:39.800 --> 0:06:40.680 the hospital. 0:06:40.360 --> 0:06:43.320 For you literally cannot say that you're not committed to 0:06:43.400 --> 0:06:46.160 your studies or your career, like no knowing you in 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:50.960 the background, like this woman, holy gockamole, Like she's told 0:06:51.000 --> 0:06:52.800 me so much about it, which I'm so grateful for, 0:06:52.960 --> 0:06:55.960 but I'm just like, sorry, what do you know what 0:06:56.000 --> 0:06:57.960 I would have been doing trying to get an exemption, 0:06:58.520 --> 0:07:01.000 like trying to get out of it, like not doing it. 0:07:01.040 --> 0:07:02.760 And you're like, oh no, Like I could do it 0:07:02.839 --> 0:07:06.000 on the hospital floor, that's fine. I was like, is 0:07:06.120 --> 0:07:06.880 that even an option? 0:07:07.760 --> 0:07:11.240 You just your make though, And I attribute the way 0:07:11.280 --> 0:07:14.600 I am to my mother. When I was in high school, 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:19.960 my dad had a workplace accident and slipped into depression, 0:07:20.160 --> 0:07:23.840 in a very very bad depression. So my mum became 0:07:24.120 --> 0:07:28.080 a single mum. Well dad was there, but she took 0:07:28.120 --> 0:07:30.960 over the reins of e briefing and I think I 0:07:31.400 --> 0:07:35.400 only ever saw her breakdown maybe twice that entire time. 0:07:35.920 --> 0:07:39.880 And during that time, I was the feral teenage daughter 0:07:40.080 --> 0:07:42.920 and she had my two sisters to deal with at 0:07:42.960 --> 0:07:46.280 the same time. And I think watching her strength is 0:07:46.360 --> 0:07:49.120 what gave me my strength to be like ohnh that's 0:07:49.200 --> 0:07:52.920 just the way I life. And then I got my 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:56.200 law degree, which is probably one of the most exciting 0:07:56.280 --> 0:07:57.160 days of my life. 0:07:57.400 --> 0:07:58.559 You're from a small town. 0:07:59.200 --> 0:08:01.800 I didn't ask before, but what did your parents do, Like, 0:08:02.040 --> 0:08:04.600 was this something where they had higher education as well, 0:08:04.720 --> 0:08:06.120 or are you like one of the first in the 0:08:06.200 --> 0:08:07.760 family to go through that journey. 0:08:08.000 --> 0:08:09.560 I'm one of the first in the family. 0:08:09.880 --> 0:08:11.360 That's so sick, isn't it. 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:15.680 My mum was a horse trainer growing up, and then 0:08:16.240 --> 0:08:19.520 she moved into dairy farming and that kind of thing 0:08:20.160 --> 0:08:23.120 as a kid. My dad did dairy farming and truck driving, 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:27.160 and then he had his accident and didn't work for 0:08:27.480 --> 0:08:33.439 ten plus years, and then he ended up working for 0:08:33.559 --> 0:08:37.160 a government role and has only recently retired in the 0:08:37.280 --> 0:08:38.720 last four years. 0:08:39.360 --> 0:08:40.360 I hate so. 0:08:40.800 --> 0:08:43.000 Yeah, I'm the first one to go to UNI, the 0:08:43.040 --> 0:08:46.319 first one to get a big girl degree, and it 0:08:46.520 --> 0:08:50.199 was definitely the biggest middle finger to everyone that I 0:08:50.280 --> 0:08:53.199 grew up with that said you wouldn't amount to anything. 0:08:53.559 --> 0:08:54.959 And did your parents love that? 0:08:55.120 --> 0:08:57.600 Because like, I just I know my parents were really 0:08:57.640 --> 0:09:00.440 proud of me, and like, I went through that journey, 0:09:00.520 --> 0:09:02.760 but I didn't face nearly as much adversity. 