Speaker 1: When you sleep? Do you sleep with your feet out
Speaker 1: or in the donner in?
Speaker 2: For sure?
Speaker 1: Really doesn't it feel weird on your toes?
Speaker 2: What do you mean? I don't know. Maybe it's just
Speaker 2: a sensory thing for me.
Speaker 3: Like occasionally, if I'm too hot, I'll go just like
Speaker 3: one foot out.
Speaker 1: One foot out is elite level sleeping question for you? Yes,
Speaker 1: stomach or back? I can't sleep with my stomach. Can't
Speaker 1: do it?
Speaker 2: Love it?
Speaker 1: What do I do if I get in the direction
Speaker 1: you start levitating?
Speaker 3: Welcome back to two doting dads. I'm Mattie Jay and
Speaker 3: I'm Ash. This is a podcast all about parenting. It
Speaker 3: is the good, it is the bad, emphasize the bad,
Speaker 3: and it's also the relatable.
Speaker 2: It is the relatable.
Speaker 1: And if you've come for advice, this is not the
Speaker 1: podcast for you. And Maddy Jay usually says that line,
Speaker 1: but today I thought I would say it.
Speaker 2: Change it up a little bit. People like what's going
Speaker 2: on here?
Speaker 1: And before we do get started, we always love to
Speaker 1: crack a nice drop, and today's drop is the NRB,
Speaker 1: which is the Northern Rivers Beer.
Speaker 2: So quick one here we go.
Speaker 1: Oh no no no, no no no no, very good,
Speaker 1: very good.
Speaker 2: What's it cold? Ash? I'm going to put you on
Speaker 2: the spot here. What's it called?
Speaker 3: When you abbreviate words to just the first letter? I
Speaker 3: feel like I'm asking the wrong guy.
Speaker 2: You are definitely asking the wrong guy. Do you know
Speaker 2: what I love? Ash? Me an acronym, yes, an nrb.
Speaker 1: Oh.
Speaker 2: It just rolls up the Northern Rivers beer.
Speaker 1: And this is Stone and Wood's greenest beer, Matt us
Speaker 1: what that means.
Speaker 3: For those playing at home, It means they use over
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Speaker 2: But what is certified sustainable now?
Speaker 3: So it means that the farmers who supply the molten
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Speaker 2: In the land. Ad Oh, I love to hear that.
Speaker 3: So like using less water, looking after the soil that
Speaker 3: the plants are grown in, and using less energy overall.
Speaker 2: Oh, that sounds great now, Matt.
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Speaker 1: so that's what makes it unique. You can only buy
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Speaker 2: However, if you purchase.
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Speaker 2: There is one more way you can get a case
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Speaker 3: we want to thank Stone and Wood for.
Speaker 1: Making this episode possible. Matt, we're back here, we are,
Speaker 1: We're back another week. They feel like they're all blending
Speaker 1: into one as.
Speaker 2: I'm going to pretend to be in a good mood today.
Speaker 1: You do that, going to pretend, you pretend away in
Speaker 1: a great move. I've just got a couple of little
Speaker 1: updates for you from my end that I just want
Speaker 1: to just get out of the way.
Speaker 2: This morning.
Speaker 1: We have been talking about a big event coming up,
Speaker 1: huge big event, which is my son's first ever birthday.
Speaker 1: But he's five, it's not his first birthday for those
Speaker 1: just tuning in.
Speaker 2: Yeah, last week you mentioned you threw out the manly stickers.
Speaker 1: I did made a critical mistake of April ordered these
Speaker 1: custom stickers for the I keep going to call them showbags,
Speaker 1: but this is not the us to show that I'm
Speaker 1: throwing at the very minor party.
Speaker 2: It could be, it could be, And she had.
Speaker 1: These custom stickers ordered, and I think I accidentally threw
Speaker 1: out and I was not mad enough. I was a coward, Matt.
Speaker 1: I was a coward, and I did not tell her
Speaker 1: in person. I let her listen to last week's episode.
Speaker 2: How did she react?
Speaker 1: She didn't talk to me for a little while because
Speaker 1: she had so far and wired to get the right
Speaker 1: size stickers.
Speaker 3: Well, I always say, ash, don't come to me with problems,
Speaker 3: come to me with solutions.
Speaker 2: And I do have a solution. What is it.
Speaker 1: I have reordered the stickers without her knowing, And so
Speaker 1: when she found out that I had done this, I said,
Speaker 1: but it's okay. I've got new ones on the way.
Speaker 1: So she's like, so you've wasted all this money as
Speaker 1: well and my time.
Speaker 3: Can I ask you at this point, are you regretting
Speaker 3: committing to a birthday party?
Speaker 2: Yes, okay, yeah, but he's very excited.
Speaker 1: The best thing about throwing your child at birthday party
Speaker 1: is the threat of being able to cancel it if
Speaker 1: he's misbehaving. Are you using that through Oh, I'm using
Speaker 1: it hard, hard.
Speaker 2: Out getting the bath, no right, birthday party, cancel, no
Speaker 2: straight at the bart.
Speaker 3: I think my initial response is you can't do that.
Speaker 3: That's quite mean. But I'm pretty sure it's legal. For
Speaker 3: two weeks. Yeah, in the last two or three weeks,
Speaker 3: that was that was like frontline defense for me, the
Speaker 3: kids and behaving.
Speaker 1: I've still canceled Christmas already this year. Where for those
Speaker 1: of you at home listening right now, Matt's chasing a
Speaker 1: cat around that he pretends that he hates, but I
Speaker 1: think he loves that a little bit salty today, and
Speaker 1: we'll try and get through it.
