WEBVTT - Your vulva is cliterally the BEST! 0:00:19.160 --> 0:00:22.200 Hi, guys and all, welcome back to another episode of 0:00:22.239 --> 0:00:24.439 Life on Cut. Now. It might be a bit confusing 0:00:24.480 --> 0:00:26.239 to some of you because it's a Wednesday and not 0:00:26.280 --> 0:00:30.840 a Tuesday, but we have a very very very special 0:00:30.880 --> 0:00:33.240 bonus episode for you all today and we are so 0:00:33.280 --> 0:00:35.919 excited to bring you this. But before we get into it, 0:00:35.960 --> 0:00:38.560 I'm Laura and I'm Brittany, and god, we do love 0:00:38.560 --> 0:00:41.120 a bonus episode, don't we, Laura, We've been thrown about left, 0:00:41.159 --> 0:00:43.720 right and center lately. But the reason why we're bringing 0:00:43.720 --> 0:00:46.120 you this bonus episode is because a few weeks ago 0:00:46.200 --> 0:00:48.040 now you might remember, before we went on to Break, 0:00:48.200 --> 0:00:50.360 britt and I did an Ask Uncut episode and we 0:00:50.479 --> 0:00:53.800 spoke about a woman who was asking about labiaplasty. After 0:00:53.840 --> 0:00:58.400 that episode, we had hundreds of you message arson slide 0:00:58.440 --> 0:01:01.440 on into our DMS to tell us that we needed 0:01:01.480 --> 0:01:05.600 to interview Ellie from Comfortable in My Skin Now. Ellie 0:01:05.800 --> 0:01:09.800 is a photographer. She is a wonderful, warm woman who 0:01:09.840 --> 0:01:14.160 spends her days photographing volvers. The reason why she photographs 0:01:14.200 --> 0:01:16.760 a whole variety of different women's volvers is because she 0:01:16.880 --> 0:01:21.919 is working to destigmatize conversations around body acceptance. Conversations around 0:01:22.000 --> 0:01:26.240 LaBier acceptance, and also conversations around menstruation and just all 0:01:26.319 --> 0:01:29.280 things that we as women experience but maybe feel too 0:01:29.360 --> 0:01:32.520 self conscious to talk about. Before we do jump into that, 0:01:32.560 --> 0:01:34.520 we do want to just thank our sponsor, which is 0:01:34.600 --> 0:01:37.000 Bond's Bloody Comfy period Undiase. I think it's just the 0:01:37.080 --> 0:01:40.920 absolute perfect time because periods can be uncomfortable. We do 0:01:41.000 --> 0:01:43.120 want to make sure we are at the most comfortable 0:01:43.160 --> 0:01:46.360 that we could possibly be, and Bonds Bloody Comfy Undies 0:01:46.440 --> 0:01:49.520 do that. They're environmentally friendly, they're easy to watch and reuse, 0:01:49.640 --> 0:01:52.720 and they hold up to four tampons worth. As women, 0:01:52.800 --> 0:01:55.840 a lot of us use non reusable sanitary items, whether 0:01:55.880 --> 0:01:59.080 it be tampons or pads, and the statistics around the 0:01:59.120 --> 0:02:02.520 number of those in landfill every year are just absolutely 0:02:02.520 --> 0:02:05.120 mind blowing. So three hundred million tampons are sold in 0:02:05.160 --> 0:02:09.079 Australia every single year and five hundred million pads are 0:02:09.120 --> 0:02:12.000 sold every single year and every single one of those 0:02:12.160 --> 0:02:15.800 ends up in landfill, which is just crazy. Now, Brett, 0:02:15.840 --> 0:02:18.160 before we get into speaking to Ellie, I have a 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:21.640 question for you. What is your opinion? And we have Okay, 0:02:21.720 --> 0:02:23.440 we speak about so much in this podcast. We have 0:02:23.480 --> 0:02:25.760 shared so much and I actually can't believe that we 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:27.960 haven't covered this yet. So I'm going to throw you 0:02:28.000 --> 0:02:29.840 straight in. They want to know your personal views on this. 