WEBVTT - Repenting Sins, Leg Locking and Baby Traps 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.800 Life Uncut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose lands 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:06.560 were never seated. We pay our respects to their elders 0:00:06.559 --> 0:00:07.280 past and present. 0:00:07.480 --> 0:00:10.760 This episode is recorded on Gadigal Land of the Aurora Nation. 0:00:20.520 --> 0:00:23.280 Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life 0:00:23.280 --> 0:00:23.760 of Kinna. 0:00:24.040 --> 0:00:27.600 I'm your host, Brittany. I'm your host, Laura. We have 0:00:27.760 --> 0:00:30.040 lost the plot today. Do you know why? 0:00:30.120 --> 0:00:32.000 Because things are not as they should be. Things are 0:00:32.040 --> 0:00:32.720 not as they seem. 0:00:32.800 --> 0:00:35.000 It's a public holiday in New South Wales. 0:00:35.080 --> 0:00:37.360 We should have the day off. No, we usually record 0:00:37.360 --> 0:00:39.320 out of the studio. Things feel a little bit more 0:00:40.000 --> 0:00:43.320 I guess professional. Now when we record were recalled out 0:00:43.360 --> 0:00:46.000 of the studio, I feel like I am someone who 0:00:46.080 --> 0:00:47.720 has my shit together. I don't even have one of 0:00:47.720 --> 0:00:50.440 my earphones in. I was wondering why it felt very 0:00:50.440 --> 0:00:50.960 one sided. 0:00:51.000 --> 0:00:52.920 No, we usually recording a studio. As you guys know, 0:00:53.120 --> 0:00:55.440 it is a public holiday here in New South Wales, 0:00:55.480 --> 0:00:58.280 so we're recording from my house, which how do you 0:00:58.280 --> 0:00:58.840 think it smells? 0:00:58.880 --> 0:00:59.120 Laura? 0:00:59.760 --> 0:01:02.800 Can I just do one thing? I forgot to start 0:01:02.800 --> 0:01:05.119 my video. That's how unprofessional I am right now, that's 0:01:05.160 --> 0:01:08.119 my sink clap. I think it smells. I walked in here, 0:01:08.160 --> 0:01:11.000 into your house, brit and I was like, wow, it 0:01:11.040 --> 0:01:13.160 smells good. Don't get me wrong, it smells. 0:01:13.240 --> 0:01:16.280 I went two am on the incense sticks. 0:01:16.400 --> 0:01:20.240 It smells like a Balinese spa that's trying to hide something. Yeah, 0:01:20.360 --> 0:01:22.440 kind of like Barley in general, like smells like it 0:01:22.480 --> 0:01:23.920 smells nice, but also. 0:01:23.680 --> 0:01:26.880 You know there's an undercurrent. Yeah. My house isn't that big, 0:01:27.040 --> 0:01:29.720 and I think I went too strong. I did three. 0:01:29.600 --> 0:01:32.200 Simultaneous incense sticks because I wanted to make it nice 0:01:32.200 --> 0:01:34.280 for you guys. All the three sticks are in the 0:01:34.319 --> 0:01:37.080 one room because the room's not that big, so I've 0:01:37.080 --> 0:01:40.400 had to do some aerration. Anyway, we're recording from home today. 0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:44.320 The NRL Grand Final was on last night for both 0:01:44.319 --> 0:01:47.039 the women and the men. If anybody cares, and I 0:01:47.040 --> 0:01:48.400 say that because I don't know. 0:01:48.680 --> 0:01:51.520 I was literally just about to say which is a shame, 0:01:51.560 --> 0:01:53.880 because I know I know how important it is. Matt 0:01:53.960 --> 0:01:56.160 was out all night last night, like produce a Keisha was. 0:01:56.120 --> 0:01:58.000 Out all day yesterday, like everybody know. 0:01:58.160 --> 0:02:00.640 It's a public holiday because of the Grand I'm pretty 0:02:00.640 --> 0:02:02.080 sure that that's why this exists. Is that? 0:02:02.080 --> 0:02:04.840 Why is it a public holiday? For the Grand Final. 