1 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:07,080 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the 2 00:00:07,160 --> 00:00:11,320 Speaker 1: time poor parent who just on answers Now, Hello the Stocks. 3 00:00:11,400 --> 00:00:15,000 Speaker 1: Justin Colson, the parenting expert on Channel Line's Parental Guidance 4 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:18,799 Speaker 1: and author of six books. Seventh book comes out in 5 00:00:18,800 --> 00:00:20,759 Speaker 1: a couple of weeks time. Stay tuned to the podcast 6 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:25,079 Speaker 1: for more. Recently, we were having a conversation on the 7 00:00:25,079 --> 00:00:28,360 Speaker 1: Happy Families podcast and I just loved it. Decided to 8 00:00:28,400 --> 00:00:31,680 Speaker 1: share a bit more about this. Professor h Wallace Goddard, 9 00:00:31,800 --> 00:00:34,839 Speaker 1: or Wally as I know him, shared a conversation with 10 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:37,040 Speaker 1: me on episode three hundred and forty four of The 11 00:00:37,040 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 1: Happy Family's podcast. He's a wonderful mentor, he's a great friend. 12 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:42,560 Speaker 1: So much wisdom it's really hard to pick one highlight 13 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:45,120 Speaker 1: from his incredible conversation. I recommend you go and listen 14 00:00:45,159 --> 00:00:48,000 Speaker 1: to the whole Thing episode three forty four. But here's 15 00:00:48,040 --> 00:00:51,640 Speaker 1: Wally talking about how being a compassionate parent matters. 16 00:00:52,200 --> 00:00:56,720 Speaker 2: Another would be to teach compassion by living compassion. And 17 00:00:57,240 --> 00:01:00,680 Speaker 2: often we want to teach compassion through a lecture, and 18 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:04,360 Speaker 2: it doesn't ring true when we do that. And I 19 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:08,000 Speaker 2: think of the example of a dad who was frustrated 20 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:10,720 Speaker 2: with his little boy who was playing with legos and 21 00:01:10,800 --> 00:01:13,679 Speaker 2: didn't want to go to bed, and the dad kept saying, no, 22 00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 2: it's almost time, you got to go. You got to 23 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:19,520 Speaker 2: get your sleep. And I think about how the dad 24 00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:22,559 Speaker 2: will only got mad and grabbed the boy and dragged 25 00:01:22,600 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 2: him to his room and put him to bed angrily. 26 00:01:25,959 --> 00:01:31,280 Speaker 2: What if what if dad talk compassion by living in compassion? 27 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:33,560 Speaker 2: What if he knelt by his son and says, show 28 00:01:33,600 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 2: me what's you're building, Tell me about it? How far 29 00:01:37,040 --> 00:01:40,000 Speaker 2: along is it? I mean, what's your next step? Wow? 30 00:01:40,640 --> 00:01:42,560 Speaker 2: Is this a good stopping place? Or do you need 31 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:46,200 Speaker 2: two more minutes to finish what you're doing? And then 32 00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 2: lets you and me go to bed, and let's tell 33 00:01:48,920 --> 00:01:52,680 Speaker 2: us each other stories as I tuck you in. I mean, 34 00:01:53,240 --> 00:01:58,840 Speaker 2: the way children learn compassion is by experiencing it, so 35 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:03,080 Speaker 2: would be a big one in my view. And another 36 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:08,280 Speaker 2: one is to enjoy life together. One of our daughter 37 00:02:08,320 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 2: ones said to me, dad, joy is a good thing, 38 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:14,320 Speaker 2: but you've just taken it too far. 39 00:02:18,360 --> 00:02:18,800 Speaker 1: Life. 40 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:24,360 Speaker 2: And you know, somehow we've learned to manage some of 41 00:02:24,360 --> 00:02:28,720 Speaker 2: the anxiety and fear and tiredness, and we've tried to 42 00:02:28,720 --> 00:02:32,119 Speaker 2: teach ourselves to really focus on on the joy, the goodness, 43 00:02:32,160 --> 00:02:36,400 Speaker 2: the happy, the connection, and by doing that we have 44 00:02:37,080 --> 00:02:40,280 Speaker 2: filled our lives with a level of happiness. That's that's 45 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:43,640 Speaker 2: grand So enjoying life together with our children, you know, 46 00:02:43,720 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 2: taking their hand and going for a walk, or when 47 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:48,919 Speaker 2: we go visit the grandkids, Nancy always fills a box 48 00:02:48,960 --> 00:02:51,720 Speaker 2: with games that are not any better than the games 49 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:54,840 Speaker 2: they have, but they're new, unfamiliar to them. And she 50 00:02:54,960 --> 00:02:58,560 Speaker 2: also happens to take some bubble gum and the kids 51 00:02:58,639 --> 00:03:03,520 Speaker 2: love seeing seeing and she makes peanut butter balls with them. 52 00:03:03,600 --> 00:03:09,440 Speaker 2: Then anyway, those little things say we love life and 53 00:03:09,480 --> 00:03:13,440 Speaker 2: we love you, and it makes a connection that otherwise 54 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:14,040 Speaker 2: doesn't grow. 55 00:03:14,440 --> 00:03:17,400 Speaker 1: That's Professor h. Wallace Gottar from episode three hundred and 56 00:03:17,480 --> 00:03:20,400 Speaker 1: forty four of The Happy Families podcast. Go and check 57 00:03:20,400 --> 00:03:27,840 Speaker 1: out the rest of the episode. Now, between fifteen and 58 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:31,679 Speaker 1: twenty percent of teens have anxiety. Anxiety is one of 59 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:35,440 Speaker 1: the leading causes of mental illness in our children, and 60 00:03:35,520 --> 00:03:38,120 Speaker 1: as parents, we want to know where is it coming from, 61 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:40,280 Speaker 1: can we stop it, and how do we help our 62 00:03:40,360 --> 00:03:44,440 Speaker 1: children just feel better? Start by learning how to recognize 63 00:03:44,480 --> 00:03:47,960 Speaker 1: anxiety in your child, how to respond, and how to 64 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 1: give them hope. And the anxiety in your child. Webinar 65 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:54,520 Speaker 1: can help. It's available at Happy families dot com dot au. 66 00:03:54,960 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 1: The Happy Families membership is available right now. It's thirteen 67 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 1: dollars a month for a basic membership or eighteen dollars 68 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:04,960 Speaker 1: a month for a premium membership. 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