1 00:00:00,400 --> 00:00:04,440 Speaker 1: The Rise and Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of 2 00:00:04,519 --> 00:00:07,720 Speaker 1: the land which this episode is being recorded, the yugen 3 00:00:07,720 --> 00:00:12,200 Speaker 1: Bah region. We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their 4 00:00:12,200 --> 00:00:16,000 Speaker 1: connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect 5 00:00:16,040 --> 00:00:19,640 Speaker 1: to their elders past and present and extend that respect 6 00:00:19,680 --> 00:00:32,920 Speaker 1: to all Aboriginal and terrest Raide Islander peoples today. Hello 7 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:36,440 Speaker 1: and welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. This 8 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:39,159 Speaker 1: is the podcast for ordinary people who want to do 9 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:52,839 Speaker 1: extraordinary things. Hello and welcome back to the Rise and 10 00:00:52,880 --> 00:00:56,080 Speaker 1: Conquer Podcast. It is your host s Geordie Stevenson, lawyer 11 00:00:56,200 --> 00:01:01,960 Speaker 1: and entrepreneur, business owner, new Mum All the Things My 12 00:01:02,080 --> 00:01:06,640 Speaker 1: Loves twenty twenty two is almost over. I honestly can't 13 00:01:06,640 --> 00:01:08,360 Speaker 1: believe it, Beneva can I? 14 00:01:08,440 --> 00:01:11,600 Speaker 2: It feels like the longest but shortest year of my life. 15 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:15,280 Speaker 1: Yes, me too, I'm like, what did I even do? Oh? Yeah? 16 00:01:15,640 --> 00:01:20,640 Speaker 1: But also I did so much So it's been such 17 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:23,279 Speaker 1: a crazy year. And you know, to think we started 18 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 1: off with a friend getting COVID, not being able to 19 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:29,560 Speaker 1: go overseas, and then like, I feel like now everything 20 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:33,000 Speaker 1: is pretty much back to normal. Obviously, eComm not doing 21 00:01:33,080 --> 00:01:35,840 Speaker 1: too well. Everything's changing and I kind of love it. 22 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:38,400 Speaker 1: It's all a bit crazy, but this is like the 23 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:43,640 Speaker 1: first year, you know, with a child navigating that whole thing, 24 00:01:43,880 --> 00:01:46,240 Speaker 1: and safe to say, it has been a huge year 25 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:48,600 Speaker 1: of growth. It has been a huge year of growth 26 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:54,040 Speaker 1: in the businesses A tear, You joined us, RNC expanded, 27 00:01:54,440 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: so did NHH. So much happened. It has just been 28 00:01:57,840 --> 00:02:02,920 Speaker 1: such a huge year. But this episode is ten lessons 29 00:02:03,000 --> 00:02:06,440 Speaker 1: that I've learned and really like leaned into this year. 30 00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:08,720 Speaker 1: And I just I want to do this episode because 31 00:02:08,720 --> 00:02:10,720 Speaker 1: I think they might be like aha moments for you 32 00:02:10,760 --> 00:02:15,080 Speaker 1: guys too, And I just I love a lessons podcast. 33 00:02:15,240 --> 00:02:19,280 Speaker 1: I listen long, I'm like nod in my head. And 34 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:22,120 Speaker 1: also there might be some stuff in here that you're like, oh, 35 00:02:22,360 --> 00:02:24,840 Speaker 1: you know, I really need to reflect on this, yeah, 36 00:02:24,840 --> 00:02:26,600 Speaker 1: and I need to, you know, dig deeper on this. 37 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:30,000 Speaker 1: So I'm excited for this episode. But before we get 38 00:02:30,040 --> 00:02:33,800 Speaker 1: into it, just a little reminder, guys, there is only 39 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:37,919 Speaker 1: three or four days before the end of twenty twenty two, 40 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:41,720 Speaker 1: which means three or four days before we start to 41 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:45,320 Speaker 1: do it for your future self course. So guys, this 42 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:49,880 Speaker 1: course is a seven day course, a module opens up 43 00:02:49,960 --> 00:02:52,959 Speaker 1: every single day from the first of January, and it's 44 00:02:53,000 --> 00:02:56,359 Speaker 1: all about giving you guys tools. So every single day 45 00:02:56,360 --> 00:02:59,640 Speaker 1: there's going to be a video, training, a workbook, a meditation, 46 00:03:00,440 --> 00:03:02,600 Speaker 1: all three or just one of them, and it's going 47 00:03:02,600 --> 00:03:06,160 Speaker 1: to run you through some tools to set yourself up 48 00:03:06,639 --> 00:03:11,040 Speaker 1: for an amazing year. So this is all about digging 49 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:14,919 Speaker 1: deep and really doing things in a different way. So 50 00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:17,880 Speaker 1: we're not doing smart goals, we're not just like making 51 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:21,239 Speaker 1: random goals. We're being so so intentional. So what we're 52 00:03:21,280 --> 00:03:25,880 Speaker 1: working towards in the new year is really really potent 53 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:29,799 Speaker 1: and it comes from this you know, solar line place. 54 00:03:29,880 --> 00:03:32,079 Speaker 1: So we're not going to get burnt out and we're 55 00:03:32,120 --> 00:03:34,680 Speaker 1: not going to get to the achievement and then not 56 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:36,680 Speaker 1: feel fulfilled or you. 57 00:03:36,680 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 2: Know such a big thing. 58 00:03:38,160 --> 00:03:40,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, so often we finally get to achievement and then 59 00:03:40,640 --> 00:03:43,880 Speaker 1: we feel empty, and it's because it wasn't actually something 60 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 1: we wanted in the first place, and we weren't actually 61 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 1: going after the right things. So if you're kind of 62 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 1: sick of you know, doing things a certain way, and 63 00:03:50,840 --> 00:03:53,080 Speaker 1: you want next year to be different, and you really 64 00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:57,600 Speaker 1: want to literally by the seventh of John have a plan, 65 00:03:57,920 --> 00:04:01,040 Speaker 1: and not like a strict plan. It's like you'll have 66 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:03,400 Speaker 1: a bit of an outline and a guideline and you'll 67 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:06,320 Speaker 1: know how to make certain decisions like you will literally 68 00:04:06,360 --> 00:04:09,680 Speaker 1: if something, an opportunity or something comes up, you will 69 00:04:09,800 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 1: use the tools in this course to then go yes 70 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:16,279 Speaker 1: or no if that makes sense, which is so so important, 71 00:04:16,360 --> 00:04:18,640 Speaker 1: Like I said, if we're doing it from that very 72 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:22,279 Speaker 1: intentional way. So, yeah, it should only take you thirty 73 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:25,159 Speaker 1: minutes a day. I really wanted to make sure except 74 00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:28,080 Speaker 1: for day four, we've got a nice long meditation of 75 00:04:28,240 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 1: day for except for day for a tiers just informant. 