0:02:05.440 --> 0:02:07.360 I'm sure. I don't think that's a thing. I think 0:02:07.360 --> 0:02:09.480 it's a public holiday and they put the Grand Final 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:10.320 on because of that. 0:02:10.400 --> 0:02:12.960 So in Victoria they had their public holiday on the Friday, 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:15.520 so it coincides with their Grand Final, and we have 0:02:15.639 --> 0:02:17.920 ours on the Monday, which coincides with ours. 0:02:18.120 --> 0:02:20.840 Now is it that the only reason? Probably not, but 0:02:21.000 --> 0:02:22.360 is it a good reason. Yes. 0:02:22.720 --> 0:02:28.360 However, Unfortunately for anybody listening to this who absolutely loves football, Brittain, 0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:30.600 I don't know much about it. But look, I'm married 0:02:30.639 --> 0:02:32.680 to someone who was a fanatic. So he was gone 0:02:32.800 --> 0:02:34.320 and he went and watched it, and then he came 0:02:34.360 --> 0:02:36.080 home very late last night and fell asleep on the couch. 0:02:36.240 --> 0:02:40.600 I am gonna put it out there. I've never watched 0:02:40.639 --> 0:02:42.480 a match like a game, Matt, my match? 0:02:42.840 --> 0:02:43.920 A game? What is it? 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:46.920 He produced a Keisha was sitting in the corner and 0:02:46.960 --> 0:02:48.440 she is just a hating her. 0:02:48.680 --> 0:02:51.400 I didn't grow up in that football family. I remember 0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:53.680 being at school from primary school. I remember all of 0:02:53.720 --> 0:02:56.640 my friends, specifically, if they're listening, Sheri and Hannah. All 0:02:56.680 --> 0:02:59.320 of my friends were big football families, so all the 0:02:59.360 --> 0:03:01.640 families would go on the weekend to the football that'll 0:03:01.639 --> 0:03:03.760 watch it. They all had their team. My family, not 0:03:03.840 --> 0:03:05.280 one person. We're a family of six. 0:03:05.520 --> 0:03:05.720 Ever. 0:03:06.000 --> 0:03:07.960 Actually, one of my brothers will probably hate that, but 0:03:08.000 --> 0:03:11.400 we never watched a match growing up. I don't know 0:03:11.440 --> 0:03:13.800 the rules. I don't love it. I don't get it. 0:03:13.800 --> 0:03:15.360 I don't get the hype. But that's because I didn't 0:03:15.360 --> 0:03:18.000 grow up with it. I know if I went to 0:03:18.160 --> 0:03:20.880 it live, it would be amazing, because there's no live 0:03:20.919 --> 0:03:23.720 sport that isn't amazing. It's the atmosphere, it's the energy 0:03:23.720 --> 0:03:25.640 everyone has, so I know i'd love it. But I 0:03:25.680 --> 0:03:27.440 got asked to go and watch it by so many 0:03:27.440 --> 0:03:29.080 people at the pubs and stuff last night, and I 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:31.760 was like, think, I would rather sit in my house alone. 0:03:32.000 --> 0:03:34.440 No, I really would. It's just not for me. It's 0:03:34.480 --> 0:03:36.120 not for me. Well look, and I'm sorry. I know 0:03:36.200 --> 0:03:38.200 so many people probably hate me listening to that, but. 0:03:38.160 --> 0:03:39.880 People like you didn't need to establish how much you 0:03:39.920 --> 0:03:41.680 hated it. I'm not a big football person, but I 0:03:41.720 --> 0:03:42.880 did watch it. Broncos lost. 0:03:42.880 --> 0:03:44.520 Did you watch it? Devastated? Yeah? 0:03:44.560 --> 0:03:47.200 And so when I was trying to contact you, it 0:03:47.280 --> 0:03:49.960 was just on in the background with my children whilst 0:03:50.360 --> 0:03:51.880 one of them had growing pains and the other one 0:03:51.960 --> 0:03:52.560 spiked fever. 0:03:52.680 --> 0:03:54.960 So yeah, look that was my night last night. But anyway, 0:03:55.000 --> 0:03:56.880 I have a question for you, Bretty. 0:03:56.960 --> 0:03:58.720 Moving on from the football that neither of us really 0:03:58.760 --> 0:04:01.320 watched or paid attention to, I went surfing on the weekend. 0:04:01.400 --> 0:04:03.720 Everyone I went down to Woollongong. I went down to 0:04:03.760 --> 0:04:05.960 the farm. It was one of my best friend's birthdays. 