WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: Should you leave your husband if he doesn't pull his weight around the house? 0:00:12.640 --> 0:00:20.439 Laura, come on Thursday. 0:00:20.480 --> 0:00:22.480 Hello, happy Thursday team. 0:00:22.800 --> 0:00:25.400 I am going to bring you something today that could 0:00:25.640 --> 0:00:27.880 quite possibly change your life. 0:00:28.160 --> 0:00:28.920 I'm ready for it. 0:00:28.960 --> 0:00:31.320 So I've always thought of myself as a little bit 0:00:31.360 --> 0:00:33.479 of a wine connoisseur, like I love a red wine, 0:00:33.560 --> 0:00:34.000 not white. 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:36.600 Couldn't care less. Oh I know what this hack is? Yeah, 0:00:36.600 --> 0:00:38.160 but I love the red wine. 0:00:38.400 --> 0:00:43.199 And my partner Ben, he's European, and he's got me 0:00:43.240 --> 0:00:46.240 onto a new drink that he said, the local Spanish dude, 0:00:46.560 --> 0:00:49.159 it's like the really really local version of a sangriau. 0:00:49.320 --> 0:00:52.760 I know what this is, so he gets I think 0:00:52.760 --> 0:00:56.160 he actually might have made you. It's a for those 0:00:56.160 --> 0:00:58.120 playing at home then, because me, Laura couldn't care less. 0:00:58.160 --> 0:01:00.800 It's a it's a half a glass of red wine 0:01:01.200 --> 0:01:03.520 and then loads of ice and then you put the 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:05.840 other half just fanter like Orange fans. 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:07.800 Fan thought this was gonna be coked. 0:01:07.880 --> 0:01:10.280 No, you've over said this, because the reason why I'm 0:01:10.319 --> 0:01:11.800 laughing is not because I couldn't care less. 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:13.240 Of course I care it actually is. 0:01:13.319 --> 0:01:16.960 It sounds disgusting Fanta and red wine, but it is 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:19.760 actually delicious. The reason why I'm laughing is because you 0:01:19.880 --> 0:01:21.840 really played a hard game there. But you're like, it's 0:01:21.840 --> 0:01:22.920 gonna change your life. 0:01:22.959 --> 0:01:23.240 It is. 0:01:23.319 --> 0:01:25.480 I would dare say my life has not been changed, 0:01:25.520 --> 0:01:27.360 but I I weirdly enjoyed it. 0:01:27.440 --> 0:01:29.679 Well against it, my life has changed because you can 0:01:29.720 --> 0:01:33.400 still enjoy your glass of red wine but not feel 0:01:33.400 --> 0:01:35.479 bad in any capacity like the next day because it's 0:01:35.520 --> 0:01:36.800 half watered. 0:01:37.200 --> 0:01:40.080 Can hear me out though, No person, no normal person 0:01:40.120 --> 0:01:42.479 is hearing that combo red wine and Fanta and thinks 0:01:42.480 --> 0:01:45.000 that that's a good like at first take. No one's 0:01:45.000 --> 0:01:47.680 thinking that's a good idea. But we'll all do an 0:01:47.720 --> 0:01:49.840 orange juice with a bit of champagne. Mimosa. 0:01:49.960 --> 0:01:51.160 Tell me, it's just what you know. 0:01:51.360 --> 0:01:52.800 So you know what my go to drink is at 0:01:52.800 --> 0:01:53.120 the pub. 0:01:54.000 --> 0:01:56.840 Yours is a Shandy Probably, Oh, you're such a giant child. 0:01:56.920 --> 0:01:58.279 I love a Shandy's. 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:02.320 Giant child. Or you're like a ninety year old nana. 0:02:02.440 --> 0:02:05.520 Yeah, yeah, I think I identify more with than Ben 0:02:05.600 --> 0:02:08.639 made me one the other night when Delicious. 0:02:08.160 --> 0:02:10.680 He's really on the Fanto train at the moment about 0:02:10.680 --> 0:02:11.000 we went. 0:02:10.880 --> 0:02:13.360 Out for dinner to pick up team dinner, and they went, Laura, 0:02:13.360 --> 0:02:14.600 can we get you drink? You order to wine, but 0:02:14.760 --> 0:02:16.720 you order wine and Ben goes I'll get a fanta please. 