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Today, you, Britt, you have quite an important 0:02:12.960 --> 0:02:13.520 update for us. 0:02:13.680 --> 0:02:16.640 Yeah, I'm going to be sharing another update on my 0:02:16.720 --> 0:02:19.920 fertility journey because I did think I had sort of 0:02:19.960 --> 0:02:22.600 come to a head with it about a month ago. 0:02:22.880 --> 0:02:24.760 If you're listening, you'll know that I was doing some 0:02:24.760 --> 0:02:27.400 egg freezing. But I do have another update and it 0:02:27.480 --> 0:02:28.359 is not over yet. 0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:29.799 All right, we'll get to that next here at the 0:02:29.800 --> 0:02:32.520 pick up. Welcome to Tuesday Afternoon thanks to chemist Warehouse. 0:02:32.560 --> 0:02:35.680 Heading today you'll get great savings every day Tuesday on 0:02:35.880 --> 0:02:38.560 the Pickup with Britt, Laura and Mitch. Or thanks to 0:02:38.639 --> 0:02:40.919 Chemist Warehouse, they want to give you a free doctor's consult. 0:02:41.000 --> 0:02:44.160 Download the Instant Consolet app today, save this coupon co 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:47.560 write this down c W free to claim your free consult. 0:02:48.560 --> 0:02:50.080 All right now, Britt, you've got an update for us 0:02:50.160 --> 0:02:51.280 here on your fertility journey. 0:02:51.360 --> 0:02:51.880 Yeah, I do. 0:02:52.360 --> 0:02:55.000 I froze my eggs for the first time about three 0:02:55.080 --> 0:02:59.080 years ago, and then I froze them again just about 0:02:59.120 --> 0:03:01.680 a month or so ago. So now I'm going through 0:03:01.680 --> 0:03:05.119 that process with my partner Ben, who lives overseas. So 0:03:05.280 --> 0:03:08.000 I was sort of giving you guys live updates on 0:03:08.080 --> 0:03:10.640 that as it was happening, because I think it's really important. 0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:13.200 If you missed my last update, this is it. 0:03:13.480 --> 0:03:15.880 I only got four eggs, which is really low, and 0:03:15.919 --> 0:03:18.800 then one of those eggs immediately was no good. So 0:03:18.840 --> 0:03:21.960 I ended up with only three eggs and having had 0:03:22.040 --> 0:03:25.160 fifteen last time, and knowing that fifteen only makes that 0:03:25.240 --> 0:03:27.760 one child, three is is very low. 0:03:28.560 --> 0:03:31.440 So I'm talking about egg freezing there if you didn't 0:03:31.520 --> 0:03:33.360 quite catch that. So this is the second time I 0:03:33.400 --> 0:03:36.920 had frozen my eggs, so I have like another update 0:03:37.000 --> 0:03:41.080 on that update. So I thought I was sort of 0:03:41.160 --> 0:03:43.400 updating you guys as I was going, as the process 0:03:43.480 --> 0:03:47.640 was happening, and maybe I did that too soon so 0:03:47.720 --> 0:03:50.080 that I was actually with Mitch at the time. I 0:03:50.120 --> 0:03:52.880 got a call saying, you know, your three has gone 0:03:52.920 --> 0:03:55.280 to two. One you know was no good, and so 0:03:56.400 --> 0:03:58.160 I got upset at that because I thought, wow, like 0:03:58.320 --> 0:04:00.960 they're dropping like flies, but two still great. And then 0:04:01.000 --> 0:04:04.560 I received another call saying there were some complications and 0:04:04.560 --> 0:04:06.360 they weren't mature enough and there's a whole there's a 0:04:06.360 --> 0:04:09.280 whole multitude of reasons that eggs and embryos and things 0:04:09.320 --> 0:04:12.680 like that don't fully develop and form and not viable. 0:04:13.080 --> 0:04:17.240 My two that I got were not viable, so I 0:04:17.360 --> 0:04:23.680 ended up with nothing, no eggs. Yeah, which is fine. 0:04:26.839 --> 0:04:30.200 It is fine because other people go through far more 0:04:30.279 --> 0:04:34.760 than that. But yeah, it's definitely disappointing and a bit 0:04:34.800 --> 0:04:37.560 of a hit to think that you can go through 0:04:37.600 --> 0:04:42.720 this whole process for weeks of these injections and in 0:04:42.760 --> 0:04:45.599 your head you're like, well, I have science on my side, 0:04:45.640 --> 0:04:47.960 like I have everything pushing in the direction to get 0:04:48.160 --> 0:04:50.800 what I need, and then to come up with nothing. 