0:04:06.000 --> 0:04:08.320 And she decided for her birthday, instead of like going 0:04:08.320 --> 0:04:11.760 and having a Margarita's with the girls, which is normal 0:04:12.000 --> 0:04:14.240 most people want to go and have cocktails with their friends, 0:04:14.760 --> 0:04:17.120 she said, how about we all drive two hours and 0:04:17.160 --> 0:04:19.760 go to the farm and go for a surf lesson. 0:04:20.200 --> 0:04:22.080 And at the time I was like, I will literally 0:04:22.120 --> 0:04:25.039 do anything for you, Kaya, but this is a weird. 0:04:24.880 --> 0:04:26.080 Request, but we all did it. 0:04:26.480 --> 0:04:28.520 Now, if you've ever been to the farm, which is 0:04:28.560 --> 0:04:30.760 like about fifteen minutes south of Woollongong, I'm going to 0:04:30.760 --> 0:04:33.320 guess that most people listening to this habit, but if 0:04:33.320 --> 0:04:35.560 you have, you'll know it's a beach that's kind of 0:04:35.680 --> 0:04:36.640 quite remote. 0:04:36.920 --> 0:04:38.040 The beach is really long. 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:41.320 The toilet's like up the very top huge stairs, Like 0:04:41.440 --> 0:04:42.680 if you need to go to the toilet, that's a 0:04:42.720 --> 0:04:44.599 hike to go to the toilet. Ein't no single person 0:04:44.600 --> 0:04:46.000 in going to the toilet. They're going and doing a 0:04:46.040 --> 0:04:49.039 bushwee at the beach, right, Yeah, So if you're surfing 0:04:49.440 --> 0:04:52.280 and you've had to overcome all these obstacles to get 0:04:52.320 --> 0:04:55.240 to the toilet, you've put on a higher wetsuit, Where 0:04:55.279 --> 0:04:57.720 does one do a wee? Where do you do a 0:04:57.800 --> 0:04:59.920 wee if you're wearing somebody else's wetsuit. 0:05:00.360 --> 0:05:03.320 I'm confused by your question because if you're in a 0:05:03.400 --> 0:05:05.159 higher wetsuit, you need to do a wi You don't 0:05:05.200 --> 0:05:06.440 get out to go to the toilet. 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:07.600 You just wean the ocean. 0:05:07.760 --> 0:05:10.400 But if you've worn your wet suit to the toilet 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:13.720 and then pissed in the toilet, your cook's waara, Like 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:17.200 I thought when you originally played this question, it was. 0:05:17.160 --> 0:05:19.440 Just in the water in the west. Yeah, of course, 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:20.200 that's what I'm saying. 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:22.960 What I'm saying is is anybody is anybody who's in 0:05:23.000 --> 0:05:25.120 the ocean wearing a wetsuit getting out to go to 0:05:25.160 --> 0:05:27.600 the toilet, or is every single person just pissing in 0:05:27.640 --> 0:05:29.800 the ocean? And if that's the case, then does that 0:05:29.839 --> 0:05:32.720 mean that we're all sharing higher wetsuits that literally every 0:05:32.760 --> 0:05:33.719 single person is weeding. 0:05:33.760 --> 0:05:37.520 All right, I'm gonna tell you guys something Brittany did 0:05:37.520 --> 0:05:40.599 a shit in a wet suite. No, I have not, 0:05:41.080 --> 0:05:41.640 I don't. 0:05:41.680 --> 0:05:43.880 Surely I've told this on the podcast at some point 0:05:44.000 --> 0:05:45.960 in our life, but I don't actually remember. 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:47.640 Laugh all you want. 0:05:47.960 --> 0:05:53.400 I was the Australian champion for women's bodyboarding, which is 0:05:53.440 --> 0:05:56.599 the late own surfing. I was the best in the country. 0:05:56.600 --> 0:05:58.320 I was twentieth in the entire world. It was what 0:05:58.400 --> 0:06:00.920 I always did. I was like when did big wave 0:06:00.960 --> 0:06:03.920 surfing nearly drowned in Mexico at the Australian title. We 0:06:03.960 --> 0:06:05.240 had to get out because it was a great white 0:06:05.240 --> 0:06:06.840 shark in Tasmania in our heat. 0:06:06.960 --> 0:06:08.560 It was I've had some wild experiences. 