Speaker 2: We'll just nurse him through it. Here he comes, deep breath.
Speaker 3: There's a chance, there's a small chance I may not
Speaker 3: be able to attend the birthday.
Speaker 2: Well, wha, wha, wha, whoa, whoa, whoa wah.
Speaker 3: Something's come up, something's come up more important. Look, what's
Speaker 3: more important? Look, I won't go into detail. We don't
Speaker 3: have time for that. Yes we do. We'll take this offline. No, no, no,
Speaker 3: we won't, and we won't. I want everyone listening to
Speaker 3: know why we have a clash of dates. Okay, a
Speaker 3: clash of dates. Clash of dates. The diaries are normally
Speaker 3: checked thoroughly before committing to any type of activity.
Speaker 2: Unfortunately, you better cancel that other activity.
Speaker 3: There was a mistake that was made by whom by myself.
Speaker 3: I acknowledge this mistake. I'm currently in the process of
Speaker 3: trying to fix it.
Speaker 1: So just you just said to me, yes, don't come
Speaker 1: to me with problems, come to me with solutions.
Speaker 2: You're absolutely right. And so you come to me now
Speaker 2: with a problem and no solutions. You sound like April.
Speaker 2: What what's the solution? What are the options?
Speaker 3: The options are Laura and I may split, okay, not permanently,
Speaker 3: just for the weekend, Yes, just for.
Speaker 2: The weekend, just for one afternoon.
Speaker 3: Maybe maybe a case that I attend with my mum,
Speaker 3: which and no kids that would be weird. Just leave
Speaker 3: it with me, Leave it with me. I just wanted
Speaker 3: to put it on your right angry. I'm not angry,
Speaker 3: I just disappointed. I'm just okay. I'm working on it. Also,
Speaker 3: not to come with more shit news. I haven't heard
Speaker 3: back from mainly regarding the mascot who we want to
Speaker 3: attend the event.
Speaker 2: This is the biggest shit sandwich.
Speaker 3: Can I just defend myself for one second in that
Speaker 3: this morning?
Speaker 1: There's a lot of pent up anger. Yeah, but you're
Speaker 1: taking it out on me and I don't like it.
Speaker 3: Because I just got the news ash this house is leaking,
Speaker 3: the mansion, it's leaking. Everything is leaking right now. The
Speaker 3: front window is leaking. So we just we just found
Speaker 3: out on the weekend, gone pouring down with the rain,
Speaker 3: people calling it them monsoon.
Speaker 2: I would like to.
Speaker 1: Say that you can't control the rain, and I'll forgive
Speaker 1: you for that.
Speaker 3: And whilst it was raining through the light, water was
Speaker 3: pouring in.
Speaker 1: It's dangerous because of electricity too, well, said electrical stream.
Speaker 3: So we had we had this internal waterfall. We had
Speaker 3: someone come and look at the house and it's the
Speaker 3: house has been built badly.
Speaker 2: And you'd be a very good way to put it.
Speaker 3: Before we started recording, the builder walked out and I
Speaker 3: was like, what's the news?
Speaker 2: I did hear? And what did he say? You don't
Speaker 2: want to hear it right now? Chat about it later, yes.
Speaker 3: And then and then to top it all off, I've
Speaker 3: got this cat who I love, dearly, beautiful cat, beautiful,
Speaker 3: great cat.
Speaker 1: It's just it's just it's always there. It's it's a
Speaker 1: bit march, sometimes a bit much. It's a bit of
Speaker 1: a It doesn't understand it's a kitten. It's a kitten,
Speaker 1: so it's very playful. It's never not hungry, doesn't can't
Speaker 1: read the room. It can't read the room. It doesn't
Speaker 1: understand when it's not welcomed, and just I'll feed it.
Speaker 1: Split second later, the kids will be having their dinner.
Speaker 1: I turn around, I look back, and the cat's just
Speaker 1: down table, like eating the kid's food.
Speaker 2: And Marley and Laula are.
Speaker 1: Like, yay, go back in for another Yes, especially when
Speaker 1: it's cereal.
Speaker 3: My coffee was there? I like, look over, the cat's
Speaker 3: just drinking my coffee. I'm like, do you mind, bro?
Speaker 3: I can't say what.
Speaker 2: That's mine my house, all right.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to get angry or disappointed about you
Speaker 1: potentially not coming.
Speaker 2: I'm not going.
Speaker 1: I'm not because I understand the pressure that you're under
Speaker 1: at the moment, and the issues come to me with
Speaker 1: a solution, and then we'll have a proper conversation.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 3: We don't normally have special guests. We don't do it
Speaker 3: on a Wednesday episode.
Speaker 2: We do have a very special guest that I'm excited
Speaker 2: about it. Should we bring her in? We should bring
Speaker 2: her in. Let's wheel her in. Just change an happy first.
Speaker 1: It's Matt's mum for those of you confused at home,
Speaker 1: and we have had Matt's mum on the podcast before
Speaker 1: a full episode dedicated to Matt's mum, but today we
Speaker 1: just got her on to give us an update on
Speaker 1: a recent trips on a very long trip. Haven't seen
Speaker 1: her since the cruise those if you remember the cruise,
Speaker 1: she has been on what I like to call a
Speaker 1: senior Kenticky tour, and I want to know how it
Speaker 1: all went down.
Speaker 2: Ellie Johnson, welcome back to the podcast. It's lovely to
Speaker 2: have you back. It's good to be finally. How long
Speaker 2: have you been away? For? Nine weeks? Gosh, it's gone quick.
Speaker 2: I went fast. That went way too fast for my liking.
Speaker 2: I do want to ask you. I know you got scammed.
