Speaker 1: Laura, come on, Oh, we're on We're here. Hello, Hello, Hello,
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Speaker 2: What do you got there? Britt?
Speaker 1: It's not me, but it's us. Life on Card podcast,
Speaker 1: the podcast that Laura and I host, which is.
Speaker 2: Separate to the radio show in case you've been curious.
Speaker 1: Is going on a national Australian tour with seven locations
Speaker 1: and we're kicking off ten days.
Speaker 3: Is it?
Speaker 2: Oh my god, it's too close.
Speaker 1: It's the month of October. It is.
Speaker 4: But also I mean, we love our little trio here
Speaker 4: at the pickup, so we're taking.
Speaker 2: Mitch Jury with us. We're going all across the country.
Speaker 4: If you've ever thought when you've been listening to this show, god,
Speaker 4: I really would love to see them live up on
Speaker 4: stage doing what they do in front of everyone. That's
Speaker 4: what we're going to be doing. And it starts on Sunday,
Speaker 4: the eighth of October. Our very first show is in Adelaide,
Speaker 4: So if you're an Adelaide listening, go get your tickets.
Speaker 4: Laugh uncutpodcast dot com dot au. And then we're heading everywhere.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and every city has different guests, so we're going
Speaker 1: to be all having some banter ourselves. But then we've
Speaker 1: got different guests. We've got Rebel Wilson coming as a
Speaker 1: very special guest to the Sydney Show. So if you've
Speaker 1: ever wanted to sit down with Rebel and have an
Speaker 1: in person, intimate conversation, this is it, because Rebel doesn't
Speaker 1: do these chats like this is a very rare event.
Speaker 1: But then we've got so many other people all around
Speaker 1: the country. We've got Home and Away actress Emily Weir coming.
Speaker 4: Her story is so interesting actually, it's so much like
Speaker 4: people don't know this about her, but Emily is completely sober.
Speaker 4: She stopped drinking when she was in her twenties and
Speaker 4: she has a really interesting story around why.
Speaker 1: Bunch of other cool people. But we've got Mitch Cherry
Speaker 1: em scene and opening. We've got Sam Fisher, the amazing
Speaker 1: performer who's going to be singing and opening every single shows.
Speaker 1: It's actually going to be wild. I'm excited.
Speaker 3: I think the best part is going to be hearing
Speaker 3: about it on the pick up every day because we're
Speaker 3: going to be like in bunks, to be in hotel
Speaker 3: rooms together. We're going on campus, we are.
Speaker 4: Literally going on on team tour and doing it all
Speaker 4: across the country. Now that's all coming up. You can
Speaker 4: get your tickets. I say it again, laugh on upodcast
Speaker 4: dot com. Today, you, Britt, you have quite an important
Speaker 4: update for us.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm going to be sharing another update on my
Speaker 1: fertility journey because I did think I had sort of
Speaker 1: come to a head with it about a month ago.
Speaker 1: If you're listening, you'll know that I was doing some
Speaker 1: egg freezing. But I do have another update and it
Speaker 1: is not over yet.
Speaker 3: All right, we'll get to that next here at the
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Speaker 3: All right now, Britt, you've got an update for us
Speaker 3: here on your fertility journey.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I do.
Speaker 1: I froze my eggs for the first time about three
Speaker 1: years ago, and then I froze them again just about
Speaker 1: a month or so ago. So now I'm going through
Speaker 1: that process with my partner Ben, who lives overseas. So
Speaker 1: I was sort of giving you guys live updates on
Speaker 1: that as it was happening, because I think it's really important.
Speaker 1: If you missed my last update, this is it.
Speaker 5: I only got four eggs, which is really low, and
Speaker 5: then one of those eggs immediately was no good. So
Speaker 5: I ended up with only three eggs and having had
Speaker 5: fifteen last time, and knowing that fifteen only makes that
Speaker 5: one child, three is is very low.
