WEBVTT - MINI: Is it okay to out your cheating partner on TikTok? ♪

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<v Speaker 1>Now, Mitch, you're usually the one on this show who

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<v Speaker 1>brings the TikTok trends because you're on TikTok.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Jens, I'm young, I'm you for.

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<v Speaker 1>You, You're on the cusp. Okay, I'm spoken about that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not on TikTok. But I do enjoy a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit of a like a lurk, Like I like sitting.

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<v Speaker 1>I like being on there and seeing what people are doing,

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<v Speaker 1>but I don't post.

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<v Speaker 3>Actually, Laura is one of those people that goes, did

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<v Speaker 3>you see this trend? It's called the Harlem shape? Because

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<v Speaker 3>she's on reels on Instagram and she gets it three

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<v Speaker 3>years later.

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<v Speaker 4>That's me.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't even look on TikTok.

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<v Speaker 2>Laura's like, do you want to do the ice bucket

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<v Speaker 2>challenge this morning? Guys?

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<v Speaker 5>Is anyone playing King still? Because I'm all about it?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, No, maybe this isn't a new thing, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>something that I came across on the weekend, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was really shocked by how prolific it is, because like,

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<v Speaker 1>as I was flicking, it was like I was seeing

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<v Speaker 1>more and more people who are doing this certain type

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<v Speaker 1>of trend. Now, I'm not entirely sure if it's a trend,

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<v Speaker 1>but I wanted to get your take on this. So recently,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys might have seen there was a TikTok creator.

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<v Speaker 1>Her name was Reesa Tisa and she did the MEI

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<v Speaker 1>real name, Reesa Tisa, I think it's her TikTok name.

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<v Speaker 1>She did a mini series and it was called who

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<v Speaker 1>the F Did I Marry?

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<v Speaker 6>Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>The whole world was across this, britt you show minutes.

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<v Speaker 2>This was massive.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, this time I had thirty seven million views across

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<v Speaker 1>several videos.

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<v Speaker 5>I think like thirty eight Now, I'm sure it's going up.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyways, Sten here it's going up by million. That's a listen.

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<v Speaker 5>I have a listened to this.

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<v Speaker 4>Here is part one of Who the SI Did? I'm married?

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<v Speaker 4>So I met my ex husband around March fourth of

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<v Speaker 4>twenty twenty. We met on Facebook dating site and we

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<v Speaker 4>also matched on Hinge. By the way, you will notice

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<v Speaker 4>in this story I called it the United Nations of

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<v Speaker 4>Red Flags. It is so many red flags that I mean,

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<v Speaker 4>you would have thought I was color blind because I ignored

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<v Speaker 4>all of them.

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<v Speaker 2>I gots it now hit fifty million by since we

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<v Speaker 2>played that audio clip.

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<v Speaker 1>Just give you a live updates.

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<v Speaker 5>That's how I roll here.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So the reason why Tisa Risa went so viral.

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<v Speaker 3>Story sorry an hour ago, wassa ta Now it's tasta.

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<v Speaker 1>Esa though Tisasa's the reason why it went viral is

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<v Speaker 1>because she was outing her cheating husband. Now this is

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<v Speaker 1>set a precedent across TikTok where it seems like more

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<v Speaker 1>people are using the platform to talk about and to

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<v Speaker 1>share like quite controversial stories about how their partners have

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<v Speaker 1>cheated on them. They're gaining huge engagement for it, and

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<v Speaker 1>they're creating little mini series. Now, my question to you

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<v Speaker 1>guys is, and we've all, unfortunately all three of us

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<v Speaker 1>have been in situations in past relationships where we've been

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<v Speaker 1>cheated on. Do you think it is okay to use

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<v Speaker 1>your social media platform to out your cheating partner.

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<v Speaker 5>It's a tough one.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean I never ever have, and I obviously have,

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<v Speaker 6>I guess one of the biggest platforms not to sound

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<v Speaker 6>that like say that in a big headed way, but

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<v Speaker 6>like we have our podcast Laura, which has a lot

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<v Speaker 6>of listeners millions and millions line, so we have a

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<v Speaker 6>national radio show.

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<v Speaker 5>Like I could annihilate.

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<v Speaker 6>Someone and I had someone that had like a double

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<v Speaker 6>life cheated on me for years and I never ever

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<v Speaker 6>outed that person, and I did start the podcast based

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<v Speaker 6>off that.