Speaker 3: I did a number of times you've been taking advantage
Speaker 3: of well.
Speaker 2: Let me put it this way.
Speaker 4: In the first forty eight hours, I was scammed just
Speaker 4: over twelve hundred dollars.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, what did you do? Dodgy strip Clay?
Speaker 2: I mean, it's crazy. That was escort.
Speaker 4: The embarrassing thing was that the scamming started before I
Speaker 4: even left the country.
Speaker 2: Let's start with the first scare.
Speaker 4: All right, going to Singapore. Was told that I had
Speaker 4: to get a transit visa. Best to get the transit
Speaker 4: visa before you leave the country. Sure, okay, So I'm
Speaker 4: in the departure lounge. I google Singapore a transit visa,
Speaker 4: a transit because I wasn't there overnight, it was just
Speaker 4: going in and.
Speaker 2: Out the airport.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I googled, got onto the Singapore Transit site, filled
Speaker 4: it all in, and then this payment slip just popped up,
Speaker 4: and I thought, oh, there's a charge. So I filled
Speaker 4: all that in and then it went back onto the site.
Speaker 4: I completed the visa, got my visa, everything's fine, and
Speaker 4: then there was no amount shown on the payment slip.
Speaker 4: So I checked my credit card and I have an
Speaker 4: amount of one hundred and ninety two dollars for the visa,
Speaker 4: and I think that's a bit steep, so I questioned
Speaker 4: it and someone said, no, sing poor visas are free.
Speaker 2: You've been scammed.
Speaker 4: They've they've somehow superimposed this payment slip. So then I
Speaker 4: contact my credit card company, thinking it's just a one
Speaker 4: off scam and.
Speaker 2: You haven't left the country yet, and I have.
Speaker 4: Not left the country yet. I disputed the amount, but
Speaker 4: I didn't cancel my card.
Speaker 2: Oh God, So go along.
Speaker 4: And then I arrive in Paris, I know to follow
Speaker 4: the signs to the taxi rank and to ignore the
Speaker 4: hustlers who are trying to get nah.
Speaker 3: I know you're going because if anyone who hasn't been
Speaker 3: to Paris or a lot of countries, Paris is particularly
Speaker 3: oh ruthless, it's ruthless.
Speaker 1: I let me to draw you back to a movie
Speaker 1: by the name of Taken in Paris, where she went
Speaker 1: to Paris and she was taken. You weren't taken with you? Well,
Speaker 1: I just say that sounds like what you're saying. It's
Speaker 1: pretty dodgy, dodgy.
Speaker 4: But I thought that I was doing all the right thing.
Speaker 4: I was ignoring all these people. I know your little game.
Speaker 2: Because they call you.
Speaker 3: And I'm sure, as a seventy three year old woman
Speaker 3: with a few bags, how many bags did you have?
Speaker 4: I had two bags, one small, one medium.
Speaker 3: And I'd say it's a large bag. There was a light,
Speaker 3: big bag, and you must have welcomed a nice gentleman
Speaker 3: coming over and offering some assistance with your bags.
Speaker 2: It's a long friend.
Speaker 4: I hate to draw the elderly a lone card, but
Speaker 4: when you were of a certain age traveling alone two cases,
Speaker 4: whether you like it or not, there's a target.
Speaker 2: You're a target.
Speaker 4: But anyway, but anyway, I thought it was doing okay,
Speaker 4: doors open, pelting down with rain.
Speaker 2: Oh gosh, fellow, this fellow was the time of the day.
Speaker 4: Was it got to the actually rank and this gentleman said,
Speaker 4: inspector right, I'm going to try and take this seriously
Speaker 4: now and ignore.
Speaker 2: Is this for me? I was really suffering? Okay, your
Speaker 2: mom was scared. I apologize this point. I wasn't scared.
Speaker 4: And the fellow.
Speaker 2: Said, I'm trying to stick up you here. Mom's like,
Speaker 2: shut up. I was never scared, not once.
Speaker 4: So fifty five euro was mentioned, great and so pouring
Speaker 4: with rain, and this driver said, madam, it's raining. You
Speaker 4: get in the car, I'll deal with the bags and
Speaker 4: I will take the trolley. And I thought to myself,
Speaker 4: what a delightful young man.
Speaker 2: That's what he wanted you to think.
Speaker 4: How nice is he? So got in the car, dry
Speaker 4: and As we're driving to the hotel. I look and think, eh,
Speaker 4: he does not have a meter. I have got into
Speaker 4: a regular car, not a taxi.
Speaker 2: But I stitched that, so my mistake.
Speaker 4: But I think, no, no, no, we agreed on fifty five.
Speaker 4: It'll be okay. Get to the hotel, still pouring with rain.
Speaker 2: The rain was fierce that night.
Speaker 4: And he says one hundred and thirty euro, madam.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, my god.
Speaker 4: And I said no, no, no, no extortion. He said
Speaker 4: fifty five euro and he said, oh yes, madame, But
Speaker 4: that laid baggage. The bags lit tolly, Oh my god.
Speaker 2: And I go, okay, stitch, you know, and look, what
Speaker 2: do you do here? Really?
Speaker 4: But you know what, it's easy to say, oh, I
Speaker 4: wouldn't have paid it, But what do you do? My
Speaker 4: bags are in his boot. Urine is too, You know
Speaker 4: that I can't get my bags. I'm tired. I just
Speaker 4: want to get out.
Speaker 2: Of this car.
Speaker 3: I think exhausted is a more appropriate word, Elie.
Speaker 4: I think exhausted is a bloody good word.
Speaker 2: Actually.
Speaker 3: And let's not forget you're seventy nine, you're almost eighty.
