Speaker 1: Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex
Speaker 1: and Frooms catch up podcast.
Speaker 2: Hi, sweetie pies.
Speaker 1: Here's the thing.
Speaker 2: If you don't want to be stressed, these are the
Speaker 2: jobs for you.
Speaker 1: Look, I did the.
Speaker 2: Market research myself. Am I convinced with the answers. No,
Speaker 2: But information is information. You must do with it what
Speaker 2: you will learn to discern.
Speaker 1: And also, guys, finally, we need to actually define what
Speaker 1: negging is. Don't look at me on the way.
Speaker 2: I'm looking at free me for having sixteen blocks of
Speaker 2: chocolate in her mat as she's trying the salivarries building.
Speaker 1: She's trying to talk like it's not in there. I
Speaker 1: see it, not Cabri.
Speaker 2: Guys's lively getting caught in the HAIs.
Speaker 1: Stop it. It's so mean.
Speaker 2: Anyway, I have the best weekend in the whole wide world.
Speaker 2: We're I was gonna talk about negging. We've just really
Speaker 2: understood what it is.
Speaker 1: Today and we've just seen it right now. Anyway, love
Speaker 1: your guys so much. Let's go to the body mummy.
Speaker 2: Can I listen to Flex and Rooms Flex and Frooms?
Speaker 1: Okata. I haven't used up chat in a little honey
Speaker 1: a while. I will be honest. I do most of
Speaker 1: my telecommunications over Instagram and imssage. However, a report has
Speaker 1: just come out courtesy of Snapchat for Australia's top nicknames.
Speaker 1: This is what we call our friends, our beloveds our betrothed,
Speaker 1: and these are the top national findings. This blew me away.
Speaker 1: The top nicknames in this country are baby, that's fair enough, yeah, fair,
Speaker 1: honey cool? Okay, yeah, I hear han not honey.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well let's just assume baby, babe's honey hun.
Speaker 1: We can do that. Cutie ah hey, kuty. I thought.
Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, oh, this is like okay.
Speaker 1: It's a list and Babe. But the final one, which.
Speaker 2: I need to know, I don't understand Digger.
Speaker 1: Mikayla. What's going on? So Mikayla brought me this story
Speaker 1: and I'm like, Snapchat just threw this in to beget
Speaker 1: in the news.
Speaker 2: I see this as young people.
Speaker 1: What is digger? Let me let me google.
Speaker 2: It sounds Australian for sure?
Speaker 1: What does the nickname?
Speaker 2: While you're doing that, let's go through the rest of
Speaker 2: the findings of Ozzie's believed nicknames are a unique part
Speaker 2: of being Australian, and I do agree for me.
Speaker 1: Would you say, okay? Digger is a military slang term
Speaker 1: for infantry soldiers from Australia New Zealand. So they've just
Speaker 1: thrown that in. I've never heard anyone preferred to anyone
Speaker 1: as a digger, and yet here are the men playing
Speaker 1: on Snapchat.
Speaker 2: Forty three percent of Ozzie you say that others tend
Speaker 2: to know them by their nickname over their real name,
Speaker 2: like mummy firms Yeah huge, nearly one intent Ouzsie is
Speaker 2: a sporting a rude nickname, and what is rude? Percent
Speaker 2: of Australians go by a nickname around their family and
Speaker 2: sixty percent around their friends.
Speaker 1: The more surprising nicknames they found their way into. The
Speaker 1: most popular included sausage makes sense. My mum calls me sausage.
Speaker 1: Oh bear, oh baby bear LGBTQI representation. We called bum sweetie.
Speaker 2: I like sweety shorty shorty.
Speaker 1: Also he spelt like shorty, like short little bit of
Speaker 1: why hello shorty, I mean surely short king makes on
Speaker 1: the list.
Speaker 2: Yeah say shorty. That's one of the things I really
Speaker 2: like about Australian culture. We can say a lot of
Speaker 2: harrowing things about what happens here, but nickname culture. I
Speaker 2: just feel so strongly about love does wonders for an interaction.