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:11.240 But I love when you tell these stories because like 0:06:11.240 --> 0:06:13.400 it's such a closet flex of yours, Like no one 0:06:13.440 --> 0:06:15.200 knows this right that this is like it's just a 0:06:15.320 --> 0:06:16.919 random thing I used to do. And then all of 0:06:16.920 --> 0:06:18.880 a sudden, BRIT's like I used to buddy board. I 0:06:18.960 --> 0:06:19.920 was kind of a big deal. 0:06:20.080 --> 0:06:22.400 That's a pretty big deal. Yeah, pretty funny, but that 0:06:22.440 --> 0:06:23.760 was it. I was the best in the country. So 0:06:23.800 --> 0:06:25.080 like I just never talked about. It was like a 0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:27.719 whole nother life ago. Anyway, my point of that story 0:06:27.800 --> 0:06:30.640 is I grew up in wetsuits. Like I've always surfed 0:06:30.720 --> 0:06:34.440 all day every day. You always wear a wetsuit, you always. 0:06:34.520 --> 0:06:35.120 I am telling you. 0:06:35.200 --> 0:06:37.599 If anyone says they get out of the water to 0:06:37.760 --> 0:06:40.800 go and do a wheat, they're lying. Everyone we's in 0:06:40.839 --> 0:06:42.600 the ocean in their wetsuits. So if you have ever 0:06:42.640 --> 0:06:45.240 gone anywhere and you're doing like a small tour or something, 0:06:45.320 --> 0:06:47.719 you're putting on a rented wetsuit, someone else's weed in it. 0:06:49.040 --> 0:06:49.960 Well that's what I thought. 0:06:50.000 --> 0:06:53.200 I was there with like six girlfriends, six girlfriends, two instructors. 0:06:53.480 --> 0:06:55.240 Not one person got out of the water for a 0:06:55.240 --> 0:06:56.920 two hour lesson to go to the toilet. 0:06:56.960 --> 0:06:59.160 And I was like, yeah, I'll pisson. We all doing it. 0:06:59.160 --> 0:07:00.200 No one's talking about it, but. 0:07:00.200 --> 0:07:03.560 You know, we sterile, so it's not that bad. Oh, 0:07:03.960 --> 0:07:05.880 like people, I think people get really have this really 0:07:05.920 --> 0:07:06.760 bigger version to wei. 0:07:06.880 --> 0:07:08.800 But we's not bad. Do I want to bathe around 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:10.040 in somebody else's use wetsuit in it? 0:07:10.120 --> 0:07:11.920 No? But anyway, you know people do poops in the 0:07:11.920 --> 0:07:14.760 ocean to stop. Yeah, it's called an aquaturt. 0:07:14.880 --> 0:07:17.840 I know, but no one's doing inside their wetsuit. No, 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:19.640 but they won't get out of the water. 0:07:19.840 --> 0:07:22.560 Surfers that if the surf is good and you have 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:24.520 been out in the water for ages. 0:07:24.400 --> 0:07:26.840 A surfer will paddle off a little bit. 0:07:27.080 --> 0:07:28.800 They would rather take their wet suit off and do 0:07:28.840 --> 0:07:30.840 what they call an aquaturd and then put their wet 0:07:30.880 --> 0:07:33.239 seed back on, then get out and miss the surf. 0:07:34.000 --> 0:07:36.240 People might deny that, but I'm telling you one hundred 0:07:36.240 --> 0:07:37.080 percent that's what people doing. 0:07:37.200 --> 0:07:38.880 Well, look, everyone, we are doing things a little bit 0:07:38.920 --> 0:07:42.440 differently this month, and we are very excited about this now. 0:07:43.000 --> 0:07:44.800 As you know, if you've been listening to podcasts for 0:07:44.840 --> 0:07:48.160 quite a long time, our Tuesday episodes are our long episodes. 0:07:48.160 --> 0:07:50.520 So we do like our chitty little chitty chat about 0:07:50.560 --> 0:07:54.040 pissing and about whatever in wetsuits at the start, and 0:07:54.080 --> 0:07:56.320 then we usually do an interview or we get into 0:07:56.320 --> 0:07:59.200 like a deeper, more complex topic and more nuanced chat. 0:07:59.480 --> 0:08:00.520 Sometimes in the. 0:08:00.400 --> 0:08:03.440 Intros of these episodes we will hit an important topic 0:08:03.480 --> 0:08:03.760 as well. 0:08:03.800 --> 0:08:06.760 It's not like they're always just lighthearted chatter. 