Speaker 2: It's not like a hundred and two. So what did
Speaker 2: you do. So I paid it.
Speaker 4: Then I go into this hotel, which as soon as
Speaker 4: you're open the door to a hotel and the stench
Speaker 4: hits you, and I did body. Oh dear, you know
Speaker 4: I was tired and this hotel, I mean, I should
Speaker 4: have realized a hotel called the Terminus. I should have
Speaker 4: realized it wasn't going to be the best. And then
Speaker 4: when I thought it couldn't get any worse, what happened Next?
Speaker 4: I checked my credit card and there was eight hundred
Speaker 4: dollars because when I had filled in the four they
Speaker 4: had your details, they had my details, and Apple pay
Speaker 4: eight hundred dollars.
Speaker 2: They just kept charging it today. Oh so then I
Speaker 2: thought it is true.
Speaker 4: I have to say, boys, I am quite resilient, but
Speaker 4: I do remember sitting on this grossy little bed thinking
Speaker 4: I want.
Speaker 2: To go home. I don't want to stay here anymore.
Speaker 1: That is Look. I do feel sorry for me, but
Speaker 1: it's also very funny.
Speaker 2: I'm very proud of you for doing that. Mam.
Speaker 3: I think I forget that seventy three two.
Speaker 2: I'm seventy two years.
Speaker 3: I know lots of other individuals who were hitting seventy
Speaker 3: who were nowhere near as sharp.
Speaker 2: As you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's true, and I think you should be commended
Speaker 3: on making the trip an adventure if you will by yourself.
Speaker 2: Did you meet any young suitors while you were there French?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 4: Look close to where I was staying, there was a charcouteriie,
Speaker 4: which is a place where you can buy.
Speaker 2: Meats and board.
Speaker 4: I was going to say, a charcouteriie on Francille is
Speaker 4: lots of meats, cooked meats.
Speaker 2: And I used to go and there was this gentleman and.
Speaker 4: It was quite quite weird because I can't in my head,
Speaker 4: I sort of thought, oh, I don't know, he's almost seventy.
Speaker 2: Then I thought I shouldn't be so judgment But anyway,
Speaker 2: it was quite funny.
Speaker 4: No, he wasn't.
Speaker 2: But he was a real character.
Speaker 4: And I would come in and he'd make a big
Speaker 4: fuss and he would do beautiful meals like Berth Bourgigno.
Speaker 4: And then this one day I got I got a
Speaker 4: Berth Bourgigno and he's no, no, And he sidled up
Speaker 4: and he said, today.
Speaker 2: I have a very nice coco bet and the back
Speaker 2: of a van coco bet, and I'm going.
Speaker 4: To give you a little bit because I think you
Speaker 4: should try it.
Speaker 2: So I think that was like a youph.
Speaker 1: Miss, you're going to have a little brother, yes, cock,
Speaker 1: And then he scanned me out of the rest of
Speaker 1: my and I came home.
Speaker 4: It was a very tasty cock, his chicken.
Speaker 2: There's nothing better than a French cock. As I always say,
Speaker 2: very good, that's very very good. I'm glad you're back.
Speaker 3: Before you go on your recent trip, can you remember
Speaker 3: any moments that were particularly scary.
Speaker 2: Terrifying if you will, Yeah, other than.
Speaker 4: The cross when I tell you this, because it was
Speaker 4: a little bit reckless, so I.
Speaker 2: Would never view reckless.
Speaker 4: Well I had in Paris. I had to go from
Speaker 4: one station to another station and it was on the
Speaker 4: GPS seven minutes walking and I thought, I'm not going
Speaker 4: to get a taxi. I'm not going to be scammed again.
Speaker 3: Can I just say there has been an occasion where
Speaker 3: Mum went down to the shops to get some food.
Speaker 3: About five hundred meters I lost a straight line straight
Speaker 3: back like maybe an hour later.
Speaker 2: I was like, where are you and she was like,
Speaker 2: I'm in Merobra. Oh my god. Yeah, it is a
Speaker 2: bit no no, but I got this. I was following.
Speaker 2: It was all going well.
Speaker 4: And then I went off the beaten track.
Speaker 2: And there well because it told me to.
Speaker 4: And then suddenly I was faced with this large tunnel and.
Speaker 2: It said it said go through. The tunnel said do
Speaker 2: not enter at your own reason. And it was.
Speaker 4: Pretty dark, and I thought, well, okay, it says to
Speaker 4: go and so I went in and everything was fine
Speaker 4: until we turned a corner and the whole of the
Speaker 4: pavement opened up. And I kid you not, there was
Speaker 4: probably about a hundred what looked like men all camping out.
Speaker 2: It was like it was tense city. Oh my god.
Speaker 4: And I just looked at all these men who suddenly
Speaker 4: stared at me. I didn't say anything. I just I
Speaker 4: just thought, shit, this is not good. Are you sure
Speaker 4: Google Maps told you to go there? Yes. I can't
Speaker 4: walk on the pavement because it's it's all full of
Speaker 4: tents and sleeping bagstock back on the road. The worst
Speaker 4: thing was there was this trickle of water going across
Speaker 4: a stench urine unbelievable and it was not water, it
Speaker 4: was urine, and.
Speaker 2: Knew it, and I thought, and I may pissed the
Speaker 2: public many times.
Speaker 4: And then I saw a chink of light and I thought,
Speaker 4: I'm getting out of here. I put my head down,
Speaker 4: my bum up, and I've never gone.
Speaker 2: Hang on a minute. It's not the position you want
Speaker 2: to be in and what you want to be back
Speaker 2: it right up.