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:33.760 What is your opinion on sex during your period? We 0:02:33.840 --> 0:02:36.560 actually haven't talked about this, now that you say it, 0:02:36.960 --> 0:02:40.920 my ideas around sex with my period, I think it 0:02:40.960 --> 0:02:45.960 is absolutely fine. I actually and I mean it depends 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:48.000 what your period is like for yourself. Some people's periods 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:50.360 are so painful and so heavy that the last thing 0:02:50.440 --> 0:02:52.120 they want to do is have a penis come anywhere 0:02:52.120 --> 0:02:55.320 near them. For me, I love it. You're like, bring 0:02:55.360 --> 0:02:57.919 that penis that made my period. I'm very lucky. I 0:02:57.960 --> 0:03:01.120 don't get it heavy enough to be in a lot 0:03:01.160 --> 0:03:03.440 of pain, and I get like one day where I'm 0:03:03.480 --> 0:03:05.560 uncomfortable and that's it. I've been very lucky with my 0:03:05.600 --> 0:03:07.880 periods in that sense. So I love sex on my period. 0:03:07.960 --> 0:03:09.880 I probably get HORNI or on sex my period, and 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:12.320 I've heard a lot of women say that, and I 0:03:12.320 --> 0:03:13.920 think it's just up to your partner. I think you 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:15.799 just have to throw it out there and say, hey, 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:18.160 like I'm horny, you want to do this? And I 0:03:18.200 --> 0:03:19.960 can guarantee ninety nine point nine percent of men are 0:03:19.960 --> 0:03:22.240 probably gonna be like hells, yeah, yeah. I mean I've 0:03:22.240 --> 0:03:25.240 definitely dated some guys who are not into it, who 0:03:25.320 --> 0:03:27.840 aren't interested in having sex during like when I'm on 0:03:27.880 --> 0:03:29.400 my period, when I have my period. But at the 0:03:29.400 --> 0:03:32.240 same time, it almost makes me mad at them, Like 0:03:32.560 --> 0:03:34.000 and I know that that's not fair. I know that 0:03:34.040 --> 0:03:37.040 everybody has a choice and it's completely up to them, 0:03:37.400 --> 0:03:39.320 But at the same time, I'm like, this is something 0:03:39.360 --> 0:03:42.360 that is so incredibly normal. It happens to me every 0:03:42.400 --> 0:03:45.480 fucking month. Why not. I mean, there's a ways around it, 0:03:45.560 --> 0:03:48.000 of course, Like there's some tips and techniques that you 0:03:48.000 --> 0:03:50.600 could probably implement if you don't want to ruin your sheets. 0:03:51.000 --> 0:03:53.280 If you do the math, I'm just gonna quickly do 0:03:53.320 --> 0:03:56.280 it here right now. If you're doing one week a month, 0:03:56.600 --> 0:03:59.800 so that is three months worth of you not having 0:03:59.800 --> 0:04:02.400 sex or not being able to have sex a year, 0:04:02.480 --> 0:04:05.040 and that is too much. That is too long for me. 0:04:05.360 --> 0:04:07.200 I'm all for it. I don't think it's a problem, 0:04:07.240 --> 0:04:09.160 but obviously your partner has to be on board. You 0:04:09.160 --> 0:04:11.600 are absolutely robbing yourself if you don't have sex during 0:04:11.600 --> 0:04:13.160 your period. And I know that a lot of girls 0:04:13.200 --> 0:04:15.720 will maybe have sex at the very beginning or at 0:04:15.760 --> 0:04:18.240 the end where their flow is lighter. But for me, 0:04:18.600 --> 0:04:20.440 I don't think that that really makes a difference because 0:04:20.480 --> 0:04:22.600 usually if I'm having sex at the end of my period, 0:04:22.600 --> 0:04:24.320 when my flow is lighter, it just brings that bad 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:26.640 boy back on. I mean, you can also just have 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:28.240 sex in a shower if you like, which I think 0:04:28.320 --> 0:04:31.040 is great anyway. But the fact of the matter is this, 0:04:31.400 --> 0:04:33.159 I know this is what it is for me, and 0:04:33.200 --> 0:04:34.719 I know this is for a lot of people because 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:38.159 we've done the research. It can actually relieve symptoms. It 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:40.719 can make you feel better, It can help with cramps, 0:04:40.760 --> 0:04:42.880 it can help with headaches, and there are a lot 0:04:42.880 --> 0:04:45.240 of articles on that. And I personally know that when 0:04:45.279 --> 0:04:48.880 I have had cramps for whatever reason, sex has made 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:50.760 me feel better. And don't I don't know why. I 0:04:50.760 --> 0:04:53.200 don't know what kind of witchcraft and wizardary that is, 0:04:53.240 --> 0:04:55.360 but that's what's been happening to me. Don't let anyone 0:04:55.400 --> 0:04:57.480 here think that we don't do our thorough research before 0:04:57.520 --> 0:05:00.320 doing these episodes. But there are actually some differ Oh, 0:05:00.360 --> 0:05:02.600 I had a lot of sex to do this research. 