1 00:00:01,080 --> 00:00:05,280 Speaker 1: Welcome to fearlessly Failing hot Seat. In this EPP, I 2 00:00:05,400 --> 00:00:09,360 Speaker 1: fire rapid questions at one of our fearlessly failing guests. 3 00:00:10,320 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 2: PS. I'm gonna be honest with you. 4 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:13,800 Speaker 1: I'm not so good at the rapid part. I get 5 00:00:13,800 --> 00:00:17,200 Speaker 1: too intrigued by the awesome answers. Now a new EPP 6 00:00:17,239 --> 00:00:20,960 Speaker 1: is going to drop every Wednesday, so enjoy this shorter 7 00:00:21,079 --> 00:00:24,560 Speaker 1: style episode of fearlessly Failing Hot Seat. 8 00:00:26,920 --> 00:00:29,640 Speaker 2: Welcome to the hot Seat. In this episode, my guest 9 00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:31,600 Speaker 2: introduces themselves. So what is your name? 10 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:33,199 Speaker 3: My friend, Gabriella Pomari? 11 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:36,279 Speaker 2: Beautiful? Oh you say it so lovely. 12 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:37,920 Speaker 3: So eloquently, the one and only. 13 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:42,000 Speaker 2: Would you say food wise? Sweet? Or savory? 14 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:42,920 Speaker 3: Oh? 15 00:00:43,040 --> 00:00:43,680 Speaker 2: No, sweet? 16 00:00:43,720 --> 00:00:44,159 Speaker 3: Definitely? 17 00:00:44,400 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 2: What would like our last favorite sweet meal? 18 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:50,000 Speaker 3: Bee? Honestly? And this is so mature, like a good 19 00:00:50,040 --> 00:00:54,080 Speaker 3: cookie sandwich, you know, like you just withce C. Yeah yeah, yeah, 20 00:00:54,680 --> 00:00:56,600 Speaker 3: you got the crunch, You got the crunch and then 21 00:00:56,600 --> 00:00:58,400 Speaker 3: you got the sweetness of the ice cream. It's just 22 00:00:58,440 --> 00:00:59,160 Speaker 3: perfect for me. 23 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:00,800 Speaker 2: Oh you are so do you know what? 24 00:01:00,840 --> 00:01:03,280 Speaker 1: You know how we were talking before this about air one. 25 00:01:03,480 --> 00:01:07,800 Speaker 1: Oh you need to get It's called the Mad Chip Sunday. 26 00:01:07,959 --> 00:01:10,000 Speaker 1: So they do a little like cone. It comes in 27 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:14,039 Speaker 1: a cup and it's dairy free. It's made from coconut milk, 28 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:16,120 Speaker 1: and so that's like the ice cream bit and then 29 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 1: they sprinkle through it their famous chocolate chip cookie and 30 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:21,520 Speaker 1: then it's like coming out of the. 31 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:23,880 Speaker 3: Top like a healthy organic ice cream sandwich. 32 00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:26,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a perfect little treat for you. Do you 33 00:01:26,520 --> 00:01:27,959 Speaker 1: have a favorite city in the world? 34 00:01:28,040 --> 00:01:28,479 Speaker 3: New York? 35 00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 1: Like over and over and over again, because I know 36 00:01:31,760 --> 00:01:33,040 Speaker 1: you're going there right going. 37 00:01:32,840 --> 00:01:34,880 Speaker 3: There on Sunday. I studied at Columbia when I was 38 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:36,640 Speaker 3: at UNI, and I just fell in love with it. 39 00:01:36,680 --> 00:01:38,919 Speaker 3: I remember actually landing in New York. I was twenty 40 00:01:40,080 --> 00:01:42,000 Speaker 3: and I know it sounds so corny, but like I 41 00:01:42,000 --> 00:01:44,080 Speaker 3: had tears in my eyes. I's like I finally got here. 42 00:01:44,120 --> 00:01:47,000 Speaker 3: I've wanted to come here forever. I never fell out 43 00:01:47,000 --> 00:01:48,720 Speaker 3: of Yeah, never fell out of love with it. 44 00:01:48,760 --> 00:01:50,000 Speaker 2: Do you ever get to go to the theater when 45 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 2: you go to New York? 46 00:01:50,640 --> 00:01:53,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm going to Chicago Monday. And this is again 47 00:01:53,840 --> 00:01:57,280 Speaker 3: very celebrity ish, but I love Secret Life of Mormon Wives. 