Speaker 1: Laura, come on Thursday.
Speaker 2: Hello, happy Thursday team.
Speaker 1: I am going to bring you something today that could
Speaker 1: quite possibly change your life.
Speaker 3: I'm ready for it.
Speaker 1: So I've always thought of myself as a little bit
Speaker 1: of a wine connoisseur, like I love a red wine,
Speaker 1: not white.
Speaker 3: Couldn't care less. Oh I know what this hack is? Yeah,
Speaker 3: but I love the red wine.
Speaker 1: And my partner Ben, he's European, and he's got me
Speaker 1: onto a new drink that he said, the local Spanish dude,
Speaker 1: it's like the really really local version of a sangriau.
Speaker 1: I know what this is, so he gets I think
Speaker 1: he actually might have made you. It's a for those
Speaker 1: playing at home then, because me, Laura couldn't care less.
Speaker 1: It's a it's a half a glass of red wine
Speaker 1: and then loads of ice and then you put the
Speaker 1: other half just fanter like Orange fans.
Speaker 2: Fan thought this was gonna be coked.
Speaker 4: No, you've over said this, because the reason why I'm
Speaker 4: laughing is not because I couldn't care less.
Speaker 3: Of course I care it actually is.
Speaker 4: It sounds disgusting Fanta and red wine, but it is
Speaker 4: actually delicious. The reason why I'm laughing is because you
Speaker 4: really played a hard game there. But you're like, it's
Speaker 4: gonna change your life.
Speaker 5: It is.
Speaker 4: I would dare say my life has not been changed,
Speaker 4: but I I weirdly enjoyed it.
Speaker 1: Well against it, my life has changed because you can
Speaker 1: still enjoy your glass of red wine but not feel
Speaker 1: bad in any capacity like the next day because it's
Speaker 1: half watered.
Speaker 4: Can hear me out though, No person, no normal person
Speaker 4: is hearing that combo red wine and Fanta and thinks
Speaker 4: that that's a good like at first take. No one's
Speaker 4: thinking that's a good idea. But we'll all do an
Speaker 4: orange juice with a bit of champagne. Mimosa.
Speaker 3: Tell me, it's just what you know.
Speaker 2: So you know what my go to drink is at
Speaker 2: the pub.
Speaker 4: Yours is a Shandy Probably, Oh, you're such a giant child.
Speaker 2: I love a Shandy's.
Speaker 3: Giant child. Or you're like a ninety year old nana.
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, I think I identify more with than Ben
Speaker 6: made me one the other night when Delicious.
Speaker 1: He's really on the Fanto train at the moment about
Speaker 1: we went.
Speaker 6: Out for dinner to pick up team dinner, and they went, Laura,
Speaker 6: can we get you drink? You order to wine, but
Speaker 6: you order wine and Ben goes I'll get a fanta please.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And that's that moment where you're like, yeah, he
Speaker 1: belongs to me.
Speaker 2: Is European? Is europe in a different style? All right?
Speaker 2: Next to start the show, we haven't ask uncut.
Speaker 6: We're going to give one listen to help with their
Speaker 6: marriage and the husband doesn't do anything around the house.
Speaker 6: This feels like a tale as old as times. They
Speaker 6: got a kid, she's struggling.
Speaker 2: She needs help. That's what we're here for.
Speaker 6: That's right, we'll chat to an next here around Australia,
Speaker 6: crack open a fan to and a bottle of red.
Speaker 2: Guys doing it here Subway.
Speaker 6: It's time for this. It's a Thursday. Let's jump into
Speaker 6: Ask Cut. Yeah, ask gun Cut. We give some advice
Speaker 6: to our audience, don't we. You guys do this on
Speaker 6: the podcast every week Life on Cut.
Speaker 4: We do.
Speaker 3: We do it on Life on Cut every week.
Speaker 4: It's where you guys are call in with your your biggest,
Speaker 4: your deepest, your darkest dilemmas. And even though we are
Speaker 4: not trained psychologists, we try really hard to give half
Speaker 4: reasonable advice.
Speaker 2: Put it that way.
Speaker 6: It's almost like friends friends advice, Like you know, advice
Speaker 6: from a friend that you're going.
Speaker 3: Through it all that advice no one's paying for you
Speaker 3: put it that way.
