WEBVTT - The Types of People To Avoid & Pursue On Dating Apps 💕 0:00:01.200 --> 0:00:04.080 On Flex and Frooms, Flex and froomes. This is the 0:00:04.120 --> 0:00:05.960 Flex and Frooms catch up podcast. 0:00:08.760 --> 0:00:13.760 Hey, sweety Pies, Goblins, gremlins, little freak sirens and objectively attractive, medium, 0:00:13.840 --> 0:00:17.680 ugly or just hot people. Welcome. We've got a series 0:00:17.720 --> 0:00:20.040 for you. Try something fresh and new, but I think 0:00:20.040 --> 0:00:22.840 you might like it. Actually, Yeah, we were thinking about 0:00:22.880 --> 0:00:26.079 how we want to wrap up some of these conversations 0:00:26.079 --> 0:00:27.720 that feel like they go nowhere on the internet. 0:00:27.800 --> 0:00:28.360 Wrap it up. 0:00:28.440 --> 0:00:31.960 Dating is one of them. Red flag, green flag, it's boring. 0:00:32.600 --> 0:00:36.520 Let's come through with a bit of a decisive actionence. 0:00:36.560 --> 0:00:40.000 What we did is we decided to think about the 0:00:40.080 --> 0:00:43.240 types of people to avoid or pursue on dating apps, 0:00:43.320 --> 0:00:45.600 and then created a pros and cons list for each 0:00:45.600 --> 0:00:49.320 type of person. We've got the friend, We've got, the 0:00:49.360 --> 0:00:53.680 funny guy. No, we've got the funny person, the freshly single, 0:00:54.080 --> 0:00:57.000 the formal, the long service lever like they're always on 0:00:57.000 --> 0:01:00.360 the apps, the on again, off again, the serial data. 0:01:00.440 --> 0:01:04.000 If there's a type of data that exists, we dissected them. 0:01:04.160 --> 0:01:07.560 Bloody oath, very exciting. Let's get to it. Your flex 0:01:07.640 --> 0:01:08.520 and fromes. 0:01:08.640 --> 0:01:12.640 Keita flex and fromes Flex and Firms by popular demand 0:01:12.720 --> 0:01:13.760 as requested by. 0:01:13.800 --> 0:01:16.760 Friends, foes, and our broader community and fans. 0:01:16.760 --> 0:01:18.800 I would say, here is a guy to the types 0:01:18.840 --> 0:01:21.399 of people to avoid to pursue when dating the first 0:01:21.400 --> 0:01:24.120 category and the first of many funny people. 0:01:24.400 --> 0:01:25.679 Are we avoiding full stop? 0:01:25.920 --> 0:01:28.600 Well, let's get into it's with the cons. Let's start 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:31.160 with the cons. A lot of virtual humor just does 0:01:31.200 --> 0:01:33.399 not translate like it used to. The year is not 0:01:33.480 --> 0:01:36.080 twenty ten, and we don't all follow the same meme formats. 0:01:36.160 --> 0:01:38.399 We don't. I think alsoink humor's gotten like a little 0:01:38.400 --> 0:01:41.800 bit better. And so what happens is if I'm interacting 0:01:41.800 --> 0:01:43.960 with your virtual humor and I'm not getting it, it's 0:01:44.000 --> 0:01:47.080 putting me off you as a whole person when it shouldn't. 0:01:47.120 --> 0:01:47.960 But here we are. 0:01:48.080 --> 0:01:51.600 It's like whenever I post this particular person's tiktoks, it's 0:01:51.640 --> 0:01:54.280 like this guy pretending to be a cringe like Fodoro 0:01:54.360 --> 0:01:56.640 wearing guy that turns into a wolf. I'll lose like 0:01:56.640 --> 0:01:57.440 one hundred followers. 0:01:57.760 --> 0:02:01.160 It is what it is. It's the price of fame. Okay, 0:02:01.160 --> 0:02:01.760 give you a con. 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:05.360 A con is they could be someone who just jokes 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:08.160 about everything, so they struggle to like connect properly and 0:02:08.200 --> 0:02:11.600 then everything is a punchline. Yeah, dating a comedian, you. 0:02:11.520 --> 0:02:14.480 Get into that banter whirlpool where it's like it's propelling you, 0:02:14.480 --> 0:02:19.440 you're getting momentum. It's sick, it's fun, and then you're drowning. Serious, 0:02:19.520 --> 0:02:23.200 Please save me with something that's not a bit and 0:02:23.400 --> 0:02:27.080 is like you know what they say about wetness or 0:02:27.120 --> 0:02:27.959 something dumb. 0:02:28.080 --> 0:02:32.880 It's too much, okay, prose, Prose is laughing obviously, Yeah, 0:02:32.960 --> 0:02:38.600 there is nothing better in this light. Please then laughing 0:02:38.639 --> 0:02:41.000 with someone that you think is hot. There is really 0:02:41.000 --> 0:02:42.080 nothing better that moment. 