WEBVTT - Flex's Theory 📃 For Feeling Better🌞

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms Flex and Frooms.

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<v Speaker 2>This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast. Am

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<v Speaker 2>I sad? Or do I just need to leave the house?

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<v Speaker 2>And other questions will answer today on the Flex and

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<v Speaker 2>Rooms Show. Listen up. I know what you're thinking. You're

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<v Speaker 2>depressed and you need to be redacted redacted. Sometimes it's

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<v Speaker 2>not that deep. Sometimes it is as simple as reminding

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<v Speaker 2>yourself that there are certain behaviors that you do that

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<v Speaker 2>almost exacerbate that feeling of lack, loss, melancholy, melancholy, just

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<v Speaker 2>everyday sadness, everyday sadness, and then you get stuck in

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<v Speaker 2>this little cave of depression esque behavior without the common

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<v Speaker 2>sense to be like, wait a second, have I gotten

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<v Speaker 2>anything I find enjoyable? Anyway? This spot was prompted by

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<v Speaker 2>TikTok I saw no surprise is there. The username is

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<v Speaker 2>dk A z a nd.

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<v Speaker 3>This is a quote by Frederick Nietzsche with it lines

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<v Speaker 3>us that our thoughts are the product of our environment.

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<v Speaker 3>So if you live in a small space, you will

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<v Speaker 3>think small thoughts. If instead, you go to a space

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<v Speaker 3>where you can't even see the edge of the map,

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<v Speaker 3>the ideas will also expand. Sometimes we think we're depressed

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<v Speaker 3>when we actually just need to leave the house.

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<v Speaker 1>Now. A lot of things were saying, Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>I had to write something down for a minute, he

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<v Speaker 1>opened his mouth.

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<v Speaker 2>I disagree. Picture and listen, well, listen it. We're paying attention. Look,

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<v Speaker 2>we have spoken before about this concept of if you

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<v Speaker 2>want to think big and large, you need to go

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<v Speaker 2>to a big and large space. But I also want

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<v Speaker 2>to simplify what he's just said there and talk about

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<v Speaker 2>this idea that sometimes the simplest explanation is the best one,

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<v Speaker 2>and trying to find all this extra understanding and nuance

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<v Speaker 2>without ticking off the basics feels futile. So if I'm

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<v Speaker 2>feeling down and not take into consideration that I haven't

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<v Speaker 2>had any water, i haven't slept really well, I've not

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<v Speaker 2>spoken to my friends, my house is messy, maybe just

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<v Speaker 2>maybe we should tick that off instead of going on

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<v Speaker 2>TikTok and being like adhd the pipeline.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh dear, I mean, we're not gonna minimize mental illness

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<v Speaker 1>here on the network from show. However, I will also

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<v Speaker 1>say this niche quote, thoughts are the product of your environment.

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<v Speaker 1>I tend to disagree with that. I don't think I

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<v Speaker 1>think that's serious. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm also just thinking, like if your physical room right, no,

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<v Speaker 2>I think about a lot of things.

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<v Speaker 1>I think your thoughts can be totally independent of your environment.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm reading a book at the moment by Kerry Sackville.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's The Secret.

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<v Speaker 2>Life of You.

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<v Speaker 1>Shout out, Kerry, what a queen, and she talks about

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<v Speaker 1>I'm about ten pages in. He talks about this concept

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<v Speaker 1>of the backstore of your brain, so you can be

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<v Speaker 1>anywhere and you can be down in the backstore, like

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<v Speaker 1>imagining things, fantasizing about things. I think the idea that

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts equal environment isn't it.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think that's what that means. Though Thoughts don't

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<v Speaker 2>equal environment, but thoughts are a product of environment, Like,

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<v Speaker 2>for example, juice isn't the supermarket. You can get juice

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<v Speaker 2>in the supermarket.

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<v Speaker 1>But nature did not envision his little quotes to be

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<v Speaker 1>butchered on live radio.

