WEBVTT - Ask Uncut - 6 Minute Voice Notes, Horny Separations & When Is The Relationship Over? 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.200 This episode was recorded on Cameragle Land. 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:14.160 Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life. 0:00:14.200 --> 0:00:15.440 I'm Cut, I'm Laura. 0:00:15.440 --> 0:00:18.360 I'm Brittany, and this is Ask gun Cut. We do 0:00:18.400 --> 0:00:20.000 it every single week. We've done it for six years. 0:00:20.040 --> 0:00:22.919 You're write in your questions you did darkest burning problems. 0:00:22.920 --> 0:00:24.079 We do our best to answer them. 0:00:24.200 --> 0:00:26.159 When you say we've done it for six years, it 0:00:26.200 --> 0:00:27.760 makes me think, should we do something new? 0:00:28.280 --> 0:00:30.400 Do you know what? We have thought about that in 0:00:30.400 --> 0:00:33.120 the past, and we've asked the listeners. The life is 0:00:33.159 --> 0:00:36.319 what they listen you guys. But people love ask gun 0:00:36.440 --> 0:00:38.280 Cut and I love it. It's the life uncut stable. 0:00:38.280 --> 0:00:39.640 I don't think we can get rid of it. And 0:00:39.760 --> 0:00:42.159 even if we did, people want it. We've got to 0:00:42.159 --> 0:00:42.960 give the people they want. 0:00:43.159 --> 0:00:44.880 Like when we got rid of actually unfiltered for a 0:00:44.920 --> 0:00:46.239 couple of weeks and then people were like. 0:00:46.240 --> 0:00:47.760 What happened to it? Where did it go? 0:00:47.920 --> 0:00:50.320 Speaking about that, we do need some more accidentally unfiltered. 0:00:50.360 --> 0:00:52.680 So if something embarrassing has happened to you, please send 0:00:52.680 --> 0:00:54.920 it into the podcast. Anyway. How would you weekend it? Oh? 0:00:54.960 --> 0:00:57.760 My weekend was fine, except I have entered this stage 0:00:57.800 --> 0:01:00.600 of pregnancy now where I have pregnancy insomnia and I 0:01:00.640 --> 0:01:04.360 am so tired, Like I'm just so tired. And sometimes 0:01:04.400 --> 0:01:06.120 it's because I forget that I'm pregnant, and then I 0:01:06.160 --> 0:01:07.839 wake up and I'm like, why am I still tired? 0:01:08.160 --> 0:01:09.199 Why is everything hard? 0:01:09.280 --> 0:01:12.959 And then I remember I'm like forging headfirst into third trimester, 0:01:13.040 --> 0:01:14.600 and I probably should be tired by this point. 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:16.800 I think it's completely normal that you're tired. You got 0:01:16.840 --> 0:01:20.240 two you're growing a baby, you're working a lot, you're 0:01:20.319 --> 0:01:22.400 running a household. I think that's pretty standard. Laura's like, 0:01:22.440 --> 0:01:23.119 I'm so shocked. 0:01:23.120 --> 0:01:26.080 I can't figure it out. Hold on, let me tell you. 0:01:26.120 --> 0:01:29.400 Oh yeah, I am past twenty six weeks now, fruit 0:01:29.480 --> 0:01:29.800 are you? 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:31.360 I don't know. 0:01:31.480 --> 0:01:33.759 This app doesn't tell me the fruit. Hold on, let 0:01:33.760 --> 0:01:34.280 me google it. 0:01:34.319 --> 0:01:37.240 Should you'd be the size of a rock wallerby twenty. 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:42.760 Walla twenty six weeks fruit. I'm sure everyone's on the 0:01:42.840 --> 0:01:44.920 edge of their seat. What fruit are you at? Twenty 0:01:44.959 --> 0:01:47.520 six Cabbage? That's pretty big. 0:01:47.960 --> 0:01:50.600 That's pretty big, also pretty circular. I would have thought 0:01:50.600 --> 0:01:52.920 you were like eggplanty, like something longer I was. 0:01:53.560 --> 0:01:54.080 I don't know. 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:55.960 They do roll into a little ball, though, But I 0:01:55.960 --> 0:01:58.000 was telling these guys. The other day, you might remember 0:01:58.040 --> 0:02:00.000 how I was talking about how I've started weighing my pants, 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:01.800 like I've properly started winging my pants. 