48 00:01:57,320 --> 00:02:00,000 Speaker 3: It's like my hidden pleasure and one of the girls 49 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 3: from there is in it. So I'm like, I have 50 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:01,880 Speaker 3: to get a ticket. 51 00:02:02,080 --> 00:02:04,880 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Hunji pay? Oh how good? Oh so does 52 00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:06,120 Speaker 1: that mean you're a Bravo girl? 53 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, yeah, I love it. 54 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:14,280 Speaker 1: I just had a therapist on that's really obsessed. She's 55 00:02:14,320 --> 00:02:18,679 Speaker 1: got a pod called pop Therapy. You guys should connect. Okay, 56 00:02:19,200 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 1: So do you have a favorite nature spot. 57 00:02:21,639 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 3: It'll be at home, definitely. I think freshwater. I used 58 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:26,640 Speaker 3: to take my son all the time. There's like this 59 00:02:26,720 --> 00:02:28,560 Speaker 3: big cliff sort of thing we'd sit under there. So 60 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:31,000 Speaker 3: I think I've got the fondest memories just sound of 61 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:32,359 Speaker 3: the ocean, the sun and the sand. 62 00:02:32,639 --> 00:02:37,639 Speaker 2: Oh beautiful. What's one of your favorite qualities about yourself? 63 00:02:37,720 --> 00:02:41,880 Speaker 1: Very hard to say to a perfectionist and knowing about 64 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:42,680 Speaker 1: your next book. 65 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:46,120 Speaker 3: I think I'm resilient. And I don't know if you 66 00:02:46,160 --> 00:02:48,480 Speaker 3: can say that, but I think it is a good quality. 67 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 3: I think I've had to be really resilient, but I've 68 00:02:50,600 --> 00:02:53,560 Speaker 3: had to learn resilience as well and let myself be 69 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 3: okay with it. 70 00:02:54,400 --> 00:02:57,080 Speaker 2: Here's my theory about resilience in America. That's why they 71 00:02:57,080 --> 00:02:57,840 Speaker 2: love it Aussies. 72 00:02:58,600 --> 00:02:59,639 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you might be right. 73 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:01,720 Speaker 2: It's that Butler. 74 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:04,799 Speaker 1: Chill mentality, where like, yeah, hey, we've got this hard thing. 75 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:05,440 Speaker 2: Can you do it? 76 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:05,799 Speaker 1: Yeah? 77 00:03:05,800 --> 00:03:08,639 Speaker 3: All right, yeah, I think so you can do it 78 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:09,640 Speaker 3: and you'll get over things. 79 00:03:09,760 --> 00:03:11,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, so yeah, I love it. Do you have a 80 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:12,480 Speaker 2: pet peeve? 81 00:03:13,680 --> 00:03:13,840 Speaker 3: Oh? 82 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:17,800 Speaker 1: I think of the Hugh Grant clip of backpacks water bottles. 83 00:03:18,520 --> 00:03:20,680 Speaker 3: Oh god, no, you know I hate when people breathe 84 00:03:20,720 --> 00:03:23,440 Speaker 3: really heavy on you. Oh yeah, that's probably it, particularly 85 00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:24,679 Speaker 3: on plane. 