WEBVTT - Money Talks: Earning 95k isn’t enough… 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.160 I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:06.480 land on which this episode is being recorded, the Kombo 0:00:06.680 --> 0:00:10.520 Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present 0:00:10.600 --> 0:00:14.319 and emerging and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and 0:00:14.360 --> 0:00:22.720 Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, 0:00:22.840 --> 0:00:30.280 and this is the Rise and Conquer Podcast. This is 0:00:30.280 --> 0:00:33.840 the podcast where we chat mindset, self development and becoming 0:00:34.000 --> 0:00:37.199 your higher self. Mix soon with a lot of laughs, 0:00:37.280 --> 0:00:40.400 plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses 0:00:40.479 --> 0:00:43.839 and being among Think of us as the perfect combo 0:00:43.960 --> 0:00:47.519 of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No 0:00:47.600 --> 0:00:49.879 matter where you are in your journey, we're here to 0:00:49.960 --> 0:00:53.840 help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical 0:00:54.000 --> 0:00:58.520 self awareness. If you're ready to get into the driver's 0:00:58.520 --> 0:01:01.320 seat of your own life and stop letting life cast 0:01:01.400 --> 0:01:12.320 you by, then you're in the right place. Hello everybody, 0:01:12.360 --> 0:01:15.480 Happy Friday, and welcome back to the potty. Today we 0:01:15.520 --> 0:01:17.920 have a very fun hotline for you, and we are 0:01:18.000 --> 0:01:21.840 chatting about money. We had a question shared in the 0:01:21.840 --> 0:01:25.839 Facebook group from a listener who's struggling with abundance. She's 0:01:25.880 --> 0:01:29.160 currently earning ninety five K and she feels like it's 0:01:29.240 --> 0:01:32.840 not enough, especially when she compares it with what she 0:01:33.000 --> 0:01:36.600 sees on some influencers Instagram pages and what they earn. 0:01:36.760 --> 0:01:42.880 So we unpack this. We're a little bit brutal. So brutal, 0:01:42.920 --> 0:01:45.800 but brutal with love, you know, that's how we roll. 0:01:45.959 --> 0:01:50.120 So strap in we come from all angles to So yeah, 0:01:50.280 --> 0:01:53.880 a bit of an interesting episode. But before we get 0:01:53.880 --> 0:01:59.440 into that, guys, we officially launched our brand new course, 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:04.640 Find Your Voice, yesterday. So basically, this is a step 0:02:04.680 --> 0:02:08.880 by step guide course that shows you how to start 0:02:08.919 --> 0:02:13.000 and scale a podcast. So we get questions all the 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:16.559 time on how to start a podcast, how to prepare episodes, 0:02:16.639 --> 0:02:19.440 all the things you know, if you're a small business, 0:02:19.520 --> 0:02:22.280 if you have a personal brand, or even if you 0:02:22.440 --> 0:02:24.200 just want to do it for a bit of fun. 0:02:24.480 --> 0:02:27.840 We totally have your back. And for me, starting the 0:02:27.880 --> 0:02:32.000 podcast was one of the best things I ever did. 0:02:32.160 --> 0:02:36.280 And oh, I'm just I'm so grateful that I did. 0:02:36.040 --> 0:02:41.560 That, especially because you know, thank you, especially because you know, 0:02:41.600 --> 0:02:44.520 four years ago, like it wasn't a usual thing. 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:47.280 And that's also another thing is like people are like, oh, 0:02:47.320 --> 0:02:51.360 but isn't it saturated and I don't believe in saturation 0:02:51.600 --> 0:02:54.960 because I believe if like authentic to yourself, if you 0:02:55.000 --> 0:02:58.840 have a purpose and a mission and what you're creating, like, 0:02:59.000 --> 0:03:04.040 you can absolutely still use a podcast scale of podcast 0:03:04.200 --> 0:03:06.400 and it can be the best thing you ever do. 0:03:07.400 --> 0:03:09.600 I one hundred percent agree because even if you look 0:03:09.639 --> 0:03:13.079 at things like Instagram and TikTok, for example, you could 0:03:13.120 --> 0:03:16.560 have said in like twenty eighteen, isn't it saturated? But 0:03:16.639 --> 0:03:19.120 think about the amount of people that have like blown 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:22.680 up since then. Yes, and yeah, just don't limit yourself. 