1 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:07,040 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast. It's the podcast for the 2 00:00:07,120 --> 00:00:10,600 Speaker 1: time poor parent who just wants answers now. 3 00:00:10,800 --> 00:00:13,960 Speaker 2: To see them go into the school playground this year 4 00:00:14,560 --> 00:00:18,919 Speaker 2: with an added level of confidence knowing what to expect 5 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:22,120 Speaker 2: was just so heartening. 6 00:00:22,480 --> 00:00:25,720 Speaker 1: And now here's the stars of our show, My Mom 7 00:00:25,760 --> 00:00:26,560 Speaker 1: and Dad. 8 00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:29,480 Speaker 3: Every Friday and the Happy Families Podcast. Me, Doc, Justin 9 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:34,520 Speaker 3: Coilson and Kylie. That's you, Me, Yes, you talk about 10 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:37,800 Speaker 3: talk about what's going well to give us surprise huh 11 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:39,839 Speaker 3: and what's not. It's called I'll do Better Tomorrow. It's 12 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:43,000 Speaker 3: our opportunity to reflect me intentional about parents. But before 13 00:00:43,040 --> 00:00:44,519 Speaker 3: we get there, Kylie, I want to share with you 14 00:00:44,640 --> 00:00:48,600 Speaker 3: some news that's popped up on the Axios news channel 15 00:00:49,400 --> 00:00:53,400 Speaker 3: that I think is going to be revelatory. Revelatory. Is 16 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:56,240 Speaker 3: that revelatory? Revelatory? I knew I said it wrong. Revelatory 17 00:00:56,280 --> 00:00:58,960 Speaker 3: for parents around the world who love Marie Condo. Do 18 00:00:58,960 --> 00:00:59,800 Speaker 3: you like Marie Condo? 19 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 1: Who is she? 20 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:05,280 Speaker 3: Maria Condo? Marie Kondo is the is the minimalist. Yeah, 21 00:01:05,280 --> 00:01:08,959 Speaker 3: the minimalists make the house perfect, keep everything looking immaculate. 22 00:01:09,120 --> 00:01:12,039 Speaker 3: Person the person who is responsible for more stress of 23 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:14,959 Speaker 3: mothers around the world. Than perhaps anyone else, because her 24 00:01:14,959 --> 00:01:17,640 Speaker 3: houses are immaculate and her designs are stunning, and everyone says, oh, 25 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:19,640 Speaker 3: what my house to look like? That she is the 26 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 3: one with the Instagram that everyone goes, oh like housekeeping 27 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:26,680 Speaker 3: goals Marie Kondo. 28 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:28,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why stour away from it. 29 00:01:28,120 --> 00:01:31,119 Speaker 3: Okay, So she's in the news this past week. This 30 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:33,840 Speaker 3: is from January twenty eight, twenty twenty three, on Axious. 31 00:01:34,040 --> 00:01:36,119 Speaker 3: The article says, don't feel too bad if your place 32 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:38,919 Speaker 3: is a little plotted. Even Marie Kondo's house is looking 33 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:41,759 Speaker 3: less than spotless these days. 34 00:01:41,800 --> 00:01:42,679 Speaker 2: She just had a baby. 35 00:01:42,720 --> 00:01:45,559 Speaker 3: The famed author of the life changing Magic of Tidy 36 00:01:45,680 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 3: Up admittedly doesn't have much time anymore for organizing, especially 37 00:01:49,400 --> 00:01:53,360 Speaker 3: after she had her third child. I love this. I 38 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:55,560 Speaker 3: love this, she says, and I direct quote here. My 39 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:58,320 Speaker 3: home is messy, but the way I'm spending my time 40 00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:01,640 Speaker 3: is the right way for me at this time, at 41 00:02:01,640 --> 00:02:04,040 Speaker 3: this stage of my life. Close quote. 