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Speaker 1: All right, I think my cat is broken. Your cat

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Speaker 1: has broken. It's only new though, Yeah, take it back.

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Speaker 1: You got a receipt. Do you get a receipt when

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Speaker 1: you buy a cat? I think you have like an

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Speaker 1: electronic type recording of the fact that we own it.

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Speaker 1: It may have a chip, not sure. But the way

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Speaker 1: it's broken is that what flavor Jesus Christ. The way

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Speaker 1: that it's broken is used to keep jumping up on

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Speaker 1: the tabletop. And I have a little sprayer that Laura

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Speaker 1: would use for the plants and I would use it

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Speaker 1: on the cat to get it down. And then now

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Speaker 1: I sprayed it and it just sat there laughs, and

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Speaker 1: I expected it again. It stared at me. It's like,

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Speaker 1: do it again, and I was eight times. The cat

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Speaker 1: was drenched. Welcome back to two Noting dads. I am

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Speaker 1: Mattie Jay. This is a podcast all about parenting. It

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Speaker 1: is the good, it is the bad. And if you

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Speaker 1: have come winning any type of advice, steer clear my child,

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Speaker 1: not us, not today, not today, not ever.

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Speaker 2: I insisted today that we drink my favorite drop for

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Speaker 2: a change.

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Speaker 1: I'm not upset about this at all.

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Speaker 2: That yeah, because we don't we often quite go with

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Speaker 2: the Pacific Our, which is delightful. But I'm a big

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Speaker 2: fan of that, but I'm a bigger fan of this.

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Speaker 2: It's the cloudy pale owl from stone Wood.

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Speaker 1: They call it a modern Paleol's so modern about it?

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Speaker 1: I don't know, but they say it's it's tropical. It's

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Speaker 1: got fruit, a roamas, a smooth mouth feel, and low bitterness.

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Speaker 1: Laura actually prefers this one of all the stone Wood drinks.

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Speaker 1: It's a favorite.

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Speaker 2: You go, Let's go chicks always for making this episode possible.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's good. It's very delicious. Yeah, dude, I was

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Speaker 1: drinking this on the weekend and Laura was like, do

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Speaker 1: you know what I feel like a beer? I was like, hey,

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Speaker 1: was normally she likes the wine, but she was like,

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Speaker 1: this is really good. I'm like, yeah, I've been saying

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Speaker 1: that for the last six Maybe they should. A weird

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Speaker 2: That's exactly how I want you to start every sentence

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Speaker 2: when you talk to me.

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Speaker 1: You know what I am here for. I like to

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Speaker 1: be a good Samaritan. Allegedly, yes, I like to help people, allegedly. Yes.

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Speaker 1: It feels good. Allegedly, I enjoy it. Allegedly I was anything.

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Speaker 1: I was driving in North Sydney. I was at the

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Speaker 1: I thought to myself, that doesn't look right. Car driving

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Speaker 1: on the road. Let me explain. It was an elderly man.

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Speaker 1: It was a blue Mercedes full drive. Everything seems normal.

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Speaker 1: So far, so far normal, except in the side mirror

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Speaker 1: of the driver's side there was a walking stick hanging

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Speaker 2: You can keep telling yourself that, but by the sounds

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't be surprised if he's still with it. I was.

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Speaker 1: I was prepared to stop at no length to help

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Speaker 2: Heine, you're telling this story of heroic. He's probably got

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Speaker 1: Really what I was really upset about he wouldn't let

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Speaker 1: You got to close the loop.

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Speaker 2: They say, traumatized him for the rest of what would

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Speaker 1: I kept beeping him across the bridge. You're fucking walking.

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Speaker 1: These poor people are so confused? I know, why are

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Speaker 1: I wanted to ask you a question.

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Speaker 2: April went to a park with both kids the other

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Speaker 1: Was like, what was weird about him? He was alone

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Speaker 2: I wasn't there, but the story I got was they

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Speaker 2: He's like, oh, we better go. There's like a weirdo

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Speaker 1: Weird stranger danger? Is that?

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Speaker 2: Well, That's what I'm trying to get at. Both of

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Speaker 1: Five and three for Lola, and.

