Speaker 1: Lovers. Welcome to Tuesday, and welcome to another episode of
Speaker 1: Life Aunt. I'm Britney and I'm Laura. We're your hosts, Michael,
Speaker 1: we are every week. I know, funny that it's nice
Speaker 1: to hear you all again. Well, it's nice for you
Speaker 1: to hear us all again. You're welcome. Nice for us
Speaker 1: to hear ourselves, is what she's trying to say. Oh gosh,
Speaker 1: it's been a long, long week here in isolation. How's
Speaker 1: your week been? Just groundhog Day, isn't it. Do you
Speaker 1: know what I just read? And I'm sure by the
Speaker 1: morning everyone would have heard this that Virgin has just
Speaker 1: gone into voluntary administration. Yeah, so that happens literally like
Speaker 1: two hours ago. I guess it's so crazy. I mean,
Speaker 1: we were told a few weeks ago that there's a
Speaker 1: potential for all these crazy things to start happening in
Speaker 1: the world. One of them was that ninety percent of
Speaker 1: airlines were going to go bust. But I guess deep
Speaker 1: down you didn't actually think it was ever going to
Speaker 1: get to that. You kind of think, like if all
Speaker 1: Branson's goot himself an island, mate, sell an island, sell
Speaker 1: yourd Although I don't think that there's many people out
Speaker 1: there buying islands right now. There are a lot of
Speaker 1: billionaires in this world out there looking for islands. Probably
Speaker 1: that you totally hit the nail on the head. There
Speaker 1: were so many things that we were told very early on,
Speaker 1: like there's a possibility that this could happen, but no
Speaker 1: one actually thinks that these companies that have been such
Speaker 1: constants and such like normal fixtures of our adult life
Speaker 1: could even ever go bust. No, there are no rules,
Speaker 1: and what does that mean for travel? Like I have
Speaker 1: actually read and heard a lot saying that maybe international
Speaker 1: borders won't even be open until the end of twenty
Speaker 1: twenty one, maybe even twenty twenty two. There are a
Speaker 1: lot of people saying that international travel could be done
Speaker 1: for the next year. You know, no one really has
Speaker 1: the answer for this, and I think that's where so
Speaker 1: much of the fear comes from, because there's a lot
Speaker 1: of conversations about worst case scenarios, and I guess, I
Speaker 1: guess at the moment, I'm trying to imagine the positives.
Speaker 1: I just hope that there's an airline left when we
Speaker 1: get to the end of this. Well, the question is,
Speaker 1: does that mean Quantus will have the monopoly and prices
Speaker 1: will skyrocket, or are they going to do the right
Speaker 1: thing by the general population and cut us a break
Speaker 1: because we've had a bit of a hard year. Straight up, guys,
Speaker 1: the hard hitting questions. Also straight off the bat, Brett,
Speaker 1: how's your week thing? Did you just say straight off
Speaker 1: the brat? I think you did, and I'm going to
Speaker 1: call you out on it. Probably try editing that one out,
Speaker 1: Oh groundhog Day. I don't have a lot to report
Speaker 1: this week in terms of my adventures, but I have
Speaker 1: one thing that I really really need to speak about.
Speaker 1: If any of you follow me on Instagram, you'll know
Speaker 1: that I had a good old chuckle. And I also
Speaker 1: spent fifteen hours binge watching this new show on Netflix.
Speaker 1: It's a dating show, and I use the term dating
Speaker 1: very loosely. It's a reality dating, which is right up
Speaker 1: ow Alli, guys, we love that. And I saw an
Speaker 1: episode pop up on Netflix and I thought, oh, just
Speaker 1: I'll just click on this and see what it is.
Speaker 1: I was hooked, hook line and sinker. I was here
Speaker 1: for this show. I have never Laura laughed so hard,
Speaker 1: cringed so hard, wanted to die so hard. I couldn't
Speaker 1: believe that this show was real. It does a lot
Speaker 1: because we were both on The Bachelor. I've done two
Speaker 1: reality shows. Now I can really say this, like this
Speaker 1: comes from a place of knowing, deep deep knowing. So
Speaker 1: this show is called too Hot to Handle. It's like
Speaker 1: a new modern Bachelor in Paradise and Love Island now
Speaker 1: fair play because the people on this show are the
Speaker 1: most aesthetically good looking people I have ever seen. The ridiculous, like,
Speaker 1: they're so good looking it's disgusting, but it's almost the
Speaker 1: show's almost a parody. So they have this host, Laura,
Speaker 1: and she just mocks them the whole time. She's like
Speaker 1: a voiceover host, so you don't actually see her. She
Speaker 1: throws them under the bus. She laughs at how silly
Speaker 1: they are, the dumb things they say. It's kind of
Speaker 1: like the voiceover narration of Love Island. It's that on steroid.
Speaker 1: Just to really drive home how excited Britt is about
Speaker 1: this TV series, yesterday, when we were discussing what we
Speaker 1: were going to record for today's episode, Britt goes, I've
Speaker 1: got it. There's this show. It's too hot to handle.
Speaker 1: There's only there's only eight episodes. You could watch them all.
Speaker 1: And I was like, we live very different lives. I
Speaker 1: do not have enough time in my day with a
Speaker 1: child to be able to watch eight episodes. But Britt
Speaker 1: Binge watched that in our day guys, one day, I
Speaker 1: watched it till four am. Isolation has been good to her.
Speaker 1: Isolation has But the premise to this show is so
Speaker 1: Love Island, Bachelor and Paradise mix. But you can't kiss,
Speaker 1: you can't have sex, you can't have this physical relationship.
Speaker 1: Can you masturbate? No? Nothing, no, not nothing. The idea
Speaker 1: is all of these men and women, they're from around
Speaker 1: the world, so some Americans, Aussies from the UK, one
Speaker 1: from Ireland. The idea is they're all players. Sep Brown
Speaker 1: don't take relationships seriously and they come onto this show
Speaker 1: and they're supposed to build an emotional connection. So there's
Speaker 1: one hundred thousand dollars prize money, but every time they'd
Speaker 1: kiss or break the rules, they get deducted money. So
Speaker 1: one kiss they lose three grand, and the money puul
Speaker 1: just keeps going down. One girl actually gave an Australian
Speaker 1: guy a blowjob on there, Like how much did that cost?
Speaker 1: I think that was thirty grand? But I like that
Speaker 1: one hundred thousand dollars. That has enough to make most
Speaker 1: people want an emotional connection. But the reason that I
Speaker 1: loved this show so much, it's because it really had me.
Speaker 1: It's like a stir fry of emotions. So it had
Speaker 1: the laughter, and it had the disbelief, and it had
Speaker 1: the anger, and it had the cringing. But one reason
Speaker 1: I want you to watch it, Laura, and I'm going
Speaker 1: to recommend it to you guys to all watch, is
Speaker 1: it did actually bring up and highlight a lot of
Speaker 1: issues that are happening with men and women and dating,
Speaker 1: and one of them is actually gas lighting. So quite
Speaker 1: early on there was this part where this guy was
Speaker 1: gaslighting this girl so severely it wasn't even an undertone.
Speaker 1: It was the most obvious thing that was happening. I
Speaker 1: was quite in disbelief that the show was actually airing
Speaker 1: it and the fact that this like robot host is
Speaker 1: making a mockery of it as well and highlighting it.