42 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:07,200 Speaker 2: Look, just to be very clear, I'm going to make 43 00:02:07,640 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 2: a huge assumption here, knowing you the way I do. 44 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:12,600 Speaker 2: You are not making fun of Marry Kondo and her 45 00:02:13,600 --> 00:02:19,280 Speaker 2: no mecations of what was feasible. What happens is as 46 00:02:19,440 --> 00:02:22,440 Speaker 2: our lives develop and. 47 00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:25,080 Speaker 3: Change, and as we have kids, our. 48 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:30,920 Speaker 2: Perspective and the things that are important change. And number three, 49 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:33,720 Speaker 2: it was a she's living our life. 50 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:37,280 Speaker 3: Another quote from her, she said, up until now, I 51 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:39,440 Speaker 3: was a professional tidier, so I did my best to 52 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:42,680 Speaker 3: keep my home tidy at all times. I've kind of 53 00:02:42,680 --> 00:02:44,120 Speaker 3: given up on that in a good way for me 54 00:02:44,200 --> 00:02:46,079 Speaker 3: now I realize what is important to me is enjoying 55 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:48,000 Speaker 3: spending time with my children at home. It makes me 56 00:02:48,040 --> 00:02:51,919 Speaker 3: almost want to cry in both ways because I recognize 57 00:02:51,960 --> 00:02:54,680 Speaker 3: the joy of what are we doing when we focus 58 00:02:54,720 --> 00:02:58,800 Speaker 3: so much on worshiping the god of clean surfaces and 59 00:02:58,880 --> 00:03:01,519 Speaker 3: having everything spotless, speaking span the amount of stress and 60 00:03:01,560 --> 00:03:03,679 Speaker 3: anxiety and trauma that we inflict in our family. And 61 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:06,960 Speaker 3: I love that she's recognizing now's not the time. But 62 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 3: I'm also hating it and wanting to cry because I 63 00:03:09,919 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 3: think of how much pain so many parents have been 64 00:03:12,040 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 3: through as they're trying to live up to an exceptional 65 00:03:15,480 --> 00:03:19,480 Speaker 3: and completely unnecessary standard because they've seen it on Instagram 66 00:03:19,520 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 3: and it's aspirational. So anyway, that was my that was 67 00:03:23,040 --> 00:03:25,919 Speaker 3: my parenting. In the news this week, Marie Condo has 68 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:28,280 Speaker 3: given up on keeping her home tidy. I just had 69 00:03:28,320 --> 00:03:31,000 Speaker 3: to share that because I think these things matter. Now 70 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 3: back to the subject of today, Kylie, I'll do better tomorrow. 71 00:03:33,760 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 3: This is a bit, like I said, where we get 72 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:36,720 Speaker 3: intentional about how we're doing, what we're doing right, what 73 00:03:36,720 --> 00:03:38,280 Speaker 3: we're doing wrong, what we want to do better tomorrow. 74 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 3: And I'm guessing that you're not going to talk about housework, 75 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:43,560 Speaker 3: although it wouldn't be great if you did. What do 76 00:03:43,640 --> 00:03:46,080 Speaker 3: you want to do better tomorrow? What's your intentional reflection 77 00:03:46,480 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 3: and recognition of the week that was. 78 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:53,960 Speaker 2: I'm letting out a massive sigh of relief. After the 79 00:03:54,000 --> 00:03:59,800 Speaker 2: beginning of the school year. It has been just such 80 00:03:59,840 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 2: a joy to see the kids at school. I shouldn't 81 00:04:04,400 --> 00:04:06,640 Speaker 2: say that, but yes, it has been such a joy 82 00:04:06,720 --> 00:04:08,400 Speaker 2: to see the kids go off to school. 