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Speaker 2: It is Flex and Frooms on CATA and in good News,
Speaker 2: I found a new element of friendship for you to be
Speaker 2: insecure about. Right, listen to this. Y'all are literally shitty
Speaker 2: friends because every time someone gets distant, you automatically assume
Speaker 2: it's about you. I'm losing my mind. I had to
Speaker 2: moullew that for a second because I was like, wait,
Speaker 2: wait a second, I don't feel that way. And then
Speaker 2: I thought, no, no, no. For my inner circle, if you're
Speaker 2: in a bad mood around me, I'm going to presume
Speaker 2: it's me. And I wasn't like that until I got
Speaker 2: into a how do you say codependent relationship? And I
Speaker 2: was like, no, get that energy away from me. Remember
Speaker 2: one about rules for life was if you're in a
Speaker 2: bad mood and you have a social event and that
Speaker 2: social event isn't going to like perk you up, don't
Speaker 2: go because misery is contagious. And I think a lot
Speaker 2: of the times we're feeling sad or down, we're feeling
Speaker 2: spiteful at the same time, and you want to make
Speaker 2: sure that not only do people know that you're feeling terrible,
Speaker 2: but you want to bring them down with you, And
Speaker 2: it's fine. There's community in that. I know, when I'm
Speaker 2: feeling unwell, I want to be coddled. Don't have fun
Speaker 2: around me. When I'm feeling sick, down, depressed, angry, sad,
Speaker 2: keep the vibe, you know, solemn. But on the flip side,
Speaker 2: when I see a friend who's having a bad time,
Speaker 2: especially when I'm like we're out and about or in public,
Speaker 2: I'm like, babe, decorum, excuse yourself or let me help you,
Speaker 2: because this isn't working for both of us.
Speaker 3: FLEX really said, are you depressed? It needs social isolation, immediately, effective, immediately,
Speaker 3: stop scary.
Speaker 2: That is okay, but there's something that it's a fine balance,
Speaker 2: right because not everybody who's sad is depressed. Don't do that.
Speaker 2: Don't do that. We can be sad, but I think
Speaker 2: we can also be moody, and we can be temperamental,
Speaker 2: and we can be acutely aware that we have the
Speaker 2: capacity to pull ourselves in and out of a situation,
Speaker 2: and often we don't do that, we allow on our
Speaker 2: environment to do that. Right, I'm in a bad mood.
Speaker 2: I know I'm gonna come and see you you're gonna
Speaker 2: perk me right up. I can't put that on you
Speaker 2: every time. I can't make you comedic relief every time,
Speaker 2: so I feel better. But I will say it is
Speaker 2: a wake up call to not personalize everybody else's feelings.
Speaker 2: Sometimes people just have a bad day in your presence
Speaker 2: and have it not be your fault or your responsibility.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you need to have a certain level
Speaker 1: of communication iconicness in a relationship in order for that
Speaker 1: to work. Like I've got one friend who our we
Speaker 1: maintain a level of communication at all times that I'm
Speaker 1: happy for her to be a bit off and she
Speaker 1: says it straight away and then it's fine. Yeah, But
Speaker 1: if you do have a bit of murky blurry lines
Speaker 1: and sometimes you don't know where the person's at, it's
Speaker 1: not good for somebody who is sensitive.
Speaker 2: Yes, And if you don't know who you're at as well,
Speaker 2: because sometimes as a temperamental moody bitch, I don't know
Speaker 2: where it's coming from. I caught a vibe. It's an
Speaker 2: intuitive thing. I saw a look. Now now I'm in
Speaker 2: an off mood. I can't call it sometimes and sometimes
Speaker 2: to put a name to it or to define where
Speaker 2: it's coming from. Probably for the worst, because then I started,
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh no, it was definitely that cafe. The
Speaker 2: lady gave me a funny look. Now I'm mad at
Speaker 2: the cafe. Wasn't the cafe? Just the vibe. Now the
Speaker 2: ViBe's gone two.
Speaker 3: Days away from the period.
Speaker 2: You know where I'm in my flop week. Let's just
Speaker 2: say I'm in my flop week. You've been listening to
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