0:03:22.720 --> 0:03:23.639 It's a limiting belief. 0:03:23.720 --> 0:03:29.160 Yeah, and especially because you know, a podcast can be 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:34.080 something you literally just do for yourself as entertainment, or 0:03:34.120 --> 0:03:36.280 even something as like maybe you want to get better 0:03:36.320 --> 0:03:39.120 at public speaking, maybe you want to face that fear. 0:03:39.200 --> 0:03:42.640 It can be like a very personal thing, or maybe 0:03:42.640 --> 0:03:47.000 it's because you're craving a community. I actually have two 0:03:47.040 --> 0:03:51.880 best friends that started a podcast all about the difficulties 0:03:51.920 --> 0:03:55.720 with trying to conceive because they, you know, and this 0:03:55.800 --> 0:03:58.080 is the time when I was trying to conceive also, 0:03:58.640 --> 0:04:00.960 and we're all going through this thing and it was 0:04:01.040 --> 0:04:04.160 really isolating, and so they wanted to start a podcast. 0:04:04.160 --> 0:04:07.160 They're like, I you know, I want to first of 0:04:07.200 --> 0:04:10.880 all speak about how I'm currently feeling, because you know 0:04:11.040 --> 0:04:14.080 that will help others, but also bring people into my 0:04:14.200 --> 0:04:17.039 world where we're going through this and support each other. 0:04:17.480 --> 0:04:21.280 And they brought together such an amazing community that really 0:04:21.279 --> 0:04:24.359 like helped them through that time and it was just 0:04:24.440 --> 0:04:27.039 so powerful. And then of course you can use a 0:04:27.080 --> 0:04:30.479 podcast to scale your business, like you know, if you 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:34.159 think about the podcast in RNC a tear, we obviously 0:04:34.320 --> 0:04:37.280 use it to talk about our courses, which is a 0:04:37.400 --> 0:04:41.360 revenue avenue. We obviously chat about Naked Harvest, We chat 0:04:41.400 --> 0:04:44.919 about all the things. I just truly believe it's such 0:04:45.120 --> 0:04:50.440 an amazing channel to first of all put out long 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:56.400 form education and content that you know, people can listen 0:04:56.440 --> 0:04:59.440 to on their drive or as they're getting ready for work, 0:04:59.520 --> 0:05:01.960 and it's just so powerful, and it can just be 0:05:02.040 --> 0:05:04.760 such an amazing supporting channel for your you know, small 0:05:04.760 --> 0:05:09.000 business or and anything like that. So clearly I'm a 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:13.880 big podcast. So oh my god, we're so excited. That 0:05:14.080 --> 0:05:18.160 is going to be available to purchase next Tuesday, and 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:20.919 we do have like an early bird price for that. 0:05:21.200 --> 0:05:23.960 So if you if that sounds like something you want 0:05:24.000 --> 0:05:25.240 to do, you just want to have a bit more 0:05:25.360 --> 0:05:28.560 education around how to start and scale a podcast that 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:31.400 is going to be all available next Tuesday, obviously just 0:05:31.440 --> 0:05:34.880 for us on Instagram for all that week update. Oh 0:05:34.920 --> 0:05:37.400 my god, Tia, we had I'll worry both of it. 0:05:39.320 --> 0:05:43.960 Christ I honestly didn't expect how emotional this one was. 0:05:44.160 --> 0:05:44.440 Neither. 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:45.440 I cried. 