83 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:10,120 Speaker 3: Can I tell you what I haven't enjoyed though? I 84 00:04:10,160 --> 00:04:12,240 Speaker 3: know that you're halfway through something, but we've got these 85 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:14,280 Speaker 3: two big kids that are at home now because they've 86 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:17,039 Speaker 3: finished school and they're not working in the daytime, and 87 00:04:17,080 --> 00:04:18,680 Speaker 3: it's drove me up the wall. Every time I turn around, 88 00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:19,640 Speaker 3: it's like, oh, you're still here. 89 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:22,160 Speaker 2: UNI will start soon enough. 90 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:23,840 Speaker 3: And we've got a daughter who's about to leave which 91 00:04:23,880 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 3: is great. 92 00:04:24,960 --> 00:04:29,560 Speaker 2: But what I'm more excited about is looking back on 93 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:33,680 Speaker 2: last year, and while there were so many positive changes 94 00:04:33,720 --> 00:04:36,320 Speaker 2: that took place in our lives, there was still so 95 00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:39,200 Speaker 2: much upheaval and change for our family and for our 96 00:04:39,279 --> 00:04:40,360 Speaker 2: children specifically. 97 00:04:40,560 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 3: Yes, yes, And. 98 00:04:41,839 --> 00:04:44,359 Speaker 2: While so much of it, like I said, was good, 99 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:47,400 Speaker 2: it was hard. It was a hard year for them. 100 00:04:47,839 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 2: And to see them go into the school playground this 101 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:55,440 Speaker 2: year with an added level of confidence, knowing what to 102 00:04:55,560 --> 00:04:59,120 Speaker 2: expect and knowing who their friends are and where it 103 00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:04,440 Speaker 2: whe's the safe space for them was just so heartening. 104 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:10,240 Speaker 2: And to have had a year of unbelievable school refusal 105 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:14,120 Speaker 2: and on day two to have miss A come home 106 00:05:14,200 --> 00:05:16,280 Speaker 2: and literally say to me she jumped in the car. 107 00:05:16,640 --> 00:05:18,360 Speaker 3: I love school. 108 00:05:19,279 --> 00:05:20,880 Speaker 2: I was like, where is my child? 109 00:05:21,160 --> 00:05:21,520 Speaker 3: Yeah? 110 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:23,920 Speaker 2: Where is my child? Because this is not the child 111 00:05:24,279 --> 00:05:27,360 Speaker 2: that I had dealt with for nearly twelve months last year. 112 00:05:27,440 --> 00:05:31,120 Speaker 2: It was really really hard. And I recognize we're in 113 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:33,880 Speaker 2: the honeymoon phase of the year and that it could 114 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:37,680 Speaker 2: all go pear shape the next day, next week, next month. 115 00:05:38,080 --> 00:05:41,160 Speaker 2: But I am going to revel in this moment where 116 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:44,120 Speaker 2: I have a child who feels so safe and secure 117 00:05:44,240 --> 00:05:47,200 Speaker 2: in her space that she's excited to go to school. 