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<v Speaker 2>So is this idea that, like, if you want to

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<v Speaker 2>change the way you think about things as a start,

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<v Speaker 2>change your environment, change who you hang out with, where

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<v Speaker 2>you hang out, why you hang out with those people,

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<v Speaker 2>et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. I think that's a

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<v Speaker 2>good step, but I don't think it's saying that your

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<v Speaker 2>thoughts are separate from you in the way that your

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<v Speaker 2>environment made them and for that reason, you know, they

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<v Speaker 2>just popped up in there. I wrote this question in

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<v Speaker 2>one of my reflex card games. Where do you think

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<v Speaker 2>you inherit your beliefs from because people don't think about

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<v Speaker 2>that enough. Do you think you just like sat on

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<v Speaker 2>the internet and then became a well rounded person. No,

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<v Speaker 2>you're inheriting stuff constantly from that person you follow that

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<v Speaker 2>news article you half read, you know, like really funny

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<v Speaker 2>quip you saw over here in conversation at the supermarket.

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<v Speaker 2>You're inheriting stuff constantly based on where you're going and

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<v Speaker 2>who you're interacting with. A couple of weeks ago, I

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<v Speaker 2>got really excited about Maslow's hierarchy of needs, which he

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<v Speaker 2>did co opt and steal, but we won't get into

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<v Speaker 2>that because it reminded me that we're all kind of

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<v Speaker 2>stuck in this really advanced way of living where we

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to get the basics in order. We just

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<v Speaker 2>want to go to premium land, right. So we don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to get our daily habits sorted. We don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to get our full eight hours of sleep we don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to drink water, we don't want to get morning sun.

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<v Speaker 2>Shout out to human.

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<v Speaker 1>Literally, don't make me say again, human lab.

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<v Speaker 2>But we all want to go straight to self actualization.

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<v Speaker 2>If we tick that off, everything will fix itself. It's

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<v Speaker 2>like no, everything just gets infinitely harder. It's hard to

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<v Speaker 2>think small when you're stuck thinking big.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like a mass equation. It's way easier to work,

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<v Speaker 1>break it down, rue it, but it's the hardest thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Come on, and I could never do it. But I

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<v Speaker 2>also think this is part of like the modern trap.

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<v Speaker 2>It's also why I talk about, you know, not wanting

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<v Speaker 2>to do critical thinking with strangers, not wanting to turn

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<v Speaker 2>everything into a philosophical discussion, because when you go to abstract,

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<v Speaker 2>you can't simplify and say, wait, but what if inserts

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<v Speaker 2>simple idea, because everything up until that point negates that

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<v Speaker 2>it could ever be that simple. So this idea that

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<v Speaker 2>like everybody's quote unquote chronically depressed when they don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to leave the house. Yes, correlation does not equal causation.

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<v Speaker 2>But when we think about what is the cure for

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<v Speaker 2>this sense of melancholy, we go straight to the most

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<v Speaker 2>extreme thing, and that we don't want to hear when

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<v Speaker 2>someone's like, do you exercise.

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<v Speaker 1>We're like, shot, don't shame me from my behavior. Listen,

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<v Speaker 1>I think for me. Yeah, talk about it recently getting

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<v Speaker 1>my period?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I love this. Why do I feel so much

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<v Speaker 2>more comfortable toward my periods? Really, the potty is the

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<v Speaker 2>matriarchy me.

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<v Speaker 1>Not me coming through like five years of thaying know

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<v Speaker 1>to period brands because I didn't get my period, like

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<v Speaker 1>I am a truthful queens, but that's.

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<v Speaker 2>Like me and drinking alcohol. I was like no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 2>And then I turned twenty nine, I said, I want

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<v Speaker 2>to get involved in life experiences and make a bag.

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<v Speaker 2>Time to get the bad girls. If you see some

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<v Speaker 2>period content, just no, I'm really in the trenches. Wait,

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<v Speaker 2>is that why Libra is in my dms this morning?

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<v Speaker 2>Because they know? Why does Libra know that they're trying

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<v Speaker 2>to get the.

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<v Speaker 1>Bad kick back from fruity no becoming a period girl.

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<v Speaker 1>I got very, very excited about tracking it and chronicling

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<v Speaker 1>it to see how my mood shift, because I remember

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<v Speaker 1>when I was in high school and I had my period,

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<v Speaker 1>I'd get really bad p mess, like it's giving cracking

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<v Speaker 1>the sads, crying, and then you're like, damn, the period came.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think there were period trackers back there, but

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<v Speaker 1>now they have it. Tell me why two days before

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<v Speaker 1>my period, I'm feeling road rage and then I get it.

