WEBVTT - G’s Hotline ☎️ Can cheaters change? ft Coopa 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:04.440 The Rise and Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:07.720 the land which this episode is being recorded, the yugen 0:00:07.720 --> 0:00:12.200 Beah region. We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their 0:00:12.200 --> 0:00:16.000 connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect 0:00:16.040 --> 0:00:19.640 to their elders past and present and extend that respect 0:00:19.680 --> 0:00:33.360 to all Aboriginal and Terrestride Islander peoples today. Hello and 0:00:33.400 --> 0:00:36.600 welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. This is 0:00:36.600 --> 0:00:51.640 the podcast for ordinary people who want to do extraordinary things. 0:00:52.560 --> 0:00:55.200 You have not been doing this for three years. 0:00:59.000 --> 0:01:01.240 You've only been dogging women for three years. 0:01:02.280 --> 0:01:15.520 Yes, anyway, let's just see what happens. Hello, and welcome 0:01:15.600 --> 0:01:17.959 back to the Rise and Conker Podcast. It is your 0:01:18.000 --> 0:01:22.480 host Georgie Stevenson and guys, you know Fridays are our 0:01:22.800 --> 0:01:26.319 fun EPs where you send in your life dilemmas and 0:01:26.400 --> 0:01:31.880 I provide my very unqualified two cents on this situation. So, guys, 0:01:31.920 --> 0:01:35.120 today's hotline is a little bit different because we have 0:01:35.160 --> 0:01:39.880 a very special guest, Cooper. Cooper's in the podcast studio, 0:01:40.480 --> 0:01:42.880 so we thought it would be cool to do some 0:01:42.920 --> 0:01:46.560 hotline cues and kind of get a guy's perspective I'm 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:48.160 not gonna lie, I don't agree with. 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:50.880 It reminded me. 0:01:50.920 --> 0:01:54.440 While we don't interview met, it reminded it reminded us 0:01:54.480 --> 0:01:59.560 of why men are trash. But no, we love Cooper. No, 0:02:00.280 --> 0:02:03.160 it was like it was cool to have a different perspective. 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:06.720 And sure we had some really good questions, like, you know, 0:02:06.840 --> 0:02:10.080 do guys really need guy time? We did not agree 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:15.240 on that. Ah, Cooper's opinion on like mask and fem energy, 0:02:15.960 --> 0:02:20.640 why some men take longer to propose, and just a 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:24.440 whole bunch of fun cu so we got serious, we 0:02:24.520 --> 0:02:26.960 had a laugh. I think you guys will enjoy this. 0:02:27.120 --> 0:02:28.919 Maybe you'll get a bit annoyed like I. 0:02:28.800 --> 0:02:31.919 Did, but still it's good to open your mind. 0:02:32.080 --> 0:02:34.680 Yeah, it's good. It's good. But before we get into 0:02:34.760 --> 0:02:37.240 the episode, you guys know, we say this is the 0:02:37.280 --> 0:02:41.040 podcast for ordinary people who want to do extraordinary things, 0:02:41.480 --> 0:02:44.160 and every now and again we are going to shine 0:02:44.160 --> 0:02:48.440 a spotlight on someone doing an absolute extraordinary thing. So 0:02:48.520 --> 0:02:52.280 today I want to share a quick story about Ned Brockman. 0:02:52.560 --> 0:02:54.720 You may have heard about this person a tea. Have 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:55.359 you heard of him? 0:02:55.520 --> 0:02:56.840 I have. I'm obsessed. 