Speaker 3: So I pulled my pants down, my teeth, put my
Speaker 3: eyes in the air, and raced for impact.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I wonder it was scary.
Speaker 4: Anyway, So I just race out of that as fast
Speaker 4: as I could.
Speaker 1: Ellie, thank you for joining us, thank you for coming back,
Speaker 1: thank you for making it back safely. And I appreciate
Speaker 1: all the times that you got scanned because I think
Speaker 1: it's hilarious.
Speaker 4: Do you know, I think it's really sad.
Speaker 2: Okay, we're going to wrap this up. I love you, Mom,
Speaker 2: thank you. Love. It's nice to be back. I love you.
Speaker 2: I'm sure the listeners love that, the French, especially Ash.
Speaker 3: We're going to have a bit of a change of
Speaker 3: gears right now, and normally we only ever want to
Speaker 3: be fun time people have a laugh.
Speaker 1: Sometimes you got to scratch more than just the surface.
Speaker 1: Man very well said, thank you.
Speaker 3: And the reason we're going to change gears and be
Speaker 3: a little bit serious for a second is because it
Speaker 3: is Men's Health Week. Is let's be honest, men are
Speaker 3: a little bit crap when it comes to health, to
Speaker 3: their own health. And I know recently you and your
Speaker 3: family have been dealing with a health incident and it's been,
Speaker 3: like I would say, it's it's pretty huge.
Speaker 2: Yeah, through a big spanner in the work there.
Speaker 1: For a couple of weeks, my dad came down to
Speaker 1: visit my kids and my sister's kids, so his grandkids.
Speaker 1: He doesn't get to see them that often. They live
Speaker 1: on the Gold Coast, so they came down for a
Speaker 1: few days, which is nice. And he'd been on a
Speaker 1: few trips this year over the last twelve months and
Speaker 1: he managed to pick up like a bit of an
Speaker 1: infection that led to him having to go to hospital
Speaker 1: once he got here with the infection just getting a
Speaker 1: little bit out of hand, but it led to something
Speaker 1: a little bit more serious where he was on an
Speaker 1: IV drip and some antibiotics, had to go to the
Speaker 1: hospital every day. But the problem from that is he
Speaker 1: came to visit my kids and he was fine. He
Speaker 1: was recovering from that, which is great, but he did
Speaker 1: mention to us once I was walking.
Speaker 2: Back to the car that he was a little bit
Speaker 2: out of breath.
Speaker 1: And then my mum had also flagged with me over
Speaker 1: the last twelve months that he'd been sort of losing
Speaker 1: breath on minor walks and all sorts of things.
Speaker 2: But your dad is very fit. He's a fit guy here,
Speaker 2: serves a lot, walks a lot.
Speaker 1: He's retired, so he spends a lot of the time
Speaker 1: walking up and down the beach all that sort of stuff.
Speaker 2: Active.
Speaker 1: But over the last twelve months, yeah, he was losing
Speaker 1: He sort of would lose breath. And just to take
Speaker 1: you back a little bit for a bit of context,
Speaker 1: when he was forty one years old, he had a
Speaker 1: heart attack and had some stents put into his archery
Speaker 1: and anyway, So after he'd taken that walk to the car,
Speaker 1: he'd gone back to where they were staying in the accommodation.
Speaker 1: I received a call at six am in the morning
Speaker 1: that my dad had been rushed to the ICU. Wow,
Speaker 1: and he hadn't suffered a heart attack. But what happened
Speaker 1: is the fluid from the IV that he had had
Speaker 1: landed sort of gone into his lungs and he couldn't breathe,
Speaker 1: So he was essentially drowning really at his accommodation in
Speaker 1: front of my mum. The ambulance came and he survived. Obviously,
Speaker 1: it turns out that he needed a triple bypass because
Speaker 1: his heart wasn't actually well. That stent he had was
Speaker 1: only working at two percent, so the other arteries had
Speaker 1: to pick up the slack and it just they just
Speaker 1: got to a point after twelve months, months of him
Speaker 1: struggling with shortness of breath and ignoring those signs that
Speaker 1: he just couldn't take it anymore.
Speaker 2: And the doctor said that he was pretty lucky. Though.
Speaker 2: He was really lucky.
Speaker 1: They said if he wasn't as fit as he was,
Speaker 1: or if he was overweight, he would be dead. Essentially,
Speaker 1: he would have had a heart attack. He would have
Speaker 1: died multiple times over the last years. Those archeries were
Speaker 1: actually trying to pick up the slack anyway. So he
Speaker 1: went in to have that triple bypass surgery here in Sydney.
Speaker 1: So a three day trip turned into a six week
Speaker 1: trip where he was stuck here in Sydney.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: And you know, there's a lot of conversations that happened
Speaker 1: between him and going into surgery. He was upbeat up front,
Speaker 1: but I could see that in his eyes he was
Speaker 1: a little bit scared, and he said to me a
Speaker 1: few times. He said, I haven't been well for a
Speaker 1: long time, and we all knew it, but he refused
Speaker 1: to admit it to himself. He said to me, I
Speaker 1: was scared. I was scared of what I would have
Speaker 1: to go through again. The reality of that something was
Speaker 1: not okay with me, and we all sort of were like, yeah,
Speaker 1: we know, and it's so easy to be like we
Speaker 1: told you, it's so easy to be that guy, but
Speaker 1: it's much better not to be that guy. It was
Speaker 1: also a realization that he had artery disease, which is genetic,
Speaker 1: which I'm his son, so that gets passed down to me.
Speaker 2: Which when I have mentioned that to.
Speaker 1: Doctors and stuff like that, they've gone, oh, you know,
Speaker 1: you should get checked.
Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, I will never do.
Speaker 1: I'm just I'm essentially repeating history as as it happens.
Speaker 3: So since that diagnosis and since the surgery, have you
Speaker 3: gotten checked up?
Speaker 2: Not yet? But the I mean.
Speaker 1: I actually have been in for a skin check that
Speaker 1: my wife made me go.
Speaker 2: She booked it and said you've got to go.
Speaker 1: But I think like the biggest takeaway from from this
Speaker 1: whole experience is that I do need to pull my
Speaker 1: fucking finger out in the lack of a better word,
Speaker 1: because you know, two days after that, he essentially died
Speaker 1: in the hospital bed and they had to reboot him.
Speaker 1: So for that split moment, I didn't have a dad
Speaker 1: and they had to go back into surgery. And you know,
Speaker 1: and the constant talk around it is, for twelve months,
Speaker 1: you've had an opportunity to face your fears, you know,
Speaker 1: like I said, pull your finger out and put everyone
Speaker 1: around you his mind at ease that something's not okay,
Speaker 1: so that it can be okay and you can continue
Speaker 1: to live your life. He's great now, but he is
Speaker 1: so full of I won't let this happen again. And
Speaker 1: I hope that's truthful.
Speaker 3: And has he said anything to you about your health
Speaker 3: and you getting Yeah.
Speaker 1: He just says, stopping a dickhead, go and do it,
Speaker 1: and that's completely fair. And my wife is also really
Speaker 1: like I got young kids. My dad had a heart
Speaker 1: to take at forty one. Matt, I'm thirty four years old.
Speaker 1: I'm not far off that and I seven years and
Speaker 1: my mum really spooks me a lot because he and
Speaker 1: I at this age lived a very similar lifestyle. And
Speaker 1: you know me, I'm quite a heavy drinker. I ever
Speaker 1: really one hundred percent take care of myself all the time,
Speaker 1: or so.
Speaker 2: I think, yeah, like it's something that.
Speaker 1: Being in the position I am, and like I should
Speaker 1: probably lead by example to go fucking go and do it,
Speaker 1: go and get something checked to make sure that can
Speaker 1: help not just me but my kids.
Speaker 3: I think what your dad has gone through, though, is
Speaker 3: is definitely not an isolated case in terms of older men.
Speaker 2: It's the story in the hospital. It's so funny.
Speaker 1: We're in intensive care after the fact and Dad's got
Speaker 1: even before the surgery, Dad's got guys around to him
Speaker 1: in the cardiac all in the same boat that all
Speaker 1: didn't get shit checked, that all waited too long, or
Speaker 1: you know, waited till the very last minute before it
Speaker 1: was fatal. And even Dad saying people coming in and
Speaker 1: dying because you know, this fifty year old bloke who's
Speaker 1: a young man didn't go and do the very minor thing,
Speaker 1: which is to get a blood test. And for me personally,
Speaker 1: I'm fucking petrified. I haven't had a blood test in
Speaker 1: like ten years plus. I haven't had a blood test
Speaker 1: since I've been married to my wife.
Speaker 3: That way, I don't think I've ever had one either,
Speaker 3: and I think it's maybe down to the fact that
Speaker 3: I don't want to get old.
Speaker 2: No one does.
Speaker 1: You think you're just superman, see whatever, Peter pan whatever.
Speaker 3: I'm staring down the barrel now at turning forty and
Speaker 3: I hate it. I absolutely hate it. You know, no
Speaker 3: one wants to get old at all. And I think
Speaker 3: having these regular checkups and it's the realization that you know,
Speaker 3: we're no longer twenty year old, we are getting nice.
Speaker 2: I feel.
Speaker 1: I always said it, April, I'm like, I wonder when
Speaker 1: I'm going to be a full grown man. He's like,
Speaker 1: He's like, listen here, dickhead, you are a fully grown man.
Speaker 1: So go and fucking get go and get something checked,
Speaker 1: just so that you can give myself and the kids
Speaker 1: some peace of mind that you're looking after yourself so
Speaker 1: that you'll be here for the long run. And that
Speaker 1: goes for if I'm talking to anyone that goes to
Speaker 1: all these young dads that follow us and messages and
Speaker 1: send us we love your.
Speaker 2: Podcast, all that shit.
Speaker 1: Who've got two three year olds that are relating so much,
Speaker 1: Go and fucking get something checked. Look, because there's so
Speaker 1: much talk with dad over the last few weeks of
Speaker 1: you know, you could have avoided it being a scare
Speaker 1: for the whole family if you'd just been checked and
Speaker 1: known what we were in for, know what we're in
Speaker 1: for ahead of time, instead of you having to come
Speaker 1: to see your grandkids and then having to see you
Speaker 1: like that when you could have gone early. Notice that
Speaker 1: you're out of bread for no reason for walking on
Speaker 1: flat ground when he is quite a fit guy, like
Speaker 1: you've met him. Go early, Go and do it early.
Speaker 1: And look, you know, I'm guilty of doing it too,
Speaker 1: of leaving things at the last minute, But I would
Speaker 1: say earlier is better, Matt.
Speaker 3: Yeah, with any medical condition, the more time you can
Speaker 3: give doctors, the better your chances of survival. I know
Speaker 3: that Laura's stepdad at the moment, he is going through
Speaker 3: one hell of a battle, which it breaks my heart
Speaker 3: the fact that he's currently in palliative care. Eight years
Speaker 3: ago he was diagnosed with prostate cancer and unfortunately, by
Speaker 3: the time they had diagnosed him, it was already terminal.
Speaker 3: And you know, I think he's pretty young as well.