Speaker 1: So I'm talking about egg freezing there if you didn't
Speaker 1: quite catch that. So this is the second time I
Speaker 1: had frozen my eggs, so I have like another update
Speaker 1: on that update. So I thought I was sort of
Speaker 1: updating you guys as I was going, as the process
Speaker 1: was happening, and maybe I did that too soon so
Speaker 1: that I was actually with Mitch at the time. I
Speaker 1: got a call saying, you know, your three has gone
Speaker 1: to two. One you know was no good, and so
Speaker 1: I got upset at that because I thought, wow, like
Speaker 1: they're dropping like flies, but two still great. And then
Speaker 1: I received another call saying there were some complications and
Speaker 1: they weren't mature enough and there's a whole there's a
Speaker 1: whole multitude of reasons that eggs and embryos and things
Speaker 1: like that don't fully develop and form and not viable.
Speaker 1: My two that I got were not viable, so I
Speaker 1: ended up with nothing, no eggs. Yeah, which is fine.
Speaker 1: It is fine because other people go through far more
Speaker 1: than that. But yeah, it's definitely disappointing and a bit
Speaker 1: of a hit to think that you can go through
Speaker 1: this whole process for weeks of these injections and in
Speaker 1: your head you're like, well, I have science on my side,
Speaker 1: like I have everything pushing in the direction to get
Speaker 1: what I need, and then to come up with nothing.
Speaker 1: Knowing that I you know, I had all the help
Speaker 1: I could get and I still didn't get one egg
Speaker 1: as a woman is like, really, I knew my fertility
Speaker 1: wasn't great, but I didn't always that bad.
Speaker 4: But do they give you any information as to why,
Speaker 4: because I know what the very first time you like
Speaker 4: what you said, this is your second time doing egg freezing.
Speaker 4: The first time you got fifteen eggs.
Speaker 1: Yes, that was about three years ago. I got fifteen eggs.
Speaker 1: I am doing it again in November. I'll go the
Speaker 1: third time. And I've spoken to my fertility doctor and basically,
Speaker 1: we're just going to pump me so hard full of
Speaker 1: hormones excessively, which means I'm going to be really, really crook.
Speaker 1: You could possibly go into what they call hypovarian syndrome,
Speaker 1: which is very painful, can sometimes be dangerous if they
Speaker 1: go too far. But they're going to try and get
Speaker 1: the balance just right, just maybe topple me over to
Speaker 1: get as many as I can. So I'm hoping it's
Speaker 1: not I'm hoping this doesn't mean that there's never ever
Speaker 1: going to be any I think I say, X round
Speaker 1: could be different, and I say, like the next harvest,
Speaker 1: I think the next harvest.
Speaker 2: Is going to be good.
Speaker 1: But I feel like I went to the farmer's market
Speaker 1: got a dozen eggs, like dropped him on the way home.
Speaker 1: You know, you.
Speaker 3: Say, like you know, it's not okay, it's not good.
Speaker 3: It's also all right for it to be a shitty situation.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because it is.
Speaker 3: It's the reality of life. And like you've said, thousands
Speaker 3: of women go through this every day. I don't know
Speaker 3: if you can speak to it. I can't. As a man,
Speaker 3: I kind of fathom the emotions, but you must. You
Speaker 3: would think I'm a failure this is me. You take
Speaker 3: it so personally right, you just I mean.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you do for sure. But it's not just me.
Speaker 1: I feel a let down for my partner Ben. He
Speaker 1: lives overseas, so he's living in Scotland and it affects
Speaker 1: him as much as it affects me. You know, he
Speaker 1: wants kids. I live with the fact that he won't
Speaker 1: get them. He's so amazing and he's been so supportive.