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:43.360 Why does you sound like you have a gun to 0:02:43.400 --> 0:02:46.519 your head right now? There is really nothing better than 0:02:47.120 --> 0:02:48.720 laughing with someone. 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:49.200 You think it's hot. 0:02:49.360 --> 0:02:55.119 Even yeah, I say a similar thing that it makes 0:02:55.160 --> 0:02:58.399 an otherwise awkward and maybe exhausting situation like a little 0:02:58.440 --> 0:03:01.120 bit lighter, which is chill, and you might make a friend, 0:03:01.160 --> 0:03:04.160 but we do want to avoid consolation prize friends. I've 0:03:04.160 --> 0:03:05.880 scooped a few of them up over the years, and 0:03:05.919 --> 0:03:07.600 you just can't get rid of them. You can't because 0:03:07.600 --> 0:03:09.400 then you look like a bad person. It's not right, 0:03:09.680 --> 0:03:12.880 it's not right. But that is comprehensive Guide number one. 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:15.639 If you're gonna want to date a funny person, I say, 0:03:15.680 --> 0:03:18.480 buyer beware, for sure, buy beware. Do you know what? 0:03:18.520 --> 0:03:20.760 I'm also mindful of that gag that like a lot 0:03:20.800 --> 0:03:23.800 of comedians like deeply depressed and so like they're masking 0:03:23.840 --> 0:03:25.680 all like that inner turn oil with gags, and then 0:03:25.680 --> 0:03:27.640 before you know, when you like find yourself attached and 0:03:27.639 --> 0:03:28.960 in love, you're like, oh my goodness, you're like a 0:03:28.960 --> 0:03:30.760 deeply troubled person and I can't deal with this. But 0:03:30.760 --> 0:03:34.520 if you leave them, it like fulfills their deepest abandonment wound. 0:03:34.600 --> 0:03:36.880 It's like, Okay, this is a setup. This is a setup, 0:03:36.880 --> 0:03:37.839 and I don't want to be here. 0:03:38.000 --> 0:03:45.240 I've watched enough Simpsons from Krusty and definitely, so I 0:03:45.360 --> 0:03:48.200 show Bob, are you a funny online data? I mean, 0:03:48.480 --> 0:03:50.440 am I a comedians? Sometimes you're not showing the ship, 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:53.720 you're figuring it out between us. 0:03:53.880 --> 0:03:54.800 We are in between. 0:03:55.560 --> 0:03:58.320 We're definitely like in the times I've had dating apps, 0:03:58.600 --> 0:04:00.760 I always put the photo of crack Fop on it 0:04:00.800 --> 0:04:03.600 because it's a really good summation of me as a person. 0:04:03.720 --> 0:04:07.680 A little bit grotty, yeah, but also very refined. What 0:04:07.720 --> 0:04:08.240 about you? 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:09.240 You're with flexing. 0:04:08.920 --> 0:04:13.240 Frooms, You're listening to Flex and Frooms on Kata. 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:15.320 Here is a guide to the people you need to 0:04:15.320 --> 0:04:18.800 either avoid or pursue on dating apps. It's comprehensive. We've 0:04:18.880 --> 0:04:22.320 already gone through the funny archetype. Now we're looking at 0:04:22.360 --> 0:04:24.080 the formal archetype. 