Speaker 2: There are some people who've never had a name before,
Speaker 2: and that hurts me to my core.
Speaker 1: Hurts me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, a little name shortening, a little shared Please it
Speaker 2: is that to you?
Speaker 1: Where can I? Guys of line with flex and Frooms on.
Speaker 2: Kada, got a big question for you. If you have
Speaker 2: any thoughts or you disagree with anything we're about to say,
Speaker 2: we welcome it to our Instagram DM, Flex and Frooms,
Speaker 2: please respond with context. When you talked about this, I
Speaker 2: felt this, and then we might acknowledge it.
Speaker 1: We might not.
Speaker 2: But it's all fun and games here, isn't it?
Speaker 1: Question?
Speaker 2: Can nagging be playful or is it always a toxic exchange? No, idiot,
Speaker 2: I've got the definition. Just that we're on the same page.
Speaker 2: It's an insult or to undermine someone in the belief
Speaker 2: that diminished self confidence will make them.
Speaker 1: More receptive to sexual advances.
Speaker 2: I had no idea. I had no idea. I thought
Speaker 2: begging was banter, that just didn't land, that had a
Speaker 2: mean undertone. Okay, in my head, I assumed negging was
Speaker 2: insult masked as joke.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that is that is a technique of negging, but
Speaker 1: it is not the true form of negging.
Speaker 2: And I think the true form is it has to
Speaker 2: be sexually oriented. To be assumed to be negging without
Speaker 2: the sexual orientation of it, I think it's just playful
Speaker 2: banter or bullying either or I'm fine.
Speaker 1: Are they interchangeable bullying? And they are.
Speaker 2: Depending on what your relationship status is. Okay, we have
Speaker 2: a listener, Tate, who dmd us and said I would
Speaker 2: love your wise and wonderful opinions on insulting bullying as
Speaker 2: a form of flirting. I met a guy the other
Speaker 2: day at a mutual friend's birthday, and the way he
Speaker 2: flirted was by saying that quote your Instagram could be improved.
Speaker 1: Jesus Christ, I would have a conniption, would simply perish
Speaker 1: on the spot.
Speaker 2: Tate goes on to say I had had have a
Speaker 2: basic white girl name and other little comments. I can
Speaker 2: only assume he was flirting because it was in a
Speaker 2: joky tone, and he practically asked me out at the
Speaker 2: end of the night, plus hit me up the next day.
Speaker 2: I love the party, would love your thoughts thoughts.
Speaker 1: Okay, A is Tate a basic name? It's not giving.
Speaker 1: I won't. I won't say a basic name, not to
Speaker 1: say alien Nate. You know, way fifty percent of our audience,
Speaker 1: I won't. They could be one.
Speaker 2: Why not fifty? It could be higher. You say I
Speaker 2: don't have a white demographic.
Speaker 1: Just say it, Just say it.
Speaker 3: What?
Speaker 1: Sorry? What was the question?
Speaker 2: Imagine this right? You go to a party, you meet
Speaker 2: a guy, you're chit chatting. He says to you, your
Speaker 2: Instagram could be impressed.
Speaker 1: Listen, it's been nice, but I have to go to
Speaker 1: the toilet into a massilier to say your macs. You're
Speaker 1: being mean to me. I hate people who neg Leave
Speaker 1: me out of it. Say something nice, Put yourself out there,
Speaker 1: be vulnerable. Life is short. Don't tell me that I
Speaker 1: need to improve my Instagram. Get off it. You're obsessing
Speaker 1: me and it's freaking me out. Okay, probably the Devil's advocate.
Speaker 2: Please only you because the question is sir, Well, it's
Speaker 2: more insulting. Bullying as a form of flirting, I think
Speaker 2: it requires context and it requires you to actually know
Speaker 2: the other person. Otherwise it's just bullying.