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:09.160 But what we've decided to do is because those Tuesday 0:08:09.200 --> 0:08:11.120 episodes actually usually run for like an hour and a 0:08:11.120 --> 0:08:13.240 half to an hour and forty minutes and hour and 0:08:13.280 --> 0:08:15.920 twenty They kind of vary. We are going to this 0:08:16.000 --> 0:08:18.840 month trial something new, and what that is is we're 0:08:18.840 --> 0:08:20.880 going to bring you our Tuesday episode, which will be 0:08:20.920 --> 0:08:23.559 the shorter catch up episode between Brita and I talking 0:08:23.560 --> 0:08:26.200 about what's happening in the world, something that comes from 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:30.160 pop culture, our own lives, basically the intro that's already 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:32.360 existing on our Tuesday episodes. That's going to be a 0:08:32.360 --> 0:08:34.679 standalone episode and that is what this is. And then 0:08:34.720 --> 0:08:36.920 on Wednesday, we're going to drop the interviews. And the 0:08:36.960 --> 0:08:40.360 reason why we decided to split these out is based 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:43.040 off your feedback and what you guys are loving and 0:08:43.080 --> 0:08:44.680 what you guys are wanting to listen to, and it 0:08:44.720 --> 0:08:46.679 means that you're going to be able to one you 0:08:46.720 --> 0:08:48.920 can listen to everything, or two, if there's an episode 0:08:48.960 --> 0:08:51.199 and an interview that you really really really want to hear, 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:53.199 you can kind of go straight to that instead of 0:08:53.240 --> 0:08:55.079 having to jump ahead to listen to the interview. 0:08:55.200 --> 0:08:57.880 Sometimes you want to go through and you pick somebody 0:08:57.880 --> 0:08:59.600 that is of interest to you in an interview, you 0:08:59.640 --> 0:09:01.600 do want to go straight there. And other times you 0:09:01.600 --> 0:09:03.600 want to listen to all the banter and the fun stuff. 0:09:04.080 --> 0:09:06.800 You guys are getting the same amount of content and 0:09:06.840 --> 0:09:09.240 the same amount of quality, but we're just making it 0:09:09.280 --> 0:09:10.240 easier to get to. 0:09:10.200 --> 0:09:10.840 All the parts. 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:13.720 So from here on in, we're trialing this month, and 0:09:13.720 --> 0:09:15.080 we figured this was the month to do it because 0:09:15.080 --> 0:09:15.839 we're on live tour. 0:09:15.880 --> 0:09:16.760 We're shaking it up. 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:19.880 So Tuesdays is going to be the fun catch up banter, 0:09:20.640 --> 0:09:23.120 Wednesdays is going to be the interviews, and then Thursdays 0:09:23.160 --> 0:09:25.199 is going to be Asking Cut exactly the same. Nothing's 0:09:25.240 --> 0:09:27.880 changed with Asking Cut, and I I'm feeling good about it. 0:09:27.960 --> 0:09:28.960 Yeah, I'm feeling good about too. 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:30.280 I Also, I think it's going to be a really 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:32.480 exciting month in terms of content because we are doing 0:09:32.520 --> 0:09:34.679 the live shows. If you this is your reminder, if 0:09:34.679 --> 0:09:36.080 you haven't got your tickets, go and pick them ut 0:09:36.120 --> 0:09:38.800 from Life on Cut podcast dot com dot you. We 0:09:39.120 --> 0:09:41.480 start this weekend Sunday. 