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Speaker 1: floating around of the weekend, A massive relationship therapist. He
Speaker 1: is so big and so powerful, so important that Gwyneth
Speaker 1: Paltrow has given him the tick of approval.
Speaker 2: So we should probably stop following along with what he
Speaker 2: has to say immediately.
Speaker 3: So I assume you're talking about Stan Tatkin.
Speaker 4: Correct. Yes, yes, he.
Speaker 3: Wrote a book about how to overcome conflicts in a relationship,
Speaker 3: and Gwyneth Paltrow loves him, so yes, let's not listen
Speaker 3: to anything he says.
Speaker 5: But what does he have to say?
Speaker 1: He's essentially said, here are the five major red flags.
Speaker 1: Your relationship cannot move past this. If you have experienced
Speaker 1: any one of these issues, your relationship is doomed. Put
Speaker 1: your life jacket on. Escape through the window now, because
Speaker 1: there is no going back. So let's see how we
Speaker 1: all fare if we all tick off any of these
Speaker 1: points from past or current relationships. He number one, you
Speaker 1: don't trust your partner due to previous in fidelities.
Speaker 2: Oh I mean, yes, that feels pretty. That feels like
Speaker 2: some pretty good.
Speaker 3: Advice ground solid breaking stand.
Speaker 2: So cheating yeah yeah yeah, well I mean, but not
Speaker 2: being able to get over the cheating.
Speaker 5: Yes, yeah, great, you're holding a grudge chap.
Speaker 4: I think we all can agree on that.
Speaker 2: Yees.
Speaker 1: Point Number two, you want an open relationship but your
Speaker 1: partner doesn't.
Speaker 3: Remember when I floated that went with my new boyfriend Ben,
Speaker 3: not the actual open relationship that I wanted one, but
Speaker 3: I just for like shits and giggles because we're new.
Speaker 3: I was like, how do you feel about an open relationship?
Speaker 3: Went down like a lead balloon. He was like, hard, No,
Speaker 3: it's cheating. And we're long distance.
Speaker 5: As well, So these seemed pretty straightforward.
Speaker 4: What about number three?
Speaker 1: You want kids but your partner doesn't, relationships doomed.
Speaker 3: There's a pretty big deal breaker. I agree.
Speaker 2: I do think this is a deal breaker. However, I
Speaker 2: didn't really want kids when I first got with Matt,
Speaker 2: but he really wanted them and it kind of changed
Speaker 2: my mind. So I feel like you could change your mind,
Speaker 2: but you need to know pretty early on.
Speaker 3: What I'm hearing is Matt trapped you? Yeah, so you can.
Speaker 2: I was baby trapped by my partner now and the
Speaker 2: relationship is good.
Speaker 4: Wait, why did you not want kids? Laws?
Speaker 1: Because you're what I know, I only know you as
Speaker 1: a mother, but I look at you and go, you're
Speaker 1: the best mum out there.
Speaker 2: I forget you.
Speaker 3: Guys didn't know each other pre motherhood.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I just never I never had that maternal urge.
Speaker 2: I mean a lot of women really had that sort
Speaker 2: of undying pool to become a mum, and that never
Speaker 2: hit me. I always kind of thought, well, maybe it
Speaker 2: might happen, and if it does, I'll be fine with it,
Speaker 2: I guess. But I never really could visualize myself as
Speaker 2: a mum. And then when Matt came along, because he's
Speaker 2: such I mean, he's he's built to be a dad.
Speaker 2: He's genuinely the best dad. I think, I just kind
Speaker 2: of I could see it more and more. And then
Speaker 2: all of a sudden, I was clucky and I was like,
Speaker 2: who is this person was when I was pregnant, And
Speaker 2: you know, it all happened very quickly.
Speaker 3: Now I've got a tire leage shock, I've got a
Speaker 3: business we do. I'm like you can't go right.
Speaker 5: It's trying to stop me from having three All right,
Speaker 5: quint number three?
Speaker 4: Quiet? That was three point number four.
Speaker 1: I can't cap you hold a grudge over being asked
Speaker 1: to sign a pre nup.
Speaker 3: Oh this is actually sticky territory. Oh my god, do
Speaker 3: you know what? I just remember it. This is a
Speaker 3: blast from the past. When I was on the Bachelor
Speaker 3: Volcano six years ago? Now, I was on with the
Speaker 3: Honey Badger. Oh yea who's currently in was in the jungle.
Speaker 2: Do you know what?
Speaker 3: We were on a date? I can't believe I've forgotten this.
