Speaker 1: Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut.
Speaker 2: I'm Laura and I'm Brittany. Hi Brittany.
Speaker 1: Do you realize that we do the same you do
Speaker 1: the same? Yeah, we say hi, and then you go
Speaker 1: hi Brittany, and I'm like, hi, just hi. I alway said hello,
Speaker 1: We've already said hello, We've already been talking to each
Speaker 1: other for the last hour. I just think consistency is
Speaker 1: important so that the people know what they're getting, what
Speaker 1: are reliable, safe, secure Laura over here, And then whenever
Speaker 1: britt does an intro, she's like, oh, hey, guys, here,
Speaker 1: just go and row. I always think about that. I
Speaker 1: always go wild because I you know, I just think
Speaker 1: it's it's important to be spontaneous in all aspects of life, dating, relationships, podcasting.
Speaker 1: I have a lot of missionary sex, which okay, that note,
Speaker 1: actually this is a record.
Speaker 2: Never have you dropped that in the first two minutes.
Speaker 1: I liked how to do Myself so actually on that
Speaker 1: I have a kind of a funny story if you
Speaker 1: listen to the last week's Tuesday episode where I talked
Speaker 1: about how I almost had sex and I remember, well
Speaker 1: britt said it was a bit of an overshare, which
Speaker 1: clearly it was. So the other day, I was at
Speaker 1: the petrol station and I walked into pay and there
Speaker 1: were these two girls standing in front of me, and
Speaker 1: one of them was like, Hi, Oh my god, Laura,
Speaker 1: I feel like we're friends. I listened to your podcast.
Speaker 1: I love your podcasts. Have you had sex yet in
Speaker 1: the in the petrol station, was like, yes, yes, I have,
Speaker 1: just this morning.
Speaker 2: And then I realized that I was still sharing.
Speaker 1: Too much about my life to a complete stranger. Petrol
Speaker 1: station high five if you're listening. Yeah, things have just
Speaker 1: sporrowed out of control of me.
Speaker 2: Britt.
Speaker 1: I love this for so many reasons. I'd love it.
Speaker 1: I love that you had sex. Yes, I love that
Speaker 1: you had sex. I love that Daily Mail is going
Speaker 1: to have a field day with the first four minutes
Speaker 1: of this episode. I just love that like that people
Speaker 1: running to us a I love that they feel like
Speaker 1: we're friends and they often forget that we don't know
Speaker 1: each other in real life. I love that they feel
Speaker 1: this really close bond that they can say to you like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, did you have sex yet, and that
Speaker 1: you feel the bond back to be like, well, yes,
Speaker 1: I did. Well it was halfway through after saying that
Speaker 1: I realized I was like, I don't know you, this
Speaker 1: is I'm being inappropriate, right, I don't feel like you.
Speaker 2: Should know if I've just had sex.
Speaker 1: But also, and this is one for all of the
Speaker 1: mums out there who are in relationships and maybe they're
Speaker 1: in the same boat as me. And every time because
Speaker 1: I get a lot of mums who message me and
Speaker 1: they're like, Laura, don't worry, You're not alone. We're all
Speaker 1: going through the same thing. However, I've realized that the
Speaker 1: greatest affidisiac the greatest.
Speaker 2: One for a married, boring couple. It's not oysters, is it?
Speaker 2: What is it?
Speaker 1: It's not oysters, it's not perfume, it's not four P
Speaker 1: it's not seduction.
Speaker 2: It's cleaning the fucking house.
Speaker 1: So it's cleaning. It's cleaning. Matt clean the house. And
Speaker 1: I have never been more turned on in my life.
Speaker 1: That was all it took.
Speaker 2: And I was like, talk to me, dirty talk, and he.
Speaker 1: Was like, I'm gonna clean the bathroom next and I
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, boy, can't wait for this anyway. So
Speaker 1: on that note, you guys all know that we record
Speaker 1: in Laura's bedroom. We always chat Matt, Laura and I
Speaker 1: for like an hour or so in the lounder room
Speaker 1: and we run through the episode. We ask Matt's opinions
Speaker 1: on things, because he's a guy, just a general catchup,
Speaker 1: you know, because we usually haven't seen each other for
Speaker 1: like twelve hours. It's important to debrief on the day.
Speaker 1: So you often hear us talk about like that.
Speaker 3: We'll come into the studio, akay, the bedroom and Laura
Speaker 3: would have like a pile of clothes here that Matt's
Speaker 3: dumps somewhere or whatever.
Speaker 2: We always have to wade through something.
Speaker 1: But what Brittany's getting at is that my house is
Speaker 1: not particularly clean. But that is because we have a
Speaker 1: one year old and we live in constant chaos. No,
Speaker 1: what I'm caring at to that doesn't bother me in
Speaker 1: the slightest. Today tonight, right before this episode, we're sitting
Speaker 1: in the lounge room.
Speaker 2: Laura's like, Oh, britt just.
Speaker 3: Wait here one second. I'm just gonna go and quickly
Speaker 3: clean all the stuff off the bed in the studio.
Speaker 3: The bedroom, she comes in to clean it all off
Speaker 3: because she's like, there is shit everywhere. Then she comes
Speaker 3: back out and she's like, oh, Matt's got this smug
Speaker 3: look on his face.
Speaker 1: And she's like, Matt, you angel, I love you. You put
Speaker 1: all the stuff away. You've never done that, Thank you
Speaker 1: so much. And he's like all smug, being like yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm amazing. They kiss, Laura praises him.
Speaker 3: Laura walks back in and she's like, I'll meet you
Speaker 3: in the studio now, Laura.
Speaker 1: I hate to be the one to.
Speaker 2: Break this too.
Speaker 3: But Matt, as soon as she walked out of the room,
Speaker 3: looked at me and goes, oh, yeah, I just got lazy.
Speaker 3: It's all shoved behind the mirror.
Speaker 1: It's all behind the mirror, and I'm throwing him under
Speaker 1: the body.
Speaker 2: You can see it coming out the.
Speaker 1: Side of the mirror. That's it. Get inst the walls.
Speaker 1: He does not getting nothing tonight.
Speaker 2: And I was like, I knew you wouldn't have done it,
Speaker 2: and he's like, don't tell her.
Speaker 1: I'm really I feel victimized here. I feel like I'm
Speaker 1: the one that's been left out and this is cruel.
Speaker 2: Hey, I told you.
Speaker 1: I could have not told you and you would have
Speaker 1: had to have given him cleaning sympathy, sex. But now
Speaker 1: you don't have to do that.
Speaker 2: Thank god. I can go to bed. Oh God, thank god,
Speaker 2: pretty you save me.
Speaker 1: Anyway, Normally, just just get off that topic completely because
Speaker 1: I feel like that's five minutes too much of me
Speaker 1: talking about my sex life. Britt. Normally I ask you
Speaker 1: what you have done this week. However, I know exactly
Speaker 1: what you did this week because we just went away
Speaker 1: for your birthday. I can't believe that you're so old.
Speaker 1: I don't tell anyone my real age. I still say
Speaker 1: twenty eight. You look twenty eight. No, I feel forty,
Speaker 1: which there's nothing wrong with being forty, but there is
Speaker 1: when you're only thirty four. Laura and I basically for
Speaker 1: the first so Laura and I.
Speaker 3: See each other every week so many times. We have
Speaker 3: never in the last year, I don't think we've ever
Speaker 3: done anything that wasn't work related.
Speaker 1: We've never gone out for dinner together. We've never gone like,
Speaker 1: I mean, if we go for a walk, it's because
Speaker 1: we have to talk about podcast topics, so we kind.
Speaker 2: Do like a walking meeting.
Speaker 1: But we've never We keep saying we're going to go
Speaker 1: out and celebrate when we hit two million, and guys,
Speaker 1: next week we're gonna hit three million download and we
Speaker 1: still haven't even been out for dinner to celebrate.
Speaker 2: We didn't even boodiculous.
Speaker 1: So this weekend was actually really special because one it
Speaker 1: was Brittany's birthday. We got to go away and we
Speaker 1: had a beautiful little weekend, and two because it was
Speaker 1: my very first night that I was away from Mali.
Speaker 1: Oh so we guys went down to Shoal Bay. Actually
Speaker 1: that's a funny story. We went to Shoal Bay Penhouse. Wait,
Speaker 1: this is the problem because you keep saying we went
Speaker 1: down to Shoal Bay, So just don't blame start the story.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So britt told me that we were going to we're
Speaker 1: going down the coast. We're going to go down the
Speaker 1: coast for her birthday. And then she said Shoal Bay
Speaker 1: blah blah blah country club, a few other things. I said,
Speaker 1: exactly where we're going, Sholbey country Club? I said, shoal
Speaker 1: Bait country Club, down the down the coast. So I
Speaker 1: get into my car. I was driving by myself. I
Speaker 1: was like, I know where seul Haven is, Like, I mean,
Speaker 1: it must be around there. It's down the coast, Like
Speaker 1: what else is down the coast? So I still driving.
Speaker 1: I drive for an hour before I decided to put
Speaker 1: it into my maps. No, it turns out the Shoal
Speaker 1: Bay is not down the coast. It is three hours
Speaker 1: north of Sydney, and I had just driven an hour
Speaker 1: in the wrong direction, had to turn around, so round
Speaker 1: trip to get there for your birthday was a five
Speaker 1: hour trip.
Speaker 2: I feel like.
Speaker 3: You're putting a lot of this responsibility on me. Yes,
Speaker 3: to be fair, in my defense, I okay, yes, something.
Speaker 3: It is something I would say I often do say
Speaker 3: when I just say him going away in general, I'm like, hey,
Speaker 3: I's going to duck down the coast.
Speaker 1: Doesn't matter what direction I'm going.
Speaker 2: I just say it.
Speaker 1: Like but I say, like when.
Speaker 2: You're going to Queensland, you say I'm just going down
Speaker 2: to Queensland.
Speaker 3: It's like when I say I'm going to duck down
Speaker 3: to the shops. The shop might be up the hill,
Speaker 3: but the expression is duck down.
Speaker 2: But you can't duck anywhere for three hours. Yeah, but
Speaker 2: I can.
Speaker 1: So I said to Laura, We're just gonna go down
Speaker 1: the coast to Shoal Bay Country Club. And I'm pretty sure,
Speaker 1: Like I am pretty sure you're going to disagree that
Speaker 1: I said.
Speaker 2: It's just like near Newcastle.
Speaker 1: It's Nelson Bay, absolutely incorrect. I know exactly where Newcastle is.
Speaker 2: I was born there. You can ignore me to.
Speaker 1: Like you tune out when I'm talking. Not time for
Speaker 1: a sister.
Speaker 2: Fight, Brittany, not on air. Tone it down, all right,
Speaker 2: tell me about your birthday, so hang on.
Speaker 1: The moral of this story is we were supposed to
Speaker 1: just be like two and a half hours north. Laura
Speaker 1: drove an hour south, realized was the wrong way an hour,
Speaker 1: and then the three hours, so she drove five hours together.
Speaker 2: But you were in high spirits and it was worth it.
Speaker 1: Guys. Was my first night away from Mali, and I
Speaker 1: tell you I'll drive five hours for that. Okay, how
Speaker 1: was your birthday? I know I was there, but I
Speaker 1: gets to usually ask you how your week is. So
Speaker 1: how was your weekend? Yes, so it was really amazing.
Speaker 1: I've said it before on the podcast.
Speaker 2: I hate my birthday.
Speaker 1: Every year.
Speaker 3: I hate my birthday. I'm never one of those people
Speaker 3: that looks forward to it. I never plan anything. Actually,
Speaker 3: most of the time, I don't even tell people. I've
Speaker 3: hung out with my friends on my birthday and haven't
Speaker 3: told them.
Speaker 2: They have it known. I'm not one of those people.
Speaker 1: That's like, let's make this a birthday month. Do you
Speaker 1: want to share why you hate your birthday? Because it
Speaker 1: kind of leads into the podcast topic for today, And
Speaker 1: I think it's really important. Yeah, it's important because I
Speaker 1: think a lot of people would feel like that. Yeah, yes, Laura, Oh,
Speaker 1: we'll have happy.
Speaker 2: To share that.
Speaker 1: I'm happy to share my most tormented feelings. Please share
Speaker 1: your trauma with everybody. Alicia's so I think, and.
Speaker 2: I really did have to.
Speaker 3: I think about it, and if I'm really honest, I
Speaker 3: the last relationship I.
Speaker 2: Was in that we know that it was toxic.
