WEBVTT - #65 Lava Monster Ruins Playtime Forever 0:00:05.200 --> 0:00:07.720 All right, I think my cat is broken. Your cat 0:00:07.760 --> 0:00:10.880 has broken. It's only new though, Yeah, take it back. 0:00:12.000 --> 0:00:13.520 You got a receipt. Do you get a receipt when 0:00:13.560 --> 0:00:17.280 you buy a cat? I think you have like an 0:00:17.360 --> 0:00:22.439 electronic type recording of the fact that we own it. 0:00:22.440 --> 0:00:24.840 It may have a chip, not sure. But the way 0:00:24.840 --> 0:00:28.560 it's broken is that what flavor Jesus Christ. The way 0:00:28.560 --> 0:00:30.760 that it's broken is used to keep jumping up on 0:00:31.040 --> 0:00:34.040 the tabletop. And I have a little sprayer that Laura 0:00:34.040 --> 0:00:35.960 would use for the plants and I would use it 0:00:35.960 --> 0:00:38.560 on the cat to get it down. And then now 0:00:38.920 --> 0:00:41.400 I sprayed it and it just sat there laughs, and 0:00:41.440 --> 0:00:43.159 I expected it again. It stared at me. It's like, 0:00:43.280 --> 0:00:46.360 do it again, and I was eight times. The cat 0:00:46.440 --> 0:01:05.840 was drenched. Welcome back to two Noting dads. I am 0:01:05.840 --> 0:01:09.120 Mattie Jay. This is a podcast all about parenting. It 0:01:09.160 --> 0:01:12.080 is the good, it is the bad. And if you 0:01:12.080 --> 0:01:15.480 have come winning any type of advice, steer clear my child, 0:01:15.600 --> 0:01:18.399 not us, not today, not today, not ever. 0:01:18.880 --> 0:01:22.200 I insisted today that we drink my favorite drop for 0:01:22.240 --> 0:01:22.840 a change. 0:01:23.000 --> 0:01:24.200 I'm not upset about this at all. 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:26.080 That yeah, because we don't we often quite go with 0:01:26.120 --> 0:01:28.840 the Pacific Our, which is delightful. But I'm a big 0:01:28.840 --> 0:01:31.120 fan of that, but I'm a bigger fan of this. 0:01:31.319 --> 0:01:35.760 It's the cloudy pale owl from stone Wood. 0:01:35.840 --> 0:01:39.800 They call it a modern Paleol's so modern about it? 0:01:40.000 --> 0:01:42.520 I don't know, but they say it's it's tropical. It's 0:01:42.520 --> 0:01:46.160 got fruit, a roamas, a smooth mouth feel, and low bitterness. 0:01:46.480 --> 0:01:50.160 Laura actually prefers this one of all the stone Wood drinks. 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:51.240 It's a favorite. 0:01:51.280 --> 0:01:59.240 You go, Let's go chicks always for making this episode possible. 0:02:00.040 --> 0:02:03.720 Oh that's good. It's very delicious. Yeah, dude, I was 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:05.600 drinking this on the weekend and Laura was like, do 0:02:05.600 --> 0:02:08.520 you know what I feel like a beer? I was like, hey, 0:02:08.520 --> 0:02:12.320 I'll get your beer, don't touch more one. But it 0:02:12.360 --> 0:02:15.440 was normally she likes the wine, but she was like, 0:02:15.480 --> 0:02:18.680 this is really good. I'm like, yeah, I've been saying 0:02:18.680 --> 0:02:24.160 that for the last six Maybe they should. A weird 0:02:24.160 --> 0:02:24.880 thing happened to me. 0:02:25.160 --> 0:02:27.480 That's exactly how I want you to start every sentence 0:02:27.480 --> 0:02:28.200 when you talk to me. 0:02:28.800 --> 0:02:30.520 You know what I am here for. I like to 0:02:30.520 --> 0:02:35.600 be a good Samaritan. Allegedly, yes, I like to help people, allegedly. Yes. 0:02:35.840 --> 0:02:44.000 It feels good. Allegedly, I enjoy it. Allegedly I was anything. 0:02:46.520 --> 0:02:48.680 I was driving in North Sydney. I was at the 0:02:48.760 --> 0:02:51.800 lights and a car drove in front of me and 0:02:51.840 --> 0:02:55.760 I thought to myself, that doesn't look right. Car driving 0:02:55.760 --> 0:02:59.119 on the road. Let me explain. It was an elderly man. 0:02:59.680 --> 0:03:03.519 It was a blue Mercedes full drive. Everything seems normal. 