76 00:04:32,720 --> 00:04:35,000 Speaker 1: Day four's my favorite though, So it is a really 77 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:39,360 Speaker 1: really good meditation. Look, maybe up to an hour but 78 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:42,320 Speaker 1: also amazing. Yeah, do you have lifetime access though, So 79 00:04:42,360 --> 00:04:44,159 Speaker 1: if you can't do it in the you know as 80 00:04:44,760 --> 00:04:47,200 Speaker 1: every single day from the first of Jan, don't stress 81 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:50,800 Speaker 1: because you do have lifetime access. But by the eighth 82 00:04:50,839 --> 00:04:52,960 Speaker 1: of Jan, the price will go up. So if you 83 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:55,840 Speaker 1: want to get a bloody bargain, get onto it now. 84 00:04:56,560 --> 00:04:59,280 Speaker 1: Treat yourself or you know, you can get someone else 85 00:04:59,320 --> 00:05:03,040 Speaker 1: to treat you. But yeah, we're really really excited about me. 86 00:05:03,040 --> 00:05:04,960 Speaker 2: Youre Tia I'm so excited to do it. 87 00:05:05,240 --> 00:05:07,840 Speaker 1: You literally can't wait. It's gonna be so powerful. I 88 00:05:07,920 --> 00:05:11,440 Speaker 1: literally haven't let it to you do it? No, right, 89 00:05:11,520 --> 00:05:14,160 Speaker 1: I'm waiting. I'm like, no, Well, don't get from the 90 00:05:14,160 --> 00:05:17,400 Speaker 1: first of Jack, We're going to chext each other. But yees. 91 00:05:17,480 --> 00:05:19,320 Speaker 1: So I'll put a link in the show notes for that. 92 00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 1: But also before we get into the show, I just 93 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:28,799 Speaker 1: want to say a massive thank you to every single 94 00:05:28,880 --> 00:05:32,800 Speaker 1: one of you who have supported the podcast this year. Honestly, 95 00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:35,960 Speaker 1: it means well to us, doesn't it tier it does. 96 00:05:36,200 --> 00:05:40,080 Speaker 1: It's just it's incredible that you keep listening to our voice, 97 00:05:40,760 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 1: and you know, I just want to say I really 98 00:05:42,839 --> 00:05:47,280 Speaker 1: appreciate the support, really appreciate you coming back and engaging 99 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:49,920 Speaker 1: in the Instagram and coming in the Facebook group and 100 00:05:49,960 --> 00:05:53,880 Speaker 1: sending in your hotline queues and oh, you guys are 101 00:05:53,960 --> 00:05:57,240 Speaker 1: just yeah, like the best, You're the best girl gang. 102 00:05:57,360 --> 00:06:00,120 Speaker 1: I appreciate you guys so much, and I'm so excited 103 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:03,960 Speaker 1: to bring you even more amazing content in twenty twenty three. 104 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:06,240 Speaker 1: We've got an exciting plan, don't we. A tr so 105 00:06:06,320 --> 00:06:08,520 Speaker 1: exciting A Tia has got some epic guests for you. 106 00:06:08,920 --> 00:06:11,360 Speaker 1: She's gonna pull out the big guns and really get 107 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:17,400 Speaker 1: them on. Yes, it's literally what a her kprs. No, 108 00:06:17,560 --> 00:06:19,839 Speaker 1: I'm so excited. So yeah, I just wanted to say 109 00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:23,200 Speaker 1: a big, big thank you, and I hope you have 110 00:06:23,360 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 1: the most amazing New Year's Eve see me. All right, 111 00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:38,960 Speaker 1: let's get into the first lesson twenty two Detach, observe 112 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:43,160 Speaker 1: yourself and others, and don't react. That is the title. 113 00:06:43,480 --> 00:06:47,240 Speaker 1: It's a long one. I love how these titles are 114 00:06:47,279 --> 00:06:52,160 Speaker 1: not like snappy. No, I enjoy it, guys. So this 115 00:06:52,480 --> 00:06:56,800 Speaker 1: was a one kind of So this one is all 116 00:06:57,000 --> 00:07:00,719 Speaker 1: about basically I'm sure I'm sure or you have heard 117 00:07:00,800 --> 00:07:03,480 Speaker 1: like the saying of like no one can make you 118 00:07:03,520 --> 00:07:06,080 Speaker 1: feel a certain way, only you can make yourself feel 119 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 1: a certain way. And I found there, you know, was 120 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:13,000 Speaker 1: a point of my year where I was kind of 121 00:07:13,080 --> 00:07:20,080 Speaker 1: letting my emotions really run the show. Yeah, and I 122 00:07:20,120 --> 00:07:23,280 Speaker 1: would let certain people they could say something small and 123 00:07:23,320 --> 00:07:27,760 Speaker 1: it would like really upset me. And I guess like 124 00:07:27,800 --> 00:07:32,360 Speaker 1: a big realization that I have is like you need 125 00:07:32,400 --> 00:07:38,160 Speaker 1: to take a step back and realize you're not your emotions. Yes, 126 00:07:38,280 --> 00:07:42,120 Speaker 1: we have emotions, and that's amazing to have emotions, and 127 00:07:42,200 --> 00:07:46,679 Speaker 1: you should feel those emotions, but you have a choice 128 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:51,120 Speaker 1: on your reaction, and you know in that moment, I 129 00:07:51,280 --> 00:07:55,760 Speaker 1: just personally find if you react with emotion to that 130 00:07:55,920 --> 00:08:00,720 Speaker 1: person or that thing, that it creates this like domino 131 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:08,160 Speaker 1: effect of just like like useless kind of you don't 132 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:11,160 Speaker 1: need to go down that road. Yeah, So if you 133 00:08:11,200 --> 00:08:15,400 Speaker 1: can kind of detach and be like and this did 134 00:08:15,480 --> 00:08:18,520 Speaker 1: happen from like like a conflict I was going through 135 00:08:18,960 --> 00:08:22,280 Speaker 1: and I had to kind of detach and be like, Okay, 136 00:08:22,560 --> 00:08:25,840 Speaker 1: this is interesting. I'm feeling this way, and I think 137 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:30,680 Speaker 1: it's because of this trigger which is from my childhood 138 00:08:30,880 --> 00:08:34,440 Speaker 1: or from this or from that, and instead of just 139 00:08:34,559 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 1: reacting this way because I'm a very reactive person. I'm 140 00:08:37,920 --> 00:08:41,800 Speaker 1: a leo. I love fire, I love also I love 141 00:08:41,840 --> 00:08:45,520 Speaker 1: a good argument. I love that passion. To me, it's 142 00:08:45,520 --> 00:08:48,880 Speaker 1: a bit of passion, but it can sometimes, you know, 143 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 1: just not be where you want to be. So a 144 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:54,280 Speaker 1: big thing that I learned this year was like taking 145 00:08:54,280 --> 00:08:57,760 Speaker 1: that step back observing this is interesting. I am not 146 00:08:57,960 --> 00:09:01,600 Speaker 1: my emotions. I have emotions, but like I don't have 147 00:09:01,720 --> 00:09:04,320 Speaker 1: to let it overtake me and I can be in 148 00:09:04,360 --> 00:09:07,920 Speaker 1: control of my emotions. And a thing that kind of 149 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:12,880 Speaker 1: made me feel better. Is realizing that like we're aal 150 00:09:13,080 --> 00:09:18,280 Speaker 1: just like souls, having a human experience, so kind of 151 00:09:18,360 --> 00:09:22,840 Speaker 1: like I don't know, like sometimes things would feel like 152 00:09:22,840 --> 00:09:25,880 Speaker 1: the end of the world, yeah to me. But if 153 00:09:25,920 --> 00:09:29,040 Speaker 1: I could kind of be like this is interesting and 154 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:32,720 Speaker 1: observe this moment and almost like see the situation from 155 00:09:32,760 --> 00:09:36,280 Speaker 1: a bird's eye view, not from your emotions, it's kind 156 00:09:36,320 --> 00:09:39,520 Speaker 1: of like, Okay, this is an interesting human experience. Can 157 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:42,280 Speaker 1: I learn something from here? How can I move forward? 158 00:09:42,280 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 1: How can I not let this like engross me? Yeah? 159 00:09:45,320 --> 00:09:47,120 Speaker 1: And that was like I practiced that I did that 160 00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:49,439 Speaker 1: like really served me well this year. 161 00:09:50,040 --> 00:09:50,679 Speaker 2: That's awesome. 162 00:09:51,160 --> 00:09:55,679 Speaker 1: Thank you, dear you're alaka. 163 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:56,319 Speaker 2: All right. 164 00:09:56,440 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 1: Next one, a tia. Your external world is a reflection 165 00:10:01,600 --> 00:10:04,800 Speaker 1: of your inner world. This one gets me every time. 166 00:10:05,440 --> 00:10:07,360 Speaker 1: It gets me so good. We need to say this 167 00:10:07,400 --> 00:10:10,360 Speaker 1: to each other everywhere, Yeah, because what's happening in here? 168 00:10:10,480 --> 00:10:14,160 Speaker 1: Because you probably need to shift a couple. So I 169 00:10:14,200 --> 00:10:17,320 Speaker 1: had this really big realization and it was actually quite 170 00:10:17,320 --> 00:10:19,240 Speaker 1: recently in the year, and I did a full post 171 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:21,160 Speaker 1: on it, so you may have seen on Instagram, but 172 00:10:22,679 --> 00:10:24,559 Speaker 1: I kind of I think I even went on a 173 00:10:24,640 --> 00:10:27,600 Speaker 1: random episode about this ado Yeah, Okay, so you guys 174 00:10:27,640 --> 00:10:29,920 Speaker 1: have heard it, but it's just such a strong lesson 175 00:10:29,920 --> 00:10:31,760 Speaker 1: for me that I was like, I need to say 176 00:10:31,760 --> 00:10:36,000 Speaker 1: this again. So my whole thing was I was doing 177 00:10:36,240 --> 00:10:38,960 Speaker 1: all so like, you know, to get back to my 178 00:10:39,080 --> 00:10:41,400 Speaker 1: mojo or to get back to myself. You know, I 179 00:10:41,440 --> 00:10:44,960 Speaker 1: was going through my postpartum journey. I was changing all 180 00:10:45,120 --> 00:10:48,600 Speaker 1: these external things, and I was like trying all these 181 00:10:48,600 --> 00:10:52,720 Speaker 1: different things, changing these external things. And after that, like 182 00:10:52,760 --> 00:10:55,360 Speaker 1: I sat with myself and I'm like, I still literally 183 00:10:55,360 --> 00:10:58,760 Speaker 1: feel the fucking same, what is happening right now? And 184 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:01,080 Speaker 1: then the light bulb moment went off, and it's like, 185 00:11:01,800 --> 00:11:06,880 Speaker 1: you know, your reality is a reflection of your internal world. 