Speaker 1: But I think it's gonna be really good for everybody
Speaker 1: to watch because it's something that I think we need
Speaker 1: to talk about, you know, over the next few weeks,
Speaker 1: and it's a really really important issue. There's your recommendation
Speaker 1: too hot to handle. We need to come back with
Speaker 1: some homework done for next week's episode. But what about you?
Speaker 1: What have you been up to? Oh? Guys, I've really
Speaker 1: spiraled down into an isolation pit that I never thought
Speaker 1: I would get to. Oh what, I purchased something that
Speaker 1: I'm really ashamed of? Is it a sex? Do we? No?
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be that ashamed of that I purchased. It's
Speaker 1: actually it's actually disgusting. I've turned into the person I
Speaker 1: promised I never would be. Oh my god, what is it?
Speaker 1: I've purchased a Halo light so that I can take
Speaker 1: photos for Instagram. No, okay, but hear me, I kind
Speaker 1: have reached new low. Hear me out. All right. We
Speaker 1: live in a very dark apartment and from time to time,
Speaker 1: you know, Matt and I we still do some work
Speaker 1: on social media and like, you need good lighting. Come on, Breed,
Speaker 1: back me up here. Good lighting is important. I actually
Speaker 1: don't think this is funny. I think Halo. I don't
Speaker 1: have a Halo light. I've used them before and shoots
Speaker 1: and stuff. I think they're brilliant. So, guys, if you
Speaker 1: have a waited blanket for me to sell or some
Speaker 1: laser hair removal or maybe you know there's some gummies
Speaker 1: that are gonna grow my hair nice and long. I'm
Speaker 1: the girl. I me up. I've got a halo light. Now, guys,
Speaker 1: you'll be way too hard on yourself. Halo lights are
Speaker 1: actually really, really great. This is why I need you
Speaker 1: in my life for this type of affirmation and moral support.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying that because I want to borrow it. No,
Speaker 1: are you. You're way too hard on yourself. At the
Speaker 1: same time, I just never thought I would be someone
Speaker 1: to own a halo light. And that is what isolation.
Speaker 1: That is what COVID nineteen has done to me. Guys,
Speaker 1: what's your first pick going to be? Oh? God, hashtag
Speaker 1: not sponsored hashtag skin God? Shoot me? Now you're actually
Speaker 1: being too Honey's up. Okay. So apart from apart from
Speaker 1: my whole haighlow light experience, I also have a recommendation,
Speaker 1: which is look, it's slightly deeper than Too Hot to Handle,
Speaker 1: but it's so good. It's only four episodes, very good
Speaker 1: for people who are time poor and have kids. It's
Speaker 1: called Unorthodox and it is on Netflix, I think, and
Speaker 1: I did watch the whole thing in two days. Follows
Speaker 1: this Hasidic Jewish girl and her relationship in her faith,
Speaker 1: and how she moves to Germany and how she tries
Speaker 1: to escape her past life and set up a new life.
Speaker 1: It's actually amazing, Like it's such a good, binge able,
Speaker 1: all encompassing miniseries and I highly recommend it, and my
Speaker 1: sister can't stop talking about it, and every day she's like,
Speaker 1: have you started it yet? Well, yeah, well Unorthodox is
Speaker 1: my that's my recommendation for the week. Everything else. I
Speaker 1: know that it's actually crazy, but we try and think
Speaker 1: of like what we're going to talk about and bring
Speaker 1: some uplifting content for you guys. But I really feel
Speaker 1: like this week has been the week for me and
Speaker 1: I don't I can't speak on your behalf, brit but
Speaker 1: I feel like this is the week where everything has
Speaker 1: become very very repetitive for me, and I've been really
Speaker 1: struggling to kind of break out of the isolation COVID
Speaker 1: nineteen mundane just groundhog day feeling that I've been having.
Speaker 1: And then on top of it, I've had raging anxiety
Speaker 1: because I have my periods. So forgive me, or but
Speaker 1: I think they're like you know, each week we try
Speaker 1: and bring to this that we're being like really positive
Speaker 1: and we're trying to bring content that's outside of what
Speaker 1: we're all doing every day. But then there does come
Speaker 1: a point where you're like, oh no, this is the
Speaker 1: situation that we're in, and it is very repetitive and
Speaker 1: it's hard to constantly be uplifted and constantly try and
Speaker 1: find something new. And I think it's important to acknowledge
Speaker 1: that that's okay as well, Like that's very normal and
Speaker 1: that's where everyone's life is at the moment. I have
Speaker 1: walked over two hundred kilometers this month. Every single time
Speaker 1: I call her, I see her, I text her, She's like,
Speaker 1: I'm just out on the walk, just out on my Ah,
Speaker 1: doesn't matter. Actually, when you call me, you're like, hey, babes,
Speaker 1: what you don't I'm like, just on a little You're
Speaker 1: meant to be staying home, girlfriend. But this is like
Speaker 1: BRIT's had like one massive, long exercise that just never ends.
Speaker 1: She just never ever stops walking. I walk on my
Speaker 1: own most of the time, guys, so I'm social distancing.
Speaker 1: The only time I'm walking with someone is my sister.
Speaker 1: But for me, it's what I do walking in exercise.
Speaker 1: It's when you're stressed, when I'm tired, when I'm angry,
Speaker 1: when I'm anxious. Like you said, it's everything. That's what
Speaker 1: I do, and what I do is I get up
Speaker 1: in the morning and I put my active wear on
Speaker 1: and it stays on all day. So if I have
Speaker 1: a moment that I just like I need to get out,
Speaker 1: or I'm upset or I'm stressed, I just do it.
Speaker 1: It's like quick walk. Quick walk anyway, clocked up two
Speaker 1: hundred K. For anybody who is self isolating by themselves
Speaker 1: and has a lot of time on their own, there
Speaker 1: is the possibility that now, after so much time, you're
Speaker 1: starting to feel lonely. So it is a really nice
Speaker 1: way to be able to be like, Nope, I'm going
Speaker 1: to keep myself active and to keep an active brain.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna like get those good endorphins going. You know,
Speaker 1: as much as you have walked an obscene amount and
Speaker 1: I can't even relate, I understand that that works for you.
Speaker 1: It's my thing for sure. At the moment, you guys know,
Speaker 1: there's no rules. Whatever's working for we get it done.
Speaker 1: But I think, Laura, it is time to jump into
Speaker 1: some proper content accidentally unfiltered. It's our segment with our
Speaker 1: most embarrassing stories you write in. We love them, we
Speaker 1: can't get enough of them. And do you have one
Speaker 1: for me? Laura? I do have one. This is a
Speaker 1: very quick one, but it copped me right in all
Speaker 1: the fields's because the copy you and the feels in
Speaker 1: a second, Oh, that was weird. That was weird. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: let's get back to what we're talking about. It caught
Speaker 1: me in the fields because I was feeling really anxious
Speaker 1: this week, like I said, and so I read this
Speaker 1: and I was like, I can totally relate to that.
Speaker 1: So as a person's written, I went to an interview
Speaker 1: really really hungover, and like, you know what it's like
Speaker 1: when you really hungover, how you feel a little bit anxious.