118 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:50,279 Speaker 3: It's probably worth highlighting for those who are listening for 119 00:05:50,279 --> 00:05:52,839 Speaker 3: the first time or who are recentably new. Before we 120 00:05:52,880 --> 00:05:54,800 Speaker 3: moved to the coast and we've been here for about 121 00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:58,039 Speaker 3: a year now, we were in Brisbane for five years 122 00:05:58,040 --> 00:06:00,200 Speaker 3: and the kids had four schools in that five years. 123 00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:04,680 Speaker 3: We just couldn't quite get the formula right and there 124 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:06,840 Speaker 3: was a lot of our people. So moving here that 125 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:09,680 Speaker 3: sort of continued and this idea that you've mentioned that 126 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:12,920 Speaker 3: the kids are finally settling into the stability of the consistency, 127 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:14,880 Speaker 3: the routine, they know where they should be, they know 128 00:06:14,920 --> 00:06:18,080 Speaker 3: what's going on. And the school refusal across the board. 129 00:06:18,080 --> 00:06:19,680 Speaker 3: I mean, we had three kids who hated school. We 130 00:06:19,960 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 3: ended up giving one of our older daughters every Friday 131 00:06:23,320 --> 00:06:25,440 Speaker 3: off just as a mental health day every week so 132 00:06:25,480 --> 00:06:27,559 Speaker 3: that she could get through the end of term four. 133 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:31,920 Speaker 3: It really has been a big shift, been a beautiful, 134 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:33,200 Speaker 3: really helpful. 135 00:06:32,880 --> 00:06:36,280 Speaker 2: Shift well, and I think it's just a wonderful reminder 136 00:06:36,800 --> 00:06:41,720 Speaker 2: that when change takes place, it takes time, and so 137 00:06:41,800 --> 00:06:44,920 Speaker 2: often we want that instant fix, we want that instant 138 00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:48,520 Speaker 2: positive shift that we're looking for or craving for or whatever. 139 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:52,679 Speaker 2: But the reality is all of those changes. It takes 140 00:06:52,720 --> 00:06:57,400 Speaker 2: time for it to become an automatic safe space, and 141 00:06:58,160 --> 00:07:02,000 Speaker 2: we're seeing the fruits of being a year of stability 142 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:07,520 Speaker 2: and calm and a recognition and knowledge of where we're headed. 143 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:10,360 Speaker 3: Probably worth mentioning at this point as well, many families 144 00:07:10,360 --> 00:07:12,400 Speaker 3: will still be struggling with school refusal, kids that don't 145 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:14,720 Speaker 3: want to be there, even though they've been stable and 146 00:07:14,800 --> 00:07:18,320 Speaker 3: had the calm that we're now starting to experience at 147 00:07:18,360 --> 00:07:20,239 Speaker 3: the end of this month. On Monday night, the twenty 148 00:07:20,280 --> 00:07:23,400 Speaker 3: seventh of feb I'm running a webinar called how to 149 00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:25,520 Speaker 3: Help When School Sucks. So if you've got kids who 150 00:07:25,560 --> 00:07:27,680 Speaker 3: really are struggling, if you're dealing with school refusal and 151 00:07:27,760 --> 00:07:31,400 Speaker 3: challenges associated with big emotions around school, join us for 152 00:07:31,440 --> 00:07:33,760 Speaker 3: that webinar. You can get all the information on our 153 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:37,320 Speaker 3: Happy Families dot com dot au website or on our 154 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:40,120 Speaker 3: Facebook page, or if you're a Happy Family's member, it's 155 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:43,240 Speaker 3: included in your membership. All of our monthly webinars are 156 00:07:43,320 --> 00:07:45,240 Speaker 3: a part of the package when you sign up to 157 00:07:45,240 --> 00:07:47,640 Speaker 