Speaker 1: I was it was almost like my birthday when it ended.
Speaker 1: I had a really really bad birthday with him, where
Speaker 1: long story short, he just manipulated me in to feeling
Speaker 1: really bad the whole day. I had to act like
Speaker 1: it was his birthday. I had to take him out,
Speaker 1: I had to do all this stuff for him.
Speaker 3: I was apologizing him constantly, and I just had we
Speaker 3: had this huge fight and I just had a really
Speaker 3: really bad birthday. Then we broke up not long after.
Speaker 3: Fast forward and every year my birthday came. The first
Speaker 3: year that went past, I just felt like a reminder
Speaker 3: that I had this really bad. That time of my
Speaker 3: life was really bad. Then I remember saying to myself,
Speaker 3: and this was my mistake. I remember saying, all right, well,
Speaker 3: next year, I won't be alone on my birthday.
Speaker 1: I'll be with someone amazing, and I'll be really happy
Speaker 1: and I'll be sharing the moment with someone. Then the
Speaker 1: next year would come and it wouldn't happen. I wouldn't
Speaker 1: even be close. And the next year, then the next year,
Speaker 1: and fast forward, and this has been I think like
Speaker 1: the eighth or ninth year, and I just started to
Speaker 1: get really really depressed every year seeing that my friends
Speaker 1: like had all their partners doing these amazing things for them,
Speaker 1: surprising them, sharing them with love, just spending his quality
Speaker 1: time with them. And every year I just felt lonelier
Speaker 1: and lonelier and lonelier.
Speaker 3: And that is just being completely honest, because I feel
Speaker 3: like there've got to be people out there listening right
Speaker 3: now that are like, fuck like me too.
Speaker 1: I have felt that finally this year. You think I
Speaker 1: would have learned. It took me eight or nine years,
Speaker 1: but I've realized there's probably another order. It's probably not
Speaker 1: gonna happen.
Speaker 3: I can't keep saying next year, I'll be with someone
Speaker 3: before I just make my own happiness. So I finally
Speaker 3: decided to go away with some of the girls. We
Speaker 3: had an amazing time down at Shelby Country Club, which
Speaker 3: was beautiful.
Speaker 1: We went hiking. Much of the girl's dismay, I made
Speaker 1: the girls go hiking. It was so much food.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, the food was ridiculous.
Speaker 1: And it was with like it was with all of
Speaker 1: your closest friends, which even if you don't have.
Speaker 2: A guy there, we didn't need any guys there.
Speaker 3: Well, this is actually so all of these things are
Speaker 3: what got us to this episode today.
Speaker 2: Basically, the girls and I.
Speaker 3: There were five or six of us. I was the
Speaker 3: only single person there. All those of my friends have babies,
Speaker 3: are married or engaged.
Speaker 1: Yet literally all of them. I was the only one
Speaker 1: that was simple.
Speaker 3: But we were having these deeper, meaningful conversations, and it
Speaker 3: came up that you know, this feeling of a lot
Speaker 3: of people feel failure and they feel so lonely and
Speaker 3: if they hit thirty, and it also appears to be
Speaker 3: that thirty is the magic number. Thirty is the number
Speaker 3: where people feel lonely. And I don't know why, as
Speaker 3: a society we've set the number the benchmark to be like,
Speaker 3: oh you better, I've got your shit together by thirty,
Speaker 3: like it's the be all and.
Speaker 2: End all of our whole life.
Speaker 1: And then what I realized is the five other girls there,
Speaker 1: including yourself, Laura, everyone was so stoked to be having
Speaker 1: a waken away from their partners and the stress and
Speaker 1: kids and just general life. Not because they want to
Speaker 1: be away from their partner, but because they're like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, this I get some time to myself. I
Speaker 1: get to do whatever I want to do. I get
Speaker 1: to eat whatever I want to eat. I can go
Speaker 1: to bed when I want to go to bed.
Speaker 3: And it just made me think they are so stoked
Speaker 3: to be here. And sometimes it's like the grass isn't
Speaker 3: always greener. And I think it's really important that we
Speaker 3: touch on both sides of being single and being in relationships,
Speaker 3: the pros and the cons of both, and just make
Speaker 3: you guys realize that if you hit thirty and you're
Speaker 3: not where you thought you would be, that's okay. You
Speaker 3: can run your own race and you can be on
Speaker 3: your own timeline.
Speaker 1: Right you're like looking, I said, no, I was like, preach, sister,
Speaker 1: I've really gone on a tangent.
Speaker 2: Yes, I was like, is that us? Have we just
Speaker 2: done the whole topic?
Speaker 1: That?
Speaker 2: Okay, that was my intro.
Speaker 1: Okay, BRIT's already used that she's already done the intro,
Speaker 1: so we can just skip right to the content.
Speaker 2: No, but it's so true.
Speaker 1: And then like, so basically this episode is all going
Speaker 1: to be about being single in your thirties, the social
Speaker 1: stigma that's attached to that, the cultural expectations around especially
Speaker 1: women getting into relationships, and us having this like biological clock,
Speaker 1: but also just having this expiration date almost and that
Speaker 1: our value as a person and our worth is kind
Speaker 1: of tied up in are you in a relationship or not?
Speaker 1: And how we want to kind of break that down
Speaker 1: and redefine this. And you know, one, if you are
Speaker 1: in a relationship, you'll definitely sympathize with some of the
Speaker 1: parts of it that aren't great or that you know
Speaker 1: that you might miss about your single life. And if
Speaker 1: you are single at the moment, then maybe this podcast
Speaker 1: will help you to really embrace it and enjoy those
Speaker 1: years because it's not going to be that forever.
Speaker 2: But let's not get.
Speaker 1: Into that yet. First, we have accidentally unfiltered.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's enough.
Speaker 1: Actually, before we get into accidentally unfiltered, I just want
Speaker 1: to say one thing as well. Okay, I want to
Speaker 1: talk about Bachelor for a very very quick second, a
Speaker 1: hot second. For anyone who's been following along in our
Speaker 1: Facebook group, we've been having like a chat about each
Speaker 1: episode as they've been unfolding, and the current theme around
Speaker 1: this season is like it lacks a little bit of
Speaker 1: luster in comparison to other seasons, and that's because it's
Speaker 1: obviously gone down the track of a new format, which
Speaker 1: is that they're really really drawing out the single dates
Speaker 1: and then they're really really drawing out the cocktail parties
Speaker 1: as a whole episode. And it's kind of exhausting watching
Speaker 1: an hour and a half or an hour of a
Speaker 1: whole cocktail party because it just then has to lean
Speaker 1: so heavily into the drama and the bitchiness and the
Speaker 1: cat fighting and everything else, which you know, this early
Speaker 1: on in this series is what we kind of focus
Speaker 1: on anyway, but it's just really really highlighted on this season,
Speaker 1: and I think what we have to keep in mind
Speaker 1: for anyone who is a bit of a diehard Batchy
Speaker 1: fan and loves the season in general is that twenty
Speaker 1: twenty has fucked everything, and it has certainly done the
Speaker 1: same thing to The Bachelor because it would have been
Speaker 1: really difficult for them to have captured content. So they're
Speaker 1: probably down on the footage that they normally would have
Speaker 1: and that's why they are spreading the season out over
Speaker 1: more episodes.
Speaker 3: Yeah, obviously they're lacking content because they have already shown
Speaker 3: previews that covid happened. They all went home and then
Speaker 3: they started to date online. So I think that they're
Speaker 3: struggling a lot, so they're having to draw out the
Speaker 3: cocktail part. It's not ideal, not great, but we probably
Speaker 3: need to cut them a little bit of slack because,
Speaker 3: as you said.
Speaker 2: Twenty twenty is fucked. And then I have one more thing.
Speaker 3: Hang, I have one more thing first, WHOA all right?
Speaker 3: Jump in there, Sally. Just on relation to that.
Speaker 1: I wonder how they're doing Bachelorette, because they filming out
Speaker 1: right now, the Double Bachelorette with Ellie. But I guess
Speaker 1: with Bachelorette it's probably not going to be as intense.
Speaker 1: It's locky during Locky season that was at the height
Speaker 1: of everything happening with COVID, whereas I feel like the
Speaker 1: restrictions and things have settled a little bit more. Now
Speaker 1: there's a bit more normalcy around how filming would be structured.
Speaker 1: But obviously if there's another flare up and we go
Speaker 1: into another lockdown, it will just blow everything out of
Speaker 1: proportion again.
Speaker 3: But I mean, you just saw, did you see on
Speaker 3: the mask singer? I think seven or eight don't quote me,
Speaker 3: seven or eight of the dancers have just been tested positive,
Speaker 3: have just tested positive for COVID, So the whole thing's
Speaker 3: been shut down because that's crazy. So it's still it's
Speaker 3: still really a really big risk. I think that we're
Speaker 3: just getting more used to it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and also I think like New South Wales hasn't
Speaker 1: been hit anywhere near as hard. I mean, we know
Speaker 1: New South Wales hasn't been hit anywhere near as hard
Speaker 1: as Melbourne. But yeah, I guess it was interesting watching
Speaker 1: the last couple of episodes unfold and see the really
Speaker 1: different format that it's been taking, and you know what,
Speaker 1: it's taking some getting used to. I can't say I'm
Speaker 1: loving it as much as I usually love, but I
Speaker 1: do think that we need to kind of be a
Speaker 1: little bit less critical and go like Okay, this is
Speaker 1: just the way of the world. Everything is a bit
Speaker 1: screwed up in twenty twenty. The other thing I wanted
Speaker 1: to touch on really quickly is a few episodes ago,
Speaker 1: we were talking about the back and forth of the
Speaker 1: cocktail party night. So like, this is just one question
Speaker 1: that came in. I thought this was really interesting. So
Speaker 1: how we mentioned that the cocktail party is filmed over
Speaker 1: three days, and how you have to get into a
Speaker 1: bus and go back to the hotel and location. So
Speaker 1: during the cocktail party, the very first cocktail party, the
Speaker 1: girls don't stay at the house, so you're still staying
Speaker 1: in a hotel. Only the girls who were chosen on
Speaker 1: that first night after the first cocktail party stay in
Speaker 1: the house. So those two girls who went home never
Speaker 1: would have spent one night in the mansion. And I
Speaker 1: don't think anyone's ever.
Speaker 2: Really talked about that before. So there go.
Speaker 1: There's a bit of inside a gos straight from the
Speaker 1: horse's mouth. Okay, all right, so let's get into accidentally unfiltered. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go first. This accentally I'm filtered has actually
Speaker 1: come from a friend of mine. So my friend is
Speaker 1: from South America.
Speaker 2: Whenever you say friend, I'm like, it's one hundred percent.
Speaker 1: You no if you actually wait to hear the stories,
Speaker 1: not me.
Speaker 2: My friend is from South America.
Speaker 3: He's someone that I traveled with and met like a
Speaker 3: long time ago, but he's living here now. He rides
Speaker 3: a scooter because you know how all foreigners ride their
Speaker 3: little scooters that don't drive cars. He rides his scooter.
Speaker 3: So he was riding in Sydney. It was only his
Speaker 3: second day in Australia. He was about to start work
Speaker 3: at his brand new job, this huge company.
Speaker 2: The next day he's riding his scooter and a love
Speaker 2: man something masks something sexy about it?
Speaker 1: Man, Well, I think there is because you know why.
Speaker 3: It reminds me of Italy, because they all it's like,
Speaker 3: that's where my heart is.
Speaker 1: I thought, even like a razor scooter, we've all got
Speaker 1: our fetishes, Brittany, Like a grown man on a razor
Speaker 1: scooter just speeding through town.
Speaker 2: Give me someone Dan and where they the tricks? You
Speaker 2: know how they flip it under their feet like a
Speaker 2: three sixty.
Speaker 1: Just when you see a guy in a full suit
Speaker 1: on a razor scooter, like it happens if you're cruising
Speaker 1: around Sydney City. You'll see it and it's a it's
Speaker 1: a sight to behold.
Speaker 3: There is no bigger turn off than a grown man
Speaker 3: or woman on a scooter for me like that. I'm sorry,
Speaker 3: but even if I was remotely you could be Brad
Speaker 3: pitt On. Oh no, it's still a Brad pin on scooter.
Speaker 3: You could be someone really hot on a scooter and
Speaker 3: it's just not gonna do it for me.
Speaker 1: No, he's on like a scooter, like a moped.
Speaker 2: Yes, okay, I'm glad we're on the same page now.