0:02:01.800 --> 0:02:05.040 It's not it's not funny. It's not like a little 0:02:05.040 --> 0:02:05.760 bit of bladder leak. 0:02:06.880 --> 0:02:08.960 So when we were driving down to Ala Dulla the 0:02:09.000 --> 0:02:11.200 other week in the car it was like late night drive. 0:02:11.280 --> 0:02:13.680 Kids were asleep in the back. I swallowed some water 0:02:13.800 --> 0:02:15.239 and it went down the wrong tube, and so I 0:02:15.280 --> 0:02:18.880 started coughing. Except I coughed and I fully wet myself, 0:02:18.919 --> 0:02:20.600 not tiny bit, not a little bit at the end, 0:02:20.639 --> 0:02:22.640 not like cute, a little bit of bloody leakage. I 0:02:22.760 --> 0:02:24.480 fully pissed my pants and had to do the rest 0:02:24.520 --> 0:02:26.160 of the drive with no pants on, no underys on. 0:02:26.400 --> 0:02:27.799 I don't think that was necessary to me. 0:02:29.600 --> 0:02:31.640 I didn't want to stop because if we stopped, Lola, 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:34.519 as soon as you stop the engine, Lola nos, and 0:02:34.840 --> 0:02:37.360 so like I just sat No, I didn't, I too, 0:02:38.000 --> 0:02:41.239 pants off my pants. It's that naked, that which is 0:02:41.320 --> 0:02:44.040 much better. I'm sure that's a lot more humbling. I 0:02:44.080 --> 0:02:46.200 just imagine every time we went under, like the mobile 0:02:46.240 --> 0:02:49.200 phone cameras, because they take photos of every car and 0:02:49.200 --> 0:02:51.200 then it uses AI to detect whether you're on your 0:02:51.200 --> 0:02:53.200 phone or not. But imagine if like someone had to 0:02:53.240 --> 0:02:55.359 manually do that. They're like pregnantly no pants. 0:02:55.520 --> 0:02:56.440 Surely that's illegal. 0:02:56.639 --> 0:02:59.119 Surely there's like phone cameras and nudity cameras. I don't 0:02:59.120 --> 0:02:59.800 think you can drive. 0:03:00.440 --> 0:03:02.640 I think you can just with your bag to cover it, 0:03:02.720 --> 0:03:05.400 though because you're pregnant, you probably couldn't see it. 0:03:05.480 --> 0:03:07.120 I looked like I was wearing short shorts because I 0:03:07.120 --> 0:03:08.720 just would have had my jumper down over the top 0:03:08.760 --> 0:03:11.360 of it. Anyway, Yeah, it's all like it's all bad 0:03:11.360 --> 0:03:13.960 from here. There's nothing good about the trimester except for 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:15.160 the fact that it's almost over. 0:03:15.520 --> 0:03:16.840 Like that's not an enjoyable time. 0:03:17.080 --> 0:03:19.200 And the problem is, so when I spoke to my 0:03:19.240 --> 0:03:21.560 obstetrician about it, I don't know how truthful this is or. 0:03:22.040 --> 0:03:25.200 Like, I mean, I believe him. He's a very good obstetrician, but. 0:03:25.560 --> 0:03:26.960 I don't know if he's sld me the truth. 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:29.600 So the baby's breach at the moment, like the baby's 0:03:29.680 --> 0:03:32.520 feet down, and I was telling you guys this, so 0:03:32.600 --> 0:03:35.400 like I sometimes simultaneously feel like I'm being kicked in 0:03:35.440 --> 0:03:37.840 the vagina and stabbed in the heart, like I feel 0:03:37.880 --> 0:03:40.160 like I'm getting kicked both ends at the same time. 0:03:40.760 --> 0:03:43.680 I was like, how is it possible that I'm feeling 0:03:43.760 --> 0:03:45.400 all the pressure up the top but also at the 0:03:45.400 --> 0:03:48.000 bottom at the same point. And he was like, Oh, 0:03:48.040 --> 0:03:50.000 it's because it's your third baby and your womb is 0:03:50.080 --> 0:03:53.200 so stretched and floppy because your baby's breach. It can 0:03:53.240 --> 0:03:56.280 literally just stand up. So just imagine like a cabbage 0:03:56.320 --> 0:03:58.360 fully upright like this. I think I did tell you this, 0:03:58.440 --> 0:04:00.760 don't I did about this? 0:04:01.000 --> 0:04:02.640 I pitched I think it was last week. 