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Speaker 1: I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, and this is the Rise

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Speaker 1: we're here to help you be curious, pull yourself out,

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Speaker 1: Hello and welcome back to the Potty So guys. Our

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Speaker 1: he's resentful towards you because he's like, why is she

436
00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:57,879
Speaker 1: being like that? And so I guess like I brought

437
00:24:57,880 --> 00:25:00,600
Speaker 1: that conversation in and we had the conversation about it

438
00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:03,959
Speaker 1: and we were able to unpack it, and then I

439
00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:04,960
Speaker 1: was like cool.

440
00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:08,479
Speaker 2: Our next question how do you support each other in

441
00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 2: stressful moments so that you can both live your best lives.

442
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:14,199
Speaker 2: So if there's like a lot going on, or it's

443
00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:16,560
Speaker 2: a busy day and someone says I need a massage

444
00:25:16,640 --> 00:25:18,560
Speaker 2: or I need to go to golf, how do you

445
00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:20,000
Speaker 2: show support to each other?

446
00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:25,119
Speaker 1: Well, not even that, let's backtrack it to you know,

447
00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:29,520
Speaker 1: let's just say, Tim, I've said I'm feeling overwhelmed, I'm

448
00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:31,439
Speaker 1: feeling stressed out. What do you do?

449
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:32,320
Speaker 4: All right?

450
00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 3: So to answer that question, what we do now is

451
00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:38,080
Speaker 3: I think is really beneficial to both of us because

452
00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:40,840
Speaker 3: we get to put our emotions out on the table

453
00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:43,120
Speaker 3: and then put them out to the universe so they're

454
00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:44,720
Speaker 3: like not built up on the inside.

455
00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:45,960
Speaker 4: We'll say, all right, so what we'll do.

456
00:25:46,000 --> 00:25:49,639
Speaker 3: We'll sit down at dinner and then I'll say, you know,

457
00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:51,600
Speaker 3: George just said to me, you know, she's feeling a

458
00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:54,640
Speaker 3: bit stress and this, and that said, what we all

459
00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:56,960
Speaker 3: your emotions today? Tell me all your emotions that you

460
00:25:56,960 --> 00:25:58,800
Speaker 3: felt today, and we'll go through them.

461
00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:02,439
Speaker 4: Blah blah blah. Guilt, that's interest, disappointment a.

462
00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:06,040
Speaker 3: Little by that, And then I'll ask her the situations

463
00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:09,080
Speaker 3: that she felt guilty. So then she will just slowly

464
00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:11,560
Speaker 3: tick the boxes and then she'll like just talk it

465
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:14,200
Speaker 3: out and she'll be like, oh, well, actually I probably

466
00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:16,439
Speaker 3: didn't actually need to be guilty, then, did I? And

467
00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:20,679
Speaker 3: then almost like ansie your own sort of issues in

468
00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:21,320
Speaker 3: a way or.

469
00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:26,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would definitely say, you know, we'll talk about

470
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:30,560
Speaker 1: like then the underlying factors of like, for example, with

471
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:34,240
Speaker 1: that golf thing of me being like, it's not actually

472
00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:38,439
Speaker 1: the feeling of resentment to you, it's the feeling of

473
00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:43,000
Speaker 1: resentment towards myself for over committing and getting to that.

474
00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:46,720
Speaker 1: Like Tim will keep asking me the questions of like, well,

475
00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:49,760
Speaker 1: why do you feel that way? Or could there be

476
00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:52,240
Speaker 1: another way to you know, see this, or you know,

477
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:57,160
Speaker 1: those getting deeper questions, and then I unpack it myself

478
00:26:57,320 --> 00:27:00,639
Speaker 1: and realize what it's actually about. Switch doesn't have as

479
00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:01,200
Speaker 1: much weight.

480
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:06,080
Speaker 2: And do you ever sort of bring things up to

481
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:09,520
Speaker 2: each other that the other might not see? Yeah, Like

482
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:12,240
Speaker 2: Tim will highlight aspects of you shaming yourself that you

483
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:14,840
Speaker 2: might not have picked up on or you're both putting

484
00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 2: onto it.

485
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:20,000
Speaker 3: It was we had so many great chats on that trip,

486
00:27:20,080 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 3: didn't we.

487
00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:20,760
Speaker 2: Well.

488
00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:24,119
Speaker 1: I think it's about creating space for the other person.

489
00:27:24,720 --> 00:27:27,800
Speaker 1: So a big thing is I can usually get to

490
00:27:28,040 --> 00:27:31,880
Speaker 1: my own realizations or get to the quote unquote real

491
00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 1: feeling what I'm you know, processing, but Tim actually gives

492
00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:40,240
Speaker 1: me the space. So we do these in moments of

493
00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:43,400
Speaker 1: when Ivy's not around. So this is a big thing.

494
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:45,639
Speaker 4: If you have kids, the most important this is like

495
00:27:45,960 --> 00:27:46,480
Speaker 4: a must.