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 3: So he's driving into the city just to have a
Speaker 3: look around. He stops at some lights and he sees
Speaker 3: this beautiful girl. I'm going to tell the story like
Speaker 3: he tells it.
Speaker 1: So I stop at the lights and I see this
Speaker 1: beautiful girl.
Speaker 2: She was so beautiful. She was the most beautiful person
Speaker 2: I've ever seen. What accent is this, I don't know.
Speaker 2: It feels weird.
Speaker 1: Okay, she's the most beautiful girl I've ever seen.
Speaker 2: And he's like, she was stunning. I couldn't stop looking
Speaker 2: at Australian women are beautiful.
Speaker 1: He's like, I locked eyes with her and then she
Speaker 1: he locked eyes with me, and then I was like, bitch,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna win this stair off and I was like, dude,
Speaker 1: it's not a stair up.
Speaker 3: So he's locking eyes with her and he's like, I'm
Speaker 3: not looking away because I'm not going to be the
Speaker 3: person that loses.
Speaker 2: He doesn't remember.
Speaker 1: He does not remember what happened next, but he somehow
Speaker 1: woke up to an ambulance.
Speaker 2: He'd crashed.
Speaker 1: He looked at her.
Speaker 2: So long, he crashed his kid.
Speaker 1: He woke up, he was unconscious. He doesn't not happen.
Speaker 1: He woke up and the ambulance was there and the
Speaker 1: girl was over. He broke his arm and everything in
Speaker 1: front of the girl he was trying to.
Speaker 3: Up with, and she was He woke up like a movie.
Speaker 3: Her face was above him, being like are you okay?
Speaker 1: You're an angel?
Speaker 2: Yeah, and he's like, what's happened. She's like, I don't.
Speaker 3: You've crashed, You've broken your arm, the ambulance is here,
Speaker 3: You've been unconscious.
Speaker 1: Anyway, A so embarrassing.
Speaker 2: B they dated.
Speaker 1: Wow, I know you would kind of hope that that
Speaker 1: was going to be the outcome.
Speaker 2: And then he's like worth it.
Speaker 3: In the end, they didn't date for long, but then
Speaker 3: he had turned up to his new job with a
Speaker 3: breaking arm, and I'm just like, I just said, n't what.
Speaker 2: Happened in that? Like, what happened that you crashed?
Speaker 1: Talk me through it. He's like actually blacked out. He's like,
Speaker 1: I don't know what happened. Imagine keeping on driving though,
Speaker 1: like fine if he stopped at the traffic lights, but
Speaker 1: just I reckon his icon, I reckon, That's what.
Speaker 3: He's Done's eye contacted her and just like put his
Speaker 3: in the accelerator down and running to the back of
Speaker 3: a parently.
Speaker 2: I like, but imagine that girl like, oh my god,
Speaker 2: that was good.
Speaker 1: I like that.
Speaker 3: She probably sympathy dated him too, ha long did at
Speaker 3: last four oh like two days?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, sympathy dates.
Speaker 2: And he also couldn't do much because he had a
Speaker 2: bung hand. Take the castra hand.
Speaker 1: Okay, I have one that was sent in from a nurse,
Speaker 1: good old frontline worker. So I'm a nurse on a
Speaker 1: busy surgicalward and this accidentally unfiltered incident happened, thankfully, not
Speaker 1: to me, but to a physio that I work with.
Speaker 1: So the physio was about to do some daily physio exercises.
Speaker 1: With a female patient that had just had a hip
Speaker 1: replacement the day before. She walked into the patient's room
Speaker 1: and the curtains had been pulled across, and as you do,
Speaker 1: you say knock, knock, and you pull.
Speaker 2: The curtains back.
Speaker 1: To the physio's surprise, the patient's bottom was perched up
Speaker 1: on the ledge of the bed, legs straddled wide apart, and.
Speaker 2: The patience partner was going to down down on her.
Speaker 1: Needless to say, the physio walked out awkwardly and exercises
Speaker 1: for that day were canned. As clearly as she had
Speaker 1: gotten enough range of motion that day, she has absolutely
Speaker 1: nothing to worry about so far. Also, who comes out
Speaker 1: of surgery horny? Do you know what I once Oh,
Speaker 1: I once heard and I don't know if it's an
Speaker 1: urban legend or not, but I once heard about a
Speaker 1: woman giving birth and then giving her husband a blowjob
Speaker 1: shortly afterwards. And I can't think of anything worse in
Speaker 1: my entire life. Really, do you think that's a thing.
Speaker 1: I have been told it by multiple sources, but I'm
Speaker 1: still yet to confirm.
Speaker 2: And that was like, let me guess what about me
Speaker 2: next time? Matt told you? That's sorry for sure. That's like, Hey, babe,
Speaker 2: I heard this story about these women. I don't think
Speaker 2: it can be true.
Speaker 3: I don't feel like a woman could go through twenty
Speaker 3: hour labor pushing something out of a vagina, stitches torn,
Speaker 3: and then want to give the guy that inflicted that
Speaker 3: on her a head job.
Speaker 1: It blew my mind. If anyone out there has done it,
Speaker 1: please send it to me. I'll probably put it on
Speaker 1: our Instagram, but I really want to know. Also, probably
Speaker 1: stop sharing that story because it really sets an expectation
Speaker 1: that's very, very unachievable for the rest of us.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, that is so.
Speaker 1: It's never happened.
Speaker 2: Happened.
Speaker 1: I actually want to read you. This just came in
Speaker 1: from a girl that I know to the Instagram. It
Speaker 1: was just that, And I can't believe he said that.
Speaker 1: I can't believe he said that.
Speaker 2: I shit you not.
Speaker 3: A guy just sent me this message on bumble an
Speaker 3: hour ago. He gave me his number and said, this
Speaker 3: might be a bit forward, but do you think you
Speaker 3: can please send me a picture of your ear?
Speaker 2: Is an ear fetisher thing?
Speaker 1: What the fuck? That's how she finished, He's on ear
Speaker 1: finish hit a king shame, Like I mean some people
Speaker 1: are into feats, some people into butt, some people into boobs.
Speaker 1: Some people lear into years. It's fine. Maybe you light
Speaker 1: know she got saggy lobes, but fancy not. That's your
Speaker 1: criteria before you allow a first date. Is I need sorry,
Speaker 1: I need to check your ears, age, sex location in ears.
Speaker 1: So he wouldn't go on a date with her until
Speaker 1: she'd send an earshot. No, I was it, Yeah, he
Speaker 1: needs send nude, send years.
Speaker 2: That's what it was. Is she send her.
Speaker 1: Would I'm actually I know her. I'm going to follow
Speaker 1: up with it and I'll let you know. I also
Speaker 1: had it, and I can't believe. They said that one
Speaker 1: of our listeners was laying in bed with a guy
Speaker 1: who she'd been seeing him for a little while, and
Speaker 1: she knew or had the feeling that maybe he was
Speaker 1: seeing some other people, but they were not exclusive. So
Speaker 1: she was like, whatever, I'm just going to see where
Speaker 1: this goes, not put any pressure on it. He'd already
Speaker 1: said to her that he wasn't ready to be in
Speaker 1: a relationship, so anyway, he came over. They got to town,
Speaker 1: they had a good night in between the sheets and
Speaker 1: they were lying in bed cuddling and he rolled over
Speaker 1: and said to her, you know what, I really I
Speaker 1: didn't think that I wanted to be with anyone, but
Speaker 1: tonight's made me realize I really want to be with
Speaker 1: the other girl that I've been sleeping with. That moment
Speaker 1: you realize you make someone want a relationship, but it's
Speaker 1: just not with you. This episode's going to be so
Speaker 1: great for you. Don't worry. Life is great when you're single.
Speaker 3: I reckon I have made so many guys the perfect partner,
Speaker 3: Like I have been that person so many times where
Speaker 3: I've dated people just that few times, help them see
Speaker 3: what they want, help them be a better person, and
Speaker 3: then they're like, I'm ready for love now, but it's
Speaker 3: just not with me.
Speaker 2: Like I'm just I'm always the one for the one.
Speaker 1: You're like the husband maker. You're like, come to me,
Speaker 1: or make you a husband and then go on your
Speaker 1: merry way and live a happy, happy life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's me. So, although I think a lot.
Speaker 1: Of people who go through breakups there's often this fear
Speaker 1: that they're going to then go into the next relationship
Speaker 1: and find the perfect person and be perfectly happy. But
Speaker 1: I do also think we need to keep perspective that
Speaker 1: often people Yeah, sure they go into new relationships, and
Speaker 1: yes they may end up being with that person for forever,
Speaker 1: but they're still the same person. People very rarely will
Speaker 1: enact all this change and become this totally different person
Speaker 1: and live this perfectly happy life if they were not
Speaker 1: very good to you in the first place. No, it's
Speaker 1: more just that you.
Speaker 3: You're just I guess the sounding board, like you're the
Speaker 3: Everyone treats someone shit at some point in their life
Speaker 3: before they treat someone like a queen. Everyone makes mistakes,
Speaker 3: so I'm just the one that they always make the
Speaker 3: mistakes on. No, what I'm saying is like you're assuming
Speaker 3: that they then go and treat someone like a queen.
Speaker 3: There's a lot of people out there who get into
Speaker 3: relationships who continue.
Speaker 1: To be douchebags.
Speaker 2: That stuff doesn't always change.
Speaker 1: That's true. Let's keep piscade with people. But I'm like,
Speaker 1: you know, daywo Lee, I'm looking at that fairy tale ending.
Speaker 1: I think I'm thinking the best.
Speaker 2: It's It's.
Speaker 1: All right, guys.
Speaker 2: Let's jump into single and thirty. Why are you single?
Speaker 3: This is the most commonly asked and honestly the most
Speaker 3: hated question of any single person at any age.
Speaker 2: I can absolutely guarantee it.
Speaker 3: It's sort of up there with don't worry Harne, It's
Speaker 3: just around the corner, or Hello, do you know you've
Speaker 3: got a body clock? Like yeah, yes, yes, I know.
Speaker 2: But also I.
Speaker 1: Think it's it's like feigned as a compliment, you know
Speaker 1: this whole like, oh, but how are you single? It's
Speaker 1: meant to be a compliment, but actually it's like the
Speaker 1: most backhanded, like constantly reminding, oh, because I'm single, there's
Speaker 1: nothing wrong with me. I'm just single.
Speaker 3: No, So how are you single? Is different to why
Speaker 3: are you single? People that say why are you sing?
Speaker 3: How are you single?
Speaker 2: Can be really cute and positive, like how on earth
Speaker 2: do you single?
Speaker 1: You're such a cash?
Speaker 2: Why are you single?
Speaker 1: Is like what's wrong with you? No?
Speaker 2: See?
Speaker 1: I disagree because I still think how are you single?
Speaker 1: Means that people who are single must be defective, So
Speaker 1: it's like, well, how did you end up being single?
Speaker 1: Because you see normal? So I still think that they
Speaker 1: both play into a negative.
Speaker 3: If someone says to me how are you single, I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 3: that's more cute.
Speaker 1: I'm like cute, Okay, I'm gonna fight you on this
Speaker 1: stone cause it's the same as people being like, you're
Speaker 1: different to other girls. No, Like, that's not cute. Stop
Speaker 1: saying the girls are psychos, We're not. Like it's the
Speaker 1: same kind of It's meant to be a compliment, but
Speaker 1: I think it's a backhanded compliment without realizing printany is
Speaker 1: like I love compliment.
Speaker 2: No, I just I'm not the same as other g
Speaker 2: I'm not the same. She's like, this guy said that.
Speaker 1: To me last night. It was really cute.
Speaker 3: Look, I think it's not the end of the world
Speaker 3: if someone said that to me. But these are the
Speaker 3: sort of questions that you do need to reconsider.
Speaker 2: If you've got a.
Speaker 1: Single friend or anyone that you meet in your life,
Speaker 1: you have to reconsider asking on these questions. My mom,
Speaker 1: she doesn't say it anymore because I had to say
Speaker 1: something to it. But she used to say it to
Speaker 1: me without meaning anything.
Speaker 2: Bad by it.
Speaker 3: But she used to say things to me like I
Speaker 3: would be dating all the time, and I was so
Speaker 3: open with my mom, so I used to tell her everything,
Speaker 3: like going on a second date with this guy, I
Speaker 3: go on a.
Speaker 2: Third day with this guy.
Speaker 1: She'd call me, She's like, how's that guy?
Speaker 2: I bet I'm not seeing him? Anymore.