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:05.960 There was one time we were all on a flight 0:04:06.120 --> 0:04:07.640 and because I'm so short, I. 0:04:07.560 --> 0:04:10.040 Can stand up in the seats, you know, when the 0:04:10.040 --> 0:04:12.240 plane lands, He's just standing inside me. 0:04:12.360 --> 0:04:13.240 That's what I felt like. 0:04:13.320 --> 0:04:15.600 I was like, I think it feels like me standing 0:04:15.680 --> 0:04:16.400 up in the plane. 0:04:16.520 --> 0:04:20.400 Like just direct tell you, guys, are all I was 0:04:20.400 --> 0:04:21.000 born breach? 0:04:21.720 --> 0:04:23.880 Yeah, look, guys, like I said, I'm really tired. I've 0:04:23.880 --> 0:04:25.400 forgotten the things I've told you and what I haven't 0:04:25.440 --> 0:04:27.560 told you. Let's just steamroll. Also, my dad sent me 0:04:27.600 --> 0:04:28.039 a photo of. 0:04:28.000 --> 0:04:29.640 A crocodile so we could talk about that instead. If 0:04:29.680 --> 0:04:30.039 you want to. 0:04:30.440 --> 0:04:33.240 Hang on you know what I what I didn't tell you. 0:04:33.360 --> 0:04:35.680 I know we did have this conversation, but part of 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:38.239 because I was born, but first legs around my head. 0:04:39.240 --> 0:04:40.360 If you're not talking about. 0:04:40.120 --> 0:04:44.240 Click clicking hips about ability that was included. 0:04:44.320 --> 0:04:47.000 No, I haven't told you this bit, so don't come 0:04:47.000 --> 0:04:47.240 for me. 0:04:47.360 --> 0:04:49.479 Laura just repeated the story word for't. 0:04:49.240 --> 0:04:51.039 And because I'm a good friend, I let her do it. 0:04:51.120 --> 0:04:53.480 I was like, I'm not gonna I'm not going to stopper. 0:04:54.080 --> 0:04:54.920 I was like, let's just. 0:04:57.080 --> 0:04:58.200 What was going to say? 0:04:58.400 --> 0:05:01.920 Guys, I've got something Nothing new happens in my life anymore. 0:05:01.920 --> 0:05:03.400 I just pissed, who has it? 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:07.280 Got that out word for work the story? 0:05:08.440 --> 0:05:10.160 I was going to add something new to it to 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:13.400 get who I've told shit to? Just know you did 0:05:13.440 --> 0:05:15.280 say sorry, I. 0:05:15.240 --> 0:05:17.680 Know I want to hear. All I was gonna say 0:05:17.720 --> 0:05:19.200 is because I thought I didn't need to add something 0:05:19.240 --> 0:05:22.320 to the for a Pete story. But because of that, 0:05:22.520 --> 0:05:25.440 so for like a month, my legs because I had 0:05:25.480 --> 0:05:28.040 spent almost a whole like my legs went around my 0:05:28.080 --> 0:05:30.280 head quite early in the womb, so it wasn't like 0:05:30.320 --> 0:05:32.200 a last minute thing. I just grew in there like that. 0:05:32.839 --> 0:05:36.280 So when I was born, my legs stayed up they 0:05:36.279 --> 0:05:38.600 didn't go down. So Mum would put my legs down, 0:05:38.760 --> 0:05:41.480 She'd push them down, and they would fling back up 0:05:41.640 --> 0:05:45.919 like their natural response was to be up literally around. 0:05:46.120 --> 0:05:48.240 I know, I know, I can still put my legs 0:05:48.240 --> 0:05:49.720 around my head now, but she would like put them 0:05:49.760 --> 0:05:51.560 down there, go and flick back up. 0:05:51.680 --> 0:05:54.120 There were so many jokes that were just offered on 0:05:54.120 --> 0:05:57.400 a silver plat of that, so many and we did good. 0:05:57.440 --> 0:06:00.000 We did good. Kis I made one, we sustained. 