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:53.400 Knowing that I you know, I had all the help 0:04:53.400 --> 0:04:55.440 I could get and I still didn't get one egg 0:04:56.320 --> 0:05:00.920 as a woman is like, really, I knew my fertility 0:05:00.960 --> 0:05:02.560 wasn't great, but I didn't always that bad. 0:05:03.279 --> 0:05:06.400 But do they give you any information as to why, 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:08.400 because I know what the very first time you like 0:05:08.760 --> 0:05:11.040 what you said, this is your second time doing egg freezing. 0:05:11.080 --> 0:05:13.280 The first time you got fifteen eggs. 0:05:13.480 --> 0:05:16.000 Yes, that was about three years ago. I got fifteen eggs. 0:05:16.120 --> 0:05:18.919 I am doing it again in November. I'll go the 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:23.440 third time. And I've spoken to my fertility doctor and basically, 0:05:23.440 --> 0:05:25.400 we're just going to pump me so hard full of 0:05:25.400 --> 0:05:29.159 hormones excessively, which means I'm going to be really, really crook. 0:05:30.600 --> 0:05:33.359 You could possibly go into what they call hypovarian syndrome, 0:05:33.400 --> 0:05:36.320 which is very painful, can sometimes be dangerous if they 0:05:36.360 --> 0:05:39.960 go too far. But they're going to try and get 0:05:40.000 --> 0:05:43.279 the balance just right, just maybe topple me over to 0:05:43.320 --> 0:05:46.160 get as many as I can. So I'm hoping it's 0:05:46.200 --> 0:05:49.760 not I'm hoping this doesn't mean that there's never ever 0:05:49.800 --> 0:05:52.200 going to be any I think I say, X round 0:05:52.200 --> 0:05:54.200 could be different, and I say, like the next harvest, 0:05:54.279 --> 0:05:55.880 I think the next harvest. 0:05:55.440 --> 0:05:57.040 Is going to be good. 0:05:57.600 --> 0:05:59.159 But I feel like I went to the farmer's market 0:05:59.240 --> 0:06:01.000 got a dozen eggs, like dropped him on the way home. 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:04.680 You know, you. 0:06:04.640 --> 0:06:07.640 Say, like you know, it's not okay, it's not good. 0:06:08.240 --> 0:06:10.320 It's also all right for it to be a shitty situation. 0:06:10.520 --> 0:06:11.360 Yeah, because it is. 0:06:11.600 --> 0:06:14.560 It's the reality of life. And like you've said, thousands 0:06:14.680 --> 0:06:17.279 of women go through this every day. I don't know 0:06:17.320 --> 0:06:19.040 if you can speak to it. I can't. As a man, 0:06:19.080 --> 0:06:21.960 I kind of fathom the emotions, but you must. You 0:06:21.960 --> 0:06:24.160 would think I'm a failure this is me. You take 0:06:24.160 --> 0:06:26.760 it so personally right, you just I mean. 0:06:26.720 --> 0:06:29.159 Yeah, you do for sure. But it's not just me. 0:06:29.440 --> 0:06:32.520 I feel a let down for my partner Ben. He 0:06:32.600 --> 0:06:37.520 lives overseas, so he's living in Scotland and it affects 0:06:37.640 --> 0:06:39.560 him as much as it affects me. You know, he 0:06:39.600 --> 0:06:41.520 wants kids. I live with the fact that he won't 0:06:41.520 --> 0:06:44.760 get them. He's so amazing and he's been so supportive. 