Speaker 1: Why not he didn't want to see me anymore, he
Speaker 1: didn't feel anything. And she would say things like what
Speaker 1: do you think's wrong with you? Or what do you
Speaker 1: think you did?
Speaker 3: Things like that, but she would not she didn't mean
Speaker 3: that in any way. That was her way of just
Speaker 3: trying to say, like, what went wrong? And I hadn't
Speaker 3: eventually said it. I was like, Mom, you can't phrase
Speaker 3: it like that because I just feel like something's wrong
Speaker 3: with me.
Speaker 2: And I was like, oh what anything like that.
Speaker 3: But it's just really I think this really reiterates how
Speaker 3: important it is to choose the right wording when when
Speaker 3: you're addressing people like this.
Speaker 1: Yeah, totally. And I think you know, the reason why
Speaker 1: we wanted to do this episode is because, like, we've
Speaker 1: talked loads about being single, We've talked loads about relationships.
Speaker 1: If you listen and you've been listening to this podcast
Speaker 1: for a while, you might feel like that we've covered this,
Speaker 1: but we've done it in such a sporadic way over
Speaker 1: so many different episodes that we really wanted to have
Speaker 1: an episode that's dedicated to being single in your thirties,
Speaker 1: because you know, there's so many people who are out there,
Speaker 1: so many women, so many men who are out there
Speaker 1: who are single, and there really is this cultural expectation
Speaker 1: and this societal pressure that you should be in a
Speaker 1: relationship by the time you're in your thirties, and you
Speaker 1: know that the older that you get in your thirties,
Speaker 1: the more that you're wasting time or that you know,
Speaker 1: maybe your expectations are too high, maybe you should settle.
Speaker 2: So we really wanted to address what that looks like.
Speaker 1: And for anyone who who listened to the episode that
Speaker 1: we did, which was Free brittany where, Britt was talking
Speaker 1: all about it, her experience, well, her experience with you know, Tim,
Speaker 1: and then how she felt like, you know, no one's
Speaker 1: gonna love me. One of the most common messages we
Speaker 1: had as a result of that episode was when you
Speaker 1: spoke really vulnerably about how it felt to be single
Speaker 1: and how you felt like that there was a part
Speaker 1: of you that was unlovable, and so many people resonated
Speaker 1: with that, and that's kind of what made us realize, Okay,
Speaker 1: we really need to talk about this because there are
Speaker 1: so many great aspects of being single, but that doesn't
Speaker 1: mean that you can't feel the full spectrum of emotions
Speaker 1: as well. And we do really want to drive home
Speaker 1: that this this whilst we are going to delve into single,
Speaker 1: I'm thirty. These messages go for anyone single at any age.
Speaker 1: Any feelings that you're feeling, what we're going to talk
Speaker 1: about pros and cons are going to relate to you
Speaker 1: as well. The only reason we sort of driving home
Speaker 1: the number thirty is because it does seem to be
Speaker 1: this magic number in society where we're supposed to have
Speaker 1: our shit together. You're supposed to have been married, supposed
Speaker 1: to have your job sort and you're supposed to know
Speaker 1: where you're going. You're supposed to have done all this shy,
Speaker 1: you're supposed to have kids, and all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: for some reason, there's this stigma attached that if you
Speaker 1: hit thirty, or you are newly single at thirty two,
Speaker 1: thirty three, thirty four, there's this stigma attach that you're
Speaker 1: a failure, that you're unlovable, that you've done something wrong,
Speaker 1: that no one wants you, that it's not going to
Speaker 1: happen for you, that you're not going to have your
Speaker 1: kids in time, and it can be at this really negative,
Speaker 1: all consuming, drowning feeling that a lot of people feel.
Speaker 1: So I want to talk about that a lot, and
Speaker 1: I'm going to be really honest with you because I'm
Speaker 1: someone that has been in long term relationships for about
Speaker 1: ten years total and I'm someone coming up to nine
Speaker 1: years single. So I have done both both ends.
Speaker 3: Of the spectrum, and all my single years have been
Speaker 3: in my older years, and I have just turned thirty
Speaker 3: three this week, so I feel like it's relevant. I
Speaker 3: also was very infamously dumped on The Bachelor on my
Speaker 3: thirtieth birthday, so I was literally talking about being thirty
Speaker 3: and single. I was sitting at home turning thirty whilst
Speaker 3: the nation watched me be dumped. So I can say
Speaker 3: that all of this comes from a place of experience.
Speaker 2: We often say Laura and I. Laura always says it.
Speaker 3: She's like, we are unqualified to be giving this advice,
Speaker 3: but I feel like I am an expert in this field.
Speaker 2: I should have a bachelor Oh that was no pun intended.
Speaker 2: I feel like.
Speaker 1: I felt like a bachelor degree, but I should have
Speaker 1: a bachelor too. Okay, guys, going to take a real
Speaker 1: quick break to say thanks to our sponsor. Also, I
Speaker 1: really want to reiterate and just drive this point home
Speaker 1: this this episode is not just for people who are single.
Speaker 1: This episode is also for people who are in their
Speaker 1: thirties and they are in relationships where they're not happy,
Speaker 1: but they're so fearful about breaking a relationship or leaving
Speaker 1: someone who's not good for them, or they've settled for
Speaker 1: something that's like, you know, they're dating down. Basically, if
Speaker 1: you acknowledge that there's a part of you that feels
Speaker 1: like you're settling and the reason why you're doing that
Speaker 1: is because you're like, well it's too hard now, I
Speaker 1: don't want to go out there and find someone new,
Speaker 1: biological clock, all these different things, then you know, we
Speaker 1: just want you to have another perspective on that, to
Speaker 1: think about life is long, you don't want to spend
Speaker 1: it with the wrong person, and you sure shit would
Speaker 1: rather be single than to be in an unhappy relationship.
Speaker 1: So this, this topic and this episode is also for you. Actually,
Speaker 1: I just want to start by saying I did a
Speaker 1: lot of research in this. Obviously I'm gonna give you
Speaker 1: my personal opinions and my personal thoughts, but research showed
Speaker 1: that most people real happiness begins for them at age
Speaker 1: thirty three. You get to a certain age where you
Speaker 1: just don't suffer bullshit anymore, right, like your your relationships,
Speaker 1: you have this like level of confidence that comes out
Speaker 1: in your thirties. I think that you know, when they
Speaker 1: say like youth is wasted on the young's, there's truth
Speaker 1: to it. And I think that the older that you get,
Speaker 1: the more that you realize it really is the case.
Speaker 1: Because since I have been, you know, in my thirties,
Speaker 1: I just care less about the things that I used
Speaker 1: to care so much about, Like I care, not that
Speaker 1: I don't care about the way I look, but I
Speaker 1: care my self worth isn't dependent on the way I
Speaker 1: look now, And I don't feel so inst cure in
Speaker 1: social settings, and I don't feel or worry about what
Speaker 1: other people think of me like I used to. And
Speaker 1: I think that there's this real liberation that comes when
Speaker 1: you reach the rife old age of thirty thirty five,
Speaker 1: thirty six, y seven, thirty eight, forty And I think
Speaker 1: that that really just gets better and better, with this
Speaker 1: self acceptance that happens as you get older.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I just.
Speaker 1: Think there's a multitude of reasons. The more I thought
Speaker 1: about it and the more I read about it.
Speaker 3: So you hit thirty and all of a sudden, you're
Speaker 3: in a better place, usually financially, so you're starting to
Speaker 3: settle into your job. You've made some progression in your career,
Speaker 3: you've put some money behind you, you might have savings,
Speaker 3: so you feel comfortable in that sense. You hopefully have
Speaker 3: gotten all the red flags out of the way. You
Speaker 3: have dated, you've made mistakes, you've seen the bullshit, you've
Speaker 3: seen the assholes.
Speaker 1: You've had your heartbreak, and you've learned a lot of
Speaker 1: lessons from it.
Speaker 3: Also, like you just said, you get to this place
Speaker 3: of confidence where you just don't care anymore. You know
Speaker 3: the value of time, and you know what you want
Speaker 3: and you know what you're looking for, and you don't
Speaker 3: put up with anything less. So I feel like it
Speaker 3: all sort of molded into one.
Speaker 1: You hit thirty to thirty five and you're like wow,
Speaker 1: like and this is good for me because I turned
Speaker 1: thirty three four days ago, so this is my year
Speaker 1: of happiness. Well I even say, like I reckon my like,
Speaker 1: the best year I've ever had was thirty one, thirty two,
Speaker 1: thirty one, thirty two, thirty three.
Speaker 2: I had Malley in thirty three, So the Bachelor.
Speaker 1: Was thirty one I turned thirty one when I was
Speaker 1: on the show, like when we were actually filming the show,
Speaker 1: and my life in my twenties was just really complicated.
Speaker 1: I mean, I think back on my dating life from
Speaker 1: my twenties, and my dating life was so complicated, and
Speaker 1: I've spoken about it loads before and I'm not going
Speaker 1: to go into it into too much detail, but like
Speaker 1: that was when I was making all the mistakes in
Speaker 1: my relationships, Like I was dating the wrong type of guys,
Speaker 1: the same type of guys. I was getting into toxic relationships.
Speaker 1: I didn't value myself. I didn't think that I was
Speaker 1: worth anybody better than the people that.
Speaker 2: I was dating.
Speaker 1: And I know that that sounds really self entitled, but
Speaker 1: like you know, I was being treated like shit. I
Speaker 1: was being cheated on, and I still was going back
Speaker 1: for more and for more and for more, and I
Speaker 1: didn't have any standards. And it wasn't until after my
Speaker 1: thirtieth birthday when I went through a really cataclysmic breakup
Speaker 1: on my thirtieth birthday as well, it wasn't on national TV,
Speaker 1: but it was pretty bad that I realized I wanted
Speaker 1: something more for myself. And then things, obviously I got
Speaker 1: really lucky. I mean, I know that there was a
Speaker 1: huge amount of luck that played into my circumstances with
Speaker 1: meeting Matt, but my life has only gotten better since
Speaker 1: being in my thirties, and there's you know, we want
Speaker 1: to kind of go into like the good bits about
Speaker 1: being single, But one thing I do want to touch
Speaker 1: on is you can get into this real negative self
Speaker 1: talk when you're not happy with the current situation that
Speaker 1: you're in. So if you are single and you want
Speaker 1: to have a boyfriend, it's very easy to think that
Speaker 1: it's going to be like this forever and you're trying
Speaker 1: to project what the future is going to be like.
Speaker 1: And I just think it's so important to not speak
Speaker 1: to yourself in a way where you're saying like, well,
Speaker 1: I'm going to be single next year or I'm going
Speaker 1: to be single forever. No one's going to love me
Speaker 1: because you literally don't know what's around the corner. You
Speaker 1: literally don't know what decisions you're going to make, or
Speaker 1: who you going to meet and how your life could
Speaker 1: change in an instant. I just think that's a really
Speaker 1: important thing to throw out there to start with, to say,
Speaker 1: like this negative self talk because you're unhappy with the
Speaker 1: situation right now. This is not going to be your
Speaker 1: life forever. Life is so dynamic, shit changes so quickly.
Speaker 1: Three and a half years ago, I was single. Now
Speaker 1: I have a kid. Like it's wild. That is wild,
Speaker 1: But you know what, it takes nine months, months and
Speaker 1: maybe seven minutes. Who knows nine months and seven minutes. No,
Speaker 1: And I'm I'm guys, I'm going to be really real
Speaker 1: with you throughout this episode.
Speaker 3: I don't want to sugarcoat things, because I think it's
Speaker 3: important that we do take the bad way the good,
Speaker 3: I guess, and I will be really honest and tell
Speaker 3: you that I have.
Speaker 1: Had really, really, really.
Speaker 3: Tough times and I have been so horrible to myself
Speaker 3: and to be around. I've locked myself in my house
Speaker 3: for weeks and just not wanted to go out. And
Speaker 3: it's all because it's stemmed from this feeling of not
Speaker 3: being good enough. No one wants you, You'll never be loved,
Speaker 3: You're never gonna meet anyone. I genuinely would tell myself,
Speaker 3: I would look in the mirror and I can't believe
Speaker 3: I would say this. I would look in the mirror
Speaker 3: and say to myself, I would be like, you are
Speaker 3: so disgusting. I couldn't even look at myself and I
Speaker 3: would cancel my night out. It all came from this
Speaker 3: feeling of not being good enough in a relationship. That's
Speaker 3: where it stemmed from. And I was the sort of
Speaker 3: person that I shouldn't have let it grow, but I did.