496
00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 1: So Tim will ask me if this happened last night?

497
00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:51,160
Speaker 1: Tim asked me something in the shower, and I just said,

498
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 1: can you just wait, I'd love to talk to you

499
00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:57,120
Speaker 1: about this at dinner, knowing it was a deeper conversation

500
00:27:57,240 --> 00:27:58,840
Speaker 1: and knowing that all three of us are in the

501
00:27:58,840 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 1: shower and it's like Ivy needed to be dried and

502
00:28:01,840 --> 00:28:04,600
Speaker 1: her nappy on soon. So I'll even say that of

503
00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:06,440
Speaker 1: if it is something where I'm like, oh, I need

504
00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:09,160
Speaker 1: space and time from Tim of this, I'll say, can

505
00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:11,480
Speaker 1: we talk about this at another time, And then we

506
00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 1: have a ritual of Ivy goes to better around six,

507
00:28:14,920 --> 00:28:17,600
Speaker 1: and then we have dinner together, no phones, no TV,

508
00:28:18,320 --> 00:28:21,480
Speaker 1: and we talk through those certain.

509
00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:24,640
Speaker 3: Things, not because we like have to, because like because generally,

510
00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:28,520
Speaker 3: like genuinely like we want to yeah, right, Like I

511
00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:30,399
Speaker 3: want to like get just be like, oh babe, I

512
00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:32,040
Speaker 3: can't wait to talk to you about this and get

513
00:28:32,040 --> 00:28:34,280
Speaker 3: it off my chest from what happened today because I

514
00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:37,640
Speaker 3: felt this this this, you know, and then it says like, oh,

515
00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:39,400
Speaker 3: I feels so fucking good. So then I can like

516
00:28:39,480 --> 00:28:41,840
Speaker 3: go to sleep and be like, oh, like put it

517
00:28:41,880 --> 00:28:43,880
Speaker 3: out there. She's gonna like hold me accountable because now

518
00:28:43,920 --> 00:28:46,520
Speaker 3: she knows how I feel. It's just like sharing your emotions,

519
00:28:47,080 --> 00:28:49,000
Speaker 3: but it's like just being open about it instead of

520
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:50,840
Speaker 3: bottling it all up and going to sleep, and then

521
00:28:50,840 --> 00:28:52,280
Speaker 3: you wake up and you still get a little bottled

522
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 3: up and you just like, you still feel like shit

523
00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:55,880
Speaker 3: the next day, and you still probably have resentment to

524
00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 3: that with that next person, and it's just it's very unhealthy.

525
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:02,720
Speaker 3: You hold your emotions in, Like the best thing is

526
00:29:02,760 --> 00:29:04,640
Speaker 3: day to day, letting them out at the end of

527
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:05,000
Speaker 3: the day.

528
00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, but would you say it's only been like to

529
00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:12,760
Speaker 1: have the space and time to do that is the

530
00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:17,160
Speaker 1: key thing, absolutely, yeah, because before that. It's not before that.

531
00:29:17,200 --> 00:29:19,040
Speaker 1: But it's like, if you know, me and Tim are

532
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:21,720
Speaker 1: trying having this deep conversation, I just fucking crying or

533
00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:23,640
Speaker 1: something like, you just won't get there. So that's why

534
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:26,680
Speaker 1: it's really important to have those times of I am

535
00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:29,719
Speaker 1: struggling right now, I am feeling these feelings. Let's actually

536
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 1: book in a time. And I know that sounds like,

537
00:29:32,600 --> 00:29:34,719
Speaker 1: let's book and a time to talk, but when your parents,

538
00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:37,080
Speaker 1: you literally have to do that. But I think the

539
00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:41,040
Speaker 1: biggest difference for us is like just holding space if

540
00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:45,960
Speaker 1: the other person is struggling. It's holding space for that person.

541
00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:49,600
Speaker 3: I think that's so huge, and it's like it's not

542
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:53,040
Speaker 3: like that you're going to put aside like hours with

543
00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:55,560
Speaker 3: each other. Like generally our chats are like what like

544
00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:57,360
Speaker 3: a good chat. We can have a really good chat

545
00:29:57,400 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 3: and like get our emotions out and then understand each

546
00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:02,240
Speaker 3: other a bit more in like half an hour. I'm

547
00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:06,160
Speaker 3: sure everyone here can like spait half an hour together. Yea,

548
00:30:06,360 --> 00:30:10,760
Speaker 3: like intentional time just sitting there watching Netflix on your phone,

549
00:30:11,920 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 3: like half an hour.

550
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:16,479
Speaker 1: And after that half an hour, I feel really filled

551
00:30:16,560 --> 00:30:18,959
Speaker 1: up by Tim. I feel like he's really you know.

552
00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:21,760
Speaker 1: I feel like we've given each other that time that

553
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:24,400
Speaker 1: I will then go have a sauna alone or I

554
00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 1: will still then get in my alone time. It's not

555
00:30:26,680 --> 00:30:28,800
Speaker 1: like me and Tim are spending twenty four seven together.

