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Speaker 1: Welcome to the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. This podcast is

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Speaker 1: for women who want to take ownership of their lives,

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Speaker 1: live unapologetically, and are ready to turn their biggest dreams

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Speaker 1: into their reality.

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Speaker 2: If you're ready to be.

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Speaker 1: Armed with the tools that will inspire to take bold action,

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Speaker 1: feel confident within yourself, and conquer your goals, then you've

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Speaker 1: come to the right place. I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson.

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Speaker 1: I'm a lawyer turned entrepreneur, co founder of Naked Harvest Supplements,

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Speaker 1: and social media personality with a community of over three

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Speaker 1: hundred thousand. I grew up believing I had to pursue

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Speaker 1: the safe option and fit into a mold others had

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Speaker 1: created for me. But then I entered my corporate law

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Speaker 1: job and I realized that settling for a reality that

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Speaker 1: didn't set my soul on fire was something I.

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Speaker 2: Was not prepared to do.

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Speaker 1: I want to more, and I have a feeling you

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Speaker 1: do too. Join me and special guest weekly as we

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Speaker 1: get down to the nitty gritty on all things health,

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Speaker 1: mastering your mindset, creating lasting habits, thriving in your career

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Speaker 1: and relationships, plus so much more, and together we'll gain

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Speaker 1: the knowledge and perspective to pursue our wildest dreams and

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Speaker 1: kick fear to the curb. Well what are you waiting for?

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Speaker 1: Let's Rise and conquer Hi guys, and welcome to another

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Speaker 1: episode of the Rise and Conker Podcast. So I thought

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Speaker 1: I would start season two with our guest who is

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Speaker 1: one of my favorite people in the whole entire world,

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Speaker 1: my husband, Timothy Crouch. We often get asked to do

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Speaker 1: this Valentine's Day special where we could just going to

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Speaker 1: be chatting about our relationship, a little insight, and then

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Speaker 1: also just giving a bit of advice. Obviously we're not professionals,

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Speaker 1: but yeah, we just thought it would be a fun

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Speaker 1: little episode. So welcome to the show.

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Speaker 3: Tim. Hello, are you excited to be very excited, very

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Speaker 3: privileged to be the first male on the Rise and

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Speaker 3: Conquered podcast.

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Speaker 1: This is correct first maybe only who knows? So this

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Speaker 1: is Tim's first podcast. So are you a little bit nervous?

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Speaker 3: A little bit nervous, guys, I'm not gonna You're going

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Speaker 3: to do amazing.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So what we're going to do? I actually didn't

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Speaker 1: Put a question box thing on my Instagram because I

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Speaker 1: wanted this to be a bit of a surprise, but

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Speaker 1: I pulled up like an old one because we did

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Speaker 1: a YouTube video and so in America, wasn't it no,

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Speaker 1: the one when we're in the Wit Sundays with Mum

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Speaker 1: we only answered like five questions. So there were so

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Speaker 1: many questions. But before we get into those, well fair stuff. Sorry,

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Speaker 1: We're sitting in the floor of my office and Wolf

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Speaker 1: let's just go into a brief thing of just you know,

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Speaker 1: how we met. So we've been together for it's just

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Speaker 1: been eighteen eight years yep. And so when we were

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Speaker 1: met when we met, sorry, I was seventeen, fresh out

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Speaker 3: Twenty one yeah, yeah, the twenty.

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Speaker 2: One yeah, I think so that was twenty one.

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Speaker 1: So we are four years different, four years yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: and so funny story. Also, before we get into it,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if this helps anyone, but I'm a

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Speaker 1: Leo and Tim is a Taurus. We should like look

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Speaker 1: that up later and see if we're actually compatible or not.

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Speaker 3: I feel like it's almost like we should like really

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Speaker 1: Yeah, strong a line and yeah, anyway, Okay, so how

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Speaker 2: I swear I've told this story quite a few times.

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Speaker 3: I feel like we really have told them.

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Speaker 1: Well, let's just quickly, Yeah, just a really quick one.

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Speaker 1: So very typical millennial.

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Speaker 2: We met from Facebook. So me and Tim are from the.

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Speaker 1: Same area, Bayside area. But I had never met you,

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Speaker 1: But then by the time you accepted me, I remember,

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Speaker 1: it's kind of just like a celebration after you graduate

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Speaker 1: grade twelve. So I was at school, me and Tim

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Speaker 2: No, we didn't get to that stage. Who knows what.

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Speaker 3: That was a bit before. I feel like that was

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Speaker 2: Sorry, after way after, like four years after.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I'm so glad I didn't have to do it.

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Speaker 3: I know, Oh my god, I know.

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Speaker 1: I've heard a lot of stories. But anyway, okay, back

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Speaker 1: into it, so let's get into the questions. And then also,

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Speaker 1: just for a bit of context, me and Tim got

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Speaker 2: And eighteen, which was really cute. So yeah, that's kind

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Speaker 3: One, twenty fifteen.

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Speaker 2: Up the question, so met two and twelve.

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Speaker 3: Twelve, Yeah, so pretty much the start of twenty twelve.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, ran now, no, we met in November.

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Speaker 3: November, but we made it official. Yes, yes, one months later.

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Speaker 1: We met, were in twenty twelve, got to engage in

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Speaker 2: And yeah, that's kind of just sum it up. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So someone asks, what is your favorite aspect and least

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Speaker 2: Do you want to go first? Do you want me

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Speaker 3: So favorite aspect of you for me would have to

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Speaker 3: be just how driven you are? You just gogether really

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Speaker 3: like you really what are you laughing?

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Speaker 2: Because it's true.

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Speaker 3: You just get stuff done, Like you just get shit done.

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Speaker 3: Like you say want to do something and then you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, very gold driven.

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Speaker 3: Orientated, and you really set your goals and you're really achieved.

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 3: I'm very proud of you for it.

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Speaker 1: All Right, now the least sure you've got a list,

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Speaker 3: No, I don't have a list, but I reckon the

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Speaker 2: Oh, here we go.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, what do you think it is.

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Speaker 2: I know what you're going to say, mate, my existence.

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Speaker 3: How dirty you are?

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Speaker 2: Dirty? Messy?

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Speaker 3: I'm dirty, how dirty, little girl?

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Speaker 3: No, just how messy you are.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, this is this thing though, Like, so.

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Speaker 3: Guys, Georgia is so Georgia has the kitchen on her

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Speaker 1: Let's take this back a bit, because what you don't

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Speaker 1: really is like what he's saying is so dramatic, and

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Speaker 1: I am so normal, Like he is so lucky in

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Speaker 1: regards to where we live. It's super clean.

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Speaker 2: And so what.

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Speaker 1: He's talking about is when I use something, I will

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Speaker 3: I know you actually do that sometimes it's sort of annoying,

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Speaker 3: Because it never get done.

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Speaker 1: So my least and favorite thing is probably like kind

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Speaker 1: think my favorite thing about you is just how kind

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Speaker 1: Any like Tim will just like go up to anyone

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Speaker 1: He's like the person who's like lighting up a room

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Speaker 1: that is we all know Tim is OCD.

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Speaker 2: So he is just like.

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Speaker 1: Like him saying I'm messy, like I'm really not, and

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Speaker 1: So you're definitely a touch of OCD, which for me

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Speaker 1: it's hard because for instance, like I'll cook dinner and

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Speaker 1: straight away when it's hot, was Tim wants to clean up,

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Speaker 1: so I'll sit there and be really like, he doesn't

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Speaker 1: But then I do agree that it can be such

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Speaker 1: a positive because I hear these, you know, horror stories

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Speaker 1: Tim like, like I gets home and it's not like

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Speaker 2: So really it's a good trait, but you can just.

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Speaker 3: Speak it's weird how I'm like that though it's a little.

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Speaker 1: Intense sometimes, Like I remember when we lived with Mickey Kyle,

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Speaker 3: I have a dream.

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Speaker 1: we go through them. So, yeah, me and him fight

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Speaker 3: That, or we will have a bit of a yelling

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Speaker 3: It's like it's almost like a constructive fight, doesn't it.

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Speaker 3: I think it is. I feel so lucky to be

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Speaker 3: doing it.

447
00:21:32,280 --> 00:21:32,480
Speaker 2: Yeah.

