1 00:00:00,400 --> 00:00:04,440 Speaker 1: Well and Woody podcast many can you still see a 2 00:00:04,480 --> 00:00:07,480 Speaker 1: friend if their partner sucks? Or again, I'll ask it again, 3 00:00:07,840 --> 00:00:10,360 Speaker 1: how do you still see a friend if their partner sucks? 4 00:00:10,840 --> 00:00:19,360 Speaker 2: Crack the code? For me, I think that's pretty much 5 00:00:19,400 --> 00:00:20,240 Speaker 2: the end of the line. 6 00:00:20,680 --> 00:00:23,800 Speaker 3: I was seeing someone and you didn't like them. And 7 00:00:24,040 --> 00:00:26,639 Speaker 3: obviously no name's been mentioned here at it for so 8 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:29,280 Speaker 3: many obvious reasons, but I remember how hard that was 9 00:00:29,320 --> 00:00:31,200 Speaker 3: because I remember there there'd be nights where it's like 10 00:00:31,240 --> 00:00:33,519 Speaker 3: a Friday night and we'd just finished the show, and 11 00:00:33,560 --> 00:00:35,599 Speaker 3: I would lie about what I was doing that night, 12 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:39,360 Speaker 3: and I couldn't handle it. And for other reasons as well, 13 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:41,440 Speaker 3: we ended up breaking up. But that for that period 14 00:00:41,520 --> 00:00:42,959 Speaker 3: there where I had friend, you were the only friend 15 00:00:43,040 --> 00:00:46,280 Speaker 3: didn't by this particular person. It was I just didn't 16 00:00:46,400 --> 00:00:48,760 Speaker 3: enjoy my life because you felt like you were hinder 17 00:00:48,840 --> 00:00:52,720 Speaker 3: people and you were trying to keep two separate lives. 18 00:00:52,640 --> 00:00:55,880 Speaker 1: And everybody knew that that's the thing. That's a sad bit. 19 00:00:56,080 --> 00:00:58,720 Speaker 1: So yeah, I remember having a chat with you at 20 00:00:58,760 --> 00:00:59,240 Speaker 1: some stage. 21 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:01,920 Speaker 3: Actually that's I started lying about. 22 00:01:01,960 --> 00:01:03,960 Speaker 1: Still, it just got to a point where I was like, mate, 23 00:01:03,960 --> 00:01:06,120 Speaker 1: you got to know, yeah, I don't feel like you 24 00:01:06,160 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 1: can be yourself around this person. 25 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:08,960 Speaker 2: And it's really hard to watch. 26 00:01:09,040 --> 00:01:12,680 Speaker 1: It's really hard to say, basically putting your friendship on 27 00:01:12,720 --> 00:01:14,840 Speaker 1: the line when you say that to the person you know. 28 00:01:15,760 --> 00:01:17,720 Speaker 1: And I've had I actually have a friend of mine 29 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:22,400 Speaker 1: who had that conversation with another friend of hers, and 30 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:25,959 Speaker 1: that other friend of hers was like, well, I'm in 31 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:28,000 Speaker 1: love with him. So that's it for you and mate, 32 00:01:28,200 --> 00:01:30,080 Speaker 1: because that's the other way, and it's got to be 33 00:01:30,120 --> 00:01:32,240 Speaker 1: the most it's the most selfless thing I reckon you 34 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:34,959 Speaker 1: can do. You might seem selfish, but you're basically saying 35 00:01:35,000 --> 00:01:36,640 Speaker 1: I love you so much that I'm willing to risk 36 00:01:36,680 --> 00:01:38,480 Speaker 1: our friendship because I think you can be happier. 37 00:01:38,720 --> 00:01:38,920 Speaker 4: Yeah. 38 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:41,160 Speaker 2: Chloe is third and one of six or five. Chloe 39 00:01:41,200 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 2: tellus about your situation. 40 00:01:43,280 --> 00:01:46,720 Speaker 5: Hi, guys, it's my best friend in the whole world. 41 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:53,400 Speaker 5: She's married this terrible person. He's just really immature, really inappropriate, 42 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:56,040 Speaker 5: and very creepy towards the women in our group. 43 00:01:56,760 --> 00:01:57,760 Speaker 4: So we let it. 44 00:01:58,160 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 5: Unfortunately, like we let it go for a little while 45 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:03,440 Speaker 5: and then we like the women were unhappy, the partners 46 00:02:03,480 --> 00:02:05,880 Speaker 5: were I'm happy, so we did. I did have to 47 00:02:05,880 --> 00:02:08,200 Speaker 5: sit her down and say, look, I'm so sorry, but 48 00:02:08,280 --> 00:02:12,040 Speaker 5: these these comments are not okay. A group, we're not 49 00:02:12,120 --> 00:02:12,800 Speaker 5: okay with it. 50 00:02:12,880 --> 00:02:13,919 Speaker 2: He wants to. 51 00:02:14,560 --> 00:02:17,800 Speaker 5: Own up to that behavior and apologize and stop it, 52 00:02:17,880 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 5: Denzil means, but he decided not to so collectively as 53 00:02:23,360 --> 00:02:28,240 Speaker 5: a group, he is not invited Wow anything anymore, but 54 00:02:28,280 --> 00:02:29,160 Speaker 5: that was his choice. 