556
00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:31,560
Speaker 1: But it's like if you can hold space for that person,

557
00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:36,680
Speaker 1: eye contact, not interrupting them, taking them deeper, Like all

558
00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:42,000
Speaker 1: those learned things are so important that.

559
00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:46,000
Speaker 2: How do you preserve your relationship with such a busy lifestyle.

560
00:30:46,440 --> 00:30:48,920
Speaker 1: I think the biggest thing is we prioritize each other.

561
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:53,840
Speaker 1: So I prioritize Tim. Like he said, it's half an hour,

562
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:57,880
Speaker 1: but we're going to have no TV, no phone, and

563
00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:01,760
Speaker 1: dinner together and that's our time time. And also we

564
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:04,920
Speaker 1: prioritize each other on the weekend, whether it's a couple

565
00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 1: of hours, like, it's just we are constantly putting our

566
00:31:09,600 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 1: relationship first, even though we've got a million other things

567
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:15,960
Speaker 1: on our plate and.

568
00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:17,880
Speaker 3: We could be doing heavy of other things where it's like,

569
00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:20,120
Speaker 3: but I get like excited for the weekends because we

570
00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:22,920
Speaker 3: get to have Brecky Yimi and Ivy. And then it's

571
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:26,320
Speaker 3: like her normally her first NAP's like two hours, so

572
00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:28,480
Speaker 3: it's like two hours that we could be chatting instead

573
00:31:28,480 --> 00:31:30,680
Speaker 3: of like like we would just change that time from

574
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:34,560
Speaker 3: night time from dinner m m to that her first nap.

575
00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:36,520
Speaker 4: We're gonna have a really good hour long chat.

576
00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:44,120
Speaker 1: Even mm hmmm. Slush Jen literally said what we said

577
00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:47,560
Speaker 1: that about our holiday, didn't we? Tim Tim goes, oh,

578
00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:50,560
Speaker 1: like I feel so connected and I feel like this

579
00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:53,400
Speaker 1: is the deepest we've gone in our relationship. But fuck,

580
00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:54,959
Speaker 1: I'm a bit exhausted from talking.

581
00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:59,040
Speaker 4: I was like I needed a holiday from my holiday.

582
00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:01,760
Speaker 4: Action droined. I came back and I was like.

583
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:05,120
Speaker 3: Holy ship, it was so good, but it was just like, oh,

584
00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:06,719
Speaker 3: my god, I don't want to I want to talk

585
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:07,080
Speaker 3: to anyone.

586
00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:09,920
Speaker 4: For like four days, we just.

587
00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:12,520
Speaker 1: Didn't stop talking to each other the whole time, and

588
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:15,080
Speaker 1: like deep deep convo you know, like those.

589
00:32:15,560 --> 00:32:17,720
Speaker 4: Like really you really got to think about it.

590
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:20,520
Speaker 1: Like oh that's amazing, Yeah, like going through like what

591
00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:24,640
Speaker 1: is your life your deepest fear and how would you

592
00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 1: overcome it?

593
00:32:26,600 --> 00:32:27,480
Speaker 4: Time goes so quick.

594
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:34,160
Speaker 2: Our next question a little more glad hearted. Do you

595
00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:35,200
Speaker 2: both want more kids?

596
00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:39,840
Speaker 1: Oh? Was that a note?

597
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:43,640
Speaker 4: I have one more?

598
00:32:44,240 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 1: One more jo? I don't know who he's having that

599
00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:58,080
Speaker 1: one kid? Yeah, one kid Ivy. No, like since having Ivy,

600
00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:02,680
Speaker 1: like she just the best, Like she's the greatest little

601
00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:06,680
Speaker 1: human and I couldn't already see like she's gonna be well,

602
00:33:06,720 --> 00:33:09,440
Speaker 1: she is the light of my life. So like when

603
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:11,640
Speaker 1: I think about it that way, I was like, you know,

604
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 1: i'd love another little Ivy. Oh so cute, so like yeah,

605
00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:18,760
Speaker 1: but also I don't want to put time lines on it.

606
00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:21,520
Speaker 1: I don't want to put pressure. And even I said

607
00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:24,680
Speaker 1: to Tim, I'm really enjoying as you guys have probably seen,

608
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:29,800
Speaker 1: like we're really prioritizing our relationship and us as a

609
00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:32,840
Speaker 1: family of three. This year in regards to we have

610
00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:36,400
Speaker 1: holidays booked, Me and Tim have special getaways and it's

611
00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:39,880
Speaker 1: kind of like this year of really nourishing our family

612
00:33:40,040 --> 00:33:44,240
Speaker 1: unit and our relationship. So that just feels really good.

613
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:48,840
Speaker 1: So cute.

614
00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:52,640
Speaker 2: Tim, Yes, did you ever feel pressure to start doing

615
00:33:52,720 --> 00:33:56,560
Speaker 2: personal development or that Georgie might have been outgrowing you

616
00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:58,960
Speaker 2: because she was doing personal development?