0:09:41.600 --> 0:09:44.160 Is that a very best show? Oh my god, I. 0:09:44.160 --> 0:09:49.520 Know that's my nervous Okay, So Sunday our first show. 0:09:49.520 --> 0:09:52.080 We're kicking it off in Adelaide. But also what we're 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:53.559 going to be doing this month is we're gonna have 0:09:53.600 --> 0:09:56.040 some bonus episodes. We're gonna drop a couple of episodes 0:09:56.120 --> 0:09:58.160 which will be some of the interviews from the live 0:09:58.160 --> 0:10:00.720 shows as well. Now we're not dropping all the the interviews, 0:10:00.920 --> 0:10:02.760 but we're picking out some of our favorite bits and 0:10:02.800 --> 0:10:04.839 they're going to be tiny, little bonus episodes as well. 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:06.760 So it is a good month for laf on Card. 0:10:07.559 --> 0:10:10.080 All right, I have a question. Oh yeah, I saw 0:10:10.160 --> 0:10:14.559 this on Reddit. There is a woman that was married 0:10:14.559 --> 0:10:16.080 to her husband and. 0:10:16.120 --> 0:10:18.760 She said that the relationship was struggling a little bit. 0:10:18.800 --> 0:10:20.280 They weren't sure what it was going to happen with it, 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:24.440 so she cheated on him. Then COVID struck and they 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:26.760 rekindled the relationship because they got stuck in a house 0:10:26.800 --> 0:10:29.240 together and they refell. 0:10:28.840 --> 0:10:29.400 Back in love. 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:31.880 Then she started to feel guilty that she had cheated 0:10:31.960 --> 0:10:34.240 on him this one time. She didn't know what to 0:10:34.280 --> 0:10:37.360 do about it, so she went to a church, went 0:10:37.400 --> 0:10:40.680 to a priest and confessed to get off her chest. 0:10:40.720 --> 0:10:42.480 And she also wanted to just have a really open, 0:10:43.080 --> 0:10:46.840 non judgmental discussion with someone that's not biased. Didn't feel 0:10:46.840 --> 0:10:48.120 like she could go to a friend, so she went 0:10:48.160 --> 0:10:50.000 to the one place she thought she could trust. So 0:10:50.040 --> 0:10:53.160 she went to the priest. She confessed, and he said, 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:55.720 you have to tell him, like you have to repent, 0:10:56.280 --> 0:10:58.600 get it off your chest, heal things together and work 0:10:58.640 --> 0:11:00.560 it out. Even if it doesn't heal, you have to 0:11:00.720 --> 0:11:02.800 have this discussion. And that's my advice. 0:11:03.160 --> 0:11:05.680 Say ten hail Mary's and our fathers and off your gout. Yeah. 0:11:05.720 --> 0:11:08.240 So she left and she thought she's just going to 0:11:08.320 --> 0:11:11.160 sit on it for a while because she didn't know if. 0:11:11.200 --> 0:11:12.280 When how to broach it. 0:11:13.040 --> 0:11:15.520 She decided because things were so good and it was 0:11:15.559 --> 0:11:17.560 one mistake that she wasn't going to tell him. But 0:11:17.600 --> 0:11:21.320 then the priest followed up with the husband. So the 0:11:21.360 --> 0:11:24.800 priest said, how did things go after you know? 0:11:25.200 --> 0:11:28.920 Sarah told you? And he was like no, yeah, and 0:11:28.960 --> 0:11:29.360 he was like. 0:11:29.559 --> 0:11:31.440 The husband was like what because he didn't know, So 0:11:31.480 --> 0:11:36.000 the priest outed the wife. The wife came home one 0:11:36.080 --> 0:11:38.000 day and he was throwing all her stuff out and 0:11:38.040 --> 0:11:40.440 he kicked her out. So the relationship's over because the 0:11:40.480 --> 0:11:41.960 priest spilled the goss. 0:11:42.280 --> 0:11:44.240 What do you think about who's in the wrong here? 0:11:44.320 --> 0:11:45.640 Who is in the wrong. 0:11:45.679 --> 0:11:48.480 The priest, I mean, of course she's in the wrong. 0:11:48.520 --> 0:11:50.599 Of course she did the wrong. Thing, but correct me 0:11:50.600 --> 0:11:52.280 if I'm wrong. Most people would go and speak to 0:11:52.280 --> 0:11:54.880 a priest because they think it is completely confidential. They 0:11:54.920 --> 0:11:58.280 are bound to keep it confidential. And so I think 0:11:58.320 --> 0:12:00.880 that it is that anonymity that would have made her 0:12:00.880 --> 0:12:02.800 feel safe to talk about it, and would have made 0:12:02.880 --> 0:12:05.720 her feel like she could make her own decision. 