0:06:00.760 --> 0:06:02.839 It would have made some new content if you came 0:06:02.880 --> 0:06:03.120 from me. 0:06:03.160 --> 0:06:07.640 All right, Look, we have important please, we have important 0:06:07.640 --> 0:06:09.239 things to do on this episode, and that is answer 0:06:09.240 --> 0:06:11.479 your ask guncut questions. But before we do that, it 0:06:11.520 --> 0:06:13.440 is time for vibes and unsubscribes. 0:06:13.800 --> 0:06:15.440 Bernie, what is your vibe? 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:18.120 You've already you've already warned us that it's particularly low brow. 0:06:18.520 --> 0:06:20.400 We've got to stop saying TV shows a low brow 0:06:20.480 --> 0:06:22.120 but it is a TV show. It's all I'm doing. 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:24.760 Ben is here still which has been Actually I haven't 0:06:24.800 --> 0:06:26.200 really spoken about Ben much lay. 0:06:27.760 --> 0:06:28.359 Every episode. 0:06:28.360 --> 0:06:30.680 No, not really. Benn is still here and it's the 0:06:30.680 --> 0:06:35.480 longest time we've spent together ever. Like this period from 0:06:35.480 --> 0:06:37.360 the wedding is the longest we've ever spent together and 0:06:37.480 --> 0:06:39.440 so nice because we're back to like I feel like 0:06:39.839 --> 0:06:41.640 we just are living a normal life a little bit, 0:06:41.680 --> 0:06:42.600 which is really really nice. 0:06:42.640 --> 0:06:43.920 How long is it that you get to spend together, 0:06:43.920 --> 0:06:44.600 do you know? In total? 0:06:44.720 --> 0:06:46.240 We don't know because we don't know when he's going 0:06:46.279 --> 0:06:48.760 back yet. Basically he's waiting for a new team or 0:06:48.800 --> 0:06:51.040 his old team or whatever. It's contracts, so he's just 0:06:51.080 --> 0:06:53.480 waiting and then he'll go. But we just watch a 0:06:53.520 --> 0:06:55.160 lot of TV at night, So that's what we're doing 0:06:55.200 --> 0:06:57.880 at the moment. The Better Sister. The Better Sister is 0:06:57.880 --> 0:07:00.839 on Amazon Prime. It is like a thriller TV series 0:07:00.960 --> 0:07:03.680 and the lead is Jessica Biel. Now, I think a 0:07:03.680 --> 0:07:05.880 lot of people still look and think of Jessica Bile 0:07:05.920 --> 0:07:09.600 as like justin Timberlake's Wife. She was in that really 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:12.440 wholesome The Brady Bunch thing that wasn't The Brady Bunch 0:07:12.520 --> 0:07:15.000 was called Seventh Heaven. Yeah, when we grew up with 0:07:15.040 --> 0:07:18.200 Seventh Heaven, like, no one ever really, I don't think 0:07:18.640 --> 0:07:20.720 took her seriously until a couple of years ago when 0:07:20.720 --> 0:07:22.320 she was in the thriller Sinner. 0:07:22.920 --> 0:07:24.960 Yeah, it was so good. Do you remember Nast when 0:07:24.960 --> 0:07:27.760 we were living together and we like devoured that. The Sinner, 0:07:27.800 --> 0:07:30.080 which Eessica Bielle. Yeah, it's so good. 0:07:30.280 --> 0:07:33.000 Well, this is The Better Sister with Elizabeth Banks as well. 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:36.720 They're sisters, and it is a thriller that is so good. 0:07:37.120 --> 0:07:38.880 You don't see what the end is like, you don't 0:07:38.920 --> 0:07:43.240 see it coming. The acting is brilliant, like really really 0:07:43.280 --> 0:07:46.120 really really good. It's probably one of the series in 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:48.120 the last year that I haven't wanted to pick up 0:07:48.160 --> 0:07:50.440 my phone, that I've really stayed in that I've finished 0:07:50.480 --> 0:07:52.160 an episode and been like can we go watch the 0:07:52.200 --> 0:07:55.320 next episode? Thoroughly enjoyed it, and it's made me love 0:07:55.400 --> 0:07:58.280 Jessica Biel a lot more so. It's Amazon Prime if 0:07:58.280 --> 0:07:59.280 you have it. The Better Sister. 0:07:59.360 --> 0:08:01.680 The last time I watched Jessica biel like I watched 0:08:01.680 --> 0:08:03.280 The Sinner, I went and got my haircut and got 0:08:03.280 --> 0:08:03.640 that fringe. 