0:02:58.040 --> 0:02:59.760 So Jamie came in the other day and she was 0:02:59.800 --> 0:03:03.000 like guys Ned Brockman. He's a twenty three year old 0:03:03.120 --> 0:03:08.200 electrician who has just finished running from Perth to Bondai. Yes, 0:03:08.320 --> 0:03:11.440 you literally heard that right. That's across Australia. And I 0:03:11.440 --> 0:03:13.440 don't know if you know this, but Australia is huge. 0:03:13.760 --> 0:03:17.360 It's three nine hundred and fifty three kilometers huge. I 0:03:17.480 --> 0:03:20.560 just I can't fathom it, No, neib can I. I 0:03:20.639 --> 0:03:23.400 try to think about it, and then I'm just gobsmacked 0:03:23.400 --> 0:03:25.520 because I just don't understand how anyone could do that. 0:03:25.760 --> 0:03:28.000 Like I try to run four k's and I'm exhausted. 0:03:29.760 --> 0:03:32.200 I try to run one hundred meters and I exhausted. 0:03:33.480 --> 0:03:35.920 And this guy is like, he's not a runner, No, 0:03:36.040 --> 0:03:38.920 he literally just wanted to make a huge impact. He 0:03:39.680 --> 0:03:43.440 so he has this is incredible. So he's raised over 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:48.080 one point eight million dollars for homelessness and it's just incredible. 0:03:48.240 --> 0:03:50.080 And I thought, if we're going to shine a light 0:03:50.160 --> 0:03:52.280 on anyone, it's this bloke because I feel for his 0:03:52.360 --> 0:03:53.640 feet one hundred percent. 0:03:54.120 --> 0:03:58.080 I saw somewhere that apparently he pretty much has no 0:03:58.240 --> 0:04:01.880 cartilage left in his knees. So he was running one 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:05.880 hundred kilometers a day and with bone on bone in 0:04:05.960 --> 0:04:06.480 his knees. 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:12.000 No, oh, he's incredible. So guys, use this as an expander. 0:04:12.120 --> 0:04:14.520 We're going to put the links in our socials because 0:04:14.600 --> 0:04:16.800 it's still open if you guys want to donate. Such 0:04:16.800 --> 0:04:20.160 an amazing cause and just such an amazing bloke, yeah, 0:04:20.320 --> 0:04:23.640 doing extraordinary things. So truly, we're going to bring you 0:04:23.720 --> 0:04:27.200 some more of these, you know, ordinary people doing extraordinary 0:04:27.400 --> 0:04:30.120 things segments. But what a great way to kick it 0:04:30.160 --> 0:04:30.760 off for Tia. 0:04:30.839 --> 0:04:36.400 I know, all right, let's do our recommendations for the week. Georgie, 0:04:36.400 --> 0:04:37.200 what is yours? 0:04:37.520 --> 0:04:41.960 Oh, I'll go first. Okay, so it's not a TV show, 0:04:42.040 --> 0:04:46.080 so don't worry, Jamie. So on our backs about it, 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:50.320 Jamie sitting across the US, just like I rolling because 0:04:50.320 --> 0:04:55.559 we're so annoying. Recommendation. So something that I have done 0:04:55.600 --> 0:04:59.839 it recently. I think I might do a full podcast 0:04:59.839 --> 0:05:01.400 on it because I really want to chat about it. 0:05:01.440 --> 0:05:04.280 But for the first time this year, I've kind of 0:05:04.360 --> 0:05:08.080 had some breathing space because you know, we just wrapped 0:05:08.160 --> 0:05:11.520 up Candy Candyland, and then before that, I had a 0:05:11.520 --> 0:05:13.960 whole bunch of projects that I was working on that 0:05:14.120 --> 0:05:18.560 really kind of consumed me and I realized that I 0:05:18.640 --> 0:05:22.719 was really stuck in the like day to day task 0:05:22.920 --> 0:05:26.120 of like just getting through life. That's how I would 0:05:26.120 --> 0:05:29.240 describe that feeling. And I realized that, and so I 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:33.120 took like I was really conscious about my schedule, and 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:35.400 I gave myself a couple of like weeks where I 0:05:35.440 --> 0:05:38.640 could just catch up on life, have some space, really 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:42.080 be strict to my boundaries. Last week really took that space, 0:05:42.160 --> 0:05:45.320 and then this week I have spent a lot of 0:05:45.520 --> 0:05:50.159 time in the actual like planning and like visionary side 0:05:50.440 --> 0:05:53.919 of Naked Harvest and RNC, which I honestly have not 0:05:54.000 --> 0:05:58.120 done the whole year. I realized, and yeah, it just 0:05:58.120 --> 0:06:01.200 felt so good and a bit insane. I needed the 0:06:01.240 --> 0:06:05.159 space beforehand. And I think all of us like if 0:06:05.480 --> 0:06:08.080 maybe there's a decision to be made, or maybe there's 0:06:08.080 --> 0:06:10.800 something you know, coming up where you feel this like 0:06:10.920 --> 0:06:16.719 immense like pressure, and my recommendation is like actual, carve 0:06:16.880 --> 0:06:20.200 out some just space where you're not doing things. And 0:06:20.520 --> 0:06:24.159 I just found that that gave me so much more 0:06:24.760 --> 0:06:28.000 creativity to then look at things from like almost like 0:06:28.040 --> 0:06:30.599 a bird eye view, whereas I couldn't do that before 0:06:30.600 --> 0:06:32.280 when I was like stuck in the day to day. 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:33.040 I love that. 0:06:33.400 --> 0:06:34.480 So it's kind of random, but. 0:06:34.560 --> 0:06:37.360 Yeah, but yeah, would you space? 0:06:37.600 --> 0:06:40.400 Should we do like a whole podcast on that idea 0:06:40.800 --> 0:06:42.640 and almost like how to plan out your whole year? 0:06:43.400 --> 0:06:44.320 Oh? I like that. 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:46.880 Look out for that. 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:47.280 Guys. 0:06:48.720 --> 0:06:49.760 What's your recommendation? 0:06:50.640 --> 0:06:54.479 My recommendation is, if you weren't following Ned Brockman's journey, 0:06:54.760 --> 0:06:57.880 go to his Instagram and actually take the time to 0:06:57.960 --> 0:07:01.320 look through his reflection of each day he ran. So 0:07:01.360 --> 0:07:03.720 he spent forty six days running and he posted a 0:07:03.720 --> 0:07:07.240 carousel of images every day, and every day he put 0:07:07.360 --> 0:07:09.359 quote of the day, song of the day, and a 0:07:09.400 --> 0:07:13.480 little reflection and I know, yeah, oh love So I 0:07:13.560 --> 0:07:15.880 read them and they're actually really beautiful. And his last 0:07:15.880 --> 0:07:19.320 one was amazing, and I that was actually quite uplifting. 0:07:19.400 --> 0:07:21.640 So I thought, was this last one, let's read it out, 0:07:21.760 --> 0:07:24.600 let's uplift the audience, let's uplift you all. They go 0:07:24.640 --> 0:07:28.160 into this absolute trash episode. 0:07:28.440 --> 0:07:31.880 So his last caption was three nine hundred and fifty 0:07:31.880 --> 0:07:35.080 three kilometers, forty six days and twelve hours. I might 0:07:35.160 --> 0:07:37.760 reflect and do a post at some point outlining the 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:40.600 last forty seven days, but now is the sign off 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:43.560 of what has truly been a life changing experience. So 0:07:44.200 --> 0:07:47.920 Australia ran it one point eight two million dollars so far, 0:07:48.320 --> 0:07:53.640 raised it, body, cooked it, eleven kilos, lost it, Nation, 0:07:54.080 --> 0:07:59.000 inspired it, mind, lost it, sleep earned it. Thank you 0:07:59.040 --> 0:08:05.680 all you bloody beautiful Remember get comfortable being uncomfortable. 0:08:06.120 --> 0:08:09.560 He's so Australian, he's so busy. I love so much. 0:08:09.680 --> 0:08:12.600 And his reflections each day were just like just so 0:08:13.000 --> 0:08:16.120 short and sweet. But I loved the quotes that he picked. 