Speaker 6: True, Well, Luis, no, don't transfer us any cash. Please
Speaker 6: hear this with your problem? What's going on something in
Speaker 6: your relationship?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Yeah, So my husband and I have been having pretty
Speaker 5: much the same fight over and over again over the
Speaker 5: last few months. I have a one year old son
Speaker 5: and I'm working full time. So when I just before
Speaker 5: I went back to work full time, I was like, Okay, look,
Speaker 5: I'm going to need a lot of extra help around
Speaker 5: the house, help with the washing, the cooking, looking after
Speaker 5: the baby. And everything hasn't really worked out that way,
Speaker 5: so it's still pretty much all on me to do
Speaker 5: the grocery shopping, the cooking, the cleaning, the washing, looking
Speaker 5: after the baby.
Speaker 4: Have you had I mean, I'm guessing if this has
Speaker 4: been like a reoccurring fight and argument that you're having,
Speaker 4: what does he say when you bring it up with him?
Speaker 5: He promises to try better, and it kind of gets
Speaker 5: better for a couple of weeks and then gets bad again.
Speaker 1: But Luisa, what's he doing instead of helping you? Is
Speaker 1: he at work and he's just saying he's got a
Speaker 1: snap back late, or does he just come home and sit.
Speaker 3: On the lounge and he's like, I'm tired, I've had
Speaker 3: a big day. Like what you doing Xbox?
Speaker 1: So he comes home with Xbox instead of helping you. Okay,
Speaker 1: see that changes everything.
Speaker 2: That is.
Speaker 5: Like four hours a day.
Speaker 6: No way.
Speaker 4: It's so odd because I think like often you think, oh, well,
Speaker 4: when we have kids, my partner's behavior is going to change,
Speaker 4: so you just assume that, like when you have a child,
Speaker 4: your husband's going to stop playing four hours of Xbox.
Speaker 4: But if they're doing it before you have kids, often
Speaker 4: the behavior doesn't just change because you have children.
Speaker 1: So not that you should have to do this, Louisa,
Speaker 1: like you absolutely shouldn't have to do it, but can
Speaker 1: you just start doing things for yourself in a way,
Speaker 1: like so make some dinner for you, don't make it
Speaker 1: for him, do your washing, don't do his washing. So
Speaker 1: eventually he's like, oh, if I want to do anything,
Speaker 1: I have to contribute myself.
Speaker 5: I could Yeah, I mean, like I definitely could try
Speaker 5: doing that. He'd probably get pretty annoyed with me.
Speaker 6: I was going to say, I think that will become
Speaker 6: I think that's the right thing to do, but I
Speaker 6: think it's going to become petty. I don't know this guy,
Speaker 6: but by the sound, that's going to piss him off
Speaker 6: if you can't even regulate his emotion to help out
Speaker 6: his wife.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 4: But the problem is, though, is like I think there's
Speaker 4: only so long you can have the same fight on
Speaker 4: repeat and nothing changes, especially if someone's saying they're going
Speaker 4: to change their behavior and they're going to help more,
Speaker 4: and then they do it for a couple of weeks
Speaker 4: and then they fall back into old patterns. I mean, truthfully,
Speaker 4: I do think that that's like, it's not a healthy
Speaker 4: way of going about it. But I also kind of
Speaker 4: think you get to a point where you have no
Speaker 4: other option, Like if your other option is just leaving,
Speaker 4: if he's not going to go and do something like
Speaker 4: couple's counseling, or he's not going to even try and
Speaker 4: assess that the fact that he has a gaming potentially
Speaker 4: a gaming addiction, that it's coming in the way of
Speaker 4: your relationship, that I would say, there comes a point
Speaker 4: where you're like, cool, I'm not doing these things for
Speaker 4: you anymore because you're not you're not helping me, you're
Speaker 4: not participating this relationship.
Speaker 5: He is open to counseling, which is great. I'm really
Speaker 5: really happy that he's opened to it.
Speaker 3: It is so expense, isn't it.
Speaker 5: It's insane because you get I mean, obviously, if you
Speaker 5: do therapy on your own, Medicare covers a certain portion
Speaker 5: of it. It's a couple of counseling. Nothing's covered by Medicare's.
Speaker 5: They're out of pockets the entire amount. And it is pricey.
Speaker 5: Put summer charge you makes three hundred, two hundred and
Speaker 5: fifty dollars per session.
Speaker 4: That's so interesting that it's free if you go on
Speaker 4: your own, but not if you're having problems as a relationship.