0:06:44.800 --> 0:06:47.000 How do you react when because you were with him 0:06:47.000 --> 0:06:47.680 when you found out. 0:06:47.839 --> 0:06:51.479 Yeah, I was beside myself because you automatically think the 0:06:51.520 --> 0:06:54.240 worst as well, Like I have complete faith now after 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:56.520 speaking to my doctor again that we will get some 0:06:56.680 --> 0:06:58.760 in the next round. But at the time, you know, 0:06:58.800 --> 0:07:01.320 when you're like I almost fel better by walloween in 0:07:01.360 --> 0:07:03.960 myself pity. I was like, I'm never gonna be able 0:07:03.960 --> 0:07:05.800 to do this for you. I'm sorry, Like it's I 0:07:05.839 --> 0:07:07.599 can't even do it with science, you know, I just 0:07:07.600 --> 0:07:11.080 got really low. And he's like, this is not this 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:13.760 doesn't matter. He's like it doesn't change anything, and next 0:07:13.760 --> 0:07:15.080 time is going to be better and we're going to 0:07:15.160 --> 0:07:17.440 do this together. And he's he was really really great 0:07:17.560 --> 0:07:20.880 and he's really big on positivity. He's like, don't let 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:22.480 the eggs in there. Hear what you're saying. 0:07:24.000 --> 0:07:25.320 And I was like, there's none in there. 0:07:25.760 --> 0:07:28.560 They can't hear me. That's my update. I guess it's 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:30.360 like one thing I do want to say to any 0:07:30.360 --> 0:07:33.440 women out there, I really would recommend going to get 0:07:33.480 --> 0:07:36.960 a fertility test, just even your blood test, because since 0:07:37.000 --> 0:07:39.520 I've been speaking about this, so many women have message 0:07:39.520 --> 0:07:42.360 saying I wish I got mine checked earlier because I 0:07:42.640 --> 0:07:44.160 went to get a checked and it's too late. I'm 0:07:44.160 --> 0:07:46.440 going to early menopause, my fatility is bad. I've got 0:07:46.480 --> 0:07:49.560 into introces, so many things, and it's so easy to 0:07:49.560 --> 0:07:51.800 go and get that initial blood test just to start 0:07:51.800 --> 0:07:52.360 the process. 0:07:52.600 --> 0:07:56.520 We got yet we got ye little eggies. 0:07:56.640 --> 0:07:57.760 No scrambled eggs for Bricky. 0:07:57.840 --> 0:08:03.920 Okay, well now you can make absolutely no. 0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:05.400 And I'm too awkward being serious. 0:08:05.400 --> 0:08:06.800 I always have to throw it in thet. 0:08:08.800 --> 0:08:09.320 Tuesday. 0:08:09.360 --> 0:08:11.440 Here on the pickup, Britt, Laura and Mitch. 0:08:11.480 --> 0:08:13.320 Hello, heading to the chemist ware house today. 0:08:13.320 --> 0:08:15.840 You'll get great savings every day. Now you've heard of 0:08:15.840 --> 0:08:18.880 snakes on a plane, but get ready for arguably far 0:08:19.120 --> 0:08:21.440 scarier Laura Burham on a plane. 0:08:21.680 --> 0:08:22.560 It's way worse. 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:25.360 No, it is not worse than a snake. I think 0:08:25.360 --> 0:08:27.280 I'd take a snake. But look, I went on a 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:30.520 holiday without my kids recently. I went away for seven 0:08:30.640 --> 0:08:35.280 days on a child free trip. She came back, Laura, 0:08:35.400 --> 0:08:37.440 I know, no, I missed my kids so much, but 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:39.080 this was big for me. I've never been on an 0:08:39.080 --> 0:08:42.040 international trip without my children. I've never been away from 0:08:42.040 --> 0:08:44.160 my children for that long. It was my first time 0:08:44.200 --> 0:08:48.120 getting on an international flight without my kids, and it 0:08:48.200 --> 0:08:51.880 made me realize how much I don't like other people's kids. 0:08:52.320 --> 0:08:55.240 Oh, and you're the first person on this show to 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:58.040 rab it on about how your kids get scolded on 0:08:58.160 --> 0:09:01.480 planes and how it's not nice. 0:09:00.520 --> 0:09:01.640 With your kids. 0:09:01.880 --> 0:09:04.960 No, no, no, no, no. I have never said that 0:09:05.040 --> 0:09:08.760 my kids get scolded on planes. My kids behave because 0:09:08.920 --> 0:09:10.320 do you know why it's so hard to parent your 0:09:10.360 --> 0:09:12.520 children on a plane, because you have to try and 0:09:12.559 --> 0:09:15.360 control them, And that's what didn't happen in this situation. 