Speaker 1: I'm so lonely. Hold me. So I went to an
Speaker 1: interview really hungover. When the interviewer came to meet me
Speaker 1: and show me to the room, she held out her hand,
Speaker 1: guiding the way. In my hungover state, I stood up
Speaker 1: and I held her hand. Both of us were too
Speaker 1: embarrassed to let go, so we walked to the interview room.
Speaker 1: And also, you know that moment of realization where you're like,
Speaker 1: I wasn't supposed to grab your hand, but now we're
Speaker 1: going to do it. But like a light that they
Speaker 1: committed to it. And then what do you do when
Speaker 1: you get to the interview room and you're like, who,
Speaker 1: this is awkward? Do you then turn it into a handshake?
Speaker 1: What do you do? I wonder if she got the job.
Speaker 1: I'm going to say no because it didn't have a
Speaker 1: follow up on that. I have a cute little one too.
Speaker 1: This is something that I would actually do. So this
Speaker 1: girl was on a date at a sushi restaurant and
Speaker 1: she had never been to a sushi restaurant. It was
Speaker 1: on a date and she says, you were starving. She
Speaker 1: had been like eight hours between eating. She gets the date,
Speaker 1: she orders thirteen sushi rolls, thinking each little piece was
Speaker 1: a role. So twenty minutes later, the staff come out
Speaker 1: pushing two tables together and bring out thirteen huge long rolls,
Speaker 1: like on three different raise of food for her, and
Speaker 1: her date was like hungry, But don't you think if
Speaker 1: you're the date, you would have just said food can't
Speaker 1: shame a baby. Hey, that reminds me of a date story.
Speaker 1: I went on a date in Bondai with this guy
Speaker 1: who I met online. We went to this Bavarian beer garden.
Speaker 1: If you're in Bondai, you'll know the one I don't know.
Speaker 1: Im from Bonda Caple parayed. Was he English? He was
Speaker 1: a tourist. Of course I would have. I've never been
Speaker 1: there again, I never would have gone there. But I
Speaker 1: was like, this is now that I know what restaurant
Speaker 1: it's referring to. This is a restaurant that you would
Speaker 1: only go to if you were an English backpacker. That's it, Hundi.
Speaker 1: He was Brazilian, so ir in this restaurant and I
Speaker 1: ordered a chicken snitty and then I ordered fries on
Speaker 1: the side, and I had a salad too. I think
Speaker 1: I may have had a garlic bread also, but that's irrelevant.
Speaker 1: So the snitsel comes out, and it's to be fair,
Speaker 1: it's the biggest snitsel I have ever seen, you know,
Speaker 1: the ones that take up almost the whole plate, like
Speaker 1: you know what pub snitzls are like, Like, this isn't
Speaker 1: possibly from a chicken, this is from it. This is
Speaker 1: a sheet. But I see what you're doing. This is
Speaker 1: an EMU. Yeah, what it was was not normal. So
Speaker 1: this lay comes out, and I was hungry, so my
Speaker 1: eyes lit up and the guy looks at me and
Speaker 1: he goes, oh, don't be ridiculous, You'll never eat that.
Speaker 1: And then my internal monologue was challenge accept it. And
Speaker 1: I sat there for twenty five minutes, Bye bye bye.
Speaker 1: I nearly felt sick, but I ate the whole snitzel.
Speaker 1: Then I ate all of the chips, and then I
Speaker 1: ate the salad, and then I washed it down with
Speaker 1: my drink and I never saw him again. You sure
Speaker 1: showed him I did, how judgmental. I hope you didn't
Speaker 1: give him any of the chips either. I hope you
Speaker 1: will ate. No, sorry, don't have any. I eat all
Speaker 1: of these and then I'm gonna get some churros. Get
Speaker 1: the fuck away from my chips. Pat girl likes to
Speaker 1: eat my mum's Greek Guys, girl likes to eat. Don't
Speaker 1: ever food shame and date men or women. Well, I
Speaker 1: think we should get into the episodem here, which today
Speaker 1: we have two topics that we're going to cover, which
Speaker 1: is a little bit of a different you know, we're
Speaker 1: mixing it up, We're keeping it interesting for you guys. First,
Speaker 1: the bat we're going to be talking for the single ladies,
Speaker 1: and that is around curating the perfect online profile. Now
Speaker 1: we're all online dating at the moment, we're not all
Speaker 1: a lot of people online dating at the moment, and
Speaker 1: that is the number one way for singles to interact
Speaker 1: in this current climate. So we thought we would put
Speaker 1: together a little list of do's and don'ts and ways
Speaker 1: to better optimize your online dating profile from Brittany who's
Speaker 1: a pro and from me who's an ex pro VIP
Speaker 1: the real MVPs over here, guys, okay, And then also
Speaker 1: we're going to be doing something which is a little
Speaker 1: more aimed at our couples who listen to this episode,
Speaker 1: specifically to the women who listen to this and that's
Speaker 1: more about for couples who are now at a point
Speaker 1: where you guys have been spending so much time together,
Speaker 1: so much time, but it's not quality time. I know
Speaker 1: that I'm certainly feeling it at times in my relationship
Speaker 1: that as much as we spend every single second of
Speaker 1: the day together at the moment, there's very few moments
Speaker 1: that I feel like are quality and so we just
Speaker 1: wanted to touch on that because I feel like a
Speaker 1: lot of couples are in the same boat with this
Speaker 1: at the moment, and to try and think of some
Speaker 1: ideas in some ways that we can give tips and
Speaker 1: give ideas around how to create quality time with your partner.
Speaker 1: And yeah, we'll get into that later, but first, online profiles.
Speaker 1: I have been online dating for quite a long time
Speaker 1: on every platform that has ever existed. I have probably
Speaker 1: had a profile except for plenty of fish. Do you
Speaker 1: know what you say this like it's disappointing. That makes
Speaker 1: you an expert and that's why you're on this. It's
Speaker 1: time to enlist the experts into this conversation. That's what
Speaker 1: that is. Don't say it like it's disappointing. Well, no,
Speaker 1: I don't know if it was disappointing. I don't know
Speaker 1: how I feel about it. But look, the fact is
Speaker 1: I have done it. I've spent a lot of time
Speaker 1: online dating. I have gone on a lot of dates,
Speaker 1: and I actually I am a big advocate for online dating.
Speaker 1: I think that the stigma that's still attached to it
Speaker 1: in some way needs to be gone because everyone in
Speaker 1: the world is on it, Like the biggest stars in
Speaker 1: the world have their own online dating. Britt No, she's
Speaker 1: seen Channing Tatum in there and super liked him. Yeah
Speaker 1: I did single again, Yeah, no even yeah Raya so. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've been on Raya so and I have seen huge,
Speaker 1: huge Hollywood stars on there. So guys, first and foremost,
Speaker 1: don't be embarrassed to be online dating. Secondly, this is
Speaker 1: like your CV, this is like your resume. You have
Speaker 1: to put some attention and love into creating your profile
Speaker 1: because it sounds crazy and it sucks, but it's very superficial.