Speaker 1: I don't think my suggestion in all honesty is that unhealthy.
Speaker 1: And the reason I say that is the definition of
Speaker 1: insanity is doing the same thing over and over again
Speaker 1: and wanting a different response. And if you come home
Speaker 1: every day and you're doing the same thing, which is
Speaker 1: cleaning the house and providing for him and giving him food,
Speaker 1: he's not going why would you change when everything's handed
Speaker 1: to and apply up. But if you start to take
Speaker 1: away what he expects and what the basics that he
Speaker 1: needs to survive, like cooking him food and doing his watching.
Speaker 1: If he has to do that for himself, it might
Speaker 1: actually make a change. And then if he doesn't, if
Speaker 1: you have spoken about this and you've told him how
Speaker 1: you feel and you're doing those things and he's still
Speaker 1: just sitting at home on his xbox, it's a really
Speaker 1: really serious conversation about the future.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm so sorry, going through so hard.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sorry.
Speaker 6: Well, thank you for giving us a call. Try try therapy,
Speaker 6: try those little things, and then.
Speaker 3: The xbox out of the window.
Speaker 5: If that doesn't work, before you guys, let me go.
Speaker 5: I just want to say a really, really, really massive
Speaker 5: congratulations for it.
Speaker 3: Oh, thank you so much.
Speaker 5: I have watched that video time and so thumbs and
Speaker 5: tears every time.
Speaker 2: Oh I engagement.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it means a lot. We watch it on repeat too.
Speaker 1: It's probably the only view.
Speaker 2: Thank you, good luck.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're all thinking of you.
Speaker 2: So back again to play this, ladies, you do.
Speaker 3: Where to Walmers?
Speaker 7: Yep.
Speaker 1: There's not a thing, not a lot of things that
Speaker 1: I love more than giving away money.
Speaker 3: I love it.
Speaker 1: I just feel like I'm Oprah and I'm like, you
Speaker 1: get a box, you get a box, you.
Speaker 3: Get some cash.
Speaker 1: And today, thanks to Target, we are giving away more money.
Speaker 1: The easiest competition you're ever going to have to do.
Speaker 1: You literally call up pick a box and you win
Speaker 1: what's inside. It requires zero skill.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it really does, doesn't it.
Speaker 3: Every day this week we've given away some cash.
Speaker 6: You know what, Maybe we need to think about our
Speaker 6: competitions here at the pickup. We can make them harder.
Speaker 2: If we really want to just call them, We're going
Speaker 2: to give you them in a box. Speak to us well.
Speaker 4: And also it's getting easier as the week goes on,
Speaker 4: because there's only two boxes left.
Speaker 2: So by tomorrow it's really easy.
Speaker 3: You don't get to pick you just get a box.
Speaker 2: And it's got money. Maybe we should add something else,
Speaker 2: like a chicken or something well, maybe.
Speaker 3: Like a quiz.
Speaker 4: At least it still make it harder for them at
Speaker 4: this point.
Speaker 2: True. Today we're meeting Chantelle. She's joining us. Hey, Chantelle,
Speaker 2: where are you in the world?
Speaker 4: Hi?
Speaker 7: I meandne.
Speaker 2: Hey will listen. We've got two boxes left.
Speaker 6: I've got box number five and then you've got the
Speaker 6: second last box.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I have box number four.
Speaker 1: But Chantelle, if you win a bit of pat cash today,
Speaker 1: what are you going to buy with it?
Speaker 3: From Target?
Speaker 7: Probably?
Speaker 4: Something for my new apartment.
Speaker 7: So me and my fiance bought, so that would definitely
Speaker 7: help us out.
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, I'm assuming you broke now because you bought
Speaker 1: in Sydney.
Speaker 2: So yeah, that's how it works. Well, you get to
Speaker 2: choose one of the boxes.
Speaker 6: One will have more money in it than the other,
Speaker 6: but you'll win money regardless target Team Brittany.
Speaker 1: Or Team Mitch.
Speaker 3: Today, we're not going to take it personally.
Speaker 4: I think I'm Team Brittany.
Speaker 1: Sorry, now you do take a person Well, hopefully someone
Speaker 1: picks my box tomorrow.
Speaker 2: All right, we'll have to. Yes, that was the I'm opening.
Speaker 1: The gold is going off, the rapper is coming off,
Speaker 1: the other rappers coming off.