186 00:11:07,040 --> 00:11:09,319 Speaker 1: So if you don't like something in your reality, or 187 00:11:09,360 --> 00:11:11,199 Speaker 1: if things are not going your way, or if you're 188 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:16,000 Speaker 1: not feeling aligned, you need to shift something internally. Yeah, 189 00:11:16,040 --> 00:11:20,199 Speaker 1: And this was such a huge realization, and I think 190 00:11:20,240 --> 00:11:24,400 Speaker 1: it's something really important that we can be doing more regularly, 191 00:11:25,240 --> 00:11:29,480 Speaker 1: like checking in with ourselves and being like, hang on 192 00:11:29,520 --> 00:11:33,160 Speaker 1: a second. If you know you're feeling really rushed and 193 00:11:33,200 --> 00:11:36,080 Speaker 1: you feel like you've got no time, like that's something 194 00:11:36,120 --> 00:11:40,040 Speaker 1: that comes up for me so repetitively, and so I've 195 00:11:40,040 --> 00:11:43,680 Speaker 1: realized like that's even something that it's like internally, I 196 00:11:43,760 --> 00:11:47,640 Speaker 1: need to see what's happening in my mind of feeling 197 00:11:47,760 --> 00:11:50,760 Speaker 1: rushed and feeling like I have no time, and making 198 00:11:50,800 --> 00:11:55,439 Speaker 1: sure I'm constantly doing the inner work to shift rather 199 00:11:55,520 --> 00:11:59,079 Speaker 1: than changing external stuff like getting a new job or 200 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:02,120 Speaker 1: getting a new new friend or a new partner or 201 00:12:02,240 --> 00:12:04,679 Speaker 1: that sort of thing. It's like, if you don't fix 202 00:12:04,720 --> 00:12:07,839 Speaker 1: the inside, the outside is going to feel the same, 203 00:12:08,080 --> 00:12:10,440 Speaker 1: even if you get that new thing or change that 204 00:12:10,520 --> 00:12:17,600 Speaker 1: thing externally. My third lesson of twenty twenty two boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries. 205 00:12:18,240 --> 00:12:21,200 Speaker 1: I wrote it three times because I need someone to 206 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:28,360 Speaker 1: continuously say this to me. So this again is such 207 00:12:28,400 --> 00:12:33,960 Speaker 1: a story in my twenty twenty two of accepting things 208 00:12:34,240 --> 00:12:37,600 Speaker 1: and then coming to regret them. Yeah, and not listening 209 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:41,040 Speaker 1: to my intuition when I accepted them, And then I 210 00:12:41,080 --> 00:12:43,320 Speaker 1: would get really angry at myself because I didn't listen 211 00:12:43,360 --> 00:12:44,320 Speaker 1: to my intuition. 212 00:12:45,559 --> 00:12:50,240 Speaker 2: Have you ever, I'll, as an example on a smaller scale, 213 00:12:50,320 --> 00:12:55,280 Speaker 2: say something felt intuitively right, like going on a weekend 214 00:12:55,320 --> 00:12:57,680 Speaker 2: away with a bunch of friends. Yeah, and you book 215 00:12:57,720 --> 00:13:01,079 Speaker 2: it two months in advance because where you're going or 216 00:13:01,120 --> 00:13:04,120 Speaker 2: whatever it is, and then you get to like a 217 00:13:04,160 --> 00:13:04,720 Speaker 2: week out. 218 00:13:04,559 --> 00:13:07,400 Speaker 1: And you're like, oh, I don't want to go. 219 00:13:09,640 --> 00:13:12,720 Speaker 2: What would you do? What would I think twenty twenty 220 00:13:12,720 --> 00:13:16,439 Speaker 2: two Georgie would have followed through? Yeah, but what is 221 00:13:16,559 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 2: what would twenty twenty three Georgie do. Well. 222 00:13:19,440 --> 00:13:24,160 Speaker 1: I think it depends on the circumstances of why you're 223 00:13:24,200 --> 00:13:28,160 Speaker 1: feeling that need of this doesn't intuitively feel right, Like 224 00:13:28,200 --> 00:13:32,320 Speaker 1: if it's like your cup is literally so depleted because 225 00:13:32,760 --> 00:13:35,600 Speaker 1: you know, energy wise, then it's like a straight okay, 226 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:37,480 Speaker 1: I have to pull out. I have to you know, 227 00:13:37,559 --> 00:13:40,680 Speaker 1: cancel that trip. If it's like a thing of maybe 228 00:13:40,720 --> 00:13:42,680 Speaker 1: someone on the trip that you don't want to be 229 00:13:42,720 --> 00:13:46,280 Speaker 1: in the energy of, maybe it's talking to that person 230 00:13:46,520 --> 00:13:49,680 Speaker 1: and being very upfront. Like there's a lot of different 231 00:13:49,760 --> 00:13:51,920 Speaker 1: ways to look at it. But yeah, definitely old Georgia 232 00:13:51,920 --> 00:13:53,000 Speaker 1: would be like, all right, we'll go out of the 233 00:13:53,080 --> 00:13:57,880 Speaker 1: trap your bag, But New Georgie is going to, you know, 234 00:13:58,120 --> 00:14:02,920 Speaker 1: look into that thing. But also I think it's about obviously, 235 00:14:02,920 --> 00:14:04,600 Speaker 1: if you're planning a trip, you do need to plan 236 00:14:04,679 --> 00:14:09,160 Speaker 1: that in advance, but like not planning things where you 237 00:14:09,520 --> 00:14:14,440 Speaker 1: think you might regret it in the first place, Yeah, 238 00:14:14,480 --> 00:14:17,400 Speaker 1: and being like, hey, can we just you know, pencil 239 00:14:17,480 --> 00:14:22,720 Speaker 1: it in. Can we feel this out? Are you going 240 00:14:22,760 --> 00:14:23,840 Speaker 1: on a trip? No? 241 00:14:23,680 --> 00:14:27,000 Speaker 2: No, no, No, that's just like an example, a small 242 00:14:27,040 --> 00:14:28,080 Speaker 2: example I could think of. 243 00:14:28,240 --> 00:14:31,400 Speaker 1: Yeah. I think a big thing about boundaries is like 244 00:14:31,520 --> 00:14:37,120 Speaker 1: checking in with yourself consistently, and like, for example, before 245 00:14:37,160 --> 00:14:39,040 Speaker 1: I booked in that trip, I would look at my 246 00:14:39,160 --> 00:14:41,720 Speaker 1: calendar around that time because for me, it's always going 247 00:14:41,760 --> 00:14:43,880 Speaker 1: to be about the energy. Yeah, I'd never book a 248 00:14:43,920 --> 00:14:46,000 Speaker 1: trip with people I might have a problem with. Yeah, 249 00:14:46,040 --> 00:14:49,320 Speaker 1: so it would be what is actually happening on happening 250 00:14:49,480 --> 00:14:52,720 Speaker 1: during that month and does it look like I could physically, 251 00:14:52,800 --> 00:14:55,600 Speaker 1: you know, do that thing and have the capacity and 252 00:14:55,680 --> 00:15:00,880 Speaker 1: being very not only intuitive but also logical of will 253 00:15:00,920 --> 00:15:04,880 Speaker 1: I have the physical energy? Yeah, that's like a huge thing. 254 00:15:05,320 --> 00:15:09,000 Speaker 1: And again that's about like fully checking in with yourself 255 00:15:09,120 --> 00:15:14,080 Speaker 1: and always thinking about that side of things rather than 256 00:15:14,160 --> 00:15:19,320 Speaker 1: just booking things willy nilly. Yeah, that's all right. So 257 00:15:19,880 --> 00:15:26,080 Speaker 1: next year is my year of no. I've you want something? No, no, 258 00:15:27,520 --> 00:15:30,560 Speaker 1: get ready for the year of no. I no, no, no. 259 00:15:30,600 --> 00:15:34,280 Speaker 1: That's a bit trannic, but basically next year and like, 260 00:15:34,320 --> 00:15:36,160 Speaker 1: I hope you guys hold me to this, but it's like, 261 00:15:36,760 --> 00:15:41,200 Speaker 1: unless it is a fuck yes, it's a no, because 262 00:15:41,360 --> 00:15:45,280 Speaker 1: anytime you say yes to something, you're saying no to 263 00:15:45,440 --> 00:15:50,920 Speaker 1: something else that may be more aligned. That's a bit scary. 