Speaker 1: Listen, ladies. Last week on the show, Laura, you were
Speaker 1: telling us a story that has divided your household. Really,
Speaker 1: you've got a friend in your life that has had
Speaker 1: a baby, only if she is the baby's daddy is
Speaker 1: a backpacker. He had a one night stand and thought
Speaker 1: it was a good night of fun. But I know
Speaker 1: he got this girl pregnant. She has not told him. Mary.
Speaker 2: It's very scandalous, so she doesn't want to tell him.
Speaker 2: She's in her forties, he's in his twenties. But we've
Speaker 2: been having like lots of moral conversations in our household
Speaker 2: as to whether she has an obligation to tell him.
Speaker 1: Yeah, if you missed it, this is what happens.
Speaker 2: So the baby is now four months old.
Speaker 1: Now.
Speaker 2: The dad was a man who is in his very
Speaker 2: early twenties. He was in Australia as a backpacker. They're
Speaker 2: friends on Facebook and their friends on Instagram. But they
Speaker 2: had a one night stand while he was traveling through
Speaker 2: Sydney and he has no idea that he has fathered
Speaker 2: a baby.
Speaker 1: Now, the big.
Speaker 2: Moral question of this is is can she keep this
Speaker 2: a secret or does she morally have to tell him
Speaker 2: because at this rate, there's no way that this kid's
Speaker 2: ever going to find out who their father is.
Speaker 1: It's you're a real sticky moral conundrum, right.
Speaker 2: I just questioned, like, growing up this whole time not
Speaker 2: knowing who your dad is, but then maybe one day
Speaker 2: finding out that your mum always knew and she kept
Speaker 2: that secret from you.
Speaker 1: Well, listen, it sounds like something that's you hear in movies,
Speaker 1: you hear on the radio. We had a pickup listener.
Speaker 1: His name is Teddy. Teddy is a listener of the show.
Speaker 1: He sent us a DM last week when we put
Speaker 1: this to air, and Teddy's story truly left me with
Speaker 1: my draw on thefore Teddy, welcome to the show. Why
Speaker 1: don't you tell us your amazing story?
Speaker 3: Uh? Yeah, I was listening last week and I resonated
Speaker 3: with the story. I recently two months ago just met
Speaker 3: my biological father. Wow, and I'm thirty four, almost thirty five,
Speaker 3: and my mum chose not to tell my dad, Like
Speaker 3: I found out that she could have told him and
Speaker 3: she didn't, and she has now passed, so like I
Speaker 3: kind of answered that question. But yeah, Wow, it's been
Speaker 3: really good meeting.
Speaker 1: Him so quickly set the scene. So did you did
Speaker 1: you ever ask about your dad growing up to your mother?
Speaker 1: Did you say, I want to meet him? Do you
Speaker 1: know who he is?
Speaker 3: Well? Constantly, I was raised technically by my grandma, but
Speaker 3: my biological mum was in my life and I had
Speaker 3: asked and she just didn't give me an answer ever,
Speaker 3: like it was kind of just like I don't know,
Speaker 3: and so like that's kind of how I've lived with it,
Speaker 3: even like other members of my family were a bit
Speaker 3: weird about it.
Speaker 1: Teddy, how did you find out?
Speaker 3: Well, I did an ancestry dot com Yes, sponsor mem
Speaker 3: just kidding up they might now, But my mom, my
Speaker 3: mom was a bit of a bike around that at
Speaker 3: the time.
Speaker 1: She had a good time in her twenties.
Speaker 3: She had a few people at like around that time,
Speaker 3: but she always was stuck on my dad's name. And
Speaker 3: she had said that she was like, I think it's
Speaker 3: this guy. He's a cop, but I'm not sure. Literally
Speaker 3: all the information I had, and years later, maybe two
Speaker 3: years ago, I think I did an ancestry dot com
Speaker 3: thing and that last name was linked distantly and I
Speaker 3: was like, hmm, okay, this is something. And then that
Speaker 3: woman randomly messaged me and she actually also messaged my
Speaker 3: dad and then we I messaged him on Facebook because
Speaker 3: I just looked up his name, and then yeah, we
Speaker 3: slowly got connected, but it took a few months to wait.
Speaker 1: Wait, wait, okay, so your mom had mentioned a name
Speaker 1: in passing growing up. She's like, I could have been
Speaker 1: this guy. To be honest, I had a couple. So
Speaker 1: you find him on Facebook? And do you call him?
Speaker 1: Do you DM him? What's the first.
Speaker 3: I just sent him a message being like, hey, did
Speaker 3: you know like and then serided my mom's name there,
Speaker 3: and then he left me on red for a while,
Speaker 3: and then a few months went by and then I
Speaker 3: was like, oh, you would have known her in like
Speaker 3: nineteen eighty eight, and then he was like, oh, yes
Speaker 3: I did. And I just I must feel been feeling
Speaker 3: really brazy that day because I just replied being like, oh,
Speaker 3: I think kill my dad. And then he called me
Speaker 3: and then we spoke on the phone for a bit
Speaker 3: and then yeah.
Speaker 2: Can I ask what was it like when you met
Speaker 2: him for the first time, because you said you guys
Speaker 2: have a bit of a relationship.
Speaker 3: Now was well, it's insane because I grew up not
Speaker 3: looking like anyone in my family, so I always stood
Speaker 3: out like I've got brown eyes. They all had blue eyes,
Speaker 3: so I never fitted in. And then as soon as
Speaker 3: I saw him, I literally everyone who's seen a picture
Speaker 3: of us says like he looks like me with like
Speaker 3: the the age filter on snapshirt and like.
Speaker 1: It's just you have other kids.
Speaker 3: Yes, I have now got by blood. I now have
Speaker 3: two more brothers and a sister. But he's also married
Speaker 3: now and so and she also has two sons and
Speaker 3: a daughter, so whole new family.
Speaker 1: How do you think your mom would feel, teddy? Would
Speaker 1: your um be happy that you're connected? Do you think?
Speaker 3: Or? Yeah, I think she actually would, Like she was
Speaker 3: she doesn't want to just didn't really care much like like,
Speaker 3: but I think she would now be very happy with
Speaker 3: it seeing how it has turned out.
Speaker 1: I am.
Speaker 2: I mean, obviously this has all come up because there's
Speaker 2: someone in our life who's going through this and knowing
Speaker 2: that you've had such an incredibly positive experience, what would
Speaker 2: be your advice or what would you have to say
Speaker 2: around like this kind of decision making as to whether
Speaker 2: she should or shouldn't tell him about the fact that
Speaker 2: he's fathered this baby.
Speaker 3: Well, when it comes to my kids, I think you
Speaker 3: should always know get like, leave the option up to
Speaker 3: him at the end of the day, do you know
Speaker 3: what I mean. Make sure everyone's aware and then go
Speaker 3: from there. Yeah, in my opinion, because like he may
Speaker 3: not want or be able to like everyone's circumstance of
Speaker 3: the different Yeah, but like I just think he should know.
Speaker 1: Imagine getting a Facebook message in the middle.
Speaker 3: Seeing I've thought about it from his point of view,
Speaker 3: like so much, and I'm just being like, yeah, sorry
Speaker 3: about that, Teddy.
Speaker 1: So great to meet you. Thank you for messaging and
Speaker 1: coming on the happy Teddy. Yeah we really are anytime. Hey, guys,
Speaker 1: a little bit of a different take.
Speaker 2: After the break, I'm going to give you, guys a quiz,
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Speaker 1: Oh the quiz I've always been waiting for. You didn't
Speaker 1: know you needed it.