617
00:33:59,280 --> 00:33:59,480
Speaker 1: Yeah?

618
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:02,320
Speaker 4: Get left behind you. You gotta do something about it.

619
00:34:03,400 --> 00:34:06,400
Speaker 1: Do you want to tell the audience of like why

620
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:10,400
Speaker 1: you decided to start doing your own personal development? Do

621
00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:10,759
Speaker 1: you want to?

622
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:15,480
Speaker 3: I think the pinpoint of it was when like I

623
00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:18,239
Speaker 3: knew you were sort of doing your own thing, and

624
00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:20,040
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, it's all good, like quite supportive,

625
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:21,400
Speaker 3: but I was just like I didn't really see the

626
00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:26,920
Speaker 3: light almost but right, So there was signs. So at

627
00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:29,440
Speaker 3: the start of the year, I don't know what it was,

628
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:33,040
Speaker 3: but at the start of this year, I started seeing triple.

629
00:34:32,760 --> 00:34:35,719
Speaker 4: Figures, triple numbers, sorry, angel numbers.

630
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:38,240
Speaker 3: Angel numbers, So anything I look at my phone, angel

631
00:34:38,280 --> 00:34:40,600
Speaker 3: numbers are just like, what the fuck is going on?

632
00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:44,680
Speaker 3: Like obviously it's like means I'm doing something right where

633
00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:46,840
Speaker 3: it's like something big is about to happen.

634
00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:49,439
Speaker 1: And Tim's angels were calling on him.

635
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:51,239
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I was like, but I was like, what's this.

636
00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:52,800
Speaker 3: I didn't say anything to do it for like a

637
00:34:52,840 --> 00:34:54,719
Speaker 3: couple of months. I'm like, now I said it.

638
00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:59,400
Speaker 4: I keep saying like three numbers like everywhere, like everywhere

639
00:34:59,400 --> 00:35:02,560
Speaker 4: I go, and then hey, a love story short and

640
00:35:02,560 --> 00:35:10,280
Speaker 4: then I was like fuck anyway.

641
00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:15,000
Speaker 3: Anyway, So George a retreat to do with her personal

642
00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:17,680
Speaker 3: development and she got back and she was like I

643
00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 3: could just see and she was like a fully changed person.

644
00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:22,040
Speaker 3: She's like, oh my god, just after two days of

645
00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:25,719
Speaker 3: doing my retreat, I just feel like so like recharged,

646
00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:26,880
Speaker 3: so much more clear.

647
00:35:26,680 --> 00:35:29,320
Speaker 4: On my shit. And then I was like I really

648
00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:31,839
Speaker 4: like and yeah, so anyway.

649
00:35:31,520 --> 00:35:33,960
Speaker 1: I tell them the actual conversation. Do you remember it?

650
00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:34,960
Speaker 4: Not really?

651
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:42,280
Speaker 1: So I remember having a conversation with you, and I said,

652
00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:44,239
Speaker 1: you know, me and t Him have been together for

653
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 1: eleven years now, isn't it. And it's crazy because we

654
00:35:49,120 --> 00:35:53,319
Speaker 1: met when I was seventeen, he was twenty two, and like,

655
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:56,720
Speaker 1: for us to continually evolve and you know, be together

656
00:35:56,840 --> 00:35:58,839
Speaker 1: is so huge because if you think about it, like

657
00:35:58,880 --> 00:36:03,319
Speaker 1: we're completely different people. But I said to him, a

658
00:36:03,400 --> 00:36:06,600
Speaker 1: part of our relationship and like, you guys would feel

659
00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:10,839
Speaker 1: this in the podcast is like I'm someone who constantly

660
00:36:10,880 --> 00:36:14,239
Speaker 1: loves to up level, constantly try new things, constantly go

661
00:36:14,320 --> 00:36:18,239
Speaker 1: to my edges, and Tim has always met me there

662
00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:23,280
Speaker 1: and he's constantly evolved too in our relationship. But something

663
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:27,400
Speaker 1: that I noted on the retreat was it usually took

664
00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:32,319
Speaker 1: me having this big conversation with Tim about me going

665
00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:35,399
Speaker 1: to the next level, what I'm feeling, and then him

666
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:39,279
Speaker 1: going Okay, cool, yup, like let's do it, let's go,

667
00:36:40,120 --> 00:36:43,840
Speaker 1: And I just said to him, I'm noticing that's starting

668
00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:47,800
Speaker 1: to not feel good to me anymore. And with Ivy

669
00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 1: now and you know, our lives and the businesses and everything,

670
00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:55,000
Speaker 1: it didn't feel good for me to It almost felt

671
00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:59,920
Speaker 1: like Ivy's in the office guys at least trying to

672
00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:04,200
Speaker 1: And I remember saying to you something of the words

673
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:08,080
Speaker 1: of like like you're so incredibly at meeting me where

674
00:37:08,080 --> 00:37:12,319
Speaker 1: I'm at, but sometimes it feels like I don't have

675
00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:16,920
Speaker 1: the energy anymore to help you get to that stage.