0:03:04.040 --> 0:03:08.360 So far, so far normal, except in the side mirror 0:03:08.440 --> 0:03:12.560 of the driver's side there was a walking stick hanging 0:03:12.600 --> 0:03:18.000 on the side mirror. And he drove past quite slowly 0:03:18.440 --> 0:03:20.360 and he must have just caught the end of like 0:03:20.440 --> 0:03:22.360 an amber light, so he went in front of me. 0:03:22.919 --> 0:03:26.640 My light turned green. All of a sudden, I'm behind him. 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:29.040 I drove up. It was a couple of lanes of traffic, 0:03:29.080 --> 0:03:30.720 so I drove up next to him because he's in 0:03:30.760 --> 0:03:33.960 the middle, and I was like, I'm gonna I'm going 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:36.480 to help this guy out. You know, sometimes you see 0:03:36.480 --> 0:03:38.080 someone with like they've left something on the top of 0:03:38.080 --> 0:03:41.160 the car, and you see videos of you know, someone's 0:03:41.200 --> 0:03:43.000 left their phone on the car and they're like, oh, 0:03:43.040 --> 0:03:46.880 you know, they have no idea. And then I realized, 0:03:47.800 --> 0:03:52.280 like it's hard to explain to someone what's happening. And 0:03:52.360 --> 0:03:55.320 it's hard to explain, like I'm beating my horn and 0:03:55.360 --> 0:03:56.960 I pull up next to him, and he thought that 0:03:57.040 --> 0:03:59.200 I was like having aggressive I'd go at him for 0:03:59.240 --> 0:04:02.520 like going through the amber light. I'm trying to I'm 0:04:02.520 --> 0:04:07.960 pointing to out going the walking stick, the walking stick, 0:04:08.000 --> 0:04:12.320 and he's like, what you call me? He was like 0:04:12.480 --> 0:04:15.120 fuck you? Oh? Really? Yeah? He thought I was having 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:17.320 a go, And so did you get out and help 0:04:17.360 --> 0:04:20.200 him out? Or that was it? So I thought to myself, Ash, 0:04:20.240 --> 0:04:24.039 what do I do here? What do I do? That's 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:26.560 what I thought, And I said that's not that's not 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:30.599 the helpful way. I said, This opportunity to help someone 0:04:30.600 --> 0:04:37.000 else is getting away from me. Didn't So I thought 0:04:37.040 --> 0:04:41.120 I'll give it one last crack next red light. Yeah, 0:04:41.760 --> 0:04:46.240 I'm behind him now, And so I thought, this is 0:04:46.279 --> 0:04:48.040 a lot, this is a lot. I'm going to hop 0:04:48.080 --> 0:04:55.920 out of my car. Did I see you in the news. 0:04:56.720 --> 0:04:59.680 So I hop out of my car, put the handbrake 0:04:59.760 --> 0:05:05.560 on when I come out and it's knock on his 0:05:06.240 --> 0:05:11.120 I knock on his window. Yeah, So, like, was he shocked? 0:05:11.320 --> 0:05:13.760 Was he spooked? He did not. He didn't want anything 0:05:13.760 --> 0:05:16.720 to do with it. He thought I was he I 0:05:16.760 --> 0:05:20.440 was saying, you've got because he was really old. Yeah, 0:05:20.600 --> 0:05:25.280 so he must have been hard of hearing. He was 0:05:25.320 --> 0:05:29.800 petrified and he didn't what he was like, did the 0:05:29.839 --> 0:05:33.000 stair through? Yeah, And I was saying, you're walking stick, 0:05:33.680 --> 0:05:35.520 you've got your walking stick, and I was I was 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:37.599 going to grab it, and I was like, so you 0:05:37.720 --> 0:05:41.920 just left it? Yeah? Yeah, because I also I was 0:05:42.000 --> 0:05:49.360 I was this confrontation. You're very confrontational. You've probably had 0:05:49.400 --> 0:05:53.520 this face on you. You're like, must help, must help 0:05:53.600 --> 0:05:59.240 this man, beads of sweat coming down. I am the 0:05:59.360 --> 0:06:01.839 least threat looking person that you'll ever come across. 