0:08:03.720 --> 0:08:05.120 Now she had like a dead straight fringe. 0:08:05.160 --> 0:08:06.840 She's got a dead straight bob in this. 0:08:06.920 --> 0:08:07.960 Okay, well might doing the same. 0:08:08.040 --> 0:08:09.560 No, I literally I went out and I got the 0:08:09.560 --> 0:08:12.080 fringe caut and I rocked it for a good six 0:08:12.080 --> 0:08:13.880 months because I was obsessed with her, so like, yes, 0:08:13.920 --> 0:08:15.160 I'm in I'm about that one. 0:08:15.280 --> 0:08:15.680 You love it. 0:08:15.800 --> 0:08:17.400 I have a vibe which is a little bit different 0:08:17.400 --> 0:08:19.800 for us. I don't think we normally vibe artists on 0:08:19.840 --> 0:08:20.440 the podcast. 0:08:20.480 --> 0:08:21.480 I've vibed an artist once. 0:08:21.520 --> 0:08:24.400 Remember for your artwork that's in your Yeah, little Gaga, 0:08:24.680 --> 0:08:27.280 little Gaga, shout out hi, little Gaga. 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:29.000 The beautiful palm artwork in my house. 0:08:29.040 --> 0:08:29.800 Yeah, it's gorgeous. 0:08:29.800 --> 0:08:31.520 Well, I guess I'm like in the trenches of Instagram 0:08:31.520 --> 0:08:33.400 trying to find artists and artworks and things at the 0:08:33.400 --> 0:08:35.960 moment because we are coming to the clothes and the 0:08:35.960 --> 0:08:38.600 renovation that we've been doing, and then trying to find 0:08:38.640 --> 0:08:40.600 interiors to make it feel like it's a house, not 0:08:40.640 --> 0:08:42.520 a whole lot of just random bits of furniture popped 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:43.120 around a house. 0:08:43.520 --> 0:08:48.000 So I've been following this one. It's just but when 0:08:48.040 --> 0:08:48.839 you have nothing on. 0:08:48.800 --> 0:08:50.800 Your trying to make a house a home, Yeah, when 0:08:50.800 --> 0:08:52.960 you have nothing on your walls at all and you 0:08:53.040 --> 0:08:55.240 have your furniture in, it literally just looks like you've 0:08:55.240 --> 0:08:57.480 popped a lounge there, a chair. There's like it just 0:08:57.520 --> 0:09:01.520 takes me and it feels at the moment and our 0:09:01.559 --> 0:09:04.400 walls look so bare. So I've been following some of 0:09:04.440 --> 0:09:06.560 these artists for quite a long time, but I've actually 0:09:06.640 --> 0:09:09.040 just like taken the leap and purchased art from them. 0:09:09.120 --> 0:09:11.800 So two that I'm obsessed with, which I wanted to 0:09:11.800 --> 0:09:14.000 share with you guys. Honestly, one of them, I think 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:17.920 just she just makes the most beautiful very coastal in 0:09:18.000 --> 0:09:20.800 some ways, but not in like your kitch beachy by 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:23.920 any means. The colors are really cool, really contemporary. They're 0:09:24.000 --> 0:09:26.520 very warm and vibrant. But she just has a really 0:09:26.520 --> 0:09:28.480 really beautiful use of composition and color play. 0:09:28.800 --> 0:09:31.600 Her name is Jesse Clear. She's local. She's local to 0:09:31.640 --> 0:09:32.040 me anyway. 0:09:32.080 --> 0:09:34.559 She's in Bondi, but she's an Australian artist, and she's 0:09:34.559 --> 0:09:37.720 had some really beautiful features, like recently in the design files. 0:09:38.120 --> 0:09:41.200 She also works with so Folk Interiors, which is quite 0:09:41.200 --> 0:09:43.880 a well known interior company, have used her throughout a 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:45.439 lot of their show homes and whatnot. 