0:02:16.880 --> 0:02:20.359 Yeah, And that's that moment where you're like, yeah, he 0:02:20.480 --> 0:02:21.000 belongs to me. 0:02:21.200 --> 0:02:23.760 Is European? Is europe in a different style? All right? 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:25.920 Next to start the show, we haven't ask uncut. 0:02:25.960 --> 0:02:27.880 We're going to give one listen to help with their 0:02:28.000 --> 0:02:30.240 marriage and the husband doesn't do anything around the house. 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:32.200 This feels like a tale as old as times. They 0:02:32.280 --> 0:02:34.320 got a kid, she's struggling. 0:02:34.120 --> 0:02:35.840 She needs help. That's what we're here for. 0:02:35.880 --> 0:02:37.720 That's right, we'll chat to an next here around Australia, 0:02:37.760 --> 0:02:39.400 crack open a fan to and a bottle of red. 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:43.600 Guys doing it here Subway. 0:02:43.600 --> 0:02:45.760 It's time for this. It's a Thursday. Let's jump into 0:02:46.440 --> 0:02:51.280 Ask Cut. Yeah, ask gun Cut. We give some advice 0:02:51.360 --> 0:02:52.760 to our audience, don't we. You guys do this on 0:02:52.800 --> 0:02:54.280 the podcast every week Life on Cut. 0:02:54.400 --> 0:02:54.680 We do. 0:02:54.720 --> 0:02:55.919 We do it on Life on Cut every week. 0:02:55.960 --> 0:02:57.960 It's where you guys are call in with your your biggest, 0:02:58.000 --> 0:03:00.399 your deepest, your darkest dilemmas. And even though we are 0:03:00.400 --> 0:03:03.640 not trained psychologists, we try really hard to give half 0:03:03.680 --> 0:03:04.400 reasonable advice. 0:03:04.440 --> 0:03:04.880 Put it that way. 0:03:04.919 --> 0:03:07.680 It's almost like friends friends advice, Like you know, advice 0:03:07.720 --> 0:03:08.720 from a friend that you're going. 0:03:08.560 --> 0:03:10.600 Through it all that advice no one's paying for you 0:03:10.680 --> 0:03:11.239 put it that way. 0:03:11.560 --> 0:03:14.480 True, Well, Luis, no, don't transfer us any cash. Please 0:03:15.160 --> 0:03:17.120 hear this with your problem? What's going on something in 0:03:17.160 --> 0:03:17.880 your relationship? 0:03:17.960 --> 0:03:19.160 Yeah? 0:03:19.240 --> 0:03:23.720 Yeah, So my husband and I have been having pretty 0:03:23.800 --> 0:03:26.600 much the same fight over and over again over the 0:03:26.639 --> 0:03:30.440 last few months. I have a one year old son 0:03:31.120 --> 0:03:35.160 and I'm working full time. So when I just before 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:37.160 I went back to work full time, I was like, Okay, look, 0:03:37.160 --> 0:03:39.720 I'm going to need a lot of extra help around 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:42.640 the house, help with the washing, the cooking, looking after 0:03:42.680 --> 0:03:46.040 the baby. And everything hasn't really worked out that way, 0:03:46.160 --> 0:03:49.040 so it's still pretty much all on me to do 0:03:49.480 --> 0:03:52.560 the grocery shopping, the cooking, the cleaning, the washing, looking 0:03:52.640 --> 0:03:53.640 after the baby. 0:03:55.360 --> 0:03:57.320 Have you had I mean, I'm guessing if this has 0:03:57.360 --> 0:03:59.560 been like a reoccurring fight and argument that you're having, 0:03:59.800 --> 0:04:03.600 what does he say when you bring it up with him? 0:04:03.880 --> 0:04:08.480 He promises to try better, and it kind of gets 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:10.560 better for a couple of weeks and then gets bad again. 