0:04:24.320 --> 0:04:27.520 Lilian, Hello, So I prose for dating people who are 0:04:27.680 --> 0:04:31.920 for including the fact that they are organized dates right, 0:04:31.960 --> 0:04:34.039 which I personally think is quite a difficult thing to 0:04:34.040 --> 0:04:36.760 come by. In twenty twenty three, there's been a malaise 0:04:36.800 --> 0:04:38.120 that has how do you say. 0:04:38.200 --> 0:04:41.120 Like a blight on the world. It's the real epidemic 0:04:41.400 --> 0:04:44.320 or pandemic. What's a pro a pro to dating formal 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:47.320 person I think it's that they understand there's a structure 0:04:47.400 --> 0:04:49.640 that needs to be followed and almost like a sequence 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:52.640 of events that makes sense. So you know, you match, 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:55.080 You get to know each other, you share information that 0:04:55.120 --> 0:04:58.800 matters vital stats, right, and then if the vibe is correct, 0:04:58.920 --> 0:05:01.919 you escalate. You add layer of intimacy, a layer of intensity. 0:05:02.120 --> 0:05:04.520 Should we go and meet, should we do a phone call? 0:05:04.560 --> 0:05:07.560 Should we do a FaceTime? It might not have the 0:05:07.600 --> 0:05:09.800 pizazz and the passion of someone who's like it was, 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:12.960 I youre so high, but you're like, Okay, it's moving 0:05:12.960 --> 0:05:15.320 at a pace that I can mightna be my favorite, 0:05:15.360 --> 0:05:16.960 but I can appreciate that, like it's going in a 0:05:16.960 --> 0:05:18.080 direction that's up. 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:21.400 Con oh, a con. It can be a bit formulaic. 0:05:21.440 --> 0:05:24.480 I think it can give you the impression that they 0:05:24.520 --> 0:05:26.600 do this a lot, which I don't want to leave 0:05:26.680 --> 0:05:27.480 Dolly in the dark. 0:05:27.600 --> 0:05:31.880 But like just coming from inside the house, I know, 0:05:32.560 --> 0:05:33.000 are you here. 0:05:33.839 --> 0:05:38.680 I'm looking for a verge. You just feel a bit 0:05:38.760 --> 0:05:40.680 like you're a little too good at this, like when 0:05:40.720 --> 0:05:43.960 someone's gonna moves a little too good. I'm feeling I'm 0:05:43.960 --> 0:05:44.839 feeling like a puppet. 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:48.440 It's a bit suspicious. You can't win, can you can't win? 0:05:48.640 --> 0:05:51.279 I would say a con is that sometimes you miss 0:05:51.320 --> 0:05:54.160 out on both assessing chemistry and compatibility. When someone is 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:57.800 so like buy the book says the thing adds the 0:05:57.839 --> 0:06:00.760 full stop. There's no room for that kind of flow 0:06:00.839 --> 0:06:03.440 that's required to catch a vibe. And now you found 0:06:03.480 --> 0:06:06.640 yourself in almost like a role we're both playing. I'm interviewer, 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:09.120 you're interviewee. I don't answer a question unless you ask 0:06:09.160 --> 0:06:11.520 a question. I don't add any emojis, I don't say 0:06:11.560 --> 0:06:14.240 anything in jest. We're just like doing back and forth 0:06:14.360 --> 0:06:17.120 round two interview process. I'll tell my people to call 0:06:17.160 --> 0:06:18.719 your people tap vibe. 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:21.320 It's like when I know something's like going wrong, when 0:06:21.320 --> 0:06:25.000 I'm not acting to my personal beliefs. Is when you 0:06:25.040 --> 0:06:27.919 don't send emojis, when you're a big emoji sender, like 0:06:27.920 --> 0:06:30.160 if you ever text someone that doesn't use you're. 0:06:30.080 --> 0:06:35.840 Like, am I a child? Am I immature? Or when 0:06:35.839 --> 0:06:37.919 you just don't like joke in the way that you would. 0:06:37.960 --> 0:06:40.000 You're like, they're not going to read this properly. Like 0:06:40.160 --> 0:06:42.840 if I was like, it's the loafer for me, they'd 0:06:42.880 --> 0:06:45.320 be like, do you own these loafers as well? And 0:06:45.960 --> 0:06:49.000 now I can't. I can't even bit myself. It's giving 0:06:49.160 --> 0:06:51.839 any more pros or cons. No, do you like formal datas? 