448
00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:35,360
Speaker 1: I think also to be both of us be working

449
00:21:35,440 --> 00:21:37,840
Speaker 1: towards the same thing feels really cool.

450
00:21:38,720 --> 00:21:41,560
Speaker 3: Like it's also creates like a lot more a lot

451
00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:44,960
Speaker 3: more connection between us and you know, interaction and conversation,

452
00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:46,399
Speaker 3: more things in common.

453
00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:50,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, for sure. Whereas before I feel like you,

454
00:21:50,800 --> 00:21:53,800
Speaker 1: like obsoy, I would tell you about my work and stuff,

455
00:21:53,840 --> 00:21:56,080
Speaker 1: but I wouldn't feel like you were very separate.

456
00:21:56,440 --> 00:21:58,600
Speaker 3: Yeah I didn't sort of I didn't understand it as

457
00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:00,960
Speaker 3: much as I do now like you obviously.

458
00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:01,639
Speaker 2: Yeah.

459
00:22:01,680 --> 00:22:04,880
Speaker 3: So no, that's definitely, it's definitely such a positive. I'm

460
00:22:04,920 --> 00:22:06,360
Speaker 3: definitely a lot more relaxed now.

461
00:22:06,520 --> 00:22:08,639
Speaker 1: Oh, Tim is so much more relaxed, and even I

462
00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:11,240
Speaker 1: am way more relaxed because, for instance, Tim does still

463
00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:13,360
Speaker 1: take a lot of my content, so like he'll get

464
00:22:13,359 --> 00:22:14,840
Speaker 1: home and he'll be able to, you know, just take

465
00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:17,680
Speaker 1: the photo and that sort of stuff, and we can

466
00:22:17,760 --> 00:22:21,040
Speaker 1: kind of schedule our days even though I feel like

467
00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:23,639
Speaker 1: we still kind of work like the nine to five times.

468
00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:26,159
Speaker 3: Yeah, it doesn't steel too much different. Hey, but it

469
00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:28,360
Speaker 3: just feels like, yeah, it feels a lot.

470
00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:30,960
Speaker 1: It feels like we just have a lot more leniency

471
00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:34,440
Speaker 1: in our schedule, like when we need to do stuff.

472
00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:36,200
Speaker 2: And yeah, but I do.

473
00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:39,400
Speaker 1: I feel so lucky and grateful that we are kind

474
00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:40,600
Speaker 1: of doing this now.

475
00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:42,960
Speaker 3: It's really cool. So lucky, isn't it kind of like

476
00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:45,040
Speaker 3: I believe it. It's like the best job ever.

477
00:22:45,520 --> 00:22:46,400
Speaker 2: You were so funny.

478
00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:50,320
Speaker 1: And also now like my parents in the warehouse too,

479
00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:52,560
Speaker 1: just because we need help. So like I come to

480
00:22:52,560 --> 00:22:56,399
Speaker 1: the warehouse and it's like Tim, my parents, Cooper, my

481
00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:57,840
Speaker 1: cousin's the graphic designer.

482
00:22:59,200 --> 00:22:59,840
Speaker 3: Family thing is.

483
00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:04,280
Speaker 2: Every family orientater. But yeah, I really enjoy it all right, guys.

484
00:23:04,359 --> 00:23:07,639
Speaker 1: So the next question is something we get asked so much,

485
00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:12,840
Speaker 1: and that is if and when we are wanting babies.

486
00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:17,160
Speaker 2: Tim, do you want to answer this? First of all, Tim,

487
00:23:17,200 --> 00:23:17,959
Speaker 2: do you want babies?

488
00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:18,479
Speaker 3: Yes?

489
00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:21,359
Speaker 2: Tim would have babies now if you're.

490
00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:25,040
Speaker 3: Good, I would have babies. Now we could have babies.

491
00:23:25,920 --> 00:23:27,600
Speaker 2: You would have be such a good dad too. You

492
00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:30,000
Speaker 2: just have that personality. I don't know.

493
00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 1: We to be completely honest and transparent with you, guys.

494
00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:36,560
Speaker 1: We actually had this full plan about having babies this year.

495
00:23:37,040 --> 00:23:39,000
Speaker 3: We had a chat, a good chat couple of weeks

496
00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:40,640
Speaker 3: backing about a month ago about it.

497
00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:43,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, so we thought we were going to have and

498
00:23:44,280 --> 00:23:46,200
Speaker 1: previous to this, like even a couple of years ago,

499
00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:49,280
Speaker 1: we always kind of said this year, we're traveling to

500
00:23:49,359 --> 00:23:52,760
Speaker 1: Europe in May June, and then we thought, you know,

501
00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:54,960
Speaker 1: after that, we've done a lot of travel, We're done

502
00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:59,200
Speaker 1: a lot of things we were thinking about trying for children. Also,

503
00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:03,040
Speaker 1: I've had lots of hormonal issues, so I'm not sure

504
00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:06,760
Speaker 1: that I will get pregnant straight away, but I don't know,

505
00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:10,639
Speaker 1: to be honest, we're kind of taking the pressure off

506
00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:15,680
Speaker 1: because to me, the thought of having or like getting pregnant,

507
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:18,359
Speaker 1: like literally in a couple of months or is it

508
00:24:18,359 --> 00:24:19,640
Speaker 1: a couple months, it's soon.

509
00:24:20,359 --> 00:24:21,960
Speaker 2: It really is six months.

510
00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:24,679
Speaker 1: It really scares me and makes me like, I don't know,

511
00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:28,040
Speaker 1: I just don't think I'm ready, Like it feels I'm

512
00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:31,160
Speaker 1: like whoa, whoa, Like you know, last year, I was like, yeah, yeah,

513
00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:33,200
Speaker 1: we'll do it next year, Like of course I want

514
00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:35,119
Speaker 1: to have children with Tim, and I know he's going

515
00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:36,600
Speaker 1: to be the best dad, and I know we have

516
00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:41,840
Speaker 1: such a perfect lifestyle to facilitate having children because of

517
00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:44,760
Speaker 1: flexibility with work. But I don't want to just like

518
00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:48,520
Speaker 1: have children because it's what we should do or like

519
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:51,720
Speaker 1: the next step. And because I'm not maternal, I am

520
00:24:51,840 --> 00:24:56,240
Speaker 1: struggling a little bit with like wanting to have children.

521
00:24:57,080 --> 00:24:59,600
Speaker 1: And I think, like, I really, I really enjoy this

522
00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:02,600
Speaker 1: kind of period of our life right now, and I

523
00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:05,760
Speaker 1: could definitely like do it for another couple of years.

524
00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:08,200
Speaker 3: I know, I'm not. I don't want to. I think

525
00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:09,600
Speaker 3: I don't want to pressure you with that because I

526
00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:12,040
Speaker 3: know you're already under like lots and lots and lots

527
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 3: and lots and lots of stress.

528
00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:14,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, I say that.

529
00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:17,280
Speaker 3: So I'm just happy to do Tim's at.

530
00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:19,680
Speaker 2: Chiller, I know. And that's what I said to Tim

531
00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:21,439
Speaker 2: last night as a joke. I was like, let's just

532
00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:23,920
Speaker 2: have children in like five years, and Tim was.

533
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:26,760
Speaker 3: Like, no, I'll be like fucking forty.

534
00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:30,320
Speaker 1: So Tim has this thing about having kids before he's thirty,

535
00:25:30,600 --> 00:25:31,840
Speaker 1: and he's like thirty next year.

536
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:35,159
Speaker 3: So no, it's this year. Sorry, how old you are

537
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:36,639
Speaker 3: annoys me so much.

538
00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:41,159
Speaker 1: So I don't know that is a question mark on

539
00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:45,359
Speaker 1: that question because we have kind of had these plans

540
00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:46,840
Speaker 1: and now I kind of just want to take the

541
00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:48,040
Speaker 1: pressure off and not have them.

542
00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:49,680
Speaker 2: We're also going skiing in June July.

543
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:52,200
Speaker 3: All these things keep popping up, but I think are

544
00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:55,520
Speaker 3: essential before we do have kids. So I'm glad we're essential.

545
00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:58,280
Speaker 2: But we're just would be cool to do it just.