3: become a Happy Family's member. So how to Help When 158 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:50,760 Speaker 3: School Sucks is coming up on Monday, the twenty seventh 159 00:07:50,760 --> 00:07:53,440 Speaker 3: of feb and it might be worth checking out so 160 00:07:53,480 --> 00:07:55,520 Speaker 3: you're older better tomorrow. To take her message around this 161 00:07:55,680 --> 00:07:56,400 Speaker 3: really is. 162 00:07:56,880 --> 00:07:59,560 Speaker 2: I think it really is just a recognition that it 163 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:06,080 Speaker 2: takes time and if we can just appreciate that we're 164 00:08:06,120 --> 00:08:08,160 Speaker 2: not always going to be in the hard space that 165 00:08:08,200 --> 00:08:13,680 Speaker 2: we find ourselves in and accept it for what it is, 166 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:18,560 Speaker 2: that with time and patience and care, we actually can 167 00:08:18,600 --> 00:08:22,920 Speaker 2: move through and you start to reach the peak of 168 00:08:23,000 --> 00:08:26,280 Speaker 2: life again. And right now, Miss M's in a peak 169 00:08:26,320 --> 00:08:31,720 Speaker 2: and I'm loving every minute of it. 170 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:33,800 Speaker 3: It's a happy Family's podcast, the podcast of the time, 171 00:08:33,800 --> 00:08:36,360 Speaker 3: poor parent who just wants answers now today, I'll do 172 00:08:36,440 --> 00:08:39,840 Speaker 3: better tomorrow. And my reflection this week, Kylie is I 173 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 3: pause and talk about what's going on. I want to 174 00:08:42,600 --> 00:08:45,720 Speaker 3: celebrate a really big success and I have been talking 175 00:08:45,720 --> 00:08:47,640 Speaker 3: about this a fair bit over the last little while 176 00:08:47,640 --> 00:08:50,120 Speaker 3: on the podcast, but I'm so dard excited about it 177 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:53,400 Speaker 3: that i want to talk about it again. At the 178 00:08:53,480 --> 00:08:56,960 Speaker 3: start of the summer holidays, I made a decision after 179 00:08:57,000 --> 00:08:59,960 Speaker 3: talking with you and the kids. They We've got to 180 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:01,840 Speaker 3: kids who have made up their mind that they really 181 00:09:01,840 --> 00:09:04,600 Speaker 3: do want to do something about their health, their fitness, 182 00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:07,400 Speaker 3: their well being and they decided that running was how 183 00:09:07,440 --> 00:09:09,560 Speaker 3: they wanted to do that. We live a k from 184 00:09:09,600 --> 00:09:11,240 Speaker 3: the beach, and they want to be able to run 185 00:09:11,280 --> 00:09:12,640 Speaker 3: to the beach and run home. They want to be 186 00:09:12,679 --> 00:09:14,400 Speaker 3: able to do well in cross country. They just want 187 00:09:14,400 --> 00:09:15,960 Speaker 3: to be able to feel good in their bodies and 188 00:09:16,000 --> 00:09:18,960 Speaker 3: get their bodies really moving. And our fifteen year old 189 00:09:19,040 --> 00:09:20,800 Speaker 3: daughter has decided she wants to be able to run 190 00:09:20,800 --> 00:09:23,120 Speaker 3: a half marathon by the end of the year, but 191 00:09:23,200 --> 00:09:24,920 Speaker 3: she wanted to be able to run five k's by 192 00:09:24,920 --> 00:09:28,280 Speaker 3: the end of the school holidays. And our greade eight daughter, 193 00:09:28,360 --> 00:09:29,559 Speaker 3: she just wants to be able to run the three 194 00:09:29,640 --> 00:09:31,440 Speaker 3: k's so that she can actually compete in the cross 195 00:09:31,440 --> 00:09:34,280 Speaker 3: country that's coming up soon. So I've been working really, 196 00:09:34,360 --> 00:09:37,240 Speaker 3: really hard with them. I pulled up the stats from 197 00:09:37,480 --> 00:09:40,719 Speaker 3: their first run with me Kylie, and we did a 198 00:09:40,760 --> 00:09:43,760 Speaker 3: little over four k's. The first kilometer was ten minutes, 199 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:47,040 Speaker 3: and then the next three We're all around about eight 200 00:09:47,120 --> 00:09:50,040 Speaker 3: to eight and a half minutes. I mean, this was 201 00:09:50,400 --> 00:09:54,400 Speaker 3: slow and hard and painful a and there was so 202 00:09:54,480 --> 00:09:56,720 Speaker 3: much changing. Well, so bear in mind if I go 203 00:09:56,760 --> 00:09:58,240 Speaker 3: for a run, I run around about a four minute 204 00:09:58,280 --> 00:10:01,360 Speaker 3: fifteen k. If I'm running at four fifteen, and they're 205 00:10:01,400 --> 00:10:04,880 Speaker 3: running at eight and a half minutes. They're literally half 206 00:10:04,960 --> 00:10:07,040 Speaker 3: the pace that I'm running at, which means that I'm walking. 