Speaker 1: Couldn't stand aside of myself, and I would tell myself
Speaker 1: every day, no one's ever.
Speaker 2: Gonna love you like you will be alone forever.
Speaker 3: And that is half the battle, because we talk about
Speaker 3: this all the time, this really negative self talk. If
Speaker 3: you tell yourself that every day, you're gonna believe it,
Speaker 3: that's the energy you're gonna put out into the world
Speaker 3: and you're never going to receive anything back because you're
Speaker 3: not giving anything good out.
Speaker 1: And I can't stress that enough that I.
Speaker 2: Know I'm not disgusting now.
Speaker 1: Like literally everyone listening to this is like, oh, out
Speaker 1: at Brittain Hill's like that, there's no help for me.
Speaker 2: But that's why.
Speaker 3: And I mean we touched on it with the body
Speaker 3: dysmorphia episode, and I think it's I think it's really
Speaker 3: important for people.
Speaker 2: I hope that someone I hope.
Speaker 3: That you guys are listening out there now and I'm
Speaker 3: not saying this for any sort of a tension. I'm
Speaker 3: not saying it for any reason other than I want
Speaker 3: to be honest and say that you don't know what
Speaker 3: anyone is feeling, or what they're going through, or how
Speaker 3: a relationship in the past, whether that's a family relationship,
Speaker 3: a romantic relationship, how that has affected someone and what
Speaker 3: they actually believe about themselves. So I just want to say,
Speaker 3: I'm only telling you this so that you guys know
Speaker 3: that if this is hitting home with you in any way,
Speaker 3: that a it's normal to feel like that at some point,
Speaker 3: but it's really really important to pull yourself out.
Speaker 2: Of that and see the positives.
Speaker 3: I want to start by saying being single can be
Speaker 3: bloody awesome. I want to start by talking and discussing
Speaker 3: the good, positive, fun, amazing aspects of being single and
Speaker 3: what it can do and why it's really important to
Speaker 3: see how great life can be.
Speaker 1: When we talk about relationships and we see and relationships
Speaker 1: are held up as like the beacon of what everyone
Speaker 1: should want, there is a lot of pressure to be
Speaker 1: that and to have that, but that is also we
Speaker 1: talk about Instagram as well a lot, but that is
Speaker 1: also because you only ever see the highlight reel, right,
Speaker 1: Like when Britta and I were talking about this conversation,
Speaker 1: I was like, you never see the ship parts of
Speaker 1: a relationship, and like, I love Matt with all my
Speaker 1: heart and I would not want anything different for my
Speaker 1: life now, and I love Mali. But that's not to
Speaker 1: say that there aren't times where I feel really jealous
Speaker 1: that you're able to just go to the gym whenever
Speaker 1: you want to, that you're able to live your life
Speaker 1: in whatever way, make whatever decisions you want whenever you
Speaker 1: want them. If you clean your house, you come home
Speaker 1: to a clean house. If I clean my house, I
Speaker 1: come home to a shit storm and my headphones are
Speaker 1: in the bin. Like, honestly, it's it's chaos. It's absolutely chaos.
Speaker 1: And like you have to have this level of acceptance
Speaker 1: once you have kids and you're in a relationship that like,
Speaker 1: your life is never going to be just your life again.
Speaker 1: And it's actually taking me a really long time in
Speaker 1: the last year to be okay with that, because there
Speaker 1: are days where I personally feel really jealous that I
Speaker 1: don't get to just be me anymore, and I feel
Speaker 1: like I've lost myself in that. So I think It's
Speaker 1: very easy to look at what somebody else has and
Speaker 1: to think that your life will be better when you
Speaker 1: have it. But in saying that life can be great
Speaker 1: when you're single, life can be great when you're in
Speaker 1: a relationship, there's shades of grey to both of them,
Speaker 1: you know. But people who are in relationships are only
Speaker 1: taking photos and sharing photos during the positive times. I'm
Speaker 1: not taking photos where Maley vomits on my chest. I'm like, hey, honey,
Speaker 1: go get the camera up.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: And similarly, I'm not taking photos when I'm at home,
Speaker 3: living alone, on my own, eating a can of tuna
Speaker 3: for dinner, watching a sad rom com. Like, I'm not
Speaker 3: showing you, guys those pasts. I'm showing you like me
Speaker 3: being outnhappy. You're showing you the best highlights of your life.
Speaker 3: So it's really important that people remember that.
Speaker 1: And there are loads of people who are single and
Speaker 1: who are happy, and there are loads of people who
Speaker 1: are in relationships who feel completely isolated and unloved. So
Speaker 1: having a relationship is not a detailing factor for your happiness.
Speaker 1: Happiness comes from doing the hard yards when you're single
Speaker 1: and like really working on your own personal and self development.
Speaker 1: So that your happiness is already there. Somebody else can
Speaker 1: just add to your life a bit of flavor, a
Speaker 1: bit more of love, a bit more stability.
Speaker 3: But the number one point I want to say is
Speaker 3: if you're single eight you've got all the time in
Speaker 3: the world. You can do what you want. You can
Speaker 3: go where you want when you want, you can travel alone.
Speaker 3: You don't have to make plans. You can sit at
Speaker 3: home and eat cereal for dinner. You don't want it
Speaker 3: every day, well no, but like if you could, you
Speaker 3: could because you don't have to worry anyone else.
Speaker 2: I mean, you can do that in a relationship too.
Speaker 2: Just shit gets weird after a.
Speaker 3: While, but it sounds selfish, but it's not when I say,
Speaker 3: the only person you need to think about is you,
Speaker 3: and that is a really, really nice place to be
Speaker 3: in because you won't be in it forever. So this
Speaker 3: is the time where you get your creative juices flowing.
Speaker 3: You find out who you are and what it is
Speaker 3: you want to do when you go.
Speaker 2: And do it.
Speaker 3: It's actually proven that people that are single or living
Speaker 3: on their own are more driven and can be generally
Speaker 3: more successful because they have more time to focus, They
Speaker 3: have more time to sit at home and be like,
Speaker 3: you know what, I've always had this idea, I'm going
Speaker 3: to do it.
Speaker 2: They don't have a.
Speaker 3: Kid, they don't have a husband to look after, and
Speaker 3: I'm not saying you have to look after them, but
Speaker 3: they've just got nothing else taking their energy and their time.
Speaker 3: So it's known that these people are more likely to
Speaker 3: go and pursue their dreams.
Speaker 1: Well, you actually just said something, which is I think
Speaker 1: I think something. This is something that a lot of
Speaker 1: mothers specifically will deal with, and women who are in
Speaker 1: relationships and they have only newly kind of like gotten
Speaker 1: into this parental role.
Speaker 2: Actually I take the back.
Speaker 1: Maybe definitely not new parents, people who have toddlers, small children.
Speaker 1: We're kind of sold on this idea of a happy
Speaker 1: family and like the happy family dynamic. But what I
Speaker 1: was unaware of, and I mean I definitely can't fault
Speaker 1: Matt on it because he's stepped up to the table
Speaker 1: massively now. But what I wasn't aware of is that
Speaker 1: women in relationships who have children, even if they're the
Speaker 1: bread winners, even if they're working.
Speaker 2: We still more often than not.
Speaker 1: And I see this with my friends, I see this
Speaker 1: in other relationships more often than not that the women
Speaker 1: still does the line's share of the work in the house.
Speaker 1: There is still this patriarchal expectation that the women do
Speaker 1: the housework. I just see so many moms who are exhausted, exasperated,
Speaker 1: like don't feel like they understand or know themselves anymore,
Speaker 1: don't even feel like they feel like they're a shell
Speaker 1: of their old self because they're working all day. Then
Speaker 1: they're coming home, they're taking care of children, they're cooking,
Speaker 1: they're cleaning.
Speaker 2: Nothing.
Speaker 1: Like I said, nothing stays clean. And it's this like perpetual,
Speaker 1: never ending, absolutely exhausting cycle that you get into. And
Speaker 1: I just think it's so easy to be sold on
Speaker 1: this dream that life is going to be better once
Speaker 1: you have all those things. But there are a lot
Speaker 1: of people who are in relationships who aren't happy, or
Speaker 1: there are a lot of people who are in relationships
Speaker 1: who as much as they love their family and as
Speaker 1: much as they love their husband, they can't recognize themselves
Speaker 1: they're unhappy for other reasons. Yeah, and this is just
Speaker 1: you've just really driven home my first point. Single people,
Speaker 1: you have the time and luxury, so use it wisely
Speaker 1: and take and take advantage of that you just tell
Speaker 1: yourself every day, today I can do whatever I want today,
Speaker 1: I can be whoever I want today, I can get
Speaker 1: anything done. And I think that's really really important thing,
Speaker 1: and I'm really good with that. I feel if anyone
Speaker 1: that knows me knows I feel my days. From six
Speaker 1: am till midnight, I'm like NonStop, I'm doing a thousand things.
Speaker 2: I'm trying. I'm always thinking up new ideas.
Speaker 1: And I'm really I often think to myself, do I
Speaker 1: always want to start these new businesses?
Speaker 2: And do I always want to climb these.
Speaker 3: Mountains and do these holidays and work so much because
Speaker 3: I don't have a partner, And I actually think I do.
Speaker 3: I think it's because I'm like, Okay, I have the time,
Speaker 3: so why wouldn't I just feel it? Why wouldn't I
Speaker 3: utilize it?
Speaker 1: Now? I do think that so much personal growth and
Speaker 1: development comes when you are single, because that is a
Speaker 1: time when you're able to work on yourself and for yourself,
Speaker 1: and you actually really get to understand who you are
Speaker 1: as a person and what you want in a relationship.
Speaker 1: So I think it's very hard, especially for people who
Speaker 1: jump from one relationship to another relationship. They'd never stay single.
Speaker 1: There's no self development that happens there because you didn't
Speaker 1: really sit with who you are. You haven't really taken
Speaker 1: the time to figure out what you want in a relationship,
Speaker 1: whereas when you're single, there's so much time to really
Speaker 1: understand who you are and what you want. One of
Speaker 1: the things that I think is like really important and
Speaker 1: something that I know when I was single, it was
Speaker 1: what filled my life with meaning, is this idea that
Speaker 1: you really need to invest in your friendships. Where As
Speaker 1: people were hardwired to want connection, and so if you're
Speaker 1: lacking in having a romantic connection, then really investing in
Speaker 1: your friends who are around you and the people who
Speaker 1: love you can really fill that hole and fill that void.
Speaker 1: And being that you know you have people to go
Speaker 1: out for dinner with, you have people to call when
Speaker 1: something goes wrong, and having really strong friendships is the
Speaker 1: savior for being single, I do think, and that's where
Speaker 1: a lot of happiness comes from. And also believe strongly
Speaker 1: that that should be any age of life twenties, thirties, forties, fifties.
Speaker 1: I think it's really important to never ever neglect friendships completely.
Speaker 1: A lot of people do get sucked into that hole
Speaker 1: where they're in this all consuming relationship. They're in love
Speaker 1: and like all they want to spend every second with
Speaker 1: them when they start to ignore their friends, And I
Speaker 1: really think it's important that you do have a group
Speaker 1: of people that you can always go to. I have
Speaker 1: friends that have friends that they're not my friends, but
Speaker 1: they'll say to me things like haven't heard from our
Speaker 1: own three years. All of a sudden, she's broken up
Speaker 1: and she wants to be my best friend kind of thing.
Speaker 1: And she's like, and they're all still friendly. They're friendly,
Speaker 1: but there's this like bitterness to be like, well, does
Speaker 1: she actually really want to be my friend?
Speaker 3: Like she wasn't there when I needed her, it's now
Speaker 3: it's just suiting her. So I think it's really important
Speaker 3: to not neglect that part of your life.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I guess it makes sense though that there's
Speaker 1: this resentfulness when you get ditched as soon as your
Speaker 1: friend finds a partner, like that's you know. And the
Speaker 1: reality is is, like Brittan, I were talking about this earlier,
Speaker 1: but it's an unfair expectation to have on your romantic
Speaker 1: partner that your partner is going to be everything for you,
Speaker 1: like they can't be your soulmate, your best friend, the comedian,
Speaker 1: the person that you go out with to vent about
Speaker 1: the dramas in your life, because sometimes they're going to
Speaker 1: be the dramas in your life. Like, you need to
Speaker 1: have other people in your life that satisfy a whole
Speaker 1: variety of different things. And that's why friendships are so
Speaker 1: important to maintain through relationships, because it just puts this
Speaker 1: unrealistic expectation that one person can be your sole provider
Speaker 1: of every single source of happiness in your life.