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<v Speaker 1>But now that I have my tracker, literally every morning

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<v Speaker 1>says you feel this today, and I'm like, whoa I do?

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<v Speaker 1>My mom says, maybe it's psychosomatic. But even if it is, great, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's helping me track my moods, which is a

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<v Speaker 1>really amazing thing to do.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm loving it.

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<v Speaker 1>So I guess they took my period in order to

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<v Speaker 1>do that. You were saying this.

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<v Speaker 2>Morning about how hormonal cycles.

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<v Speaker 1>Hormonal cycles for Afab yeap the Afab girl is twenty

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<v Speaker 1>eight days.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, on average, not if we have pcos or anything.

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<v Speaker 2>These are all on average, and it's biological binaries. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>so sorry to do it to here. But then men

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<v Speaker 2>have twenty four hour hormonal cycles, which to a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of people means nothing. You're like, what and then rem

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<v Speaker 2>sleep and then homeostasis, But it means everything because when

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<v Speaker 2>you start to understand if you are working towards the

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<v Speaker 2>twenty eight day cycle and you're like, you're regular, everything

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<v Speaker 2>about the way that you go through a month feels

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<v Speaker 2>like Groundhog's Day, but in the best way possible. You're like,

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<v Speaker 2>the diary is back. Yeah, it's back. My period's coming,

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<v Speaker 2>you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And the other thing I realized is like, when you

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<v Speaker 1>need to prove heaps on your period, it's because this

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<v Speaker 1>it's not progesterone, but it's some like seeps into your

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<v Speaker 1>bowls and like makes you go to the toilet. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so amazing, guys, Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes it's nice. I also think this whole idea of

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<v Speaker 2>wanting to overcomplicate the issue is a byproduct of this

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<v Speaker 2>like hyper individuality. I'm so unique, nobody would get it

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<v Speaker 2>type thing. Because it pains me to know that if

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<v Speaker 2>I understood my mental cycle when I was thirteen, that

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<v Speaker 2>I could actually make like proper informed decisions about what

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<v Speaker 2>I have the capacity to do and not do. Because

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<v Speaker 2>shit's night and day. I'm in pre flop right now,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's like, it's taken a minute. All I want

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<v Speaker 2>to do is sleep and nap and eat. The explanation

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<v Speaker 2>is not the justification, okay, right, So it's like if

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, I'm in pre flop, so all I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to do is eat and sleep, I'm so that's

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<v Speaker 2>what I want to feel like doing, and yet I'm up.

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<v Speaker 2>The energy's here, I'm working, I'm getting through it. But

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<v Speaker 2>I have context and I'm not pathologizing this thing and

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<v Speaker 2>being like I might be, you know, a neandering animal

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<v Speaker 2>because I want to eat everything today. It's like, oh, actually,

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<v Speaker 2>I know what's happening with my body. Thank you? Cool?

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<v Speaker 2>You know the context, because then you start to over

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<v Speaker 2>personalize it. What's wrong with my diet? Every same time

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<v Speaker 2>every month, I've got raging diarrhea, but you don't do

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<v Speaker 2>anything about it because you're kind of like, well, it's

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<v Speaker 2>just my body. It's like, but for what reason.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's learn more about the body. Don't make me say

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<v Speaker 1>his name again, guys, she tell me why on the way,

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<v Speaker 1>I've got mister human blasting through my ears? What a king?

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<v Speaker 1>All right?

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<v Speaker 2>Tell us what you learn because I'm off nonfiction.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, this is a really helpful podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Who you say it always is? Really before we go guys?

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<v Speaker 1>For this podcast on Monday, I think it was worthless.

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<v Speaker 1>Twin on Instagram reposted that it was a bit from

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<v Speaker 1>a Weekend be Heroes. This critically show where Pat Mullens,

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<v Speaker 1>who was the chick that rolled in a cage across Australia.

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<v Speaker 1>Her and her husband a like recording themselves on this

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<v Speaker 1>like old CD player, and the caption was like, when

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<v Speaker 1>influencers say they're going to start a podcast, it's just like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I feel trinated right now.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm really good at this job. Don't let them tell

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<v Speaker 2>you otherwise. We'll see you tomorrow. Silly, you've been listening

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