WEBVTT - Single Pringle - Single in your 30 0:00:21.320 --> 0:00:24.800 Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:24.880 --> 0:00:27.560 I'm Laura and I'm Brittany. Hi Brittany. 0:00:28.800 --> 0:00:30.840 Do you realize that we do the same you do 0:00:30.880 --> 0:00:33.320 the same? Yeah, we say hi, and then you go 0:00:33.400 --> 0:00:36.360 hi Brittany, and I'm like, hi, just hi. I alway said hello, 0:00:36.360 --> 0:00:38.120 We've already said hello, We've already been talking to each 0:00:38.120 --> 0:00:40.720 other for the last hour. I just think consistency is 0:00:40.760 --> 0:00:43.959 important so that the people know what they're getting, what 0:00:44.000 --> 0:00:48.480 are reliable, safe, secure Laura over here, And then whenever 0:00:48.479 --> 0:00:51.680 britt does an intro, she's like, oh, hey, guys, here, 0:00:51.920 --> 0:00:54.320 just go and row. I always think about that. I 0:00:54.320 --> 0:00:56.279 always go wild because I you know, I just think 0:00:56.280 --> 0:01:00.840 it's it's important to be spontaneous in all aspects of life, dating, relationships, podcasting. 0:01:00.920 --> 0:01:04.800 I have a lot of missionary sex, which okay, that note, 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:06.000 actually this is a record. 0:01:06.120 --> 0:01:08.480 Never have you dropped that in the first two minutes. 0:01:11.240 --> 0:01:13.959 I liked how to do Myself so actually on that 0:01:14.200 --> 0:01:15.720 I have a kind of a funny story if you 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:19.479 listen to the last week's Tuesday episode where I talked 0:01:19.480 --> 0:01:23.760 about how I almost had sex and I remember, well 0:01:23.920 --> 0:01:25.720 britt said it was a bit of an overshare, which 0:01:25.840 --> 0:01:27.960 clearly it was. So the other day, I was at 0:01:28.080 --> 0:01:30.960 the petrol station and I walked into pay and there 0:01:30.959 --> 0:01:32.600 were these two girls standing in front of me, and 0:01:32.640 --> 0:01:35.279 one of them was like, Hi, Oh my god, Laura, 0:01:35.520 --> 0:01:37.400 I feel like we're friends. I listened to your podcast. 0:01:37.480 --> 0:01:40.520 I love your podcasts. Have you had sex yet in 0:01:40.680 --> 0:01:43.920 the in the petrol station, was like, yes, yes, I have, 0:01:44.319 --> 0:01:45.040 just this morning. 0:01:45.280 --> 0:01:47.520 And then I realized that I was still sharing. 0:01:47.160 --> 0:01:51.160 Too much about my life to a complete stranger. Petrol 0:01:51.200 --> 0:01:54.360 station high five if you're listening. Yeah, things have just 0:01:54.360 --> 0:01:55.560 sporrowed out of control of me. 0:01:55.640 --> 0:01:55.960 Britt. 0:01:56.080 --> 0:02:00.040 I love this for so many reasons. I'd love it. 0:01:59.640 --> 0:02:02.280 I love that you had sex. Yes, I love that 0:02:02.320 --> 0:02:04.720 you had sex. I love that Daily Mail is going 0:02:04.760 --> 0:02:06.280 to have a field day with the first four minutes 0:02:06.280 --> 0:02:09.400 of this episode. I just love that like that people 0:02:09.440 --> 0:02:11.360 running to us a I love that they feel like 0:02:11.360 --> 0:02:13.440 we're friends and they often forget that we don't know 0:02:13.480 --> 0:02:15.440 each other in real life. I love that they feel 0:02:15.480 --> 0:02:17.679 this really close bond that they can say to you like, 0:02:17.760 --> 0:02:19.440 oh my god, did you have sex yet, and that 0:02:19.520 --> 0:02:21.640 you feel the bond back to be like, well, yes, 0:02:21.720 --> 0:02:24.080 I did. Well it was halfway through after saying that 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:26.720 I realized I was like, I don't know you, this 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:30.080 is I'm being inappropriate, right, I don't feel like you. 0:02:30.080 --> 0:02:31.440 Should know if I've just had sex. 0:02:31.440 --> 0:02:33.880 But also, and this is one for all of the 0:02:33.960 --> 0:02:39.280 mums out there who are in relationships and maybe they're 0:02:39.320 --> 0:02:41.040 in the same boat as me. And every time because 0:02:41.160 --> 0:02:42.760 I get a lot of mums who message me and 0:02:42.760 --> 0:02:45.680 they're like, Laura, don't worry, You're not alone. We're all 0:02:45.680 --> 0:02:48.520 going through the same thing. However, I've realized that the 0:02:48.520 --> 0:02:51.200 greatest affidisiac the greatest. 