0:09:02.840 --> 0:09:05.400 Were they like jumping for joy? Because I just would 0:09:05.400 --> 0:09:06.920 have been like, yeah, that's my daughter. She's gonna be 0:09:06.960 --> 0:09:09.080 a lawyer, Like, ah, how cool. 0:09:09.320 --> 0:09:12.880 Yeah, that was definitely my parents. The day I graduated, 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:16.200 I was dancing in the car park in my sixteen 0:09:16.280 --> 0:09:17.920 hundred dollars Valentino rock duds. 0:09:18.320 --> 0:09:24.080 Yeah, yeah, I love this for you so much. 0:09:24.520 --> 0:09:29.199 And then yes, I got my law degree. I then 0:09:30.040 --> 0:09:33.640 was teaching and dairy farming to bring money in because 0:09:34.000 --> 0:09:34.839 those don't stop. 0:09:35.080 --> 0:09:38.080 No, that's crazy, rude. I didn't you just show them 0:09:38.120 --> 0:09:39.800 your degree and they just waved away bills? 0:09:40.000 --> 0:09:43.280 No, unfortunately not. I did try that. Yeah, and I 0:09:43.480 --> 0:09:48.040 was applying for job after job after job from I 0:09:48.160 --> 0:09:53.120 think didn't need in right up to Auckland, including my hometown. 0:09:53.360 --> 0:09:54.559 Despite the fake I said. 0:09:54.360 --> 0:09:56.360 I'd need a return, but like I would for a 0:09:56.400 --> 0:09:56.840 good job. 0:09:57.160 --> 0:10:03.160 Yeah, and I given a chance in South Canterbury, and 0:10:04.320 --> 0:10:08.720 me and my partner went from living together and working 0:10:08.800 --> 0:10:11.559 together to not living together and not working together and 0:10:11.679 --> 0:10:15.000 going long distance. And now I get to be grace 0:10:15.120 --> 0:10:16.920 with my presence again because I'm moving back. 0:10:17.720 --> 0:10:20.320 Absolutely talk to me about You said that your ex 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:23.960 fiance was in a motorcycle accident, nearly died. You did 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:27.959 your exams on the hospital floor. What happened there with 0:10:28.160 --> 0:10:31.120 that relationship was us another spanner in the works before 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:33.400 meeting the one that you are going to marry. 0:10:34.000 --> 0:10:37.680 So we met just before I moved to christ Itch 0:10:37.880 --> 0:10:42.959 and he moved down with me, and it was all 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:46.840 well and good. The relationship was just popping along as 0:10:46.920 --> 0:10:49.959 it does. I don't think his sister or his mother 0:10:50.160 --> 0:10:50.959 liked me very much. 0:10:51.080 --> 0:10:52.880 They've just got terrible taste. It's fine. 0:10:53.040 --> 0:10:56.800 And then he crashed one of my cars. I didn't 0:10:56.840 --> 0:11:01.480 think much of it. And then he had a motorcycle 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:04.920 accident one morning on his way to work, and he 0:11:05.360 --> 0:11:07.959 had one of the worst open book pubt fractures that 0:11:08.120 --> 0:11:14.160 his doctors had ever seen. Oh god, basically yeah, absolutely harrafic. 