0:05:04.200 --> 0:05:06.520 I put the research in. No worry, Okay, so there 0:05:06.520 --> 0:05:08.960 are actually a few health benefits or benefits of having 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:12.000 sex during your period, which if your partner or whoever 0:05:12.040 --> 0:05:13.840 you're dating or seeing or whatever doesn't want to have 0:05:13.880 --> 0:05:15.600 sex during your period, you can now whip these out 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:17.240 and be like I think we should. It's actually better 0:05:17.240 --> 0:05:20.000 for me. Just linked in this episode, having sex in 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:22.720 your period, it can actually make your period shorter. So 0:05:22.800 --> 0:05:25.279 having sex may make your period shorter because the muscles 0:05:25.320 --> 0:05:28.320 contract during an orgasm and actually pushes out the uterine 0:05:28.320 --> 0:05:31.000 contents faster. Which is kind of the same and this 0:05:31.040 --> 0:05:32.839 is going to be a bit too much information for 0:05:32.920 --> 0:05:36.480 some people, but when you breastfeed after having a baby, 0:05:36.800 --> 0:05:39.680 it actually makes your uterus contract and that's what makes 0:05:39.680 --> 0:05:42.760 your uterus gow back down to size faster. So every 0:05:42.839 --> 0:05:46.400 time you breastfeed often you'll have these they're quite painful. 0:05:46.440 --> 0:05:49.320 You'll have these painful contractions that happen at the very 0:05:49.400 --> 0:05:52.360 first couple of weeks after having a baby, and that's 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:55.800 actually your uterus going back down to the original size. 0:05:55.839 --> 0:05:59.200 It helps to release hormones which contracts your uterus. Now 0:05:59.200 --> 0:06:01.680 a similar things happened during orgasm as well, which is 0:06:01.720 --> 0:06:03.240 why some people can have a little bit of pain 0:06:03.320 --> 0:06:06.080 after having an orgasm in their uterus. So it also 0:06:06.120 --> 0:06:09.719 increases your sex drive. Your libido can change during menstruation, 0:06:09.880 --> 0:06:13.480 which is because of hormone of fluctuations. It's a natural lubricant, 0:06:13.560 --> 0:06:16.200 so like, don't be scared, ladies. And also it can 0:06:16.240 --> 0:06:19.840 help to relieve headaches because of releasing endorphins. So if 0:06:19.880 --> 0:06:21.920 you've been sitting on the fence, you've been scared, or 0:06:21.920 --> 0:06:24.599 you've been embarrassed, gon't give it a crack. Do you 0:06:24.640 --> 0:06:27.000 ever find it embarrassing, brit Like, is that something that 0:06:27.080 --> 0:06:29.800 ever worries you? Or is it just doesn't even come 0:06:29.839 --> 0:06:32.839 onto your radar, not at all. It doesn't. It literally 0:06:33.560 --> 0:06:35.920 doesn't even cross my mind because it's such a natural thing. 0:06:36.040 --> 0:06:39.440 And I wonder if this is something maybe that has 0:06:39.480 --> 0:06:42.000 come with age, because we didn't speak about it a 0:06:42.040 --> 0:06:44.400 lot when we were younger, these sort of conversations they 0:06:44.440 --> 0:06:47.279 weren't being had, so nobody really went and spoke to 0:06:47.320 --> 0:06:49.560 each other about their periods, and we didn't have other 0:06:49.600 --> 0:06:51.400 women that we look up to that we're talking about 0:06:51.520 --> 0:06:53.320 the fact that they go and have sex on the period, 0:06:53.400 --> 0:06:55.400 or that this has happened, or that they've walked through 0:06:55.440 --> 0:06:57.240 the park and they've had blood on their pants. You know, 0:06:57.560 --> 0:07:00.320 these sorts of conversations weren't being had, and periods were 0:07:00.520 --> 0:07:04.120 essentially tied to embarrassing moments. I just don't feel like 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:07.039 that's the case anymore. So for me, I'm super open 0:07:07.080 --> 0:07:08.559 about it. I would just be like, I'm on my period. 