546
00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:01,399
Speaker 3: With the kids. You haven't done them by ourselves yet,

547
00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:03,560
Speaker 3: so I would like to experience it just with you

548
00:26:03,600 --> 00:26:06,959
Speaker 3: and then kids down the line. Yeah, you know, so

549
00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:07,840
Speaker 3: feel like it's a rush.

550
00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:09,920
Speaker 2: No, we don't want to rush into it.

551
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:12,439
Speaker 1: And at the moment it doesn't feel And I know

552
00:26:12,520 --> 00:26:14,680
Speaker 1: everyone says, you know, you're never one hundred percent ready,

553
00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:18,919
Speaker 1: but it really doesn't feel right at the moment, and

554
00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:21,560
Speaker 1: so I'd rather not rush it. I'd rather just like

555
00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:25,239
Speaker 1: not put pressure on it and you'll just kind of

556
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577
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Speaker 2: Okay, so this is a good one.

578
00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:40,480
Speaker 1: So someone asks, have you ever had a rocky period

579
00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:44,600
Speaker 1: in your relationship and how did you to deal with it?

580
00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 2: Like I said, like, We've definitely been through periods like that.

581
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:51,879
Speaker 2: Let me tell you, guys, there's week's where.

582
00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:55,399
Speaker 1: I'd like anything Tim does just annoys me, or like

583
00:27:56,240 --> 00:27:58,919
Speaker 1: you know, periods in our relationship, I know to be

584
00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:03,160
Speaker 1: completely transparent. Before our engagement party, we had a really

585
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 1: big fight, and I called my parents and was like

586
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:09,920
Speaker 1: this big thing, and like we've never broken up, We've

587
00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:12,639
Speaker 1: always really sorted it out. And I think, to be

588
00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:14,680
Speaker 1: completely honest, And I don't know if you agreed to

589
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 1: him when looking back, fights or rocky periods has kind

590
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:23,680
Speaker 1: of happened when one of us or both of us

591
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:27,280
Speaker 1: has got like a bit lazy in the relationship, would

592
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 1: you agree.

593
00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 3: Yeap, not putting as much effort as.

594
00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:34,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I feel like in a long term relationship too,

595
00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:38,000
Speaker 1: you can get quite comfortable in long term relationships and

596
00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:41,400
Speaker 1: kind of not almost like not try, like you're kind

597
00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:44,080
Speaker 1: of like you're doing your own thing, and because the

598
00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:47,040
Speaker 1: relationship or has worked for so long, you kind of

599
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:50,640
Speaker 1: you stop trying in certain aspects. You stop putting in

600
00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 1: like little efforts and thinking of how you can you know,

601
00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:56,120
Speaker 1: be nice to the person and all that sort of thing,

602
00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 1: and you can slip into this routine where you're both

603
00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 1: like that and then the other person is like a

604
00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:02,800
Speaker 1: bit annoyed at you, and.

605
00:29:02,760 --> 00:29:05,040
Speaker 3: Then you don't even know you almost don't even realize

606
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:07,760
Speaker 3: like go to like say, for instance, like you know,

607
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:09,840
Speaker 3: like me and you know, sort of just not really

608
00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:14,200
Speaker 3: getting into golf. Last couple of years, yes, and him

609
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:18,320
Speaker 3: have this. Recently, we've had a few little fights over golf,

610
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:19,080
Speaker 3: me playing golf.

611
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:21,880
Speaker 1: Well, so I say to him, because I have very

612
00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:24,959
Speaker 1: limited time outside work to spend time with him, and

613
00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:28,720
Speaker 1: then like he will plan golf ahead of planning stuff

614
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 1: with me, and I'm trying to explain to him, like

615
00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:33,719
Speaker 1: to me, that feels like I'm not his priority and

616
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:36,720
Speaker 1: golf is his priority over me, and so again it

617
00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:39,120
Speaker 1: feels like you're just not trying with me. But then

618
00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 1: you'll make such an effort to fucking golf and it

619
00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:45,719
Speaker 1: kills me a little bit, and so we will literally

620
00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:46,280
Speaker 1: have fights.

621
00:29:46,600 --> 00:29:50,920
Speaker 3: Oh no, so much fun, but it's almost like you

622
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:53,480
Speaker 3: need you need your partner you know or whatever, just

623
00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:57,680
Speaker 3: to almost, you know, to to rev you up and

624
00:29:57,760 --> 00:30:00,720
Speaker 3: to you know, have a go at you. Because then we.

625
00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 2: Had that conversation you were like, yeah, you're right.

626
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:05,200
Speaker 3: It's like sort of just see the lie, because you

627
00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 3: do you get stuck, especially if you haven't. You know,

628
00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:08,960
Speaker 3: you found this new thing and it's so much fun

629
00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:10,600
Speaker 3: and it's just like you just love doing it. It's

630
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:13,479
Speaker 3: almost like this new thing and like you you know,

631
00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:15,200
Speaker 3: you are always number one, but you know, you just

632
00:30:15,200 --> 00:30:17,000
Speaker 3: found this, like not that found this new thing, but

633
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:19,960
Speaker 3: it's just like it's exciting, it's so exciting. And then yeah,

634
00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:21,680
Speaker 3: but it's almost like you really need to pull the

635
00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:24,000
Speaker 3: reins back a little bit and just it does take

636
00:30:24,240 --> 00:30:26,680
Speaker 3: sometimes it takes the other person to just rev you

637
00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:28,920
Speaker 3: up and just say, hey, listen and looking fucking actually here,

638
00:30:30,080 --> 00:30:31,400
Speaker 3: just kick back a few notches.

639
00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:32,840
Speaker 2: Actually love that we're aout.

640
00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:36,160
Speaker 3: Kick back a few notches on the golf mate right now.

641
00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 1: Because I'm like, when you look back on your life,

642
00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 1: do you want to think about all the golf games

643
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:43,800
Speaker 1: you played or the time you spent with your wife?

644
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:47,080
Speaker 3: You know pick do you really ask me that question?

645
00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:53,400
Speaker 1: It was so annoying, so kind of sum it up

646
00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:54,880
Speaker 1: like definitely.

647
00:30:54,920 --> 00:30:57,680
Speaker 2: And I think also if you feel like.

648
00:30:57,720 --> 00:31:01,200
Speaker 1: They aren't putting effort in a big thing is if

649
00:31:01,200 --> 00:31:02,960
Speaker 1: you don't want to like confront them and have big

650
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:05,680
Speaker 1: fight like I like to, you could even just start

651
00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:09,560
Speaker 1: putting more effort in yourself and see what happens and

652
00:31:09,600 --> 00:31:12,400
Speaker 1: see if they kind of pick it up and are like, oh,

653
00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:18,680
Speaker 1: I'm really not putting an effort If that makes sense, Okay, interesting, interesting,

654
00:31:18,880 --> 00:31:22,040
Speaker 1: We'll see, we'll see how this works out? Okay, So

655
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:24,440
Speaker 1: another person asks what do you do to keep the

656
00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:26,440
Speaker 1: romance alive after eight years?

657
00:31:28,720 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 3: So I've just got dogs.

658
00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:30,680
Speaker 2: The dogs.

659
00:31:31,000 --> 00:31:34,040
Speaker 1: Tim's laying down, guys, and the dogs are like going

660
00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:35,480
Speaker 1: up and kissing him.

661
00:31:36,360 --> 00:31:37,880
Speaker 3: Give that kisses, aren't you.

662
00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:39,800
Speaker 2: Kisses?

663
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:44,640
Speaker 1: So a big thing for us, I think is we

664
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:47,360
Speaker 1: just always put time aside for each other.

665
00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 3: So, for example, set we have done it recently, haven't we.

666
00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:54,120
Speaker 1: Well, I think a big thing for instance, like we

667
00:31:54,200 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 1: don't think it's a big thing, but every Friday night,

668
00:31:57,880 --> 00:31:59,680
Speaker 1: it's not like we have to say to each other,

669
00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:01,960
Speaker 1: but we just know we're spending the night together.

670
00:32:02,480 --> 00:32:03,640
Speaker 2: Like you don't make plans.

671
00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:06,520
Speaker 1: I don't make plans because Friday night is kind of

672
00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:10,440
Speaker 1: our distressing from the weeknight, especially for me. And so

673
00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 1: what we do is we get takeout and we watch

674
00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:15,960
Speaker 1: our favorite TV show and I just know I don't

675
00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:18,360
Speaker 1: even have to say anything to Tim, He's always going

676
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 1: to be home. Just thinking about that time that you

677
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:24,360
Speaker 1: didn't get home till seven o'clock because of gold, I

678
00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:25,560
Speaker 1: lost it.