Speaker 3: He's like in his sixties at the moment. Yeah, And
Speaker 3: I can't help but think if he had gone to
Speaker 3: the doctor sooner, if he had gotten checked out, if
Speaker 3: they had found it, you know, just that a little
Speaker 3: bit earlier, he may have had a better chance of survival.
Speaker 1: And it could be hard sometimes to see what the
Speaker 1: warning signs are, right, So with every medical condition, they've
Speaker 1: all got different symptoms. Did he have any particular symptoms
Speaker 1: that he thought, you know, look back now in hindsight
Speaker 1: and go, that was abnormal and maybe I should have
Speaker 1: gotten that check.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I think the big one was having to urinate a lot,
Speaker 3: really frequently, abnormally frequently.
Speaker 2: What's abnormally frequently?
Speaker 3: Do you think enough for it to impact your daily life? Yeah,
Speaker 3: the fact that you're always having to know you need
Speaker 3: to be close to a toilet.
Speaker 2: Yeah, usually you can plain your pissess out. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: yeah yeah.
Speaker 3: But Laura's mum was like so many women in the
Speaker 3: relationship where she was trying to force him to go
Speaker 3: to the doctors and they get himself checked out. You know,
Speaker 3: when I speak to Neil now, of course he wishes that, Yeah,
Speaker 3: he'd gone sooner.
Speaker 1: And it's such a stubborn thing that men do. Right,
Speaker 1: Oh we go, yeah, we'll do it. Yeah, I'm all right.
Speaker 2: We'll do it well.
Speaker 1: And it's not just the major things, it's the minor
Speaker 1: things too that can impact your life. So yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: as you were saying, early detection is so important.
Speaker 2: Important.
Speaker 1: So if you're a man listening, yes, I Matt, I'm
Speaker 1: going to make a promise to you.
Speaker 2: Go on.
Speaker 1: Okay, I haven't had a blood test in what I say,
Speaker 1: ten or fifteen years.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't even know.
Speaker 1: So I promise to go and book in and get
Speaker 1: a blood test if this week or next week, I
Speaker 1: will send you the confirmation and start the process. Because
Speaker 1: I do have a genetic disease, it's being passed down
Speaker 1: to me. I can't really help that. At least if
Speaker 1: I can start to look at it now, then maybe
Speaker 1: I won't get to a point in my life where
Speaker 1: my family's scared for my health, if that makes sense.
Speaker 2: And I can't run this podcast by myself, no you cannot. Well,
Speaker 2: every run's replaceable, man, I'll do the same.
Speaker 1: You do the same blood test, all right, blood brothers,
Speaker 1: they're corners, the blood brothers. Okay, So we're promising each other.
Speaker 1: This is promise seeing the listeners.
Speaker 3: See the listeners as well, that it's so bloody easy
Speaker 3: for these non critical things, you know, because we're all
Speaker 3: flat out working looking after the kids, that this is
Speaker 3: like the last thing we want to worry about.
Speaker 2: But we'll do it. Yeah, we'll share the results.
Speaker 1: I feel like if you can take a moment to
Speaker 1: look after yourself, to help to look after your kids
Speaker 1: long term.
Speaker 2: It's priceless. So go and do that.
Speaker 1: We'll do it and we'll update you unless I don't
Speaker 1: turn back up and it's too late.
Speaker 2: Sorry that was a poor message, Ashu.
Speaker 3: It is time for listener questions and hey, why don't
Speaker 3: you kick us off today?
Speaker 2: Matt.
Speaker 1: I have a question here from Chantelle Chantell or Shantell.
Speaker 1: I'm not sure how she announces it, but I'm sorry
Speaker 1: if I but you it all three of those, but
Speaker 1: shed she wants to know, Matt. Want other non sexy
Speaker 1: things that you do that your partner Laura finds as
Speaker 1: a turn on.
Speaker 2: I've got a great list here, ash you got a list.
Speaker 3: I've got a list because I put the call out
Speaker 3: to people who listen to the podcast to get their answers.
Speaker 3: But for me, I've said this before many times. Any
Speaker 3: domestic work around the house, chalk play turns Laura into
Speaker 3: a horn dog, in particular doing the dishwasher and washing
Speaker 3: the laundry.
Speaker 4: Ah.
Speaker 3: I don't do it as much these days, but if
Speaker 3: I was to get the mop bucket out, be careful.
Speaker 3: She will rip my clothes off. That's the only reason
Speaker 3: why I don't do it afterwards. But he's what's it for, April?
Speaker 3: What does she love?
Speaker 1: Oh that's a very very very good question. I don't
Speaker 1: know what she likes. No same thing. I think if
Speaker 1: you get if your elbow deep in a toilet, the
Speaker 1: sexy you are, I mean, I.
Speaker 2: Like elbow deep in something else later on.
Speaker 1: EO cleaning seems to be the common consensus.
Speaker 3: But I've got a little list here, as I know
Speaker 3: you've got it for yourself. So maybe we can just
Speaker 3: give like some sexy ye right now to really set
Speaker 3: the move.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, let me just turn something on really quickly. Ah. Okay.
Speaker 3: When he wears his hat backwards, Oh, that.
Speaker 2: Was a big trend for a while. That's that is
Speaker 2: pretty sexy. I'm just going to say Laura does like it.
Speaker 2: I guess when he rolls up.
Speaker 3: His sleeves, yeah, means business is about to happen. With
Speaker 3: business times like when the sleeves roll up. You know
Speaker 3: shit's about to go down.
Speaker 2: There is a lot of cleaning. There's some just some
Speaker 2: nice ones.