0:02:50.800 --> 0:02:55.520 One for a married, boring couple. It's not oysters, is it? 0:02:55.600 --> 0:02:56.400 What is it? 0:02:56.400 --> 0:02:59.880 It's not oysters, it's not perfume, it's not four P 0:03:00.639 --> 0:03:01.440 it's not seduction. 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:03.920 It's cleaning the fucking house. 0:03:07.160 --> 0:03:10.280 So it's cleaning. It's cleaning. Matt clean the house. And 0:03:10.320 --> 0:03:12.160 I have never been more turned on in my life. 0:03:12.480 --> 0:03:13.280 That was all it took. 0:03:13.639 --> 0:03:15.919 And I was like, talk to me, dirty talk, and he. 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:18.280 Was like, I'm gonna clean the bathroom next and I 0:03:18.320 --> 0:03:22.040 was like, yeah, boy, can't wait for this anyway. So 0:03:22.320 --> 0:03:25.960 on that note, you guys all know that we record 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:29.280 in Laura's bedroom. We always chat Matt, Laura and I 0:03:29.320 --> 0:03:30.919 for like an hour or so in the lounder room 0:03:30.960 --> 0:03:33.120 and we run through the episode. We ask Matt's opinions 0:03:33.160 --> 0:03:35.960 on things, because he's a guy, just a general catchup, 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:37.360 you know, because we usually haven't seen each other for 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:39.880 like twelve hours. It's important to debrief on the day. 0:03:40.040 --> 0:03:42.080 So you often hear us talk about like that. 0:03:42.160 --> 0:03:44.680 We'll come into the studio, akay, the bedroom and Laura 0:03:44.720 --> 0:03:46.640 would have like a pile of clothes here that Matt's 0:03:46.680 --> 0:03:48.160 dumps somewhere or whatever. 0:03:48.200 --> 0:03:49.680 We always have to wade through something. 0:03:50.480 --> 0:03:52.560 But what Brittany's getting at is that my house is 0:03:52.560 --> 0:03:54.360 not particularly clean. But that is because we have a 0:03:54.400 --> 0:03:57.080 one year old and we live in constant chaos. No, 0:03:57.240 --> 0:03:59.000 what I'm caring at to that doesn't bother me in 0:03:59.040 --> 0:04:03.760 the slightest. Today tonight, right before this episode, we're sitting 0:04:03.760 --> 0:04:04.360 in the lounge room. 0:04:04.440 --> 0:04:05.600 Laura's like, Oh, britt just. 0:04:05.600 --> 0:04:07.560 Wait here one second. I'm just gonna go and quickly 0:04:07.640 --> 0:04:09.560 clean all the stuff off the bed in the studio. 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:12.200 The bedroom, she comes in to clean it all off 0:04:12.240 --> 0:04:14.640 because she's like, there is shit everywhere. Then she comes 0:04:14.800 --> 0:04:18.200 back out and she's like, oh, Matt's got this smug 0:04:18.240 --> 0:04:19.039 look on his face. 0:04:18.880 --> 0:04:21.400 And she's like, Matt, you angel, I love you. You put 0:04:21.440 --> 0:04:23.479 all the stuff away. You've never done that, Thank you 0:04:23.520 --> 0:04:25.440 so much. And he's like all smug, being like yeah, 0:04:25.440 --> 0:04:27.920 I'm amazing. They kiss, Laura praises him. 0:04:28.480 --> 0:04:30.039 Laura walks back in and she's like, I'll meet you 0:04:30.040 --> 0:04:32.000 in the studio now, Laura. 