Speaker 3: How do you react when because you were with him
Speaker 3: when you found out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was beside myself because you automatically think the
Speaker 1: worst as well, Like I have complete faith now after
Speaker 1: speaking to my doctor again that we will get some
Speaker 1: in the next round. But at the time, you know,
Speaker 1: when you're like I almost fel better by walloween in
Speaker 1: myself pity. I was like, I'm never gonna be able
Speaker 1: to do this for you. I'm sorry, Like it's I
Speaker 1: can't even do it with science, you know, I just
Speaker 1: got really low. And he's like, this is not this
Speaker 1: doesn't matter. He's like it doesn't change anything, and next
Speaker 1: time is going to be better and we're going to
Speaker 1: do this together. And he's he was really really great
Speaker 1: and he's really big on positivity. He's like, don't let
Speaker 1: the eggs in there. Hear what you're saying.
Speaker 2: And I was like, there's none in there.
Speaker 1: They can't hear me. That's my update. I guess it's
Speaker 1: like one thing I do want to say to any
Speaker 1: women out there, I really would recommend going to get
Speaker 1: a fertility test, just even your blood test, because since
Speaker 1: I've been speaking about this, so many women have message
Speaker 1: saying I wish I got mine checked earlier because I
Speaker 1: went to get a checked and it's too late. I'm
Speaker 1: going to early menopause, my fatility is bad. I've got
Speaker 1: into introces, so many things, and it's so easy to
Speaker 1: go and get that initial blood test just to start
Speaker 1: the process.
Speaker 2: We got yet we got ye little eggies.
Speaker 1: No scrambled eggs for Bricky.
Speaker 3: Okay, well now you can make absolutely no.
Speaker 1: And I'm too awkward being serious.
Speaker 2: I always have to throw it in thet.
Speaker 1: Tuesday.
Speaker 3: Here on the pickup, Britt, Laura and Mitch.
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Speaker 3: snakes on a plane, but get ready for arguably far
Speaker 3: scarier Laura Burham on a plane.
Speaker 1: It's way worse.
Speaker 4: No, it is not worse than a snake. I think
Speaker 4: I'd take a snake. But look, I went on a
Speaker 4: holiday without my kids recently. I went away for seven
Speaker 4: days on a child free trip. She came back, Laura,
Speaker 4: I know, no, I missed my kids so much, but
Speaker 4: this was big for me. I've never been on an
Speaker 4: international trip without my children. I've never been away from
Speaker 4: my children for that long. It was my first time
Speaker 4: getting on an international flight without my kids, and it
Speaker 4: made me realize how much I don't like other people's kids.
Speaker 3: Oh, and you're the first person on this show to
Speaker 3: rab it on about how your kids get scolded on
Speaker 3: planes and how it's not nice.
Speaker 1: With your kids.
Speaker 4: No, no, no, no, no. I have never said that
Speaker 4: my kids get scolded on planes. My kids behave because
Speaker 4: do you know why it's so hard to parent your
Speaker 4: children on a plane, because you have to try and
Speaker 4: control them, And that's what didn't happen in this situation.
Speaker 2: So he me out. I'm sitting there with my sister.
Speaker 4: It's also she's also got two kids the same age
Speaker 4: as mine, so it's a big deal for us. We're
Speaker 4: on this little trip together and sitting directly behind me
Speaker 4: is a five I'd say he was about five five
Speaker 4: year old kid. I was next to the window, then
Speaker 4: next to him was his dad, and then next to
Speaker 4: his dad was another kid.
Speaker 5: Right.
Speaker 2: Dad was traveling with the kids all by himself.
Speaker 1: Hero yeah right, yeah, bra beautiful, so beautiful.
Speaker 4: Dad decided that he actually didn't care what the kids did,
Speaker 4: so long as they didn't bother him. Dad was having
Speaker 4: a sleep while his five year old son had pulled
Speaker 4: out some plato, had pulled down his trade table and
Speaker 4: was mashing that plato into the trade table like it
Speaker 4: was his job, like he was trying to roll a
Speaker 4: pizza dough out. So all I was getting for a
Speaker 4: good two minutes was bang, bang bang bang bang bang.
Speaker 4: Was behind the tray table attached to my chair because
Speaker 4: those trays are so flimsy, so I was trying to rest.
Speaker 2: I couldn't because all I was getting was this bang
Speaker 2: on the back of the seat.