0:04:10.800 --> 0:04:13.880 But Luisa, what's he doing instead of helping you? Is 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:15.640 he at work and he's just saying he's got a 0:04:15.680 --> 0:04:17.800 snap back late, or does he just come home and sit. 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:19.760 On the lounge and he's like, I'm tired, I've had 0:04:19.800 --> 0:04:23.240 a big day. Like what you doing Xbox? 0:04:23.760 --> 0:04:26.640 So he comes home with Xbox instead of helping you. Okay, 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:28.279 see that changes everything. 0:04:28.400 --> 0:04:28.920 That is. 0:04:30.560 --> 0:04:31.839 Like four hours a day. 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:32.600 No way. 0:04:32.760 --> 0:04:36.120 It's so odd because I think like often you think, oh, well, 0:04:36.120 --> 0:04:38.800 when we have kids, my partner's behavior is going to change, 0:04:38.800 --> 0:04:40.760 so you just assume that, like when you have a child, 0:04:41.080 --> 0:04:43.400 your husband's going to stop playing four hours of Xbox. 0:04:43.440 --> 0:04:45.320 But if they're doing it before you have kids, often 0:04:45.400 --> 0:04:47.760 the behavior doesn't just change because you have children. 0:04:47.880 --> 0:04:50.200 So not that you should have to do this, Louisa, 0:04:50.279 --> 0:04:52.480 like you absolutely shouldn't have to do it, but can 0:04:52.560 --> 0:04:55.039 you just start doing things for yourself in a way, 0:04:55.160 --> 0:04:57.719 like so make some dinner for you, don't make it 0:04:57.720 --> 0:04:59.880 for him, do your washing, don't do his washing. So 0:05:00.080 --> 0:05:02.359 eventually he's like, oh, if I want to do anything, 0:05:02.360 --> 0:05:03.880 I have to contribute myself. 0:05:05.040 --> 0:05:08.240 I could Yeah, I mean, like I definitely could try 0:05:08.279 --> 0:05:11.279 doing that. He'd probably get pretty annoyed with me. 0:05:11.400 --> 0:05:13.120 I was going to say, I think that will become 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:14.640 I think that's the right thing to do, but I 0:05:14.640 --> 0:05:16.520 think it's going to become petty. I don't know this guy, 0:05:16.600 --> 0:05:18.520 but by the sound, that's going to piss him off 0:05:18.520 --> 0:05:20.720 if you can't even regulate his emotion to help out 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:21.360 his wife. 0:05:23.680 --> 0:05:24.360 Yeah. 0:05:24.400 --> 0:05:26.920 But the problem is, though, is like I think there's 0:05:26.920 --> 0:05:29.039 only so long you can have the same fight on 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:32.600 repeat and nothing changes, especially if someone's saying they're going 0:05:32.640 --> 0:05:34.560 to change their behavior and they're going to help more, 0:05:34.560 --> 0:05:35.760 and then they do it for a couple of weeks 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:39.479 and then they fall back into old patterns. I mean, truthfully, 0:05:39.640 --> 0:05:41.840 I do think that that's like, it's not a healthy 0:05:41.839 --> 0:05:43.440 way of going about it. But I also kind of 0:05:43.440 --> 0:05:44.760 think you get to a point where you have no 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:47.360 other option, Like if your other option is just leaving, 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:49.240 if he's not going to go and do something like 0:05:49.320 --> 0:05:53.200 couple's counseling, or he's not going to even try and 0:05:53.279 --> 0:05:55.880 assess that the fact that he has a gaming potentially 0:05:55.880 --> 0:05:58.320 a gaming addiction, that it's coming in the way of 0:05:58.360 --> 0:06:00.719 your relationship, that I would say, there comes a point 0:06:00.720 --> 0:06:02.360 where you're like, cool, I'm not doing these things for 0:06:02.400 --> 0:06:04.840 you anymore because you're not you're not helping me, you're 0:06:04.839 --> 0:06:06.480 not participating this relationship. 