Speaker 3: Next point, how bloody quick, efficient and easy dating in
Speaker 3: your thirties is because you know what you want, so
Speaker 3: you just call it straight away. You go on dates,
Speaker 3: you can have fun. It's easy, but you don't have
Speaker 3: to worry about Oh, how do I say no to him?
Speaker 3: How do I cancel that date?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: I don't want to see him again?
Speaker 1: Ah?
Speaker 2: Is he going to go to me?
Speaker 3: That shit doesn't really happen in your thirties because people
Speaker 3: are more confident and honest and open. And I know
Speaker 3: it because I'm like this dating now. And I think
Speaker 3: I even said last week on the podcast. You know
Speaker 3: how I said, I was really honest with that guy.
Speaker 3: I was like, hey, didn't feel anything with you. Straight up,
Speaker 3: I think I wouldn't have said that a few years ago,
Speaker 3: in my twenties, I just wouldn't have done I would
Speaker 3: have been uncomfortable, wouldn't want to hose feelings, don't want
Speaker 3: any confrontation. I probably would have just like freaked out
Speaker 3: and not said anything. But now in your thirties, and
Speaker 3: it's the same. Usually, Usually men are equally as good
Speaker 3: at reciprocating that as saying, like, to be honest, I
Speaker 3: don't feel anything, And I love that.
Speaker 1: I love the ease of knowing where you stand in
Speaker 1: your thirties. Well, I also think there's a lot more
Speaker 1: respect that comes not with everyone. Like there's still a
Speaker 1: hell of a lot of f boys around and f
Speaker 1: girls hate to dickhead may I see them all time.
Speaker 1: But I do think that there is a greater level
Speaker 1: of respect. Like when you're in your early twenties, dating
Speaker 1: is like musical chairs, like you are round about swinging doors, rotation,
Speaker 1: Like there is an ample amount of people to date.
Speaker 1: When you're in your thirties, the pool of people to
Speaker 1: date does decline, and like you have to be a
Speaker 1: little bit more considered, respectful, thoughtful, and I really like
Speaker 1: for people who are wanting to get into a relationship.
Speaker 1: I really like this idea of like intentional dating, where
Speaker 1: like you treat dating in the same way that you
Speaker 1: would treat That makes it sound so cle, but like
Speaker 1: you're intentional with your job, you're intentional with your friends,
Speaker 1: be intentional with your dating as well, in that you
Speaker 1: know you don't waste your time with people who don't
Speaker 1: make you feel happy. You don't like settle for someone
Speaker 1: who don't date down just because you feel lonely. Because
Speaker 1: while you're wasting time with someone who is feeling a
Speaker 1: lonely hole but isn't the guy, then you're stopping yourself
Speaker 1: from either one enjoying time with people who love you,
Speaker 1: or two being able to find somebody else who's way
Speaker 1: better suited to you and could actually be a life
Speaker 1: partner or a partner for whatever length of time. Because
Speaker 1: nothing's guarantee these guys nice guarantee.
Speaker 3: Very easy to feel this like this weight on your
Speaker 3: shoulders when you have been dating a long time.
Speaker 1: Hello me and I have been through this process.
Speaker 3: It's very easy to be overwhelmed, to be disinterested, to
Speaker 3: be weighed down, especially when it's date after date after
Speaker 3: date that hasn't gone well, it's easy to throw in
Speaker 3: the towel and be like, I don't want to do
Speaker 3: it anymore. I don't have the energy to do it anymore.
Speaker 3: I can't be bothered. I'm sick of telling my story.
Speaker 3: I can't tell you how sick of telling my story.
Speaker 3: I am think of nine years worth of being like,
Speaker 3: my name's Brittany.
Speaker 1: This is my job. I go traveling and do this. Oh, yep,
Speaker 1: that was me.
Speaker 2: I got dumped. Yep, that was me again, got dumped again.
Speaker 1: You know what I think would be bloody brilliant if
Speaker 1: we could all get to a point where we just
Speaker 1: like make a PowerPoint presentation on ourselves on the basic
Speaker 1: bumble and no proper one, proper one.
Speaker 2: You send it to them.
Speaker 3: Everyone looks at it, and if they want to go
Speaker 3: on the date with you, you go, and it's like
Speaker 3: going straight to a second date. It's like you bypass
Speaker 3: the shit on the first day. But what I'm getting
Speaker 3: at is I have been there. I have thrown in
Speaker 3: a towel for weeks or months on end, and I've
Speaker 3: been like, don't have energy. But it's really important that
Speaker 3: you don't give up on dating because it's not going
Speaker 3: to come into your apartment, onto the lounge, push the
Speaker 3: ice cream out of your lap, and literally fall into lap.
Speaker 2: It's not going to happen. You need to be proactive
Speaker 2: and you need to look at it like it's fun.
Speaker 2: You can have so much fun.
Speaker 1: You get to meet new people, you get to go
Speaker 1: to new restaurants, you get to go to new bus
Speaker 1: you might even make friends. I'm just thinking now that
Speaker 1: someone out there needs to start like Uber for dating,
Speaker 1: where you just like call someone a rotation they get
Speaker 1: dropped your apartment. Maybe that is just Tinder with Uber
Speaker 1: attached to it. I think it's just Saturday Night in
Speaker 1: the cross, Isn't that sad? I think it's very normal
Speaker 1: to get dating burnout, Like it's okay to go through
Speaker 1: these periods where you are exhausted by the dating game
Speaker 1: then and I think it's normal that people then delete
Speaker 1: all their apps and delete all their dating apps, and
Speaker 1: then a couple weeks later they're like, Okay, I'm back
Speaker 1: on I'm going to do it again. Don't be hard
Speaker 1: on yourself if you go through dating burnout, because I
Speaker 1: think it's a very normal process because it is exhausting.
Speaker 1: You no one wants to say their story ten or
Speaker 1: twenty or thirty or indefinite amounts of time. But something
Speaker 1: else that I think is really important is that And
Speaker 1: I've spoken about it before briefly, but I kind of
Speaker 1: want to touch on it again. Is this idea that, like,
Speaker 1: especially as women, that we need to be proactive in
Speaker 1: choosing the type of men that we want to bring
Speaker 1: into our lives and choosing the type of partners that
Speaker 1: are suitable for you, not just sitting back and being
Speaker 1: reactive to whatever walks in the door or whoever chooses
Speaker 1: you you because if you're only able to pick a
Speaker 1: partner from the people who physically have chosen you, then
Speaker 1: your pool is so limited and there's a good chance
Speaker 1: that you end up going to settle for someone who's
Speaker 1: not right for you.
Speaker 2: And what I mean by this.
Speaker 1: Is like, be the first person to make a move,
Speaker 1: be the person to flirt when you go out, Be
Speaker 1: really proactive and show people that you're interested if you
Speaker 1: are interested, because that will open up your potential for
Speaker 1: meeting new people.
Speaker 2: Mister right, it's maybe.
Speaker 1: A little bit lost and needs a bit of help, mate,
Speaker 1: Fuck he cares, then've got his passport.
Speaker 2: God knows where he is.
Speaker 3: That also comes with I think in your thirties again,
Speaker 3: you get more confidence and you don't care as much. Well,
Speaker 3: I don't care as much if someone doesn't like me back,
Speaker 3: or if I hit on someone and it doesn't go well,
Speaker 3: I laugh, I laugh at and I genuinely laugh it off.
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh that was funny, Like He'm like, guy.
Speaker 2: Whatever.
Speaker 3: It comes with being confident in your thirties and not
Speaker 3: caring as much what other people think. So I one
Speaker 3: hundred percent agree. I think go out and get them.
Speaker 1: If there's someone you're interested in right now, if there's
Speaker 1: someone you've been thinking about messaging right now, I want
Speaker 1: you to message with them.
Speaker 2: What do you think has changed?
Speaker 1: So like your perception when we started this podcast, and
Speaker 1: I know like, for the majority of the time you
Speaker 1: very much like I'm a batter, single bitch, and I
Speaker 1: love my life.
Speaker 2: But then there are periods.
Speaker 1: Where you feel vulnerable and you go through periods where
Speaker 1: you're like, actually, do you know what I really want
Speaker 1: someone there? And I think that both of those things
Speaker 1: are very normal to experience and to feel. But what
Speaker 1: has kind of shifted in your perception recently where you're
Speaker 1: very happily single, but ready to open your life up
Speaker 1: if the right person comes along, but not desperate to
Speaker 1: like find someone to fill a hole. Yeah, that's an
Speaker 1: interesting question. I definitely still am. I always have been,
Speaker 1: and I still am. I like to think bad ass,
Speaker 1: independent woman. I'm so okay on my own. I think
Speaker 1: what it is now is you cannot avoid feelings in
Speaker 1: yourself changing as you age, and that is because of reasons, like,
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, when you're in your twenties, maybe one,
Speaker 1: maybe one or two of your friends got married or
Speaker 1: had a baby young, maybe, so you're not surrounded by
Speaker 1: it as much. The older you get and single people
Speaker 1: out there in their thirties, now you'll be like a
Speaker 1: bloody man. All of your friends basically now are married
Speaker 1: or engaged or having babies or pregnant or trying or
Speaker 1: buying and building houses. And then all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: there's this feeling of being like, okay, I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm the only one that's not progressing in life in
Speaker 1: that way. Now, that's a strange thing to say, because
Speaker 1: I'm progressing in life in every other way, in my careers,
Speaker 1: in my travels, in who I am as a person,
Speaker 1: everything's non stop growing, but you can't help but when
Speaker 1: you are surrounded by it by being like, Okay, I
Speaker 1: wish I had someone to share my life with. And
Speaker 1: there's been a few pivotal moments where I've really really
Speaker 1: felt that in the last year or two.
Speaker 2: One was starting this podcast.
Speaker 3: I remember, I remember clearly when we debuted at number one.
Speaker 3: We released a podcast number one. We were ecstatic, like
Speaker 3: we were beyond excited, and I remember just crying, not
Speaker 3: of happiness. I was so sad because all I wanted
Speaker 3: to do was I feel sad thinking about now, like
Speaker 3: I could cry. I just wanted to go back to
Speaker 3: like I don't know, I'm emotional right now.
Speaker 2: Don't correct.
Speaker 1: It made me cry.
Speaker 3: All I wanted to do was like have someone to say,
Speaker 3: look what I've done, Like look what I've worked so
Speaker 3: hard to do. And I had not one person, and
Speaker 3: I remember being like, oh my god, I've got no
Speaker 3: one to share the moments of my life with. I
Speaker 3: went home to an empty.
Speaker 1: House just on my own and was like, Okay, this.
Speaker 3: Is the first time I have first time and it
Speaker 3: was the first time I've really been like, fuck, no
Speaker 3: one cares about me, Like I no one cares about
Speaker 3: what I've just worked so hard to do. The second
Speaker 3: one was just like when I had to move recently,
Speaker 3: it was fucks moving me.
Speaker 1: You don't need a man, you just need to remove us.
Speaker 2: It's a very different thing.
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm so like, I'm so independent and
Speaker 1: I don't like to ask for help. But when I
Speaker 1: realized again, I was like, I don't even have someone
Speaker 1: to help me move by free from the hallway.
Speaker 2: Into my house.
Speaker 1: I was eight months pregnant and Matt was overseas and
Speaker 1: I moved a house by ourself. You do not need
Speaker 1: a man, Okay, you just need to pay someone to
Speaker 1: help you.
Speaker 3: It's just those moments, and they sound funny. You'll be listening,
Speaker 3: you'd be like, Brittany's a head case, like she couldn't
Speaker 3: move on around. It's not that, it's just the peotal
Speaker 3: moments where you're like, writ in this second, I've realized
Speaker 3: I just didn't have anyone to call.
Speaker 1: Not at all. I don't think anyone's going to listen
Speaker 1: to this and think they're a head case. But I
Speaker 1: also think it's so important to keep perspective in that
Speaker 1: you know, you see people who are in relationships and
Speaker 1: you see people who are seemingly killing it at life,
Speaker 1: but there are so many people who are in relationships who,
Speaker 1: like I said earlier, who still feel isolated, who still
Speaker 1: don't have that incredibly supportive person because they're not in
Speaker 1: the right relationships. So you know, as much as you
Speaker 1: want to have someone by your side, you need and
Speaker 1: you want that to be the right person, someone who
Speaker 1: loves and supports you. But I just feel like you
Speaker 1: have changed so much in the last year, not just
Speaker 1: in the last year, but also in like the last
Speaker 1: couple of months that like, I feel like that there's
Speaker 1: been this like shift in confidence and shift in happiness
Speaker 1: where you are. You know if it comes and when
Speaker 1: it comes, because it will, Like that's great, But right
Speaker 1: now you're really enjoying life, and it's been awesome to
Speaker 1: watch that change happen as well. Yeah, I do, and
Speaker 1: I genuinely love being single. I actually really love it.