Speaker 1: So an example of that that you said earlier between
Speaker 1: our dynamic between us. So I believe that I am
Speaker 1: entering my clean girl era. If you were to come
Speaker 1: to my house today, you'd see that it's in th me.
Speaker 2: Currently to this day, and you can grab that that
Speaker 2: prop asset a for me currently and has consistently for
Speaker 2: months been drinking out of a Mouldi water bottle and
Speaker 2: in the same breath will call herself a clean girl.
Speaker 2: It's neither here nor there.
Speaker 1: Makeup's given clean.
Speaker 2: Oh, it's given clean. I will continuously bring up this,
Speaker 2: she's a clear girl. That is a form of insulting,
Speaker 2: bullying with a humorous undertone. A way, because we have context,
Speaker 2: can someone who doesn't know you, who is trying to
Speaker 2: tune you come through with the Mouldi water bottle.
Speaker 1: Joke like ones when someone said I was living in
Speaker 1: squalor totally unprovoked. I wasn't even trying to make my
Speaker 1: house with it. Okay, this actually really actually affected me,
Speaker 1: and I have since improved the house. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Look, I would say it can be, but let's all
Speaker 2: just stick to the basics. Too many of us, and
Speaker 2: I don't mean me when I'm speaking about this. I'm
Speaker 2: trying to do advanced banter when you haven't done foundational work.
Speaker 2: The curriculum exists for a reason. Brush up, please, thank.
Speaker 1: You, don't be too overfamiliar.
Speaker 2: Also, just be funny. And if you don't have that,
Speaker 2: be nice. That is life. It's a tale as old
Speaker 2: as time. I'm at work, I'm stressed. I wish there
Speaker 2: was a different job that I could do that would
Speaker 2: pay me any heaps, and that would be I don't know,
Speaker 2: validating well, I've done the work for us everyone. Every
Speaker 2: now and then I dip into my philanthropy bag. Philanthropy, philanthropy. Damn,
Speaker 2: I dip into my philanthropy bag.
Speaker 1: But you never dip into your grandma bag. No, never.
Speaker 2: And I dip out, and I say, here's something nice
Speaker 2: for you. Don't have to for anything again. Listen to
Speaker 2: this TikTok.
Speaker 3: It's from me, someone who has a job and doesn't
Speaker 3: feel stressed or overworked at all or rarely. What job
Speaker 3: do you have? What industry are you in? Does it
Speaker 3: pay enough to cover all your expenses? And then some
Speaker 3: were you in a sexy mood? Because that's definitely a
Speaker 3: sexy voice, heap?
Speaker 2: Is it a sexy voice that was a little bit.
Speaker 1: Sexy with that voice? Are there any anyone who gets
Speaker 1: a lot of money and isn't stress that they do.
Speaker 2: Maybe I was like I was mate calling you were bait.
Speaker 1: You're looking for a carpenter.
Speaker 2: I was literally leading over my kitchen counsel, you're looking.
Speaker 1: At what are you looking for? Yeah? Leaning over the counter.
Speaker 2: Ye Bosom in the full flight say it isn't so okay.
Speaker 2: Here are the industries we have top comments. It may
Speaker 2: sound unbelievable, but executive assistance I get compensated greatly and
Speaker 2: are rarely stressed. Next personal assistant. My boss is amazing.
Speaker 2: I work twenty five hours a week and make seventy K.
Speaker 2: We never quit marketing, or it has nothing to do
Speaker 2: with the job. It's the company one thousand percent government.
Speaker 1: How No, it's chilling.
Speaker 2: Tech writing pays seventy one hundred k marketing. Somebody else said,
Speaker 2: we've got a bridal makeup artist. There is no way
Speaker 2: of working in bridle is ever chill sewing machinists making
Speaker 2: soft furnishing, visual merchandiser, plant nursery supervisor, customers, success for
Speaker 2: a fintech company, financial crime prevention, coffee, digital marketing, nanny
Speaker 2: English tutor marketing, marketing, juice bar marketing, marketing, factory marketing.