264 00:15:51,440 --> 00:15:54,440 Speaker 1: And I do find that I am someone like I 265 00:15:54,440 --> 00:15:56,880 Speaker 1: don't want to let people down, and if it is 266 00:15:56,960 --> 00:16:00,160 Speaker 1: like I get stuck in like the shiny things, if 267 00:16:00,200 --> 00:16:04,520 Speaker 1: it's like a shiny opportunity, I'm like, you know, like 268 00:16:04,640 --> 00:16:06,800 Speaker 1: I should want this thing, or this would be a 269 00:16:06,840 --> 00:16:10,120 Speaker 1: great bucket list. You know, when I'm talking about lists, 270 00:16:10,120 --> 00:16:12,800 Speaker 1: I'm more talking about achievements because I'm the sicker like that. 271 00:16:13,360 --> 00:16:15,120 Speaker 1: But it's like, this would be a really great thing 272 00:16:15,160 --> 00:16:18,720 Speaker 1: to like tick off the list in achiefence wise, And again, 273 00:16:19,400 --> 00:16:23,440 Speaker 1: my big thing is checking in with myself and being like, 274 00:16:23,840 --> 00:16:26,480 Speaker 1: do I actually want to do that thing? If I do, 275 00:16:26,840 --> 00:16:31,320 Speaker 1: what's the reasoning. Is it because I just want another 276 00:16:31,400 --> 00:16:34,480 Speaker 1: achievement under my belt? Is it because I'm trying to 277 00:16:34,600 --> 00:16:37,560 Speaker 1: please someone else? Is it you know, like what is 278 00:16:37,600 --> 00:16:40,120 Speaker 1: the why? And actually getting down to that and then 279 00:16:40,480 --> 00:16:44,400 Speaker 1: also sitting in the intuition of do I actually want 280 00:16:44,440 --> 00:16:46,280 Speaker 1: to do this thing? Is it a hell yes? Or 281 00:16:46,360 --> 00:16:50,400 Speaker 1: is it a no? And getting really really strong with 282 00:16:50,400 --> 00:16:52,520 Speaker 1: that because yeah, this year I kind of just like 283 00:16:52,600 --> 00:16:55,920 Speaker 1: said yes to things that I didn't really think about. 284 00:16:56,040 --> 00:16:58,760 Speaker 1: I did not check in with myself before I said yes. 285 00:16:58,800 --> 00:17:01,080 Speaker 1: I just said yes because I'm so used to saying yes. 286 00:17:01,760 --> 00:17:04,080 Speaker 1: And then this year happened and I became a mother, 287 00:17:04,200 --> 00:17:08,040 Speaker 1: and I realized how well more I think. The reason 288 00:17:08,040 --> 00:17:11,879 Speaker 1: why it's so important now is a yes to something 289 00:17:12,200 --> 00:17:15,720 Speaker 1: might mean no to ivy and that's just something I'm 290 00:17:15,720 --> 00:17:19,560 Speaker 1: not willing to sacrifice. And I didn't realize that when 291 00:17:19,600 --> 00:17:22,360 Speaker 1: I was, you know, even pregnant. I just I did 292 00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:25,360 Speaker 1: not have the understanding. And I agreed to a lot 293 00:17:25,359 --> 00:17:27,320 Speaker 1: of things, and I booked a lot of things in 294 00:17:27,840 --> 00:17:31,119 Speaker 1: and then you know, this new twenty twenty two me 295 00:17:31,200 --> 00:17:33,800 Speaker 1: had to like live out these you know, decisions that 296 00:17:33,840 --> 00:17:36,679 Speaker 1: I had previously made because I am some one of 297 00:17:36,680 --> 00:17:42,040 Speaker 1: my word and I don't break promises. But it was 298 00:17:42,280 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 1: such a good lesson to feel like, wow, I need 299 00:17:46,080 --> 00:17:48,240 Speaker 1: to be real I need to be stronger my boundaries 300 00:17:48,280 --> 00:17:49,879 Speaker 1: because I feel like over the years I have been 301 00:17:49,920 --> 00:17:53,440 Speaker 1: getting stronger. But this year was like a huge moment 302 00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:57,040 Speaker 1: where I was like, yeah, this year was awake up call. 303 00:17:57,240 --> 00:17:59,679 Speaker 1: So that was a huge, huge lesson for me. 304 00:18:01,280 --> 00:18:02,399 Speaker 2: What's your next lesson? 305 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:07,000 Speaker 1: Lesson? For of twenty twenty two, I gotta stop saying 306 00:18:07,040 --> 00:18:10,960 Speaker 1: that because we clearly know and again this is like 307 00:18:11,920 --> 00:18:15,240 Speaker 1: kind of I don't want it to sound counterintuitive to 308 00:18:15,280 --> 00:18:18,320 Speaker 1: the first lesson, lesson of like observing your feelings but 309 00:18:19,680 --> 00:18:24,080 Speaker 1: not judging my emotions and feeling into my emotions was 310 00:18:24,160 --> 00:18:28,600 Speaker 1: also a lesson I learned this year because I realized 311 00:18:29,040 --> 00:18:33,840 Speaker 1: an interesting thing about myself. And like in the past, 312 00:18:33,920 --> 00:18:38,879 Speaker 1: I have been called cold, and I've been cold that 313 00:18:38,960 --> 00:18:40,840 Speaker 1: like I'm a very you know, just I get on 314 00:18:40,920 --> 00:18:44,760 Speaker 1: with things and I get shit done and I attached. Yeah, 315 00:18:44,760 --> 00:18:47,520 Speaker 1: I can be detached and very into my mask illn energy. 316 00:18:47,760 --> 00:18:48,119 Speaker 2: Yeah. 317 00:18:48,200 --> 00:18:50,440 Speaker 1: So I've like always kind of known that. I'm like, yeah, yeah, cool. 318 00:18:50,800 --> 00:18:52,879 Speaker 1: I honestly think it's like a super power because I 319 00:18:52,920 --> 00:18:54,359 Speaker 1: like just get on with my life. 320 00:18:54,560 --> 00:18:55,320 Speaker 2: Yeah. 321 00:18:55,359 --> 00:18:58,600 Speaker 1: But I think for the thirst year again motherhood, really 322 00:18:59,440 --> 00:19:01,800 Speaker 1: I started to notice my emotions and I thought it 323 00:19:01,840 --> 00:19:04,840 Speaker 1: was very interesting because there was a couple of key 324 00:19:04,920 --> 00:19:09,159 Speaker 1: things that happened in the year that I thought, I 325 00:19:09,160 --> 00:19:14,040 Speaker 1: think I should feel a bit happier than I actually do. Yeah, 326 00:19:14,080 --> 00:19:18,560 Speaker 1: And I just thought this is interesting, Yeah, I think 327 00:19:18,640 --> 00:19:21,560 Speaker 1: I should actually feel a little bit happier. And I 328 00:19:21,600 --> 00:19:25,679 Speaker 1: felt I don't want to say numb, because it's like 329 00:19:25,760 --> 00:19:29,080 Speaker 1: it's not to that extent, but it is somewhat numb 330 00:19:29,240 --> 00:19:33,520 Speaker 1: of this is nice. Yeah, well, I think I realized 331 00:19:33,520 --> 00:19:36,840 Speaker 1: because someone else had such an extreme emotion, and I 332 00:19:36,840 --> 00:19:39,600 Speaker 1: don't want to compare myself, but I did think it 333 00:19:39,640 --> 00:19:43,280 Speaker 1: was interesting and I kind of then did a bit 334 00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:46,760 Speaker 1: of reflection and I was like, I think I am 335 00:19:47,040 --> 00:19:53,600 Speaker 1: someone who is very great at composure and very great. 336 00:19:53,680 --> 00:19:57,159 Speaker 1: I come from an English background. Both my parents are 337 00:19:57,720 --> 00:20:01,040 Speaker 1: from English. I was like, what, they don't show emotion, 338 00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:07,200 Speaker 1: but I'm very good at composure, and I'm very good 339 00:20:07,200 --> 00:20:11,480 Speaker 1: at kind of keeping this like neutral level. So it 340 00:20:11,600 --> 00:20:20,439 Speaker 1: very proper, very proper. I've gone from London stop no, 341 00:20:20,760 --> 00:20:24,320 Speaker 1: very kind of in saying that that goes the other way, 342 00:20:24,400 --> 00:20:29,080 Speaker 1: where also the sad emotions or the angry emotions, and 343 00:20:29,240 --> 00:20:32,399 Speaker 1: you know those quote unquote negative emotions, I also don't 344 00:20:32,440 --> 00:20:35,399 Speaker 1: feel them very deeply. So I'm almost stuck in this 345 00:20:35,560 --> 00:20:39,320 Speaker 1: like neutral state, which isn't bad because then you don't 346 00:20:39,359 --> 00:20:42,879 Speaker 1: get really really sad, yeah really really, you know, but 347 00:20:42,920 --> 00:20:45,679 Speaker 1: then also I'm not feeling those high high emotions and 348 00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:48,000 Speaker 1: I'm not feeling the low low emotions I'm finding this 349 00:20:48,119 --> 00:20:51,080 Speaker 1: like middle period, and so I kind of, you know, 350 00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:53,480 Speaker 1: I was speaking to a professional about it, and they 351 00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:57,200 Speaker 1: did say, this is like a coping mechanism that you 352 00:20:57,320 --> 00:20:59,520 Speaker 1: kind of take on from when you're a child, where 353 00:20:59,600 --> 00:21:03,680 Speaker 1: you don't feel safe to show certain emotions and so 354 00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:07,600 Speaker 1: you kind of keep in that like neutral numb state. 