679
00:32:26,280 --> 00:32:31,760
Speaker 3: So apart from that, because then I think, I think

680
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 3: it's it's hilarious because we, like, you know, we do

681
00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 3: it every Friday night Weday, and I love doing it.

682
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:39,640
Speaker 3: But I thought it was just saying, oh my god,

683
00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:41,280
Speaker 3: we come on one hour late and see you bloody

684
00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:42,520
Speaker 3: down my throat already.

685
00:32:42,800 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 1: Literally it was like seven o'clock and I ordered food

686
00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:46,680
Speaker 1: without him and like didn't speak to him.

687
00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 3: It was so off. It was, Oh my god, just relax.

688
00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:52,520
Speaker 2: What happens anyway.

689
00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:55,320
Speaker 1: So Friday night is our kind of like our date night,

690
00:32:55,360 --> 00:32:57,360
Speaker 1: and I love that our day night is like we

691
00:32:57,400 --> 00:33:00,360
Speaker 1: don't dress up and go out like it's in a house,

692
00:33:00,720 --> 00:33:03,520
Speaker 1: us together. I really like that aspect. It's quite different

693
00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:07,320
Speaker 1: to what people usually do. And then also a big

694
00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 1: thing for us is Sunday morning. So if you guys

695
00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:12,080
Speaker 1: see my story Sunday morning. We live quite close to

696
00:33:12,080 --> 00:33:14,200
Speaker 1: the beach, so we walk with the dogs.

697
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:17,800
Speaker 2: We're now making our own copies from our n espresso machines.

698
00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:19,600
Speaker 1: And we walk with the dogs and we sit on

699
00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 1: the beach and we have no phones and we just

700
00:33:22,560 --> 00:33:27,080
Speaker 1: sit there for literally like two hours chatting because Friday

701
00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:28,320
Speaker 1: night is not really a chatty thing.

702
00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:30,000
Speaker 3: It's more a distresser.

703
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:31,720
Speaker 2: Distresser, I just be together.

704
00:33:32,120 --> 00:33:35,480
Speaker 1: And then Sunday for me is when and we just

705
00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:37,680
Speaker 1: like don't reckon. Since we've been doing that, we've had

706
00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:41,680
Speaker 1: some beautiful, really deep convos and I don't know, I

707
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:44,800
Speaker 1: feel like you really learn so much more about the

708
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:49,080
Speaker 1: person when you're in a position of having no distractions

709
00:33:49,840 --> 00:33:53,120
Speaker 1: phones and you can just like really talk and be yourself.

710
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:56,480
Speaker 3: Because even though, like you know, people think time like

711
00:33:56,520 --> 00:33:58,760
Speaker 3: spending time together is like, oh, you know, I live

712
00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:01,360
Speaker 3: with you, you know, I live with you know, I

713
00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:03,440
Speaker 3: live with my wife, like or I live with my partner.

714
00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:06,400
Speaker 3: Now I'm spending time with them every night where like realistically,

715
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:08,120
Speaker 3: like you just like you are spending time with them,

716
00:34:08,160 --> 00:34:11,239
Speaker 3: but you're sitting there watching Netflix on your phone, you

717
00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:13,560
Speaker 3: know what I mean, Like they're not there's no connection

718
00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:15,279
Speaker 3: even though you're spending time with that person, there's no

719
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:18,400
Speaker 3: real connection. But I mean everyone's different. I mean, if

720
00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:20,880
Speaker 3: if that they feel like that's their connection, yeah, but

721
00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:21,839
Speaker 3: that's all good.

722
00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:22,359
Speaker 2: Yeah.

723
00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:25,239
Speaker 1: But I think also like that's you're definitely on the

724
00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:28,560
Speaker 1: right point there of like having some time where you know,

725
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 1: you know, maybe if you have kids, like the kids

726
00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:35,080
Speaker 1: aren't there and it's just you and them and there's

727
00:34:35,160 --> 00:34:37,719
Speaker 1: no distractions and you really I don't know.

728
00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:39,440
Speaker 2: Also for me, it's like.

729
00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:41,960
Speaker 1: The only time of the week where I really feel

730
00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:45,120
Speaker 1: like heard by you, if that makes sense, Like I

731
00:34:45,160 --> 00:34:47,200
Speaker 1: really feel like you're listening.

732
00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:49,960
Speaker 3: Because Tim, I get distracted, distracted.

733
00:34:49,560 --> 00:34:51,359
Speaker 2: So easy, and I know, like all throughout the week

734
00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:52,600
Speaker 2: we'll talk and stuff, but.

735
00:34:52,680 --> 00:34:54,960
Speaker 1: I'm thinking my head, he's fucking thinking about a million things,

736
00:34:55,239 --> 00:34:58,320
Speaker 1: which is fine because that's just you. But like that's

737
00:34:58,360 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 1: the only time of the week, and that's the thing.

738
00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:03,360
Speaker 1: It's literally two hours of the whole week, and it

739
00:35:03,560 --> 00:35:06,360
Speaker 1: just it's enough and it completely fills up my cup

740
00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:07,879
Speaker 1: and I feel like it fills up our.

741
00:35:07,800 --> 00:35:12,960
Speaker 3: Relationship, rejuvenate ourselves for that week, isn't it.

742
00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:15,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, like you and then you just go yeah.

743
00:35:15,239 --> 00:35:16,799
Speaker 3: Because it's just it's good because you've got so much

744
00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:18,839
Speaker 3: going on and it's good to you know, just it's

745
00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:20,319
Speaker 3: just good to talk it out and just you know,

746
00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:22,360
Speaker 3: really spend some time together.

747
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:23,160
Speaker 2: Yeah.

748
00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 1: So I guess it's just like, and that's going to

749
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:27,640
Speaker 1: look different for everyone because your schedules. But we've just

750
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:30,600
Speaker 1: really found what works in regards to that, and often

751
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:33,279
Speaker 1: beach walks after work, which we have me doing because

752
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:37,239
Speaker 1: it's been raining, have definitely been a game changer for

753
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:40,640
Speaker 1: us too. So the next question which is like kind

754
00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:42,640
Speaker 1: of the same question, but is what is your favorite

755
00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:44,880
Speaker 1: thing to do together June your first.

756
00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:48,920
Speaker 3: Favorite thing to do all just when she caddies me

757
00:35:49,000 --> 00:35:56,640
Speaker 3: for golf. Now, definitely have beach walks. I mean, I mean,

758
00:35:56,680 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 3: we we both sort of you know, we've always wanted

759
00:35:59,040 --> 00:36:01,960
Speaker 3: to liver the beach, and we all always subconsciously we're

760
00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:05,160
Speaker 3: just always think of the beach. It's a happy place,

761
00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:07,719
Speaker 3: beach relaxing. So when we actually go to the beach,

762
00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:10,120
Speaker 3: you can you actually get into this mood where it's

763
00:36:10,160 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 3: just like really relaxing and you can just chill. Yeah,

764
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:16,160
Speaker 3: and you can just and you got you know, that's

765
00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:18,040
Speaker 3: when we can really listen to each other.

766
00:36:18,200 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I definitely be the same beach walks Friday Night's

767
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:25,759
Speaker 1: that sort of thing. Cool. Oh So I put this

768
00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:28,360
Speaker 1: one in because every time I do a Q and

769
00:36:28,440 --> 00:36:30,239
Speaker 1: A for us, like, this question gets asked and I

770
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:33,680
Speaker 1: think it's someone from America because it's called saying different here,

771
00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:36,759
Speaker 1: but we got usked. Do you guys have a prenup

772
00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:39,719
Speaker 1: like a prenuptial agreement prenup?

773
00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:41,080
Speaker 3: We were prenup.

774
00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:48,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's definitely from America, so legally, like in legal terms, Basically,

775
00:36:48,080 --> 00:36:51,800
Speaker 1: this agreement is an agreement that if me and Tim

776
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:56,200
Speaker 1: were to get divorced, it's just you know, either I

777
00:36:56,400 --> 00:37:01,400
Speaker 1: can't access any extra money, then agreed, or he can't

778
00:37:01,440 --> 00:37:03,480
Speaker 1: access any extra money then agreed.