Speaker 1: You're being oppressive in my ears. Sorry, I had to
Speaker 1: say it was there not a nicer way to say it.
Speaker 1: I apologize I was depressed her for a second of
Speaker 1: being oppressive. Here's the thing.
Speaker 2: You can't trust any of these answers, but somebody with
Speaker 2: some sense to jump into the comments and say, I
Speaker 2: think the key to finding a job that pays well
Speaker 2: and doesn't stress you out is to not care and
Speaker 2: to treat it as just a job that is meant
Speaker 2: to pay you.
Speaker 1: Well.
Speaker 2: Wow, if you want to find that video, scroll down
Speaker 2: my TikTok. Maybe twenty times.
Speaker 1: Love that. Well done, flex, bring something near the table. Gosh,
Speaker 1: this is flex and rooms kit. I don't want to
Speaker 1: say that on coming down with sickness, but definitely the st.
Speaker 2: You're coming down with the sickness. I'm coming to that
Speaker 2: to two for two what's going on? But I've ever
Speaker 2: been sick in this studio? Yeah, there was this one time.
Speaker 1: What was it a year ago? Yeah? It wasn't good.
Speaker 1: Not you sniffling. It was very bizarre experience for that.
Speaker 1: I was having conversation the other day and I was thinking,
Speaker 1: like about the most awkward, humiliating things that can happen
Speaker 1: to you humiliating. I love that work, absolutely humiliating, horrid
Speaker 1: and r answered and horrible.
Speaker 2: You have a writer in the room.
Speaker 1: I've just got Google open for synonyms. I've been having
Speaker 1: a lot of people over at my house recently.
Speaker 2: Good.
Speaker 1: It's lovely, Yeah, bringing the outside in hosting. Fantastic host.
Speaker 1: So I say, sparkling or still great, guys, they say,
Speaker 1: where are you getting?
Speaker 3: It?
Speaker 1: Is a bit like that on a bad day. I'm
Speaker 1: definitely a little less lonely than mister Gatsby, I'll say.
Speaker 1: At the moment killing it, I had this flashback of
Speaker 1: like when my mum, I would say parents, but with
Speaker 1: my mum, when mum would have guests over. She's got
Speaker 1: all the trimmings, got the beautiful pork roast belly in
Speaker 1: the oven. She's got some snacks on the table, bit
Speaker 1: of dip, bit of pesto dip on the table, with
Speaker 1: some gorgeous corn chips. That's a real host. And she's
Speaker 1: got the gypsy Kings playing. I don't know what that is.
Speaker 1: Do you guys know the Gypsickens in the Dixie Chicks.
Speaker 1: It's exactly the same era. Like to a t it'd
Speaker 1: be like putting on I can never pronounce the band name.
Speaker 1: It's Krugerbane. Sorry, how do I say? It's Space Space
Speaker 1: Jane anyway? So it's like this, how do I like?
Speaker 1: What is okay?
Speaker 2: Please don't let us don't so for asking.
Speaker 1: But I will say, why is it so embarrassing when
Speaker 1: you've got the playlist on before people come here, just
Speaker 1: milling around your house with like the ambient music. It
Speaker 1: is so humiliating.
Speaker 2: Demons follow you because this was like a relatively chill
Speaker 2: experience that's now haunting you.
Speaker 1: For Sis are a band of Catalan rumba, flamenco, salsa
Speaker 1: and pop musicians found in nineteen seventy eight. I like
Speaker 1: that Absolute bangers. Guys. We have been in the trenches
Speaker 1: here on the flex and fie.
Speaker 2: I'm not in the trenches.
Speaker 1: I'm not getting in, getting out, getting around, having the
Speaker 1: best times lives always. These are the best times of
Speaker 1: our lives, flecks, and they're happening right now, and it's
Speaker 1: really good to enjoy them because they will just continue.