55 00:02:29,360 --> 00:02:32,600 Speaker 2: Okay, is she still in Chloe? Is she still invited? 56 00:02:33,680 --> 00:02:34,440 Speaker 5: Yes? 57 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:34,800 Speaker 1: Wow? 58 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:36,920 Speaker 5: Okay, so she hasn't done anything wrong? 59 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:39,440 Speaker 2: She whiz No, no, no, of course not no. No, I'm not 60 00:02:39,480 --> 00:02:39,880 Speaker 2: saying that. 61 00:02:39,919 --> 00:02:42,680 Speaker 1: I'm just saying I think it's quite amazing from her 62 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 1: to be able to annex her friendships from you guys, 63 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:49,520 Speaker 1: respect what you've said, but then still keep her relationship 64 00:02:49,600 --> 00:02:50,040 Speaker 1: on foot. 65 00:02:50,960 --> 00:02:54,280 Speaker 5: Yeah, it's a really awkward situation, but I love her 66 00:02:54,440 --> 00:02:56,880 Speaker 5: and I obviously don't want to lose her friendships. But 67 00:02:57,280 --> 00:03:00,560 Speaker 5: I can't hang out with him because it just makes 68 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:01,359 Speaker 5: my skin crawl. 69 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:04,280 Speaker 2: Yeah. Wow, that's great honesty, Chloe, and great knows it. 70 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:06,360 Speaker 3: And he knows it as well, so it's like there's 71 00:03:06,360 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 3: no secrets, like we don't want to hang out with you. 72 00:03:08,880 --> 00:03:13,960 Speaker 1: So that's that's the key to great relationships. It's just 73 00:03:14,080 --> 00:03:15,480 Speaker 1: straight up honesty with your mates. 74 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 2: Good stuff to Sarah. 75 00:03:16,919 --> 00:03:19,280 Speaker 3: Here, Sarah, what's your situation? 76 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:19,880 Speaker 2: Hi? 77 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 6: All right, so I'm the one that is hated by 78 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:24,120 Speaker 6: the best friend. 79 00:03:24,160 --> 00:03:28,680 Speaker 2: Oh wow, yes, just hung up, Chloe, just hung up. 80 00:03:29,240 --> 00:03:32,720 Speaker 6: Yeah, my partner was a bit dodgy, so I called 81 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:35,160 Speaker 6: him out on it and he didn't like that bad 82 00:03:35,280 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 6: mouthed me to the best friend, and the best friend's 83 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 6: never gotten over it. A year ago, the best friend 84 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:45,360 Speaker 6: got married and my partner was brimsman and I wasn't invited, 85 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:50,000 Speaker 6: mainly because I'm not liked. But the sister had a boyfriend. 86 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:52,520 Speaker 6: They'd been together maybe twelve months. He was still allowed 87 00:03:52,560 --> 00:03:55,400 Speaker 6: to go. Still to this day, five years later, this 88 00:03:55,480 --> 00:03:57,960 Speaker 6: guy doesn't talk to me. I'm like, I don't care. 89 00:03:58,040 --> 00:04:00,560 Speaker 6: He like, it's my partner's best friend. I don't care. Like, 90 00:04:00,840 --> 00:04:02,520 Speaker 6: just be civil so we can go to dinner. 91 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:03,320 Speaker 4: Yeah. 92 00:04:03,400 --> 00:04:07,400 Speaker 6: Now the partner's best mate has held the biggest grudge, 93 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:09,960 Speaker 6: so yeah, it makes it hard. We've had lots of 94 00:04:10,120 --> 00:04:13,520 Speaker 6: art yeah, because I'm like, well, why can't this guy 95 00:04:13,560 --> 00:04:15,600 Speaker 6: just put on his big girl panting. There's got nothing 96 00:04:15,600 --> 00:04:18,200 Speaker 6: to do with him. He's with me, not to marry me, 97 00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:19,800 Speaker 6: just telling us suck it up. 98 00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:22,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, there you go there, but they're still best mates? 99 00:04:22,600 --> 00:04:23,120 Speaker 2: Sarah is what? 100 00:04:23,160 --> 00:04:25,640 Speaker 1: Because I mean the original the original question here was 101 00:04:25,960 --> 00:04:30,080 Speaker 1: can you still keep a friend if you dislike their partner? 102 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:33,080 Speaker 1: And the answer is yes, yeah you cankay. 103 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:34,760 Speaker 2: All right, thanks for the cool good stuff. 