Speaker 1: And we'll get into some more things why you know,
Speaker 1: the moments that it can be hard in a minute.
Speaker 1: But I love meeting new people. I love going on dates.
Speaker 1: I love having an empty house for me to do
Speaker 1: what I want. I love not having responsibility like another
Speaker 1: human's responsibility, And I think one of the greatest things
Speaker 1: for me that being single has taught me, and one
Speaker 1: of the greatest things I think anyone can take from
Speaker 1: being single is independence. Becoming an independent person is so
Speaker 1: pivotal in who you are and creating a life that is.
Speaker 3: Going to be a lot more smooth going for you,
Speaker 3: and you're going to feel like you can take on
Speaker 3: the world a lot more set up before. No one's
Speaker 3: gonna come and hand you something on a platter, Like
Speaker 3: I just remember something used to go wrong in the house,
Speaker 3: like my bloody toilet. Remember when I moved in to
Speaker 3: my house and now had a toilet problem. Remember, oh
Speaker 3: my god, two days in and my toilet broke. Normally
Speaker 3: I would have like, fact, that's.
Speaker 2: The dad's face.
Speaker 1: Time me to try and help. And I was like, girl, friend,
Speaker 1: you're the wrong person right now she had a one
Speaker 1: arm down to Dunny. I was like, I think you
Speaker 1: should FaceTime somebody else. Well. It just made me really
Speaker 1: think that normally i'd be like dad, the toilet or
Speaker 1: your boyfriend or your partner.
Speaker 3: I feel like that's straight away, and it shouldn't be.
Speaker 3: But straight away like the husband's job or the man's job.
Speaker 3: But I remember sitting there being like, well, if I
Speaker 3: want to use the toilet I'm gonna have to go
Speaker 3: and fix it now. Because I was in my head,
Speaker 3: I was like, what are my options? Fix the toilet
Speaker 3: or I run across to Bondi Beach public toilet.
Speaker 2: And I was like, that's not gonna happen.
Speaker 3: So I think it's really important that like you learned
Speaker 3: to be so capable and so in control of your
Speaker 3: own life, and I think it's a really really beautiful
Speaker 3: quality to have.
Speaker 1: I just have one more thing that I want to
Speaker 1: add to this, which is kind of like ties into
Speaker 1: the very beginning of this episode, which is like around
Speaker 1: the stigma that's associated with like being single. And I
Speaker 1: think anybody who is the single girlfriend and a group
Speaker 1: of friends who has they're all partners. And that used
Speaker 1: to be me. So I used to be the one
Speaker 1: with the crazy dating stories. Now it to you, pretty
Speaker 1: but like I remember what it's like to be the
Speaker 1: one where all your coupled friends expect you to entertain them,
Speaker 1: Like you feel like a bit of the clown because
Speaker 1: you're you come to dinner and they're like, tell me
Speaker 1: your dating stories. Tell me what crazy shit's happening in
Speaker 1: your life now, And that's literally me on this podcast.
Speaker 1: That's your job exactly. That is also what adds to
Speaker 1: the stigma around it. That's also what adds to the
Speaker 1: fact that, like, your life is a bit crazy and
Speaker 1: everyone's life is normal and boring, And as much as
Speaker 1: the stories are interesting and great and I fucking love them,
Speaker 1: never stop giving them to us because I need them.
Speaker 2: But I get it.
Speaker 1: I get that there is this feeling of being like
Speaker 1: a performing monkey, and that there are times in relationships
Speaker 1: where actually it didn't work out. You're probably a little
Speaker 1: bit sad about it, and humor is a coping mechanism,
Speaker 1: and you make a joke, but at the very bottom
Speaker 1: of that joke, there's this feeling of like, here we
Speaker 1: go again. Let's make a joke about it, because it
Speaker 1: makes it easier to cope with, it makes it easier
Speaker 1: to process. I mean, I never I never minded telling
Speaker 1: these stories because I think for even me, it was
Speaker 1: a coping mechanism. But I really used to be the
Speaker 1: ridiculous friend in the friendship group that had all these crazy,
Speaker 1: crazy stories about my shit dating life and how terribly
Speaker 1: I was a relationships and I think playing into that
Speaker 1: narrative constantly and being that performing monkey isn't necessarily good
Speaker 1: for your self esteem in the long term. I agree,
Speaker 1: and I totally get that. I definitely have you said
Speaker 1: it before.
Speaker 3: I use humor as a coping mechanism, but I actually
Speaker 3: love telling you guys my stories.
Speaker 1: They're so messed up and we actually love them.
Speaker 2: Please never stop.
Speaker 1: I like, I know that you want to find love,
Speaker 1: but as much as you want to find love, I
Speaker 1: don't know if I'll cope with you coming to this
Speaker 1: podcast and talking about the shit I talk.
Speaker 3: I don't think anyone's going to cote from what everyone's
Speaker 3: constantly messaging mean. They're like love like I want you
Speaker 3: to be in loved, but also like low key don't
Speaker 3: like even if a situation has made me feel sad,
Speaker 3: what makes me feel better is turning it into a
Speaker 3: funny story.
Speaker 2: And that everyone can laugh at you and share.
Speaker 1: I want I, yes, I want you guys to better
Speaker 1: laugh at their ridiculousness that is my life, and I
Speaker 1: want you to be aware of how many crazy, fucked
Speaker 1: up things are out there. But I also think that
Speaker 1: the ridiculous of your life and other people aren't laughing
Speaker 1: at that they're laughing at the relatability of it, like so,
Speaker 1: and that's what I came to realize about me telling
Speaker 1: my single stories, was like, it's it's the relatable fact that, like,
Speaker 1: we've all lived this, we've all done it, just at
Speaker 1: different points in our lives, and like some people settle
Speaker 1: down earlier than others. But you know, I think another
Speaker 1: important thing to touch on is this idea of a
Speaker 1: biological clock, especially for women. That is why and I
Speaker 1: think there is way more pressure on women in their
Speaker 1: thirties to be in a relationship, especially because when you
Speaker 1: go to a pregnancy appointment when you're thirty five, after
Speaker 1: thirty five, you're considered a geriatric pregnancy like that. It's
Speaker 1: I've heard that term the other day and I was like,
Speaker 1: that's crazy to me, Like I didn't understand that that
Speaker 1: is the terminology that's you around pregnancy. And so you know,
Speaker 1: you can be single, I'd be kicking it in all
Speaker 1: aspects of your life. But there is a very real
Speaker 1: aspect of being single in your thirties. I think puts
Speaker 1: a hell of a lot of pressure on people, and
Speaker 1: that makes people feel like they're falling behind. Obviously, it's
Speaker 1: not for everyone, but for those people who want it
Speaker 1: and who aren't in a relationship, it is something to
Speaker 1: think about, and so we thought for this episode as well.
Speaker 1: You know, we've never heard anyone really talk about freezing
Speaker 1: their eggs. I mean, it's one of those things that's
Speaker 1: kind of brandied around and you know, especially for single
Speaker 1: people if they're not in a relationship yet, you might
Speaker 1: hear like, oh, I'll just freeze my eggs.
Speaker 2: But what does that mean?
Speaker 1: But what is that?
Speaker 2: What's freezing your eggs?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: How do you do it?
Speaker 1: So I thought it'd be really interesting just to have
Speaker 1: a little look into it, have a look at what
Speaker 1: the costs are and kind of give that information for
Speaker 1: anybody who's interested in it, because I certainly was. Basically
Speaker 1: in Australia. I found one clinic who had their prices
Speaker 1: very openly up online and it's four four hundred and
Speaker 1: ninety dollars to do the freezing of the eggs, like
Speaker 1: to actually book it in and to have it done.
Speaker 1: The medication that you need to take, which is like
Speaker 1: a hormone therapy, is one thousand, five hundred dollars that
Speaker 1: they charge that at it you get the first six
Speaker 1: months of storage for free two hundred and fifty dollars
Speaker 1: or five hundred dollars per every twelve months, depending on what.
Speaker 1: I don't know. There's different obviously different options for storage,
Speaker 1: so two hundred and fifty to five hundred dollars per
Speaker 1: year after the fact, So depending on how long you
Speaker 1: end up storing your eggs for, it's a pretty costly thing. However,
Speaker 1: I think it's an amazing thing that gives women the
Speaker 1: opportunity to be able to stretch out that biological lifespan
Speaker 1: and to feel like there's less pressure on themselves to
Speaker 1: make decisions. I used to have this idea in my
Speaker 1: head that, oh, yeah, freezing your eggs great idea, but
Speaker 1: like twenty thousand dollars. I used used to be this
Speaker 1: stigma that like, freezing your eggs was super.
Speaker 3: Expensive and it was going to be super hard to
Speaker 3: do and it wasn't accessible to everyone. But to hear
Speaker 3: that you can do it now for four four hundred
Speaker 3: and ninety dollars means that basically anyone can do that,
Speaker 3: because if you don't have five thousand dollars cash, you
Speaker 3: would have access to five thousand dollars in a small
Speaker 3: loan in a credit card. So I think it's really
Speaker 3: nice for women to know that you do have options
Speaker 3: and it's not the end of the world if you
Speaker 3: hit thirty five and you aren't with the person you're
Speaker 3: going to be with, or you're not pregnant, or you
Speaker 3: don't have a baby. There are so so many other options.
Speaker 1: For you totally, and you can have a baby without
Speaker 1: being with someone, like we would live in a day
Speaker 1: and age now where if you want a single parent,
Speaker 1: that's totally an option. You can happily single parent, and
Speaker 1: I'm sure there are a lot of divorce mums out
Speaker 1: there who are like just single parent. It's uzier basically,
Speaker 1: Like that was something I found was really interesting because
Speaker 1: I had the same preconceived ideas that it was going
Speaker 1: to cost this obscene amount of money that like nobody,
Speaker 1: only the wealthiest of the wealthy you could afford to
Speaker 1: do it. And I think that that gives people a
Speaker 1: bit of reassurance and a bit of closure that there
Speaker 1: are other options out there if that's a route that
Speaker 1: you want to pursue as well, and that you know,
Speaker 1: as much as we do have a biological clock, and
Speaker 1: something that is something that's very real and that women
Speaker 1: need to think about not every woman wants to have kids.
Speaker 1: Not every woman wants to have kids by the time
Speaker 1: they're thirty five. Not everyone one wants to have kids
Speaker 1: by the time they're thirty eight, thirty nine, forty, and
Speaker 1: so these there are other options out there, and there
Speaker 1: are other life choices out there that don't have to
Speaker 1: be defined by what society expects of you. I reckon
Speaker 1: if I hit thirty five and I wasn't didn't feel
Speaker 1: like I was anywhere near having a baby, like either
Speaker 1: ready to have it on my own, in a relationship,
Speaker 1: whatever it is. I always thought that if I hit
Speaker 1: thirty five, that's when I would freeze my eggs. It's
Speaker 1: just it's not that's not for everyone. That's just something
Speaker 1: I've always said to myself. And it's security, It's it's
Speaker 1: a comfort.
Speaker 3: It's comfort. It's knowing that you have the option. You're
Speaker 3: giving yourself the option. Where you ever use it doesn't matter.
Speaker 1: Well, we're not going to go into this in full
Speaker 1: detail now because we're just thinking. Actually, we were just
Speaker 1: like looking at each other and going like, oh, this
Speaker 1: is the epic. There's an episode, but we're going to
Speaker 1: do an episode around fertility. So we'll say that and
Speaker 1: put it in the bag for a future episode so
Speaker 1: we can really get into it properly and all of
Speaker 1: the ins and outs and what that entails. One thing
Speaker 1: that I did want to add to this before we
Speaker 1: kind of wrap up this conversation around being single in
Speaker 1: your thirties is and it kind of flows on from
Speaker 1: last week's episode around attachment theories.
Speaker 2: Is this idea that you.
Speaker 1: Know, obviously we discussed the last episode about how your
Speaker 1: upbringing and your relationships with your parents can have a
Speaker 1: really formative impact in the way that you attach yourself
Speaker 1: to your romantic partner and to the people that you
Speaker 1: choose to be your romantic partners. And I thought it
Speaker 1: was really interesting, this whole idea of you can't choose
Speaker 1: your family, but you can choose your friends.