676
00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:19,319
Speaker 1: Because even if you think about Rise and Congo, it's

677
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:21,440
Speaker 1: like that's even what I do in my business. I'm

678
00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:24,600
Speaker 1: constantly like asking people to meet me and be like,

679
00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:27,560
Speaker 1: you know, let's go, let's up level. And I remember

680
00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:29,480
Speaker 1: just kind of saying that to you in regards to

681
00:37:29,560 --> 00:37:31,920
Speaker 1: like the energy if we're talking about energetics, and I

682
00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:34,680
Speaker 1: was like that sometimes that just feels really heavy to me,

683
00:37:35,239 --> 00:37:38,720
Speaker 1: and I honestly feel like that's all I said, and

684
00:37:39,400 --> 00:37:41,719
Speaker 1: you were just like I remember saying that to you

685
00:37:41,760 --> 00:37:44,480
Speaker 1: and you just being like yeah, cool, like I fully

686
00:37:44,480 --> 00:37:47,960
Speaker 1: get it. And then I remember a couple of weeks

687
00:37:48,040 --> 00:37:51,520
Speaker 1: later you coming to me and being like, I'm gonna

688
00:37:51,520 --> 00:37:55,480
Speaker 1: get my own coach. I'm gonna do it. That's my

689
00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:59,040
Speaker 1: thinking of the reality is that your Yeah.

690
00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:01,600
Speaker 3: It was along as line because obviously when you went

691
00:38:01,640 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 3: out of a treat, you went with Chloe, and then

692
00:38:04,480 --> 00:38:07,520
Speaker 3: you're like, her partner, Corey is a coach.

693
00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:16,719
Speaker 4: His life. It's like putting her face on the thing. Yeah.

694
00:38:16,719 --> 00:38:18,200
Speaker 3: And I was like, because I was a bit I

695
00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:20,000
Speaker 3: know even then, I was like, oh, like you know,

696
00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:24,720
Speaker 3: it's almost like subconscious I knew I had.

697
00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:25,280
Speaker 4: To do it.

698
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:26,960
Speaker 1: Was your ego, my ego.

699
00:38:26,840 --> 00:38:29,160
Speaker 4: Being like, oh, are you sure? Like you're pretty cool?

700
00:38:29,200 --> 00:38:32,239
Speaker 3: Like you're pretty like it's pretty good where you're at,

701
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:35,040
Speaker 3: you know, like you guy, like you know, you got

702
00:38:35,040 --> 00:38:37,880
Speaker 3: your ship together, you know, compared to a lot of

703
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:41,120
Speaker 3: other people then, And that's the whole thing, was like.

704
00:38:41,040 --> 00:38:43,440
Speaker 1: The deciding moment of like, yeah, no, I am going

705
00:38:43,520 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 1: to do this for myself.

706
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:46,640
Speaker 3: I think it was just a bit of a like

707
00:38:46,880 --> 00:38:49,440
Speaker 3: aha moment for me because it's like we were like

708
00:38:49,480 --> 00:38:51,040
Speaker 3: when you were sort of saying and it did take

709
00:38:51,080 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 3: me a lot of time to get into a deeper

710
00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:54,239
Speaker 3: conversation where it's like.

711
00:38:54,200 --> 00:38:58,960
Speaker 4: It shouldn't you know what I mean? Yeah, like like

712
00:38:59,040 --> 00:38:59,840
Speaker 4: it took.

713
00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:01,879
Speaker 3: You for just to get I'm like, oh, yeah, let's

714
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:04,400
Speaker 3: get into this conversation. Whereas like soon as I started

715
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:06,200
Speaker 3: doing this cool stuff, it's like we can just go

716
00:39:06,280 --> 00:39:08,640
Speaker 3: into a deep conversation like that. It's like a whole

717
00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:11,359
Speaker 3: different It's like a whole mind shift. It's like I'm

718
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:14,799
Speaker 3: thinking so differently now, so much more openly minded. I

719
00:39:14,840 --> 00:39:22,400
Speaker 3: guess to be I didn't feel very emotionally intelligent, So

720
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:27,600
Speaker 3: for me to figure that out was I guess I

721
00:39:27,719 --> 00:39:32,120
Speaker 3: wasn't brought up to be emotionally intelligent. I just I

722
00:39:32,120 --> 00:39:36,359
Speaker 3: didn't have that. I guess I got that from mum,

723
00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:38,680
Speaker 3: you know that I love you like rah rah, But

724
00:39:38,760 --> 00:39:42,319
Speaker 3: I never got that from my dad, which shows up

725
00:39:42,400 --> 00:39:45,799
Speaker 3: until this point now of doing personal development. So it's

726
00:39:45,880 --> 00:39:49,600
Speaker 3: like the feeling of like vulnerability and like it's okay

727
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:50,560
Speaker 3: to feel vulnerable.