355 00:21:07,680 --> 00:21:11,400 Speaker 1: And I don't think, you know, I'm an extreme case 356 00:21:11,480 --> 00:21:13,520 Speaker 1: or anything like that, but I did think it was 357 00:21:13,560 --> 00:21:16,960 Speaker 1: like interesting, and it was also the first time I 358 00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:19,720 Speaker 1: wanted to explore that more. And I was actually having 359 00:21:19,760 --> 00:21:23,240 Speaker 1: a chat with Ellie and Jamie because they really feel 360 00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:28,199 Speaker 1: their emotions, like they can really cry at anything. Like 361 00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:32,880 Speaker 1: Jamie literally cries sad anything in like the most beautiful way, 362 00:21:32,920 --> 00:21:35,000 Speaker 1: like when she's really happy, like she could be really 363 00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:37,439 Speaker 1: happy for me and she would cry. Yeah, And like 364 00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:41,359 Speaker 1: I just never, in a millionaires whatever feel like doing that. 365 00:21:41,720 --> 00:21:42,080 Speaker 2: Yeah. 366 00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:44,520 Speaker 1: But then I was like, obviously, again I'm not trying 367 00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:46,720 Speaker 1: to compare myself, but I was like, I do think 368 00:21:46,760 --> 00:21:49,880 Speaker 1: it's interesting, and so they were like, the next time 369 00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:53,720 Speaker 1: you are feeling, you know, sad or happy, like instead 370 00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:57,560 Speaker 1: of just like briefly feeling that, really try and feel 371 00:21:57,600 --> 00:22:00,840 Speaker 1: in the emotion and see what happens. And I was like, Okay, 372 00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:05,280 Speaker 1: So there was this day and you know, there was 373 00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:07,680 Speaker 1: like there was a bit of drama, and again it 374 00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:10,639 Speaker 1: was a situation where I had said yes to something 375 00:22:11,320 --> 00:22:14,240 Speaker 1: that I from the start knew I didn't want to 376 00:22:14,240 --> 00:22:16,439 Speaker 1: say yes to something. And then it meant, you know, 377 00:22:16,560 --> 00:22:19,280 Speaker 1: that I didn't get time with Ivy, and I was 378 00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:22,480 Speaker 1: feeling really upset with myself that I had made this decision. 379 00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:25,240 Speaker 1: So I was going to get coffee and I sat 380 00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:28,280 Speaker 1: in my car and I like really felt into the 381 00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:32,679 Speaker 1: emotion and I cried and I like sat crying in 382 00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:35,440 Speaker 1: my car, and then I really felt in it, and 383 00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:39,240 Speaker 1: I felt really sad and really upset, and I cried 384 00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:43,359 Speaker 1: and then the like then the emotion left and it 385 00:22:43,440 --> 00:22:47,320 Speaker 1: was done. And I kind of thought to myself, how 386 00:22:47,359 --> 00:22:52,280 Speaker 1: many times have I not fully felt an emotion and 387 00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:55,199 Speaker 1: suppressed it and then it maybe came up in a 388 00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:58,280 Speaker 1: trigger or anxiety or because. 389 00:22:57,960 --> 00:22:59,679 Speaker 2: My it's like leaking energy. 390 00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:03,600 Speaker 1: Yes, And I was like, oh, this is something I 391 00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:06,880 Speaker 1: need to like step into more. Yeah. So a big 392 00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:09,240 Speaker 1: lesson that I learned this year was like, I actually 393 00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:12,240 Speaker 1: need to feel into my emotions more because I'm just 394 00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:18,520 Speaker 1: someone who doesn't. So that was that one I too, 395 00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:19,960 Speaker 1: do you feel like that? 396 00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:25,840 Speaker 2: I used to be very emotional and then really toxic events. 397 00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:30,680 Speaker 2: Oh oh, and that was when I learned to control, 398 00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:35,399 Speaker 2: because I would fry all the time. Oh, or like 399 00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:37,880 Speaker 2: not all the time, but like once every two weeks 400 00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:39,760 Speaker 2: there'd be something that would happen and I'd end up 401 00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:41,879 Speaker 2: in tears, and I'm like, I can't let things affect 402 00:23:41,920 --> 00:23:45,160 Speaker 2: me this much. And then in the decision to stop 403 00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:48,920 Speaker 2: letting things affect me that much, I almost dialed down 404 00:23:48,920 --> 00:23:51,520 Speaker 2: the switch of my emotions because even through school and 405 00:23:51,640 --> 00:23:54,199 Speaker 2: like first few years out of school, I was like 406 00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:57,000 Speaker 2: the most emotional person. I'd watch like a Disney movie 407 00:23:57,040 --> 00:23:59,000 Speaker 2: and I'd be in tears. Every time I went to 408 00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:01,920 Speaker 2: the cinema, I'd be in tears with happiness or sadness 409 00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:06,120 Speaker 2: or just anything. And then the past couple of years, 410 00:24:06,119 --> 00:24:07,879 Speaker 2: I'd say barely cried. 411 00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:13,480 Speaker 1: Interesting. That's so interesting that you kind of have like 412 00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:16,760 Speaker 1: a pinpoint event too. That's really good. Yeah, yeah, not 413 00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:17,520 Speaker 1: really good, but. 414 00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:19,959 Speaker 2: Well, hearing what you said that that was your childhood 415 00:24:19,960 --> 00:24:23,960 Speaker 2: that sort of suppressed your emotions. That now, for me, 416 00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:28,760 Speaker 2: that is definitely what caused me to go I'm almost like, 417 00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:33,720 Speaker 2: I'm not gonna let people control my emotions. And instead 418 00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:36,920 Speaker 2: of not letting people control my emotions, I just kind 419 00:24:36,960 --> 00:24:38,040 Speaker 2: of turned them off. 420 00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:41,800 Speaker 1: Oh no, So do you want to feel them a 421 00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:43,239 Speaker 1: bit more? I think I do. 422 00:24:43,440 --> 00:24:44,160 Speaker 2: Yeah. 423 00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:50,680 Speaker 1: I have enjoyed not we are cold, bous, we are cold, 424 00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:56,080 Speaker 1: you know. I like, I'm not gonna lie. I do 425 00:24:56,240 --> 00:24:59,800 Speaker 1: enjoy sometimes like not feeling them. Yeah, it's just like 426 00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:05,480 Speaker 1: it's really like the shittiest thing will happen. 427 00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:09,560 Speaker 2: I'm like, Okay, let's go on the next day. 428 00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:12,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, and then especially in this office, because I'm like, 429 00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:17,440 Speaker 1: life happens for me. Fine, I'm like, oh goodness, I 430 00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:18,040 Speaker 1: that though. 431 00:25:18,080 --> 00:25:20,640 Speaker 2: I have a question, Yeah, what is the difference between 432 00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:25,040 Speaker 2: feeling the sadness and also like trusting bit? 433 00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:27,119 Speaker 1: So here's the thing is, I think you can do 434 00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:31,119 Speaker 1: both because you feel it and then it goes away, 435 00:25:32,160 --> 00:25:34,440 Speaker 1: so then you can go into the trusting. 