0:06:01.960 --> 0:06:04.080 You can keep telling yourself that, but by the sounds 0:06:04.120 --> 0:06:07.039 of things, you really gave that old man a fright. 0:06:07.120 --> 0:06:09.440 I wouldn't be surprised if he's still with it. I was. 0:06:10.240 --> 0:06:13.680 I was prepared to stop at no length to help 0:06:13.760 --> 0:06:17.000 this poor old man. He didn't clearly didn't want your hell. 0:06:17.200 --> 0:06:21.240 Heine, you're telling this story of heroic. He's probably got 0:06:21.240 --> 0:06:23.560 his family side of bed at the hospital because he's 0:06:23.560 --> 0:06:26.880 in shock telling this story of how he was ambushed. 0:06:26.920 --> 0:06:32.000 Blay a young man. He was crazed. I say, do 0:06:32.040 --> 0:06:32.640 you know what I. 0:06:32.680 --> 0:06:36.600 Really what I was really upset about he wouldn't let 0:06:36.600 --> 0:06:38.760 you help him. He I just I wanted to have 0:06:38.839 --> 0:06:42.920 that moment of like thank you, thank you, and I 0:06:42.920 --> 0:06:45.880 didn't get it. It was like I had like blue balls. 0:06:46.520 --> 0:06:47.480 You got to close the loop. 0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:50.680 They say, traumatized him for the rest of what would 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:52.040 I would say, his short life. 0:06:52.200 --> 0:06:56.600 I kept beeping him across the bridge. You're fucking walking. 0:06:57.200 --> 0:06:58.359 It's like, what do you call me? 0:06:58.680 --> 0:07:00.720 Anyway, April was a sort of per when she sees 0:07:00.760 --> 0:07:02.520 an old person, like at a bus stop, she cries 0:07:03.760 --> 0:07:05.280 and I'm like, why. 0:07:05.040 --> 0:07:07.440 These poor people are so confused? I know, why are 0:07:07.440 --> 0:07:09.480 you crying? It's just like it's so sad. What's sad 0:07:09.480 --> 0:07:13.400 about it? They were catching a bush? Very good man. 0:07:13.440 --> 0:07:14.840 I wanted to ask you a question. 0:07:15.000 --> 0:07:18.320 April went to a park with both kids the other 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:21.520 day and there was someone in the park that was 0:07:21.560 --> 0:07:26.800 actually just this weird guy in the park, and April. 0:07:26.600 --> 0:07:29.080 Was like, what was weird about him? He was alone 0:07:29.160 --> 0:07:32.680 in the kids park, a man. I don't know if 0:07:32.680 --> 0:07:32.880 he was. 0:07:33.040 --> 0:07:36.240 I wasn't there, but the story I got was they 0:07:36.320 --> 0:07:39.680 walked into the park. I didn't really think anything of it, 0:07:39.760 --> 0:07:43.280 and then realized that this guy's not with not with 0:07:43.440 --> 0:07:46.600 any kids, and April was referring to him as the 0:07:46.640 --> 0:07:49.600 weirdo in the park. April was like to Oscar A Mazy, 0:07:49.640 --> 0:07:51.360 He's like, oh, we better go. There's like a weirdo 0:07:51.400 --> 0:07:53.400 in the park. Weirdo in the park. It's not really 0:07:53.440 --> 0:07:56.040 going to help anybody. But the kids were like, weirdo, 0:07:56.160 --> 0:07:56.600 who's the. 0:07:56.520 --> 0:07:58.040 Weird stranger danger? Is that? 0:07:58.080 --> 0:07:59.600 Well, That's what I'm trying to get at. Both of 0:07:59.600 --> 0:08:02.720 our kids now are a sort of five ish, just 0:08:02.760 --> 0:08:03.400 about hit. 0:08:03.320 --> 0:08:05.880 Five and three for Lola, and. 0:08:05.800 --> 0:08:08.080 They're sort of at the age where they could walk 0:08:08.120 --> 0:08:10.920 away from you, whether at the park or the shops. 