0:04:32.160 --> 0:04:32.960 I hate to be the one to. 0:04:32.960 --> 0:04:33.560 Break this too. 0:04:34.279 --> 0:04:36.600 But Matt, as soon as she walked out of the room, 0:04:37.360 --> 0:04:40.039 looked at me and goes, oh, yeah, I just got lazy. 0:04:40.040 --> 0:04:41.279 It's all shoved behind the mirror. 0:04:43.320 --> 0:04:50.279 It's all behind the mirror, and I'm throwing him under 0:04:50.320 --> 0:04:50.760 the body. 0:04:51.279 --> 0:04:52.560 You can see it coming out the. 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:54.200 Side of the mirror. That's it. Get inst the walls. 0:04:54.480 --> 0:04:55.760 He does not getting nothing tonight. 0:04:56.839 --> 0:04:58.919 And I was like, I knew you wouldn't have done it, 0:04:58.960 --> 0:04:59.960 and he's like, don't tell her. 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:03.160 I'm really I feel victimized here. I feel like I'm 0:05:03.200 --> 0:05:05.839 the one that's been left out and this is cruel. 0:05:06.080 --> 0:05:06.880 Hey, I told you. 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:08.200 I could have not told you and you would have 0:05:08.200 --> 0:05:10.640 had to have given him cleaning sympathy, sex. But now 0:05:10.680 --> 0:05:11.360 you don't have to do that. 0:05:11.400 --> 0:05:14.680 Thank god. I can go to bed. Oh God, thank god, 0:05:14.760 --> 0:05:15.680 pretty you save me. 0:05:16.240 --> 0:05:19.960 Anyway, Normally, just just get off that topic completely because 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:22.080 I feel like that's five minutes too much of me 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:25.400 talking about my sex life. Britt. Normally I ask you 0:05:25.400 --> 0:05:27.440 what you have done this week. However, I know exactly 0:05:27.440 --> 0:05:29.440 what you did this week because we just went away 0:05:29.560 --> 0:05:33.880 for your birthday. I can't believe that you're so old. 0:05:34.080 --> 0:05:35.920 I don't tell anyone my real age. I still say 0:05:35.920 --> 0:05:38.520 twenty eight. You look twenty eight. No, I feel forty, 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:40.600 which there's nothing wrong with being forty, but there is 0:05:40.680 --> 0:05:44.719 when you're only thirty four. Laura and I basically for 0:05:44.720 --> 0:05:45.560 the first so Laura and I. 0:05:45.560 --> 0:05:47.839 See each other every week so many times. We have 0:05:48.040 --> 0:05:50.520 never in the last year, I don't think we've ever 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:52.239 done anything that wasn't work related. 0:05:52.520 --> 0:05:56.479 We've never gone out for dinner together. We've never gone like, 0:05:56.560 --> 0:05:58.160 I mean, if we go for a walk, it's because 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:00.040 we have to talk about podcast topics, so we kind. 0:06:00.160 --> 0:06:01.240 Do like a walking meeting. 0:06:01.600 --> 0:06:03.680 But we've never We keep saying we're going to go 0:06:03.720 --> 0:06:06.120 out and celebrate when we hit two million, and guys, 0:06:06.120 --> 0:06:08.520 next week we're gonna hit three million download and we 0:06:08.680 --> 0:06:10.760 still haven't even been out for dinner to celebrate. 0:06:10.760 --> 0:06:12.080 We didn't even boodiculous. 0:06:12.320 --> 0:06:14.760 So this weekend was actually really special because one it 0:06:14.760 --> 0:06:16.520 was Brittany's birthday. We got to go away and we 0:06:16.560 --> 0:06:19.440 had a beautiful little weekend, and two because it was 0:06:19.480 --> 0:06:21.479 my very first night that I was away from Mali. 0:06:21.920 --> 0:06:25.200 Oh so we guys went down to Shoal Bay. Actually 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:27.960 that's a funny story. We went to Shoal Bay Penhouse. Wait, 0:06:28.000 --> 0:06:29.960 this is the problem because you keep saying we went 0:06:30.040 --> 0:06:34.000 down to Shoal Bay, So just don't blame start the story. 