0:07:08.600 --> 0:07:11.440 You want to have sex? Jordan will be like, yeah, right, 0:07:12.120 --> 0:07:14.560 I don't get yeah. And Matt, Actually though, I think 0:07:14.560 --> 0:07:16.400 when Matt and I first started dating, I don't think 0:07:16.440 --> 0:07:20.200 that it was something that he not that he cared 0:07:20.240 --> 0:07:22.000 and not that he was like, you know, no, we're 0:07:22.040 --> 0:07:23.800 not going to do it, but it was definitely not 0:07:24.280 --> 0:07:25.640 I think he would have a little bit more of 0:07:25.680 --> 0:07:27.560 an adversion to it. I think he would be like, oh, 0:07:27.600 --> 0:07:30.600 I prefer not I could wait. But I really hate 0:07:30.600 --> 0:07:33.080 that mentality. And it's not like a pressurey meant having 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:35.080 sex with me or anything, but like, we have had 0:07:35.120 --> 0:07:38.320 conversations about it, and he has become way more open 0:07:38.360 --> 0:07:40.120 to it and way more understanding. I think that for 0:07:40.200 --> 0:07:43.360 some guys, it is a conversation that hasn't been had 0:07:43.400 --> 0:07:46.200 because maybe they're ex girlfriends or other people that they've 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:48.520 had sex with in the past have been too scared 0:07:48.560 --> 0:07:51.440 to have that conversation, too embarrassed, and so therefore they 0:07:51.440 --> 0:07:53.960 have this idea that like, oh, I'm not supposed to, 0:07:54.160 --> 0:07:56.480 I shouldn't. Then there's a little bit of fear factor there. 0:07:56.520 --> 0:07:58.680 But you're so right, like having a period is not 0:07:58.720 --> 0:08:01.360 something that you should be embarrassed about having to, you know, 0:08:01.680 --> 0:08:04.400 have a conversation about having your periods is not something 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:06.400 that you should be embarrassed about. So I do think 0:08:06.440 --> 0:08:08.880 that like maybe it's an age thing as well, and 0:08:08.920 --> 0:08:11.280 as you become more comfortable in your own body, that 0:08:11.440 --> 0:08:14.760 having those conversations with your partner may become easier as well. 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:17.280 If anything, Jordan's probably distoked because he knows I can't 0:08:17.320 --> 0:08:20.640 get pregnant at that time. Hey, so no, that is 0:08:20.680 --> 0:08:24.320 a complete misconception. You clearly didn't do her research. I know, 0:08:24.400 --> 0:08:26.280 I didn't know that it's not your one omulation day, 0:08:26.280 --> 0:08:29.160 So I'm confused. Actually, do you know what you can? 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:32.160 But look, I mean it's meant to be incredibly unlikely 0:08:32.240 --> 0:08:34.120 that you can get pregnant during a period, But I think, 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:37.160 like with all things, or on the side of caution, 0:08:37.280 --> 0:08:39.200 you also can get pregnant from the pull out method. 