0:09:45.800 --> 0:09:48.040 So I, oh, yeah, I've just pulled her up. 0:09:48.280 --> 0:09:50.040 I'm obsessed. I'm obsessed with her. 0:09:50.040 --> 0:09:52.400 I've been following her for so long, and so I'm 0:09:52.760 --> 0:09:54.440 really excited that we're now going to have one of 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:57.360 her artworks going into our house. And then another artist 0:09:57.400 --> 0:09:59.079 I wanted to share with you as well, someone who 0:09:59.080 --> 0:10:01.800 I came across more re But I've just bought a 0:10:01.840 --> 0:10:04.640 stack of little artworks, so you know how sometimes you 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:06.480 don't want that one big piece. You want like a 0:10:06.520 --> 0:10:08.960 collection of little ones, maybe to make a college wall. 0:10:09.440 --> 0:10:12.360 So I've got one in my lounge room to shrines. 0:10:12.640 --> 0:10:14.480 Bet in mind, I have a collage wall in my lounger, 0:10:14.800 --> 0:10:16.520 so you don't need to explain to me what that is, Laura, 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:17.560 please continue. 0:10:17.200 --> 0:10:20.640 Okay, Well, her name is Ella Martin. She's also based 0:10:20.720 --> 0:10:23.880 in Sydney. That her artworks are really really beautiful and 0:10:23.960 --> 0:10:27.120 also exceptionally affordable. Like I was genuinely shocked when I 0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:30.120 saw how affordable they are for original artworks, and that 0:10:30.200 --> 0:10:32.600 kind of means that because they are smaller, you can 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:34.440 get a few of them and create those really cool 0:10:34.480 --> 0:10:37.000 sort of like collective pieces. So we've just bought a 0:10:37.000 --> 0:10:39.280 stack from her as well. I actually I mean good luck. 0:10:39.320 --> 0:10:40.640 I think I cleaned her out because I was like. 0:10:40.600 --> 0:10:42.720 All right, well I'll get them all. She's get up 0:10:42.720 --> 0:10:45.080 the prices now, but she can know that there's just 0:10:45.080 --> 0:10:45.600 two artists. 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:47.920 I've loved following them. I love the way in which 0:10:47.920 --> 0:10:50.960 they create their art. They're very textural, they're really contemporary, 0:10:50.960 --> 0:10:53.199 and I think in terms of what is trending at 0:10:53.200 --> 0:10:54.960 the moment with the kind of the way that they 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:56.880 use color and everything, you guys will love them. 0:10:56.960 --> 0:10:59.280 So go and have a squiz. Great my recommendation, Love. 0:10:59.200 --> 0:11:02.240 That my record mondation this week. It's gonna sound a 0:11:02.240 --> 0:11:05.800 little bit full on, but I found it utterly fascinating 0:11:05.800 --> 0:11:07.400 and I couldn't get enough of it. It's a woman 0:11:07.440 --> 0:11:09.120 by the name of Monty Mada. 0:11:09.200 --> 0:11:09.320 Now. 0:11:09.400 --> 0:11:11.760 I came across a video of hers on Instagram and 0:11:12.040 --> 0:11:14.240 I think it was only about it'd be less than 0:11:14.280 --> 0:11:16.640 two months ago that I started following her and she 0:11:16.720 --> 0:11:19.760 had about four hundred thousand followers. Then I looked at 0:11:19.760 --> 0:11:23.079 her profile this morning before recommending her, and she's got 0:11:23.080 --> 0:11:27.840 one point one million now, so yeah, she's obviously going 0:11:27.880 --> 0:11:30.840 through a little bit of you know, a Surgeen's I guess. 0:11:30.840 --> 0:11:33.800 But she's got this podcast and it's called Flipping Tables Podcast, 0:11:33.840 --> 0:11:37.440 and this particular episode was episode thirteen and it's called 0:11:37.480 --> 0:11:41.679 the Downfall of Dogma. Monty's story. Now, it's her story, 0:11:41.720 --> 0:11:43.680 and it's her just retelling her story. She's the only 0:11:43.679 --> 0:11:45.520 one on the podcast, so it's kind of like that 0:11:45.600 --> 0:11:49.200 narration style. And a part of her story is that 0:11:49.240 --> 0:11:52.960 she comes from a former alt right Christian nationalist family. 