0:08:11.720 --> 0:08:14.720 But I wanted to ask about when do you teach 0:08:14.720 --> 0:08:19.280 stranger danger. It's really hard, isn't it. It's hard because 0:08:19.280 --> 0:08:22.480 there's mixed messaging. YEP. On the one hand, you're like, hey, 0:08:22.560 --> 0:08:25.920 don't talk to any strangers, But on the other hand, 0:08:26.360 --> 0:08:28.960 we're constantly coming in contact with all sorts of people 0:08:29.040 --> 0:08:31.160 who Marley and Lawla are meeting for the first time, 0:08:31.200 --> 0:08:35.280 and we're like, hey, look, yeah to them, they are strangers. Yeah, 0:08:35.520 --> 0:08:37.319 it's a bit of a weird one. And so we 0:08:37.320 --> 0:08:40.240 also have had a situation where it was an elderly 0:08:40.320 --> 0:08:43.480 lady once at the beach and we're on a park 0:08:43.520 --> 0:08:47.760 bench getting sunscreen on the kids, and she was just like, oh, 0:08:47.800 --> 0:08:49.480 you've got really cute kids, and we were like, thank 0:08:49.520 --> 0:08:53.520 you very much, and she was like, on Lola's who 0:08:53.559 --> 0:08:55.199 you know was Lola. She went to Lola and was like, oh, 0:08:55.240 --> 0:08:58.280 she is like just so gorgeous, and we're like, thank you, 0:08:59.120 --> 0:09:01.920 and then she picked her up. What. I didn't go anywhere, 0:09:02.000 --> 0:09:04.480 but she just like, I don't know, it just happened. 0:09:04.559 --> 0:09:06.360 It was almost in slow motion, and I was like, 0:09:06.640 --> 0:09:07.760 don't pick my kid up. 0:09:07.920 --> 0:09:10.520 Yeah. I was kind of had like an accomplished next 0:09:10.520 --> 0:09:17.160 we're going run. 0:09:13.800 --> 0:09:16.440 And then she kind of Lola. You know, Lola hates 0:09:16.440 --> 0:09:19.040 everyone who's not Laura. So Lola was like, we didn't 0:09:19.040 --> 0:09:22.520 have to teach her about stranger Dan just embedded in her. Yeah, 0:09:22.559 --> 0:09:24.200 and so then she put it down and then I 0:09:24.240 --> 0:09:28.760 was like, that was weird. Laura was like, yeah, like 0:09:28.880 --> 0:09:31.440 it happened really quickly in the same time. You didn't 0:09:31.440 --> 0:09:35.560 really give us a chance to say anything, but we yeah, 0:09:35.600 --> 0:09:39.360 we're kind of trying to tell mar we're doing a 0:09:39.400 --> 0:09:41.560 bad job at the moment. 0:09:41.640 --> 0:09:44.400 It's really like you said it's like there's a lot 0:09:44.440 --> 0:09:46.640 of mixed messaging. But April took it upon herself to 0:09:46.640 --> 0:09:48.520 be like, Okay, well, I can't be telling my kids 0:09:48.559 --> 0:09:50.480 there's a weirdo in the park because then they'll start 0:09:50.520 --> 0:09:52.680 calling people weirdos in the park, and. 0:09:52.600 --> 0:09:55.000 That's just that's weird in itself. 0:09:55.400 --> 0:09:58.280 So she was like, okay, I took the opportunity to say, hey, kids, 0:09:58.520 --> 0:10:01.440 the thing called stranger dangerous. If you don't know this person, 0:10:02.080 --> 0:10:04.640 they're technically a stranger to you and there could be 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:05.240 some danger. 0:10:05.440 --> 0:10:07.199 However, she tried to do it. 0:10:07.440 --> 0:10:11.760 His Oscar telling the story about his and Macy's experience 0:10:11.840 --> 0:10:13.079 with the widow in the park. 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:19.079 We saw a stranger and we went and then we 0:10:19.120 --> 0:10:20.920 went home puk. 0:10:23.040 --> 0:10:26.720 Fleet, so Oscar says in there we were at the park, 0:10:26.800 --> 0:10:28.800 we saw a stranger, then we left and Papa gave 0:10:28.880 --> 0:10:29.360 us a treat. 0:10:30.440 --> 0:10:32.840 So that's his recount of the story. Sounds like a 0:10:32.840 --> 0:10:35.679 lovely day out. Was a lovely day out. It's almost 0:10:35.760 --> 0:10:37.599 like he's I'm looking for the strangers now because I 0:10:37.640 --> 0:10:38.640 want to get that treat from Pop. 0:10:38.720 --> 0:10:41.920 Well that too, but April took that opportunity for it 0:10:42.040 --> 0:10:44.640 to be to teach the kids strangers in the park. 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:46.960 If the strangers in the park, you avoid the strangers 0:10:47.000 --> 0:10:49.440 in the park. And then what they did was they 0:10:49.760 --> 0:10:53.559 have evolved that now to everyone in the park is 0:10:53.600 --> 0:10:56.760 a stranger. So then April's taught them the meaning strange 0:10:56.920 --> 0:11:00.160 danger and he's a recording of both of them saying. 