0:06:52.080 --> 0:06:53.440 That's my time, So I'm. 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:56.680 Gonna need you to text me within twenty four hours and. 0:06:56.560 --> 0:06:59.159 You get that with a formal data? You really do 0:06:59.600 --> 0:07:02.200 you of these like these yahoos who keep playing around 0:07:02.200 --> 0:07:04.359 with like let's just see how we go. No, No, 0:07:04.400 --> 0:07:07.200 I need intention of marriage within the first five to 0:07:07.240 --> 0:07:07.880 seven days. 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:12.400 Respectfully, flex and firmes flex and fromes cater never miss 0:07:12.400 --> 0:07:15.040 a beat. Welcome to our series the people to avoid 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:16.840 or go near when dating. 0:07:16.960 --> 0:07:17.920 So what's called pursue? 0:07:17.920 --> 0:07:19.920 But like word to words, Yeah, this is about people 0:07:19.960 --> 0:07:20.920 who are freshly single. 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:23.760 Now we've already done formal people. 0:07:23.520 --> 0:07:27.240 Formal people and people were funny. Yes, freshly single a pro. 0:07:27.440 --> 0:07:29.720 And I'm not speaking from experience because I don't talk 0:07:29.720 --> 0:07:33.080 about my dating life on air on cameras. 0:07:34.040 --> 0:07:38.080 I'm single and loving it. I'm freshly fingle. Please can 0:07:38.120 --> 0:07:41.800 we do that, do not go back into archives. 0:07:42.960 --> 0:07:45.600 A pro would be horny part of my French. They're horny, 0:07:45.640 --> 0:07:48.560 they're freshly single. They're ready to try new experiences if 0:07:48.560 --> 0:07:50.880 that means going out with the quirky girl quirky girls 0:07:50.880 --> 0:07:51.880 everywhere to win for. 0:07:51.920 --> 0:07:54.520 Us, you identify as a quirky girl now because okay, 0:07:54.720 --> 0:07:58.280 saying for the other one quirky derogatory, I would say 0:07:58.280 --> 0:08:00.840 a pro, it's always nice getting a good one back 0:08:00.840 --> 0:08:02.880 on the market. You know, some of the good ones 0:08:02.880 --> 0:08:06.000 are out for two long, four or five year relationships. 0:08:06.200 --> 0:08:09.160 You know, bring some of the six for five kings 0:08:09.240 --> 0:08:11.120 back to the dating pool. I will say. 0:08:11.120 --> 0:08:13.400 Another pro is they usually want something casual, which can 0:08:13.440 --> 0:08:16.000 really work for you if you're a busy, working woman again. 0:08:15.920 --> 0:08:19.120 Not me. Let's do some cons. 0:08:19.280 --> 0:08:23.120 Okay, the biggest con for me is the emotional labor, 0:08:23.520 --> 0:08:26.600 the toiling that must occur as they talk about their X, 0:08:26.600 --> 0:08:28.080 because as you know they're going to be. 0:08:28.160 --> 0:08:31.400 It's gonna come up, it's going to punctuate a sentence. 0:08:31.880 --> 0:08:32.120 You know. 0:08:32.520 --> 0:08:34.920 There are so many ways to avoid mentioning an X, 0:08:35.000 --> 0:08:37.760 and these ones just they dodge every time they want 0:08:37.800 --> 0:08:40.000 on a trip with their ex, did a little euro 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:41.720 trip instead of saying I went with a friend, Oh, 0:08:41.840 --> 0:08:42.559 me and my ex? 0:08:42.880 --> 0:08:45.680 Why why shut up? 0:08:45.760 --> 0:08:47.440 Because they put you in a weird category. We have 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:49.800 to pretend to be like extra cool about this. Oh 0:08:50.280 --> 0:08:53.640 what's her name? 0:08:57.480 --> 0:08:59.400 We're not getting to the age of this, but because 0:08:59.400 --> 0:09:04.040 we're talking, yeah, if we weren't twenty four, I feel 0:09:04.040 --> 0:09:06.160 like some people get into the age where the people 0:09:06.160 --> 0:09:07.800 they're dating have kids and they're. 