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Speaker 2: They're sort of at the age where they could walk

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Speaker 1: But I wanted to ask about when do you teach

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Speaker 1: stranger danger. It's really hard, isn't it. It's hard because

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Speaker 1: and we're like, hey, look, yeah to them, they are strangers. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I was kind of had like an accomplished next

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Speaker 1: And then she kind of Lola. You know, Lola hates

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Speaker 2: It's really like you said it's like there's a lot

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Speaker 2: calling people weirdos in the park, and.

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Speaker 1: That's just that's weird in itself.

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Speaker 2: So she was like, okay, I took the opportunity to say, hey, kids,

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Speaker 2: the thing called stranger dangerous. If you don't know this person,

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Speaker 1: However, she tried to do it.

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Speaker 2: His Oscar telling the story about his and Macy's experience

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Speaker 1: We saw a stranger and we went and then we

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Speaker 2: Fleet, so Oscar says in there we were at the park,

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Speaker 1: So that's his recount of the story. Sounds like a

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Speaker 1: lovely day out. Was a lovely day out. It's almost

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Speaker 1: like he's I'm looking for the strangers now because I

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Speaker 1: want to get that treat from Pop.

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Speaker 2: Well that too, but April took that opportunity for it

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Speaker 2: to be to teach the kids strangers in the park.

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Speaker 2: If the strangers in the park, you avoid the strangers

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Speaker 1: It stranger danger. My god, she's adorable. I know, I know.

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Speaker 2: But so that it's evolved into them just calling everyone

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Speaker 2: and you know, usually what happens is you go to

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Speaker 1: There's always there's always a few moments you go, where

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Speaker 1: So my friend, who's a social worker okay, who she takes.

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Speaker 1: It's just like, where does it end. We are confirming

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Speaker 1: My household. Anyways, we have all these new items, and

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Speaker 2: Yeah, start selling it on Facebook marketplaces and making a profit.

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Speaker 2: You see selling it was like get out of here, iPhone.

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Speaker 1: There's a lot of warnings. It's about Lola. Have you

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Speaker 1: You were, Lola, Look, it's been a busy week for me,

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Speaker 1: competitiveness had got the better of me. I think, I

433
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Speaker 1: think that's where it's going. And then she would have

434
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Speaker 1: superpowers and that she would like throw me off, and

435
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Speaker 1: so I would go grab her and she'd throw Yeah,

436
00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:33,159
Speaker 1: come back and she'd throw me off. Everyone's having a

437
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Speaker 1: great time. Yep, what happened. I made a mistake. You

438
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Speaker 1: got competitive, didn't you? I was overacting. No, And as

439
00:23:47,119 --> 00:23:51,960
Speaker 1: I as I grabbed her, she said superpower and I

440
00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:56,160
Speaker 1: went to like, I went to throw off. And at

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Speaker 1: the same time I threw her threw are your child

442
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Speaker 1: across the park? Threw her off and I didn't realize

443
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Speaker 1: because I was like and then I looked up. As

444
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Speaker 1: I turned around, she was just like slow mo, and

445
00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:16,680
Speaker 1: I've thrown her like onto. Luckily it was the bark

446
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Speaker 1: chip flooring in the park. Also, why can't they put

447
00:24:19,280 --> 00:24:22,320
Speaker 1: something softer anyway? So she's landed on her back and

448
00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:25,640
Speaker 1: she did the cry where she went, oh, she can't

449
00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:31,720
Speaker 1: breathe anymore, and I was like waiting, waiting, and then

450
00:24:31,800 --> 00:24:34,280
Speaker 1: she was it was all way. It was a bad scream.

451
00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:38,159
Speaker 1: It was a bad scream. And also I was like,

452
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Speaker 1: do you know what, we'll fix this? I was like,

453
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Speaker 1: you can hit daddy. That's it for tat situation.

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Speaker 2: I think every parent has done has been in the

455
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Speaker 2: situation where they've been trying to play with their kid,

456
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Speaker 2: do something nice for their kid or whatever it might

457
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Speaker 2: be for your kid, and accidentally hurting them.

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Speaker 1: And it's like it's such a weird feeling awful.

459
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Speaker 2: It's awful, but you're also like, I don't know, it's awkward.