0:06:34.279 --> 0:06:34.599 Okay. 0:06:34.680 --> 0:06:37.240 So britt told me that we were going to we're 0:06:37.240 --> 0:06:38.880 going down the coast. We're going to go down the 0:06:38.880 --> 0:06:41.719 coast for her birthday. And then she said Shoal Bay 0:06:42.040 --> 0:06:44.599 blah blah blah country club, a few other things. I said, 0:06:44.640 --> 0:06:47.080 exactly where we're going, Sholbey country Club? I said, shoal 0:06:47.120 --> 0:06:50.680 Bait country Club, down the down the coast. So I 0:06:50.760 --> 0:06:53.360 get into my car. I was driving by myself. I 0:06:54.120 --> 0:06:55.840 was like, I know where seul Haven is, Like, I mean, 0:06:55.839 --> 0:06:57.720 it must be around there. It's down the coast, Like 0:06:57.760 --> 0:07:00.719 what else is down the coast? So I still driving. 0:07:01.080 --> 0:07:04.080 I drive for an hour before I decided to put 0:07:04.080 --> 0:07:06.640 it into my maps. No, it turns out the Shoal 0:07:06.680 --> 0:07:09.240 Bay is not down the coast. It is three hours 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:11.720 north of Sydney, and I had just driven an hour 0:07:11.760 --> 0:07:14.280 in the wrong direction, had to turn around, so round 0:07:14.360 --> 0:07:17.240 trip to get there for your birthday was a five 0:07:17.280 --> 0:07:17.920 hour trip. 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:19.200 I feel like. 0:07:19.840 --> 0:07:23.040 You're putting a lot of this responsibility on me. Yes, 0:07:23.320 --> 0:07:27.840 to be fair, in my defense, I okay, yes, something. 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:30.680 It is something I would say I often do say 0:07:31.400 --> 0:07:33.560 when I just say him going away in general, I'm like, hey, 0:07:33.560 --> 0:07:34.640 I's going to duck down the coast. 0:07:34.640 --> 0:07:35.840 Doesn't matter what direction I'm going. 0:07:35.920 --> 0:07:36.640 I just say it. 0:07:36.680 --> 0:07:38.400 Like but I say, like when. 0:07:38.280 --> 0:07:39.760 You're going to Queensland, you say I'm just going down 0:07:39.800 --> 0:07:40.400 to Queensland. 0:07:40.520 --> 0:07:42.800 It's like when I say I'm going to duck down 0:07:42.840 --> 0:07:44.600 to the shops. The shop might be up the hill, 0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:46.120 but the expression is duck down. 0:07:46.360 --> 0:07:49.080 But you can't duck anywhere for three hours. Yeah, but 0:07:49.160 --> 0:07:49.520 I can. 0:07:51.640 --> 0:07:55.119 So I said to Laura, We're just gonna go down 0:07:55.200 --> 0:08:00.000 the coast to Shoal Bay Country Club. And I'm pretty sure, 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:03.520 Like I am pretty sure you're going to disagree that 0:08:03.600 --> 0:08:03.920 I said. 0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:05.000 It's just like near Newcastle. 0:08:05.040 --> 0:08:08.280 It's Nelson Bay, absolutely incorrect. I know exactly where Newcastle is. 0:08:08.280 --> 0:08:10.080 I was born there. You can ignore me to. 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:14.360 Like you tune out when I'm talking. Not time for 0:08:14.400 --> 0:08:15.160 a sister. 0:08:14.880 --> 0:08:17.960 Fight, Brittany, not on air. Tone it down, all right, 0:08:18.000 --> 0:08:19.600 tell me about your birthday, so hang on. 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:22.400 The moral of this story is we were supposed to 0:08:22.400 --> 0:08:25.559 just be like two and a half hours north. Laura 0:08:25.640 --> 0:08:28.400 drove an hour south, realized was the wrong way an hour, 0:08:28.960 --> 0:08:31.480 and then the three hours, so she drove five hours together. 0:08:31.960 --> 0:08:34.080 But you were in high spirits and it was worth it. 0:08:34.080 --> 0:08:35.959 Guys. Was my first night away from Mali, and I 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:38.960 tell you I'll drive five hours for that. Okay, how 0:08:39.040 --> 0:08:40.560 was your birthday? I know I was there, but I 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:42.319 gets to usually ask you how your week is. So 0:08:42.679 --> 0:08:45.920 how was your weekend? Yes, so it was really amazing. 