Speaker 1: You unfortunately don't get to know who someone in is
Speaker 1: as a genuine person. You don't get to know who
Speaker 1: they are inside straight away, and they don't get to
Speaker 1: know who you are. All they're going off at the
Speaker 1: beginning is the way you look and what you've written
Speaker 1: and the way you've answered your questions. But we were
Speaker 1: talking about this earlier and like, and I know that
Speaker 1: a lot of people who have done online dating and
Speaker 1: there's constant conversation and struggle with like, oh, it's it's
Speaker 1: very superficial. However, if a guy comes up to you
Speaker 1: in a bar and ask you out or gives you
Speaker 1: his number, or you find a guy attractive that you've
Speaker 1: never spoken to before, that is all superficial. That's all
Speaker 1: we have to go off at the very start, Like
Speaker 1: unless you meet someone through friends or like you've got
Speaker 1: some other connection, we are superficially attracted to the way
Speaker 1: people look, or the way people present themselves, or the
Speaker 1: aura that someone has, the energy that they have. I
Speaker 1: do think that there are ways that you can cultivate
Speaker 1: that energy on an online profile as well. Like where
Speaker 1: you have a bio, you have that area to be
Speaker 1: able to get a small snippet of your personality across.
Speaker 1: So you know what, if you're a funny bitch, then
Speaker 1: say something funny in there. If you're witty or sarcastic
Speaker 1: or a little bit self deprecating, this is your opportunity
Speaker 1: to create, even if it's just one line or one
Speaker 1: little hook, but to create a little snapshot into what
Speaker 1: your personality is. So we did do our due diligence
Speaker 1: as per usual. We did all have our research, We
Speaker 1: put some polls out, we ask people, we knew men
Speaker 1: and women, We went from personal experience, and we have
Speaker 1: put a few little things together and I think first
Speaker 1: and foremost what we have found is that people don't
Speaker 1: want you to list what you are, so in you're
Speaker 1: about me. People don't want you to say funny, witty, adventurous.
Speaker 1: Say something that is funny and witty so they know
Speaker 1: you're funny and witty instead of just saying this is
Speaker 1: what I am. It also like if I think with
Speaker 1: that as well, if you say I'm funny, I'm witty,
Speaker 1: I'm adventurous, there's no context to that to allow someone
Speaker 1: who then matches with you to engage deeper and to
Speaker 1: ask questions. It's like, like, what kind of funny are you? Yeah,
Speaker 1: how are you adventurous? You want to say that you
Speaker 1: weren't trekking Everest or like maybe you didn't go that
Speaker 1: far because that's crazy and not many people have tracked Everest.
Speaker 1: But you want to explain something that you do. Maybe
Speaker 1: you like to go bushwalking. Maybe you love the ocean,
Speaker 1: I don't know, but like make it a bit more
Speaker 1: detailed and actually explore something about what you love. Write
Speaker 1: it down, because makes it easier for that person when
Speaker 1: they match you to be like, Hey, I love the
Speaker 1: ocean too, I love dogs as well. Every single person
Speaker 1: in the world likes to try. Everyone's bio says travel.
Speaker 1: We're never going to escape that. But what you need
Speaker 1: to differentiate is what kind of traveler are you? What
Speaker 1: kind of travel do you like? Because there's a big
Speaker 1: difference between going to Hawaii sitting in the Hilton sun
Speaker 1: making not leaving your hotel just drinking by the pool,
Speaker 1: and going to hike match your pitch you and camping
Speaker 1: in a forest somewhere, and there's such a broad landscape
Speaker 1: of traveling and adventure. So I think it's really important
Speaker 1: to put that in so that somebody knows what level
Speaker 1: you are. It gives them an opening to chat to
Speaker 1: you about it, It gives them a way to connect
Speaker 1: with you because maybe they've done something similar. So I
Speaker 1: think that's really important to just get out what kind
Speaker 1: of a traveler are you. One of the things that
Speaker 1: I used to really hate when I was online dating,
Speaker 1: and I know that it works in reverse as well,
Speaker 1: that guys just like it when girls do it too,
Speaker 1: is when you use your bio to be really critical
Speaker 1: of what you want in the other person, instead of
Speaker 1: using a bio to describe the sort of person that
Speaker 1: you are, saying, I'm only attracted to brunettess or you know,
Speaker 1: if you have in your bio that you want somewhere
Speaker 1: who is six point five, what like meter is away
Speaker 1: from us because of isolation right now exactly because that's
Speaker 1: what I want. I want a guy who's six point
Speaker 1: five away from me at all times. But I think
Speaker 1: if you're using your bio to be critical about somebody else,
Speaker 1: all that does is reflect badly on yourself. It shows
Speaker 1: that you're not someone who has a fun personality. It
Speaker 1: shows that you have a really critical personality, and I
Speaker 1: don't think that that's a very attractive thing. So I
Speaker 1: know when I used to see on guys' profiles they
Speaker 1: were like I prefer brunettes even the way I am brunette,
Speaker 1: and this maybe this is me being critical and reverse,
Speaker 1: but it would just make me look at that and
Speaker 1: go like, why why are you so superficial? Why is
Speaker 1: like why is that so important to you? And I
Speaker 1: would end up swiping past, even though I matched the
Speaker 1: criteria of what they were after, I just didn't like
Speaker 1: that critical aspect of their personality. Dea'd say the guys
Speaker 1: that are like I just want somebody that's like five
Speaker 1: foot eight, has a really good job, is really smart,
Speaker 1: is really funny and independent, looks after themselves, lives out
Speaker 1: of home, has a good income, like fuck, dude, do
Speaker 1: you have all those things? You don't? This is your
Speaker 1: opportunity to talk about yourself, not for you to like
Speaker 1: criticize and analyze what you want in somebody else. Like
Speaker 1: you can do that, but do that after the fact,
Speaker 1: because by putting it out there in your bio, you're
Speaker 1: you're just canceling a whole lot of people that maybe,
Speaker 1: you know what, maybe they could be your penguin. So Laurie,
Speaker 1: you wouldn't know this. But Hinge has this prompt. You
Speaker 1: have to answer these questions. And Hinge has this prompt
Speaker 1: that says, question that's like, if you could choose anyone
Speaker 1: as a dinner guess who would it be. And the
Speaker 1: guys that say you, oh my god, put a fork
Speaker 1: in me a mate, You don't know me from a
Speaker 1: bar soap, and you can choose anyone, do you not
Speaker 1: get the question? You can choose anyone but kind of cute?
Speaker 1: Now's not little bit cute? So because you means every
Speaker 1: single person, it's not me, it's not personal. He's trying
Speaker 1: to be cute. I think I was smart or interesting. Guys,
Speaker 1: this is your chance to like show some personality, show
Speaker 1: who you would actually want to talk I'm surprised you
Speaker 1: don't like that. You're a sucker for red flags. No
Speaker 1: red flags with intelligence, preferably not not like a dumb
Speaker 1: flag blowing in the wind, like I want a station
Speaker 1: you're a stupid red flag. I want a stationary, solid
Speaker 1: flag that knows who he is. Don't me all want
Speaker 1: a solid flag. There you are again, as well as
Speaker 1: us saying it's important to say who you are and
Speaker 1: say what you're interested in, it's more important to actually
Speaker 1: show it in your profile. So don't just say I
Speaker 1: like adventure or fitness or the beach. Put some photos
Speaker 1: up that show that. If you love dogs, put a
Speaker 1: photo up with your dog. If you're saying you love travel,
Speaker 1: don't put five selfies up. Put a photo of you
Speaker 1: somewhere amazing or your favorite place you've ever been. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: let's talk about the actual photos aspects, because I think
Speaker 1: we've touched on the bio and like how you can
Speaker 1: curate your bio to make it something that's a little
Speaker 1: bit more interesting. But in regards to photos, that's one
Speaker 1: of the things that you had said to me, Britt,
Speaker 1: But also one of the things that Matt flagged straight
Speaker 1: away is if you have five selfies in a row,
Speaker 1: you need to sort your shit out because nobody wants
Speaker 1: to look at just five selfies that you've taken of yourself.