0:08:16.160 --> 0:08:18.360 And sometimes it was a random quote that someone obviously 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:20.440 said that day, but sometimes it was like a bit 0:08:20.480 --> 0:08:20.920 more deep. 0:08:21.080 --> 0:08:25.000 This is so off key, but like, I absolutely love 0:08:25.600 --> 0:08:29.320 how some Australian men write. It's a good copy, is it, 0:08:29.760 --> 0:08:34.200 don't think? Yeah, I can to the point. Yeah, it's 0:08:34.240 --> 0:08:35.720 like really random cop. 0:08:38.480 --> 0:08:39.160 On that note. 0:08:39.400 --> 0:08:49.040 On that note, let's get into the episode. 0:08:49.920 --> 0:08:52.920 Is it important to give your partner guy time with 0:08:53.080 --> 0:08:53.680 their mates. 0:08:54.120 --> 0:08:57.040 Yes, I think it's very important for a guy to 0:08:58.160 --> 0:08:59.359 have some alone. 0:08:59.000 --> 0:09:04.400 Time because tell us tell us why. 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:11.720 Well, for me in my situation that during the week 0:09:12.040 --> 0:09:15.599 is I have to go to work, I have to 0:09:15.640 --> 0:09:19.240 come home and give my time to my kids and 0:09:19.280 --> 0:09:23.000 my wife. But it depends, Like when I was plumbing 0:09:23.440 --> 0:09:27.400 It was very difficult because the stress. It depends on 0:09:27.440 --> 0:09:31.640 the stress you're under. And yeah, like it depends what 0:09:31.679 --> 0:09:34.400 you're doing in your life, if you're hustling or whatever. 0:09:34.440 --> 0:09:35.400 And would it. 0:09:35.360 --> 0:09:37.679 Also depend on like the type of person you are, 0:09:37.840 --> 0:09:41.920 So if you're an introvert or an extrovert, and if 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:46.680 you need that solo time with your friends to fill 0:09:46.800 --> 0:09:50.040 up your cup. Like I have a girlfriend who is 0:09:50.120 --> 0:09:55.400 quite extroverted, and like she needs girl time to like 0:09:55.720 --> 0:10:00.640 feel herself. Where's me, who's a total introvert. I just 0:10:00.679 --> 0:10:03.000 like need my alone, my own time. 0:10:03.440 --> 0:10:07.080 Yeah, definitely, Like I've got mates that don't need to 0:10:07.080 --> 0:10:09.840 do that as much, and then they can. But then 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:12.840 so it depends on what your life. 0:10:12.960 --> 0:10:17.280 This is probably like in a relationship where the girl 0:10:17.559 --> 0:10:19.959 is like, why don't you want to spend time with me? 0:10:20.040 --> 0:10:21.680 You're always hanging around with your mates? 0:10:22.040 --> 0:10:26.000 Yeah, what are you a problem? It's the girl because 0:10:26.120 --> 0:10:30.640 she's neat, But if she was there to be supportive, 0:10:31.480 --> 0:10:34.559 then it would counteract. 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:39.000 I have a random question off that when you first 0:10:39.160 --> 0:10:46.920 obviously you've predominantly been working, not ash. Yeah, like most 0:10:46.960 --> 0:10:50.200 of your relationship, did you ever have like this period 0:10:50.240 --> 0:10:53.040 where you wanted time with your guy friends, and you 0:10:53.080 --> 0:10:55.600 had to sort of navigate explaining that to her because 0:10:55.640 --> 0:10:57.839 you're away from her and your kids the whole day. 0:10:57.880 --> 0:10:59.320 And then it's sort of just a bit of like 0:10:59.440 --> 0:11:01.040 why don't you want to be with us at all? 0:11:01.160 --> 0:11:04.400 Kind of thing? How did you explain that? Because I 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:05.400 feel like this might be. 0:11:05.400 --> 0:11:10.440 Similar, well, like it was their stress. Like I keep 0:11:10.480 --> 0:11:14.040 coming back to, it's just depending on the stress levels 0:11:14.040 --> 0:11:17.240 that you're on and because that for a guy, is 0:11:17.280 --> 0:11:20.679 an escape and you need to so it's to zone out. 