0:08:39.280 --> 0:08:43.480 Let me tell you that ladies, gentlemen, and everybody, Okay, 0:08:43.600 --> 0:08:46.760 while it's also extremely unlikely, I did do my research 0:08:46.800 --> 0:08:48.800 on this. The simple answer is, yes, you can still 0:08:48.800 --> 0:08:50.840 get pregnant when you have your period. Women are not 0:08:50.880 --> 0:08:53.280 able to conceive whilst they have the period, but sperm 0:08:53.320 --> 0:08:55.839 can survive with this is I'm reading this, guys. Sperm 0:08:55.840 --> 0:08:58.720 can survive within the female reproductive system for up to 0:08:58.800 --> 0:09:01.839 five days, which means that there is a tiny, minuscule 0:09:01.880 --> 0:09:04.080 fraction of a chance that women who do have a 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:07.480 small chance of becoming pregnant from unprotected sex during this time. 0:09:08.120 --> 0:09:11.400 So I would just say, maybe it's not worth risking 0:09:11.400 --> 0:09:13.600 it for the biscuit in this instance, Like if your 0:09:13.600 --> 0:09:15.520 pint has got some sperm, it's like a real hanger 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:17.760 on her own is sitting in there for like ten days, 0:09:17.800 --> 0:09:20.360 God help him. That's Maths, You're a risk, Matts. This 0:09:20.400 --> 0:09:22.760 is just like gone for goal, hangs around. Mats just 0:09:22.760 --> 0:09:25.199 hangs around for a month. I have been I have 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:28.520 been pregnant more in our relationship than I have not 0:09:28.559 --> 0:09:30.920 been pregnant. That's literally where I'm at right now. That's 0:09:30.920 --> 0:09:34.280 insane anyway, guys. So we absolutely loved this chat with 0:09:34.320 --> 0:09:37.040 Ellie and thank you to every single person who recommended her, 0:09:37.160 --> 0:09:39.559 and I mean, I honestly cannot tell you it was 0:09:39.720 --> 0:09:42.520 hundreds and hundreds of you. This is a conversation all 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:46.280 around just having more acceptance of your own vulva. And 0:09:46.559 --> 0:09:48.719 when we say vulva, we do actually get Ellie to 0:09:48.800 --> 0:09:50.880 unpack what that means, because I know that there is 0:09:50.920 --> 0:09:53.200 probably going to be some people who probably may have 0:09:53.280 --> 0:09:55.280 not even heard of that term before. A lot of 0:09:55.320 --> 0:09:57.720 people would refer to it as a vagina. We're calling 0:09:57.720 --> 0:10:00.000 it a vulver because that is what is anatomically correct 0:10:00.040 --> 0:10:02.040 in this conversation. The reason why we wanted to have 0:10:02.080 --> 0:10:05.640 this conversation is because there's still so much stigma around 0:10:05.760 --> 0:10:08.440 what your vulgar should look like or could look like. 0:10:08.600 --> 0:10:11.080 And I think that there's a comparison that happens even 0:10:11.120 --> 0:10:14.320 though we probably don't have a very good idea about 0:10:14.400 --> 0:10:17.360 what our friend's vulva looks like or what is normal 0:10:17.520 --> 0:10:20.040 on that spectrum. So I think in order for us 0:10:20.040 --> 0:10:21.679 to be more accepting and to be able to love 0:10:21.720 --> 0:10:24.720 ourselves a little bit more, this conversation is really going 0:10:24.800 --> 0:10:26.960 to help a lot of people. If you've ever thought 0:10:27.000 --> 0:10:29.200 about having Laby aplasty. If you've ever ever had a 0:10:29.200 --> 0:10:32.000 moment where you've thought like, ah, fuck, you know I 0:10:32.040 --> 0:10:33.679 don't like my vagina the way it is, or I 0:10:33.720 --> 0:10:36.000 don't like my vulva the way it is, then this 0:10:36.200 --> 0:10:39.160 is one hundred percent a conversation for you, and I 0:10:39.200 --> 0:10:42.600 really hope that you walk away from it feeling incredibly empowered. 0:10:45.520 --> 0:10:47.959 Today we have the woman from behind the camera and 0:10:48.000 --> 0:10:50.520 the vulver and the creator flipped through my flaps and 0:10:50.559 --> 0:10:54.000 comfortable in my skin. Ellie, Welcome to Life Uncut. 0:10:54.160 --> 0:10:56.240 Thanks girls, I'm so happy to be here and be 0:10:56.280 --> 0:10:57.480 a part of your podcast. 