0:08:46.040 --> 0:08:48.200 I've said it before on the podcast. 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:49.880 I hate my birthday. 0:08:50.920 --> 0:08:51.520 Every year. 0:08:51.559 --> 0:08:53.360 I hate my birthday. I'm never one of those people 0:08:53.360 --> 0:08:55.560 that looks forward to it. I never plan anything. Actually, 0:08:55.559 --> 0:08:57.400 most of the time, I don't even tell people. I've 0:08:57.480 --> 0:08:59.520 hung out with my friends on my birthday and haven't 0:08:59.559 --> 0:08:59.800 told them. 0:08:59.920 --> 0:09:02.280 They have it known. I'm not one of those people. 0:09:02.280 --> 0:09:04.920 That's like, let's make this a birthday month. Do you 0:09:04.920 --> 0:09:07.160 want to share why you hate your birthday? Because it 0:09:07.200 --> 0:09:09.120 kind of leads into the podcast topic for today, And 0:09:09.160 --> 0:09:12.839 I think it's really important. Yeah, it's important because I 0:09:12.840 --> 0:09:16.480 think a lot of people would feel like that. Yeah, yes, Laura, Oh, 0:09:16.600 --> 0:09:17.520 we'll have happy. 0:09:17.280 --> 0:09:17.640 To share that. 0:09:18.400 --> 0:09:21.520 I'm happy to share my most tormented feelings. Please share 0:09:21.520 --> 0:09:25.360 your trauma with everybody. Alicia's so I think, and. 0:09:25.280 --> 0:09:26.160 I really did have to. 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:28.559 I think about it, and if I'm really honest, I 0:09:28.760 --> 0:09:29.839 the last relationship I. 0:09:29.800 --> 0:09:31.640 Was in that we know that it was toxic. 0:09:32.120 --> 0:09:34.280 I was it was almost like my birthday when it ended. 0:09:34.280 --> 0:09:37.240 I had a really really bad birthday with him, where 0:09:38.120 --> 0:09:41.200 long story short, he just manipulated me in to feeling 0:09:41.200 --> 0:09:42.959 really bad the whole day. I had to act like 0:09:43.000 --> 0:09:44.600 it was his birthday. I had to take him out, 0:09:44.640 --> 0:09:45.679 I had to do all this stuff for him. 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:48.120 I was apologizing him constantly, and I just had we 0:09:48.160 --> 0:09:50.719 had this huge fight and I just had a really 0:09:50.720 --> 0:09:52.520 really bad birthday. Then we broke up not long after. 0:09:54.040 --> 0:09:58.160 Fast forward and every year my birthday came. The first 0:09:58.280 --> 0:10:00.640 year that went past, I just felt like a reminder 0:10:00.679 --> 0:10:02.440 that I had this really bad. That time of my 0:10:02.440 --> 0:10:05.560 life was really bad. Then I remember saying to myself, 0:10:05.600 --> 0:10:08.960 and this was my mistake. I remember saying, all right, well, 0:10:09.040 --> 0:10:11.280 next year, I won't be alone on my birthday. 0:10:11.320 --> 0:10:13.360 I'll be with someone amazing, and I'll be really happy 0:10:13.400 --> 0:10:15.720 and I'll be sharing the moment with someone. Then the 0:10:15.760 --> 0:10:18.080 next year would come and it wouldn't happen. I wouldn't 0:10:18.080 --> 0:10:20.120 even be close. And the next year, then the next year, 0:10:20.120 --> 0:10:22.240 and fast forward, and this has been I think like 0:10:22.280 --> 0:10:25.560 the eighth or ninth year, and I just started to 0:10:25.559 --> 0:10:28.880 get really really depressed every year seeing that my friends 0:10:29.120 --> 0:10:31.439 like had all their partners doing these amazing things for them, 0:10:31.480 --> 0:10:35.199 surprising them, sharing them with love, just spending his quality 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:38.160 time with them. And every year I just felt lonelier 0:10:38.240 --> 0:10:39.480 and lonelier and lonelier. 