0:06:07.279 --> 0:06:10.960 He is open to counseling, which is great. I'm really 0:06:10.960 --> 0:06:13.360 really happy that he's opened to it. 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:15.880 It is so expense, isn't it. 0:06:15.880 --> 0:06:20.000 It's insane because you get I mean, obviously, if you 0:06:20.040 --> 0:06:23.880 do therapy on your own, Medicare covers a certain portion 0:06:23.920 --> 0:06:27.640 of it. It's a couple of counseling. Nothing's covered by Medicare's. 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:30.680 They're out of pockets the entire amount. And it is pricey. 0:06:30.839 --> 0:06:33.080 Put summer charge you makes three hundred, two hundred and 0:06:33.120 --> 0:06:34.360 fifty dollars per session. 0:06:34.560 --> 0:06:37.359 That's so interesting that it's free if you go on 0:06:37.360 --> 0:06:40.200 your own, but not if you're having problems as a relationship. 0:06:40.520 --> 0:06:44.520 I don't think my suggestion in all honesty is that unhealthy. 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:46.920 And the reason I say that is the definition of 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:49.320 insanity is doing the same thing over and over again 0:06:49.440 --> 0:06:51.599 and wanting a different response. And if you come home 0:06:51.640 --> 0:06:54.159 every day and you're doing the same thing, which is 0:06:54.279 --> 0:06:57.039 cleaning the house and providing for him and giving him food, 0:06:57.080 --> 0:06:59.480 he's not going why would you change when everything's handed 0:06:59.520 --> 0:07:01.240 to and apply up. But if you start to take 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:04.880 away what he expects and what the basics that he 0:07:04.960 --> 0:07:07.240 needs to survive, like cooking him food and doing his watching. 0:07:07.279 --> 0:07:09.360 If he has to do that for himself, it might 0:07:09.440 --> 0:07:12.080 actually make a change. And then if he doesn't, if 0:07:12.080 --> 0:07:14.000 you have spoken about this and you've told him how 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:16.400 you feel and you're doing those things and he's still 0:07:16.480 --> 0:07:19.880 just sitting at home on his xbox, it's a really 0:07:20.040 --> 0:07:22.000 really serious conversation about the future. 0:07:22.080 --> 0:07:24.920 Yeah, I'm so sorry, going through so hard. 0:07:25.320 --> 0:07:27.320 Yeah, I'm sorry. 0:07:27.440 --> 0:07:29.880 Well, thank you for giving us a call. Try try therapy, 0:07:30.000 --> 0:07:31.360 try those little things, and then. 0:07:31.880 --> 0:07:32.760 The xbox out of the window. 0:07:32.760 --> 0:07:38.320 If that doesn't work, before you guys, let me go. 0:07:38.440 --> 0:07:40.240 I just want to say a really, really, really massive 0:07:40.280 --> 0:07:41.400 congratulations for it. 0:07:41.800 --> 0:07:44.640 Oh, thank you so much. 0:07:44.720 --> 0:07:49.960 I have watched that video time and so thumbs and 0:07:50.040 --> 0:07:50.880 tears every time. 0:07:51.280 --> 0:07:52.720 Oh I engagement. 0:07:54.160 --> 0:07:56.280 Yeah, it means a lot. We watch it on repeat too. 0:07:56.280 --> 0:07:57.160 It's probably the only view. 0:07:59.520 --> 0:08:01.000 Thank you, good luck. 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:02.600 Yeah, we're all thinking of you. 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:06.360 So back again to play this, ladies, you do. 0:08:07.800 --> 0:08:08.960 Where to Walmers? 