460
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Speaker 2: It's kind of like when you were playing with a

461
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Speaker 2: friend and you're like when you were a kid and

462
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Speaker 2: you and you hurt that kid, You're like, don't don't anything,

463
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Speaker 2: don't don't anything, don't anything, so no one to get

464
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Speaker 2: in trouble.

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Speaker 1: So then she started yelling, stranger danger, he's drinking. She

466
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Speaker 1: ran straight to mom and they looked at her and

467
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Speaker 1: you just he shook his head. Oh right, he said,

468
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Speaker 1: you've done enough, right in front of your father in law.

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Speaker 1: He didn't say that you've done enough around here. I've

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Speaker 1: changed the locks.

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Speaker 2: Have you seen the look in your daughter's eye when

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Speaker 2: you accidentally throw them across the park.

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Speaker 1: So it was a shame. It was a shame.

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Speaker 2: I'm trying to think of when I I know this morning,

475
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Speaker 2: April was like doing this game with the kids where

476
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Speaker 2: it was like covering their eyes up and going like

477
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Speaker 2: and pulling it away. But Macy was sitting on one

478
00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:54,600
Speaker 2: of the classics while she was doing it and grabbing

479
00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:57,480
Speaker 2: Macie's arm and just accidentally whacked.

480
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Speaker 1: Her in the eye. And she was like and like

481
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Speaker 1: you could see the look on April's face.

482
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Speaker 2: She was like, oh my god, like it was I

483
00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:05,720
Speaker 2: was trying to just play with you, but I've accidentally

484
00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:08,840
Speaker 2: hurt you. So I think everyone who has kids who's

485
00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:10,800
Speaker 2: listening and thinking, oh I've done.

486
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Speaker 1: That, everyone's done that. Everyone's done a bit of rough

487
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Speaker 1: house are they're only little.

488
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Speaker 2: There's that ongoing joke about like how rough, how rough

489
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Speaker 2: dads are with their kids, want to get like into

490
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Speaker 2: toddless stages, and it's like you're just like, you know,

491
00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:29,400
Speaker 2: thinking that they're unbreakable, but they're breakable.

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Speaker 1: Turns out they are. They are. Turns out they are.

493
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Speaker 1: Morley was like, why, daddy, what? Because I'm the lava

494
00:26:36,440 --> 00:26:39,560
Speaker 1: monster and that's what happened. You made me the monster.

495
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Speaker 1: I just acted like it is it time for it

496
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Speaker 1: is time for our.

497
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Speaker 2: New segment, Teddy couple, welcome down the street.

498
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Speaker 1: Petty couple. They like with me, dirty couple. I love you,

499
00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:57,760
Speaker 1: but immature.

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Speaker 2: No one can pull wish me quite like you.

501
00:27:05,520 --> 00:27:08,800
Speaker 1: Is this a petty comment? We went down to Wollongong

502
00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:11,520
Speaker 1: recently for a very exciting interview which we'll be talking

503
00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:14,440
Speaker 1: about in the coming weeks. But it was Dan and

504
00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:17,399
Speaker 1: Willongong and that morning Laura said where are you off

505
00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:20,399
Speaker 1: to today? And I said, I'm going to Willongong and

506
00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:23,119
Speaker 1: she goes, I didn't know that, and I said, we

507
00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:27,880
Speaker 1: didn't ask me that, petty A little bit, okay, it's

508
00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:29,840
Speaker 1: a little bit aggressive. It was a bit aggressive. She's

509
00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:32,920
Speaker 1: supposed to ask you every single aspect of your life. Well,

510
00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:35,399
Speaker 1: she didn't ask me about it, so I thought, you

511
00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:41,440
Speaker 1: don't care. They fight in words, they're fighting word. Yeah,

512
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:44,879
Speaker 1: she didn't like it. She didn't like it. I apologize.

513
00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:48,280
Speaker 1: I don't think it's apologized worthy. Well, I just I'm

514
00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:54,760
Speaker 1: so sorry. I don't say it like that. I've heard you. Okay.

515
00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:57,439
Speaker 2: So I also did a petty thing which I did

516
00:27:57,480 --> 00:27:59,320
Speaker 2: promise the listeners I was going to do, which is

517
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:01,240
Speaker 2: make me there and not make April.

518
00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:04,600
Speaker 1: You did it? I did it. You're a video. How

519
00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:07,679
Speaker 1: did it go down? She was a bit confused at first?