0:09:15.480 --> 0:09:17.920 So he me out. I'm sitting there with my sister. 0:09:18.040 --> 0:09:20.199 It's also she's also got two kids the same age 0:09:20.240 --> 0:09:21.880 as mine, so it's a big deal for us. We're 0:09:21.920 --> 0:09:24.760 on this little trip together and sitting directly behind me 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:27.920 is a five I'd say he was about five five 0:09:28.000 --> 0:09:30.120 year old kid. I was next to the window, then 0:09:30.120 --> 0:09:32.200 next to him was his dad, and then next to 0:09:32.200 --> 0:09:33.280 his dad was another kid. 0:09:33.640 --> 0:09:33.880 Right. 0:09:34.000 --> 0:09:36.080 Dad was traveling with the kids all by himself. 0:09:36.480 --> 0:09:41.040 Hero yeah right, yeah, bra beautiful, so beautiful. 0:09:41.240 --> 0:09:44.040 Dad decided that he actually didn't care what the kids did, 0:09:44.040 --> 0:09:46.240 so long as they didn't bother him. Dad was having 0:09:46.280 --> 0:09:49.800 a sleep while his five year old son had pulled 0:09:49.800 --> 0:09:52.640 out some plato, had pulled down his trade table and 0:09:52.840 --> 0:09:55.320 was mashing that plato into the trade table like it 0:09:55.360 --> 0:09:57.040 was his job, like he was trying to roll a 0:09:57.040 --> 0:09:59.520 pizza dough out. So all I was getting for a 0:09:59.520 --> 0:10:03.320 good two minutes was bang, bang bang bang bang bang. 0:10:03.440 --> 0:10:06.880 Was behind the tray table attached to my chair because 0:10:06.920 --> 0:10:09.760 those trays are so flimsy, so I was trying to rest. 0:10:09.800 --> 0:10:11.439 I couldn't because all I was getting was this bang 0:10:11.480 --> 0:10:12.200 on the back of the seat. 0:10:12.240 --> 0:10:16.880 So I turned around and I went into my full 0:10:16.880 --> 0:10:20.400 blown Karen mode. Now I've spoken about being a Karen 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:23.120 on this show before. In fact, recently I talked about 0:10:23.120 --> 0:10:25.319 how much I enjoy being a Karen. No, I think 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:26.960 if there is a Karen in this room, it's me. 0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:28.040 I love a letter. 0:10:28.080 --> 0:10:30.240 I love complaining. I can't tell you the amount of 0:10:30.240 --> 0:10:32.560 times where people in our street are having parties. And 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:34.760 I'll say to my husband Matt, and I'll go, is 0:10:34.800 --> 0:10:37.280 it too early to call the police yet? It was 0:10:37.320 --> 0:10:41.360 like seven pm but the sun still up. No, So 0:10:41.360 --> 0:10:43.719 I didn't call the police in this incident. I wasn't like, oh, look, 0:10:43.920 --> 0:10:45.560 is there any flight? What are they called a plane? 0:10:45.600 --> 0:10:53.360 Police marshal. What I did is I turned around and 0:10:53.400 --> 0:10:56.680 the dad was sleeping, So I put my arm through 0:10:56.679 --> 0:10:58.480 the little hole and I tapped him on the knee 0:10:58.840 --> 0:11:03.120 and I said, father, excuse me, could you please ask 0:11:03.120 --> 0:11:05.280 your son to stop banging my seat? And you could 0:11:05.280 --> 0:11:07.240 tell he was a bit startled, and he was like, oh, oh, 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:09.480 can you stop stop banging the seat? And then he 0:11:09.480 --> 0:11:12.800 goes back to sleep. Five minutes later, bang bang. But 0:11:13.000 --> 0:11:15.640 it was horrible and like, I am not leaving my 0:11:15.720 --> 0:11:17.520 kids at home to deal with somebody else's kids on 0:11:17.520 --> 0:11:18.000 this plane. 0:11:18.080 --> 0:11:20.359 So I turned back around and I was like, excuse. 