728
00:39:50,920 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 1: When you say emotionally intelligent, do you mean talking about.

729
00:39:54,840 --> 00:40:02,800
Speaker 3: Your emotions correct in the way, but like to yes,

730
00:40:03,080 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 3: expressing your emotions, I guess not only to women. But

731
00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:09,680
Speaker 3: there's this weird thing like this. It's like this bro

732
00:40:09,880 --> 00:40:12,160
Speaker 3: code where it's like you can't talk your emotions to

733
00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:14,880
Speaker 3: each other because it's a sign of weakness.

734
00:40:15,040 --> 00:40:18,240
Speaker 1: Basically, do you feel like you express yourself to your friends?

735
00:40:21,320 --> 00:40:21,880
Speaker 4: Now? I don't.

736
00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:25,480
Speaker 1: And it was a bit of a red flag moment.

737
00:40:25,320 --> 00:40:28,680
Speaker 3: Massive red flag moment. It's like, why don't I have

738
00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:32,200
Speaker 3: people in my life where I can talk on a

739
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 3: deeper level too? But it's because I've been brought up

740
00:40:34,760 --> 00:40:36,720
Speaker 3: like that, and the people that are hung around growing

741
00:40:36,800 --> 00:40:37,399
Speaker 3: up don't.

742
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:39,080
Speaker 4: We're brought up like that as well. So we just

743
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:42,000
Speaker 4: have this whole thing where it's like real conditions.

744
00:40:42,000 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 3: We're all like, yeah, we're all like mates, but like

745
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 3: not only on a very surface level relationship.

746
00:40:47,920 --> 00:40:50,919
Speaker 1: Which I would say is a very usual experience for men.

747
00:40:51,840 --> 00:40:52,400
Speaker 4: And it's.

748
00:40:53,880 --> 00:40:57,120
Speaker 3: The thing is, I'm so thankful for those relationships because

749
00:40:57,160 --> 00:41:00,760
Speaker 3: that's brought me to who I am today, but loving forward.

750
00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:03,120
Speaker 3: It's like I need I think I need like a

751
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:07,120
Speaker 3: deeper relationship or decent deeper relationships with males.

752
00:41:07,440 --> 00:41:10,360
Speaker 1: Well also you need the tools to know how to

753
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:13,600
Speaker 1: have a different relationship. And that's why you were like, yes,

754
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:15,640
Speaker 1: I actually I need help in this department.

755
00:41:16,160 --> 00:41:18,080
Speaker 3: Absolutely. I was like, there's no way I can figure

756
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:18,840
Speaker 3: this out by myself.

757
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 1: No. I love that answer. It's a great answer.

758
00:41:24,920 --> 00:41:25,239
Speaker 4: All right.

759
00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:30,600
Speaker 2: Next week someone wants to know how do you allocate

760
00:41:30,680 --> 00:41:31,600
Speaker 2: house chaws.

761
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:33,879
Speaker 1: Between each other?

762
00:41:35,280 --> 00:41:35,720
Speaker 4: Allocate?

763
00:41:36,520 --> 00:41:37,520
Speaker 1: Tim just doesn't.

764
00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:39,920
Speaker 4: No allocation.

765
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:43,759
Speaker 3: We drew lie the other day when remember when the

766
00:41:43,840 --> 00:41:45,920
Speaker 3: other day it was like you were like interaction and

767
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 3: then you just dropped your undies in the toilet and

768
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:50,200
Speaker 3: then you walked out and you went to like walk out,

769
00:41:50,239 --> 00:41:53,000
Speaker 3: and I was like, whoa wow, this is the line here.

770
00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:54,640
Speaker 4: You're not a fucking ten.

771
00:41:54,520 --> 00:41:57,520
Speaker 3: Year old little boy dropping his undies at the toilet,

772
00:41:57,520 --> 00:41:59,239
Speaker 3: all right. You pick yourundies up and you put them

773
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 3: in the dirty clothes a basket picking not going and

774
00:42:03,560 --> 00:42:04,960
Speaker 3: picking your up after you.

775
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:06,960
Speaker 2: With you.

776
00:42:07,719 --> 00:42:08,800
Speaker 4: That's what little boys do.

777
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:22,600
Speaker 3: And then and then she turned like what.

778
00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:24,360
Speaker 1: I literally went fair enough because as soon as he

779
00:42:24,440 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 1: called me a little boy. I went, yeah, this is

780
00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:28,319
Speaker 1: probably the line.

781
00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:40,719
Speaker 2: No. So in like, did you ever have a conversation like,

782
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:43,920
Speaker 2: for example, well maybe when you went back to work.

783
00:42:43,800 --> 00:42:46,759
Speaker 1: To be like to be to be very transparent, Like

784
00:42:47,040 --> 00:42:52,399
Speaker 1: we have a cleaner, we have a chef. Tim does

785
00:42:52,440 --> 00:42:56,560
Speaker 1: the outside stuff himself during ivy snaps usually or in

786
00:42:56,560 --> 00:42:59,640
Speaker 1: the afternoon. Tim does a lot of like the bins.