436 00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:35,080 Speaker 2: Okay. 437 00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:36,879 Speaker 1: Yeah, So I think we kind of got it a 438 00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:39,600 Speaker 1: little bit wrong here and we need to like and 439 00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:42,720 Speaker 1: I'm not talking like you know, you have to be 440 00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:45,480 Speaker 1: crying all the time. No, Because also I was talking 441 00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:47,640 Speaker 1: to my parents about this and they were like, yeah, 442 00:25:47,640 --> 00:25:50,880 Speaker 1: but maybe you're just like not an emotional person. Yeah, 443 00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:59,119 Speaker 1: and I'm like, could be, but like we're like we 444 00:25:59,119 --> 00:26:02,200 Speaker 1: were talking about my childhood and stuff. But I think 445 00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:05,760 Speaker 1: I think the whole thing of this is I do 446 00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:09,600 Speaker 1: want to feel those emotions a little bit more. So 447 00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:13,639 Speaker 1: I think it depends on what season you're in, because 448 00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:16,360 Speaker 1: also I went the last you know, twenty eight years 449 00:26:16,359 --> 00:26:19,239 Speaker 1: and not feeling them and it was great. So it 450 00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:23,040 Speaker 1: really depends what you're about. But obviously, especially being a 451 00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:25,800 Speaker 1: new mum, you know, with Ivy and those things, I 452 00:26:25,840 --> 00:26:28,920 Speaker 1: feel like for her too, I want her to really 453 00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:32,160 Speaker 1: feel her emotions and be able to express herself. Yeah, 454 00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:34,280 Speaker 1: so if I can't even do that, why do I, 455 00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:37,240 Speaker 1: you know, expect her to feel comfortable to do for 456 00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:40,720 Speaker 1: doing that. So that's like a big reason why I, 457 00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:43,359 Speaker 1: you know, wanted to explore that. But it is something 458 00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:45,160 Speaker 1: like I think it's just saying, you know, I'm gonna 459 00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:46,720 Speaker 1: have to check in and see where I go. But 460 00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:50,120 Speaker 1: I just thought that it was definitely an interesting realization 461 00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:50,840 Speaker 1: for me this year. 462 00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:54,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a good one, all right. 463 00:26:55,040 --> 00:27:01,560 Speaker 1: Next one, number five, don't overcomplicate it. Gosh, we do 464 00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:05,360 Speaker 1: this a lot. Oh my gosh. This is like something 465 00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:12,080 Speaker 1: especially like I can overthink things, yeah, And I can 466 00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:14,960 Speaker 1: get in my head about things, and I do sometimes 467 00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:18,760 Speaker 1: find myself having anxious thoughts, which then you know, spial 468 00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:21,760 Speaker 1: spirals myself into more anxiety. 469 00:27:22,080 --> 00:27:22,439 Speaker 2: Yeah. 470 00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:26,399 Speaker 1: And something that I realized this year that really kind 471 00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:29,240 Speaker 1: of helped me get out of my head and feel 472 00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:34,359 Speaker 1: grounded again was just like simplifying things and being like, 473 00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:36,639 Speaker 1: you know, like I feel like, you know, the question 474 00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:39,080 Speaker 1: of like will I care about this in five years? 475 00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:42,679 Speaker 1: Is it really that big of a deal that I 476 00:27:42,880 --> 00:27:48,119 Speaker 1: need to be future tripping and overthinking it? And I 477 00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:51,199 Speaker 1: just feel like this has been so helpful for me, 478 00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:54,399 Speaker 1: especially you know, my whole thing I'm being fucking banging 479 00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:56,800 Speaker 1: on about about you know, finding my mojo back and 480 00:27:56,840 --> 00:28:00,080 Speaker 1: being creative now that i'm you know, a mother, and 481 00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:02,760 Speaker 1: how I've adult journey with that, yeah, and like to 482 00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:05,040 Speaker 1: get out of that like weird funk. I literally was 483 00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:09,640 Speaker 1: just like, maybe exactly how you are is exactly how 484 00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:13,960 Speaker 1: creative you need to be in this season and that's it. Yeah, 485 00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:17,200 Speaker 1: And you know, just being like, stop overthinking it. 486 00:28:17,240 --> 00:28:20,800 Speaker 2: And stop comparing yourself to previous versions of yourself, Yeah, 487 00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:21,320 Speaker 2: and just. 488 00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:25,080 Speaker 1: Let things be simple because you're literally making life harder 489 00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:28,600 Speaker 1: for yourself. And I think, like we all do this, 490 00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:31,000 Speaker 1: Like we've all had friends and they're like spiring them 491 00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:32,760 Speaker 1: and they're like, but what if this happens? What if 492 00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:36,240 Speaker 1: this happens? And you go, oh, it doesn't matter. Yeah, 493 00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:39,000 Speaker 1: And I feel like we need to do that with ourselves, 494 00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:43,840 Speaker 1: and I just yeah, I think yeah. And so the 495 00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:48,080 Speaker 1: vibe for this lesson was really like, can I simplify 496 00:28:48,600 --> 00:28:52,280 Speaker 1: what is happening right now? Because yeah, I do tend 497 00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:56,560 Speaker 1: to be in my head. Next point next lesson, the 498 00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:59,080 Speaker 1: grass is greener where you water it. 499 00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:00,440 Speaker 2: I love this lesson. 500 00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:07,000 Speaker 1: Oh it's a tale as old as time. So this 501 00:29:07,240 --> 00:29:11,560 Speaker 1: is very much and to you know, be very honest 502 00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:16,160 Speaker 1: and very personal. Like the year. The first year of 503 00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:20,400 Speaker 1: parenthood is pretty wild in regards to your relationship with 504 00:29:20,440 --> 00:29:23,200 Speaker 1: your partner. And I feel like, you know, me and 505 00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:27,440 Speaker 1: Tim have definitely gone through some you know, testing times 506 00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:32,520 Speaker 1: and some like challenges being new parents. And something I 507 00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:36,840 Speaker 1: always come back to is like things always look better 508 00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:40,600 Speaker 1: somewhere else. You know, people on social media have the 509 00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:44,440 Speaker 1: perfect marriage, or they have the perfect child or the 510 00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:51,160 Speaker 1: perfect newborn bubble, or you know, everything looks greener. But 511 00:29:51,640 --> 00:29:55,040 Speaker 1: if you can kind of I guess for me because 512 00:29:55,080 --> 00:29:58,000 Speaker 1: I'm in control freak. Something I always love doing is 513 00:29:58,040 --> 00:30:01,000 Speaker 1: like I actually get to take back control. And the 514 00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:03,120 Speaker 1: grass is green and where I water it. So if 515 00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:05,719 Speaker 1: there's an issue in my life or there's something that 516 00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:10,640 Speaker 1: it's like I feel like is not at the you know, 517 00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:15,640 Speaker 1: level that I want, I can actually choose to water 518 00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:18,200 Speaker 1: that grass. I can choose to fill up that relationship. 519 00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:21,720 Speaker 1: I can choose to put more energy into that thing. 