0:11:20.000 --> 0:11:24.560 Me again, wake come yeah, could you maybe just maybe 0:11:24.559 --> 0:11:26.360 the trade table's a bad idea for the Plato, Like, 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:29.320 could you please, could you please anyway? The dad took 0:11:29.320 --> 0:11:30.680 it and he was like once again. He was like 0:11:30.840 --> 0:11:34.000 I stop, and then okay, I'm at this point, come on, like, 0:11:34.120 --> 0:11:36.440 ask your kid to actually stop. I agree, and he 0:11:36.559 --> 0:11:38.719 was not. He was just the dad did not care 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:40.800 because the kid was occupied, so he didn't have to 0:11:40.800 --> 0:11:43.600 deal with his own child being annoying. I'm a single, brave, 0:11:43.640 --> 0:11:46.320 beautiful father on a plane by himself, doting dad. He's 0:11:46.360 --> 0:11:48.880 a doting dad anyway. So the dad once again checked out, 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:51.000 and then it continued, and it continued for a good 0:11:51.160 --> 0:11:53.560 twenty five minutes, and I was like, I actually can't 0:11:53.559 --> 0:11:55.160 wear an hour and a half into this six hour 0:11:55.240 --> 0:11:57.200 flight and I need this to stop. And I turned 0:11:57.200 --> 0:11:59.000 around to the child and I was like, excuse me, 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:02.760 you need to stop banging my seat right now. 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:04.200 I spoke to the child directly. 0:12:04.960 --> 0:12:08.720 You disciplined discipline. I put on your child. 0:12:08.880 --> 0:12:12.000 I put on my ten out of ten mum voice, 0:12:12.120 --> 0:12:15.200 and the little kid went like this okay, and he 0:12:15.320 --> 0:12:18.160 just put the trade table away. Not one single bang 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:21.120 from there on in. I wond I won the war 0:12:21.160 --> 0:12:22.040 against the five year old. 0:12:22.080 --> 0:12:24.920 And we've spoken to the dad. The child a non 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:26.920 verbal and the holiday has been ruined. 0:12:27.840 --> 0:12:31.760 The kid was fine, I'm sorry, but like, there comes 0:12:31.760 --> 0:12:33.840 a point where it's okay to step in and pair 0:12:33.840 --> 0:12:34.640 it someone else's child. 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:38.000 There is such a one an hour, one. 0:12:37.880 --> 0:12:38.800 Hour into a flight. 0:12:38.920 --> 0:12:40.760 If they can't stop it, then someone else cares. 0:12:40.840 --> 0:12:42.880 You were the most thirty seven year old I've ever. 0:12:42.760 --> 0:12:46.880 Known you as in this moment, so young, you're. 0:12:46.920 --> 0:12:50.440 So you can't talk, Britt, you cannot talk to another child. 0:12:50.320 --> 0:12:52.280 On a plane as a thirty six year old. You're 0:12:52.400 --> 0:12:56.439 very thirty seven right now. I think I cannot relate 0:12:56.480 --> 0:12:58.560 to you right now, Laura, I'm in Miches's generation. 0:12:59.040 --> 0:13:00.760 Sorry about that. Guys, Look, I think it's fine. 0:13:01.000 --> 0:13:02.760 Well, the kids joining us on the phone now, Hidi, 0:13:03.880 --> 0:13:06.920 he's not speaking, he's traumatized, all right. Next time on 0:13:06.960 --> 0:13:08.960 the show, listen, how would you feel right if your 0:13:09.160 --> 0:13:12.600 partner you got a new partner? However, they were still 0:13:12.800 --> 0:13:15.320 full time career for their ex. I was still living 0:13:15.320 --> 0:13:16.440 and looking after their ex. 0:13:16.559 --> 0:13:19.920 Wh why are they taking care of them? 0:13:19.920 --> 0:13:21.600 Well, I'll tell you why. I'll tell you all about it. 0:13:21.679 --> 0:13:24.800 Next on the Pickup, it's the Pickup. Welcome back, Britt, 0:13:24.840 --> 0:13:27.400 Laura and Mitch. Here thanks to Chemists Warehouse, they want 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:29.800 to give you a free Doctor Consult. Download the instant 0:13:29.800 --> 0:13:32.800 Consult app today save the coupon code CW free to 0:13:32.800 --> 0:13:34.120 claim your first consult free. 0:13:34.200 --> 0:13:36.000 I want to tell you guys about a TikTok that 0:13:36.040 --> 0:13:38.680 I saw that's gone viral, but it really stopped me 0:13:38.720 --> 0:13:41.880 in my tracks. It's about a woman and her relationship 0:13:41.920 --> 0:13:45.800 with her now husband and her ex husband, and I 0:13:45.840 --> 0:13:47.240 want to know if you guys think you'd do the 0:13:47.280 --> 0:13:49.120 same thing. How he listen to what she said. 0:13:49.520 --> 0:13:50.320 My name is Chris. 