779
00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:06,600
Speaker 2: But basically that agreement is only really put.

780
00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:10,600
Speaker 1: In place when you have a lot of family money,

781
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:12,320
Speaker 1: like if you have a lot.

782
00:37:12,120 --> 00:37:15,239
Speaker 3: Of inheritance, inheritance like a wealthy.

783
00:37:14,960 --> 00:37:18,240
Speaker 1: Fan, like like if you come from a wealthy family

784
00:37:18,320 --> 00:37:21,359
Speaker 1: and you will get like, you know, a million inheritance,

785
00:37:21,520 --> 00:37:24,360
Speaker 1: that's usually when it comes in just so the wife

786
00:37:24,760 --> 00:37:25,880
Speaker 1: or the husband.

787
00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:26,840
Speaker 3: Can you can't take that money.

788
00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:29,799
Speaker 2: Whereas me and him, like we both don't come from

789
00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:31,200
Speaker 2: like very wealthy.

790
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:33,920
Speaker 3: Family, and we've sort of built this we you know,

791
00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 3: we have we've built this this thing, this whole thing together.

792
00:37:36,719 --> 00:37:39,000
Speaker 3: So it's sort of like we're both so young.

793
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:44,040
Speaker 1: There's no yeah, no, so no no agreement, no prenup

794
00:37:44,560 --> 00:37:45,480
Speaker 1: or anything like that.

795
00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:46,719
Speaker 2: It just didn't really make sense.

796
00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:47,640
Speaker 3: No, that's right.

797
00:37:47,719 --> 00:37:48,520
Speaker 2: I used to do them.

798
00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:50,920
Speaker 1: Actually when I did family law, and I always used

799
00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:52,560
Speaker 1: to think, like, it's a little bit awkward.

800
00:37:52,760 --> 00:37:56,200
Speaker 3: It's so awk Honestly, it's so awkward to be because

801
00:37:56,239 --> 00:37:58,879
Speaker 3: I see it as like if you do know someone

802
00:37:58,920 --> 00:38:01,840
Speaker 3: prenupp whatever it's unless I don't know. It would just

803
00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:03,000
Speaker 3: feel like you.

804
00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:07,560
Speaker 1: You do agree that any money that you make together

805
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 1: gets split. It's just the family money. So if your

806
00:38:11,200 --> 00:38:15,680
Speaker 1: family is literally like a billionaire family, yeah they can

807
00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:19,560
Speaker 1: after divorce, you can actually go after It's kind of

808
00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:21,480
Speaker 1: like basically to keep.

809
00:38:21,280 --> 00:38:22,719
Speaker 2: Living the lifestyle you were.

810
00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:25,880
Speaker 1: So if you know, the family money kind of paid

811
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 1: for a lot of you know, the car you drove

812
00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:30,880
Speaker 1: and all that sort of stuff, you actually are entitled

813
00:38:30,920 --> 00:38:33,080
Speaker 1: to go after that money. So that's the reason why

814
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:36,640
Speaker 1: I do get it. But it would be awkward, especially

815
00:38:36,760 --> 00:38:39,080
Speaker 1: because you usually sign all that sort of stuff, like right.

816
00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:39,760
Speaker 2: Before the wedding.

817
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:44,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, anyway, we're going off on tangents here, so yeah,

818
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:45,280
Speaker 1: no prenut guys.

819
00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:48,359
Speaker 2: So someone asked us, what is.

820
00:38:48,400 --> 00:38:51,160
Speaker 1: Our favorite thing about our wedding day and what is

821
00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:53,719
Speaker 1: your advice for people on their wedding day.

822
00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:58,240
Speaker 2: No, I'll go first.

823
00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:04,640
Speaker 1: So my favorite thing of our wedding day was it's

824
00:39:04,680 --> 00:39:08,520
Speaker 1: funny because people told us there's this period of time

825
00:39:08,840 --> 00:39:12,200
Speaker 1: after everything's done, the ceremony and all that sort of thing,

826
00:39:12,239 --> 00:39:14,960
Speaker 1: Like I was very nervous and after that's done and

827
00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 1: all the form form realities.

828
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:21,320
Speaker 2: Wow, I can't speak formal formal staff like speeches and everything.

829
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:24,520
Speaker 1: People told us to like stand up, just be used

830
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 1: to and like kind of go off and just kind

831
00:39:26,680 --> 00:39:27,719
Speaker 1: of watch everyone.

832
00:39:28,239 --> 00:39:29,719
Speaker 2: And I remember we did that and.

833
00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:32,719
Speaker 1: It was just so cool, like you're on such a

834
00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:35,279
Speaker 1: high after being married and everything went to plan for

835
00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:36,880
Speaker 1: us and it was just the best day and just

836
00:39:36,880 --> 00:39:37,920
Speaker 1: to see everyone.

837
00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:41,279
Speaker 3: Having so much families, friends, everyone was just we did

838
00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:43,759
Speaker 3: that when we were sitting at the table, like it

839
00:39:43,840 --> 00:39:44,160
Speaker 3: was just.

840
00:39:44,160 --> 00:39:46,840
Speaker 1: So beautiful and we really like that moment, Like I

841
00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:48,960
Speaker 1: would just remember that moment forever, like that was one

842
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:51,120
Speaker 1: of my favorite parts. And then also doing our vows

843
00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:54,239
Speaker 1: because I felt like our vows are really cute.

844
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:55,080
Speaker 3: Yea so special.

845
00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:57,560
Speaker 2: What about you? What was your favorite part of our

846
00:39:57,600 --> 00:39:58,120
Speaker 2: wedding day?

847
00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:02,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely favorite part was just yeah, definitely saying our

848
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:06,640
Speaker 3: vows and just watching you walk down the aisle. Definitely

849
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:10,600
Speaker 3: brought a tea and whatever. Yeah, a little bit, a

850
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:14,839
Speaker 3: little bit, you know what I mean. You know, it's

851
00:40:14,840 --> 00:40:17,120
Speaker 3: more the song. You know, like obviously when we when

852
00:40:17,120 --> 00:40:18,960
Speaker 3: we picked the song to walk down the aisle, Yeah,

853
00:40:19,200 --> 00:40:21,920
Speaker 3: like it's really emotional song. It's like as soon as

854
00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:24,280
Speaker 3: I hear that song, it's just like the.

855
00:40:24,080 --> 00:40:26,240
Speaker 2: Song is Adore You by Amy Shark.

856
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:28,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it was this really nice acoustic version.

857
00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:31,960
Speaker 1: I was singing in acoustic versions, and yeah, it was

858
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:33,480
Speaker 1: beautiful one hundred percent.

859
00:40:33,560 --> 00:40:34,279
Speaker 2: I was like that too.

860
00:40:34,320 --> 00:40:37,440
Speaker 1: Actually, just before I started walking out, I had like

861
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:41,879
Speaker 1: a like I was like and then like crying with dad,

862
00:40:41,920 --> 00:40:43,799
Speaker 1: and then I was like pulled myself together and.

863
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:45,000
Speaker 2: Then I was I saw you.

864
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:47,880
Speaker 3: I was so nervous, but honestly in all honestly, like

865
00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:49,600
Speaker 3: I said this to all the boys that I'm married

866
00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:52,000
Speaker 3: after us, like all my mates, you know, I said,

867
00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:56,520
Speaker 3: like the most nervous part of it is you, you

868
00:40:56,560 --> 00:41:00,000
Speaker 3: know you walking yeahs like standing there and there's watching

869
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,400
Speaker 3: you walk down the aisle, and as soon as you

870
00:41:02,440 --> 00:41:05,399
Speaker 3: walk down the aisles like held my hands. I was like, good,

871
00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:08,360
Speaker 3: I'm sweet. But thought that was literally the pinnacle almost

872
00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:11,080
Speaker 3: like the pinnacle of my life. The most nervous part. Yeah,

873
00:41:11,120 --> 00:41:12,680
Speaker 3: well today you know yeah one.

874
00:41:13,360 --> 00:41:16,799
Speaker 1: And for me too, like it actually started raining just

875
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:19,560
Speaker 1: as we were like saying like our vows and everything,

876
00:41:19,719 --> 00:41:21,400
Speaker 1: and it just kind of like a shower because.