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:16.680 He had to learn how to rewalk, He had to learn, 0:11:17.559 --> 0:11:22.920 like relearn everything. And the accident itself wasn't exactly the 0:11:22.960 --> 0:11:26.800 beginning of the end, but it was his attitude towards 0:11:27.440 --> 0:11:31.800 at all. So I very vividly remember the day of 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:34.360 the accident. His phone was smashed, so I let him 0:11:34.360 --> 0:11:36.280 borrow mine to talk to his mum, and at the 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:38.920 same time he was looking on trade me to buy 0:11:38.920 --> 0:11:41.960 a new bike, and I was like, you almost died. 0:11:42.280 --> 0:11:43.560 Can we not do this right now? 0:11:44.720 --> 0:11:47.680 Can you take five seconds to be like, holy shit, 0:11:48.080 --> 0:11:53.480 this has just happened. And then he crashed a second 0:11:53.559 --> 0:11:57.240 car of mine, which was my first adult car that 0:11:57.400 --> 0:12:01.280 I had managed to buy myself, And that was sort 0:12:01.280 --> 0:12:05.880 of the beginning of the end. And I very vividly 0:12:05.960 --> 0:12:10.000 remember paying for the deposit for the celebrant and I 0:12:10.120 --> 0:12:12.080 had my drinks and everything at this point in time, 0:12:12.640 --> 0:12:15.680 and my gap just going you and making a mistake, 0:12:15.840 --> 0:12:18.160 do not do this. And it was then and there 0:12:18.240 --> 0:12:19.240 that I was like, now I'm done. 0:12:19.640 --> 0:12:21.959 There was just something that you were like this like, 0:12:22.000 --> 0:12:25.400 because it's not about the accidents and I know that 0:12:25.480 --> 0:12:27.679 what you've said, and I'm just trying to read between 0:12:27.720 --> 0:12:29.559 the lines here a little bit. I know what you've 0:12:29.600 --> 0:12:31.559 said is like, you know, he crashed my car, So 0:12:31.720 --> 0:12:33.480 like if my husband crashed my car, I feel like 0:12:33.559 --> 0:12:35.320 my attitude is going to be very different because I'd 0:12:35.360 --> 0:12:36.800 be like, holy shit, like you're my husband and I'm 0:12:36.800 --> 0:12:39.560 obsessed with you and like, you know, but I'm assuming 0:12:39.760 --> 0:12:41.599 that it wasn't that he crushed your car. It was 0:12:41.679 --> 0:12:45.359 probably the attitude around the entitlement of crashing. 0:12:45.040 --> 0:12:48.000 Your car and how that worked and all, like is 0:12:48.080 --> 0:12:48.959 that right? 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:51.160 If I'm reading between those lines that it wasn't like 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:53.319 that he crushed your car, because I feel like if 0:12:53.360 --> 0:12:55.440 I crashed your car, you'd be like, oh my god, 0:12:55.559 --> 0:12:56.600 the like what happened? 0:12:56.640 --> 0:12:57.120 Are you okay? 0:12:57.280 --> 0:12:59.640 Like let's get through insurance and we'd work it out. 0:13:00.000 --> 0:13:02.840 I wouldn't stop being my friend I crushed your car. 0:13:03.440 --> 0:13:07.280 So is that the right pathway that my brain is 0:13:07.360 --> 0:13:07.840 going down? 0:13:08.000 --> 0:13:11.920 Definitely the entitlement. I'm trying really hard not to because 0:13:11.920 --> 0:13:14.280 he's not a bad guy. It's just his attitude was. 0:13:14.440 --> 0:13:17.360 Just you're anonymous right now, so you could trash this 0:13:17.520 --> 0:13:18.640 man and I would allow it. 0:13:19.400 --> 0:13:23.480 But I think it's important because it's interesting and I'm 0:13:23.520 --> 0:13:26.760 just stepping aside. Maybe this is a little side quest conversation. Obviously, 0:13:26.800 --> 0:13:28.199 I've got shees on the Money, and you listen to 0:13:28.280 --> 0:13:31.520 this stuff because you want financial literacy, and you're so 0:13:31.640 --> 0:13:36.079 interested in people's money stories, but intertwined into our money stories, 0:13:36.160 --> 0:13:38.599 our life journey and our life stories. And I've just 