520 00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:24,680 Speaker 1: So instead of being like, oh, but you know that 521 00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:27,560 Speaker 1: girl over there, like she's achieved so much and she's 522 00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:29,880 Speaker 1: doing this and he's doing that and they have this 523 00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:33,280 Speaker 1: relationship or blah blah blah, it's like where in my 524 00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:37,480 Speaker 1: life would it feel really good to put more energy 525 00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:40,880 Speaker 1: or you know, to feel better and like looking at 526 00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:43,840 Speaker 1: your own life and you know, staying in your own lane. 527 00:30:44,160 --> 00:30:47,680 Speaker 1: I think it's like a lesson that I will continuously 528 00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:51,719 Speaker 1: need to be told. Yeah, for sure, And especially with 529 00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:54,440 Speaker 1: social media, like I think we get really wrapped up 530 00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:58,840 Speaker 1: in sometimes it's not even other people's life, but even 531 00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:03,959 Speaker 1: just the illusion of perfection in people's lives. It's actually 532 00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:06,080 Speaker 1: you know, with these like reels and tiktoks of like 533 00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:10,440 Speaker 1: very aesthetic morning routines and very aesthetic lives and self 534 00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:15,800 Speaker 1: love and everything is very at the you know, highest level. 535 00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:20,280 Speaker 1: It can feel like, you know, things aren't as good 536 00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:23,360 Speaker 1: in your life because you've got these you know pictures 537 00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:26,680 Speaker 1: constantly getting consumed in your head of what other people 538 00:31:26,920 --> 00:31:30,160 Speaker 1: are experiencing. But it's like it's all an illusion. It's 539 00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:33,400 Speaker 1: all like not their full you know life or anything 540 00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:36,560 Speaker 1: like that. So like the biggest lesson, and I feel 541 00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:39,040 Speaker 1: like I will say this every year is like the 542 00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:41,320 Speaker 1: grass is greener where you water it. So if there 543 00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:43,440 Speaker 1: is something in your life you want to change, is 544 00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:47,600 Speaker 1: you know, focus your energy on that. Stop thinking the 545 00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:49,280 Speaker 1: outside thing is better. 546 00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:50,000 Speaker 2: What's your next? 547 00:31:50,080 --> 00:31:58,160 Speaker 1: Lesson? Lesson seven, Making your word law. I love this sentence. 548 00:31:58,560 --> 00:31:59,320 Speaker 2: I love it too. 549 00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:03,760 Speaker 1: So this is a lesson that I've stolen from my 550 00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:07,440 Speaker 1: favorite book right now, thirty three Steps to Your Infinite 551 00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:14,080 Speaker 1: Self by Stuart Wild Your Genius Start. So he talks 552 00:32:14,080 --> 00:32:19,160 Speaker 1: about this concept of making your word law. And I 553 00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,960 Speaker 1: loved this because I was listening to this audio book 554 00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:24,680 Speaker 1: a couple of months ago, and it was during my 555 00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:29,320 Speaker 1: stage where I was toying with the whole five am 556 00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:32,920 Speaker 1: wake up situation. But I was kind of going flipping flopping. 557 00:32:33,280 --> 00:32:35,600 Speaker 1: So I'd sometimes get up early, but then sometimes I'd 558 00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:37,280 Speaker 1: be like, oh fuck it, I'll just sleep some more. 559 00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:42,920 Speaker 1: And this whole concept is he's kind of saying, make 560 00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:46,160 Speaker 1: your word law. So if you say you're going to 561 00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:51,480 Speaker 1: do something out of respect for yourself, you need to 562 00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:53,560 Speaker 1: do that thing. And if you know you're not going 563 00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:56,600 Speaker 1: to do that thing, do not say it. Make your 564 00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:59,720 Speaker 1: word law. And that also then is very much like 565 00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:02,360 Speaker 1: if you say you're going to do something to like 566 00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:05,120 Speaker 1: for someone else, like make that law to and be 567 00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:07,640 Speaker 1: a very integral person. 568 00:33:07,920 --> 00:33:09,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, where it's like, say what you're going to do, 569 00:33:10,120 --> 00:33:12,880 Speaker 2: that's like, if you're not going to do it, don't. 570 00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:14,600 Speaker 1: Say it, don't say it, and just be like very 571 00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:18,720 Speaker 1: fucking honest. And that's like a quality that I absolutely 572 00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:22,640 Speaker 1: fucking love in someone else. Yeah, Like if there's someone 573 00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:25,080 Speaker 1: who like says what they're going to do, I'm like, 574 00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:29,080 Speaker 1: integrity fucking love it. Yeah, And it's like, why is 575 00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:33,320 Speaker 1: that not something that I should prioritize in myself? And 576 00:33:33,400 --> 00:33:35,760 Speaker 1: I was like, Oh, you're so right to do it. 577 00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:36,400 Speaker 2: Yeah. 578 00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:39,920 Speaker 1: And so something I, you know, begun to do was 579 00:33:39,960 --> 00:33:41,960 Speaker 1: like if I say I'm going to do something. My 580 00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:45,120 Speaker 1: word is law and I'm going to be it's like 581 00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:48,320 Speaker 1: a form of respect for yourself, which I also love 582 00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:51,840 Speaker 1: that concept. And then I started doing the whole well, 583 00:33:52,200 --> 00:33:54,239 Speaker 1: I'm gonna wake up at five am and I'm going 584 00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:57,320 Speaker 1: to go to this gym class. And I just found 585 00:33:57,320 --> 00:34:00,120 Speaker 1: it so easy to then wake up at five am 586 00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:01,280 Speaker 1: because I almost had this. 587 00:34:01,360 --> 00:34:04,800 Speaker 2: Like well I have to, well I have to because 588 00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:07,880 Speaker 2: I said it, yeah, yeah. 589 00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:10,920 Speaker 1: And yeah, the whole the whole concept like really like 590 00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:13,879 Speaker 1: change my life a bit. So I thought we better 591 00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:15,200 Speaker 1: add that this lesson in. 592 00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:18,360 Speaker 2: I love it because it's almost like if you don't 593 00:34:18,480 --> 00:34:22,360 Speaker 2: have that respect for yourself, how can you expect anybody 594 00:34:22,360 --> 00:34:23,840 Speaker 2: else to have it for you? 595 00:34:24,200 --> 00:34:27,439 Speaker 1: Yes, so love that point. Yeah, or like do it. 596 00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:30,239 Speaker 2: To you as well, because I find sometimes there'll be 597 00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:32,000 Speaker 2: people that are a bit flaky with stuff. 