877
00:41:21,400 --> 00:41:22,719
Speaker 3: It was like a little sun show, a.

878
00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:26,400
Speaker 1: Little sunshower and then as soon as we stopped and

879
00:41:26,440 --> 00:41:28,160
Speaker 1: like went to get photos, it stopped raining.

880
00:41:28,239 --> 00:41:29,520
Speaker 2: It was actually perfect.

881
00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:32,399
Speaker 1: And then I also relaxed a lot too, Like after

882
00:41:32,440 --> 00:41:34,359
Speaker 1: we finished and we got all our photos, like the

883
00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:37,360
Speaker 1: ceremony was over, which was nerve rackering, nerve racking, and

884
00:41:37,360 --> 00:41:40,120
Speaker 1: then we got our photos and they were beautiful, and

885
00:41:40,160 --> 00:41:43,160
Speaker 1: then I just was like, and then I remember it

886
00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 1: like rained too while we're inside, So it was just

887
00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:48,240
Speaker 1: like the timing was so perfect.

888
00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:51,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, because we went off and got photosn't we the

889
00:41:51,520 --> 00:41:51,919
Speaker 3: one tree?

890
00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:52,480
Speaker 2: Yeah?

891
00:41:53,000 --> 00:41:55,879
Speaker 1: But then I guess advice my biggest advice, and this

892
00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:59,279
Speaker 1: is because I am such a control freak and I do.

893
00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:01,959
Speaker 2: I am someone who suffers with anxiety, and.

894
00:42:02,080 --> 00:42:04,440
Speaker 1: So the biggest thing for me was I just had

895
00:42:04,480 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 1: to kind of let go on the day and just

896
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:08,520
Speaker 1: go whatever happens, happens.

897
00:42:08,719 --> 00:42:10,759
Speaker 2: I'm not going to let it affect me.

898
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:13,319
Speaker 1: Because we had been to a couple of weddings where

899
00:42:13,680 --> 00:42:16,520
Speaker 1: you could kind of tell, you know, they were quite

900
00:42:16,560 --> 00:42:19,000
Speaker 1: affected by you know, if the weather was bad or

901
00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:23,880
Speaker 1: something like that, and I really wanted to just enjoy

902
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:27,239
Speaker 1: the day and just you know, if something you know,

903
00:42:27,280 --> 00:42:30,600
Speaker 1: how you hear about a horror stories, if someone forgets

904
00:42:30,880 --> 00:42:35,000
Speaker 1: the ring or like something like goes wrong. I just thought, look,

905
00:42:35,120 --> 00:42:37,960
Speaker 1: if something like that happens, it's all okay, as long

906
00:42:37,960 --> 00:42:39,920
Speaker 1: as I get to marry Tim, like I'm fine.

907
00:42:39,920 --> 00:42:43,520
Speaker 2: Like I really had to might like be in that mindset.

908
00:42:43,920 --> 00:42:46,600
Speaker 1: So I didn't like flip out when it started raining

909
00:42:46,760 --> 00:42:49,640
Speaker 1: or anything like that, because I didn't like it started raining,

910
00:42:49,640 --> 00:42:51,880
Speaker 1: and I just thought, like, whatever happens, I we'll take

911
00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:52,640
Speaker 1: photos inside.

912
00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:53,759
Speaker 2: Like it didn't bother me.

913
00:42:54,520 --> 00:42:58,200
Speaker 1: Whereas I think I definitely have the personality that I

914
00:42:58,239 --> 00:43:01,400
Speaker 1: didn't if I didn't prepare my mindset it would have.

915
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:05,359
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, and also yeah, sorry, just try and get

916
00:43:05,400 --> 00:43:08,680
Speaker 3: around to everyone, especially because you know, try and talk

917
00:43:08,680 --> 00:43:10,719
Speaker 3: to the whole everyone that's there.

918
00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:14,000
Speaker 1: And yeah, obviously say thank you, say hello to everyone

919
00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:14,200
Speaker 1: all that.

920
00:43:14,280 --> 00:43:16,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, because we, like I found that it was literally

921
00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:20,239
Speaker 3: we went so quickly, like from from our reception when

922
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:22,759
Speaker 3: we sat down to like the end, I was just

923
00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:24,759
Speaker 3: it was all not like a blurb, but you know,

924
00:43:24,800 --> 00:43:25,760
Speaker 3: it just went so quickly.

925
00:43:26,520 --> 00:43:31,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, okay, cool, Well so we're on the last question.

926
00:43:31,840 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 1: We can just have like a bit of a chat

927
00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:36,320
Speaker 1: about this one, and it's just what are our three

928
00:43:36,480 --> 00:43:41,080
Speaker 1: tips for a long lasting, happy relationship and obviously, like

929
00:43:41,600 --> 00:43:44,440
Speaker 1: we know xbergs, we can only we've won in together.

930
00:43:44,239 --> 00:43:49,400
Speaker 2: For eight years, but I've got mine and mine my long.

931
00:43:51,680 --> 00:43:52,359
Speaker 3: I mean him.

932
00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:54,799
Speaker 1: We're talking about it, and it's like because we met

933
00:43:54,800 --> 00:43:57,640
Speaker 1: when were seven, like when I was seventeen. Before that,

934
00:43:57,680 --> 00:44:01,960
Speaker 1: I was a teenager, Like I don't remember any adult obviously,

935
00:44:02,239 --> 00:44:04,960
Speaker 1: like I didn't basically have an adult life before Tim.

936
00:44:05,040 --> 00:44:08,520
Speaker 1: So he just feels like it feels longer than eight years.

937
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:10,640
Speaker 3: It does feel longer than eight years, like you're just.

938
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:14,280
Speaker 2: My whole life and I just long ass years.

939
00:44:13,680 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 3: We've had literally done so much in eight years, though,

940
00:44:16,880 --> 00:44:17,799
Speaker 3: I'm so proud of us.

941
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:20,720
Speaker 1: Well, I think that's why it feels long, like getting

942
00:44:20,719 --> 00:44:22,960
Speaker 1: engaged and wedding and honey, we've.

943
00:44:22,840 --> 00:44:25,840
Speaker 3: Lived in four different houses.

944
00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:30,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, moved three times. Wait, way more like five times

945
00:44:31,440 --> 00:44:33,520
Speaker 1: because Tim started living with me and my parents too

946
00:44:33,520 --> 00:44:37,799
Speaker 1: when I was younger. Anyway, we won't get back into that. Yeah,

947
00:44:37,920 --> 00:44:41,000
Speaker 1: definitely feels longer than eight years. But so three tips

948
00:44:41,040 --> 00:44:43,320
Speaker 1: for happy long relationship. Me and Tim did have a

949
00:44:43,320 --> 00:44:46,759
Speaker 1: little chat about this before were agreed on this, So

950
00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:50,080
Speaker 1: I think one of my big ones is, like, you

951
00:44:50,280 --> 00:44:54,760
Speaker 1: have to understand what is important to the other person

952
00:44:55,400 --> 00:44:59,319
Speaker 1: and compromising. So for instance, I know golf is very

953
00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:02,919
Speaker 1: important to him, so I will tell him, look plan

954
00:45:03,040 --> 00:45:06,319
Speaker 1: something with me, slot me in in your schedule, and

955
00:45:06,360 --> 00:45:09,040
Speaker 1: then the other part of the weekend go with and

956
00:45:09,080 --> 00:45:10,960
Speaker 1: play golf. And I'm so happy to do that because I.

957
00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:12,719
Speaker 3: Usually work, You'll be working on.

958
00:45:12,680 --> 00:45:15,279
Speaker 2: A Yeah, so I know that's important to him.

959
00:45:15,320 --> 00:45:17,719
Speaker 1: So it'd never be like it gets to Sunday and

960
00:45:17,800 --> 00:45:20,040
Speaker 1: him have golf and ME go, oh, well, I thought

961
00:45:20,040 --> 00:45:21,600
Speaker 1: you're going to spend the day with me or.

962
00:45:21,560 --> 00:45:22,160
Speaker 2: Something like that.

963
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:24,279
Speaker 1: I always kind of know it's all planned and so

964
00:45:24,320 --> 00:45:27,360
Speaker 1: then he can schedule in his thing and we're both happy,

965
00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:30,520
Speaker 1: and then I think like something with compromising, Like I.