0:13:38.679 --> 0:13:42.040 had so many messages historically of people saying, oh my god, 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:43.839 like I worked out that I didn't and this is 0:13:44.000 --> 0:13:46.120 so sad, but I worked out that I didn't want 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:47.640 to be with my husband anymore. I didn't want to 0:13:47.640 --> 0:13:50.640 be my person anymore because this money darist was talking 0:13:50.640 --> 0:13:53.160 about what their partner was saying and how their partner 0:13:53.240 --> 0:13:54.560 was treating them, and I was like, you shouldn't put 0:13:54.640 --> 0:13:56.120 up with that, And then I realized I was putting 0:13:56.200 --> 0:13:58.319 up with that. I was like, oh my god, awful. 0:13:58.559 --> 0:14:00.880 But I think it's so important that when we talk 0:14:00.960 --> 0:14:04.360 about these money stories, we're intertwining real life events and like, 0:14:04.480 --> 0:14:06.400 you know, a little bit more context so that we 0:14:06.480 --> 0:14:09.160 can genuinely learn, which is one of the reasons why 0:14:09.240 --> 0:14:10.439 I love that they're anonymous. 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:11.560 Yeah, because you. 0:14:11.600 --> 0:14:13.959 Could be like this guy cheated on me, did this, 0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:16.439 did that, And you know, I want the goss, so 0:14:16.600 --> 0:14:18.360 I want the juice. And yes, we're not going to 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:20.840 trash talk somebody that you don't want a trash talk. 0:14:20.880 --> 0:14:22.680 But I also think it's like, let's read between the 0:14:22.720 --> 0:14:24.840 lines here a little bit. There clearly was something more 0:14:24.920 --> 0:14:26.840 than oh, he just crashed my car. So I broke 0:14:26.960 --> 0:14:29.640 up with him going on because I wouldn't want someone 0:14:29.720 --> 0:14:32.200 to listen to that and just pragmatically go, well that's 0:14:32.240 --> 0:14:32.800 what she said. 0:14:33.080 --> 0:14:38.320 So no. So he was so blase about the fact 0:14:38.360 --> 0:14:42.080 that he had crashed two of the three cars owned, 0:14:42.680 --> 0:14:48.000 and his attitude was the bike accident where he almost died. 0:14:48.440 --> 0:14:51.760 And I was at the hospital eight am to eight 0:14:51.880 --> 0:14:55.440 pm every day with him, helping him learn how to 0:14:55.680 --> 0:14:58.880 free walk, deal with the hospital, the said and the 0:14:59.000 --> 0:15:02.920 next thing, and then his mum would swoop and take 0:15:03.000 --> 0:15:06.080 over and he'd be so grateful for her, But at 0:15:06.080 --> 0:15:08.160 the end of the day, it was like, Okay, I'm 0:15:08.240 --> 0:15:10.840 the one putting everything. 0:15:10.400 --> 0:15:13.040 On whole being taken for granted here, what. 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:15.880 The actual hell is going on? I was there so 0:15:16.040 --> 0:15:19.760 often that some of the very lovely nurses would actually 0:15:20.040 --> 0:15:23.200 order me dinner as well. They were brilliant. They were 0:15:23.280 --> 0:15:26.400 probably the people that got me through. But yeah, I 0:15:26.520 --> 0:15:29.520 couldn't deal with the attitude. And no matter how much 0:15:29.560 --> 0:15:33.040 I asked for counseling, this, that, and the next thing 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:36.200 to work through it, he just didn't care until I 0:15:36.280 --> 0:15:38.120 told him I was done. And then he was like, Oh, 