Speaker 4: So I turned around and I went into my full
Speaker 4: blown Karen mode. Now I've spoken about being a Karen
Speaker 4: on this show before. In fact, recently I talked about
Speaker 4: how much I enjoy being a Karen. No, I think
Speaker 4: if there is a Karen in this room, it's me.
Speaker 2: I love a letter.
Speaker 4: I love complaining. I can't tell you the amount of
Speaker 4: times where people in our street are having parties. And
Speaker 4: I'll say to my husband Matt, and I'll go, is
Speaker 4: it too early to call the police yet? It was
Speaker 4: like seven pm but the sun still up. No, So
Speaker 4: I didn't call the police in this incident. I wasn't like, oh, look,
Speaker 4: is there any flight? What are they called a plane?
Speaker 4: Police marshal. What I did is I turned around and
Speaker 4: the dad was sleeping, So I put my arm through
Speaker 4: the little hole and I tapped him on the knee
Speaker 4: and I said, father, excuse me, could you please ask
Speaker 4: your son to stop banging my seat? And you could
Speaker 4: tell he was a bit startled, and he was like, oh, oh,
Speaker 4: can you stop stop banging the seat? And then he
Speaker 4: goes back to sleep. Five minutes later, bang bang. But
Speaker 4: it was horrible and like, I am not leaving my
Speaker 4: kids at home to deal with somebody else's kids on
Speaker 4: this plane.
Speaker 2: So I turned back around and I was like, excuse.
Speaker 4: Me again, wake come yeah, could you maybe just maybe
Speaker 4: the trade table's a bad idea for the Plato, Like,
Speaker 4: could you please, could you please anyway? The dad took
Speaker 4: it and he was like once again. He was like
Speaker 4: I stop, and then okay, I'm at this point, come on, like,
Speaker 4: ask your kid to actually stop. I agree, and he
Speaker 4: was not. He was just the dad did not care
Speaker 4: because the kid was occupied, so he didn't have to
Speaker 4: deal with his own child being annoying. I'm a single, brave,
Speaker 4: beautiful father on a plane by himself, doting dad. He's
Speaker 4: a doting dad anyway. So the dad once again checked out,
Speaker 4: and then it continued, and it continued for a good
Speaker 4: twenty five minutes, and I was like, I actually can't
Speaker 4: wear an hour and a half into this six hour
Speaker 4: flight and I need this to stop. And I turned
Speaker 4: around to the child and I was like, excuse me,
Speaker 4: you need to stop banging my seat right now.
Speaker 3: I spoke to the child directly.
Speaker 1: You disciplined discipline. I put on your child.
Speaker 4: I put on my ten out of ten mum voice,
Speaker 4: and the little kid went like this okay, and he
Speaker 4: just put the trade table away. Not one single bang
Speaker 4: from there on in. I wond I won the war
Speaker 4: against the five year old.
Speaker 3: And we've spoken to the dad. The child a non
Speaker 3: verbal and the holiday has been ruined.
Speaker 4: The kid was fine, I'm sorry, but like, there comes
Speaker 4: a point where it's okay to step in and pair
Speaker 4: it someone else's child.
Speaker 3: There is such a one an hour, one.
Speaker 1: Hour into a flight.
Speaker 2: If they can't stop it, then someone else cares.
Speaker 3: You were the most thirty seven year old I've ever.
Speaker 1: Known you as in this moment, so young, you're.
Speaker 3: So you can't talk, Britt, you cannot talk to another child.
Speaker 1: On a plane as a thirty six year old. You're
Speaker 1: very thirty seven right now. I think I cannot relate
Speaker 1: to you right now, Laura, I'm in Miches's generation.
Speaker 2: Sorry about that. Guys, Look, I think it's fine.
Speaker 3: Well, the kids joining us on the phone now, Hidi,
Speaker 3: he's not speaking, he's traumatized, all right. Next time on
Speaker 3: the show, listen, how would you feel right if your
Speaker 3: partner you got a new partner? However, they were still
Speaker 3: full time career for their ex. I was still living
Speaker 3: and looking after their ex.