520
00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:11,199
Speaker 1: Or did you cook her? I made a roast for me? What?

521
00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:15,600
Speaker 1: Hang on a second? I did make her on no occasion,

522
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:18,480
Speaker 1: and no occasion is a roast a one person meal.

523
00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:21,919
Speaker 1: Oh it was this night. Okay. That is the That

524
00:28:22,040 --> 00:28:25,080
Speaker 1: is the biggest. That makes it so much more regressive.

525
00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:27,200
Speaker 1: That is so much. No.

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00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:29,800
Speaker 2: I did make the full ros and I just hid hers.

527
00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:31,120
Speaker 2: I just wanted the reaction.

528
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 1: Where did you hide it in? I left it in

529
00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:36,920
Speaker 1: the oven, nice and warm. But she came down the stairs.

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Speaker 2: I knew she was hungry, and she was like, how

531
00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:41,960
Speaker 2: do you know she was hungry? Because she said, daddy,

532
00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:47,320
Speaker 2: I'm hungry. She came downstairs and she was like, as

533
00:28:47,360 --> 00:28:48,800
Speaker 2: you seen the video, where's mine?

534
00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:53,120
Speaker 1: And then it cuts out. But after that April would

535
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 1: be such a monster.

536
00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:58,920
Speaker 2: In the video is just like, yeah, I got a

537
00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:01,240
Speaker 2: lot of comments being like rest in peace, my guy.

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00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 1: Fair enough. But after a little bit more of stirring.

539
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 2: Up and egging how much longer? I think I ate mine?

540
00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:15,960
Speaker 2: At least started eating one and then she's like, no, no.

541
00:29:15,840 --> 00:29:18,480
Speaker 1: Come on, come on, where's mine?

542
00:29:20,320 --> 00:29:22,239
Speaker 2: And I was all right, and then I got out

543
00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 2: the other and she ate it and she really enjoyed it.

544
00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:28,520
Speaker 2: But she will never ever comment on my cooking ever again.

545
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:31,560
Speaker 2: I guarantee you that if you've got anything petty to

546
00:29:31,560 --> 00:29:34,320
Speaker 2: say about your partner, or anything that you do to

547
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:38,239
Speaker 2: your partner that's petty, please email us hello at two

548
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:40,680
Speaker 2: doing dads dot com or just send us a DM. Okay,

549
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:44,760
Speaker 2: this one comes from Maculvar Markov says we love petty games.

550
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:49,320
Speaker 1: Now household and then she says, well I do. Obviously

551
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Speaker 1: a husband doesn't know.

552
00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 2: She says, he keeps leaving icy pole sticks around the house,

553
00:29:58,480 --> 00:30:01,480
Speaker 2: so I keep putting them in different place, like his

554
00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:04,400
Speaker 2: work boots under his pillow, inside.

555
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:04,800
Speaker 1: His socks, etc.

556
00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:08,520
Speaker 2: Also, when he does piss me off when I'm in

557
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:11,200
Speaker 2: the shower, I turn the shower head facing down, so

558
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:13,960
Speaker 2: when he goes to turn the water on to warm

559
00:30:14,040 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 2: up his shower, it sprays him straight in the eyes.

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00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:21,120
Speaker 1: Surely he must know what's going on here. You're going

561
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:23,160
Speaker 1: to cop it at one point, Michael Bay, he's just

562
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:26,480
Speaker 1: saving up if he's going to bed and he's got

563
00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:29,880
Speaker 1: icy polse sticks under his pillow. Surely I need to

564
00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:32,560
Speaker 1: be like, I don't remember leaving this here. At some

565
00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:34,240
Speaker 1: point he's going to get you back.

566
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Speaker 2: And if he is listening, please, once you do that,

567
00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:40,560
Speaker 2: please send us in what you did to her.