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:24.000 So I always like, so all my sports that I 0:11:24.080 --> 0:11:27.320 do is to zone out right, not in like a 0:11:27.440 --> 0:11:31.679 yeah like ridway, but it's like you're just like you 0:11:31.720 --> 0:11:34.560 don't think of anything else, You're just thinking about that 0:11:34.600 --> 0:11:38.679 one thing. So it depends on So you need to 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:42.440 navigate your stress levels and what you're doing and how 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:45.400 to eliminate some of the stress. Because if you are 0:11:45.520 --> 0:11:48.240 wanting to go to see your guy mates and have 0:11:48.280 --> 0:11:51.680 that guy time, it's because you're not balancing your life. 0:11:53.000 --> 0:11:54.080 So that's what I'm doing. 0:11:55.120 --> 0:11:56.480 Just went off tangent there. 0:11:56.800 --> 0:11:57.600 Does that make sense? 0:11:57.679 --> 0:11:58.440 Yeah? Yeah? 0:11:58.760 --> 0:12:03.320 So but then it yeah, for the female or the 0:12:03.360 --> 0:12:08.040 other partner, it's you need to give more support and 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:12.120 if that's what they need, then that's what they should get. 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:15.520 Because if you say no, why don't you want to 0:12:15.520 --> 0:12:18.640 spend time with me? And that makes the other person 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:21.040 want to do it more like it's it's you need 0:12:21.080 --> 0:12:23.760 to take a different approach and you need to say, 0:12:23.920 --> 0:12:26.079 like why do you want to do that? How can 0:12:26.120 --> 0:12:28.560 I help? Or like is there something I can do 0:12:28.640 --> 0:12:32.080 in the relationship to ease the stress or something? 0:12:32.600 --> 0:12:36.319 And then what about if they're just like, for example, 0:12:36.440 --> 0:12:40.320 I know in me and Tim's relationship, Tim isn't like 0:12:40.559 --> 0:12:43.319 a guy's guy. Like Tim loves his golf and he 0:12:43.400 --> 0:12:49.400 loves straight away no, but it's not like he's obsessed 0:12:49.400 --> 0:12:52.000 with his friends, like you know, like footy friends where 0:12:52.000 --> 0:12:54.240 they like it's like a footy boy thing and they 0:12:54.280 --> 0:12:56.839 all hang around each other and it's like that almost 0:12:56.920 --> 0:12:58.920 like that locker room sort of vibe. 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:01.920 I feel like I do he's not now he was 0:13:02.000 --> 0:13:05.560 back when you didn't have ivy or anythink he was 0:13:05.679 --> 0:13:06.120 that guy. 0:13:06.440 --> 0:13:08.760 But I don't think he was. He was because he 0:13:09.000 --> 0:13:12.240 has told me he's like the opposite. Yeah, but also 0:13:12.360 --> 0:13:15.960 I never felt like to hear no, but I never 0:13:16.040 --> 0:13:19.120 felt like he spent too much time with his friends. 0:13:19.280 --> 0:13:21.440 But is that because you were enjoy being by yourself 0:13:21.480 --> 0:13:22.480 when he was with his friends. 0:13:22.640 --> 0:13:27.040 Yeah, maybe I'm I go go have fun. 0:13:27.600 --> 0:13:32.320 I need some time alone, But he's not now because 0:13:32.360 --> 0:13:35.880 he has not much stress and he's content with his 0:13:35.960 --> 0:13:38.640 life and it's it's all good. He doesn't need that 0:13:38.679 --> 0:13:41.440 guy fix and that stress relief because he's got it all. 0:13:41.520 --> 0:13:43.600 Do you think you need it anyway though, Like even 0:13:43.640 --> 0:13:45.640 if you're like super happy and relaxed all the time. 0:13:45.720 --> 0:13:47.720 Well, he does do it. He goes to golf. Yeah, 0:13:47.800 --> 0:13:50.839 twice or three times a week. So everyone needs it, 0:13:51.000 --> 0:13:54.400 but it's not like this need and you have to 0:13:54.400 --> 0:13:57.760 do it. It's you're content with everything and there's balance. 0:13:58.160 --> 0:14:04.599 Yeah, what is your opinion on masculine and feminine energy? 