0:13:50.559 --> 0:13:53.640 My first husband had a severe traumatic brain injury fifteen 0:13:53.720 --> 0:13:54.120 years ago. 0:13:54.240 --> 0:13:56.600 We're no longer married, but I helped take care of him. 0:13:56.600 --> 0:13:57.600 I'm his legal guardian. 0:13:57.720 --> 0:13:59.760 I love him very very much. He's very much a 0:13:59.760 --> 0:14:00.560 part of family. 0:14:01.120 --> 0:14:05.199 Chris, who you just heard, and her partner Brandon, were 0:14:05.240 --> 0:14:08.080 childhood sweethearts, so it's all they knew was each other. 0:14:08.320 --> 0:14:10.600 They'd planned to spend their entire life together, and then 0:14:10.640 --> 0:14:13.680 at twenty four and twenty three years old, Chris got 0:14:13.679 --> 0:14:15.800 a call that he had been in a really bad 0:14:15.840 --> 0:14:21.000 car accident and he had a really severe traumatic brain injury. 0:14:21.120 --> 0:14:24.200 Doctors did say if he did live, his life would 0:14:24.240 --> 0:14:27.680 never be the same. So you know, she had committed 0:14:27.760 --> 0:14:30.960 to him and committed to this for better or for worse, 0:14:31.320 --> 0:14:34.160 and it ended up being for worse. He did come 0:14:34.240 --> 0:14:36.520 out of the coma, but he has been left with 0:14:36.560 --> 0:14:39.200 such severe injuries that he was just never the same. 0:14:39.560 --> 0:14:41.320 So Chris stuck around for a while and tried to 0:14:41.360 --> 0:14:44.600 make it work, but once she realized he was never 0:14:45.120 --> 0:14:47.800 going to come back to normal, they split up. But 0:14:47.920 --> 0:14:50.120 what she did say is she promised him that she 0:14:50.160 --> 0:14:52.440 would always look after him, and she still does. So 0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:56.080 she ended up remarrying and they both are the cares 0:14:56.120 --> 0:14:58.480 of Brandon. He's in a nursing home now, but they 0:14:58.920 --> 0:15:00.800 he comes to the house every week and has dinner, 0:15:00.800 --> 0:15:02.280 and they take them out for dinner, and they take 0:15:02.280 --> 0:15:05.400 them out for him out for outings. And there's one 0:15:05.440 --> 0:15:07.680 video in particular that's gone viral and it's her new 0:15:07.760 --> 0:15:11.080 husband added a restaurant with her ex husband in a 0:15:11.080 --> 0:15:13.560 wheelchair and he's feeding him dinner and it's a really 0:15:13.600 --> 0:15:16.320 beautiful moment. But I just thought, Wow, there's probably not 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:17.680 many people that would do that. 0:15:17.760 --> 0:15:19.920 Well, Britt, I think that the thing that's so I mean, 0:15:20.360 --> 0:15:22.160 it is a beautiful story, but I think the thing 0:15:22.160 --> 0:15:24.520 that's so interesting is how much is divided people People 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:27.400 saying whether they would do it or they you know, 0:15:27.480 --> 0:15:29.600 whether even if she made the right decision to walk 0:15:29.640 --> 0:15:32.280 away from her marriage, whether they would do that if 0:15:32.280 --> 0:15:34.200 that was their partner who was in the same position. 