0:11:53.400 --> 0:11:54.960 So she grew up in this really small town in 0:11:55.000 --> 0:11:58.440 Wyoming in a really religious family. She attended like a 0:11:58.440 --> 0:12:01.720 private Christian school that her grand father actually founded. They 0:12:01.800 --> 0:12:04.680 went to church multiple times a week, and her dad 0:12:04.679 --> 0:12:08.720 in particular was extreme in his views in almost every sense, 0:12:09.040 --> 0:12:12.280 it's really racist. He was really misogynistic. And what I 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:15.320 find most interesting about Monte telling her story is that 0:12:15.760 --> 0:12:19.640 she explains what her life was like so that we 0:12:19.800 --> 0:12:23.400 now can have conversations dispelling a lot of the myths. 0:12:23.440 --> 0:12:24.800 And what I mean by that is like, the one 0:12:24.840 --> 0:12:27.400 that she really focuses on, particularly on her Instagram, is 0:12:27.400 --> 0:12:30.240 people being like, oh, well, that's my opinion, and it's 0:12:30.280 --> 0:12:32.400 because that's what it says in the Bible. Like she'll 0:12:32.400 --> 0:12:34.600 talk about things to do with abortion rights and to 0:12:34.640 --> 0:12:38.240 do with you know, things that impact the political space now, 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:41.600 and she's like, actually, that is not what it says 0:12:41.640 --> 0:12:43.320 in the Bible. This is actually what it says in 0:12:43.360 --> 0:12:46.000 the Bible. And because she understands where they came from, 0:12:46.080 --> 0:12:48.480 you know, she was conditioned in the same way and she. 0:12:48.600 --> 0:12:50.560 Used to be that way because it was all she 0:12:50.600 --> 0:12:51.040 ever knew. 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:53.840 It was like docks in the Bible, but she doxing 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:56.400 the people that are using the Bible to justify really 0:12:56.960 --> 0:12:59.280 awful opinions and thoughts and beliefs. 0:13:00.160 --> 0:13:02.600 It's so interesting when someone like that has been like 0:13:02.679 --> 0:13:05.080 deprogrammed in a way, but they still have all the 0:13:05.120 --> 0:13:07.680 information and they're almost the best people to speak on 0:13:07.720 --> 0:13:09.680 these things because they can see it from both sides. 0:13:09.880 --> 0:13:12.480 Yeah, and they also are able to kind of dispel 0:13:12.679 --> 0:13:15.120 some of the stuff that people say that isn't. 0:13:14.920 --> 0:13:17.600 Actually true, you know, an left scientology church. 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:19.640 Yes, it's kind of like she was to the point 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:21.960 where it would be considered almost a cult, like it 0:13:22.040 --> 0:13:25.400 was so full on their beliefs. And Yeah, because she's 0:13:25.480 --> 0:13:28.520 experienced it, she can speak on it, and she can 0:13:28.559 --> 0:13:30.640 also speak on the opposing opinion that she has now 0:13:30.679 --> 0:13:33.720 grown to have. I actually think she might be someone 0:13:33.720 --> 0:13:35.600 that could be really interesting to interview. 0:13:35.640 --> 0:13:37.920 I know it's a little bit hectic. 0:13:37.720 --> 0:13:38.600 We'll talk about that offair. 0:13:40.520 --> 0:13:43.240 I think you'd be interested anyway. This episode is a podcast. 0:13:43.240 --> 0:13:45.800 It is called Flipping Tables Podcast, or you could follow 0:13:45.840 --> 0:13:47.640 her Instagram Monty Mada. 0:13:48.040 --> 0:13:50.400 Yeah, I found it really really interesting. It's number thirteen. 