0:05:45.839 --> 0:05:49.200 I cried, toue. I cried actually the morning before I 0:05:49.240 --> 0:05:50.960 got to the event, because I went for a walk 0:05:51.000 --> 0:05:53.120 and I just wanted to, like, you know, come up 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:55.359 with my intro speech and just really fill into it. 0:05:55.400 --> 0:05:57.840 And I was like watching the sunrise with my coffee 0:05:57.880 --> 0:06:03.200 cry just because of the thought of, like, oh my god, 0:06:03.320 --> 0:06:06.320 this is such a course that came from such obviously 0:06:06.320 --> 0:06:10.359 a passion project from me again craving a community of 0:06:10.560 --> 0:06:15.760 like minded moms, and just the testimonials and the people 0:06:15.800 --> 0:06:19.320 we met and the stories we heard, like full body 0:06:19.320 --> 0:06:20.640 shivers completely. 0:06:21.279 --> 0:06:24.520 I think I had like you spoke and I cried 0:06:24.640 --> 0:06:26.880 and Nikola did hit the breath work and I cried, 0:06:27.160 --> 0:06:29.960 and I heard what other people were saying in the 0:06:30.080 --> 0:06:33.400 journaling session, and I got so emotional because everyone was 0:06:33.480 --> 0:06:34.960 just so vulnerable. 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:40.120 So vulnerable and just so beautiful, and I think I 0:06:40.160 --> 0:06:43.359 was saying to I was saying to you guys of like, 0:06:43.880 --> 0:06:47.039 obviously we get the most amazing testimonials and dms and 0:06:47.080 --> 0:06:50.960 messages and they're so special and like I generally love them, 0:06:51.560 --> 0:06:54.960 but it's just a different experience when someone is saying 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:57.919 to your face, you have changed my life. You have 0:06:58.080 --> 0:07:01.039 changed my relationship with my husband, and I no longer 0:07:01.240 --> 0:07:06.039 like have resentment towards my baby, like really strong stuff 0:07:06.120 --> 0:07:10.040 that you're like, holy shit, yeah we did that, and 0:07:10.200 --> 0:07:12.960 it's like that for me. I just I don't know, 0:07:13.480 --> 0:07:17.440 it was amazing. My little soul's like I think I've 0:07:17.440 --> 0:07:20.200 been on a high ever since. Yeah, such a such 0:07:20.200 --> 0:07:22.200 a beautiful high, and it was just so amazing to 0:07:22.240 --> 0:07:24.559 meet some of you guys in person. It's like nothing 0:07:24.560 --> 0:07:26.840 I love more. But should we get into the episode. 0:07:26.560 --> 0:07:37.960 Yes, already we're here with a GEZ hotline and this 0:07:38.000 --> 0:07:45.200 one is juicy. So our question is, hi, guys, this 0:07:45.240 --> 0:07:47.560 one was also shed in our Facebook community, so if 0:07:47.600 --> 0:07:49.960 you do like this, be sure to hop in there. 0:07:50.080 --> 0:07:51.920 We'll pop the link in show notes because we have 0:07:52.000 --> 0:07:55.600 chats like this all the time. But the question, I'm 0:07:55.640 --> 0:07:58.760 struggling a lot with my money mindset and feeling grateful 0:07:58.800 --> 0:08:02.200 for what I'm on. I'm on ninety five k before 0:08:02.320 --> 0:08:05.640 tax excluding super but these days that feels like it 0:08:05.680 --> 0:08:09.320 doesn't go a long way, especially when so many influences 0:08:09.360 --> 0:08:13.920 on Instagram are earning so much money. If you had 0:08:13.960 --> 0:08:16.800 told me one years ago I'd be on what I'm 0:08:17.000 --> 0:08:19.600 I am now, I wouldn't believe you. But now it 0:08:19.680 --> 0:08:23.880 feels so average, and being financially abundant is something I value. 0:08:24.200 --> 0:08:27.080 According to the ABS, the median salary in OZ is 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:31.200 now ninety three k combining all employee earnings from Lotus 0:08:31.280 --> 0:08:31.880 super High. 0:08:32.520 --> 0:08:36.120 I love this so much, mean too, Let's fucking unpack this. Yes, 0:08:36.360 --> 0:08:40.520 is so good. That's so interesting about the medium. 