0:15:34.720 --> 0:15:37.120 I think, I mean, I think it's beautiful that she 0:15:37.520 --> 0:15:41.080 has continued to be a part of both of you know, 0:15:41.160 --> 0:15:43.800 his life, and also managed to still go on and 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:45.320 carry on with her life. But at the same time, 0:15:45.360 --> 0:15:50.080 I think, what an incredible new husband to have the confidence, 0:15:50.120 --> 0:15:52.520 the empathy, the kindness to say, Okay, I want to 0:15:52.520 --> 0:15:54.280 be in a relationship with you, but I will also 0:15:54.360 --> 0:15:58.560 support your husband who is like unable to do anything 0:15:58.560 --> 0:16:00.760 for himself. I just think it's so it's such a 0:16:00.800 --> 0:16:05.040 devastating situation, but more than anything, what amazingly caring, kind, 0:16:05.200 --> 0:16:06.200 generous people they are. 0:16:06.320 --> 0:16:06.840 She is his. 0:16:06.840 --> 0:16:08.960 Guardian, and it makes me think, well, there must be 0:16:09.000 --> 0:16:11.600 no one else around because they were so young. It 0:16:11.600 --> 0:16:13.560 was fifteen years ago and they were in their early twenties, 0:16:13.560 --> 0:16:15.040 So I don't know if there's anyone else to look 0:16:15.080 --> 0:16:19.160 after him. But I think hats off to her and him. 0:16:19.280 --> 0:16:21.840 But that's such an incredible thing to say, like, I 0:16:21.880 --> 0:16:23.720 promise you I'll look after you forever and I'm going 0:16:23.760 --> 0:16:24.000 to do it. 0:16:24.000 --> 0:16:25.880 Well, yeah, the crazy thing is that, I mean, they 0:16:25.880 --> 0:16:28.160 weren't together for a very long time. They were twenty 0:16:28.160 --> 0:16:30.880 four and twenty three, sweetheart, so a lot of those 0:16:30.880 --> 0:16:33.280 relationships often don't work out, so you wouldn't We don't 0:16:33.320 --> 0:16:35.000 know if they were going to work out. But the 0:16:35.040 --> 0:16:38.400 fact that she claims that he was her soulmate, I mean, 0:16:38.800 --> 0:16:40.640 is beautiful. I'd like to think that I do it 0:16:40.640 --> 0:16:42.080 for a partner of mine, but then I don't think 0:16:42.120 --> 0:16:44.720 you can even fathom it until you're in that situation. 0:16:44.840 --> 0:16:46.720 But also there's people in the comment section as well, 0:16:46.760 --> 0:16:49.160 which is saying, like, you know, I think some people 0:16:49.160 --> 0:16:51.560 have very traditional views of marriage, like you're married, well, 0:16:51.640 --> 0:16:53.000 then you're going to stick it out for better orf 0:16:53.000 --> 0:16:54.840 for worse, and stay married. And I think some people 0:16:54.840 --> 0:16:57.000 had an issue with the fact that she's caring for 0:16:57.080 --> 0:16:59.760 him but she's moved on in a new romantic relationship 0:17:00.200 --> 0:17:03.680 judgment around whether she should have left her marriage and 0:17:03.720 --> 0:17:05.720 whether she should be caring for him whilst also being 0:17:05.720 --> 0:17:08.080 married to someone else. And it made me think of 0:17:08.119 --> 0:17:11.440 my so my great auntie, my nana sister. She had 0:17:11.440 --> 0:17:15.240 Ourzeimers really young, and it's something that runs in our family, 0:17:15.400 --> 0:17:18.520 and it's quite prolific in our family. And she was 0:17:18.520 --> 0:17:23.480 in her sixties when she was diagnosed and died from Alzheimist. 0:17:23.680 --> 0:17:24.360 Late sixties. 0:17:24.440 --> 0:17:27.120 Yeah, and she had been married to love her life, 0:17:27.440 --> 0:17:30.479 and my uncle he was caring for her, but she 0:17:30.520 --> 0:17:32.399 was in a nursing home. She was never going to 0:17:32.480 --> 0:17:35.720 come back from having Alzheimist. She had no idea who 0:17:35.760 --> 0:17:39.240 he was. And he started dating again, and I remember 0:17:39.880 --> 0:17:42.160 some people being happy about it, and I remember some 0:17:42.200 --> 0:17:44.560 people really in our family being like, how could he 0:17:44.600 --> 0:17:46.520 do that? How could he move on so quickly? But 0:17:46.560 --> 0:17:49.119 it's I guess the thing is is that it's not quick. 0:17:49.280 --> 0:17:51.800 They're never going to be the same version of a person. 0:17:51.840 --> 0:17:54.320