0:08:09.600 --> 0:08:09.880 Yep. 0:08:10.240 --> 0:08:12.600 There's not a thing, not a lot of things that 0:08:12.760 --> 0:08:15.320 I love more than giving away money. 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:16.000 I love it. 0:08:16.080 --> 0:08:18.040 I just feel like I'm Oprah and I'm like, you 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:19.560 get a box, you get a box, you. 0:08:19.520 --> 0:08:20.080 Get some cash. 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:22.480 And today, thanks to Target, we are giving away more money. 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:25.040 The easiest competition you're ever going to have to do. 0:08:25.120 --> 0:08:27.680 You literally call up pick a box and you win 0:08:27.720 --> 0:08:29.720 what's inside. It requires zero skill. 0:08:29.840 --> 0:08:31.200 Yeah, it really does, doesn't it. 0:08:31.240 --> 0:08:32.880 Every day this week we've given away some cash. 0:08:32.920 --> 0:08:34.240 You know what, Maybe we need to think about our 0:08:34.240 --> 0:08:36.400 competitions here at the pickup. We can make them harder. 0:08:36.200 --> 0:08:38.040 If we really want to just call them, We're going 0:08:38.080 --> 0:08:40.120 to give you them in a box. Speak to us well. 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:41.719 And also it's getting easier as the week goes on, 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:43.040 because there's only two boxes left. 0:08:43.120 --> 0:08:44.440 So by tomorrow it's really easy. 0:08:44.480 --> 0:08:46.439 You don't get to pick you just get a box. 0:08:46.160 --> 0:08:48.680 And it's got money. Maybe we should add something else, 0:08:48.679 --> 0:08:50.760 like a chicken or something well, maybe. 0:08:50.600 --> 0:08:51.120 Like a quiz. 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:53.640 At least it still make it harder for them at 0:08:53.640 --> 0:08:54.000 this point. 0:08:54.080 --> 0:08:57.199 True. Today we're meeting Chantelle. She's joining us. Hey, Chantelle, 0:08:57.240 --> 0:08:58.120 where are you in the world? 0:08:59.120 --> 0:08:59.320 Hi? 0:08:59.600 --> 0:09:00.760 I meandne. 0:09:02.400 --> 0:09:04.199 Hey will listen. We've got two boxes left. 0:09:04.640 --> 0:09:06.959 I've got box number five and then you've got the 0:09:06.960 --> 0:09:07.840 second last box. 0:09:07.960 --> 0:09:09.640 Yeah, I have box number four. 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:12.720 But Chantelle, if you win a bit of pat cash today, 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:13.760 what are you going to buy with it? 0:09:13.800 --> 0:09:14.320 From Target? 0:09:15.840 --> 0:09:16.280 Probably? 0:09:16.320 --> 0:09:17.800 Something for my new apartment. 0:09:17.960 --> 0:09:21.080 So me and my fiance bought, so that would definitely 0:09:21.559 --> 0:09:22.200 help us out. 0:09:22.600 --> 0:09:24.760 Well, yeah, I'm assuming you broke now because you bought 0:09:24.800 --> 0:09:25.360 in Sydney. 0:09:25.400 --> 0:09:27.839 So yeah, that's how it works. Well, you get to 0:09:27.920 --> 0:09:28.760 choose one of the boxes. 0:09:28.800 --> 0:09:30.400 One will have more money in it than the other, 0:09:30.480 --> 0:09:34.080 but you'll win money regardless target Team Brittany. 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:34.320 Or Team Mitch. 0:09:34.400 --> 0:09:36.840 Today, we're not going to take it personally. 0:09:37.880 --> 0:09:39.520 I think I'm Team Brittany. 0:09:40.240 --> 0:09:44.439 Sorry, now you do take a person Well, hopefully someone 0:09:44.440 --> 0:09:45.520 picks my box tomorrow. 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:49.920 All right, we'll have to. Yes, that was the I'm opening. 