0:08:41.120 --> 0:08:44.400 Yeah, I think when you put it into perspective though, 0:08:44.480 --> 0:08:47.280 that includes like people who are earning hundreds of millions 0:08:47.320 --> 0:08:52.640 of dollars and billions of dollars, yeah, billions, and then 0:08:52.760 --> 0:08:56.240 scalium also to like your casual workers who were still 0:08:56.280 --> 0:08:59.160 in school maybe making twenty k me it came out. 0:08:59.040 --> 0:09:03.360 Yeah it was. I think it was about twelve. But 0:09:03.760 --> 0:09:08.280 great for me. Amazing. So okay, well, let's like, let's 0:09:08.320 --> 0:09:11.360 clearly talk about the energetics of this, because like we're 0:09:11.400 --> 0:09:14.920 clearly not financial advisors. Yeah, so we're talking clearly through 0:09:14.960 --> 0:09:17.160 a manifesting lens. Just a little. 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:21.960 Cavia disclaimer disclaimer that. Yeah, and before I get in trouble. 0:09:24.080 --> 0:09:28.880 So, I think the biggest thing here is really looking 0:09:29.080 --> 0:09:33.600 at I tolt like one hundred percent. You know, there's 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:38.800 a lot happening happening economically and that sort of thing. 0:09:40.360 --> 0:09:42.760 I don't know for me, ninety five thousand a year 0:09:43.120 --> 0:09:44.360 seems pretty fucking good. 0:09:44.360 --> 0:09:52.360 Though, Yes, I I think that's a lot of money. Well, 0:09:52.440 --> 0:09:53.280 I just. 0:09:53.360 --> 0:09:56.400 Think, I guess not from okay, I think from an 0:09:56.559 --> 0:09:59.720 energetic sense is like and I obviously I don't know 0:09:59.760 --> 0:10:03.760 this persons circumstances or anything like that, but it doesn't 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:07.160 even matter what that figure it is is. You can 0:10:07.240 --> 0:10:11.679 tell it's their feelings around how they're feeling, because she 0:10:11.720 --> 0:10:16.040 even says like I'm struggling like feeling grateful for what 0:10:16.280 --> 0:10:18.959 I have, So essentially like. 0:10:19.920 --> 0:10:21.800 This can happen at any number. 0:10:22.200 --> 0:10:27.840 Yeah, and if you struggle to feel abundant, it's really 0:10:27.880 --> 0:10:33.600 important to currently look at your relationship with money, your 0:10:33.640 --> 0:10:38.920 relationship with what you're spending money on, and just even 0:10:39.000 --> 0:10:43.560 like the energetics of you know, if I truly believe 0:10:43.640 --> 0:10:48.360 if you can't make this amount of money work, you're 0:10:48.360 --> 0:10:50.280 not going to be happy at any amount of money 0:10:50.720 --> 0:10:55.240 because it's not actually about the figure, it's your relationship 0:10:55.280 --> 0:10:55.920 to the money. 0:10:56.559 --> 0:10:59.600 And I think what you'll find is as soon as 0:10:59.600 --> 0:11:03.800 you start shifting into that feeling of abundance, you will 0:11:03.960 --> 0:11:09.120 attract Even if it's not physically a higher wage or 0:11:09.120 --> 0:11:12.880 a bonus, you will still get the things you want. Yeah, 0:11:12.920 --> 0:11:15.719 and you'll somehow get some crazy deal on it and 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:18.199 get it so much cheaper than what it normally is. 0:11:18.280 --> 0:11:21.160 If it's like say a very expensive car, it's like 0:11:21.320 --> 0:11:21.719 what you. 0:11:21.840 --> 0:11:26.760 Focus on expands. So this person is currently focusing on 0:11:26.800 --> 0:11:30.120 what they don't have. They have lack. They're earning this 0:11:30.120 --> 0:11:33.240 amount of money, but it's not enough. And even like her, 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:37.800 you know, comments about seeing influences have something she doesn't, 0:11:37.840 --> 0:11:41.880 she is so focused on lack and it's like, well, 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:44.679 of course, if you're focus on lack, nothing is ever 0:11:44.720 --> 0:11:45.400 going to be enough. 0:11:45.600 --> 0:11:46.320 Yeah. 0:11:46.320 --> 0:11:50.320 And so you know, even coming from the perspective of 0:11:51.600 --> 0:11:54.560 like a logical perspective of maybe you need to have 0:11:54.600 --> 0:11:58.679 a look about look at what you're currently spending money on. 