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00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:44,719
Speaker 1: This one is from Jackie. She says, just sharing with

569
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Speaker 1: you my own heavy relationship behavior towards my partner for

570
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Speaker 1: the amusement of all. Thank you very much, Jackie. I

571
00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:55,480
Speaker 1: better be amused. I have recently started using our fridge

572
00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:59,600
Speaker 1: whiteboard to express my frustration with the lack of division

573
00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:03,160
Speaker 1: of labor, but in our household. Mm hmm, what's this

574
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 1: boke doing? Come on, lift your game now. In addition

575
00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:09,600
Speaker 1: to all the usual family reminders, grocery lists, and school crap,

576
00:31:09,760 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 1: I'm keeping a running tally of days since the other

577
00:31:12,400 --> 00:31:16,959
Speaker 1: half unloaded the dishwasher, and she calls it the fridge

578
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:22,880
Speaker 1: of shame. She says, I might switch it up next

579
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:25,360
Speaker 1: week and start counting how many weeks since he mowed

580
00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:29,840
Speaker 1: the lawn. I'm going to need a bigger whiteboard. Oh

581
00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:35,520
Speaker 1: that is absolute petty behavior. I love it. Fridge of shame.

582
00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:39,360
Speaker 2: I imagine referring, imagine referring him back to it and

583
00:31:39,520 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 2: just been like, babe, you mind this washer.

584
00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:44,640
Speaker 1: It's like I always do it. Have you checked the fridge?

585
00:31:46,200 --> 00:31:49,960
Speaker 1: What does that tell you? I love that very good, Jackie,

586
00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 1: Thank you very much, Thank you very much. I love

587
00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:54,760
Speaker 1: that ship. As should we end on a couple of

588
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:58,440
Speaker 1: listener questions, Absolutely we should, so, Matt. This is from Jenna.

589
00:31:58,560 --> 00:32:00,760
Speaker 2: Hey, Jenna, she wants to know how to parents deal

590
00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:03,400
Speaker 2: with the unexpected toilet runs.

591
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:07,320
Speaker 1: Just pish your pants like the rest of it. Do

592
00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:10,960
Speaker 1: your kids love bush Wee's Oscar's a bushwier mace he's

593
00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:15,240
Speaker 1: still in nappies. Ah, yes, yes, moments Oscar go doing

594
00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:17,600
Speaker 1: bushweed that's his favorite, loves it.

595
00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 2: Was it you telling you out of the pool and

596
00:32:19,320 --> 00:32:21,800
Speaker 2: do a bushwii? And he just turned around and peed

597
00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:23,880
Speaker 2: into the pool from outside of it like it was

598
00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:24,480
Speaker 2: a big toilet.

599
00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:26,000
Speaker 1: I have heard about that one before.

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00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, he loves it so much that I'm worried if

601
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:30,200
Speaker 2: I say it indoors, he'll just find a plant pot.

602
00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:33,880
Speaker 1: My girls they love a bushwii. So if we're doing wheeze,

603
00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:38,080
Speaker 1: totally fine if it's unexpected. So for me, the issue

604
00:32:38,120 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 1: is when it's a bush wei and because the girls

605
00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:44,800
Speaker 1: aren't a nappies now Lola West nappy at nighttime. Issue

606
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 1: is when a bush wei turns into a bush pooh.

607
00:32:48,480 --> 00:32:51,600
Speaker 1: Because I got only rare occasions. Do I remember to

608
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:54,360
Speaker 1: bring baby whites with me just in case? Yeah? Okay,

609
00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:57,760
Speaker 1: So we're at the markets, the food markets recently, Marley

610
00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 1: wanted to do a little Bushwii. So I was like, cool,

611
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:03,120
Speaker 1: I can, I can take it. There's like a behind

612
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 1: a little bush, there's like an area where everyone gets

613
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:09,480
Speaker 1: their food and sits down there just in the middle gun.

614
00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 1: So then it's all because she was like she was

615
00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:15,560
Speaker 1: winging and she's liked daddy, it's going to be like

616
00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 1: a bush poo And I was like, oh, it's a

617
00:33:18,640 --> 00:33:21,400
Speaker 1: bit red hot to be doing a ship right here. Yeah,

618
00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:22,840
Speaker 1: people are trying to eat, and I had to kind

619
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:24,680
Speaker 1: of explain to her, like trying to try and finish

620
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:28,560
Speaker 1: the Wii. We're going to try and then transition. She's

621
00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:32,440
Speaker 1: like I can't, Oh my god. But it's also like

622
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:36,719
Speaker 1: there are certain times like if you're going through security,

623
00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:39,680
Speaker 1: for example, into the airport, and your kid is like,

624
00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:43,240
Speaker 1: I need to go to the toilet. That's a situation

625
00:33:43,360 --> 00:33:48,240
Speaker 1: if there's a line. Yeah, like ques ques, I would say,

626
00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:51,800
Speaker 1: the worst environment to begin with a surprise toilet trip.