0:09:50.040 --> 0:09:52.680 The gold is going off, the rapper is coming off, 0:09:55.160 --> 0:09:56.360 the other rappers coming off. 0:09:56.520 --> 0:10:00.400 Whoever wraps the box has been opened. In depth, here 0:10:00.480 --> 0:10:03.080 we go to Chantel. How much does she want? Chantal? 0:10:03.240 --> 0:10:08.840 Is your lucky day a thousand dollars? Targets a thousand bucks? 0:10:08.880 --> 0:10:09.560 It's not bad. 0:10:10.400 --> 0:10:11.800 That is so much. 0:10:12.800 --> 0:10:13.079 Wow. 0:10:13.400 --> 0:10:15.920 I was actually not feeling that confident deep down. So 0:10:16.000 --> 0:10:19.040 I'm really glad you've actually done very well. All the 0:10:19.120 --> 0:10:21.000 money has been with BRIT so far, like everyone who' 0:10:21.080 --> 0:10:21.960 chosen BRIT has won a. 0:10:21.960 --> 0:10:22.400 Lot of money. 0:10:22.520 --> 0:10:25.440 Actually, yeah, make that a headline. Unfortunately, no one has 0:10:25.520 --> 0:10:26.240 chosen Mitch yet. 0:10:26.559 --> 0:10:28.360 One of the odds, I'll open my box tomorrow and 0:10:28.720 --> 0:10:31.280 you've won yourself three dollars fifty in points. 0:10:31.800 --> 0:10:33.319 Oh look, you can go and get lots of things 0:10:33.360 --> 0:10:33.880 for your house with that. 0:10:33.960 --> 0:10:35.520 One thousand bucks of cent of Target is not good 0:10:35.559 --> 0:10:35.800 at all. 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:37.720 Yeah, they're so They're so good. They're made for season 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:39.560 after season. You can shop in store, online or via 0:10:39.559 --> 0:10:41.520 the Target app. Chantel deck your house out, send us 0:10:41.520 --> 0:10:43.360 before and after picks. We want to see the new apartment. 0:10:44.040 --> 0:10:44.800 Thank you so much. 0:10:44.840 --> 0:10:45.080 Guys. 0:10:45.800 --> 0:10:46.839 Yes, I won't be doing that. 0:10:46.920 --> 0:10:48.920 She's still sending. 0:10:50.400 --> 0:10:54.559 Weird one final box in Mitch Jury's hands. And you 0:10:54.640 --> 0:10:56.080 know what, I might not just open out a spite. 0:10:56.120 --> 0:10:56.760 I might take it home. 0:10:56.840 --> 0:10:58.920 People probably won't call because it's probably. 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:01.320 I know I wanted more. I don't want Mitch's box. 0:11:01.480 --> 0:11:03.000 Tomorrow's box just has moths in it. 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:04.199 Everyone doesn't listen. 0:11:06.240 --> 0:11:07.080 It was like fifty cents. 0:11:08.640 --> 0:11:10.520 No, we've got a lot to give away still tomorrow 0:11:10.640 --> 0:11:12.040 guarantee off by Mitch's box. 0:11:12.360 --> 0:11:14.880 Oh not the first time we've said that. I guaranteed 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:17.000 cash to spend it. Target up for grabs tomorrow on 0:11:17.080 --> 0:11:18.240 the show. If you want to get in touch with 0:11:18.240 --> 0:11:19.600 you dms at the pickup or give us a call 0:11:19.800 --> 0:11:23.240 back after this. Hey listen, I am I know you 0:11:23.320 --> 0:11:25.200 girls are just getting into it, but you've just started 0:11:25.280 --> 0:11:25.960 Blow Deck. 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:28.679 I've been into it for a little while, to be honest. 0:11:29.160 --> 0:11:30.520 I was like, I'm going to see what all the 0:11:30.559 --> 0:11:33.880 fuss is about maybe two years ago, because everyone's talking 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:34.199 about it. 