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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the

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Speaker 1: time poor parent who just wants answers now Well.

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Speaker 2: At school holidays in Brisbane, Kylie and I are doing

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Speaker 2: our best to spend some quality time with our kids

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Speaker 2: and we hope that you're getting to do the same.

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Speaker 2: The Happy Families podcast is going to continue to show

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Speaker 2: up in your feed during the holidays, but we are

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Speaker 2: kind of taking a break, which means that the content

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Speaker 2: is going to be light, simple and digestible. The idea

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Speaker 2: is that we're going to share with you one thought

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Speaker 2: that we reckon can make a difference in your family,

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Speaker 2: and then give you a challenge so that you can

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Speaker 2: practice it starting right now.

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Speaker 1: So what's our number one tip for the holidays?

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Speaker 2: I thought that we would start with my all time

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Speaker 2: favorite piece of advice. It's the pairing advice that I

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Speaker 2: give everybody all the time. So I'll often have parents

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Speaker 2: come to me there say I'm really struggling with my kids.

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Speaker 2: They're driving me crazy, especially during the school holidays. And

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Speaker 2: that might be because you're trying to juggle work and kids,

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Speaker 2: or you're working from home and trying to get emails

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Speaker 2: done while the kids are there, or whatever. It might be.

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Speaker 2: But my response every time is that I just said

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Speaker 2: to them, well, before we talk about anything that it

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Speaker 2: could be, just tell me about the last time that

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Speaker 2: you really spent good quality time with them, no interruptions,

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Speaker 2: no correction direction, just good quality time together or walk

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Speaker 2: in the park, maybe a camping trip, that kind of thing. Big,

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Speaker 2: little doesn't really matter. You know what most parents say

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Speaker 2: to me, they can't remember. No, they stay half an

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Speaker 2: hour ago. It's no, they do. They can't remember. They're like, oh, gee,

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Speaker 2: it's been a while, it's really been a while. When

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Speaker 2: I suggest that kids spell love t im and recommend

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Speaker 2: that those parents spend some time connecting, and then tell

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Speaker 2: them to email me and let me know how it goes, invariably,

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Speaker 2: within a pretty short time, I receive an update, and

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Speaker 2: it usually goes like this. We spend some time together

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Speaker 2: and it's made all the difference.

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Speaker 1: That reminds me of one of your quotables. Use it

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Speaker 1: all the time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Just like dollars of the currency of our economy,

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Speaker 2: connection is the currency of our relationships.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I love that, and I love it because it

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Speaker 1: taps in beautifully with a quote that I read from

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Speaker 1: Brene Brown recently. She defines connection as the energy that

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Speaker 1: exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued.

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Speaker 1: And I just I love the visual that that provides

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Speaker 1: for me because you talk about connection and I know

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Speaker 1: what that kind of feels like. But when you actually

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Speaker 1: break it down into those three things that I actually

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Speaker 1: feel seen, I feel like you see me, you actually

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Speaker 1: see me, you hear me, and you value who I

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Speaker 1: am and the input that I give in day to

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Speaker 1: day life. That is so much more tangible for me.

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Speaker 2: And I think it's the secret of great relationships, either

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Speaker 2: in a couple relationship with your neighbors, with your colleagues

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Speaker 2: at work, but particularly with your kids. Connection is the

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Speaker 2: currency of your relationship. So our challenge for you on

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Speaker 2: day one of the Queensland school holidays. I hope that

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Speaker 2: you're on holidays too, regardless, our challenge for you today

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Speaker 2: is this.

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Speaker 1: We're challenging you to find one way to connect more

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Speaker 1: with your children.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so today, see them, hear them, value them, do

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Speaker 2: something with them, kids, spill love time. We really hope

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Speaker 2: that you enjoyed this quick little tip, this thought, this

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Speaker 2: provocation to help you to have a happier family during

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Speaker 2: the school holidays. The happy Families podcast, as always, is

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Speaker 2: produced by Justin Ruland from Bridge Media. Craig Bruce is

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Speaker 2: our executive producer, and if you'd like more info about

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Speaker 2: making your family happier, visit happy families dot com dot

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