Speaker 3: We were on a date towards the end. Because for
Speaker 3: those plaint at home, I was the first person in
Speaker 3: the whole universe to win the Bachelor and not win anything.
Speaker 3: I got to the end.
Speaker 2: No, no, when you say I got to the end, but
Speaker 2: you didn't win, you just got dumped at the end,
Speaker 2: like what it is?
Speaker 3: Okay, it's right for you because you one had two
Speaker 3: kids and got married. You didn't wear a white dress
Speaker 3: thinking you had the happy ever after and then got dumped. Okay,
Speaker 3: let me have my moment.
Speaker 5: Okay, sorry, without winning, I got dumped.
Speaker 3: I one without winning.
Speaker 4: You lost.
Speaker 3: Look it's about perceptions. I think I'm the real win here. No,
Speaker 3: But on one of the dates towards the end, he
Speaker 3: said to me, We're sitting in his car, we've been bowling,
Speaker 3: and he had said, out of nowhere, you feel about
Speaker 3: a prenup?
Speaker 5: That's what he said to me. WHOA yeah, And I
Speaker 5: was like wait.
Speaker 3: I was like, hang on for you or me, I'm
Speaker 3: probably in more than you certainly do.
Speaker 2: Now. I don't imagine he wanted if you were to
Speaker 2: be the one at the end, he wanted to know
Speaker 2: how you felt about a prenup.
Speaker 3: Well, all he's all I can say is I'm not
Speaker 3: gonna twist words. But he did say, how do you feel?
Speaker 3: What are your thoughts on a prenup? And I actually
Speaker 3: made the joke and I said, yes, I'm glad you asked.
Speaker 3: I was probably gonna get you to sign one.
Speaker 4: My god.
Speaker 3: I thought it was funny at the time.
Speaker 4: How much was making from those trady andies that he
Speaker 4: was flogging on break.
Speaker 3: We all know he made a lot. He made a
Speaker 3: lot for going on the batch. Obviously, that's why he
Speaker 3: went on it, because he didn't end up with anyone.
Speaker 2: But I mean, I think it would definitely leave a
Speaker 2: bit of a sore taste if someone was so hell
Speaker 2: bent on signing a prenup. I know it's important because
Speaker 2: obviously it protects you, but it also signifies to me
Speaker 2: that maybe you're thinking that the relationship's not gonna last.
Speaker 3: Like no, because if I had, if I was when
Speaker 3: I make it to Hollywood, I have thought about this.
Speaker 3: When I make it to Hollywood and I changed my
Speaker 3: name to Mayo, I would probably have a prenup.
Speaker 5: And I actually eighty manifest.
Speaker 3: I think when you've got big, big money, I get it.
Speaker 3: I do understand it. Because if you've worked your whole life,
Speaker 3: you said to this money and the other person doesn't
Speaker 3: want to contribute at all to the relationship, I think
Speaker 3: that's okay. Otherwise it's like fifty to fifty.
Speaker 4: None of us are luckily, you know, none of us.
Speaker 4: I think we'll be fine. None of us have to
Speaker 4: final point, this is the last one.
Speaker 1: You and your partner are forced to live far far
Speaker 1: away from each other.
Speaker 2: I e.
Speaker 4: Australia and Scotland, I E.
Speaker 3: Brittany and every relationship. How do you say about that,
Speaker 3: brit So are you saying, Mitch that Stan is saying
Speaker 3: that I'm doomed because I have a long.
Speaker 1: I don't agree with Stan, as we've proven he's not
Speaker 1: exactly bang on with the other points.
Speaker 4: But this is what he's saying, long distance will dur
Speaker 4: you relationships.
Speaker 2: Well, it says here that long distance it leads to dissatisfaction.
Speaker 5: In the relationship.
Speaker 3: I agree. I'm going to agree with Stan. Actually, I
Speaker 3: don't think long distance relationships can work forever. I think
Speaker 3: they can be beautiful relationships if they have an end
Speaker 3: goal together and you're both are working towards something. But
Speaker 3: you can't you can't be away from each other forever.
Speaker 3: Otherwise it's not a relationship. We have a pen pal.
Speaker 2: Well, we thoroughly look forward to the day when Ben
Speaker 2: moves to Australia, moving scholar.
Speaker 3: Laura is in denial that I might ever ever ever leave.
Speaker 5: We can find about this off.
Speaker 4: Off offtware chance. Do you guys have a prenup?
Speaker 2: We don't have a I feel like I'm just as
Speaker 2: much in a relationship with you as what I am
Speaker 2: with Matt.
Speaker 3: One hundred percent we are, except we don't have the
Speaker 3: makeup sex and listen.
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