Speaker 2: Wh why are they taking care of them?
Speaker 3: Well, I'll tell you why. I'll tell you all about it.
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Speaker 1: I want to tell you guys about a TikTok that
Speaker 1: I saw that's gone viral, but it really stopped me
Speaker 1: in my tracks. It's about a woman and her relationship
Speaker 1: with her now husband and her ex husband, and I
Speaker 1: want to know if you guys think you'd do the
Speaker 1: same thing. How he listen to what she said.
Speaker 2: My name is Chris.
Speaker 1: My first husband had a severe traumatic brain injury fifteen
Speaker 1: years ago.
Speaker 2: We're no longer married, but I helped take care of him.
Speaker 1: I'm his legal guardian.
Speaker 2: I love him very very much. He's very much a
Speaker 2: part of family.
Speaker 1: Chris, who you just heard, and her partner Brandon, were
Speaker 1: childhood sweethearts, so it's all they knew was each other.
Speaker 1: They'd planned to spend their entire life together, and then
Speaker 1: at twenty four and twenty three years old, Chris got
Speaker 1: a call that he had been in a really bad
Speaker 1: car accident and he had a really severe traumatic brain injury.
Speaker 1: Doctors did say if he did live, his life would
Speaker 1: never be the same. So you know, she had committed
Speaker 1: to him and committed to this for better or for worse,
Speaker 1: and it ended up being for worse. He did come
Speaker 1: out of the coma, but he has been left with
Speaker 1: such severe injuries that he was just never the same.
Speaker 1: So Chris stuck around for a while and tried to
Speaker 1: make it work, but once she realized he was never
Speaker 1: going to come back to normal, they split up. But
Speaker 1: what she did say is she promised him that she
Speaker 1: would always look after him, and she still does. So
Speaker 1: she ended up remarrying and they both are the cares
Speaker 1: of Brandon. He's in a nursing home now, but they
Speaker 1: he comes to the house every week and has dinner,
Speaker 1: and they take them out for dinner, and they take
Speaker 1: them out for him out for outings. And there's one
Speaker 1: video in particular that's gone viral and it's her new
Speaker 1: husband added a restaurant with her ex husband in a
Speaker 1: wheelchair and he's feeding him dinner and it's a really
Speaker 1: beautiful moment. But I just thought, Wow, there's probably not
Speaker 1: many people that would do that.
Speaker 4: Well, Britt, I think that the thing that's so I mean,
Speaker 4: it is a beautiful story, but I think the thing
Speaker 4: that's so interesting is how much is divided people People
Speaker 4: saying whether they would do it or they you know,
Speaker 4: whether even if she made the right decision to walk
Speaker 4: away from her marriage, whether they would do that if
Speaker 4: that was their partner who was in the same position.
Speaker 4: I think, I mean, I think it's beautiful that she
Speaker 4: has continued to be a part of both of you know,
Speaker 4: his life, and also managed to still go on and
Speaker 4: carry on with her life. But at the same time,
Speaker 4: I think, what an incredible new husband to have the confidence,
Speaker 4: the empathy, the kindness to say, Okay, I want to
Speaker 4: be in a relationship with you, but I will also
Speaker 4: support your husband who is like unable to do anything
Speaker 4: for himself. I just think it's so it's such a
Speaker 4: devastating situation, but more than anything, what amazingly caring, kind,
Speaker 4: generous people they are.
Speaker 2: She is his.
Speaker 1: Guardian, and it makes me think, well, there must be
Speaker 1: no one else around because they were so young. It
Speaker 1: was fifteen years ago and they were in their early twenties,
Speaker 1: So I don't know if there's anyone else to look
Speaker 1: after him. But I think hats off to her and him.
Speaker 1: But that's such an incredible thing to say, like, I
Speaker 1: promise you I'll look after you forever and I'm going
Speaker 1: to do it.