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:08.640 It stranger danger. My god, she's adorable. I know, I know. 0:11:08.760 --> 0:11:11.920 But so that it's evolved into them just calling everyone 0:11:12.000 --> 0:11:14.760 stranger dangers now, which April was like, fuck, felt really 0:11:14.800 --> 0:11:16.679 awkward because they went to the park a week later 0:11:17.600 --> 0:11:19.960 and you know, usually what happens is you go to 0:11:19.960 --> 0:11:21.720 the park with your kids, and your kids run off 0:11:21.800 --> 0:11:24.120 and there's a bunch of adults standing there with no kids. 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:26.520 There's always there's always a few moments you go, where 0:11:26.600 --> 0:11:29.600 are they on the slide? But the kids are confused. 0:11:30.160 --> 0:11:33.080 So my friend, who's a social worker okay, who she takes. 0:11:32.880 --> 0:11:35.400 Care of the world being of children, Okay, she was 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:38.080 telling us about there's a new thing called. 0:11:37.960 --> 0:11:40.280 I'm actually really keen to know what the right thing is. 0:11:40.320 --> 0:11:42.679 I'm all about education today. Yes, I love it. 0:11:42.679 --> 0:11:44.959 So there's a new thing called now where instead of 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:47.880 court saying strange a danger because what it would do. Yes, 0:11:47.920 --> 0:11:49.840 it rhymes and which is not great either. 0:11:50.800 --> 0:11:51.160 Rolls off. 0:11:51.200 --> 0:11:54.280 They're like strange danger, strange danger. 0:11:54.400 --> 0:11:58.080 That reminds me of kindergarten cop. Remember that scene they're 0:11:58.120 --> 0:12:02.240 like stranger danger when the dad comes back into the school. 0:12:02.280 --> 0:12:05.240 Do you remember that that? Okay? If anyone out there 0:12:05.240 --> 0:12:09.320 who does know, I'm right, aren't the guys? Yeah? 0:12:09.480 --> 0:12:17.320 So our friend, the social worker said, it's actually different 0:12:17.360 --> 0:12:21.120 now because the stranger danger implies you're at more risk 0:12:21.200 --> 0:12:24.240 when with strangers, when you're actually at more risk with 0:12:24.400 --> 0:12:26.120 people more familiar to you. 0:12:27.360 --> 0:12:32.359 Do you know what? This is big? This is big. Continue, 0:12:32.520 --> 0:12:33.600 this is big right. 0:12:33.760 --> 0:12:35.959 The new thing that they try and focus on is 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:37.400 what they call tricky people. 0:12:38.040 --> 0:12:40.480 So it's a tricky people theory. Okay. 0:12:41.000 --> 0:12:45.920 It focuses on teaching kids about consent, body autonomy, safe people, 0:12:46.080 --> 0:12:48.080 and recognizing warning signs. 0:12:48.640 --> 0:12:49.040 Okay. 0:12:49.120 --> 0:12:53.040 So using the language of tricky people replaces the outdated 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:56.920 notion of stranger danger with a more empowering approach and 0:12:57.000 --> 0:13:02.480 carrying children to trust, trust their instincts. So this being said, okay, 0:13:02.600 --> 0:13:06.360 because what's more common, according to this social where is 0:13:06.720 --> 0:13:09.000 someone who is to take advantage of your child? Is 0:13:09.040 --> 0:13:11.720 someone most close to them, being a family member or 0:13:11.760 --> 0:13:17.079 a friend. So April said to Oscar, do you know 0:13:17.200 --> 0:13:20.520 any tricky people and explain tricky people that have been 0:13:20.920 --> 0:13:24.960 have made you feel uncomfortable, have not made you feel comfortable, 0:13:25.640 --> 0:13:28.240 or you might feel a little bit scared, but majority 0:13:28.280 --> 0:13:31.559 of the time make you feel uncomfortable. And guess who, 0:13:31.559 --> 0:13:32.600 Oscar pointed out. 0:13:34.200 --> 0:13:34.640 April. 