0:14:04.800 --> 0:14:08.720 So when we're talking masculine enemy energy, we're not talking 0:14:08.760 --> 0:14:12.760 like female male, we're talking yin and yang. So yin 0:14:13.160 --> 0:14:18.280 is that like being stillness, like really sitting in the 0:14:18.559 --> 0:14:22.240 feeling and like letting things come to you. It's like flow, 0:14:22.760 --> 0:14:28.160 where's yang energy is like doing its structure. It's like 0:14:28.240 --> 0:14:33.640 I would say I'm a very masculine energy person. Ashley 0:14:33.760 --> 0:14:37.440 is very yin energy. It's like that sort of vibe. 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:39.920 Do you make an effort to get into your feminine energy? 0:14:40.120 --> 0:14:42.480 Ah, I think it probably comes in natural. 0:14:43.360 --> 0:14:45.480 Yeah. I would say Cooper is. 0:14:45.480 --> 0:14:47.320 More for hardcore. 0:14:47.000 --> 0:14:48.080 Yin than Yang. 0:14:48.280 --> 0:14:48.400 What. 0:14:49.680 --> 0:14:52.800 Yeah. Really well, like I feel like you're a natural, 0:14:52.880 --> 0:14:55.840 Like Keep is like a very natural manifesto, Like once 0:14:55.880 --> 0:14:58.720 he's in the zone and he can flow and things. 0:14:59.080 --> 0:15:01.360 It's just like how we have the joke here how 0:15:01.400 --> 0:15:05.240 he just like like waltz is in and waltzes out 0:15:05.440 --> 0:15:08.080 and like does random things and has all these like 0:15:08.160 --> 0:15:11.640 random hobbies and like me and Aterior like sitting here 0:15:11.680 --> 0:15:17.560 fucking distress, he was like, bab bitches, and we have 0:15:17.720 --> 0:15:20.320 that joke. It's because he finds it so easy to 0:15:20.320 --> 0:15:23.160 be in his yin energy and he's like he's like 0:15:23.240 --> 0:15:24.920 it's all good, Like I know it's going to work out. 0:15:25.080 --> 0:15:28.720 Like all your hobbies, like you try mountain biking and 0:15:28.800 --> 0:15:30.880 kite surfing and all that sort of stuff is like 0:15:30.960 --> 0:15:34.240 your yin energy, which I could never I'd get over 0:15:34.560 --> 0:15:35.400 trying too many. 0:15:35.480 --> 0:15:37.600 Yeah, I feel like you find it quite easy to 0:15:37.680 --> 0:15:41.160 like surrender and be, but then you also know how 0:15:41.200 --> 0:15:44.920 to get into your masculine energy when a project needs 0:15:44.960 --> 0:15:45.520 to be done. 0:15:45.960 --> 0:15:51.160 Thank you for answering that question. Yeah, I guess I've 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:52.840 never really thought about it. 0:15:52.960 --> 0:15:56.640 Good tonight approach question. 0:15:56.400 --> 0:16:01.960 For would like to think of myself for both. 0:16:02.080 --> 0:16:03.800 But yeah, I was going to say, do you think 0:16:03.920 --> 0:16:05.120 you need both energies? 0:16:05.600 --> 0:16:08.800 Definitely? Like I like that state, but I also like 0:16:08.960 --> 0:16:11.960 to get in there and hustle and when I want something, 0:16:12.120 --> 0:16:14.960 I go for it, like it is. I am the 0:16:15.080 --> 0:16:18.800 driver a fair bit in the company when we first started. Yeah, 0:16:18.840 --> 0:16:21.360 so I've got that as well. But I think that's 0:16:21.440 --> 0:16:24.440 because I'm I would consider myself as a kind person, 0:16:24.640 --> 0:16:27.360 So I like to always be kind in certain things. 0:16:27.640 --> 0:16:30.680 And how do you like, so that's my feminine energy, 0:16:30.720 --> 0:16:33.280 isn't it? 0:16:33.560 --> 0:16:34.320 I guess so not? 0:16:34.640 --> 0:16:37.920 How do you like step out of that? Doing stuff 0:16:37.960 --> 0:16:38.720 all the time though? 