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, the crazy thing is that, I mean, they
Speaker 3: weren't together for a very long time. They were twenty
Speaker 3: four and twenty three, sweetheart, so a lot of those
Speaker 3: relationships often don't work out, so you wouldn't We don't
Speaker 3: know if they were going to work out. But the
Speaker 3: fact that she claims that he was her soulmate, I mean,
Speaker 3: is beautiful. I'd like to think that I do it
Speaker 3: for a partner of mine, but then I don't think
Speaker 3: you can even fathom it until you're in that situation.
Speaker 4: But also there's people in the comment section as well,
Speaker 4: which is saying, like, you know, I think some people
Speaker 4: have very traditional views of marriage, like you're married, well,
Speaker 4: then you're going to stick it out for better orf
Speaker 4: for worse, and stay married. And I think some people
Speaker 4: had an issue with the fact that she's caring for
Speaker 4: him but she's moved on in a new romantic relationship
Speaker 4: judgment around whether she should have left her marriage and
Speaker 4: whether she should be caring for him whilst also being
Speaker 4: married to someone else. And it made me think of
Speaker 4: my so my great auntie, my nana sister. She had
Speaker 4: Ourzeimers really young, and it's something that runs in our family,
Speaker 4: and it's quite prolific in our family. And she was
Speaker 4: in her sixties when she was diagnosed and died from Alzheimist.
Speaker 2: Late sixties.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and she had been married to love her life,
Speaker 4: and my uncle he was caring for her, but she
Speaker 4: was in a nursing home. She was never going to
Speaker 4: come back from having Alzheimist. She had no idea who
Speaker 4: he was. And he started dating again, and I remember
Speaker 4: some people being happy about it, and I remember some
Speaker 4: people really in our family being like, how could he
Speaker 4: do that? How could he move on so quickly? But
Speaker 4: it's I guess the thing is is that it's not quick.
Speaker 4: They're never going to be the same version of a person.
Speaker 4: And so when you get married, are you marrying that
Speaker 4: person regardless of who they end up being or regardless
Speaker 4: of what ends up happening to them? Because I think,
Speaker 4: you know, it's one thing to age and for your
Speaker 4: body to get older, but for your mind to completely.
Speaker 2: Not be there? Ye, then who are you married to?
Speaker 2: Just married to a body of flesh.
Speaker 1: It's such a good point, Laura, because Chris in this story,
Speaker 1: she said I was grieving a living person. Yeah, like
Speaker 1: he was that's exactly what my uncle went through. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: he was here, but he wasn't. And I think, like,
Speaker 1: who are we to stop that? Who are we to
Speaker 1: comment on that from you know, we don't know that situation.
Speaker 3: Human's a complex. You can love again. It doesn't negate
Speaker 3: the history of love that your annie and uncle had, and.
Speaker 4: It doesn't mean that you don't still care for the
Speaker 4: person that they are. But I just I look at
Speaker 4: that and I think people are so able to love
Speaker 4: one person, like you said, Mitch, but also to be
Speaker 4: able to care and still hold that part of their
Speaker 4: love for someone else at the same time.
Speaker 2: And it's not as one dimensional as we look at
Speaker 2: these things.
Speaker 3: Sometimes crazy stuff was Props to the new husband too,
Speaker 3: that's a big ass for him.
Speaker 1: I agree. I think they've done the best with what
Speaker 1: they can in that situation.
Speaker 3: Yeah, totally. All right, guys, let's get out of here.
Speaker 3: We're done for your Tuesday afternoon. If you missed it,
Speaker 3: Britt gave us an update of fertility Journey earlier.
Speaker 1: In the show. Yes, I did definitely give you an update.
Speaker 1: This is my third time, no, my second time egg freezing. Sorry,
Speaker 1: and I don't I don't have a great update.
Speaker 3: It's all on the podcast if you want to have
Speaker 3: a listen, search to pick up and we will see
Speaker 3: you tomorrow. Guys.
Speaker 2: That's it from us, Bye bye,