0:10:57.600 --> 0:10:58.760 It's an absolute on us. 0:10:59.000 --> 0:11:01.240 We're so so excited to have you. And I know 0:11:01.440 --> 0:11:04.360 I mentioned this earlier, but when we did an ask 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:06.920 Guncut section, this is going back quite a few weeks now, 0:11:07.240 --> 0:11:09.040 and it was from somebody who had written in in 0:11:09.080 --> 0:11:12.880 regards to Lavia plasty. And I cannot tell you how 0:11:12.920 --> 0:11:16.440 many of our listeners sent me your Instagram, sent me 0:11:16.480 --> 0:11:18.559 your details and said you have to get Ellie onto 0:11:18.600 --> 0:11:21.240 the podcast. So it is truly just like such a 0:11:21.320 --> 0:11:23.120 joy that you have joined us to do this today, 0:11:23.160 --> 0:11:25.920 and we have so many questions for you. But before 0:11:25.960 --> 0:11:28.760 we get into that, We do a section on every 0:11:29.000 --> 0:11:31.720 single podcast episode with every single guest, and it's called 0:11:31.760 --> 0:11:35.280 Accidentally Unfiltered, and that is where you tell us your 0:11:35.320 --> 0:11:38.760 most embarrassing story, and it's very relatable, it's very humanizing, 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:41.920 and we all laugh at you together with you're at you, 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:46.199 no with and at it's both with and at Well. 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:48.400 I have a story, but I was thinking, it's not 0:11:48.760 --> 0:11:52.960 totally embarrassing for me, but this just happened last night, 0:11:53.080 --> 0:11:54.880 and so I was thinking. 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:56.840 It's pretty beautiful what actually happened. 0:11:56.840 --> 0:11:58.240 And I was like, I don't know, I just want 0:11:58.240 --> 0:12:00.720 to tell this story because it's just happened. About two 0:12:00.760 --> 0:12:04.679 weeks ago, ended up hooking up with an Israelian guy 0:12:05.000 --> 0:12:05.880 and they're so hot. 0:12:06.240 --> 0:12:07.360 They're so hot. 0:12:08.480 --> 0:12:11.199 We decided to meet up again, and so we went 0:12:11.240 --> 0:12:14.520 out to a bar in Byron Bay, and while I 0:12:14.559 --> 0:12:16.800 was there with him and a few other friends, I 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:21.720 actually met a girl there playing pool and her and 0:12:21.760 --> 0:12:25.319 I hit it off straight away. Then my roommate invited 0:12:25.360 --> 0:12:28.199 both of them back with a few other people. So 0:12:28.320 --> 0:12:31.520 I was just in all sorts because I was like. 0:12:31.559 --> 0:12:33.560 Oh my goodness, how am I going to do with this? 0:12:34.080 --> 0:12:34.800 What am I going to do? 0:12:34.840 --> 0:12:38.360 Because I connected a lot more with her. But anyway, 0:12:38.520 --> 0:12:41.040 I was kind of on a date with this Israelian guy, 0:12:41.679 --> 0:12:43.600 and so we get back to our house and she's 0:12:43.679 --> 0:12:46.280 telling me that she had never been with a girl 0:12:46.320 --> 0:12:48.160 before and that she was really nervous. 0:12:48.440 --> 0:12:51.080 And anyway, so we ended up going to this. 0:12:51.160 --> 0:12:53.600 Room and mak him out and kissing, and then I 0:12:53.679 --> 0:12:55.480 said to her, you know what, this is probably not 0:12:55.520 --> 0:12:57.440 the best time for you to have your first experience 0:12:57.440 --> 0:13:00.720 with a girl, because I absolutely wasted and I've Israelian 0:13:00.760 --> 0:13:03.199 guy waiting there for me, so it's a bit sneaky, weird. 0:13:05.559 --> 0:13:09.599 And then anyway, she was super, super embarrassed about the 0:13:09.600 --> 0:13:12.080 whole situation, and I think she maybe felt like I'd 0:13:12.080 --> 0:13:13.600 sent her home, but I was like, no, I just 0:13:13.640 --> 0:13:15.520 don't want your first experience with a girl to be 0:13:15.640 --> 0:13:19.040 like this, That's all it is. And then last night 0:13:19.760 --> 0:13:24.400 I'm sitting there at dinner at this restaurant and I 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:27.920 see her walk in with a friend and she sits 0:13:27.960 --> 0:13:31.760 at the table behind me. And as this happened, I 0:13:31.960 --> 0:13:37.080 was showing my friend her Instagram on my page, like oh, 0:13:37.120 --> 0:13:40.760 when she walked in, I was going like, she's so beautiful, 0:13:41.280 --> 0:13:43.760 and we were looking at her