Speaker 2: Whoever wraps the box has been opened. In depth, here
Speaker 2: we go to Chantel. How much does she want? Chantal?
Speaker 3: Is your lucky day a thousand dollars? Targets a thousand bucks?
Speaker 2: It's not bad.
Speaker 3: That is so much.
Speaker 6: Wow.
Speaker 3: I was actually not feeling that confident deep down. So
Speaker 3: I'm really glad you've actually done very well. All the
Speaker 3: money has been with BRIT so far, like everyone who'
Speaker 3: chosen BRIT has won a.
Speaker 2: Lot of money.
Speaker 3: Actually, yeah, make that a headline. Unfortunately, no one has
Speaker 3: chosen Mitch yet.
Speaker 6: One of the odds, I'll open my box tomorrow and
Speaker 6: you've won yourself three dollars fifty in points.
Speaker 3: Oh look, you can go and get lots of things
Speaker 3: for your house with that.
Speaker 4: One thousand bucks of cent of Target is not good
Speaker 4: at all.
Speaker 6: Yeah, they're so They're so good. They're made for season
Speaker 6: after season. You can shop in store, online or via
Speaker 6: the Target app. Chantel deck your house out, send us
Speaker 6: before and after picks. We want to see the new apartment.
Speaker 7: Thank you so much.
Speaker 3: Guys.
Speaker 2: Yes, I won't be doing that.
Speaker 3: She's still sending.
Speaker 6: Weird one final box in Mitch Jury's hands. And you
Speaker 6: know what, I might not just open out a spite.
Speaker 6: I might take it home.
Speaker 3: People probably won't call because it's probably.
Speaker 2: I know I wanted more. I don't want Mitch's box.
Speaker 3: Tomorrow's box just has moths in it.
Speaker 2: Everyone doesn't listen.
Speaker 3: It was like fifty cents.
Speaker 1: No, we've got a lot to give away still tomorrow
Speaker 1: guarantee off by Mitch's box.
Speaker 6: Oh not the first time we've said that. I guaranteed
Speaker 6: cash to spend it. Target up for grabs tomorrow on
Speaker 6: the show. If you want to get in touch with
Speaker 6: you dms at the pickup or give us a call
Speaker 6: back after this. Hey listen, I am I know you
Speaker 6: girls are just getting into it, but you've just started
Speaker 6: Blow Deck.
Speaker 3: I've been into it for a little while, to be honest.
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm going to see what all the
Speaker 1: fuss is about maybe two years ago, because everyone's talking
Speaker 1: about it.
Speaker 3: This is such a wildly, hugely popular show.
Speaker 2: And I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: Not many reality shows getting hooked and I was no
Speaker 1: pun intended hook line.
Speaker 2: And I don't say sinker. That's the last thing you
Speaker 2: want on the Blow franchise and that boat to go
Speaker 2: out of the ocean.
Speaker 6: We love the season. If you're a watcher, you will
Speaker 6: know Captain Sandy. She's the only female captain in the
Speaker 6: entire franchise. She's been on since season two and she's
Speaker 6: back a brand new season streaming on. Hey you now,
Speaker 6: doctor Sandy, welcome, Thank you. We've got to ask back
Speaker 6: for another season. What keeps you coming back more and
Speaker 6: more and more every season? You're the fan favorite these days.
Speaker 7: Well, I love being a captain. I love running boats,
Speaker 7: and I love training the crew because, as you see,
Speaker 7: I get a lot of green crew. So yeah, that's
Speaker 7: like it's the best job on the planet. I think.
Speaker 4: I also, I mean, I staw in a recent interview,
Speaker 4: you were saying that you originally didn't know if you
Speaker 4: wanted to do the show because you were kind of
Speaker 4: worried about what that could do to your reputation or
Speaker 4: how it could be perceived. How like, I mean, obviously
Speaker 4: it's played out very, very well for you, but there's
Speaker 4: surely there must be moments where you're like, wow, how
Speaker 4: is this my life?
Speaker 2: Now?
Speaker 7: Yes, absolutely, I wasn't sure about doing the show, and
Speaker 7: then I thought to myself, when a door of opportunity opens,
Speaker 7: I'll walk through it because I think I can always
Speaker 7: turn around and walk back out. So I did that.
Speaker 7: I had no idea at the level level of popularity
Speaker 7: the show would take. I was clueless completely. And now
Speaker 7: it's it's it's a different life. It's just a good life,
Speaker 7: but it's you know, I had to adjust.