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:09.160 Gonna be like, oh, what's their name? 0:09:11.559 --> 0:09:17.720 It's really hitting different the fine out two cons. Another 0:09:17.760 --> 0:09:21.160 con are they're fatigued and they're also unavailable. If you're 0:09:21.160 --> 0:09:23.559 looking for something a little bit more serious. 0:09:23.360 --> 0:09:26.360 Yeah, I would say there's like a broad emotional unavailability. 0:09:26.400 --> 0:09:29.920 But also just like you don't know the curriculum of 0:09:30.000 --> 0:09:32.440 dating anymore, Like you don't know how things work. So 0:09:32.440 --> 0:09:35.000 you're coming in with Norvis energy, but you don't know 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:37.880 that because the way that we herald relationships is like 0:09:37.880 --> 0:09:41.160 you're an expert. You know people, you know compatibility, you 0:09:41.200 --> 0:09:43.440 know union, and you come out and it's like a 0:09:43.440 --> 0:09:46.640 whole different playing field and you're using twenty and fifteen 0:09:46.679 --> 0:09:49.480 games in the twenty twenty three landscape and I have 0:09:49.480 --> 0:09:52.520 to teach you had it's not like, it's just confusing. 0:09:52.679 --> 0:09:55.280 And then also I think another con is that a 0:09:55.280 --> 0:09:58.040 lot of the Freshly singles don't allow themselves the time 0:09:58.120 --> 0:10:00.320 to not be on the apps, and so it's like 0:10:00.600 --> 0:10:02.360 there is a small period of time where you're just 0:10:02.400 --> 0:10:05.000 auditioning for rebound and you might not think you are, 0:10:05.240 --> 0:10:07.680 but you are. You're just like keeping the seat warm 0:10:07.920 --> 0:10:10.120 so them and the X can work it out. We're 0:10:10.160 --> 0:10:12.240 just sweet, love you guys as a couple. She seems 0:10:12.240 --> 0:10:12.960 really nice. 0:10:14.480 --> 0:10:17.199 Sorry, yeah, what's her handle? 0:10:17.520 --> 0:10:18.120 She's in arees. 0:10:18.559 --> 0:10:19.760 Don't go into diary. 0:10:21.400 --> 0:10:24.280 I'll do it anyway. So you're into Freshly singles, Nah, 0:10:24.480 --> 0:10:26.040 you seem like it. Are you serious? 0:10:26.360 --> 0:10:28.520 Once a rebound? Never got a rebound? 0:10:29.040 --> 0:10:31.240 Look, I will say I'll do a freshly single if 0:10:31.240 --> 0:10:33.360 I'm like, it's a good one, because you know, good 0:10:33.360 --> 0:10:36.000 ones hard to come by. You can't let one go. 0:10:36.200 --> 0:10:38.240 You just might have to play the rebound game for 0:10:38.280 --> 0:10:40.160 a bit, you know what I mean, do your time 0:10:40.480 --> 0:10:42.280 if the prize is worth it, ETCETERA. 0:10:42.040 --> 0:10:47.000 Interesting flex and FROMES. You're listening to Flex and Frooms. 0:10:47.040 --> 0:10:50.920 What the frick? Welcome back to Flex and FROMES exclusive series. 0:10:51.120 --> 0:10:53.400 The people to avoid and the people to go near 0:10:53.720 --> 0:10:56.840 when dating online, go near people to. 0:10:58.800 --> 0:11:03.920 I never So far we have done funny people, formal people, 0:11:04.240 --> 0:11:05.679 freshly single people. 0:11:05.640 --> 0:11:09.480 And now the social media jumpers. It's a big title. 0:11:09.559 --> 0:11:11.320 It's the first one that we have done without an 0:11:11.400 --> 0:11:12.960 F in the name, which is very upsetting. 0:11:13.000 --> 0:11:13.800 How would you define it? 0:11:14.200 --> 0:11:17.400 They are people who go from the dating app straight 0:11:17.559 --> 0:11:19.000 to your socials. 0:11:19.000 --> 0:11:21.960 Rush to find you in a different DM rabbit. 0:11:23.280 --> 0:11:25.920 These are the same people that have at mikey three 0:11:26.080 --> 0:11:28.880 one four as their little thing like get to know 0:11:29.000 --> 0:11:30.839 me mikey three one four and then the rest of 0:11:30.880 --> 0:11:32.560 the answers on here You're just like a dot because 0:11:32.600 --> 0:11:33.520 I don't want to answer them. 0:11:35.000 --> 0:11:35.880 The pro of. 