627
00:33:52,600 --> 00:33:53,680
Speaker 1: It's fucked, isn't it.

628
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Speaker 2: We were at the Easter Show and April was like

629
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Speaker 2: to Oscar, do you need to weak?

630
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Speaker 1: And I was like no, but also, don't ever trust

631
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:05,240
Speaker 1: the answer. You never never trust the answer.

632
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Speaker 2: He was like no to April and I was like

633
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Speaker 2: you sure, and he's like no. And he hadn't weeding

634
00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:13,279
Speaker 2: ages he needed to wi and he was like no,

635
00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:15,319
Speaker 2: he's even grabbed his dick. For God's sake, the guy

636
00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:18,279
Speaker 2: needs to weep. He's like no, and he goes, okay, well,

637
00:34:18,320 --> 00:34:20,040
Speaker 2: I'm going to go off to the bathroom and leave

638
00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:24,360
Speaker 2: you here with Macy and Daddy to go Wii. Okay,

639
00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:27,960
Speaker 2: And it was like okay, sweet, And then she's gone off,

640
00:34:28,480 --> 00:34:30,080
Speaker 2: and then ask He turns to me and goes.

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00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:31,759
Speaker 1: Oh, need to we of course you do.

642
00:34:32,000 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 2: I was like, of course you do. You only want

643
00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:36,480
Speaker 2: to go because mum's gone now. She told you so

644
00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:39,440
Speaker 2: many times. And it's not just as easy as being like, okay,

645
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:42,160
Speaker 2: let's go. I've got to get stop Macie what she's doing,

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Speaker 2: pick her up, put her back in the pram, strap

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Speaker 2: her back in the pram, hold his hand, walk all.

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Speaker 1: The way over there. But then I can't walk into

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Speaker 1: the bathroom with the pram and him. It's like what

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Speaker 1: the fuck?

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Speaker 2: So then we've got to sit there and wait for

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Speaker 2: April to come back out so I can be like,

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Speaker 2: here's your child. He actually doesn't need to week. And

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Speaker 2: then she walks out and I go, he needs to

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Speaker 2: weat and she looks at me like.

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Speaker 1: It's my fault. Was there a cue as well?

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Speaker 2: So it's annoying. I'm sure any parent listening could be like,

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Speaker 2: fuck it. Hell, just when we ask you to wei,

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Speaker 2: just just wi.

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Speaker 1: Every time we bought a plane, we say do you

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Speaker 1: need to weat? They absolutely not, There's no we needed none.

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Speaker 1: What's the Weever? I sit down and as soon as

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Speaker 1: we put on the toilet. They're like, well, who as

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Speaker 1: well release a little bit. Actually, now that I'm in here,

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Speaker 1: I kind of feel like I need to we It's like,

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Speaker 1: oh shit, this one is from Morgan. She says, it's annoying.

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Speaker 1: Isn't it just nice? It's nice to acknowledge the people

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Speaker 1: who have written in and given us questions. Morgan says,

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Speaker 1: how can I be more helpful and inclusive of friends

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Speaker 1: with kids? Assuming here that Morgan may not have kids, right, right, right,

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Speaker 1: right right.

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Speaker 2: I would say, look, it's a tough question actually, but

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Speaker 2: I would say, be flexible with you your time.

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Speaker 1: Start doing yoga. Yeah, every time you see that, make

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Speaker 1: sure you've got baby wips. No, I would say, you

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Speaker 1: know what, that's a that's a good point. That's a

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Speaker 1: good point. Always. It's never a bad idea to have

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Speaker 1: extra baby wipes with you. To put that out there, sorry,

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Speaker 1: continue to have as many as you can, say, walk

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Speaker 1: around with them, don't hand them out a palette, drive

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Speaker 1: a forklift of the palette of baby wipes.

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Speaker 2: I would say, be flexible with your time because for us,

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Speaker 2: like trying to leave the house during the day, if

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Speaker 2: it's like someone's like, yeah, come down, let's catch up.