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:39.840 go to counseling. I'll do this, I'll do that. 0:15:39.920 --> 0:15:41.000 I'm like, no, I'm too late. 0:15:41.080 --> 0:15:43.960 I've been asking you that for six months. I'm done. Fair. 0:15:44.360 --> 0:15:46.680 So then you met the love of your life? Yes, 0:15:48.080 --> 0:15:49.280 and how did you meet them? 0:15:49.680 --> 0:15:52.920 So? I coached his little brother's football team, and it's 0:15:53.040 --> 0:15:55.560 definitely a meet care. Yes, I coached his little brother's 0:15:55.600 --> 0:15:58.960 football team, and his little brother was at boarding school 0:15:59.600 --> 0:16:03.880 and their parents had gone overseas, and I needed to 0:16:04.000 --> 0:16:06.480 pick I'll call him Pip Squeak because that's his nickname, 0:16:06.560 --> 0:16:08.520 and there's only a handful of people that know that 0:16:08.600 --> 0:16:12.640 I call him. I picked Pip Squeak up from his brother. 0:16:13.000 --> 0:16:15.160 That's such a key we nickname. I'm loving this. 0:16:15.840 --> 0:16:17.800 I call him Pip Squeak because when I met him, 0:16:17.840 --> 0:16:19.480 he was shorter than I am. Now I have to 0:16:19.560 --> 0:16:23.480 look up and not finished growing yet. So he's going 0:16:23.560 --> 0:16:26.360 through so much taller than what he is. So yeah, 0:16:26.360 --> 0:16:29.920 I picked Pip Squeak up from my now partner and 0:16:31.080 --> 0:16:32.840 that afternoon I was like, I was sitting here, I 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:35.000 was thinking. I was like, huh, he's kind of cute. 0:16:35.240 --> 0:16:36.680 I just continued a conversation. 0:16:37.000 --> 0:16:38.520 You got a cute brother? Nice? 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:43.280 Yeah, and he thought similar and he shot his shot. 0:16:43.320 --> 0:16:46.200 I was like, ah, if you want me to repay 0:16:46.240 --> 0:16:49.360 the coffee favor, just you know, because I had brought 0:16:49.560 --> 0:16:51.800 him a coffee that morning, just to be nice because 0:16:51.840 --> 0:16:55.440 I was we were meeting at Starbucks and who would 0:16:55.480 --> 0:16:57.880 have thought three years later, here. 0:16:57.800 --> 0:17:00.880 We are a door or I love that? Do you 0:17:00.920 --> 0:17:03.280 want me to repay the coffee favor? Doesn't mean that 0:17:03.360 --> 0:17:04.399 we get to go get coffee? 0:17:04.440 --> 0:17:04.920 Toget that. 0:17:05.280 --> 0:17:06.320 Yeah, that was pretty much. 0:17:07.440 --> 0:17:08.119 I love this. 0:17:08.600 --> 0:17:10.640 I literally love love like I would love a whole 0:17:10.680 --> 0:17:12.680 podcast on just like how people meet. 0:17:12.840 --> 0:17:14.920 Like my story is kind of boring. I met my 0:17:15.000 --> 0:17:17.160 husband on Tinder, so like when I ask other people 0:17:17.200 --> 0:17:18.720 and you didn't meet on Titter, I'm like, oh my god, 0:17:18.800 --> 0:17:19.720 tell me how did it work? 0:17:19.760 --> 0:17:22.320 Because like I'm so blast in real life, like someone 0:17:22.359 --> 0:17:24.200 could have been like, I really like you and I'll 0:17:24.240 --> 0:17:25.400 be like, yes as a friend. 0:17:25.480 --> 0:17:27.480 Goodbye with that. 0:17:29.359 --> 0:17:32.600 Yeah, So moving on from that, that's kind of like, 0:17:33.080 --> 0:17:35.400 I guess your money story and where you've come from. 0:17:35.520 --> 0:17:38.119 Tell me a little bit more about today. So what 0:17:38.280 --> 0:17:41.080 happens when you have to apply for two hundred different jobs? 0:17:41.600 --> 0:17:44.840 I feel like that would be really hard, especially on 0:17:44.920 --> 0:17:45.560 your confidence. 