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:36.920 This is such a wildly, hugely popular show. 0:11:37.400 --> 0:11:38.480 And I'm not gonna lie. 0:11:38.679 --> 0:11:41.079 Not many reality shows getting hooked and I was no 0:11:41.160 --> 0:11:42.240 pun intended hook line. 0:11:42.320 --> 0:11:44.400 And I don't say sinker. That's the last thing you 0:11:44.480 --> 0:11:46.439 want on the Blow franchise and that boat to go 0:11:46.559 --> 0:11:47.160 out of the ocean. 0:11:47.640 --> 0:11:50.080 We love the season. If you're a watcher, you will 0:11:50.160 --> 0:11:53.400 know Captain Sandy. She's the only female captain in the 0:11:53.520 --> 0:11:55.640 entire franchise. She's been on since season two and she's 0:11:55.679 --> 0:11:57.600 back a brand new season streaming on. Hey you now, 0:11:57.679 --> 0:12:06.160 doctor Sandy, welcome, Thank you. We've got to ask back 0:12:06.200 --> 0:12:08.199 for another season. What keeps you coming back more and 0:12:08.280 --> 0:12:10.480 more and more every season? You're the fan favorite these days. 0:12:11.200 --> 0:12:13.600 Well, I love being a captain. I love running boats, 0:12:13.800 --> 0:12:17.080 and I love training the crew because, as you see, 0:12:17.280 --> 0:12:20.960 I get a lot of green crew. So yeah, that's 0:12:21.160 --> 0:12:24.400 like it's the best job on the planet. I think. 0:12:25.200 --> 0:12:27.200 I also, I mean, I staw in a recent interview, 0:12:27.240 --> 0:12:30.000 you were saying that you originally didn't know if you 0:12:30.040 --> 0:12:32.160 wanted to do the show because you were kind of 0:12:32.240 --> 0:12:35.120 worried about what that could do to your reputation or 0:12:35.200 --> 0:12:39.040 how it could be perceived. How like, I mean, obviously 0:12:39.080 --> 0:12:40.920 it's played out very, very well for you, but there's 0:12:40.920 --> 0:12:43.319 surely there must be moments where you're like, wow, how 0:12:43.480 --> 0:12:44.200 is this my life? 0:12:44.280 --> 0:12:44.439 Now? 0:12:45.520 --> 0:12:49.599 Yes, absolutely, I wasn't sure about doing the show, and 0:12:49.679 --> 0:12:52.319 then I thought to myself, when a door of opportunity opens, 0:12:52.360 --> 0:12:54.319 I'll walk through it because I think I can always 0:12:54.360 --> 0:12:56.480 turn around and walk back out. So I did that. 0:12:57.000 --> 0:13:01.559 I had no idea at the level level of popularity 0:13:01.640 --> 0:13:05.400 the show would take. I was clueless completely. And now 0:13:06.240 --> 0:13:10.240 it's it's it's a different life. It's just a good life, 0:13:10.280 --> 0:13:12.200 but it's you know, I had to adjust. 0:13:12.559 --> 0:13:16.080 But Sandy, you've been in the maritime I mean industry 0:13:16.160 --> 0:13:18.920 for thirty odd years. When you say you're worried about 0:13:18.960 --> 0:13:23.319 this affecting your reputation, I would assume that we that 0:13:23.440 --> 0:13:26.199 much experience your reputation is already really solid. Are you 0:13:26.280 --> 0:13:28.760 worried about it because of the drama that unfolds on 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:30.800 the show. Do you thought that like other captains would 0:13:30.800 --> 0:13:32.320 look at you like you are less than. 0:13:33.360 --> 0:13:36.760 No, it's about the owners that hire you, right, it's 0:13:36.880 --> 0:13:40.480 very salacious the show. The owners are very private. It 0:13:40.640 --> 0:13:43.000 wasn't about the crew or the industry. It was more 0:13:43.040 --> 0:13:47.480 about getting hired by an individual after someone's been on 0:13:47.559 --> 0:13:51.520 a TV show. So yeah, because you know we sign NDAs, 0:13:51.800 --> 0:13:56.400 the privacy is very strict on board, especially with the owners. 0:13:56.880 --> 0:13:58.760 Did any of these come as as surprise to you though, 0:13:58.760 --> 0:14:00.280 I mean, knowing that you've worked in the indie street 0:14:00.320 --> 0:14:03.600 for so long, were you already kind of thinking like, wow, 0:14:03.679 --> 0:14:05.559 a lot of drama happens on these boats, Like a 0:14:05.640 --> 0:14:08.400 lot of drama happens between the crew, and like this 0:14:08.559 --> 0:14:09.600 is a story to be told. 