0:12:06.040 --> 0:12:06.400 I don't know. 0:12:06.480 --> 0:12:08.199 If you're not religious, if you're not Catholic or Christian, 0:12:08.240 --> 0:12:10.720 you might not know this. You got a reconciliation. You 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:13.440 go into a tiny little box. You usually can't see 0:12:13.440 --> 0:12:16.160 the priest. There's usually like a petition that separates you. 0:12:16.160 --> 0:12:18.600 You sit there by yourself and you confess your sins, 0:12:18.920 --> 0:12:21.640 and then he usually tells you six Hail Mary's and 0:12:21.840 --> 0:12:24.120 an X amount of prayers. You have to repent on 0:12:24.160 --> 0:12:25.679 your sins, and then that's going to absolve you of 0:12:25.720 --> 0:12:29.840 your sins. I mean, I went to reconciliation when I 0:12:29.920 --> 0:12:32.360 was a kid, so my memory of it is that. 0:12:32.240 --> 0:12:34.840 So I've never done it, like I don't even know, 0:12:35.280 --> 0:12:36.720 I've never even started that prespox. 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:39.960 Well, so I've only ever been with like such trivial possums. 0:12:41.040 --> 0:12:43.679 She's laughing at my terminology that I called it a priestpot, 0:12:45.880 --> 0:12:46.600 it's the pritpot. 0:12:46.720 --> 0:12:49.559 I've never been with a complex problem, you know. I 0:12:49.600 --> 0:12:51.600 was like, seven, I've never been with a complex problem 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:53.199 that the priest has said you need to go and 0:12:53.400 --> 0:12:55.640 explain yourself to these people. There's never been like outside 0:12:55.720 --> 0:13:00.280 ramifications other than like prayer repentance. So, for one, probably 0:13:00.280 --> 0:13:02.520 didn't overstep the line if he didn't give all the information. 0:13:02.720 --> 0:13:06.000 He just gave enough information for the husband to fill 0:13:06.000 --> 0:13:06.439 in the blank. 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:08.240 But it's like he wanted It's like the priest low 0:13:08.280 --> 0:13:10.000 key wanted him to know. He was like, how do 0:13:10.000 --> 0:13:12.719 you drama? How do you feel after finding out about You. 0:13:12.679 --> 0:13:15.760 Know, nobody's going to trust him to come to him 0:13:15.800 --> 0:13:18.800 with their problems if he's taking upon himself to be 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:19.840 the cheating vigilante. 0:13:20.000 --> 0:13:22.280 So you think the number one thing here is because 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:24.760 it wouldn't be the same, right if a friend of 0:13:24.840 --> 0:13:26.920 the family had found out and went and told him, Right, 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:28.720 it wouldn't be the same kickoff. But is it just 0:13:28.760 --> 0:13:30.720 because the priest is supposed to be sworn to a 0:13:30.800 --> 0:13:34.160 level of secrecy, Because if this was like a friend 0:13:34.160 --> 0:13:35.760 of yours that you told, or a friend of a 0:13:35.800 --> 0:13:38.760 friend or somebody else had gone and said, you know what, 0:13:38.840 --> 0:13:41.000 I'm going to tell you your wife's been cheating. It's 0:13:41.000 --> 0:13:43.199 not going to have the same repercussions, is it. Is 0:13:43.240 --> 0:13:45.920 this only coming because of the fact that a priest 0:13:46.040 --> 0:13:48.560 swears to secrecy, So you feel because either way, trust 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:49.800 is broken, right Well? 0:13:49.960 --> 0:13:51.560 I think the thing is though, when you so, if 0:13:51.600 --> 0:13:53.200 you've cheated on someone and you speak to your friend 0:13:53.240 --> 0:13:56.040 about it, they are not sworn to secrecy. You're giving 0:13:56.080 --> 0:13:58.160 them information and you might ask them not to tell anyone. 