Speaker 1: It makes and it's probably not true, You're probably not this,
Speaker 1: but it makes you seem like you're self indulgent. If
Speaker 1: you haven't got like a nice photo that somebody else
Speaker 1: has taken, or a photo with a friend, or just
Speaker 1: something that gives other context to your life, it seems
Speaker 1: very self involved and very like you haven't anything else
Speaker 1: going on except that you take photos of yourself. You
Speaker 1: could be every day. Do you have a halo light
Speaker 1: because I've got or it's a gym selfie, the ones
Speaker 1: in the gym's shirtless, like sorry, If you have five selfies,
Speaker 1: you could be the hottest, smartest, most amazing person. And
Speaker 1: I'm gonna swipe knowing you, it's just for me. It's
Speaker 1: my turn off, and I know it's the same thing
Speaker 1: in reverse. So ladies, for sure, it's so fine to
Speaker 1: have a selfie on there, like absolutely, but show who
Speaker 1: you are. You can't put five selfies up, absolutely not.
Speaker 1: The research has come back and it has said that
Speaker 1: five selfies are no The other one that I wanted
Speaker 1: to flag as well, which I kind of thought was bizarre.
Speaker 1: But the more that I've thought about it, the more
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, yeah, this is this is fair. Matt's
Speaker 1: number one thing that he said when I asked him
Speaker 1: what his deal breaks were when he was online dating,
Speaker 1: he didn't like it if the photos weren't high reds.
Speaker 1: You don't want someone who's go like a grainy kind
Speaker 1: of like badly filtered photo because it makes it seem
Speaker 1: like they're trying to hide something. So I think that's important. Presentations, key, ladies,
Speaker 1: make sure you've got some crisp photos happening. Well, let's
Speaker 1: try and summarize some keys for the photos. The really
Speaker 1: important things that are pretty much non negotiables. You can't
Speaker 1: have five selfies, you can't have photos with where every
Speaker 1: single photo is with a male because that or if
Speaker 1: you do, you have to explain it because it leads
Speaker 1: a lot of men to think that it could be
Speaker 1: an X, you're not over your ex. It leaves them
Speaker 1: bit confused about why you're there and your relationship status.
Speaker 1: So that's what that's feedback from the men as well.
Speaker 1: They need to see you physically on your own to
Speaker 1: think that you are single. So if you have a
Speaker 1: photo where you're standing with other men, particularly the same men, repetitively,
Speaker 1: he must be your boyfriend. That's the feedback we've got
Speaker 1: has to be just choose photos that don't have your
Speaker 1: best guy friend in every single one. It'll save, It'll
Speaker 1: save some questions. My big one is don't have photos
Speaker 1: with your kids in it. So, like, I think it's
Speaker 1: all I'm all for being honest about having children when
Speaker 1: you're on online dating, and there's like loads and loads
Speaker 1: of mums who are getting back out there dating, and
Speaker 1: I think that being upfront and honest is amazing. But
Speaker 1: I think for like a safety perspective, and also because
Speaker 1: it's just a bit there's a strange attachment and association
Speaker 1: when I see a child's face on a dating app,
Speaker 1: I always found that very very jarring. So I think,
Speaker 1: just don't post those photos. It's not necessary. Surely there
Speaker 1: are other photos and nice photos that you have where
Speaker 1: you're not having a photo with your child. That's a
Speaker 1: big one for me. Oh, like, there's so many rules. Guys,
Speaker 1: who would have thought that online profiles have so many
Speaker 1: rules attached to that. We said, it's a damn CV
Speaker 1: these days. So the other one that I think is
Speaker 1: a big one is no one wants to play spot
Speaker 1: the single girl, So don't put photos of you with
Speaker 1: like groups of your friends. Make sure that you check
Speaker 1: your photos and make sure that you have at least
Speaker 1: one photo, preferably the first one where you're on your own,
Speaker 1: because I think if you have every single one where
Speaker 1: you're with your girlfriends, it just makes it difficult and
Speaker 1: you know, like people are not spending time looking through
Speaker 1: it actually engaging at the very start. So like, make
Speaker 1: sure you make it obvious who you are, which person
Speaker 1: in the profile it is. That's a big, big one.
Speaker 1: I know for me, when I see a profile that
Speaker 1: has five people in the first image, but someone on
Speaker 1: time constraints, I don't even swipe into his profile, he
Speaker 1: gets a no. Because if you can't show me who
Speaker 1: you are on the first picture and pique interest and
Speaker 1: intrigue me, then it's a no. What was your bio
Speaker 1: when you would online dating? Oh my god, you know,
Speaker 1: I still remember my bio was takes life as seriously
Speaker 1: as the British took Brexit. Addicted to red wine, fitness
Speaker 1: and dogs. So if you're a red wine drinking fitness
Speaker 1: loving dog run at me and then that's cute. I
Speaker 1: love that one. But wait, this's more. Then at the
Speaker 1: end there was a disclaimer. I've been known to eat
Speaker 1: a family sized pack of more teasers. No family was involved,
Speaker 1: and that was my whole fio. But I guess like
Speaker 1: for me, that's who I am. I'm silly. I eat
Speaker 1: a lot of chocolate telling them what I like. But
Speaker 1: I tried to make it relatable and not serious, So
Speaker 1: I don't know. For me, that was one I was
Speaker 1: always I'm always down for a bit of sarcasm and
Speaker 1: a bit of bands. Like I think, if you can
Speaker 1: if you can put something in your bio or if
Speaker 1: you can put something in your description that opens up
Speaker 1: at the door for some conversation, that's better than just hey,
Speaker 1: so like what you're doing. Just something that gives the
Speaker 1: other person a little silver platter and olive branch or
Speaker 1: something that they can reach out and have that connection
Speaker 1: with you and start a fun and lighthearted conversation. And
Speaker 1: that's kind of your job, that's what you're supposed to
Speaker 1: be doing. So try to be a little bit different,
Speaker 1: Try to throw some fun in there, try to be lighthearted.
Speaker 1: State what you want. I think that's important to make
Speaker 1: it clear that if you're looking for a relationship or
Speaker 1: just fun, but you don't have to go all hardcore
Speaker 1: and say I'm looking for marriage and kids next week.
Speaker 1: You don't want to scare them. But there's a difference
Speaker 1: to say hey, I'm looking for someone to do life with.