Speaker 3: If you do.
Speaker 1: I have been thinking about how to politely ask somebody
Speaker 1: to leave your house once you don't want to be
Speaker 1: with them anymore. It could be romantic. It could be friends.
Speaker 1: You could have had a whole bunch of friends over
Speaker 1: last night, and you actually need some alone time now
Speaker 1: you've had a very big, busy day work. What is
Speaker 1: a polite way to do it. I don't think you
Speaker 1: can point blanks say hey, guys, I've got to go
Speaker 1: to bed. However, I've done that. Yeah, So I thought
Speaker 1: I had to do some googling before I read out
Speaker 1: my findings. Do you have a techniqueflix amount? I do have.
Speaker 2: I think it's much easier to get a group to
Speaker 2: leave than a one person if it's a group, Like
Speaker 2: I used to do a lot of dinner parties when
Speaker 2: I lived in Sydney, I'd be like, all right, home time.
Speaker 2: Oh but also I have friends with since and like,
Speaker 2: once we're done eating, we've talked for three hours about
Speaker 2: the same four topics. We all start like cleaning up
Speaker 2: after ourselves and everything. And then after we've cleaned up
Speaker 2: and someone needs to say it's time to go, somebody
Speaker 2: will say it. Somebody will say all right, I'm going
Speaker 2: home now, All right, home time, and then it's good
Speaker 2: to go. One on one though, I find really really difficult,
Speaker 2: and the only thing that I think works quite well.
Speaker 2: Is to get comfier and comfier in the sense that
Speaker 2: like you kind of have to like pull yourself out
Speaker 2: of engaging as much, laughing as much, kind of like
Speaker 2: still talk, but go on your phone, eat something, give
Speaker 2: the impression that you're like tuckering in for the day
Speaker 2: or the night.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but what if then they're like, Okay, time to
Speaker 1: get comfortable with my pants off, with my pants off, Jesus,
Speaker 1: what do you think? Well, according to these oh I
Speaker 1: didn't even print this out. Okay, this bottom thanks Miki.
Speaker 1: Number one suggest moving the parties to another location.
Speaker 2: You're gonna lose half the party when you do that,
Speaker 2: but they're not.
Speaker 1: You don't care anyway. Yeah, pretend that they're the ones
Speaker 1: that are ready to leave. This is probably my favorite technique.
Speaker 1: And you're like, oh god, don't you have to I've
Speaker 1: left you he sorry, guys, I've held your hostage for hours.
Speaker 1: You must be exhausted and ready to go home.
Speaker 2: I mean, I think that could work. That's great because
Speaker 2: we are going to do a challenge them. No, I'm
Speaker 2: I think I'm good.
Speaker 1: I could Okay. Number three, it's a bit of me
Speaker 1: mention the time in a surprise manner. Look at your watch,
Speaker 1: go wow, oh my goodness's nice to midnight. Holy hell. Finally,
Speaker 1: inform your friends that you've got a busy schedule. I mean, no, no,
Speaker 1: that's quite patronizing. Absolutely. The last one is yawn repeatedly.
Speaker 1: That's kind of like a low blow. But if you
Speaker 1: get there, you get there. Who does the job? Anyway,
Speaker 1: that's how to get someone ide your house. Next time
Speaker 1: you're in the situation, perhaps use it as a technique
Speaker 1: to actually say what you want. It's very good to
Speaker 1: learn how to I don't want to use a B
Speaker 1: word boundaries, Yes.
Speaker 2: Can I say? The best way to get someone out
Speaker 2: of your house is to provide context when they get
Speaker 2: to your house. So they're coming over, Oh my good,
Speaker 2: let's do good for like two to five. I'm going
Speaker 2: to head so and so afterwards, or I need to
Speaker 2: do something afterwards.
Speaker 1: Yeah, give it a time limit. Yeah. You've been listening
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