104 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:35,800 Speaker 3: So much hard. 105 00:04:35,640 --> 00:04:36,920 Speaker 2: Work, but work. 106 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:42,080 Speaker 3: We've got Matt Hey, Matthias, very very well, mate, what's 107 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:43,520 Speaker 3: your situation you can relate to this? 108 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:46,360 Speaker 4: Yeah, so I feared that I was actually in the 109 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:50,679 Speaker 4: situation where I mate hated my missus and I actually 110 00:04:50,760 --> 00:04:53,800 Speaker 4: lost them for a period of time during that relationship. Yeah, 111 00:04:54,040 --> 00:04:56,080 Speaker 4: and that just goes back to how you guys were 112 00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:58,720 Speaker 4: saying about the lying, you know, like firstly it started 113 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:01,240 Speaker 4: off I can't go because this and all that, but 114 00:05:01,279 --> 00:05:05,159 Speaker 4: then afterwards it was more like living that double life 115 00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 4: type of thing. 116 00:05:05,839 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 2: You're protecting. You're protecting that person, that's right. 117 00:05:10,880 --> 00:05:15,400 Speaker 4: Yeah, and for what it was worth, it absolutely not mate, 118 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:16,160 Speaker 4: you know, like you. 119 00:05:16,080 --> 00:05:18,920 Speaker 2: Know, it's really it's really funny. 120 00:05:19,080 --> 00:05:20,800 Speaker 1: I remember I remember talking about this a while ago 121 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:24,360 Speaker 1: when Scarlett Johanssen went through her divorce and she had 122 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:26,719 Speaker 1: this great line about the fact that when you're in 123 00:05:26,720 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 1: a relationship with somebody, you can often like chastise and 124 00:05:31,960 --> 00:05:35,680 Speaker 1: dislike and resent your friends for trying to tell you 125 00:05:35,720 --> 00:05:38,680 Speaker 1: that that person sucks. Yeah, because your ego gets in 126 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:42,040 Speaker 1: the way and you love the person, yes, but there's 127 00:05:42,080 --> 00:05:44,120 Speaker 1: also you love the person, but there's also ego and 128 00:05:44,360 --> 00:05:46,840 Speaker 1: its pride. It's like, no, I've chosen this person. You're 129 00:05:46,839 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 1: attacking that person and she's and she said, but ultimately, 130 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:55,480 Speaker 1: what other motive would your friends have other than loving you? 131 00:05:56,560 --> 00:05:59,160 Speaker 1: And you're you're an absolute asshole to them for trying 132 00:05:59,160 --> 00:06:00,839 Speaker 1: to point that out to you, And she said, and 133 00:06:00,880 --> 00:06:03,440 Speaker 1: she said, after she got divorced, that was the only 134 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:07,279 Speaker 1: time that she realized, I'm really stuffed up with these people, 135 00:06:07,440 --> 00:06:09,479 Speaker 1: and I'm going to get back on my knees and 136 00:06:09,560 --> 00:06:12,039 Speaker 1: grovel to them to have the friendship back, because I've 137 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:12,920 Speaker 1: totally cooked it. 138 00:06:13,440 --> 00:06:15,200 Speaker 3: And it sounds like that's what Mattias did. Mattias is 139 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:17,280 Speaker 3: now so and your mates took you back? Mattias. 140 00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:21,520 Speaker 4: Yeah, after after the relationship ended, we rekindled rekind of 141 00:06:21,560 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 4: the friendship, and now we're closer and stronger than ever. 142 00:06:23,560 --> 00:06:26,960 Speaker 2: Great stuff you go to hear, Mattias great calls. Thanks 143 00:06:26,960 --> 00:06:29,200 Speaker 2: so much for that wonderful calls. 144 00:06:29,320 --> 00:06:31,760 Speaker 3: I can't ever can work that. That blows my mind. 145 00:06:32,080 --> 00:06:34,800 Speaker 3: Haven't been in that situation. It's a shocking way to live. 146 00:06:34,839 --> 00:06:35,680 Speaker 2: Well, we took you back. 147 00:06:36,400 --> 00:06:39,039 Speaker 3: Yeah, no, true, no, it was only for sure. I 148 00:06:39,080 --> 00:06:40,960 Speaker 3: did it for like two weeks, three weeks, and it 149 00:06:41,040 --> 00:06:43,320 Speaker 3: was an awful three weeks. I'm not saying you can't 150 00:06:43,320 --> 00:06:44,880 Speaker 3: get back into there, but like the thing that people 151 00:06:44,920 --> 00:06:47,000 Speaker 3: are still doing that, it blows my mind. 152 00:06:47,400 --> 00:06:50,280 Speaker 4: Hear more of the boys on the Full Show podcast 153 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:52,120 Speaker 4: all on the iHeartRadio app. 154 00:06:52,240 --> 00:06:54,040 Speaker 2: Oh where I mean you get your podcasts?