Speaker 1: I think that's a great line because it's not as
Speaker 1: men can get quite scared, so it's a bit different
Speaker 1: to saying hey, I'm looking for my partner. Alternatively, if
Speaker 1: you're just wanting fun and you're just wanting sex and
Speaker 1: you're wanting hook ups, say that, but just say hey,
Speaker 1: looking to meet people, have a bit of fun. Just
Speaker 1: make it a bit more lighthearted, looking for a good time,
Speaker 1: not a long term. No, don't say that. I'm you
Speaker 1: knowing that. I know that. It can become very repetitive
Speaker 1: and very disheartening when you're matching with people and then
Speaker 1: you're not getting a reply, and there's this level of
Speaker 1: frustration that can start to mount when you're feeling like
Speaker 1: it's groundhoub day and you're feeling like you're doing the
Speaker 1: same thing, and it's very easy to get a mentality
Speaker 1: where you're like, well, dating apps of shit. Everyone on
Speaker 1: dating apps is shit. No one writes back and take
Speaker 1: that frustration out on the next person. So one of
Speaker 1: the points that we'd talked about is like when when
Speaker 1: guys specifically I mean, but I'm sure girls do it
Speaker 1: as well, and their bio stuff like don't match me.
Speaker 1: If you're not going to write back, any level of
Speaker 1: aggression doesn't reflect well on you, even if it's true,
Speaker 1: even if that is how you feel, even if that's
Speaker 1: the situation that you've been in before, even if it
Speaker 1: is totally relatable, which it obviously is, don't put it
Speaker 1: in your bio because it makes you seem angry, It
Speaker 1: makes you seem like you're jilted. Keep everything top line, happy, lighthearted, positive,
Speaker 1: because that is the sort of person that you want
Speaker 1: to be putting across, and that's the sort of person
Speaker 1: that people want to be dating. The last thing that
Speaker 1: I want to add, and I think these are two
Speaker 1: really important things. Make your photos current within maybe like
Speaker 1: the last year, eighteen months at a stretch, but nobody
Speaker 1: wants to turn up and meet someone and realize that
Speaker 1: their photos on their profile were from five years ago.
Speaker 1: I know that when I meet somebody, I want them
Speaker 1: to look like their profile. I don't want them to
Speaker 1: see them in their peak eight years ago, which like
Speaker 1: a lot of guys do that, and I can only
Speaker 1: imagine girls do that too, So I think it's important
Speaker 1: to try and keep it current and relevant. Also, I
Speaker 1: can't stress this one enough. Get someone to check your
Speaker 1: spelling and your grammar on your profile. I think it's
Speaker 1: imperative to be able to have a profile that is literate,
Speaker 1: that has the right punctuation, has a sentence that works. Basically,
Speaker 1: Brittany's very critical of sentences. I say that, but that
Speaker 1: was one of the number one things that came up
Speaker 1: on everything that I researched, where the professional saying get
Speaker 1: your friend to check your profile spelling and punctuation. Every
Speaker 1: time I say unorganized, Brittany goes, it's disorganized, Laura. I
Speaker 1: do not say that aggressively. I was like babes disorganized.
Speaker 1: She will find your profile, she will hunt you down,
Speaker 1: and she will correct you. So make sure you do
Speaker 1: your spelling checks. I think spelling is important. All right, guys, Well,
Speaker 1: now that we've covered a little bit of the online
Speaker 1: dating profiles, let's get in to the couple question, and
Speaker 1: that is how do you carve out quality time with
Speaker 1: your partner when you are in lockdown with your partner?
Speaker 1: And I'm just gonna be honest, I don't have the
Speaker 1: answer for you right now, because I hope you've been
Speaker 1: more of an answer than I've got been single eight years.
Speaker 1: We're all in a bit of a pickle, aren't we.
Speaker 1: This one's you, This advice is coming from you. I
Speaker 1: guess I've been in this situation over the past couple
Speaker 1: of days, and I don't know if other people can
Speaker 1: relate to this, but I'm hoping that it's not just me.
Speaker 1: You know, Matt and I we spend so much time together,
Speaker 1: and for the first couple of weeks, it was amazing,
Speaker 1: and it still is amazing to be able to spend
Speaker 1: that time. I love being in his company. But I
Speaker 1: find more and more as the days go on that
Speaker 1: we are on social media and on our phones, and
Speaker 1: we're very, very disengaged from having conversations with each other,
Speaker 1: and we're very engaged in whatever's happening in the outside world,
Speaker 1: but through our phones. And I know that the reason
Speaker 1: for this is because we've had all the conversations that
Speaker 1: are out there are to have. There's not been any
Speaker 1: new stimulus in our environment to talk about. There's only
Speaker 1: so many stupid TikTok videos you can remake. And it
Speaker 1: was a conversation I was having with another girlfriend of
Speaker 1: mine who's in a very similar situation in her relationship,
Speaker 1: and she's, you know, in a committed relationship and she's
Speaker 1: spent way too much time with her partner now. And
Speaker 1: one of the things that she said that really spoke
Speaker 1: to me was that she was like, we don't go
Speaker 1: to work anymore, so we don't have any time to
Speaker 1: miss each other, and everything we do is together. And
Speaker 1: it got me thinking that I'm sure there are a
Speaker 1: lot of couples who are in this exact same situation
Speaker 1: at the moment. I can't agree with that more. But
Speaker 1: I'm going to relate to this in terms of friends, flatmates,
Speaker 1: people that are just isolating together. I don't think this
Speaker 1: is just necessarily relationships. I think, and I know because
Speaker 1: we've had a lot of listeners right in saying that
Speaker 1: they're having these sorts of issues with their flatmates and
Speaker 1: their friends. So I think it's really important we delve
Speaker 1: into this, and we are going to just put some
Speaker 1: little tips out from friends we've asked what they're doing again.
Speaker 1: We looked up some relationships specialists and therapists and we
Speaker 1: got some advice from them. So we are just going
Speaker 1: to throw out a few things and give you guys,
Speaker 1: hopefully some help and some tips to keep your relationship
Speaker 1: on track and sort of make you reconnect again, get
Speaker 1: back to where you were before you went into isolation.
Speaker 1: I know last week, for example, my sister, she's been
Speaker 1: with her partner now for five years, and she said
Speaker 1: it was ridiculous how much screen time they were having.
Speaker 1: They were going a whole day without speaking to each other,
Speaker 1: things like that, because they were the same things they've
Speaker 1: had their conversation. So what they did was they had
Speaker 1: a screen band and they put their phones away, no TV.
Speaker 1: They got dressed up like proper, dressed up like they
Speaker 1: were going out on a date, and they cooked up
Speaker 1: this amazing meal together, seafood squid, and they decorated their
Speaker 1: lungery and changed it into pillows, fairy lights. It was
Speaker 1: almost like you were going back on a first date,
Speaker 1: like something really special, and they just sat with each
Speaker 1: other and had nothing else to distract them, and they
Speaker 1: just had to talk to each other. And she said,
Speaker 1: it was amazing. It really got them back to like
Speaker 1: the excitement and the warning to speak to each other
Speaker 1: and realizing that you still love each other and that
Speaker 1: you're going to get through it. The first part of
Speaker 1: this is acknowledging that you're doing it, like acknowledging that
Speaker 1: you're di engaged, because I think it sometimes it just
Speaker 1: creeps up on you in a relationship where you don't
Speaker 1: even realize that the time that you spend together isn't quality.
Speaker 1: I honestly think that, like you can wake up two
Speaker 1: or three weeks, four weeks down the track and be like,
Speaker 1: I don't even feel like we've had a proper conversation.