eyes, zooming in on 0:13:43.800 --> 0:13:47.560 her eyes and anyway, suddenly I'm like, oh my gosh, 0:13:47.559 --> 0:13:49.680 she's right behind you. She's right behind you. 0:13:49.840 --> 0:13:50.800 She's just walked in. 0:13:51.640 --> 0:13:54.280 And my friend Lulie's going, well, say hi, say hi, 0:13:54.360 --> 0:13:57.000 don't be so awkward, and I was like, okay, just 0:13:57.000 --> 0:13:58.720 give me a minute. I need to calm down because 0:13:58.760 --> 0:14:01.520 I was feeling weird that I was showing her page. 0:14:01.720 --> 0:14:04.640 And then she sits down, and as soon as her 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:05.800 friend sits down, she goes. 0:14:06.400 --> 0:14:08.320 So friend says to her, so show me this girl 0:14:08.320 --> 0:14:11.360 that you hook up on. Yes. 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:15.280 At this exact same time, Lily still has my phone 0:14:15.320 --> 0:14:18.240 with her profile up. She pulls up, well, actually she 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:21.400 was taking screen grabs, so she'd screen grabbed from my Instagram. 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:23.360 She was just in her photos, not on my Insta, 0:14:24.280 --> 0:14:27.280 and she's going through all these photos talking about me. 0:14:27.320 --> 0:14:29.200 And it was such a weird situation because this is 0:14:29.240 --> 0:14:31.400 something you do with your girlfriends all the time. But 0:14:31.560 --> 0:14:34.080 I was watching it happen to me in front of me, 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:36.520 and I could hear everything she was saying and she 0:14:36.560 --> 0:14:38.720 was zooming in on everything, and I was. 0:14:38.720 --> 0:14:42.680 Like, it was such a weird, weird experience. 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:45.120 She was like zooming in on my breast because I 0:14:45.120 --> 0:14:48.200 have really lost tits, and she's going, you. 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:50.400 Know, they're just so big. 0:14:50.440 --> 0:14:52.120 I wouldn't know what to do with them and all 0:14:52.200 --> 0:14:54.400 this stuff because she's never been with a girl. 0:14:54.640 --> 0:14:57.080 Is that what she said, Ellie? Did she say? I 0:14:57.120 --> 0:14:57.880 don't know what to do with that? 0:14:58.120 --> 0:14:59.960 She zoomed in on my breast. I was in a 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:00.760 bikini in the date. 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:03.200 She forest this photo that she'd taken and she's zoomed 0:15:03.240 --> 0:15:05.680 in on my breast and she goes, they're just so big. 0:15:05.720 --> 0:15:07.000 I wouldn't know what to do with them. 0:15:09.280 --> 0:15:12.320 This is outrageous. So hang on, I need to know 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:15.280 what happened with this girl. You're crushing on her. She's 0:15:15.280 --> 0:15:17.200 a table away crushing on you. Neither of you know 0:15:17.520 --> 0:15:20.080 what's happening. Did you speak to the girl? Are you 0:15:20.080 --> 0:15:22.080 getting married and doing it happily ever after? Because I 0:15:22.080 --> 0:15:24.800 feel like the universe has just thrown you two together. 0:15:25.000 --> 0:15:27.240 That's exactly what That's. 0:15:27.000 --> 0:15:29.960 How I felt. I'm so such a big believer of 0:15:30.040 --> 0:15:33.520 letting the universe. Guy, do you like I have total 0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:35.080 faith that the universe knows. 0:15:34.880 --> 0:15:35.560 What's up for me? 0:15:36.080 --> 0:15:37.040 I absolutely do too. 0:15:37.240 --> 0:15:40.320 I was saying, my friend, Okay, I've kind of let 0:15:40.320 --> 0:15:42.160 this go on for too long that now when I 0:15:42.240 --> 0:15:43.440 say something, she's going. 0:15:43.440 --> 0:15:45.600 To be like, why didn't you say high earlier? Because 0:15:45.600 --> 0:15:47.280 I was listening and I was loving it. 0:15:47.360 --> 0:15:49.480 I was like, this is the dream, Like you get 0:15:49.560 --> 0:15:51.560 to hear everything that someone has to say about you. 