Speaker 1: But Sandy, you've been in the maritime I mean industry
Speaker 1: for thirty odd years. When you say you're worried about
Speaker 1: this affecting your reputation, I would assume that we that
Speaker 1: much experience your reputation is already really solid. Are you
Speaker 1: worried about it because of the drama that unfolds on
Speaker 1: the show. Do you thought that like other captains would
Speaker 1: look at you like you are less than.
Speaker 7: No, it's about the owners that hire you, right, it's
Speaker 7: very salacious the show. The owners are very private. It
Speaker 7: wasn't about the crew or the industry. It was more
Speaker 7: about getting hired by an individual after someone's been on
Speaker 7: a TV show. So yeah, because you know we sign NDAs,
Speaker 7: the privacy is very strict on board, especially with the owners.
Speaker 4: Did any of these come as as surprise to you though,
Speaker 4: I mean, knowing that you've worked in the indie street
Speaker 4: for so long, were you already kind of thinking like, wow,
Speaker 4: a lot of drama happens on these boats, Like a
Speaker 4: lot of drama happens between the crew, and like this
Speaker 4: is a story to be told.
Speaker 7: Absolutely, it actually happened. It's it happens every day at sea.
Speaker 7: Just ask any captain that's not on below decks. You
Speaker 7: go through crew, then you find the crew that actually stay.
Speaker 7: You just have to pay the good ones more money.
Speaker 2: Yeah, family, I'm sure sure you know he's a potential spinoff.
Speaker 2: It might already exist.
Speaker 6: To be honest with you, I think a great spinoff
Speaker 6: would be blow deck like you know, no elderly like
Speaker 6: an old.
Speaker 2: Ye, you can do it, you can. Because people always
Speaker 2: die on these cruises.
Speaker 4: It's not a story that anyone wants to explore on
Speaker 4: these old people cruises.
Speaker 6: Yeah, some of the big cruise ships have and you'd
Speaker 6: know Captain that that. Obviously they have morgs on these
Speaker 6: big ships for when people die.
Speaker 7: It's true, yes, of course, and we put them in
Speaker 7: the freezer.
Speaker 2: So have you done that?
Speaker 7: No?
Speaker 1: No, Sandy. Who's the most famous person that maybe you're
Speaker 1: allowed to tell us you've ever had?
Speaker 7: Well, Johnny Damon is a famous baseball player. I had
Speaker 7: Gigi Fernandez, who was you know, she's a gold medalist
Speaker 7: like time after time again, and you know, like athletes.
Speaker 7: But the celebrities, yeah, we sign an NDA, so lots
Speaker 7: of them.
Speaker 3: You just can't say, that's what I'm well.
Speaker 6: Our beautiful Brittany here just got engaged this week, captain
Speaker 6: on a yacht.
Speaker 1: Congratulations, thank you the love of my life, my Swiss boyfriend.
Speaker 3: Yes, he proposed on a super yacht. Do you get
Speaker 3: many proposals happening all the time.
Speaker 2: Special. It's a way to do it.
Speaker 7: We're special. I mean he charted a yacht. Ye has
Speaker 7: to marry him. That's pretty special.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 7: Well, actually speaking of is the word super in front
Speaker 7: of it?
Speaker 2: So was it?
Speaker 3: Yeah, the way my story goes, it was a super.
Speaker 2: It was a beautiful yeful.
Speaker 6: Hey you just got married yourself. What happened on with
Speaker 6: that wedding. I've got some photos in front of me,
Speaker 6: absolutely gorgeous. You are both wearing white. It's stunning you now.
Speaker 2: You know, got a beautiful wife.
Speaker 7: Yes, it changed my life. Like I had no idea.
Speaker 7: We had been together five years. I was like, what's
Speaker 7: the big deal? Like, okay, So then it happened and
Speaker 7: it was life changing. I just wish I could capture
Speaker 7: that moment and keep it for the rest of my life.
Speaker 6: Oh well, we're so glad we saw you like you
Speaker 6: look so happy you and you are beautiful, beautiful. If
Speaker 6: you want to get now the Captain also the doctor
Speaker 6: in my eyes, you can do it all the one
Speaker 6: on Elie Captain Sandy.
Speaker 2: But it's now streaming the new season on Hey you
Speaker 2: if you want to give it a watch. It's incredible