86 00:03:24,760 --> 00:03:28,239 Speaker 2: You can tell you've been on a flight recently. Okay. 87 00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:32,920 Speaker 1: Is there a mantra or quote or something you like 88 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 1: to live by, like, I know, values are really important 89 00:03:35,520 --> 00:03:35,840 Speaker 1: to you. 90 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:41,320 Speaker 3: That's a really good one. I'm not sure. I think 91 00:03:41,320 --> 00:03:43,080 Speaker 3: it's just the idea and I don't I can't think 92 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 3: of a specific quote at the top of my head, 93 00:03:44,640 --> 00:03:47,520 Speaker 3: but that whole idea of never stopping keeping going because 94 00:03:47,520 --> 00:03:49,880 Speaker 3: I think it's so easy to just give one bad 95 00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:52,360 Speaker 3: experience or you come down yourself too hard and you 96 00:03:52,400 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 3: just want to give up on whatever it is. Yeah, 97 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:57,240 Speaker 3: but don't, because there is so much more out there 98 00:03:57,240 --> 00:03:58,480 Speaker 3: and you've got to be open to it. 99 00:03:58,880 --> 00:03:59,680 Speaker 2: Yeah. I love that. 100 00:04:00,200 --> 00:04:03,600 Speaker 1: It's that it's that momentum as well, which I think 101 00:04:03,680 --> 00:04:06,120 Speaker 1: is really important, absolutely, especially in this country. 102 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:06,680 Speaker 2: For sure. 103 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:09,680 Speaker 1: Do you have a non negotiable like something that you're like, 104 00:04:09,920 --> 00:04:13,480 Speaker 1: I have to do this for myself on the regular. 105 00:04:15,080 --> 00:04:18,760 Speaker 3: Yeah. Probably, I'm trying to think. I think I just 106 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:21,760 Speaker 3: need time to myself. I really value that literally, one 107 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:25,239 Speaker 3: on one. So we have a farmhouse and my partner 108 00:04:25,279 --> 00:04:27,560 Speaker 3: will often go there on the weekends and more and 109 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:29,840 Speaker 3: more and again it's not because I'm trying to quietly 110 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:32,840 Speaker 3: quit the relationship, but I like when he goes there 111 00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:34,280 Speaker 3: and I can just be at home on my own 112 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:36,560 Speaker 3: because I really need that one on one time with myself. 113 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:38,680 Speaker 2: It would that mean you're an would you say you're 114 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 2: an introverted? I think so. 115 00:04:40,040 --> 00:04:42,080 Speaker 3: I like people me too, Me too, But I also 116 00:04:42,160 --> 00:04:43,760 Speaker 3: just prefer being at home. And you know when your 117 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:45,479 Speaker 3: friends cancel plans and you're like thank god. 118 00:04:45,880 --> 00:04:47,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, and it seems you see all the time. 119 00:04:47,400 --> 00:04:50,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's like you get to recharge your batteries. 120 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:51,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I love it. 121 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:56,000 Speaker 1: Sometimes my I love my partner so much. And sometimes 122 00:04:56,040 --> 00:04:57,280 Speaker 1: I'll be like you got to get out of the 123 00:04:57,320 --> 00:05:00,240 Speaker 1: apartment and like what And I'm like, I you know, 124 00:05:00,279 --> 00:05:02,240 Speaker 1: if I'm learning a script, I have to do it alone. 125 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:04,599 Speaker 1: I'm like, I need to be able to like seeing 126 00:05:04,640 --> 00:05:06,880 Speaker 1: the lines out, whatever I need to do. I was like, 127 00:05:06,920 --> 00:05:08,760 Speaker 1: I just can't do it, knowing there's another human in 128 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:11,440 Speaker 1: the space, so like, and he's like, got it, got it. 129 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 1: He's like I'm going. He's like, I'm going for a 130 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:16,240 Speaker 1: burger and beer with him. I'm like, okay, great, see 131 00:05:16,279 --> 00:05:16,640 Speaker 1: you later. 132 00:05:16,760 --> 00:05:19,039 Speaker 3: I can go a burger right now, especially being here. 133 00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 1: I have got the recommendation for you. Then do you 134 00:05:22,400 --> 00:05:24,760 Speaker 1: have This is a really hard one, so you can 135 00:05:24,800 --> 00:05:26,880 Speaker 1: take your time on this, and it's a true prong question. 