Speaker 1: I don't feel like we have really connected at all,
Speaker 1: but we've seen each other every day. You need to
Speaker 1: be very cognizant of the fact that that's where you're
Speaker 1: at at the moment, and then make a very conscious
Speaker 1: decision that you're going to put some things in place
Speaker 1: in order to change your behavior. So, like like you said,
Speaker 1: with your sister, have an evening where you put your
Speaker 1: phones down, or bring in the rule that you can't
Speaker 1: have any phones in your hand past six pm or
Speaker 1: seven pm, whatever time that is for you. Just so
Speaker 1: that you get a few hours in the evening where
Speaker 1: you can both sit with each other and have a conversation.
Speaker 1: One of the things that I really believe is that
Speaker 1: sometimes you need to have small talk in order to
Speaker 1: get to the deeper conversations, and they come, but you
Speaker 1: just can't have to sometimes sit in a little bit
Speaker 1: of obscurity for a little while before you find a
Speaker 1: topic again that you're like, Oh, here's something that we've
Speaker 1: never discussed before. This is new, like this is a
Speaker 1: new territory. And I think a way to bring you
Speaker 1: both back to ground level and connect you again is
Speaker 1: to ask each other questions about your relationship. So you
Speaker 1: might've been together five years, ten years, whatever, one year.
Speaker 1: Ask your partner, what's the favorite date We've ever had,
Speaker 1: What's the funniest thing I've ever done? What's the thing
Speaker 1: you love about me? The most little, little funny things
Speaker 1: that they're going to bring you back to realize why
Speaker 1: you together and how you fell in love, and just
Speaker 1: to sort of reignite passion and the cute little memories
Speaker 1: that you've shared over the time. I think that's really
Speaker 1: nice and you might actually learn a lot of things
Speaker 1: that you didn't know that maybe you don't know what
Speaker 1: your partner loves about you the most, or you don't
Speaker 1: know what his most embarrassing moment was, or like a
Speaker 1: walk down memory lane can be really really nice way
Speaker 1: to bring you back together another thing as well at that,
Speaker 1: I mean, and it's really hard to do because obviously
Speaker 1: we're meant to be staying home as much as possible,
Speaker 1: But I think it's so important to try and carve
Speaker 1: out a little bit of time that is your time
Speaker 1: away from your partner, to give you, even if it's
Speaker 1: just a small opportunity, but to give you a moment
Speaker 1: to actually miss your partner. So maybe that means you
Speaker 1: go for a walk, or you do some exercise where
Speaker 1: you are not in the same space with each other,
Speaker 1: or maybe you work from separate rooms of the house,
Speaker 1: but you really allocate some time to be like we
Speaker 1: are not this is not the same coworking space right now.
Speaker 1: And I mean I even had to do it with
Speaker 1: Matt recently. I was in the bedroom working and we've
Speaker 1: just become so we've just become so so used to
Speaker 1: constantly being each other's face that he just kept walking
Speaker 1: in and out and in and out and out of
Speaker 1: the bedroom to ask me questions whilst I was working,
Speaker 1: and I had to be like, no, like this is
Speaker 1: you can't come in here anymore. You have to stay
Speaker 1: out of the bedroom because I need to get work
Speaker 1: done and the constantness of this is driving me crazy. Yep. Well,
Speaker 1: the professionals have said that it's really important and if
Speaker 1: you can, even in a small space, it's really important
Speaker 1: to maybe designate an area of the house for everything.
Speaker 1: So this area is the work zone, and this area
Speaker 1: is the chill zone, and this area is the workout zone.
Speaker 1: So each little area of your house, when you're in
Speaker 1: that area, that's what you're doing. So when you're in
Speaker 1: your work office area, you have to treat it like
Speaker 1: a work office area. Even though yours is now the bedroom,
Speaker 1: Matt has to understand that for that time, that's not
Speaker 1: his bedroom. Totally understand that some people's like living arrangements
Speaker 1: are one bedroom studios. We understand that some people's living
Speaker 1: arrangements are one bedroom apartments. Like it is really challenging
Speaker 1: to try and live, work, and relationship all from the
Speaker 1: same small space. But I do think that you have
Speaker 1: to kind of bring in some sort of boundaries and
Speaker 1: some discipline into your day in order to be able
Speaker 1: to like have that, just to have that separation so
Speaker 1: that you're not constantly living on top of each other
Speaker 1: and getting irritated by every single, small little thing that
Speaker 1: they do. It's also important to, I thinknot make assumptions
Speaker 1: about how your partner or your flatmate or your best friend,
Speaker 1: how they're feeling. Don't assume you know where they're out
Speaker 1: mentally and what they're thinking about you and what they're
Speaker 1: thinking and feeling about the situation, because assumption can breed resentment.
Speaker 1: They also make an ass out of you and me.
Speaker 1: So imperative just to have open communication in this time,
Speaker 1: and so like you said to Matt, Matt, boy, you
Speaker 1: just can't come in here anymore? Do I in calling boy?
Speaker 1: But yes, no, none of us call in boy. One
Speaker 1: of the one of the most important take homes from
Speaker 1: this whole weird, wide world that we're trying to navigate
Speaker 1: together is that no one expects you to have the
Speaker 1: perfect relationship right now. This environment, this pressure like this,
Speaker 1: living like this, this puts so much pressure on relationships.
Speaker 1: It has brought out a lot of anxiety in people.
Speaker 1: And maybe your partner or maybe you are not the
Speaker 1: best version of yourselves right now, and that's okay. And
Speaker 1: I think it's really important to allow your partner so
Speaker 1: long as there's still a good person and they're still
Speaker 1: treating you right, it's okay to kind of give the
Speaker 1: relationship a bit of breathing room and be okay with
Speaker 1: the fact that right now things are not going to
Speaker 1: be perfect, and expecting perfection in this environment is going
Speaker 1: to put a lot of pressure on your relationationships. So,
Speaker 1: you know what, we're all navigating a very very strange time.
Speaker 1: And I think like just because now is not good
Speaker 1: necessarily for your relationship, doesn't mean that your relationship isn't good,
Speaker 1: And that's a really important thing to remember and to
Speaker 1: take home because this is all temporary. One other thing that,
Speaker 1: if it's possible, would be really great to do is
Speaker 1: to establish routine to the best of your ability. So
Speaker 1: when you guys say, okay, from eight am to eleven am,
Speaker 1: it's just work time, we're going to pretend we're not
Speaker 1: even together. We're both just going to do our thing.
Speaker 1: We can't disturb each other. And then every day from
Speaker 1: eleven to twelve that might be your time for a walk.
Speaker 1: But the sooner you have a routine of some sorts
Speaker 1: in your life, the easier your life is going to
Speaker 1: be to manage, easier your expectations are to manage, and
Speaker 1: the better the two of you, or the three of you,
Speaker 1: or however many in your house are all going to
Speaker 1: get along because you know how it works, and you
Speaker 1: know what's expected in your day and in that routine.
Speaker 1: Like like we've just said, is to make make sure
Speaker 1: that you carve out time that is like date night time.