0:13:38.720 --> 0:13:44.920 She just like she was like, whoa, And let's just 0:13:45.040 --> 0:13:47.200 before everyone just go to rushing at my wife here. 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:50.040 Oscar was confused. 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:54.440 Okay, but the difference between comfortable and uncomfortable. So what 0:13:54.520 --> 0:13:57.199 I would say before you start to ask those sort 0:13:57.240 --> 0:14:00.560 of questions before year old, you make them aware of 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:03.679 what the word's comfortable and uncomfortable. 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:07.319 It's a bit like Lola says she wants to window 0:14:07.480 --> 0:14:10.480 down when she actually means she wants the window up. Yeah, 0:14:10.600 --> 0:14:12.679 she gets the words confused. Yeah. 0:14:12.720 --> 0:14:16.720 So we eventually we are on that app Where's where's April? 0:14:17.040 --> 0:14:19.080 Currently? She's locked up? She's locked up, she's locked up. 0:14:22.880 --> 0:14:26.360 Do you know it's a freaking miracle that we turned 0:14:26.360 --> 0:14:30.160 out semi okay, given how everything that we were taught 0:14:30.160 --> 0:14:32.720 when we were youngsters is now actually they now know 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:34.720 they're like that that was the wrong thing to do. 0:14:34.640 --> 0:14:37.360 And yeah, look, once again, I don't have the right 0:14:37.400 --> 0:14:38.200 answer to anything. 0:14:38.480 --> 0:14:42.240 One thing that I learned in that same kind of vein, yeah, 0:14:42.520 --> 0:14:46.600 is you know, sometimes there's certain family members. I'm not 0:14:46.640 --> 0:14:50.120 going to name and shame them, but sometimes they will 0:14:50.160 --> 0:14:53.360 say to their own kids or to my kids, if 0:14:53.400 --> 0:14:55.680 they go up and say, someone so hit me, he goes, 0:14:55.720 --> 0:14:58.520 you don't want to be a dibber dubba, don't say that, 0:14:59.160 --> 0:15:01.960 And I can't. I I get it when it's annoying. 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:05.800 You know, when there are certain kids who just yeah, 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:07.920 they run to the parents and they go, Timmy did this. 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:10.760 I always use Timmy as my fake child name. Timmy 0:15:10.840 --> 0:15:14.960 is getting thrown. He's kidding it rinsed lately. But then 0:15:15.680 --> 0:15:19.120 I now know that that's really bad messaging to try 0:15:19.200 --> 0:15:21.440 and put onto a child, of saying that you can't 0:15:21.520 --> 0:15:25.480 come to a parent and say that something bad has happened, 0:15:25.560 --> 0:15:27.040 and they'll get in trouble. You want to try and 0:15:27.160 --> 0:15:28.560 encourage that to a certain. 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:30.880 Degree, a lot of mixed messaging, with so much mixed 0:15:30.920 --> 0:15:32.080 messaging being a parent. 0:15:32.200 --> 0:15:35.840 So my little piece of advice that is definitely not 0:15:35.920 --> 0:15:38.240 advice for anyone listening. This is just for ash and 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:39.760 if you want to use this in your own situation, 0:15:39.880 --> 0:15:42.960 sure go ahead, but I take no responsibility. It'll be 0:15:43.000 --> 0:15:46.640 a disclaimer in the show notes. Yes, it's it's called heroes. 0:15:47.000 --> 0:15:50.520 You have certain heroes that you can say anything to 0:15:50.760 --> 0:15:53.880 without getting in any type of trouble. And so the 0:15:53.920 --> 0:15:56.720 heroes a mom, dad, and there's a couple of other 0:15:56.760 --> 0:15:58.240 people in the mix, like Nana as a hero. 0:15:58.320 --> 0:16:02.320 Because there's also that thing where it's like if just say, 0:16:02.520 --> 0:16:06.200 Oscar dobs on someone and gets a result, so he'll 0:16:06.320 --> 0:16:08.600 just dob on them for something that they didn't do 0:16:08.680 --> 0:16:10.440 to try and get a result in his favor. 