Speaker 1: I would say that's just like being a nice person,
Speaker 1: which is like.
Speaker 2: Running me a hot bath just for no reason gives.
Speaker 3: You an indication of how low that bar is. Where
Speaker 3: it's like if someone just ran me a bath, did
Speaker 3: the bare minimum, I would love him.
Speaker 1: Just when one here is just like, just be competent
Speaker 1: for the whole day.
Speaker 2: This is a niche one.
Speaker 3: She says her husband created a cracker for a stock
Speaker 3: whip out of a plastic bag.
Speaker 1: What she loved it, Oh, my goodness, wouldn't good enough.
Speaker 1: My last one's really really simple. It's just getting a
Speaker 1: pay rise.
Speaker 3: I don't know if April ever loves this, but this
Speaker 3: one says when he puts his hand on the passenger
Speaker 3: headset and reverses the.
Speaker 1: Yes, I remember because back in the day, when I
Speaker 1: was a child, this is how I was conceived.
Speaker 2: I reckon.
Speaker 1: There was no reverse cameras, and that was the go
Speaker 1: to move.
Speaker 2: I reckon. I reckon.
Speaker 1: Dad's like and the feel of it, even if you're
Speaker 1: slided in between.
Speaker 3: Oh Sam also wearing anything gray great sweatpants is a thing.
Speaker 2: You've got to have a decent sized cock for that.
Speaker 2: I don't even know about a great sweat.
Speaker 3: Here when he's on a work phone call and he
Speaker 3: uses his professional voice, oh.
Speaker 1: Because your voice changes so much when you just like
Speaker 1: chatting to her mate chat to her or him, and
Speaker 1: then you're back into.
Speaker 2: It, like, we'll just circle back to that. It's like
Speaker 2: circle back, circle back on.
Speaker 3: This question for you. Yes, this one comes from Nathan.
Speaker 3: He wants to know do your kids ever fake injuries?
Speaker 2: Yes? Yes, they are big old fakers, are they? Yeah?
Speaker 2: What injuries are they fake?
Speaker 1: Got was calling out of the middle of the night
Speaker 1: and I thought he was having a nightmare and I
Speaker 1: walked in and I was like, oh, you have a
Speaker 1: nightmare and he.
Speaker 2: Goes, no, my knee just hurts.
Speaker 3: I was like, what growing pains are the fucking worst.
Speaker 2: I didn't even think about growing pains. Now I feel bad.
Speaker 3: Marley will always drop in. She's like, you know, because
Speaker 3: they want to delay the bedtime. She's like, I'm thirsty,
Speaker 3: i'm cold, I've got growing pains. And she's like, I
Speaker 3: need the medicine, so I'll have to get the syringe.
Speaker 2: I do a fake.
Speaker 3: Sometimes I'll get like just a droplet, yeah, and I'll
Speaker 3: give her something and I'm like, there you go.
Speaker 2: That was a big.
Speaker 3: Lot of medicine and super strength. And she's like thanks, Daddy,
Speaker 3: and like you idiot, Lola. At the moment, I don't
Speaker 3: know why. She's just obsessed with band aids. Oh yeah,
Speaker 3: loves them at the moment, and I think this is
Speaker 3: on me. I've now done it so much that it's
Speaker 3: part of the morning routine. So we'll have breakfast, we'll
Speaker 3: get changed.
Speaker 2: Have a band aid.
Speaker 3: Literally, she will. As I get her change, she's looking
Speaker 3: at her arms, looking at her fingers, any type of
Speaker 3: blem is.
Speaker 2: She's like, dad, wow, help me, help me out.
Speaker 3: I've got I love. I'm churning through bandaids. Also, shouldn't
Speaker 3: have got the ones with the kid cartoons on it,
Speaker 3: because she loves them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's obsessed with them.
Speaker 3: So like, right now I can't leave the house without
Speaker 3: whacking a band aid on it somewhere.
Speaker 2: I just have it pre empty with the clothes.
Speaker 1: You're like, okay, I've got shirt, jumper pants, underpants, socks,
Speaker 1: band aids.
Speaker 2: And it makes her so happy. She gets it on
Speaker 2: and she's like all right, let's get the car, got everything.
Speaker 1: The same thing where her and our school were running
Speaker 1: around the lounge and she's fallen over, and like, legitimately
Speaker 1: it must have scared her or.
Speaker 2: Whatever, hurt her foot a little bit.
Speaker 1: She must get like a little bit of carpet burn
Speaker 1: or I don't know, but she was all of a
Speaker 1: sudden fine, great, And then she just like developed a limp,
Speaker 1: just like moments later, and we were like what, oh
Speaker 1: my god, Like she's got a limp. She's got a limp,
Speaker 1: and I was like, what's wrong. She was like, I
Speaker 1: need a band aid? And then did you give her one? Yeah,
Speaker 1: on the opposite leg, and she was fine, Just like anyway,
Speaker 1: they're being old liars, man, don't believe anything. We always
Speaker 1: try and do, like you're the boy who cried wolf.
Speaker 1: And then someone told me that the boy who cried
Speaker 1: Wolf died anyway, and I was like.
Speaker 2: Well, a bit morbid. It's a bit morbid.
Speaker 3: But anyway, hey, do you know what I'm worried about, Well,
Speaker 3: the fact that we recorded with mom. We sent her
Speaker 3: out to pick up a sandwich from the cafe down
Speaker 3: the road. I forgot yeah, yeah, right now she's probably
Speaker 3: getting scammed. She's probably face to face with one hundred
Speaker 3: men under a bridge somewhere up.
Speaker 2: God, let's wrap this up. We give her acall and
Speaker 2: see if she's okay.
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