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:02.920 And I use to do this thing personally when I 0:12:03.040 --> 0:12:07.199 was earning sixty k as a law clerk, and I 0:12:07.240 --> 0:12:09.160 actually think it was a bit less than that, and 0:12:09.360 --> 0:12:12.920 I used to kind of decide what was important to me. 0:12:13.640 --> 0:12:18.880 So personally eating out for like expensive dinners with Timothy 0:12:19.679 --> 0:12:22.000 was just never a big thing for me. It has 0:12:22.040 --> 0:12:25.120 definitely developed where I do love a good meal now 0:12:25.160 --> 0:12:29.240 as I've gotten older, But back then I didn't really 0:12:29.280 --> 0:12:32.040 like the taste of alcohol, didn't really get the whole 0:12:32.080 --> 0:12:36.800 expensive food thing, and I personally would ray rather me 0:12:36.840 --> 0:12:38.800 and Tim go get a syeballs and we sit on 0:12:38.840 --> 0:12:41.000 the beach and we have a date day, and like, 0:12:41.080 --> 0:12:44.720 those sorts of things meant something to me. So it's 0:12:44.800 --> 0:12:47.360 like I would then never go and spend money on 0:12:47.480 --> 0:12:50.960 an expensive dinner with girlfriends or Tim or you know 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:53.719 our combined budget going to that, because I was like, well, 0:12:53.760 --> 0:12:57.400 that just doesn't do anything for me. Whereas, for example, 0:12:57.960 --> 0:13:01.559 I remember I used to or still very im used 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:05.000 to be obviously very focused on my health. So for example, 0:13:05.200 --> 0:13:07.640 I remember I used to save so I can see 0:13:07.640 --> 0:13:11.679 a nature path because those sorts of things were important 0:13:11.679 --> 0:13:15.440 to me, and they made me feel abundant or they 0:13:15.480 --> 0:13:19.040 made me have the feeling of what I wanted, and 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:21.760 they were like, I remember I used to literally put 0:13:21.760 --> 0:13:25.680 money aside to go to you know, the wholesome grosser 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:28.600 and to buy organic and to the bulk sauce where 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:30.920 you like buy all the things in the bags. And 0:13:31.040 --> 0:13:35.160 that was something important to me. So I would plan 0:13:35.640 --> 0:13:40.760 and prioritize that and also deprioritize things like not go 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:43.960 out for fancy dinners, not buy design of things, because 0:13:44.000 --> 0:13:46.280 I was like, this is what is important to me. 0:13:46.800 --> 0:13:49.240 So with this person, it's like, could you even have 0:13:49.320 --> 0:13:51.040 a look at like what are you actually spending your 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:53.400 money on? Do you actually care about it or are 0:13:53.440 --> 0:13:56.720 you just doing it because you want to seem a 0:13:56.760 --> 0:13:59.360 certain way or you think you should like that thing 0:13:59.360 --> 0:14:02.520 but you actually don't. Because from the message, I'm just 0:14:02.559 --> 0:14:05.679 getting the vibes of like she's not actually fulfilled. Yeah, 0:14:05.720 --> 0:14:08.960 she needs to put it into something that is actually 0:14:09.000 --> 0:14:11.040 going to light her up and make her feel like 0:14:11.559 --> 0:14:13.040 I'm that feels good. 0:14:13.280 --> 0:14:16.240 Yeah, I think that's so important. And I think I'm 0:14:16.280 --> 0:14:20.800 similar where food isn't really something that lights me up. 0:14:21.040 --> 0:14:23.440 Like I'm happy to go here and there for someone's 0:14:23.480 --> 0:14:26.040 birthday or for like a special occasion, but It's definitely 0:14:26.040 --> 0:14:28.440 not something I want to be doing weekly because if 0:14:28.440 --> 0:14:30.800 you think about it, I mean, I don't necessarily drink, 0:14:30.960 --> 0:14:34.080 but that's like if you're going to a nice restaurant 0:14:34.120 --> 0:14:36.720 sixty to one hundred dollars every weekend, I. 0:14:36.760 --> 0:14:39.160 Would see I think I'd say more