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:37.480 People like this is that you get to SUSSI vive 0:11:37.600 --> 0:11:39.840 very quickly correct. What's one for you? 0:11:40.120 --> 0:11:41.840 I would say you get to see the gaps in 0:11:41.880 --> 0:11:44.280 between someone's curation. We can argue that all social media 0:11:44.320 --> 0:11:46.600 is curated to a point, but the options you get 0:11:46.600 --> 0:11:48.200 to fill in on a dating app don't really do 0:11:48.240 --> 0:11:49.880 someone justice. I think they hide a lot of the 0:11:49.880 --> 0:11:52.280 bad things. So, like, I want to go in and 0:11:52.320 --> 0:11:54.439 be able to see if you, if you choose to share, 0:11:54.760 --> 0:11:57.120 be able to see like, Okay, what are your posts 0:11:57.160 --> 0:11:59.160 looking like? What are your highlights looking like? What is 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:01.320 your tone? What are the saning like? Do you have 0:12:01.360 --> 0:12:03.360 like one too many people in your DM fighting for 0:12:03.400 --> 0:12:06.000 your attention? These are the things that paint a far 0:12:06.080 --> 0:12:09.520 clear picture and also might be a bit unorthodox to say, 0:12:09.559 --> 0:12:11.320 but I want to see what your friends look like. 0:12:11.640 --> 0:12:13.959 I always find that sometimes you can't catch a vibe 0:12:13.960 --> 0:12:15.640 for someone. You see why or two friends like, yeah, 0:12:15.679 --> 0:12:16.559 I get what's happening here? 0:12:17.000 --> 0:12:20.440 I get a big con and I have unfortunately see 0:12:20.480 --> 0:12:23.760 this play out irl in real time. Yeah, you never 0:12:23.800 --> 0:12:26.360 meet them. The dates go nowhere? What have I got? 0:12:26.400 --> 0:12:30.720 A random polluting my following list? As my time has 0:12:30.720 --> 0:12:32.480 gone on, the following list has gotten a bit messy. 0:12:32.520 --> 0:12:33.920 You're not gonna lie, I need to go through into 0:12:33.960 --> 0:12:34.320 a sweep. 0:12:34.360 --> 0:12:36.559 We didn't know it mattered at one point, we didn't 0:12:36.600 --> 0:12:41.199 know all we know. I cannot coast time this person 0:12:41.840 --> 0:12:44.640 that I follow, yeah, because they become a demon ghost 0:12:44.760 --> 0:12:46.800 in your dms and it's like, why do you still 0:12:46.880 --> 0:12:49.800 go here? What is your intention to live in my dms? 0:12:49.840 --> 0:12:52.680 Eat up the resources to take up the spaces, clog 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:54.959 it up with the heart eyes and the fire react. 0:12:54.960 --> 0:12:58.080 It's annoying. The issue with jumping to the social media 0:12:58.120 --> 0:13:00.880 app is that it communicates a level intimacy that's not 0:13:00.920 --> 0:13:03.600 there because suddenly, like the barrier was like, we're on 0:13:03.640 --> 0:13:06.400 this app. You know these apps are for dot dot dot, 0:13:06.679 --> 0:13:09.079 but now you're just in my day to day. You've 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:11.240 got it all, You've got access to everything, so now 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:13.480 you feel really close. And again it's like you've got 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:15.200 the dopamine here. It's like I've gotten to know her, 0:13:15.320 --> 0:13:17.319 like we've achieved I don't need to do anything else 0:13:17.480 --> 0:13:20.280 about that. And I also feel like what happens and 0:13:20.320 --> 0:13:22.840 it's the worst con of them all. You end up 0:13:22.840 --> 0:13:26.000 with that consolation prize relationship where it's like, didn't really 0:13:26.000 --> 0:13:28.360 go anywhere, and now I'm kind of stuck having to 0:13:28.400 --> 0:13:30.560 like slowly nurture it because it's weird if I just 0:13:30.679 --> 0:13:33.679 drop off and block you, because that's just a bit forward. 