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Speaker 2: Bring your kids down. We'll catch up in the morning sometime.

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Speaker 2: And they're like, why don't we meet at like eleven o'clock.

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Speaker 1: That's not gonna work. Makes she still naps at twelve o'clock,

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Speaker 1: you get nap trapped. You get nap trapped.

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Speaker 2: And it's like, oh, yeah, we can meet at eleven,

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Speaker 2: but we're going to be there for a whole fifteen

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Speaker 2: minutes before I turn around and come home. And I

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Speaker 2: would say, as a parent with a child who still naps,

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Speaker 2: I am not dragging my child there for any.

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Speaker 1: Time less than two hours. If we're there for only

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Speaker 1: an hour, it's a waste of time. But thankfully, in my.

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Speaker 2: Experience investment, I'm wondering, shut up. Sorry, I know what

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Speaker 2: the person with that kid's probably thinking. I'll make it

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Speaker 2: a bit later to give them plenty of time to

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Speaker 2: get up, do their thing, and then be able to

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Speaker 2: know we're up.

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Speaker 1: Can I ask you a question, I'm up at six am.

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Speaker 2: If you said meet you at seven am, there's much

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Speaker 2: more of a chance of me being there than being

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Speaker 2: there at eleven.

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Speaker 1: Question for you there, sit down, I am sitting perfect.

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Speaker 1: Do you prefer going out to meet these people, or

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Speaker 1: would you rather they say, I'm going to come to

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Speaker 1: your house at seven o'clock.

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Speaker 2: Oh, why, because if the kids are stuck at home,

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Speaker 2: they're mental. If you've got no kids and you've got

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Speaker 2: friends with kids, here is my advice. You say, if

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Speaker 2: you want to catch up with them and see the kids,

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Speaker 2: you say, Hey, let's catch up for coffee at a

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Speaker 2: kid's park at a reasonable time. Eight o'clock gives them

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Speaker 2: time to be up awake. Kids are fair dressed. Eight

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Speaker 2: eight point thirty can be late. Expect them to be

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Speaker 2: late if they've got kids, because between the hours of

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Speaker 2: eight thirty to midday, that's your time.

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Speaker 1: There's no need to raise your voice at me. Sorry,

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Speaker 1: that's your time. Okay.

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Speaker 2: If it's an RVO sash, it's like, let's not hey,

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Speaker 2: let's meet, let's meet like five o'clock.

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Speaker 1: I'm not coming.

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Speaker 2: I'm not coming because the kids will fall asleep in

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Speaker 2: the car. You're going to ruin the rest of my

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Speaker 2: evening when they're actually asleep. So I would say, if

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Speaker 2: you're going to meet a friend in the afternoon two thirty.

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Speaker 1: Another question for you, dinner din with friends? Yeah, who

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Speaker 1: don't have kids, who don't have kids, they're coming to

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Speaker 1: my house.

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Speaker 2: That's where they come to my house because I can

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Speaker 2: say get here at seven, because it'll be you'll get

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Speaker 2: to say good night to the kids, and they'll love that,

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Speaker 2: and you'll love that.

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Speaker 1: Then they'll troof off to bed and then and then

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Speaker 1: we can get shit faced. I've kind of worked out

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Speaker 1: perfect out. This is not the first time you've thought

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Speaker 1: about this.

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Speaker 2: I think about all the time every day when someone

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Speaker 2: says to me, let's let's let's do something, It's like

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Speaker 2: it needs to fall within that time because if I

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Speaker 2: variate my kids nap time, it ruins my afternoon. If

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Speaker 2: I variate my kids actual sleep time, it ruins the

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Speaker 2: rest of my night.

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Speaker 1: And for anyone who doesn't have kids and may be

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Speaker 1: confused with how rigid this schedule is, write it down

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Speaker 1: if you do have any listener questions. For us, two

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Speaker 1: doting dads don't really give advice, but may give advice.

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Speaker 1: I feel like this is a nice advice ash has

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Speaker 1: been just spewing out. It's like a volcano of advice

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Speaker 1: non stop. This is like Pompeii, and advice is just

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Speaker 1: like showering the town. I e. Me and the listeners

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Speaker 1: golden showering the town. What do they send them to

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