than that at yeah. 0:14:39.080 --> 0:14:42.160 Potentially, Yeah, I would much rather put that sixty to 0:14:42.200 --> 0:14:46.360 one hundred dollars a week either into paying my health 0:14:46.360 --> 0:14:48.840 and fitness coach because that makes me feel really good 0:14:48.840 --> 0:14:51.520 that I have that and I have that accountability, or 0:14:51.560 --> 0:14:54.240 putting that literally into a jar so that on my 0:14:54.320 --> 0:14:57.560 birthday I can buy myself something designer love, which is 0:14:57.600 --> 0:14:59.720 actually something I've done this year. I've just put a 0:14:59.720 --> 0:15:02.480 little bit of money every week into a job, physical 0:15:02.600 --> 0:15:06.040 cash because it makes me feel like I'm saving. And 0:15:06.080 --> 0:15:08.240 then on my birthday I'll count how much I have 0:15:08.360 --> 0:15:10.640 and see like, ooh, what can I buy myself? And 0:15:10.680 --> 0:15:13.520 that makes me feel good. Yeah, And that's a priority 0:15:13.560 --> 0:15:15.960 of mine, and travel is a priority of mine. So 0:15:16.120 --> 0:15:18.560 I will have a certain amount of a week that 0:15:18.720 --> 0:15:21.040 will go into travel because it's something that fills up 0:15:21.040 --> 0:15:23.600 my cup and what I do with that, whether it's 0:15:24.160 --> 0:15:27.320 five weekends away or one holiday is up to me. 0:15:27.640 --> 0:15:30.120 Yeah. I remember when I was at UNI. When I 0:15:30.160 --> 0:15:32.240 was you know, literally I think I used to earn 0:15:32.280 --> 0:15:34.640 like maybe three hundred bucks a week and I was 0:15:34.680 --> 0:15:36.800 living out of home, so I really had to make 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:41.080 that stretch. Yeah, and so I would never eat out. 0:15:41.200 --> 0:15:43.680 I would take all my lunches to UNI. I would 0:15:43.960 --> 0:15:46.600 never eat anything out because it was just too expensive 0:15:46.600 --> 0:15:48.800 for me. Yeah, I would never buy a coffee. I 0:15:48.800 --> 0:15:52.000 would never buy food. But to me, it didn't feel 0:15:52.040 --> 0:15:54.520 like I was going without like I want that. I 0:15:54.640 --> 0:15:57.200 never focused on that because I was like, well, I 0:15:57.280 --> 0:16:00.200 want this money to obviously pay for rent and then 0:16:00.320 --> 0:16:02.240 to go out on the weekend. Yeah, because I was 0:16:02.240 --> 0:16:04.320 going through my eighteen stage I was at UNI. Yeah 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:06.640 you mean, and so I was happy to go without 0:16:06.720 --> 0:16:09.120 buying lunches every day at UNI because I was like, dude, 0:16:09.120 --> 0:16:11.640 that's fucking seventy bucks. I can spend the glob. 0:16:11.560 --> 0:16:14.440 Yeah on three drinks. 0:16:16.640 --> 0:16:21.560 Literally, yeah, let's I wasn't spending in the I was 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:26.080 like just entry, Look, you gotta do what you got 0:16:26.160 --> 0:16:28.920 to do. But that's what I mean is like I 0:16:29.000 --> 0:16:33.120 remember very specific moments in my life where I've gone, Okay, 0:16:33.640 --> 0:16:36.040 this is what I want, So I need to sacrifice 0:16:36.200 --> 0:16:39.560 this and that's fine because you know, I don't care 0:16:39.560 --> 0:16:41.640 and it makes me healthier to not, you know, buy 0:16:42.040 --> 0:16:45.440 Uni lunches every single day. Yeah, and I one hundred 0:16:45.480 --> 0:16:50.760 percent like agree. It can feel like this, oh I'm 0:16:50.800 --> 0:16:54.320 going without, but again, it's what you make of it. 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:55.040 Yeah. 0:16:55.080 --> 0:16:58.840 And also I just feel like these days you can 0:16:58.840 --> 0:17:01.920 find like dupes for everythink like literally, if you want 0:17:01.960 --> 0:17:05.479 something designer, you can find something that I'm not talking 0:17:05.520 --> 0:17:08.760 like full like ripoffs. I'm talking like, oh, I'm kind 0:17:08.760 --> 0:17:11.320 of liking a bag like this, and there's a similar 0:17:11.359 --> 0:17:14.840 one and the iconic or you know, you don't have 0:17:14.920 --> 0:17:16.360 to get the most expensive thing. 