Speaker 1: Carve out time that's special time for you and your
Speaker 1: partner so that you're not getting to the end of
Speaker 1: the day and having this monotony of like, oh, what
Speaker 1: are we doing tonight, same things last night, Let's put
Speaker 1: on some Netflix and not talk to each other. Make
Speaker 1: sure that you are trying to create some time that
Speaker 1: is special. And even if it just manages one night
Speaker 1: a week, if you consciously do that, then your relationship
Speaker 1: won't be forgotten about in all this extra time that
Speaker 1: you're spending together. It can still be something that is
Speaker 1: really special. All right, guys, you know that we never
Speaker 1: finish an episode with our suck and our suite and
Speaker 1: our suck and our sweet is basically just the highlight
Speaker 1: and the low light of each and every week. And
Speaker 1: even though things don't seem to change very much at
Speaker 1: the moment, we still have some what's your suck, So
Speaker 1: my suck, my suck. I do this thing sometimes, and
Speaker 1: it always happens late at night or early in the morning.
Speaker 1: I think that's when I do most of my thinking.
Speaker 1: And I when somebody from my past or someone in
Speaker 1: my life pops into my head, I like to message
Speaker 1: them on the spot while I'm thinking of them, to
Speaker 1: tell him I'm thinking of them and checking on them
Speaker 1: sort of thing. So for example, it might even been
Speaker 1: my dad. I if it comes to mind, I quickly
Speaker 1: text him. I'm like, hey, thinking of you, love you whatever.
Speaker 1: So it's cute. Yeah, So two nights ago, who never
Speaker 1: text me specual, So like two days ago, it was
Speaker 1: literally like eleven thirty night and I was drifting off
Speaker 1: to sleep and I was just thinking of this somebody
Speaker 1: from my past, and I hadn't spoken to you in
Speaker 1: a long time, and I was like, you know what
Speaker 1: I've been, so I'm just gonna shoot her a message,
Speaker 1: picked up my phone, wrote to her and said, Hey,
Speaker 1: I was just thinking of you. I miss you. Love
Speaker 1: you lots. Hopefully I talk to you soon. Sent it
Speaker 1: my bloody sent it to the person underneath her, who
Speaker 1: was a guy, so it wasn't her. It was like
Speaker 1: the one person under the contacts underneath was he like,
Speaker 1: I miss you too, been thinking about you as well
Speaker 1: pretty much. Who was No, you know what he wrote?
Speaker 1: He goes, that wasn't supposed to go to me because
Speaker 1: it was not somebody that we did not in that well.
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh my god, some of I'm
Speaker 1: really sorry, but like no, I don't miss you. I
Speaker 1: don't miss you, and I hate you and delete my number.
Speaker 1: I'm like, how are you even in my phone still?
Speaker 1: And then I actually message my friend that's my sug.
Speaker 1: That's fine. Your week has been good. That's a good suck. Yeah,
Speaker 1: well wait to hear my sweet baby or give me
Speaker 1: your sweet girlfriend. Well, you know, the weather has turned slightly.
Speaker 1: It's a bit chilly here in the old Bond eye.
Speaker 1: It's a bit chilli. He's wearing a turtleneck right now,
Speaker 1: she is, No, I am. I actually love turtlenecks and
Speaker 1: my favorite piece of clothing. I love them. Sure a
Speaker 1: weird that I'm in a turtle neck? No, it's not weird,
Speaker 1: but it's weird that it's your favorite piece of clothing.
Speaker 1: I love it. It's a comfort thing anyway. I like turtlenecks.
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm being slightly, like softly strangled around
Speaker 1: my neck like a favorite. Oh no, I just love them.
Speaker 1: It's a comfort thing. But anyway, the weather's turned. I
Speaker 1: pulled out a jacket that I haven't worn in a while,
Speaker 1: because you know, I wanted to go for walk in
Speaker 1: a jacket. Put it on, went to put my keys
Speaker 1: in my jacket pocket. Found twenty dollars. This sounds like
Speaker 1: a made up story. It sounds like one of those
Speaker 1: stories where you're telling a shit story and then you're like,
Speaker 1: and then I found fifty bucks. I know. That's the
Speaker 1: best thing about it. It sounds fake, but it's not. How
Speaker 1: long that twenty dollars has been in there for I
Speaker 1: don't know, But you know what the shitty part of
Speaker 1: that story is, No, no one's taking cash. So now
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna sit on this and you found glory
Speaker 1: for however many months until people start to take cashingg it.
Speaker 1: I just nodded into the microphone. I don't know why
Speaker 1: I found that so funny, but it really was, all right,
Speaker 1: my suck, my suck, what was my suck? Look, this
Speaker 1: is not it's not a real suck. You guys are
Speaker 1: gonna think that I'm just making up stuff now, which
Speaker 1: I kind of am. But because I've had really bad
Speaker 1: anxiety this week, I've been having really bad dreams this week,
Speaker 1: and so I keep on having this dream, and I've
Speaker 1: had it three times this week now in different variations.
Speaker 1: Is it me? No, You're not my worst nightmare worried
Speaker 1: about You're safe. I keep having this dream that I
Speaker 1: am it's I must be like I'm my age, which
Speaker 1: doesn't make any sense. But I'm sitting like my HSC
Speaker 1: exam or I'm sitting a test and no one has
Speaker 1: told me what day the test is on, but I
Speaker 1: know that I haven't studied and know that the test
Speaker 1: is coming up like it's tomorrow or it's and the
Speaker 1: problem is, like I'm going to really go into some
Speaker 1: depths with this one. Yeah I'm here, so okay, So
Speaker 1: like I need to sit like my science tests, I
Speaker 1: need to sit my maths tests. I need to sit
Speaker 1: all the tests, but I need to know which day
Speaker 1: each test is on so that I need I can
Speaker 1: allocate which one I have to study for first, because
Speaker 1: I have like three days to get this shit done.
Speaker 1: And then I wake up in a full tis about
Speaker 1: the fact that I'm gonna sit my hate. It's weird.
Speaker 1: I'm crying. I'm thirty four years old and I'm dreaming
Speaker 1: about my HC School exam. And I think that maybe
Speaker 1: I'm just stressed about having too much work or trying
Speaker 1: to juggle too many things at one time, or the
Speaker 1: fact that I can't leave my house. God knows, but
Speaker 1: there's something that's coming into my sleep. It is that's
Speaker 1: that's just a section of your life right now, Like
Speaker 1: you're stressed about your exams and you don't have time
Speaker 1: to get it done. And I think that's probably how
Speaker 1: you feel just with everything that's going on in your life.
Speaker 1: It's chaos, guys, disastf Do you have a sweet? Yes?
Speaker 1: My sweet for the week is that we have finally
Speaker 1: finally started to I know it's not spring, but I'm
Speaker 1: gonna call it spring any weight. We've finally started to
Speaker 1: spring clean our apartment and throw away. We just have
Speaker 1: so much stuff I can't even begin to describe to you.
Speaker 1: It's just stuff. That comes out of nowhere and accumulates
Speaker 1: in bundles all over the house. So we've started to
Speaker 1: slowly clean out and throw away some of the stuff.
Speaker 1: So we are not going to be the BONDI horders anymore.
Speaker 1: How old are we? Thirty four? Decluttering is how sweet?
Speaker 1: I'm gonna marry condo the shit out of my life. Yes,
Speaker 1: that's that's I'm very old. It was only true months
Speaker 1: ago that my sweet was like going on four dates
Speaker 1: in a week. Last week I was complaining about my
Speaker 1: back pain, So that's not going to come as surprise
Speaker 1: to anyone now, I'm like, what a sad time. Really, Well, guys,
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