0:13:33.960 --> 0:13:36.280 But then also it's like, why have we now found 0:13:36.320 --> 0:13:39.200 ourselves in this predictament when we're intertwined what we're you meshed. 0:13:39.400 --> 0:13:40.520 I don't want to be messed with you. 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:45.559 I personally condone the drop off and the block because 0:13:45.720 --> 0:13:47.560 if they say why, you just say because you didn't, 0:13:47.720 --> 0:13:51.400 you didn't pull through, yes, And unfortunately I have enough friends. 0:13:51.160 --> 0:13:53.560 What I will say. While I don't love the social 0:13:53.600 --> 0:13:56.720 media jump, like I don't want that our conversation to 0:13:56.840 --> 0:14:00.680 move to a different platform, I do prefer somebody does. 0:14:00.679 --> 0:14:03.200 They're like their their preliminary stalk on me. Just do 0:14:03.320 --> 0:14:05.040 the stalk, Like, I just think you need to like 0:14:05.080 --> 0:14:08.560 get your information that you need because like when you 0:14:08.600 --> 0:14:11.000 ask what I do and I'm rattling off things, it's 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:13.120 a bit confusing when you're like, oh where were you 0:14:13.120 --> 0:14:15.480 this week and I'm like in the sony box watching 0:14:15.559 --> 0:14:17.960 Drake perform. It's not giving. So if you could see 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:20.760 your own pulminary stork, gather your own ideas, and then 0:14:20.800 --> 0:14:22.560 see if you want to continue, because you're not about 0:14:22.600 --> 0:14:23.720 that life and I get it. 0:14:23.720 --> 0:14:25.600 It's a lot. They got a lot to look through 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:27.800 when you search flex mummy, so good luck with that. 0:14:27.920 --> 0:14:34.840 Kings and Queens, fru meno through me boo mummy, lex mom. 0:14:35.120 --> 0:14:37.360 You're listening to Flex and rooms. 0:14:37.680 --> 0:14:40.600 On Kata, we continue our series the types of people 0:14:40.640 --> 0:14:43.320 to avoid or pursue on dating apps. We've done the 0:14:43.360 --> 0:14:44.160 funny person. 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:46.920 We've done the serious formal person. 0:14:46.920 --> 0:14:50.000 We've done the formal person. We've done the freshly single person. 0:14:50.400 --> 0:14:53.480 We've done the social media jumpers. And we've also and 0:14:53.560 --> 0:14:55.040 today we don't do the newbies. 0:14:55.200 --> 0:14:56.840 Ooh, fresh meat if you will. 0:14:57.080 --> 0:15:00.720 Fresh meat the people who have not had any experience 0:15:00.880 --> 0:15:03.960 on dating apps. We're jumping on for the very first time. 0:15:04.520 --> 0:15:05.840 What are some of the pros? 0:15:06.400 --> 0:15:09.760 First pro is they're sprinkled in between the long service 0:15:09.760 --> 0:15:12.360 sleeve hotties. We all know them, who are the long 0:15:12.400 --> 0:15:13.280 service leaves buddies. 0:15:13.360 --> 0:15:14.800 Just to make sure we're on the same one or. 0:15:14.760 --> 0:15:18.360 Two people that every two years, when you jump out 0:15:18.360 --> 0:15:20.600 of a relationship and get back into the dating scene, 0:15:20.760 --> 0:15:22.760 their profiles seem to still be there. There will be 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:24.600 one or two pictures of the difference. Of course, I've 0:15:24.640 --> 0:15:28.080 still got a hero image. The hero image is there? 