0:17:16.480 --> 0:17:19.800 Sometimes I find dupes and then realize they are dupes. 0:17:20.280 --> 0:17:23.479 I didn't realize they had like technically copied something. 0:17:24.480 --> 0:17:27.040 Oh my god, I literally did that with my current 0:17:27.119 --> 0:17:30.439 ballet flats. They look like the Chanel and it went's like, 0:17:30.440 --> 0:17:31.960 oh my god, if you got the Sheell ballet flat, 0:17:32.119 --> 0:17:33.000 I'm like what. 0:17:34.640 --> 0:17:34.840 Now. 0:17:34.920 --> 0:17:37.400 Yeah, I'm like, oh my god, I love the shell flat. 0:17:38.160 --> 0:17:38.800 But mine were like. 0:17:38.800 --> 0:17:41.239 One hundred and twenty bucks and so like thousands, so 0:17:41.640 --> 0:17:42.000 yeah me. 0:17:42.600 --> 0:17:45.879 But yeah, and it's like like I think having and 0:17:45.880 --> 0:17:50.000 That's also another thing is I remember being on sixty 0:17:50.080 --> 0:17:52.480 K when I was a law clerk, and there were 0:17:52.520 --> 0:17:57.560 friends around me who were like I had friends who. 0:17:57.760 --> 0:18:00.399 They got a job straight after school, so by the 0:18:00.440 --> 0:18:02.640 time I got a job, they were like four years 0:18:02.680 --> 0:18:05.119 into their career. Yeah, so they were on like, you know, 0:18:05.240 --> 0:18:08.240 I think around eighty K. And so I had friends 0:18:08.720 --> 0:18:12.520 buying designer things and living that lifestyle and going out 0:18:12.520 --> 0:18:17.440 to dinners. And I remember thinking, that's really great for them. 0:18:17.960 --> 0:18:21.320 I'm just not at that stage. And so like, for example, 0:18:21.400 --> 0:18:24.639 I never ever bought anything designer because I was just 0:18:24.720 --> 0:18:27.240 like that stupidest thing ever, Like I can't afford it, 0:18:27.680 --> 0:18:29.760 and it was just such a logical thing to me. 0:18:30.359 --> 0:18:33.480 But I just wasn't worried because I'm like, it's all cool. 0:18:33.560 --> 0:18:36.400 I was very happy to live within my means and 0:18:36.520 --> 0:18:40.639 not look around and get I guess like focus on 0:18:40.680 --> 0:18:43.119 the scarcity. I really looked within and I was like, 0:18:43.600 --> 0:18:46.600 how cool I really have everything I need because you know, 0:18:46.920 --> 0:18:49.399 on that wage, me and Tim bought our first house together. 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:51.160 It was very cheap. It was like a little townhouse 0:18:51.880 --> 0:19:00.320 before everything. No, No, I worked through that. You know, 0:19:00.440 --> 0:19:02.439 I've lived out at home since I was nineteen, so 0:19:02.600 --> 0:19:04.919 very much paid my own way. I always, you know, 0:19:04.960 --> 0:19:08.520 had my gym membership, I got to have my groceries 0:19:08.560 --> 0:19:11.160 I wanted. I saw, like you know, my natural path 0:19:11.359 --> 0:19:14.240 or like my acupunctress like that stuff was always really 0:19:14.320 --> 0:19:16.320 important to me, and I always made sure I had 0:19:16.560 --> 0:19:19.760 budget for that because that was my prioriti And I 0:19:19.800 --> 0:19:23.400 think also just talking about the common about you see 0:19:23.480 --> 0:19:28.280 influencers earning all this money, I guarantee they're probably not 0:19:28.359 --> 0:19:32.399 earning what you think, like maybe some of them are, 0:19:32.480 --> 0:19:35.080 like I don't know, yeah, but I guess from personal 0:19:35.119 --> 0:19:41.520 experience in the industry. I just think sometimes, like anything, 0:19:42.160 --> 0:19:45.680 it can look like they're living a certain lifestyle or 0:19:45.720 --> 0:19:49.600 they have certain you know, income, but also you don't 0:19:49.760 --> 0:19:52.600 know if for example, I'm just gonna give you some day, 0:19:54.520 --> 0:19:58.120 I'm not gonna say names, I'm gonna defeat this up. 0:19:58.520 --> 0:20:02.080 For example, I just knew from the Grapevine really early 0:20:02.119 --> 0:20:06.800 back in the day, a certain influencer YouTuber who you know, 0:20:07.000 --> 0:20:12.399 they'd earn three thousand dollars from an advertisement or a 0:20:12.440 --> 0:20:15.439 sponsor or whatever, and they would go straight to like 0:20:15.520 --> 0:20:18.640 Luis Vaton and go and spend that the whole thing yeah, 0:20:18.680 --> 0:20:21.560 the whole thing. Go get a Cardia ring, you know whatever. 