0:16:39.080 --> 0:16:39.760 Step out of it? 0:16:40.000 --> 0:16:42.480 Yeah? Like if you have if you have a goal, 0:16:42.800 --> 0:16:45.880 how do you still prioritize like going for golf or 0:16:45.920 --> 0:16:47.960 like doing the other things that fill up your cup 0:16:48.080 --> 0:16:48.840 outside of. 0:16:49.000 --> 0:16:51.040 See I what's the goal I had? He doesn't have 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:52.720 that problem. You just do it. 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:53.520 I just do it. 0:16:54.040 --> 0:16:56.800 Yeah, he's not. Like it's very different. 0:16:56.600 --> 0:17:00.200 Energy the way I like to look at it is, 0:17:00.360 --> 0:17:04.360 which I've got helped help with this is I have 0:17:05.119 --> 0:17:10.239 I think about seven metaphorically buckets in my life, and 0:17:10.280 --> 0:17:13.840 I prioritize what I have in my life and then 0:17:13.880 --> 0:17:18.720 so it's like kids, wife, business, adventures, holidays and those 0:17:18.720 --> 0:17:21.159 sorts of things. So I like to when I don't 0:17:21.720 --> 0:17:25.280 feel in flow, I like to have a look at 0:17:25.280 --> 0:17:29.359 my buckets and see what's empty, and then I like 0:17:29.480 --> 0:17:30.720 to work on them. 0:17:30.720 --> 0:17:34.119 Give them love. That that's really cool. I need to 0:17:34.119 --> 0:17:35.959 work out my bucket we need? Do you have to 0:17:35.960 --> 0:17:37.760 have seven? How many buckets do you have something? 0:17:37.760 --> 0:17:39.240 However? You have in your life? 0:17:39.280 --> 0:17:43.280 So you just have to decided, Hey, but if I 0:17:43.320 --> 0:17:45.600 have to, should I have more buckets? 0:17:45.640 --> 0:17:46.240 Not Tim? 0:17:48.160 --> 0:17:55.360 I should we give Tim a bucket. That's so interesting. 0:17:55.440 --> 0:17:58.560 So when things aren't feeling in flow, you kind of 0:17:58.600 --> 0:18:01.399 look at your buckets of like, yeah, I've been putting 0:18:01.400 --> 0:18:03.679 my energy, and then you put energy in a different bucket. 0:18:03.840 --> 0:18:05.879 So it's maybe like you haven't gone on a holiday 0:18:05.920 --> 0:18:08.119 in a while, or you haven't done something adventurous, and 0:18:08.160 --> 0:18:09.240 then you schedule that in. 0:18:09.480 --> 0:18:13.479 And then you prioritize until that bucket is nurtured, and 0:18:13.520 --> 0:18:16.200 then then you're in flow again, and then you keep 0:18:16.240 --> 0:18:18.840 going and it's all about balance, and that's what I've 0:18:18.880 --> 0:18:20.000 been working at the moment. 0:18:20.200 --> 0:18:23.960 And how did you figure out whether something was worth 0:18:24.040 --> 0:18:25.040 being a bucket or not? 0:18:25.359 --> 0:18:28.120 Well, that's just when you're filling it out your buckets. 0:18:28.160 --> 0:18:30.600 You work all that out and what's important? 0:18:31.200 --> 0:18:32.080 Yeah, what's a priority? 0:18:32.119 --> 0:18:34.480 I guess Yeah, get a pen and paper and go 0:18:34.560 --> 0:18:38.359 to town. Get a good list. I love a good list. 0:18:38.680 --> 0:18:39.240 I love that. 0:18:41.640 --> 0:18:44.760 Next question, why is it that my husband always gets 0:18:44.800 --> 0:18:48.240 the shits when I don't feel like having sex? She 0:18:48.320 --> 0:18:51.240 did add She's like, it's not like abusive or anything. 0:18:51.359 --> 0:18:53.159 It's just like he has a bit of a hissy 0:18:53.200 --> 0:18:55.520 fit and doesn't tell her like, oh, it's so fine 0:18:55.520 --> 0:18:56.639 that you don't feel like it. 0:18:57.280 --> 0:18:59.960 Well, this would be on the mail if anything, is 0:19:00.160 --> 0:19:04.800 not the female so because I was there when I 0:19:04.840 --> 0:19:07.680 was with my wife at the start. But it depends 0:19:07.720 --> 0:19:10.160 on where you are in your life, and if you're 0:19:10.280 --> 0:19:14.160 younger or first starting out in a relationship, your testosterone 0:19:14.280 --> 0:19:18.440 is very high. So I've slowly gotten to the lower. 