136 00:05:27,480 --> 00:05:28,760 Speaker 1: So the first pie is do you have a favorite 137 00:05:28,800 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 1: movie you could watch over and over? And do you 138 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:33,320 Speaker 1: have a favorite book or a book that you're reading 139 00:05:33,360 --> 00:05:36,720 Speaker 1: at the moment that you're enjoying movie? 140 00:05:36,839 --> 00:05:40,240 Speaker 3: Yeah? Ps, I love you and it's corny, but I 141 00:05:40,279 --> 00:05:41,680 Speaker 3: love it. I'm obsessed with it. 142 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:43,600 Speaker 2: Is that the one with Gerard Butler? 143 00:05:43,880 --> 00:05:45,120 Speaker 3: Yeah? And he dies? 144 00:05:45,600 --> 00:05:46,360 Speaker 2: Yeah? 145 00:05:46,440 --> 00:05:48,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know what it is. I've watched it 146 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:50,159 Speaker 3: a thousand times, but I could keep watching it. 147 00:05:50,279 --> 00:05:51,280 Speaker 2: Yeah. And he's gorgeous. 148 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:51,560 Speaker 1: Yeah. 149 00:05:51,680 --> 00:05:53,440 Speaker 3: Yeah. And what do you call them? 150 00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 2: Hall pass? 151 00:05:55,040 --> 00:05:56,800 Speaker 3: I literally said that two nights ago. He's got a 152 00:05:56,800 --> 00:05:58,320 Speaker 3: new movie out and we were watching it at home. 153 00:05:58,360 --> 00:06:00,520 Speaker 3: I'm like, he still is my board pass and and 154 00:06:00,760 --> 00:06:03,160 Speaker 3: whole past and my partner was like, he's fat, now 155 00:06:03,160 --> 00:06:04,920 Speaker 3: he's old. I'm like, nah, still go there. 156 00:06:04,839 --> 00:06:07,280 Speaker 1: And the accent as wow. Also, I think that movie 157 00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:12,120 Speaker 1: was shot in Australia. He's been in Australia recently, Melbourne, Melbourne. 158 00:06:11,760 --> 00:06:12,240 Speaker 2: Might be right. 159 00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:13,400 Speaker 3: Well there you go. I missed out. 160 00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:15,760 Speaker 2: Yeah so close, so close. 161 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:21,120 Speaker 3: And that book yeah yeah, twofold. I guess because like 162 00:06:21,160 --> 00:06:25,159 Speaker 3: a fiction. I love Time Traveler's Wife. Yeah, nothing like 163 00:06:25,200 --> 00:06:27,599 Speaker 3: the movie. Like the book itself, I would have been 164 00:06:27,680 --> 00:06:29,920 Speaker 3: like twenty when I read it, but it's like instilled 165 00:06:29,920 --> 00:06:32,880 Speaker 3: in my mind. I just loved it. But then and again, 166 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:35,280 Speaker 3: I know everyone's obsessed with her, but I love Meil Robbins, 167 00:06:35,360 --> 00:06:37,599 Speaker 3: the whole Levedon theory. That had a lot of value 168 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:39,240 Speaker 3: for me. And I didn't read it all in one go. 169 00:06:39,760 --> 00:06:41,720 Speaker 3: I read snippets at a time. I can't read those 170 00:06:41,760 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 3: books from start to finish. It nonfiction always just hard. 171 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 3: But I'd read bits they'd resonate with me, and then 172 00:06:47,960 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 3: I keep going a bit. I'm like, I really get this. 173 00:06:50,400 --> 00:06:52,920 Speaker 1: If you love that, you're going to love her. Seven questions. 174 00:06:52,960 --> 00:06:53,719 Speaker 1: Have you heard about it? 175 00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:54,960 Speaker 3: I've heard it, but I haven't read it. 176 00:06:55,640 --> 00:06:57,000 Speaker 2: I don't know if she's written about it. 177 00:06:57,000 --> 00:07:00,479 Speaker 1: It's mainly on her podcast, But basically you can do 178 00:07:00,520 --> 00:07:01,960 Speaker 1: it at the end of the year, but I liked 179 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 1: you in the middle of the year as well. And 180 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:05,719 Speaker 1: you just take stock of these seven questions and you've 