0:16:11.320 --> 0:16:13.640 It's it's a minefield. 0:16:14.040 --> 0:16:16.560 Try to do something that I try to do something 0:16:16.560 --> 0:16:18.320 that's wrong, but somehow it turns out to be right. 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:21.040 It's just like, where does it end. We are confirming 0:16:21.080 --> 0:16:24.400 that April is in fact, she is not a tricky person. 0:16:24.440 --> 0:16:25.680 She is not a tricky person. 0:16:25.800 --> 0:16:27.920 She is the mother of my children for those who 0:16:27.960 --> 0:16:31.720 listening for the first time. And Oscar has agreed that 0:16:31.800 --> 0:16:34.040 he was confused with the wording. 0:16:34.240 --> 0:16:36.880 Also, when she's trying to make him eat his vegetables 0:16:36.880 --> 0:16:46.080 at dinner, he's like you're a tricky person. Hey, Lola's 0:16:46.160 --> 0:16:47.440 started doing something weird. 0:16:48.600 --> 0:16:51.280 Is it a clipse, eclipse, mint weird, mint weird, or 0:16:52.640 --> 0:16:57.720 it's on part I think I'm more about that she's 0:16:58.320 --> 0:16:59.400 she's a kleptomaniac. 0:17:00.080 --> 0:17:03.520 The stages we've spotted it, Okay, give me tell me 0:17:03.640 --> 0:17:10.600 we're aware of the issue. We found out because sometimes 0:17:11.359 --> 0:17:13.560 Laura will pick up an item of clothing from kmart 0:17:14.320 --> 0:17:17.919 or or you know, online, and I'm not aware that 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:19.600 you know, I'll go to put a jumper on. There's 0:17:19.600 --> 0:17:22.080 just a new jumper in the wardrobe, and I don't 0:17:22.080 --> 0:17:24.680 think anything of it, and vice versa. Like Laura will 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:26.240 go to address the kids in the morning and she'd 0:17:26.280 --> 0:17:29.160 be like, oh, there's a new T shirt, BONDI pair shorts. 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:33.800 No big deal, I okay. But then they kept being 0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:36.480 these new items of clothing and I was like, I 0:17:36.480 --> 0:17:41.119 don't recall seeing that particular shirt. Must be Laura. And 0:17:41.160 --> 0:17:45.760 also they weren't brand new. They have already had stains 0:17:45.800 --> 0:17:50.280 on them, for example, So I was like Laura, I 0:17:50.320 --> 0:17:52.560 was like, you know, I'm doing the washing and I'm like, Hey, 0:17:52.560 --> 0:17:55.439 who's is this? Is this? Like, you know, one of 0:17:55.480 --> 0:17:57.920 your nieces or nephews. Whose shirt is this? And I'm like, 0:17:57.960 --> 0:17:59.600 I don't know, and Lola will be like, that's mine. 0:18:00.720 --> 0:18:05.520 That's why put it back, put in a wash. We 0:18:05.600 --> 0:18:09.280 had all of these new this is an extra large 0:18:12.280 --> 0:18:17.240 and what she started doing is there's a big pile 0:18:17.480 --> 0:18:23.200 of clothes in Lola's room at daycare. That's that's lost property, okay, yeah, yeah, 0:18:23.280 --> 0:18:26.600 And she would just flick through that and be like, oh, 0:18:26.640 --> 0:18:29.919 this is a nice cardigan. That's savvy. And then the 0:18:30.000 --> 0:18:33.360 teachers also would would just take her word for it, 0:18:33.920 --> 0:18:37.480 and Lola would say this is my cardigan, and they'd 0:18:37.480 --> 0:18:40.560 be like, ah, how do you question that it's been 0:18:40.560 --> 0:18:43.520 here for a few weeks. Sure, I think it's fair game. 0:18:43.800 --> 0:18:46.800 And it was a nice cardigan. It was like rainbow colors, 0:18:46.840 --> 0:18:50.040 it was. It was beautiful. I wonder it was seed 0:18:50.240 --> 0:18:54.280 brand as well. She's got good taste already. Very that's 0:18:54.280 --> 0:18:56.480 like the Mercedes of kid's clothing. 