0:19:19.640 --> 0:19:22.280 So what happens is when you when you get married 0:19:22.400 --> 0:19:26.080 or each step, like if you get engaged and then 0:19:26.119 --> 0:19:30.119 you get married, and then your test oserone goes lower 0:19:30.160 --> 0:19:31.200 and lower. 0:19:31.400 --> 0:19:35.239 Like this is actually biologically Yeah, I looked up. 0:19:37.640 --> 0:19:39.760 And then you have kids and it gets even more 0:19:39.800 --> 0:19:42.720 and then you get to this point where you're both 0:19:43.119 --> 0:19:45.879 good and yet your level it levels out with the 0:19:45.960 --> 0:19:48.800 female and the male and yeah, you're like in a good, 0:19:49.560 --> 0:19:50.240 good spot. 0:19:50.359 --> 0:19:52.600 I would say, like, maybe these people like aren't on 0:19:52.640 --> 0:19:55.040 the same page, don't you recond? 0:19:55.080 --> 0:19:58.280 Yeah, so they probably need to communicate a bit more. 0:19:58.040 --> 0:20:01.440 But a bit like for example, there's like a lot 0:20:01.480 --> 0:20:07.080 of factors of maybe the husband feels like insecure of 0:20:07.280 --> 0:20:08.840 like why don't you want to have sex with me? 0:20:09.040 --> 0:20:13.320 Do not find me attractive or you know something like that, 0:20:13.680 --> 0:20:16.639 or is it a fact of like she consistently turns 0:20:16.680 --> 0:20:20.639 him down and he's like well, or he's like I 0:20:20.840 --> 0:20:24.080 want that connection with you, and that's how he creates 0:20:24.080 --> 0:20:26.920 that connection, you know, Like I feel like she. 0:20:26.880 --> 0:20:29.800 Could probably do a bit of work into trying to 0:20:29.880 --> 0:20:34.639 find herself to be more sexually active for have that. 0:20:34.560 --> 0:20:37.040 Same connection or connect on the same way. 0:20:37.080 --> 0:20:40.920 When you're both in flow together, yeah, that's when it's 0:20:41.280 --> 0:20:44.719 like the sparks go really good and the relationship works 0:20:44.760 --> 0:20:48.439 so well because if there's friction in that area, like 0:20:48.480 --> 0:20:52.320 that's a key to a good relationship, so she might 0:20:52.400 --> 0:20:54.439 need to do a bit of work on it and 0:20:55.000 --> 0:20:55.560 find out. 0:20:55.760 --> 0:20:59.800 Well, I think they both for sure, and it like for. 0:20:59.800 --> 0:21:01.160 Him as well, he probably needs. 0:21:01.000 --> 0:21:05.520 The because also if like he should be maybe asking 0:21:05.600 --> 0:21:08.239 like why doesn't she want to? Because maybe for her 0:21:08.320 --> 0:21:11.919 it's like is there any Because I heard this really 0:21:11.920 --> 0:21:14.240 good quote the other day on a podcast I'm trying 0:21:14.240 --> 0:21:18.640 to remember. I think it was the Yay podcast where 0:21:18.880 --> 0:21:24.040 Fine your Yay Wow the Yay podcast. We all know 0:21:24.080 --> 0:21:27.040 what I'm talking about, and she was saying, like men 0:21:27.119 --> 0:21:31.120 and women in regards to foreplay is so different. So 0:21:31.280 --> 0:21:35.760 like men most of the time, like they're pretty easy 0:21:35.920 --> 0:21:39.200 to get into it of like what it takes all, 0:21:42.960 --> 0:21:46.680 I'm ready, I'm inside there, whereas with females, like she 0:21:46.840 --> 0:21:50.160 was saying, it can start from like when they wake up, 0:21:50.400 --> 0:21:53.200 of how you treat them or when they wake up 0:21:53.440 --> 0:21:56.840 and then like if you asked about their day for example, 0:21:57.080 --> 0:22:01.239 me a little TMI. I love like I need that 0:22:01.240 --> 0:22:05.240 connection with the tim in him being like interested in 0:22:05.720 --> 0:22:08.320 like I'm a huge like communicator, so it's like I 0:22:08.359 --> 0:22:12.160 need conversation and almost like that's almost like four play 0:22:12.200 --> 0:22:15.600 for me of having that connection in our you talk 0:22:15.680 --> 0:22:18.800 about your day and he's interested in how you feel, 0:22:18.920 --> 0:22:22.560