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<v Speaker 5>Actually, my podcast success is based off the fact.

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<v Speaker 6>That he cheated on me, but I never outed in

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<v Speaker 6>my name, occupation, any other details. And I think that's

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<v Speaker 6>for me, don't I don't see the point. I think

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<v Speaker 6>some things are better left for you to deal with

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<v Speaker 6>and move on, like somethings a private but also like

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<v Speaker 6>from that's the kind of person that I am right like,

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<v Speaker 6>even though they've done the wrong thing by me, I

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<v Speaker 6>don't get off on bringing someone else down and doing

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<v Speaker 6>this huge pylon because what's gonna happen.

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<v Speaker 5>People are gonna go and hate on that person. Like,

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<v Speaker 5>what's the point for me.

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<v Speaker 6>I find it better and more healing to forget about it,

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<v Speaker 6>move on myself and not drag it on for myself.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think though you've got to look long term,

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<v Speaker 3>because my issue with it is imagine you post these

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<v Speaker 3>tiktoks right that you're watching Laura and then getting millions

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<v Speaker 3>of views, and then a year passes, you enter a

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<v Speaker 3>new relationship, you're dating someone.

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<v Speaker 2>That you really like, and then they.

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<v Speaker 3>Go, oh, I'm gonna do a little little search on

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<v Speaker 3>this person that I'm dating, and then all of a sudden, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>they stalk you. They scroll back and they see you

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<v Speaker 3>out in a cheating X talking bad about an X.

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<v Speaker 3>To me, if that was me and I was with someone,

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<v Speaker 3>you major red.

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<v Speaker 5>FD because then you're like, oh, are they going to

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<v Speaker 5>do that to me when I cheat on them?

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<v Speaker 2>No, that's that's not what I mean. Vindictive. Yeah, it doesn't.

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't yuck.

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<v Speaker 1>But also I agree with you Brick completely, like I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to be that person. But also there's a

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<v Speaker 1>part of me that kind of goes well for so

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<v Speaker 1>long if people have been cheated on and there's no retribution,

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<v Speaker 1>like you don't, No one wins in that situation. You

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<v Speaker 1>get cheated on, you have to move forward and you

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<v Speaker 1>have to just get over it. And I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>some of these TikTok creators they're kind of getting their

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<v Speaker 1>own revenge in doing this, and also by getting their revenge,

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<v Speaker 1>they also getting huge platforms off the back of it.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's kind of I think it's an interesting tactic

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<v Speaker 1>and it is kind of changing the way we talk

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<v Speaker 1>about cheating a little bit.

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<v Speaker 6>But in terms of like, quote, get away with it,

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<v Speaker 6>what I did was make sure that everyone that mattered

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<v Speaker 6>in our lives.

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<v Speaker 5>Knew, like they knew the reason.

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<v Speaker 6>His people knew the reason, his like work colleagues, and

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<v Speaker 6>his family and everyone knew what he did.

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<v Speaker 5>And everyone in my family knew.

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<v Speaker 6>But I don't need one hundred thousand strangers to know

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<v Speaker 6>that does that does nothing for me.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what I did?

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<v Speaker 3>I when I found out that I was being cheated on,

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<v Speaker 3>I went through and found all their instagrams. There's a

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<v Speaker 3>bunch of them, and I sent them all an individual

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<v Speaker 3>voice note, Oh.

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<v Speaker 1>My god, match and then block them, every single one

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<v Speaker 1>radio presenter.

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<v Speaker 3>I wanted them to know the voice because they might

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<v Speaker 3>not know don't have the followings of Brittany Hockley, so

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<v Speaker 3>might I know their voice from the pick up?

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<v Speaker 2>So I genuinely sent them more voice notes and then

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<v Speaker 2>block them all.

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<v Speaker 6>You made the same thing, right, You're letting them know

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<v Speaker 6>that you know, and then you're cutting them.

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<v Speaker 2>From your lives. And that's just that makes me feel good?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, yeah, I don't. I find it in a really

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<v Speaker 5>interesting space. And I do think.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, we live in a world now where people

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<v Speaker 1>share everything online, and we share so much of our

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<v Speaker 1>personal lives, and this is just a whole new added

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<v Speaker 1>layer that people are exposing on their tiktoks, and it

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<v Speaker 1>does beg the question when do we keep anything for ourselves.

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<v Speaker 3>It's for followers, We don't yeh refa tifa if you

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<v Speaker 3>want to follow them on so me for beef.