0:15:28.120 --> 0:15:30.120 Yeah, actually, so. 0:15:30.160 --> 0:15:30.800 Yeah, that's a pro. 0:15:31.080 --> 0:15:34.080 I would say a pro is that they don't have 0:15:34.400 --> 0:15:37.920 any context, which means they're not bringing in past dating 0:15:37.960 --> 0:15:40.440 app baggage. I think that's what a lot of us 0:15:40.440 --> 0:15:43.760 are struggling with. We can't inject fresh energy into a 0:15:43.760 --> 0:15:46.280 stale environment, and we are the problem. So thank you 0:15:46.320 --> 0:15:50.720 for bringing in some fresh energy just joined. I appreciate cons. 0:15:50.440 --> 0:15:51.280 They don't have game. 0:15:51.600 --> 0:15:51.760 Now. 0:15:51.800 --> 0:15:53.040 I don't want someone to come in there be a 0:15:53.080 --> 0:15:55.960 little too smooth, but I don't want you to drop 0:15:55.960 --> 0:15:58.760 your guts just because you've never been on the dating 0:15:58.800 --> 0:16:03.480 app like I've never done before. Okay, scary, No, I'm 0:16:03.520 --> 0:16:06.000 just kidding. I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. I feel 0:16:06.000 --> 0:16:07.680 like some people make the fact they've never been on 0:16:07.680 --> 0:16:09.400 a dating app a badge of honor. 0:16:09.240 --> 0:16:10.960 Like a personality trait, and it's like, well, you're on now, 0:16:11.080 --> 0:16:14.120 so you want to happened? 0:16:15.280 --> 0:16:15.960 How does a film? 0:16:16.160 --> 0:16:19.120 I would say a con is that we can assume 0:16:19.320 --> 0:16:22.680 that the newbie is aligned with the freshly single, because 0:16:22.720 --> 0:16:24.760 generally people like I've never been on you know, like 0:16:24.800 --> 0:16:26.880 I've been I've been in a relationship since Cinder came out. 0:16:26.880 --> 0:16:28.480 I've been in it, you know, and it's okay cool. 0:16:28.800 --> 0:16:31.720 So all you know is like derivative stories and like 0:16:31.800 --> 0:16:33.520 your lived experienced. 0:16:33.960 --> 0:16:34.240 Yeah. 0:16:34.480 --> 0:16:37.920 I think sometimes with the newbies is that the dating 0:16:37.920 --> 0:16:40.960 appisolo game to them. They're like, oh, this is like funny, like, ah, 0:16:41.000 --> 0:16:43.560 what do you guys do here? And so you don't 0:16:43.640 --> 0:16:46.880 know if they are matching or swiping because they're actually interested, 0:16:46.920 --> 0:16:48.160 They're just trying to get the layer of the land. 0:16:48.520 --> 0:16:50.640 I don't want to be a little like trial and error. 0:16:50.720 --> 0:16:53.160 Situation needs someone a little bit more seasoned. I think 0:16:53.160 --> 0:16:54.240 I prefer someone ran. 0:16:54.120 --> 0:16:57.760 Through flex and frooms on Kata. 0:16:57.960 --> 0:17:01.080 Our series continues the types of people to pursue or 0:17:01.160 --> 0:17:04.399 avoid on dating apps. We've done the funny person, the 0:17:04.400 --> 0:17:08.600 friendly person, the freshly single person, the newbie. Now we're 0:17:08.640 --> 0:17:10.200 doing people who are chaotic. 0:17:10.480 --> 0:17:10.720 Yes. 0:17:13.000 --> 0:17:15.920 Shall I start with a pro please? No? I want 0:17:15.920 --> 0:17:17.920 to start with cons. I want to start with cons please, Okay. 0:17:18.480 --> 0:17:21.480 I would say I feel like people barely have time 0:17:21.520 --> 0:17:24.280 for their own friends, genuine issues and like the kind 0:17:24.320 --> 0:17:26.800 of chaos that happens with people you love. I don't 0:17:26.800 --> 0:17:28.800 think I have time for that with a stranger. If 0:17:28.840 --> 0:17:31.639 you come off the bat acting loopy. They need to 0:17:31.680 --> 0:17:35.600 put you on the BINM sang cons. 0:17:35.359 --> 0:17:39.640 Going to their house and there's mess everywhere and. 0:17:39.600 --> 0:17:42.520 I we've already jump off the app bin stinks. 0:17:42.880 --> 0:17:45.359 Yeah, okay, because they're chaos. They're gonna ask you out 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:47.080 on a Tuesday night, and you're gonna go, of course, 0:17:47.119 --> 0:17:49.239 because you think, of course I would just try something new. 0:17:49.280 --> 0:17:51.720 They're asking you about at eleven forty three am on 0:17:51.760 --> 0:17:53.919 a Tuesday, being like, should be locking for three pm, 0:17:53.960 --> 0:17:55.360