Speaker 2: And I think that that's the case.
Speaker 1: Saying that gets branded around a lot, and we kind
Speaker 1: of use that when we maybe have a family that's
Speaker 1: slightly dysfunctional, or you know, you have a bit of
Speaker 1: a complicated relationship with your parents. You know, you can't
Speaker 1: choose your family, but you can choose your friends. If
Speaker 1: you're in a relationship with somebody who isn't treating you right,
Speaker 1: or in a complicated relationship, the people that you date
Speaker 1: become your family because you might marry.
Speaker 2: That person, you will have kids with that person.
Speaker 1: In reality, you do choose your family, and I think
Speaker 1: it's really important to think about that and to choose
Speaker 1: your family wisely, because you know that then has an
Speaker 1: impact on the rest of your life. It has an
Speaker 1: impact on your children and has a full impact on
Speaker 1: your happiness. So if you're single and you're worried about
Speaker 1: being lonely or alone, and you just feel your time
Speaker 1: and fill that singleton with whoever comes your way, just
Speaker 1: keep that in the back of your head, because you know,
Speaker 1: you really do choose your family in the long run,
Speaker 1: and you can have a really great and wonderful life
Speaker 1: with somebody who you choose, or you can have a
Speaker 1: really freaking miserable life with someone who doesn't treat you right.
Speaker 1: The main message I wanted to portray here is that
Speaker 1: being in a relationship doesn't define who you are.
Speaker 3: Being single does not define who you are. It doesn't
Speaker 3: mean you're a failure. If you are on your own
Speaker 3: and you're doing life on your own right now, it's
Speaker 3: so important to remember that you are in control of
Speaker 3: your happiness with how you perceive yourself, with how you
Speaker 3: perceive life, with the way you're out there chasing dreams,
Speaker 3: with the way you're living your life day to day.
Speaker 3: Stop thinking about the future, Stop thinking about what if?
Speaker 3: What if I never meet anyone? What if my partner
Speaker 3: leaves me? The most important thing you can do is
Speaker 3: live your life day to day and stop worrying about
Speaker 3: things that may or may not ever happen, because that
Speaker 3: is the stuff that will steal your happiness.
Speaker 2: She got deep, She got real deep.
Speaker 1: All right, guys, you know that we never finished an
Speaker 1: episode without our suck and our sweet our highlights and
Speaker 1: our low lights of the week. Britty, you can go first. Okay,
Speaker 1: mine had a pretty good week. I've had a great week,
Speaker 1: and like.
Speaker 3: I had to really really think of a suck because
Speaker 3: I just didn't have one.
Speaker 2: I told BRITTI she didn't have to have a suck,
Speaker 2: and she said, no, that's not the rules. I have
Speaker 2: to have a suck. Yeah, the whole rule is you have.
Speaker 3: To because it could be so insignificant. So this is
Speaker 3: it's actually more just funny than a suck. But I
Speaker 3: went on a date at the start of the week
Speaker 3: last week, like within this week period, and he was foreign,
Speaker 3: and we were texting about where we're going to meet
Speaker 3: because we're just gonna go for a walk. And I
Speaker 3: said to him, we were going to meet this walk
Speaker 3: right at the beach, and I said, well, if you
Speaker 3: want a coffee, let's meet here, and I named a
Speaker 3: coffee shop. So he said, ah, yes, I do, let's
Speaker 3: meet there.
Speaker 2: I like that you tried to do his accent. Then, ah, yes,
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 3: So I was like, but this is how I worded it. Oh, well,
Speaker 3: if you want a coffee, let's meet there. Anyway, he
Speaker 3: messaged me and said, got the coffee, like he arrived early.
Speaker 3: He's like, I arrived early, got the coffee, so let's
Speaker 3: just meet in the original spot. Long story short, he
Speaker 3: just thought, I meant, if you want a coffee, get one.
Speaker 1: But I'm so he just got his own coffee. Care Okay.
Speaker 1: I hope that this was a language barrier and not
Speaker 1: that the guy is just totally inconsiderate. It was he's like,
Speaker 1: I thought, you meant, He's like I just he's like
Speaker 1: he's beside himself.
Speaker 2: He hadn't got no coffee. He thought, I laughed. I
Speaker 2: laughed at him.
Speaker 1: He's like, I just thought you were telling me I
Speaker 1: should get one, So.
Speaker 2: So Bossy, go get a coffee and then meet me here.
Speaker 1: Anyway, I just thought that was really it wasn't even
Speaker 1: a suck. It was bloody funny. So he went and
Speaker 1: got me another one. Bless his soul. That's actually adorable.
Speaker 1: It was adorable adorable.
Speaker 2: Also could be that your instruction's not very good.
Speaker 1: I mean, he's almost shove to sean Haven instead of
Speaker 1: I'm sensing a similar theme here.
Speaker 2: I feel I'm feeling it's my birthday week. You know
Speaker 2: that is true. This is true, all right, and now
Speaker 2: I know what your sweet's going to be? What your birthday?
Speaker 1: Oh no, that wasn't actually I forgot it was my birthday.
Speaker 1: It was just sweet, okay, my sweet, my sweet was
Speaker 1: gonna be like that. We went on a second date.
Speaker 1: But it's just a guy from Daily Mail.
Speaker 2: Don't tell anyone now that I'm gonna a book.
Speaker 1: Everyone who's in our Facebook group already knows because somebody
Speaker 1: posted it to our Facebook group.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to be under cover. We got papped on
Speaker 2: a date.
Speaker 1: Guys so cute. He's really hot and I approved the
Speaker 1: post in the Facebook group and it's stayed.
Speaker 2: I need to get someone else to monitor that Facebook.
Speaker 1: Yeah, anyone wants to monitor our Facebook group It's Life
Speaker 1: Uncut podcast.
Speaker 2: Please put your hand up. Yeah, we really need some
Speaker 2: admins in that.
Speaker 3: What's it called a moderator that we need a mod
Speaker 3: We need a moderator, We need a mod bod No.
Speaker 3: My sweet was Yeah, it was my birthday. I had
Speaker 3: an amazing time away. Laura gave me a beautiful piece
Speaker 3: of her jewelry, which I was very chuffed about. After
Speaker 3: last episode where Britt told me that I hadn't given
Speaker 3: her any freebees, I was like, oh, I know how
Speaker 3: to how to hook the girl.
Speaker 1: Okay, hang on for it always throws round of the bus.
Speaker 2: I have been begging Laura. I was like, I will.
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm not. I'll pay you.
Speaker 1: I just want you to bring the ring home from work.
Speaker 1: I was like, I will buy it.
Speaker 2: I'm not.
Speaker 3: I would never ask for something for free. And I
Speaker 3: was like, I would just tell me how much is
Speaker 3: and I'll pay you just physically bring it to me.
Speaker 3: And it's been a year.
Speaker 2: She's like, I forgot.
Speaker 1: But the weird thing about owning a jewelry label is
Speaker 1: that when my friends say bring it to me, I'll
Speaker 1: buy it. I'm like, but I don't want you to
Speaker 1: spend your money. I don't want you.
Speaker 2: I don't want you to spend your money. But I
Speaker 2: always would do that. But I also can't bring something
Speaker 2: Queen for free because it's a sure limited stock.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, ah, just wait till there's a significant
Speaker 1: event and then birthday. It's perfect.
Speaker 2: Had to wait a year to get a ring that
Speaker 2: I wanted to buy.
Speaker 1: I should have just bought it. It looks beautiful, and
Speaker 1: don't worry. Happy birthday bringing you You're welcome. Bye.
Speaker 2: Okay, what was your suck? And sweet?
Speaker 1: So my sweet was that?
Speaker 2: Matt Clean? First? Shit, shit, my suck?
Speaker 1: My suck was my suck? Okay, my suck was if
Speaker 1: you guys, you guys may or may not know. But
Speaker 1: Matt does a Saturday morning show on nov It's like
Speaker 1: at nine am, eight am or something. Anyway, it's at
Speaker 1: eight am, Okay. So he does it with another guy
Speaker 1: named Matt Degrut and then another woman named Sarah McGilvray,
Speaker 1: and they have this section on radio which is called
Speaker 1: the stitch Up, where they call someone and they do
Speaker 1: like a prank. And I'm so attuned now to Matt
Speaker 1: because he's he's prank to me so many times for
Speaker 1: this thing. Anyway, I have recently had a higher car.
Speaker 1: You guys remember the story about me running into my
Speaker 1: ex boyfriend's new girlfriend. And anyway, I finally got my
Speaker 1: car fixed. During that period, I had a high car
Speaker 1: and I had this higher car. And the car had
Speaker 1: two marks on it had a bump in the back
Speaker 1: and had a scratch on the front. Both of them
Speaker 1: were there when I got the car. But when they
Speaker 1: gave me the car, they didn't do like a check.
Speaker 1: They didn't go around and check the whole vehicle.
Speaker 2: Like you didn't have to sign anything.
Speaker 1: No, they just gave me the keys and I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm doing. So anyway, I handed
Speaker 1: the car. Actually Matt took the car back, and when
Speaker 1: he was taking the car back, he mentioned to me, oh,
Speaker 1: did you know that there's these two marks in the car.
Speaker 1: And I was like, yeah, I'm pretty sure that they
Speaker 1: were there when I got the car. Anyway, so that
Speaker 1: sets up for this morning. So this morning, I get
Speaker 1: a phone call from Lucy from Hurtz telling me that
Speaker 1: there is damage to the car and that I have
Speaker 1: to pay for it, and that the tiny scratch on
Speaker 1: the front and that the bumper on the back comes
Speaker 1: to a total of nine eight hundred and seventy dollars
Speaker 1: and oh my god, I need to pay for the
Speaker 1: whole thing. This phone call went for twenty minutes, and
Speaker 1: it wasn't Hurts obviously, it was the stitcher. It was
Speaker 1: a stitch up, and I I was getting angry and
Speaker 1: angrier because I was getting forced to give my credit
Speaker 1: card details to pay for this ten thousand dollar five
Speaker 1: Please tell me you didn't give your credit card DTIs
Speaker 1: I didn't give my credit card, but I was getting
Speaker 1: very I was like, I'm sorry, I want a second opinion.
Speaker 1: This is not acceptable, guys. You know, like that sort
Speaker 1: of situation doesn't bring out the best in anyone. Like
Speaker 1: that makes you really defensive, makes you angry. I was like,
Speaker 1: it's a tiny scratch. This doesn't make sense anyway, Like.
Speaker 2: Carry put your manager on. Yes, I was.
Speaker 1: I wasn't speak to the manager point anyway. It went
Speaker 1: far too long and they went far too far with
Speaker 1: it until they really pushed me to breaking point. Where
Speaker 1: I felt like I was getting really angry. Of course
Speaker 1: I didn't like, I'm not someone who swears people on
Speaker 1: a phone or anything like that, but I was just
Speaker 1: like very frustrated in my tepe, frustrated, aggressive tone. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and then I felt so shit. I was like, why
Speaker 1: am I always the butt of these jokes? It's not
Speaker 1: even funny. But thank god I didn't have to pay
Speaker 1: ten thousand dollars to fix a scratch on a higher car. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I haven't heard the audio. I hope I never hear it,
Speaker 3: but that sounds really shit.
Speaker 2: I was pretty sad. I would be like you as well, though.
Speaker 1: If someone calls you and says you were ten thousand
Speaker 1: dollars now for no reason, of course you're going to
Speaker 1: be mad.
Speaker 2: It's like a normal reaction.
Speaker 1: But also it's just like not the best version of
Speaker 1: yourself that you don't really want played on national radio.
Speaker 2: So I was a little bit angry at Mat. I
Speaker 2: told him, don't worry.
Speaker 1: I didn't hold back.
Speaker 2: Did you have a tip?
Speaker 1: No tip?
Speaker 2: But I was like, if you ever do that to
Speaker 2: me again, great, now he's going to start doing to me.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, yes it can be the victims.
Speaker 1: No I'm going to put you up as a sacrificial
Speaker 1: LMB time I said that, you can go.
Speaker 2: What does she say?
Speaker 1: And I've volunteers tribute anyway, guys, that was that long?
Speaker 1: Oh I said, my sweet Mac clean house. Oh then
Speaker 1: you had sex, thanks Britt, Yeah, cleaning sex. It was
Speaker 1: great anyway.
Speaker 2: On that note, guys, and that is us for another episode.
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