0:20:22.119 --> 0:20:26.640 And it's funny because I had just kind of entered 0:20:26.640 --> 0:20:29.600 that world and I was getting nowhere near and that 0:20:29.720 --> 0:20:33.040 realm of money. But I was getting, you know, payments 0:20:33.080 --> 0:20:36.639 from sponsors, and I remember I was saving for a house. 0:20:36.800 --> 0:20:39.800 Yeah do you mean so what you see is like 0:20:40.280 --> 0:20:42.200 I wasn't earning the same amount, but it's like I'm 0:20:42.200 --> 0:20:44.760 in the same industry. I'm just doing different things to 0:20:44.800 --> 0:20:48.679 my funds and living a different lifestyle, whereas this person 0:20:48.800 --> 0:20:52.080 was going straight away buying designer going out, and so 0:20:52.119 --> 0:20:56.199 they looked like they had a certain lifestyle, but they didn't. 0:20:56.680 --> 0:21:01.400 Well it would just be more when that would end, 0:21:01.960 --> 0:21:04.399 like what would they do, So they're not going to 0:21:04.480 --> 0:21:06.720 have anything. They might just have a lot of designer 0:21:06.760 --> 0:21:09.000 handbags or And this's the thing, is like that is 0:21:09.040 --> 0:21:12.719 no judgment. I really believe do whatever you want, that's fine, 0:21:13.240 --> 0:21:17.880 but just don't be looking around and thinking, oh my god, 0:21:17.920 --> 0:21:20.760 this person has more than me. They're earning all this money. 0:21:21.359 --> 0:21:24.760 And that's even something I remember growing up is there 0:21:24.880 --> 0:21:27.920 is a lot of this is like I'm kind of 0:21:27.920 --> 0:21:30.840 remembering like my eighteen stage and like, you know, when 0:21:30.840 --> 0:21:34.760 you just like knew older people. And I remember even 0:21:34.800 --> 0:21:37.800 having this conversation with someone and they were I think 0:21:37.840 --> 0:21:41.120 around thirty, but they were like going out every single weekend, 0:21:41.240 --> 0:21:43.560 blowing a lot of money on going out, and I 0:21:43.600 --> 0:21:45.800 remember thinking, like, what are you. 0:21:45.760 --> 0:21:46.639 Doing with your money? 0:21:46.720 --> 0:21:52.160 Like, yeah, what's happening right now? How do you have 0:21:52.240 --> 0:21:57.359 that money to spend? Yeah, what's happening? And so I think, truly, 0:21:57.440 --> 0:22:00.959 and I said this in another episode, but comparison is 0:22:01.040 --> 0:22:04.560 just it's distraction. Yeah, So that's the first thing, is 0:22:04.640 --> 0:22:09.320 like stop comparing yourself because you really don't know what 0:22:09.359 --> 0:22:13.359 that person lives or what they have had to sacrifice 0:22:13.440 --> 0:22:17.160 to have that design a thing or live that certain life. 0:22:17.440 --> 0:22:20.600 Or you know, you might be comparing yourself and you've 0:22:20.640 --> 0:22:24.040 got a house, you've got a car, you've got you know, 0:22:24.240 --> 0:22:26.640 a secure partner and all these things, and you might 0:22:26.680 --> 0:22:29.760 be comparing to yourself to someone who literally has no 0:22:29.880 --> 0:22:32.639 savings in the bank. Yeah, but they're living the life 0:22:32.680 --> 0:22:33.040 you want. 0:22:33.359 --> 0:22:38.080 And I think, especially with comparison to people who you 0:22:38.240 --> 0:22:42.600 don't know in real life, like only through social media, 0:22:43.440 --> 0:22:47.520 you are comparing your whole self to one part of 0:22:47.560 --> 0:22:51.640 a person and assuming that every other part of their 0:22:51.640 --> 0:22:55.680 life is to that standard that you see, yes, which 0:22:55.720 --> 0:22:56.720 it probably isn't. 0:22:57.000 --> 0:23:00.680 No, And there's that's the huge like integrity there. 0:23:00.800 --> 0:23:01.399