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:17.080 Absolutely, it actually happened. It's it happens every day at sea. 0:14:17.640 --> 0:14:21.080 Just ask any captain that's not on below decks. You 0:14:21.200 --> 0:14:24.600 go through crew, then you find the crew that actually stay. 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:26.760 You just have to pay the good ones more money. 0:14:27.080 --> 0:14:31.360 Yeah, family, I'm sure sure you know he's a potential spinoff. 0:14:31.400 --> 0:14:32.320 It might already exist. 0:14:32.400 --> 0:14:33.920 To be honest with you, I think a great spinoff 0:14:33.960 --> 0:14:38.640 would be blow deck like you know, no elderly like 0:14:38.800 --> 0:14:39.640 an old. 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:44.280 Ye, you can do it, you can. Because people always 0:14:44.320 --> 0:14:45.160 die on these cruises. 0:14:45.760 --> 0:14:48.360 It's not a story that anyone wants to explore on 0:14:48.440 --> 0:14:49.520 these old people cruises. 0:14:49.640 --> 0:14:51.360 Yeah, some of the big cruise ships have and you'd 0:14:51.400 --> 0:14:54.400 know Captain that that. Obviously they have morgs on these 0:14:54.400 --> 0:14:55.600 big ships for when people die. 0:14:55.640 --> 0:14:58.720 It's true, yes, of course, and we put them in 0:14:58.800 --> 0:14:59.320 the freezer. 0:14:59.720 --> 0:15:02.960 So have you done that? 0:15:03.240 --> 0:15:03.280 No? 0:15:03.960 --> 0:15:09.480 No, Sandy. Who's the most famous person that maybe you're 0:15:09.520 --> 0:15:10.760 allowed to tell us you've ever had? 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:14.800 Well, Johnny Damon is a famous baseball player. I had 0:15:14.840 --> 0:15:18.960 Gigi Fernandez, who was you know, she's a gold medalist 0:15:19.080 --> 0:15:22.640 like time after time again, and you know, like athletes. 0:15:23.480 --> 0:15:27.080 But the celebrities, yeah, we sign an NDA, so lots 0:15:27.080 --> 0:15:27.280 of them. 0:15:27.320 --> 0:15:30.400 You just can't say, that's what I'm well. 0:15:30.840 --> 0:15:34.040 Our beautiful Brittany here just got engaged this week, captain 0:15:34.160 --> 0:15:34.960 on a yacht. 0:15:35.400 --> 0:15:39.560 Congratulations, thank you the love of my life, my Swiss boyfriend. 0:15:39.640 --> 0:15:41.600 Yes, he proposed on a super yacht. Do you get 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:44.520 many proposals happening all the time. 0:15:46.160 --> 0:15:48.840 Special. It's a way to do it. 0:15:48.920 --> 0:15:51.520 We're special. I mean he charted a yacht. Ye has 0:15:51.560 --> 0:15:53.000 to marry him. That's pretty special. 0:15:53.160 --> 0:15:53.360 Yeah. 0:15:53.360 --> 0:15:56.320 Well, actually speaking of is the word super in front 0:15:56.320 --> 0:15:56.480 of it? 0:15:56.600 --> 0:15:57.040 So was it? 0:15:58.200 --> 0:15:59.920 Yeah, the way my story goes, it was a super. 0:16:01.200 --> 0:16:02.440 It was a beautiful yeful. 0:16:02.960 --> 0:16:05.280 Hey you just got married yourself. What happened on with 0:16:05.320 --> 0:16:06.720 that wedding. I've got some photos in front of me, 0:16:06.800 --> 0:16:10.680 absolutely gorgeous. You are both wearing white. It's stunning you now. 0:16:10.640 --> 0:16:11.800 You know, got a beautiful wife. 0:16:12.720 --> 0:16:15.680 Yes, it changed my life. Like I had no idea. 0:16:15.720 --> 0:16:18.960 We had been together five years. I was like, what's 0:16:19.000 --> 0:16:22.800 the big deal? Like, okay, So then it happened and 0:16:22.920 --> 0:16:27.200