WEBVTT - MINI: It's SO important to make sure your husbands and dads are getting checked for prostate cancer

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<v Speaker 1>Everyone, this is a really special one for me. So

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<v Speaker 1>if you're listening to the show a couple of weeks ago,

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<v Speaker 1>I shared that my stepdad, Neil, is currently going through

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<v Speaker 1>palliative care and that's because he was diagnosed with prostate cancer.

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<v Speaker 1>It has been it's been eight years now since he

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<v Speaker 1>was diagnosed, and it's been such a journey and we're

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<v Speaker 1>at the tail end of that. This is a discussion

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<v Speaker 1>we had on the show a couple of weeks back.

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<v Speaker 1>By the time we found out about it as a family,

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<v Speaker 1>it was already stage four prostate cancer.

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<v Speaker 2>And he's young, he's sixty five.

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<v Speaker 1>The reason why I wanted to talk about this is

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<v Speaker 1>because if us speaking about it and saying, like, speak

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<v Speaker 1>to your dad's about getting his prostate checked, speak to

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<v Speaker 1>your husband about it, if that saves one family from

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<v Speaker 1>going through what our family is going through, then this

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<v Speaker 1>conversation is worthwhile.

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<v Speaker 3>And it was so nice of you to share that, Laura,

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<v Speaker 3>because I imagine it's not easy, but it's such an

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<v Speaker 3>important message at the same time.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I mean for us, Like I didn't just want

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<v Speaker 1>to share this to update you on what's happening in

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<v Speaker 1>our household, like in our family tragedies. But the reason

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<v Speaker 1>why I wanted to talk about this is because very

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<v Speaker 1>often we don't speak about we don't speak about hard

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<v Speaker 1>topics with our dads, especially especially when it comes to

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<v Speaker 1>things about prostate cancer. I would put money on it

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<v Speaker 1>that very few people sitting in their cars or wherever

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<v Speaker 1>you're listening to this right now, have ever caught up

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<v Speaker 1>their dad and said, hey, dad, when did you last

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<v Speaker 1>have your PSA tested? When did you last have your

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<v Speaker 1>prostate checked? Because it's kind of awkward, it's weird, And

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<v Speaker 1>that has been the most important thing to me is

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<v Speaker 1>getting this message out that let's stop making it awkward.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's try and have these conversations with our dads, because

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<v Speaker 1>it could absolutely save their life and it would mean that,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, if it stops one family from being in

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<v Speaker 1>the situation that we currently are with my stepdad, then

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<v Speaker 1>it will have made all of the difference. And it

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<v Speaker 1>was really vulnerable to have that conversation on a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of weeks back. But we have received such an outpouring

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<v Speaker 1>from you guys, from so many listeners who said that

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<v Speaker 1>they went home that evening, they called their dads or

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<v Speaker 1>they sent them a text. And I'm so grateful to

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<v Speaker 1>everybody who has done that, and I hope that we

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<v Speaker 1>can keep spreading.

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<v Speaker 2>The words I did that.

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<v Speaker 4>I text my dad, text Mark CHERI, oh my dad,

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<v Speaker 4>have you done it?

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<v Speaker 2>And he was great.

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<v Speaker 4>He's like no, it's a blood test now, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 4>I don't think it is. And he went called his

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<v Speaker 4>doctor and he had another check up. Like all because

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<v Speaker 4>of the conversation.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, my dad was the same Big Tones was like, yes,

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<v Speaker 3>possum every two years, I've done it.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, wow, what are relief? A good dad,

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<v Speaker 2>you know. But also we had the full spectrum.

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<v Speaker 1>We had some people message in saying that asked their dads,

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<v Speaker 1>their dads had never been to go and get a

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<v Speaker 1>test done. We had some people who whose dads are

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<v Speaker 1>a bit like oh yeah, weird conversation, but you know,

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<v Speaker 1>thanks sweetheart, Thanks Dalin for the for thinking of me.

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<v Speaker 2>I just went a couple of weeks ago.

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<v Speaker 1>But one of those, one of those people, one of

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<v Speaker 1>those listeners who did have that conversation with their dad

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<v Speaker 1>was Maddie and she gave us a call.

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<v Speaker 2>Maddie, welcome to the pickup.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm ad, Hey you go, how are you going?