0:17:45.800 --> 0:17:51.679 It is so hard. I remember setting a rejiction email 0:17:51.760 --> 0:17:55.960 after addiction email, being like and looking back, now, it's 0:17:56.040 --> 0:18:00.440 not about you, it's about the situation. Were just not 0:18:00.560 --> 0:18:02.680 a good set for the job. But at the time, 0:18:02.760 --> 0:18:04.520 I was like, what is it about me that they 0:18:04.640 --> 0:18:05.440 don't want? 0:18:06.040 --> 0:18:06.080 It? 0:18:06.560 --> 0:18:08.840 Tore into that little light year old that got told 0:18:08.920 --> 0:18:11.120 she wasn't going to amount to anything. 0:18:11.400 --> 0:18:12.320 No, I hate that. 0:18:12.760 --> 0:18:15.080 But there was just this little voice in the back 0:18:15.119 --> 0:18:17.520 of my head going, there are far too many people 0:18:17.880 --> 0:18:19.960 sitting here waiting for you to fail. 0:18:20.520 --> 0:18:23.840 Keep going yeah, And it's rough because I think you 0:18:23.960 --> 0:18:25.920 take it so personally, but like, at the end of 0:18:25.920 --> 0:18:27.720 the day, it's genuinely not personal. 0:18:27.840 --> 0:18:31.479 And like the job hunting period of time, you go, oh, 0:18:31.600 --> 0:18:32.840 it must be me, you know what. 0:18:32.960 --> 0:18:36.080 They must have seen straight through my resume, into my 0:18:36.200 --> 0:18:38.840 personality and into my soul, and that's what they don't 0:18:39.200 --> 0:18:42.280 like and in reality, I'm so sorry to downplay it 0:18:42.359 --> 0:18:44.840 to this, but you were one of hundreds of applicants 0:18:44.880 --> 0:18:47.680 with exactly the same flipping degree and it probably had 0:18:48.000 --> 0:18:50.920 nothing to do with you personally and everything to do 0:18:51.040 --> 0:18:54.240 with luck or application timelines or oh my god, like 0:18:54.520 --> 0:18:56.359 their dad used to be a lawyer as well, and 0:18:56.400 --> 0:18:59.040 they got to do a little internship at a law firm, 0:18:59.160 --> 0:19:01.159 and you didn't have that because you had parents who 0:19:01.240 --> 0:19:04.440 grew up dairy farming. Like, it's literally not about you. 0:19:04.600 --> 0:19:06.720 But how weird is it that we jumped to this 0:19:06.840 --> 0:19:08.920 idea that must be about my personality? 0:19:08.960 --> 0:19:09.399 How did they know? 0:19:09.680 --> 0:19:11.760 How did they look into my soul and see the 0:19:11.880 --> 0:19:14.239 things that I am self conscious about and hate that too. 0:19:14.840 --> 0:19:16.720 I don't know what it is, but it was just 0:19:17.000 --> 0:19:20.680 straight to the a stagger through the heart. I couldn't 0:19:21.000 --> 0:19:24.920 get over it. I was like, this sucks, And if 0:19:24.960 --> 0:19:26.920 it weren't for my partner, I'd be like, I could go. 0:19:27.520 --> 0:19:30.280 There are other jobs out there, Someone sometime somewhere is 0:19:30.359 --> 0:19:31.879 going to give you a chance. 0:19:32.480 --> 0:19:35.560 Exactly, And like applying for two hundred, that's a long slog. 0:19:36.600 --> 0:19:39.600 Tell me a bit about this, like process, though you're 0:19:39.600 --> 0:19:42.880 applying for two hundred jobs. Right, How long a period 0:19:43.200 --> 0:19:43.359 was that? 0:19:43.680 --> 0:19:43.800 Was that? 0:19:44.000 --> 0:19:45.840 Like you did that all in one week? Did you 0:19:45.920 --> 0:19:47.320 do that in a couple of months? 0:19:47.960 --> 0:19:51.640 Probably between a year and a half to two years. Yeah, 0:19:51.920 --> 0:19:55.600 So from the time I graduated to getting this job. 0:19:55.960 --> 0:19:58.240