0:10:39.840 --> 0:10:42.440 And that is just being completely honest, because I feel 0:10:42.480 --> 0:10:44.280 like there've got to be people out there listening right 0:10:44.320 --> 0:10:46.760 now that are like, fuck like me too. 0:10:46.960 --> 0:10:51.480 I have felt that finally this year. You think I 0:10:51.480 --> 0:10:53.200 would have learned. It took me eight or nine years, 0:10:53.200 --> 0:10:56.320 but I've realized there's probably another order. It's probably not 0:10:56.360 --> 0:10:56.880 gonna happen. 0:10:57.240 --> 0:10:59.280 I can't keep saying next year, I'll be with someone 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:02.320 before I just make my own happiness. So I finally 0:11:02.360 --> 0:11:05.480 decided to go away with some of the girls. We 0:11:05.559 --> 0:11:08.280 had an amazing time down at Shelby Country Club, which 0:11:08.320 --> 0:11:08.880 was beautiful. 0:11:08.920 --> 0:11:11.520 We went hiking. Much of the girl's dismay, I made 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:14.000 the girls go hiking. It was so much food. 0:11:14.360 --> 0:11:16.479 Oh my god, the food was ridiculous. 0:11:16.520 --> 0:11:18.720 And it was with like it was with all of 0:11:18.720 --> 0:11:20.559 your closest friends, which even if you don't have. 0:11:20.559 --> 0:11:22.520 A guy there, we didn't need any guys there. 0:11:23.000 --> 0:11:26.000 Well, this is actually so all of these things are 0:11:26.040 --> 0:11:27.720 what got us to this episode today. 0:11:28.080 --> 0:11:29.720 Basically, the girls and I. 0:11:29.760 --> 0:11:31.760 There were five or six of us. I was the 0:11:31.760 --> 0:11:35.040 only single person there. All those of my friends have babies, 0:11:35.160 --> 0:11:36.600 are married or engaged. 0:11:37.200 --> 0:11:39.040 Yet literally all of them. I was the only one 0:11:39.040 --> 0:11:39.880 that was simple. 0:11:40.679 --> 0:11:43.560 But we were having these deeper, meaningful conversations, and it 0:11:43.600 --> 0:11:47.679 came up that you know, this feeling of a lot 0:11:47.679 --> 0:11:50.280 of people feel failure and they feel so lonely and 0:11:50.520 --> 0:11:53.320 if they hit thirty, and it also appears to be 0:11:53.360 --> 0:11:55.960 that thirty is the magic number. Thirty is the number 0:11:56.000 --> 0:11:59.319 where people feel lonely. And I don't know why, as 0:11:59.320 --> 0:12:02.720 a society we've set the number the benchmark to be like, 0:12:02.800 --> 0:12:04.960 oh you better, I've got your shit together by thirty, 0:12:05.080 --> 0:12:06.199 like it's the be all and. 0:12:06.240 --> 0:12:07.679 End all of our whole life. 0:12:08.040 --> 0:12:13.280 And then what I realized is the five other girls there, 0:12:13.320 --> 0:12:18.200 including yourself, Laura, everyone was so stoked to be having 0:12:18.240 --> 0:12:20.800 a waken away from their partners and the stress and 0:12:22.200 --> 0:12:25.280 kids and just general life. Not because they want to 0:12:25.280 --> 0:12:26.960 be away from their partner, but because they're like, oh 0:12:26.960 --> 0:12:29.200 my god, this I get some time to myself. I 0:12:29.240 --> 0:12:30.960 get to do whatever I want to do. I get 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:32.200 to eat whatever I want to eat. I can go 0:12:32.240 --> 0:12:33.640 to bed when I want to go to bed. 0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:37.800 And it just made me think they are so stoked 0:12:37.840 --> 0:12:39.960 to be here. And sometimes it's like the grass isn't 0:12:39.960 --> 0:12:43.320 always greener. And I think it's really important that we 0:12:43.440 --> 0:12:46.880 touch on both sides of being single and being in relationships, 0:12:46.920 --> 0:12:49.280 the pros and the cons of both, and just make 0:12:49.559 --> 0:12:53.880 you guys realize that if you hit thirty and you're 0:12:53.920 --> 0:12:56.760 not where you thought you would be, that's okay. You 0:12:56.800 --> 0:12:58.320 can run your own race and you can be on 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:00.080 your own timeline. 