787
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:03,600
Speaker 1: He's you know, he's he loves things to be a

788
00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:05,839
Speaker 1: certain way. So Tim has a certain way of doing

789
00:43:05,880 --> 00:43:09,880
Speaker 1: things like what Tim does the washings and bucks my

790
00:43:09,920 --> 00:43:14,959
Speaker 1: ship a lot, puts it all in dry, certain things,

791
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:17,080
Speaker 1: And I'm like, can you not wash this because I

792
00:43:17,120 --> 00:43:18,080
Speaker 1: wanted to stay nice.

793
00:43:19,480 --> 00:43:21,719
Speaker 3: If George is really fucked me off, I'll do a

794
00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:23,480
Speaker 3: dark quaestion and put her favorite white thing.

795
00:43:25,920 --> 00:43:28,640
Speaker 4: Motherfucker, I'm jack. And that was a complete joke.

796
00:43:28,680 --> 00:43:31,279
Speaker 1: Godessly, you fucking better not it.

797
00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:33,880
Speaker 4: I don't, all right? Should we? Also?

798
00:43:34,200 --> 00:43:36,040
Speaker 2: What time do you go to bed so that you

799
00:43:36,080 --> 00:43:37,240
Speaker 2: can be a morning person?

800
00:43:38,840 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 4: We're in bed by eight?

801
00:43:40,239 --> 00:43:44,439
Speaker 1: Hey, Yeah, I'm in I'm in bed usually earlier.

802
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:47,000
Speaker 4: Like if it's seven thirty, I'm like, let's go, we're

803
00:43:47,040 --> 00:43:48,120
Speaker 4: going to bed. Yeah, And then we.

804
00:43:48,160 --> 00:43:51,360
Speaker 3: Got this new rule no phones after right, so George

805
00:43:51,360 --> 00:43:54,839
Speaker 3: will read her would be really stick and by I.

806
00:43:54,719 --> 00:43:56,239
Speaker 1: Think I thought it was early in that and.

807
00:43:56,440 --> 00:43:59,840
Speaker 4: Sure, no phones after right, Yes, no phones.

808
00:43:59,719 --> 00:44:02,440
Speaker 1: In you can't be on your phone after eight. I

809
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:04,640
Speaker 1: feel like we have been sticking to that. I'm usually

810
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:05,399
Speaker 1: sleep by eight.

811
00:44:06,040 --> 00:44:06,600
Speaker 4: Well, it's not that.

812
00:44:06,640 --> 00:44:08,720
Speaker 3: If you can't sleep, you get your kindle. So George

813
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:11,040
Speaker 3: will get her kindle and kindle it up and bring

814
00:44:11,080 --> 00:44:15,480
Speaker 3: herself to sleep, which generally helps kindle.

815
00:44:16,040 --> 00:44:16,239
Speaker 4: Yeah.

816
00:44:16,800 --> 00:44:19,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, like she'll have the full mask, the ear flugs,

817
00:44:19,800 --> 00:44:21,560
Speaker 3: like eight o'clock, I'll just get up my phone.

818
00:44:21,560 --> 00:44:23,560
Speaker 4: I'll just go to sleep within five minutes.

819
00:44:23,800 --> 00:44:24,960
Speaker 1: Yeah.

820
00:44:25,000 --> 00:44:26,960
Speaker 2: And what time do you both wake up in the morning.

821
00:44:29,160 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 4: It's either fourt thirty or it's five.

822
00:44:31,000 --> 00:44:33,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, So we're always up by like four thirty five,

823
00:44:33,440 --> 00:44:35,759
Speaker 1: and Tim will either go to gym or do some

824
00:44:35,840 --> 00:44:37,480
Speaker 1: core stuff just at the house.

825
00:44:37,560 --> 00:44:39,799
Speaker 4: Yeah, till he wakes up at six thirty, and then

826
00:44:39,880 --> 00:44:40,440
Speaker 4: it's game on.

827
00:44:41,560 --> 00:44:43,960
Speaker 1: We just like we've always been people who go to

828
00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:44,960
Speaker 1: bed early.

829
00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:47,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then get up early because obviously from obviously

830
00:44:47,880 --> 00:44:49,399
Speaker 3: like our work and my past work.

831
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:52,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, when t needs to be a trading up early.

832
00:44:52,239 --> 00:44:55,120
Speaker 3: So It's just like comes pretty naturally to me, whereas

833
00:44:55,120 --> 00:44:57,439
Speaker 3: like getting up at seven is like we just never.

834
00:44:57,440 --> 00:44:58,839
Speaker 4: I don't think I could never get up at seven.

835
00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:00,479
Speaker 4: We didn't.