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:54.120 But imagine if it wasn't good. Imagine if it was 0:15:54.160 --> 0:15:56.560 just like you were listening to someone say something awful. 0:15:56.640 --> 0:15:57.880 How awkward would that be? 0:15:58.000 --> 0:15:58.400 I know? 0:15:58.760 --> 0:16:01.400 Or even like when you use show your friends like 0:16:01.400 --> 0:16:03.640 a photo of guy and you're like, oh, oh, he's 0:16:03.720 --> 0:16:05.800 much better looking than that, that's not his best photo, 0:16:05.800 --> 0:16:07.960 and then you're like ten like you're like ten years 0:16:08.000 --> 0:16:10.120 deep in their profile trying to find the best photo 0:16:10.120 --> 0:16:12.840 of them. He's really hot in person. I swear so 0:16:12.920 --> 0:16:13.760 hot in person, and you. 0:16:13.720 --> 0:16:15.440 Know where they all are, you know where the best 0:16:15.440 --> 0:16:16.760 photos are on their whole grid. 0:16:17.560 --> 0:16:19.920 So what happened, Well, I was quite like you said. 0:16:19.960 --> 0:16:23.120 Then I ended up saying her name and she died. 0:16:23.280 --> 0:16:27.359 She was mortified, She was horrified. She was so embarrassed. 0:16:27.920 --> 0:16:30.840 She was like fanning her face nonstuff, and I just 0:16:30.840 --> 0:16:31.640 said it's fun. 0:16:33.040 --> 0:16:35.080 I joined her. I said, why don't we all just. 0:16:35.160 --> 0:16:37.640 Join tables like we may as well, this is just 0:16:37.800 --> 0:16:39.920 two walker, we're sitting too close to each other, just 0:16:40.200 --> 0:16:43.680 not join. And then we ended up going out to 0:16:43.800 --> 0:16:46.320 a bar and yeah, we ended up going home together 0:16:46.520 --> 0:16:47.520 at the end of the night. 0:16:47.880 --> 0:16:50.680 That's what we want to hear. Success story. Yes, girl, 0:16:51.000 --> 0:16:51.440 that's what. 0:16:51.360 --> 0:16:51.880 You want to hear. 0:16:52.280 --> 0:16:54.960 I won't go into too much detail, but yeah, it 0:16:55.040 --> 0:16:57.720 was just a very strange experience. And if we ended 0:16:57.800 --> 0:17:00.160 up getting married together, I'm just like so excited that 0:17:00.160 --> 0:17:00.960 that's our love story. 0:17:01.080 --> 0:17:03.400 Ellie, tell us a little bit about who you are 0:17:03.520 --> 0:17:05.720 and how comfortable in my skin started. 0:17:05.960 --> 0:17:09.840 Okay, so I'm an Australian girl. 0:17:10.080 --> 0:17:13.159 I guess my story starts in high school in a 0:17:13.200 --> 0:17:16.240 maths classroom when a boy in my class tapped me 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:19.320 on the shoulders and he said to me, he gave 0:17:19.320 --> 0:17:21.320 me a note and I opened it and it said 0:17:21.359 --> 0:17:23.119 do you have an Innie or an AUTI? 0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:26.159 And hang on? How old were you? 0:17:26.440 --> 0:17:27.960 I was about fourteen and he. 0:17:28.000 --> 0:17:30.240 Asked you if you had an inny or an OUDI. Okay, 0:17:30.240 --> 0:17:31.680 first of all, I would have been like, are you 0:17:31.680 --> 0:17:35.119 talking about my belly button or what? Because that's what 0:17:35.400 --> 0:17:37.639 my mind at fourteen would have been, like an Innie, 0:17:37.720 --> 0:17:38.480 drop me to show you. 0:17:39.359 --> 0:17:43.159 Definitely, That's exactly where my mind went until I was 0:17:43.200 --> 0:17:45.320 like talking with all the boys and they were laughing 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:48.479 and they were like, no, they called them vaginas back then. 0:17:48.520 --> 0:17:51.320 They were like, vaginas can be innies or audi's. And 0:17:51.760 --> 0:17:56.000 that's when I learned that, yes, some inner labia can 0:17:56.600 --> 0:17:59.920 protrude below the outer labia, or you know, I'd learned 0:17:59.960 --> 0:18:02.600 that there was a different all different kinds, according to 0:18:02.680 --> 0:18:07.240 some people, somewhat more beautiful than others, which is just 0:18:07.359 --> 0:18:11.600