207 00:10:07,160 --> 00:10:10,920 Speaker 3: I mean, it's painful, but I've persisted with them and 208 00:10:10,920 --> 00:10:13,240 Speaker 3: they've run at least three times every week since then, 209 00:10:13,280 --> 00:10:14,640 Speaker 3: and I told them by the end of the holidays 210 00:10:14,640 --> 00:10:17,720 Speaker 3: they'd be able to run five k's. Well, this week, 211 00:10:18,080 --> 00:10:20,720 Speaker 3: our fifteen year old daughter went for a run with 212 00:10:20,760 --> 00:10:24,520 Speaker 3: me earlier this week and she ran four point eight k's. 213 00:10:24,720 --> 00:10:26,920 Speaker 3: She ran the whole way, maybe a two hundred meter 214 00:10:26,960 --> 00:10:28,960 Speaker 3: walk in the middle while she caught a breath and 215 00:10:29,040 --> 00:10:31,240 Speaker 3: just sort of recovered a little bit, but she ran 216 00:10:31,280 --> 00:10:34,640 Speaker 3: four point eight k's and she did it around about 217 00:10:34,640 --> 00:10:36,960 Speaker 3: seven minutes a k a little under seven minutes for 218 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:39,560 Speaker 3: most of them, somewhere around that six fifty range. And 219 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:41,840 Speaker 3: I'm looking at this kid, and I'm going, you have 220 00:10:41,960 --> 00:10:44,160 Speaker 3: gone from being unable to run to the end of 221 00:10:44,200 --> 00:10:47,320 Speaker 3: the street. I mean literally, and the run. If you 222 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:50,080 Speaker 3: were to see this kid running, it was not running. 223 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:53,080 Speaker 3: It wasn't even jogging it it was shuffling. And she 224 00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:56,480 Speaker 3: has gone from literally not being able to run to 225 00:10:56,800 --> 00:10:59,400 Speaker 3: running four point eight k's at an average of seven 226 00:10:59,400 --> 00:11:02,720 Speaker 3: minutes a k. She ran the five ks in in 227 00:11:02,760 --> 00:11:05,280 Speaker 3: thirty five minutes, and I'm just flipping out. I'm going 228 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:09,080 Speaker 3: this is unbelievably good. Her little sister, the twelve year old, 229 00:11:09,120 --> 00:11:10,839 Speaker 3: she's doing great as well, and she's actually running a 230 00:11:10,840 --> 00:11:13,000 Speaker 3: little bit faster, but she doesn't quite have the same stamina. 231 00:11:13,040 --> 00:11:16,040 Speaker 3: She's not quite getting the distance. And the most exciting 232 00:11:16,040 --> 00:11:17,480 Speaker 3: thing is these two kids sat down with me on 233 00:11:17,520 --> 00:11:20,000 Speaker 3: the weekend and you were there and you're you're committed, 234 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:22,199 Speaker 3: but not committed. But I'm going to say that you're committed. 235 00:11:23,400 --> 00:11:25,520 Speaker 3: Our fifteen year olds decided she's going to run the 236 00:11:25,600 --> 00:11:28,240 Speaker 3: Nooser ten k, and the twelve year old says, she's 237 00:11:28,240 --> 00:11:30,120 Speaker 3: going to run the noose of five k, and you're 238 00:11:30,160 --> 00:11:31,280 Speaker 3: going to run the Noosa. 