WEBVTT - Are You Actually A Bad Friend? 👭

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It is Flex and Frooms on CATA and in good News,

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<v Speaker 2>I found a new element of friendship for you to be

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<v Speaker 2>insecure about. Right, listen to this. Y'all are literally shitty

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<v Speaker 2>friends because every time someone gets distant, you automatically assume

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<v Speaker 2>it's about you. I'm losing my mind. I had to

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<v Speaker 2>moullew that for a second because I was like, wait,

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<v Speaker 2>wait a second, I don't feel that way. And then

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<v Speaker 2>I thought, no, no, no. For my inner circle, if you're

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<v Speaker 2>in a bad mood around me, I'm going to presume

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<v Speaker 2>it's me. And I wasn't like that until I got

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<v Speaker 2>into a how do you say codependent relationship? And I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, no, get that energy away from me. Remember

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<v Speaker 2>one about rules for life was if you're in a

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<v Speaker 2>bad mood and you have a social event and that

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<v Speaker 2>social event isn't going to like perk you up, don't

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<v Speaker 2>go because misery is contagious. And I think a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of the times we're feeling sad or down, we're feeling

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<v Speaker 2>spiteful at the same time, and you want to make

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<v Speaker 2>sure that not only do people know that you're feeling terrible,

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<v Speaker 2>but you want to bring them down with you, And

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<v Speaker 2>it's fine. There's community in that. I know, when I'm

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<v Speaker 2>feeling unwell, I want to be coddled. Don't have fun

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<v Speaker 2>around me. When I'm feeling sick, down, depressed, angry, sad,

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<v Speaker 2>keep the vibe, you know, solemn. But on the flip side,

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<v Speaker 2>when I see a friend who's having a bad time,

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<v Speaker 2>especially when I'm like we're out and about or in public,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, babe, decorum, excuse yourself or let me help you,

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<v Speaker 2>because this isn't working for both of us.

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<v Speaker 3>FLEX really said, are you depressed? It needs social isolation, immediately, effective, immediately,

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<v Speaker 3>stop scary.

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<v Speaker 2>That is okay, but there's something that it's a fine balance,

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<v Speaker 2>right because not everybody who's sad is depressed. Don't do that.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't do that. We can be sad, but I think

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<v Speaker 2>we can also be moody, and we can be temperamental,

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<v Speaker 2>and we can be acutely aware that we have the

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<v Speaker 2>capacity to pull ourselves in and out of a situation,

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<v Speaker 2>and often we don't do that, we allow on our

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<v Speaker 2>environment to do that. Right, I'm in a bad mood.

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<v Speaker 2>I know I'm gonna come and see you you're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>perk me right up. I can't put that on you

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<v Speaker 2>every time. I can't make you comedic relief every time,

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<v Speaker 2>so I feel better. But I will say it is

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<v Speaker 2>a wake up call to not personalize everybody else's feelings.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes people just have a bad day in your presence

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<v Speaker 2>and have it not be your fault or your responsibility.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think you need to have a certain level

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<v Speaker 1>of communication iconicness in a relationship in order for that

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<v Speaker 1>to work. Like I've got one friend who our we

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<v Speaker 1>maintain a level of communication at all times that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>happy for her to be a bit off and she

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<v Speaker 1>says it straight away and then it's fine. Yeah, But

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<v Speaker 1>if you do have a bit of murky blurry lines

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<v Speaker 1>and sometimes you don't know where the person's at, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not good for somebody who is sensitive.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, And if you don't know who you're at as well,

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<v Speaker 2>because sometimes as a temperamental moody bitch, I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>where it's coming from. I caught a vibe. It's an

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<v Speaker 2>intuitive thing. I saw a look. Now now I'm in

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<v Speaker 2>an off mood. I can't call it sometimes and sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>to put a name to it or to define where

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<v Speaker 2>it's coming from. Probably for the worst, because then I started,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, oh no, it was definitely that cafe. The

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<v Speaker 2>lady gave me a funny look. Now I'm mad at

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<v Speaker 2>the cafe. Wasn't the cafe? Just the vibe. Now the

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<v Speaker 2>ViBe's gone two.

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<v Speaker 3>Days away from the period.

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<v Speaker 2>You know where I'm in my flop week. Let's just

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<v Speaker 2>say I'm in my flop week. You've been listening to

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