0:13:58.160 --> 0:13:59.520 And I think a lot of us have been in 0:13:59.520 --> 0:14:02.520 this situation. You're not around cheating. But in other areas, 0:14:02.960 --> 0:14:05.280 if you tell someone a secret and you say, oh, 0:14:05.320 --> 0:14:07.480 don't tell anyone, and they say, don't worry, I'll never 0:14:07.520 --> 0:14:10.080 ever tell anyone, they can really do whatever the fuck 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:11.800 they want you with that information. There's a lot of 0:14:11.800 --> 0:14:14.040 trust that goes on there, right Like some people might 0:14:14.080 --> 0:14:16.840 tell one person, some people might take it to the grave. 0:14:17.160 --> 0:14:19.840 But I honestly think the majority of secrets that are told, 0:14:20.120 --> 0:14:22.120 you might as well assume that they've told one person, 0:14:22.320 --> 0:14:24.080 because that's kind of how these things. No one in 0:14:24.080 --> 0:14:26.760 the world keeps a secret, not in the way that 0:14:26.800 --> 0:14:27.480 you would hope them to. 0:14:27.560 --> 0:14:29.640 Yeah, and I think maybe reflect on your own behavior. 0:14:29.840 --> 0:14:32.480 When someone tells you a secret, do you keep it 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:35.120 one hundred percent to yourself or do you tell your 0:14:35.160 --> 0:14:37.600 boyfriend or your girlfriend or your best friend? Like are 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:40.000 the other people in your immediate network? Who you go, Oh, 0:14:40.000 --> 0:14:42.200 I am keeping the secret? But I told that one person. 0:14:42.240 --> 0:14:45.760 Because there's always that like, Okay, I've got to tell 0:14:45.760 --> 0:14:47.320 you something, but you promise you can't tell anyone, and 0:14:47.360 --> 0:14:49.080 they always that yeah. 0:14:48.960 --> 0:14:50.000 And I guess it depends, you know. 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:51.520 I know that there will be people who are like, no, 0:14:51.560 --> 0:14:53.200 there's things that I've been told that I've kept from 0:14:53.200 --> 0:14:55.080 my husband or from my wife or whatever, or my 0:14:55.360 --> 0:14:58.960 long term partner. But I think overarchingly and the majority, 0:14:59.000 --> 0:15:01.200 and maybe it's a this is actually a good thing 0:15:01.200 --> 0:15:04.280 to poll. I think majority of people would share other 0:15:04.320 --> 0:15:07.240 people's secrets. And often the reason for that is because 0:15:07.960 --> 0:15:10.560 they are told something and then they're asked to keep 0:15:10.600 --> 0:15:12.120 it a secret, and it waits all them. 0:15:12.240 --> 0:15:12.400 Yeah. 0:15:12.440 --> 0:15:14.560 Most people, it's like they tell a story or they 0:15:14.640 --> 0:15:16.320 tell something that's happened, and then they go, oh, please 0:15:16.360 --> 0:15:18.920 don't tell anyone, and it's like, of course, I will 0:15:19.000 --> 0:15:21.160 keep your story and your secret because it is yours 0:15:21.160 --> 0:15:23.520 and it's not mine. But at the same time, you 0:15:23.560 --> 0:15:25.680 have now put that burden on me. You've put the 0:15:25.680 --> 0:15:27.960 burden of secrecy on me without me subscribing to it. 0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:30.560 The difference here is that a priest, the burden of 0:15:30.600 --> 0:15:33.080 secrecy has been assigned to him. He has taken that 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:35.880 commitment by becoming a priest. So him sitting in that 0:15:35.960 --> 0:15:38.480 box and you going to him for a confession, there 0:15:38.560 --> 0:15:40.760 is a contract that's already been drawn up, which is 0:15:40.760 --> 0:15:42.920 that this is a place where I can tell you 0:15:42.960 --> 0:15:45.120