966
00:45:30,480 --> 00:45:32,360
Speaker 2: Know the guys this is so like small.

967
00:45:32,600 --> 00:45:36,239
Speaker 1: But for instance, like on Friday night, like what take

968
00:45:36,280 --> 00:45:39,160
Speaker 1: hout we get is like I like to pick it.

969
00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:41,000
Speaker 3: I don't know, like it's pretty much what George wanes.

970
00:45:41,040 --> 00:45:43,120
Speaker 3: But like in saying that, in the past, like we

971
00:45:43,200 --> 00:45:48,560
Speaker 3: have we've been through Mamhouse stages like we went like, yeah,

972
00:45:48,880 --> 00:45:50,879
Speaker 3: we'd both be obsessed with the same food. Like there's

973
00:45:50,920 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 3: a stage we just could not stop getting Indian.

974
00:45:53,760 --> 00:45:55,760
Speaker 2: I know, but I'm I'm more talking about.

975
00:45:55,560 --> 00:45:58,960
Speaker 1: The fact of like I as in compromising, like like

976
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:02,000
Speaker 1: if he wants CA see on a Wednesday afternoon at

977
00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:03,480
Speaker 1: three pm, he'll just go get it.

978
00:46:03,480 --> 00:46:05,839
Speaker 2: It's not a big deal. Was me, Like, I don't

979
00:46:05,840 --> 00:46:06,640
Speaker 2: do that sort of thing.

980
00:46:06,719 --> 00:46:10,880
Speaker 1: So when we have takeout, like it's quite like special

981
00:46:10,960 --> 00:46:14,399
Speaker 1: you will allow me to get whatever I want because

982
00:46:14,400 --> 00:46:15,600
Speaker 1: he knows it's important to me.

983
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:16,640
Speaker 2: Do you get what I mean?

984
00:46:16,719 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I will eat anything, So I'm happy whatever

985
00:46:21,040 --> 00:46:22,560
Speaker 3: you want to eat. It's long as I'm eating.

986
00:46:26,600 --> 00:46:29,879
Speaker 1: I think another big thing, too, is I've realized what

987
00:46:29,920 --> 00:46:34,080
Speaker 1: you focus on growth so over our relationship. I think

988
00:46:34,120 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 1: I've definitely and I think it's because I was younger too.

989
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:40,320
Speaker 1: I definitely got these mindsets where and you like, let's

990
00:46:40,320 --> 00:46:43,960
Speaker 1: be honest, everyone does it, like especially when I was younger,

991
00:46:44,520 --> 00:46:47,839
Speaker 1: where it was like, oh, I wish you know Tim

992
00:46:47,840 --> 00:46:50,480
Speaker 1: would do this or act like this, or what if

993
00:46:50,520 --> 00:46:52,560
Speaker 1: I had a boyfriend who did this? And this is

994
00:46:52,600 --> 00:46:56,960
Speaker 1: because we are surrounded by social media and media that

995
00:46:57,120 --> 00:47:02,400
Speaker 1: tells us how perfect you know every relationship is, and

996
00:47:02,480 --> 00:47:05,680
Speaker 1: so often it can always feel like the grass is greener.

997
00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:08,880
Speaker 1: But what I realize with you, Tim, and especially in

998
00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:11,839
Speaker 1: a long relationship is what you focus on growth. So

999
00:47:11,880 --> 00:47:14,920
Speaker 1: instead of sitting there wishing that you had done this

1000
00:47:14,960 --> 00:47:16,799
Speaker 1: for me or brought me this present, because my love

1001
00:47:16,880 --> 00:47:22,600
Speaker 1: language is gifts, spoil, don't I know it? So instead

1002
00:47:22,600 --> 00:47:26,360
Speaker 1: of doing that, I realize that it's more about focusing

1003
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:30,080
Speaker 1: on our relationship, not looking outside on what our friends

1004
00:47:30,120 --> 00:47:32,880
Speaker 1: are doing, on what social media are doing. It's looking

1005
00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:36,680
Speaker 1: inwards and saying, Okay, our relationship doesn't have to look

1006
00:47:36,760 --> 00:47:39,359
Speaker 1: like anyone else's, but what can we do to make

1007
00:47:39,440 --> 00:47:40,759
Speaker 1: this the best for us?

1008
00:47:41,200 --> 00:47:44,799
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, I agree with that one hundred percent, and.

1009
00:47:44,800 --> 00:47:47,719
Speaker 1: I think we've worked on that specifically, like the last

1010
00:47:47,760 --> 00:47:49,719
Speaker 1: two years, which has been really.

1011
00:47:49,480 --> 00:47:53,280
Speaker 3: Good, especially just like the no phone thing. That's another

1012
00:47:53,280 --> 00:47:55,960
Speaker 3: big thing too, because this day's just like I never

1013
00:47:56,160 --> 00:47:59,160
Speaker 3: I don't even know what Instagram was until I met you. Yeah,

1014
00:47:59,239 --> 00:48:01,120
Speaker 3: I only had face Book and I thought that was

1015
00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:02,160
Speaker 3: like the beg's knees.

1016
00:48:02,600 --> 00:48:04,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's been such a big change.

1017
00:48:04,600 --> 00:48:06,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, it just wasn't really, it wasn't in when I.

1018
00:48:06,680 --> 00:48:07,960
Speaker 2: Was hard to navigate it.

1019
00:48:08,640 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, well I didn't even have it like our first

1020
00:48:11,040 --> 00:48:13,680
Speaker 3: year been together, and then you're like, oh, this Instagram

1021
00:48:13,719 --> 00:48:15,920
Speaker 3: thing because you had, like what you had like maybe

1022
00:48:15,920 --> 00:48:18,799
Speaker 3: like fifteen hundred followers then and I was like, what

1023
00:48:18,840 --> 00:48:19,800
Speaker 3: the fuck is Instagram?

1024
00:48:19,920 --> 00:48:20,239
Speaker 2: And you.

1025
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:24,440
Speaker 3: Know what I mean, like it's just like another thing.

1026
00:48:24,600 --> 00:48:29,120
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah, So I think it's when also

1027
00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:31,440
Speaker 1: social media came in and it was like kind of

1028
00:48:31,440 --> 00:48:32,080
Speaker 1: this new thing.

1029
00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:34,800
Speaker 2: But now we're realizing what a time suck it is.

1030
00:48:35,280 --> 00:48:39,960
Speaker 1: Sutn't to be intentional with social media, make sure you're limited.

1031
00:48:39,640 --> 00:48:42,480
Speaker 3: And just realizing, like you actually it is addictive.

1032
00:48:42,719 --> 00:48:43,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, we know.

1033
00:48:43,520 --> 00:48:47,359
Speaker 1: This, Okay, moving on to the last kind of point

1034
00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:48,040
Speaker 1: I wanted to.

1035
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:51,279
Speaker 2: The third tip is really to be.

1036
00:48:51,560 --> 00:48:56,279
Speaker 1: Open and honest and prioritize communication. And I think this

1037
00:48:56,320 --> 00:48:58,680
Speaker 1: has I've been a big thing for us because.

1038
00:48:58,440 --> 00:48:59,799
Speaker 3: We've been a big thing for me as well.

1039
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:03,960
Speaker 1: Yes, when I met him, he like didn't speak and

1040
00:49:04,000 --> 00:49:06,000
Speaker 1: then you moved in with my family, who were like

1041
00:49:06,120 --> 00:49:08,760
Speaker 1: big chatters, and he was like, oh my.

1042
00:49:08,640 --> 00:49:10,959
Speaker 3: Gosh that I didn't speak. I just it was more

1043
00:49:11,160 --> 00:49:15,520
Speaker 3: like speaking on a deeper level than just a you know, hey,

1044
00:49:15,520 --> 00:49:17,239
Speaker 3: how a what do you do for a job? You know,

1045
00:49:17,480 --> 00:49:21,360
Speaker 3: surface level conversation. Because I never growing up, so I

1046
00:49:21,360 --> 00:49:24,720
Speaker 3: didn't really have those deep conversations or interaction with my parents.