239 00:11:31,720 --> 00:11:32,840 Speaker 2: I might be this poor crew. 240 00:11:33,600 --> 00:11:35,240 Speaker 3: You're going to run the noose of five or ten k, 241 00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:37,920 Speaker 3: we're not sure yet, And I'm going to run whichever 242 00:11:37,920 --> 00:11:39,600 Speaker 3: one you're not running, so that each of us can 243 00:11:39,640 --> 00:11:42,080 Speaker 3: run with one of the kids. And I'm just so 244 00:11:42,240 --> 00:11:46,240 Speaker 3: excited to see them develop a level of competence that 245 00:11:46,960 --> 00:11:49,160 Speaker 3: four or five, six weeks ago they did not have. 246 00:11:49,520 --> 00:11:52,360 Speaker 2: And they also didn't believe they could do. 247 00:11:52,520 --> 00:11:54,079 Speaker 3: And yeah, and that leads on to the next thing. 248 00:11:54,400 --> 00:11:56,400 Speaker 3: Now we're starting to talk about, well, how do we 249 00:11:56,440 --> 00:11:59,199 Speaker 3: get you to run that same five k's at six 250 00:11:59,240 --> 00:12:01,480 Speaker 3: minutes a k and how do we stretch it from 251 00:12:01,559 --> 00:12:04,320 Speaker 3: five k's to seven k's to ten k's. We've got 252 00:12:04,400 --> 00:12:07,640 Speaker 3: until May for this daughter who's just run five k's 253 00:12:08,080 --> 00:12:10,680 Speaker 3: to push it out to ten. I mean, ten k's 254 00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:13,280 Speaker 3: is a long run, and she also she wants to 255 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:14,439 Speaker 3: bring it down and she wants to be able to 256 00:12:14,480 --> 00:12:16,600 Speaker 3: do the ten k's in under an hour. So this 257 00:12:16,640 --> 00:12:20,040 Speaker 3: is for me. I'm just loving seeing the change. I'm 258 00:12:20,080 --> 00:12:22,400 Speaker 3: loving seeing the shift, and what I'm loving seeing most 259 00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:25,439 Speaker 3: of all is these kids saying I can't, I can't, 260 00:12:25,679 --> 00:12:28,560 Speaker 3: I can't, and I keep teaching them can't means don't 261 00:12:28,559 --> 00:12:31,880 Speaker 3: want to, and I keep teaching them that pain is temporary, 262 00:12:32,200 --> 00:12:34,400 Speaker 3: and having all of these little motivational talks with them 263 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:36,840 Speaker 3: as they're running and they're crying and I do it 264 00:12:36,880 --> 00:12:39,400 Speaker 3: like it, but they are doing it, they're doing it, 265 00:12:39,679 --> 00:12:41,560 Speaker 3: and I just I love this thing. We can do 266 00:12:41,640 --> 00:12:44,680 Speaker 3: hard things. I'm so excited for it. So that's my 267 00:12:44,679 --> 00:12:47,400 Speaker 3: old bed it tomorrow. I don't feel bad that I 268 00:12:47,440 --> 00:12:49,679 Speaker 3: haven't ridden my bike for six weeks. I don't feel 269 00:12:49,679 --> 00:12:51,800 Speaker 3: bad that I spend all that money on that bike 270 00:12:52,240 --> 00:12:53,599 Speaker 3: a year ago, a year and a half ago, and 271 00:12:53,640 --> 00:12:55,400 Speaker 3: I haven't ridden it for a long time, and who 272 00:12:55,400 --> 00:12:58,160 Speaker 3: knows when I'll ride it again. I miss bike riding 273 00:12:58,200 --> 00:13:02,320 Speaker 3: a little bit, but I'm getting instead of bike riding 274 00:13:02,880 --> 00:13:05,559 Speaker 3: is so much more valuable. It's like Marie condo. It's 275 00:13:05,600 --> 00:13:07,679 Speaker 3: nice to have a tidy house, but it's much nicer 276 00:13:07,679 --> 00:13:09,640 Speaker 3: to have the time with the kids. For me, it's 277 00:13:09,720 --> 00:13:11,199 Speaker 3: nice to be able to go for a big bike ride, 278 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:14,120 Speaker 3: but it's much nicer to see the kids running three, four, 279 00:13:14,280 --> 00:13:18,160 Speaker 3: five and hopefully soon ten k's dorm and we've gone 280 00:13:18,160 --> 00:13:19,839 Speaker 3: full circle on the podcast. How do you like that? 281 00:13:22,520 --> 00:13:24,720 Speaker 3: So I'll do better tomorrow. We really hope that this 282 00:13:24,800 --> 00:13:27,400 Speaker 3: has been a little bit of inspo for you in 283 00:13:27,480 --> 00:13:29,360 Speaker 3: the way that you interact with your family across the 284 00:13:29,360 --> 00:13:31,840 Speaker 3: weekend and next week. Thanks so much for listening to 285 00:13:31,880 --> 00:13:34,319 Speaker 3: the Happy Families podcast. We appreciate that you choose to 286 00:13:34,320 --> 00:13:36,040 Speaker 3: spend your time with us. 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