0:13:00.440 --> 0:13:05.199 Right you're like looking, I said, no, I was like, preach, sister, 0:13:05.280 --> 0:13:06.240 I've really gone on a tangent. 0:13:06.480 --> 0:13:07.920 Yes, I was like, is that us? Have we just 0:13:07.960 --> 0:13:08.720 done the whole topic? 0:13:09.160 --> 0:13:09.199 That? 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:10.199 Okay, that was my intro. 0:13:10.760 --> 0:13:12.880 Okay, BRIT's already used that she's already done the intro, 0:13:13.000 --> 0:13:14.400 so we can just skip right to the content. 0:13:14.600 --> 0:13:15.600 No, but it's so true. 0:13:15.600 --> 0:13:17.960 And then like, so basically this episode is all going 0:13:18.000 --> 0:13:21.000 to be about being single in your thirties, the social 0:13:21.000 --> 0:13:24.520 stigma that's attached to that, the cultural expectations around especially 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:28.400 women getting into relationships, and us having this like biological clock, 0:13:28.520 --> 0:13:31.480 but also just having this expiration date almost and that 0:13:32.000 --> 0:13:36.839 our value as a person and our worth is kind 0:13:36.840 --> 0:13:39.240 of tied up in are you in a relationship or not? 0:13:39.320 --> 0:13:40.960 And how we want to kind of break that down 0:13:41.000 --> 0:13:44.120 and redefine this. And you know, one, if you are 0:13:44.160 --> 0:13:47.400 in a relationship, you'll definitely sympathize with some of the 0:13:47.400 --> 0:13:50.080 parts of it that aren't great or that you know 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:52.320 that you might miss about your single life. And if 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:55.200 you are single at the moment, then maybe this podcast 0:13:55.240 --> 0:13:58.160 will help you to really embrace it and enjoy those 0:13:58.240 --> 0:13:59.920 years because it's not going to be that forever. 0:14:00.720 --> 0:14:01.520 But let's not get. 0:14:01.480 --> 0:14:09.640 Into that yet. First, we have accidentally unfiltered. 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:10.400 Okay, that's enough. 0:14:11.320 --> 0:14:13.559 Actually, before we get into accidentally unfiltered, I just want 0:14:13.559 --> 0:14:15.839 to say one thing as well. Okay, I want to 0:14:15.840 --> 0:14:18.960 talk about Bachelor for a very very quick second, a 0:14:19.000 --> 0:14:21.720 hot second. For anyone who's been following along in our 0:14:21.760 --> 0:14:25.360 Facebook group, we've been having like a chat about each 0:14:25.400 --> 0:14:28.360 episode as they've been unfolding, and the current theme around 0:14:28.360 --> 0:14:31.040 this season is like it lacks a little bit of 0:14:31.160 --> 0:14:33.960 luster in comparison to other seasons, and that's because it's 0:14:34.000 --> 0:14:36.280 obviously gone down the track of a new format, which 0:14:36.320 --> 0:14:39.520 is that they're really really drawing out the single dates 0:14:39.560 --> 0:14:43.120 and then they're really really drawing out the cocktail parties 0:14:43.160 --> 0:14:47.320 as a whole episode. And it's kind of exhausting watching 0:14:47.440 --> 0:14:49.440 an hour and a half or an hour of a 0:14:49.440 --> 0:14:51.840 whole cocktail party because it just then has to lean 0:14:51.920 --> 0:14:54.760 so heavily into the drama and the bitchiness and the 0:14:54.760 --> 0:14:57.280 cat fighting and everything else, which you know, this early 0:14:57.320 --> 0:14:59.120 on in this series is what we kind of focus 0:14:59.160 --> 0:15:02.440 on anyway, but it's just really really highlighted on this season, 0:15:03.000 --> 0:15:04.760 and I think what we have to keep in mind 0:15:04.920 --> 0:15:06.800 for anyone who is a bit of a diehard Batchy 0:15:06.840 --> 0:15:09.880 fan and loves the season in general is that twenty 0:15:09.920 --> 0:15:13.560 twenty has fucked everything, and it has certainly done the 0:15:13.640 --> 0:15:15.960 same thing to The Bachelor because it would have been 0:15:16.000 --> 0:15:18.560 really difficult for them to have captured content. So they're 0:15:18.600 --> 0:15:21.280 probably down on the footage that they normally would have 0:15:21.440 --> 0:15:23.560 and that's why they are spreading the season out over 0:15:23.920 --> 0:15:24.880 more episodes. 0:15:25.320 --> 0:15:29.000 Yeah, obviously they're lacking content because they have already shown 0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:31.800 previews that covid happened. They all went home and then 0:15:31.840 --> 0:15:35.480 they started to date online. So I think that they're 0:15:35.520 --> 0:15:37.200 struggling a lot, so they're having to draw out the 0:15:37.200 --> 0:15:39.600 cocktail part. It's not ideal, not great, but we probably 0:15:39.600 --> 0:15:41.560 need to cut them a little bit of slack because, 0:15:41.600 --> 0:15:42.120 as you said. 0:15:42.000 --> 0:15:47.040 Twenty twenty is fucked. And then I have one more thing. 0:15:47.200 --> 0:15:49.400 Hang, I have one more thing first, WHOA all right? 0:15:49.600 --> 0:15:51.640 Jump in there, Sally. Just on relation to that. 0:15:51.840 --> 0:15:54.480 I wonder how they're doing Bachelorette, because they filming out 0:15:54.520 --> 0:15:57.160 right now, the Double Bachelorette with Ellie. But I guess 0:15:57.160 --> 0:15:59.600 with Bachelorette it's probably not going to be as intense. 0:16:00.000 --> 0:16:02.280 It's locky during Locky season that was at the height 0:16:02.320 --> 0:16:05.200 of everything happening with COVID, whereas I feel like the 0:16:05.280 --> 0:16:07.800 restrictions and things have settled a little bit more. Now 0:16:07.880 --> 0:16:11.320 there's a bit more normalcy around how filming would be structured. 0:16:11.560 --> 0:16:13.440 But obviously if there's another flare up and we go 0:16:13.480 --> 0:16:15.600 into another lockdown, it will just blow everything out of 0:16:15.600 --> 0:16:16.280 proportion again. 0:16:16.320 --> 0:16:18.080 But I mean, you just saw, did you see on 0:16:18.160 --> 0:16:20.440 the mask singer? I think seven or eight don't quote me, 0:16:20.480 --> 0:16:24.920 seven or eight of the dancers have just been tested positive, 0:16:25.160 --> 0:16:27.760 have just tested positive for COVID, So the whole thing's 0:16:27.800 --> 0:16:30.560 been shut down because that's crazy. So it's still it's 0:16:30.640 --> 0:16:33.680 still really a really big risk. I think that we're 0:16:33.760 --> 0:16:34.920 just getting more used to it. 0:16:35.080 --> 0:16:37.120 Yeah, and also I think like New South Wales hasn't 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:39.120 been hit anywhere near as hard. I mean, we know 0:16:39.280 --> 0:16:41.120 New South Wales hasn't been hit anywhere near as hard 0:16:41.120 --> 0:16:44.920 as Melbourne. But yeah, I guess it was interesting watching 0:16:44.960 --> 0:16:47.560 the last couple of episodes unfold and see the really 0:16:47.600 --> 0:16:50.440 different format that it's been taking, and you know what, 0:16:50.480 --> 0:16:52.480 it's taking some getting used to. I can't say I'm 0:16:52.520 --> 0:16:54.680 loving it as much as I usually love, but I 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:56.320 do think that we need to kind of be a 0:16:56.400 --> 0:16:59.200 little bit less critical and go like Okay, this is 0:16:59.280 --> 0:17:01.040 just the way of the world. Everything is a bit 0:17:01.040 --> 0:17:03.920 screwed up in twenty twenty. The other thing I wanted 0:17:03.920 --> 0:17:07.480 to touch on really quickly is a few episodes ago, 0:17:07.600 --> 0:17:10.520