1047
00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:27,080
Speaker 3: It was very surface level. So that's why I thought

1048
00:49:27,080 --> 00:49:28,719
Speaker 3: it was normal. But when I came into your family,

1049
00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:31,920
Speaker 3: it was just like everyone's like talking about I was like, holy.

1050
00:49:32,560 --> 00:49:35,240
Speaker 1: I think also, like, for example, growing up, we weren't

1051
00:49:35,239 --> 00:49:38,480
Speaker 1: allowed to eat dinner and watch TV. We had to

1052
00:49:38,480 --> 00:49:40,640
Speaker 1: sit at the table and like talked everyone. And because

1053
00:49:40,640 --> 00:49:42,759
Speaker 1: we had six people in our family, it was like

1054
00:49:42,760 --> 00:49:44,759
Speaker 1: this big thing. Whereas you said, he didn't really do

1055
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:45,680
Speaker 1: too much like that.

1056
00:49:45,840 --> 00:49:48,279
Speaker 3: Now we would literally sit there, eat dinner and watch

1057
00:49:48,320 --> 00:49:50,640
Speaker 3: TV and like we just wouldn't interact at all. But

1058
00:49:50,719 --> 00:49:53,120
Speaker 3: there was no interaction whatsoever. So I don't but I

1059
00:49:53,160 --> 00:49:54,600
Speaker 3: was like, this is this is normal?

1060
00:49:54,719 --> 00:49:55,000
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1061
00:49:55,160 --> 00:49:55,480
Speaker 3: Okay.

1062
00:49:55,640 --> 00:49:58,120
Speaker 1: I actually just think the other day how much you

1063
00:49:58,200 --> 00:50:01,120
Speaker 1: have grown since we met, in just in regard to

1064
00:50:01,120 --> 00:50:02,560
Speaker 1: your communication.

1065
00:50:02,680 --> 00:50:05,040
Speaker 3: Because I am quite not stubborn, but you know, growing

1066
00:50:05,120 --> 00:50:06,279
Speaker 3: up and then you sort of get to an age

1067
00:50:06,320 --> 00:50:07,759
Speaker 3: where you're like, oh, I think I know everything. I

1068
00:50:07,840 --> 00:50:10,080
Speaker 3: still not stuck in my ways, but and then there's

1069
00:50:10,120 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 3: this whole other thing and it's just like now I've

1070
00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:14,719
Speaker 3: go to learn this, but you know, is it right

1071
00:50:14,880 --> 00:50:16,960
Speaker 3: or was? You know, you're just trying to figure out

1072
00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:19,000
Speaker 3: what's right and what's wrong. But and it.

1073
00:50:18,960 --> 00:50:22,120
Speaker 1: Also to grow and to be different is hard. It's

1074
00:50:22,160 --> 00:50:24,960
Speaker 1: not like this easy progate process where you just change.

1075
00:50:25,000 --> 00:50:27,440
Speaker 1: You know your values and how you see life. So

1076
00:50:27,480 --> 00:50:29,640
Speaker 1: I can understand how at the start you were very

1077
00:50:30,640 --> 00:50:32,640
Speaker 1: stubborn with yeah, stubborn, But.

1078
00:50:32,640 --> 00:50:35,239
Speaker 3: Then I sort of realized that it's going to it's

1079
00:50:35,280 --> 00:50:37,920
Speaker 3: going to be almost in my favor for the future

1080
00:50:38,080 --> 00:50:40,640
Speaker 3: if I do learn, you know, how to speak on

1081
00:50:40,680 --> 00:50:42,839
Speaker 3: a deeper level. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

1082
00:50:42,880 --> 00:50:45,880
Speaker 1: And I think also, like I was saying, like, I

1083
00:50:45,920 --> 00:50:49,759
Speaker 1: started seeing a psychologist at the end of well last year,

1084
00:50:50,360 --> 00:50:52,960
Speaker 1: and I didn't realize that as much as I am

1085
00:50:53,040 --> 00:50:55,560
Speaker 1: someone who communicates, and like I come from a family,

1086
00:50:55,600 --> 00:51:00,160
Speaker 1: we do, but I often will hide and not to

1087
00:51:00,520 --> 00:51:02,440
Speaker 1: tell people how I'm feeling because I don't want to

1088
00:51:02,440 --> 00:51:05,719
Speaker 1: burden people. I don't want to put my you know,

1089
00:51:05,760 --> 00:51:08,240
Speaker 1: feelings on other people because I see it as a burden.

1090
00:51:08,880 --> 00:51:12,640
Speaker 1: And so a big thing seeing my psychologist was realizing

1091
00:51:12,719 --> 00:51:16,120
Speaker 1: that I tend to not tell Tim how I'm feeling,

1092
00:51:16,520 --> 00:51:18,560
Speaker 1: and then I'm just like, you know, annoyed because I

1093
00:51:18,560 --> 00:51:21,080
Speaker 1: don't feel understood by him or something like that. And

1094
00:51:21,120 --> 00:51:23,759
Speaker 1: I think a big turning point in our relationship was

1095
00:51:23,800 --> 00:51:26,759
Speaker 1: when I opened up a lot more to you last

1096
00:51:26,840 --> 00:51:29,880
Speaker 1: year because of seeing the psychologists and realizing that I

1097
00:51:29,920 --> 00:51:33,000
Speaker 1: could open up about my feelings and you weren't gonna,

1098
00:51:33,040 --> 00:51:35,920
Speaker 1: you know, put me down or anything like that. And

1099
00:51:35,920 --> 00:51:37,760
Speaker 1: then I feel like we definitely were a lot closer

1100
00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:43,880
Speaker 1: when I started doing that. Yeah, So definitely communication is key.

1101
00:51:44,239 --> 00:51:46,880
Speaker 1: And it's like even if your partner like they don't

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Speaker 1: like talking or anything like that. I remember I used

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Speaker 1: to think, oh, like it used to be annoy me

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Speaker 1: so much that you wouldn't put the effort in. But

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Speaker 1: people can really change and progress if you kind of

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Speaker 1: willing to help them and put the effort to do that,

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Speaker 1: like Tim was a lot of effort. All right, all right,

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Speaker 1: we've been talking for quite a long time, so we'll

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Speaker 1: wrap it up now. But I hope you like this

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Speaker 1: little Valentine's Day special, just a little insight into me

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Speaker 1: and Tim's relationship and our advice on various things.

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Speaker 2: But thank you so much for coming.

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Speaker 3: On the show to thank you for having me.

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Speaker 2: Did you enjoy it?

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Speaker 3: It was pretty fun, actually enjoy.

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Speaker 2: Chatting to the rn C fan.

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Speaker 1: Yes, Tim met so at our events in August last year.

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Speaker 1: Tim obviously came to all the events, and you'd see

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Speaker 1: him like out in the crowd chatting to all the

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Speaker 1: girls like loving it. So anytime you see me a chatty,

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Speaker 1: come up to us and say hello, so we love that.

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Speaker 2: Ye all right, see you guys.

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Speaker 1: And that's a wrap on another episode of the Rise

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Speaker 1: and Conker Podcast. I hope you got something valuable from it,

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Speaker 1: and I want to say a big thank you for

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Speaker 1: tuning in.

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Speaker 2: I really really do appreciate it.

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Speaker 1: If you're craving more than don't worry, I've got you sorted.

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Speaker 1: We have our very own Rise and Conquer Community Facebook

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Speaker 1: group where hundreds of like minded women joined to share

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Speaker 1: in on stories, ask advice, and everything in between. I'd

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Speaker 1: love for you to join us. Just search Rise and

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Speaker 1: Conquer Podcast Community or find the link in the show notes.

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Speaker 1: And if you loved listening as much as I loved

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Speaker 1: recording this episode, then please subscribe and leave a review.

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Speaker 2: It really helps us out.

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Speaker 1: And if you think of anyone who would benefit or

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Speaker 1: enjoy this episode, please share it with them. You can

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Speaker 1: also find more on Instagram at risinconcor dot podcast and

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Speaker 1: more from me your hosts at Georgie Stevenson. Once again, guys,

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Speaker 1: thank you so much for tuning in. This is a

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Speaker 1: totally independent podcast, so we really do appreciate every bit

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Speaker 1: of support. Hope you guys have an amazing day or

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Speaker 1: night whenever you're listening, and I'll talk to you soon.

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Speaker 1: And nobody can taybody can take something.

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Speaker 3: Starting on