836
00:45:00,920 --> 00:45:04,399
Speaker 1: Me and Tim were laughing the other day because when

837
00:45:04,400 --> 00:45:14,200
Speaker 1: I was pregnant with Ivy, I was so tiring in

838
00:45:14,239 --> 00:45:18,040
Speaker 1: the first twenty weeks of the pregnancy, and I remember

839
00:45:18,360 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 1: I was literally sleeping until seven am, like wouldn't get

840
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:24,360
Speaker 1: up till seven, had to have alarm, and that was

841
00:45:24,400 --> 00:45:27,560
Speaker 1: so unheard of. But the funniest part was Tim was

842
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:30,959
Speaker 1: also sleeping until seven, and it's like he was going

843
00:45:31,000 --> 00:45:36,960
Speaker 1: through his own pregnancy. Was literally would like wake up

844
00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:38,000
Speaker 1: the same time.

845
00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:42,359
Speaker 4: I was waking up.

846
00:45:44,280 --> 00:45:46,080
Speaker 2: Were you going to bed later? No?

847
00:45:46,080 --> 00:45:47,560
Speaker 1: No early?

848
00:45:47,760 --> 00:45:49,400
Speaker 2: You were having eleven hours sleep.

849
00:45:49,480 --> 00:45:51,319
Speaker 1: Tim's are taurusts though, so you can just sleep and

850
00:45:51,360 --> 00:45:54,000
Speaker 1: sleep and sleep. That's what I mean. For you to

851
00:45:54,400 --> 00:45:56,080
Speaker 1: get up, Earli, it's like you're.

852
00:45:56,040 --> 00:46:00,520
Speaker 2: Projector to Aren't you need snaps?

853
00:46:00,800 --> 00:46:01,560
Speaker 4: Loves the naps?

854
00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:07,280
Speaker 2: Okay, next question, how have you navigated having different parenting

855
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:10,719
Speaker 2: styles and what were the biggest differences you found in

856
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:12,080
Speaker 2: your parenting styles.

857
00:46:15,400 --> 00:46:18,160
Speaker 1: Well, I would say we don't like we're on the

858
00:46:18,239 --> 00:46:22,720
Speaker 1: same page because we had the discussion of not wanting

859
00:46:22,760 --> 00:46:25,480
Speaker 1: to really parent how we got parented, not because it

860
00:46:25,520 --> 00:46:27,960
Speaker 1: was like quote unquote bad, but just being like, we

861
00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:31,400
Speaker 1: would love to have some education around parenting, especially like

862
00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:34,800
Speaker 1: we are not physically punishing IVY, and that was something

863
00:46:34,840 --> 00:46:38,880
Speaker 1: we both experienced so having tools around it because we

864
00:46:38,920 --> 00:46:42,719
Speaker 1: didn't have any tools around it. So we did an

865
00:46:42,719 --> 00:46:45,160
Speaker 1: aware of Parenting course, which I've spoken about on the

866
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:50,600
Speaker 1: Potty by Marion Rose. And so I feel like we're

867
00:46:50,680 --> 00:46:54,360
Speaker 1: very much on the same side with parenting, and I

868
00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:57,600
Speaker 1: think moving forward, wouldn't it just be anything that comes up,

869
00:46:57,640 --> 00:47:00,800
Speaker 1: we just have a conversation about it.

870
00:47:00,520 --> 00:47:03,160
Speaker 2: And do you have any tips on maybe someone who's

871
00:47:03,400 --> 00:47:06,840
Speaker 2: noticed now that their partner maybe has a slightly different

872
00:47:06,880 --> 00:47:09,000
Speaker 2: parenting style how to bring up that conversation.

873
00:47:09,680 --> 00:47:13,360
Speaker 4: I guess you're gonna sort of have that have that

874
00:47:13,480 --> 00:47:14,080
Speaker 4: talk with them.

875
00:47:14,640 --> 00:47:17,960
Speaker 1: Well, I think it's about you know, talking to them

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Speaker 1: both coming to the conversation with a lot of respect

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Speaker 1: for having different opinions and like knowing you can have

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Speaker 1: different opinions, but knowing where that came from, because it's like,

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Speaker 1: you know, if you want to do things differently and

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Speaker 1: your partner doesn't want to and you're like a bit

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Speaker 1: why and their only response is well, I got parented

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Speaker 1: this way, and I'm fine be like, well, could you know,

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Speaker 1: could we just try it a different way, or could

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Speaker 1: we both do this thing together, or you know, like

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Speaker 1: I just opening up that conversation like also mean tim experts,

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Speaker 1: So if you can ask us.

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Speaker 3: I think it comes down to you, like, yeah, setting

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Speaker 3: that time aside when it's just you guys and just

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Speaker 3: having that chat and then obviously putting all the emotions

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Speaker 3: out on the table, but like yeah, having your partner

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Speaker 3: obviously give you that time and hold that space to

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Speaker 3: you so you can get those emotions and thoughts out

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Speaker 3: and then like that other partner, I just have a

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Speaker 3: conversation and actually listening about it just like being like oh,

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Speaker 3: like whatever.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to another episode of

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