0:13:51.240 --> 0:13:56.280 Let's get into the questions, all right, Question number one. 0:13:56.800 --> 0:13:59.680 I like the headline for this separated but I need sex? 0:14:00.080 --> 0:14:03.000 Well that's unpack. Hey, guys, I need some help. My 0:14:03.080 --> 0:14:06.240 husband and I had separated in March. We've been together 0:14:06.280 --> 0:14:09.160 for twelve years, married for seven, with two kids under five. 0:14:09.600 --> 0:14:11.880 It has been amicable, and to be honest, I think 0:14:11.920 --> 0:14:14.880 I mourn the relationship a long time before we actually separated. 0:14:15.240 --> 0:14:19.000 My question is this, though I am horny. 0:14:18.440 --> 0:14:23.640 That's a statement that's. 0:14:20.960 --> 0:14:24.440 Not loll in no way, shape or form. Am I 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:26.760 ready to date a man, but a girl has needs. 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:28.880 My girlfriends keep saying that I should just get on 0:14:28.920 --> 0:14:31.640 the apps, which seems like it's good in theory, except 0:14:31.680 --> 0:14:33.840 that I live in a very small city where everyone 0:14:33.920 --> 0:14:36.080 knows everyone, and I know I will come across his 0:14:36.200 --> 0:14:38.480 mates on the apps who will tell him that I'm 0:14:38.480 --> 0:14:39.400 on there, and then they. 0:14:39.320 --> 0:14:41.040 Will be even more nasty than he is now. 0:14:41.520 --> 0:14:43.760 I just don't know if I should say fuck it 0:14:44.200 --> 0:14:45.800 and do it or is it too soon? 0:14:46.280 --> 0:14:46.560 Help? 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:52.560 Oh, my time and I separated in March. That's not long. 0:14:52.640 --> 0:14:54.000 March April main that's dream month. 0:14:54.120 --> 0:14:56.080 No, that's really that is a very short period of 0:14:56.080 --> 0:14:59.360 time to be actively because okay, firstly, do whatever you 0:14:59.360 --> 0:15:00.920 want to your sep you can live your life. 0:15:00.960 --> 0:15:02.400 Oh yeah, No, I'm not saying it for that reason. 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:04.080 I'm just trying to when you say is it too soon, 0:15:04.160 --> 0:15:05.720 I'm just trying to do the math. Okay, so you've 0:15:05.720 --> 0:15:09.120 been separated for three months, you were together for twelve years. 0:15:09.920 --> 0:15:11.000 At the end of the day, you can do what 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:12.240 you want. You can do what you want to day 0:15:12.240 --> 0:15:14.640 after a separation, you know, it's up to you. The's 0:15:14.680 --> 0:15:16.920 no right or wrong. But when you've got kids and 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:18.840 it's twelve years and you're in a small town, then 0:15:19.080 --> 0:15:21.600 like two to three months would be deemed as soon 0:15:21.640 --> 0:15:24.240 by a lot of people. I want to say, go 0:15:24.280 --> 0:15:25.960 and do what you want and go and get on 0:15:26.000 --> 0:15:28.240 the apps, because that's what you should be doing. You 0:15:28.280 --> 0:15:30.360 do need to move on with your life and do 0:15:30.400 --> 0:15:32.400 whatever you feel like is the right thing for you. 0:15:33.040 --> 0:15:36.200 But unfortunately, you do need to take into consideration what 0:15:36.240 --> 0:15:40.360 repercussions there will be and for you. Unfortunately, you know 0:15:40.560 --> 0:15:42.480 he and his friends are going to be twas Like 0:15:42.520 --> 0:15:44.840 you've said, they're already nasty. It's not great. Will they 0:15:44.880 --> 0:15:48.000 be nastier. My answer is yes, if he sees that 0:15:48.080 --> 0:15:50.080 you are on apps, he will try to use that 0:15:50.120 --> 0:15:52.400 against you. He might try and manipulate you in some 0:15:52.480 --> 0:15:55.000 way with the kids, or I don't feel like it's 0:15:55.000 --> 0:15:57.320 going to end well. But I hate saying that because 0:15:57.640 --> 0:15:59.800 in an ideal world it shouldn't matter and it shouldn't 0:15:59.800 --> 0:16:02.800 stop you. But we have to be realistic here, and 0:16:03.040 --> 0:16:05.520 if he's not, if this is not amicable and he's 0:16:05.520 --> 0:16:08.800