WEBVTT - The Offical Rules For Dumping Over Text  ☎️ 💔​

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frimes. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell Me when it's okay to end a relationship over text.

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<v Speaker 2>I've had a lot of complex thoughts about this one

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<v Speaker 2>because for some reason not for some reason, dating and

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<v Speaker 2>conversation is always relevant. But what we're seeing and hearing

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<v Speaker 2>more of than usual is almost like the demise of relationships.

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<v Speaker 2>We rarely hear positive relationship content. We got engaged and

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<v Speaker 2>when we love and it's a fairy tale and it's amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like we are experiencing the worst situations ever. Let's

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<v Speaker 2>talk about it, and so we will. Vice recently published

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<v Speaker 2>an article trying to discern when it's okay and when

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<v Speaker 2>it's not okay, and I don't think it's binary, but

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like there would be scenarios where it's more

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<v Speaker 2>appropriate than not. My main point of it is that

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<v Speaker 2>texting is so vital when starting and maintaining a relationship,

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<v Speaker 2>Like a lot of relationships can only function or can

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<v Speaker 2>only grow consistent intimacy because of texting. So to end

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<v Speaker 2>a relationship with one, it seems like it would make sense,

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<v Speaker 2>that would be fair and reasonable. However, it's not really

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<v Speaker 2>the case. And I'm not sure why. For example, a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of people measure the success of their relationship by

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<v Speaker 2>how frequently someone's texting them. Like, we recognize it's an

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<v Speaker 2>important medium of communication. We put a lot of value

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<v Speaker 2>on that medium. Yet when it comes to breaking up

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<v Speaker 2>and ending the relationship that's not working, we're like, it's

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<v Speaker 2>not valuable enough. Suddenly we need words odd. The article

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<v Speaker 2>is titled is it ever okay to call off a

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<v Speaker 2>relationship over message? They've crowdsourced and this is what we

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<v Speaker 2>found out. If you've hit boyfriend girlfriend status, then no.

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<v Speaker 2>Generally no, but it depends on the circumstances and the

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<v Speaker 2>length of the relationship. Do no, it's not show a

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<v Speaker 2>little backbone and at the very least call the person

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<v Speaker 2>general rule of thumb, everyone deserves at least a phone call.

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<v Speaker 2>And then there's a minority that argue that it's totally

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<v Speaker 2>in your own rights to end it. However suits you,

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<v Speaker 2>you have complete control over the notification. And then there

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<v Speaker 2>are some people who are like, Okay, there are exceptions

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<v Speaker 2>to the rules, So let's talk about those exceptions. Number One,

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<v Speaker 2>if it's just a fling, so if you've seen them

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<v Speaker 2>for less than two months, or less than three months,

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<v Speaker 2>or it's just casual a situationship, then you're well within

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<v Speaker 2>your rights to end it via texts. Somebody also says

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<v Speaker 2>if there's been manipulation at play, So if you feel

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<v Speaker 2>as though it's kind of like an abusive situation, a

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<v Speaker 2>manipulative situation, a physically abusive situation, just get out there

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<v Speaker 2>by any means necessary. People have also mentioned that if

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<v Speaker 2>you just struggle with inneral life communication and you feel

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<v Speaker 2>as though you can't get your words out and you

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<v Speaker 2>need to you process better when you're typing, or you

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<v Speaker 2>need time to sit with an emotion, it's fair to

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<v Speaker 2>just do it in a way that suits you. Also,

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<v Speaker 2>if you're a bit concerned that someone's going to misinterpret

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<v Speaker 2>what you're saying and how you're saying it, then just

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<v Speaker 2>get it in writing and have the paper trail. And

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<v Speaker 2>then the last person said, if you feel as though

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<v Speaker 2>time wasting has happened, like they're wasting your time, you're

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<v Speaker 2>wasting their time, don't wait till the next day in

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<v Speaker 2>eighteen days to break it off. Just do it now,

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<v Speaker 2>get it over quickly. What do you feel about breakup text?

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<v Speaker 1>For me, I would say phone call is important I think, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>if you've entered boyfriend girlfriend territory, definitely give them like

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit of a heads up if things aren't right.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's in person conversation. I think the common social

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<v Speaker 1>norm is that it should be in person, so in

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<v Speaker 1>order for them to not demonize you as annoying it

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<v Speaker 1>assease like you probably should do it in person because

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<v Speaker 1>it's easier for optic. Because I actually think it's worse

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<v Speaker 1>getting dumped in person or dumping someone in person, like

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<v Speaker 1>it's just horrible, horrible stuff. However, I would say you

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<v Speaker 1>should text them and say, hey, we got to talk.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not feeling things. I want to talk to you

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone, but if you need a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>of time, like I want to do this, how you

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<v Speaker 1>want to do it? Beautiful because if you give a

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<v Speaker 1>phone call like, hey, are you going like listen listen

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<v Speaker 1>and buddy listen, who's impropriate?

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<v Speaker 2>What do you think? FLEXI Yeah, I like the warning

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<v Speaker 2>text because I feel as though a lot of people

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<v Speaker 2>think they're they're like brolic enough to handle the unsolicited

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<v Speaker 2>pick up the phone or organize a date. Hey, just

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<v Speaker 2>like let's hang out, and then you spring open a

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<v Speaker 2>spring on a breakup. I definitely feel like texting is

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<v Speaker 2>not a medium that we should look at poorly. We

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<v Speaker 2>just need to figure out how to text better. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>text text like you talk. It's a really good habit

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<v Speaker 2>to get into. Yeah, Freeman is really good at that,

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<v Speaker 2>great at it. Pity you can't get into the freebie files.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, unfortunately every master class at one point.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but who's going to take the master class with

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<v Speaker 2>no evidence? But she's really good.

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