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<v Speaker 2>We're good?

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<v Speaker 4>So you had this conversation with your dad after hearing

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<v Speaker 4>Laws talking about her experience. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, So I heard Laws talking about it and I

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<v Speaker 5>was like, oh, I got to give that a call

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<v Speaker 5>off work. So gave me bars and was just like, hey,

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<v Speaker 5>heard this really is sad story on the radio, but

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<v Speaker 5>like just making sure you've had into checks and hey,

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know his typical man New sixties. And he

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<v Speaker 5>was like, oh, I do want to talk about that,

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<v Speaker 5>like you know, chip your nose out of it kind

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<v Speaker 5>of thing. And I was like come on, and my mum,

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<v Speaker 5>good old mom, piped up and she was like, well, actually,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm pretty sure you got that blood test form from

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<v Speaker 5>the doctor like two months ago, and I'm pretty sure

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<v Speaker 5>it's still sitting on the kitchen counter. And I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 5>that's like it's such a typical dad thing. And I

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<v Speaker 5>was like, well come on then, Dad, and I actually

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<v Speaker 5>had a like my own blood test. I didn't get

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<v Speaker 5>my eye in checks, nothing too exciting. And I was like,

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<v Speaker 5>come on tomorrow morning, I'm going to pick you up.

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<v Speaker 5>We'll go get our blood tests on together and then

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<v Speaker 5>we can go get grecky because they had to do

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<v Speaker 5>like a fasting one we.

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<v Speaker 2>Wort a date for blood test.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, it was actually really nice. Like what means the

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<v Speaker 5>blood test? B it's a blood test, but yeah, it

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<v Speaker 5>was good and it forced him to do it. He

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<v Speaker 5>got his results. They were all good, which is obviously

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<v Speaker 5>great needs but it's like, what good is it sitting

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<v Speaker 5>on the kitchen counter?

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<v Speaker 1>I know, And Maddie when you wrote that in like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so grateful for you sharing that, because I would

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<v Speaker 1>I dare say that there's so many men out there

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<v Speaker 1>who have received their reminder and like, you know, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just it's not going to be me, so it's

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<v Speaker 1>not that important. And then they put it, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>on the back burner and then weeks turn into months,

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<v Speaker 1>months turn into years, And that very much is the

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<v Speaker 1>situation with my stepdad. And I love that now it's

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<v Speaker 1>something that you're able to talk about with your dad

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<v Speaker 1>and it doesn't have to be a big deal.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just a blood test.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, But do you know what is another I feel

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<v Speaker 3>like there's another message in this.

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<v Speaker 2>And I don't even know if you.

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<v Speaker 3>Realized you just said it, but you said, hey, have

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<v Speaker 3>you had it done?

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<v Speaker 2>He was like, Oh, I'm not sure. Don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>talk about it, and then your mom still wasn't even

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<v Speaker 2>positive that that's what the blood test was.

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<v Speaker 3>She's like, oh, I think you have a referral for that.

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<v Speaker 3>Like the fact that it is just not front and

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<v Speaker 3>center on anyone's minds is something we also need to realize,

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<v Speaker 3>Like we need to be so proactive with our own health,

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<v Speaker 3>let alone, like you shouldn't have to look after someone else.

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<v Speaker 3>But the fact that your mom was like, oh, that's right,

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<v Speaker 3>Like I think that was something to do with prostate cancer.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and also, men not up to the women in

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<v Speaker 4>your life to remind you to get your blood test done.

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<v Speaker 4>Got to be an advocate for your own health. Go

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<v Speaker 4>get the test.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know what, statistically it's just not the case.

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<v Speaker 1>We know that most men avoid going to the doctors

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<v Speaker 1>and so and I really I cannot overstress this enough.

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<v Speaker 1>If you if you have a dad who you love,

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<v Speaker 1>if you've got a husband and they're in that age range, like,

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<v Speaker 1>please go home and have the conversation with them, because yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like I would hate for there to be another family

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<v Speaker 1>in the situation that we're in, and statistically they will

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<v Speaker 1>be and there are currently, So please speak to your dads,

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<v Speaker 1>Speak to your husbands speak to your uncles.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's make this a normal conversation.

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<v Speaker 4>Well you lost, We love to nail too,