181 00:07:05,720 --> 00:07:07,200 Speaker 1: got to have your phone with you to scroll through 182 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:10,120 Speaker 1: all your photos. Should have happened to you in the year, 183 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:12,520 Speaker 1: best thing that happened to you in the year, what 184 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:14,960 Speaker 1: you loved and you want to continue, So for you 185 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:17,720 Speaker 1: touring America, all that you know, and then what you 186 00:07:17,760 --> 00:07:21,320 Speaker 1: did that you want to discontinue, like people pleasing or 187 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:24,480 Speaker 1: carrying too many balls in the air, all that kind 188 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:26,240 Speaker 1: of stuff, and then it's like, what are you going 189 00:07:26,280 --> 00:07:29,960 Speaker 1: to change today to impact you. It's really CD that 190 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:32,920 Speaker 1: highly recommend I would recommend doing it every six months 191 00:07:32,960 --> 00:07:36,560 Speaker 1: if you're a higher chiamber. Final question. When you get 192 00:07:36,560 --> 00:07:39,000 Speaker 1: a bit of good news, who is the first person 193 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:39,400 Speaker 1: you call? 194 00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:45,640 Speaker 3: Oh, it's a controversial one, is it? Well? You should 195 00:07:45,720 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 3: tell your life Partney your good news, shouldn't you. Yeah? 196 00:07:50,840 --> 00:07:52,720 Speaker 3: To be honest, I'm a bit of a dad's girl. 197 00:07:52,720 --> 00:07:54,960 Speaker 3: I've spoken about him so much on this podcast. Yeah, 198 00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:58,400 Speaker 3: but I think Dad, Yeah, really, I think we've got 199 00:07:58,440 --> 00:08:01,200 Speaker 3: such similar personalities. As bad as it is that, I'm 200 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:03,000 Speaker 3: always like I want to tell him and mind you, 201 00:08:03,040 --> 00:08:04,720 Speaker 3: I don't think i've ever heard the words come out 202 00:08:04,720 --> 00:08:07,160 Speaker 3: of his mouth I'm proud or good on you, Like 203 00:08:07,160 --> 00:08:08,880 Speaker 3: I think I know he is deep down, but he'll 204 00:08:08,880 --> 00:08:09,440 Speaker 3: never say it. 205 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:12,800 Speaker 2: Oh wow, So you're both that high achiever, go get it. 206 00:08:12,880 --> 00:08:16,760 Speaker 3: Very closed but not cold. I haven't call myself cold, 207 00:08:16,800 --> 00:08:19,040 Speaker 3: but a little bit. I could definitely show more warmth. 208 00:08:19,360 --> 00:08:21,280 Speaker 2: But you feel so warm to me though. 209 00:08:21,880 --> 00:08:24,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I've got ideas on life, but I think 210 00:08:24,480 --> 00:08:26,920 Speaker 3: I'm still very closed off to proper feeling. And that 211 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:30,360 Speaker 3: might just be from life experience and trauma and everyone 212 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:32,719 Speaker 3: tell you. But yeah, I think I could be a 213 00:08:32,760 --> 00:08:34,120 Speaker 3: little bit more warm, a bit more warm. 214 00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:38,920 Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, it's good that you've got that. Is it introspective? 215 00:08:38,920 --> 00:08:41,120 Speaker 2: Like you've got that understanding about yourself? Yeah? 216 00:08:41,160 --> 00:08:43,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, I know that's one of my biggest flaws. Yeah. 217 00:08:43,240 --> 00:08:45,440 Speaker 2: Oh well, we can where all the work and preak. 218 00:08:45,920 --> 00:08:48,760 Speaker 1: Promise me when you bring out your next book, we'll 219 00:08:48,800 --> 00:08:49,839 Speaker 1: get you back on the pod. 220 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:52,160 Speaker 3: That's it. Fifteen our flight straight. 221 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:55,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, real, brill real, Thank you so much for jumping 222 00:08:55,760 --> 00:08:57,080 Speaker 1: on your wonderful, my brain