0:18:57.160 --> 0:18:58.920 And that's the sort of stuff you give people you 0:18:58.920 --> 0:18:59.920 don't buy for yourself. 0:19:00.160 --> 0:19:02.440 Yeah, and you're definitely not wearing it to daycare. 0:19:02.800 --> 0:19:03.040 No. 0:19:03.200 --> 0:19:06.280 My household. Anyways, we have all these new items, and 0:19:06.359 --> 0:19:09.680 every day Laula was just like Peck and more. She 0:19:09.880 --> 0:19:12.840 loves it more and more once you get away with it. 0:19:12.880 --> 0:19:14.400 Once you would be like the. 0:19:14.480 --> 0:19:19.200 Thrill of it, and they're like, maybe I could take 0:19:19.240 --> 0:19:20.080 two cardigans. 0:19:20.119 --> 0:19:25.280 She's also got a Gabby Dollhouse backpack. It's a massive backpack. 0:19:25.640 --> 0:19:28.160 And I didn't notice it because you obviously you put 0:19:28.160 --> 0:19:30.320 in another spare of clothes. You put in another set 0:19:30.359 --> 0:19:32.359 of spare clothes in the backpack in case I have 0:19:32.400 --> 0:19:35.600 an accident, and that backpack was full to the brim, 0:19:36.080 --> 0:19:38.600 and I just thought it was Laura putting in more clothes. 0:19:39.119 --> 0:19:42.879 She has just started loading it into a backpack. Genius. 0:19:43.000 --> 0:19:44.200 And she won't give anything. 0:19:44.280 --> 0:19:46.280 Even say that was a problem. I'd say, that's just 0:19:47.000 --> 0:19:48.200 she's just getting the head. 0:19:48.040 --> 0:19:49.959 Of live and she's getting the good stuff. 0:19:50.160 --> 0:19:53.679 Yeah, start selling it on Facebook marketplaces and making a profit. 0:19:54.119 --> 0:19:58.080 You see selling it was like get out of here, iPhone. 0:19:59.080 --> 0:20:01.199 There's a lot of warnings. It's about Lola. Have you 0:20:01.200 --> 0:20:04.440 said to her you can't? Of course, of course you 0:20:06.600 --> 0:20:13.960 better get something more for any jewelry, any watches. She yeah, 0:20:14.119 --> 0:20:17.560 we have. She has returned all of the items are 0:20:17.560 --> 0:20:20.360 clothing back to lost property, and they've had to move 0:20:20.359 --> 0:20:23.400 the lost property to another area. And they now they've 0:20:23.440 --> 0:20:26.159 they've changed procedure. They only asked the parents about the 0:20:26.200 --> 0:20:26.719 lost property. 0:20:26.800 --> 0:20:28.919 That's the smart thing to do. In the first place. 0:20:29.520 --> 0:20:32.360 You go to swimming like where we just listen. They've 0:20:32.359 --> 0:20:34.280 got a lost property table at the front. I always 0:20:34.359 --> 0:20:37.159 check it out. So people have got till people missing. 0:20:37.640 --> 0:20:39.760 You never know, you never know what're can find in there. 0:20:39.800 --> 0:20:44.840 You were, Lola, Look, it's been a busy week for me, 0:20:44.920 --> 0:20:48.600 my friend. I have one more story. This one happened 0:20:48.600 --> 0:20:52.080 on the weekend. I was in the park the part 0:20:52.160 --> 0:20:57.800 and Laura's dad was actually down from North Queens Aunt. Terry, Terry, 0:20:58.440 --> 0:21:01.720 I can't forget that, right, they're a good memory. Never 0:21:01.720 --> 0:21:06.800 call him Tether, call him Terry, you are. He is 0:21:06.840 --> 0:21:12.080 a lovely lord in the man's eyes. Don't you talk 0:21:12.119 --> 0:21:14.600 about Terry like that. He is nothing but a saint. 0:21:14.680 --> 0:21:17.280 He's a gentle giant. Okay. I don't know if he 0:21:17.400 --> 0:21:19.679 likes me. Maybe he does. He told me I was 0:21:19.720 --> 0:21:21.919 trying to impress Terry. I was trying to put on 0:21:21.960 --> 0:21:24.200 a good show, show him that I'm a hands on 0:21:24.520 --> 0:21:27.399 capable dad. You are. You don't need to show anyway, 0:21:27.400 --> 0:21:29.080 You don't need to prove that to anybody, but that 0:21:29.280 --> 0:21:32.760 sometimes you just want to flex that. Let him, let 0:21:32.800 --> 0:21:36.280