598 00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:35,760 Speaker 1: Now it thing's worse than flake. Oh all those people 599 00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:38,680 Speaker 1: like I'm about to fucking this is me. But like 600 00:34:38,719 --> 00:34:42,239 Speaker 1: those people who were like continuously late, and you'll even 601 00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:46,640 Speaker 1: be like do not be late, and like, oh my god, 602 00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:48,960 Speaker 1: I'm about to fucking lose it. Anyway, I am someone 603 00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:53,040 Speaker 1: who continues to be late, but not anymore A tia 604 00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:54,400 Speaker 1: no and. 605 00:34:54,320 --> 00:34:58,080 Speaker 2: It's just like if I say I'm going to go 606 00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:00,280 Speaker 2: to the gym and then I don't go to the gym, 607 00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:07,000 Speaker 2: and the people around me see that, then how like 608 00:35:07,040 --> 00:35:09,440 Speaker 2: it's not really on them if they say they're going 609 00:35:09,480 --> 00:35:11,640 Speaker 2: to do something with me and they don't do it 610 00:35:11,920 --> 00:35:13,800 Speaker 2: because they know that I'm that kind of person. 611 00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:17,239 Speaker 1: Yes, it's like being that sort of person too. Yeah, 612 00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:19,440 Speaker 1: it's like, oh, you don't want to be that person? 613 00:35:19,600 --> 00:35:24,440 Speaker 2: No, And so I need to Actually that is going 614 00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:26,120 Speaker 2: to be one of the things I take into twenty 615 00:35:26,120 --> 00:35:27,879 Speaker 2: twenty three because I need to make my. 616 00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:30,200 Speaker 1: Word law for myself. Put it on your list. 617 00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:31,799 Speaker 2: Yeah it's a long word. 618 00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:38,680 Speaker 1: It's fine. Yeah, it's good. Love that all right, next lesson. Okay, 619 00:35:38,800 --> 00:35:42,200 Speaker 1: So this is a bit of a manifesting concept, which 620 00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:46,399 Speaker 1: is like so obvious. It's something I know, but this 621 00:35:46,520 --> 00:35:49,759 Speaker 1: year I've had to really implement it. And it's like 622 00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:56,280 Speaker 1: the future is now and everything you want is already 623 00:35:56,520 --> 00:36:01,480 Speaker 1: happening that you need to believe that. M So this 624 00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:05,480 Speaker 1: like this concept is like kind of so like the 625 00:36:05,520 --> 00:36:09,239 Speaker 1: whole thing of manifesting is, you know, get on the 626 00:36:09,360 --> 00:36:13,040 Speaker 1: vibe of what you want, act as if it's already happened. 627 00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:16,839 Speaker 1: The universe will only give you what you believe you 628 00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:19,960 Speaker 1: can have and what you're on the same vibration for. 629 00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:23,760 Speaker 1: So you know, if you want something in the future, 630 00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:29,560 Speaker 1: don't be and think that it's in the future. It's 631 00:36:29,760 --> 00:36:34,560 Speaker 1: already yours. You have to act and be like it's 632 00:36:34,640 --> 00:36:35,400 Speaker 1: already yours. 633 00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:36,040 Speaker 2: Yeah. 634 00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:39,279 Speaker 1: And I think sometimes we can get very in our 635 00:36:39,320 --> 00:36:42,080 Speaker 1: own heads of oh, well, like you know, I'll act 636 00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:45,440 Speaker 1: that certain way when I've got that thing. It's like, no, 637 00:36:45,480 --> 00:36:47,480 Speaker 1: you need to act like that now, and then that 638 00:36:47,520 --> 00:36:50,359 Speaker 1: thing will come to you and be attracted to you. Yeah. 639 00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:53,400 Speaker 1: And it is just something I've you know, tried to 640 00:36:53,560 --> 00:36:57,080 Speaker 1: really really embody. Like A huge, huge takeaway for me 641 00:36:57,320 --> 00:37:02,759 Speaker 1: this year is making decisions from my future self. So 642 00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:06,520 Speaker 1: when I'm saying yes and no to an opportunity or 643 00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:09,160 Speaker 1: and obviously like a huge thing is you do need 644 00:37:09,239 --> 00:37:11,520 Speaker 1: to be clear on your next level self. And I 645 00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:14,759 Speaker 1: got so clear of my next level self after I 646 00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:17,040 Speaker 1: did all the work books with my girlfriend of the 647 00:37:17,080 --> 00:37:19,799 Speaker 1: do It for your Future Self course, And so now 648 00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:22,960 Speaker 1: I'm so clear of like my next level Georgie and 649 00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:26,040 Speaker 1: so big, big lesson. A big thing I'm taking into 650 00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:29,359 Speaker 1: the new year is not making decisions of how I 651 00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:32,319 Speaker 1: you know, feel in this moment. Obviously huge thing is 652 00:37:32,360 --> 00:37:35,760 Speaker 1: like using intuition but being like my next level self 653 00:37:35,840 --> 00:37:39,040 Speaker 1: because I am her. Now, what would she decide if 654 00:37:39,080 --> 00:37:42,719 Speaker 1: I really had those things? I'm interacting? What would she decide? 655 00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:45,680 Speaker 1: And I think we very much tend to make And 656 00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:47,440 Speaker 1: the reason why I wanted to put this in is 657 00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:51,040 Speaker 1: because my girlfriend who I went on the iver a 658 00:37:51,120 --> 00:37:54,520 Speaker 1: night stay with Listenda when we were you know, doing 659 00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:58,120 Speaker 1: our next level selves together, she was even talking about 660 00:37:58,120 --> 00:38:00,680 Speaker 1: like she's at the stage where she's ready to get 661 00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:03,560 Speaker 1: help in her business because she currently does it all herself. 662 00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:07,160 Speaker 1: She had like huge block around it, and I'm like, yeah, 663 00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:10,680 Speaker 1: but you also have these amazing high goals and it's 664 00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:14,200 Speaker 1: like if you have achieved those goals, would that person 665 00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:17,560 Speaker 1: what would they say about, you know, having help in 666 00:38:17,600 --> 00:38:19,400 Speaker 1: that regards Like they'd be like, yeah, of course they 667 00:38:19,440 --> 00:38:21,680 Speaker 1: need help because I'm achieving all these goals and I 668 00:38:21,760 --> 00:38:24,920 Speaker 1: have all these things. Of course that's easy. Where she 669 00:38:25,120 --> 00:38:28,200 Speaker 1: had like a block of like making the decision from 670 00:38:28,280 --> 00:38:30,919 Speaker 1: where she is at now rather than where she wants 671 00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:32,880 Speaker 1: to be. Yeah, And that was such a huge a 672 00:38:33,239 --> 00:38:36,440 Speaker 1: moment for her too, which I love, and so that 673 00:38:36,600 --> 00:38:40,240 Speaker 1: is like such, it's an embodiment sort of part of manifestation. 674 00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:44,240 Speaker 1: I think sometimes we really forget that because it's easy 675 00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:46,600 Speaker 1: to make the vision boards and want this big life 676 00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:49,640 Speaker 1: and you know, really dream big, but it's not easy 677 00:38:49,680 --> 00:38:52,359 Speaker 1: to embody that when you don't have it. Yeah, And 678 00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:54,279 Speaker 1: that is truly, truly like the. 679 00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:56,840 Speaker 2: Hack what's your ninth lesson? 680 00:38:57,040 --> 00:39:00,480 Speaker 1: So this is like again a lesson you've probably heard, 681 00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:03,680 Speaker 1: but again has been such a focus for me this year. 682 00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:08,600 Speaker 1: And it's just like the people that around you are everything. 683 00:39:09,160 --> 00:39:11,840 Speaker 1: And it's that old saying of like you are the 684 00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:14,720 Speaker 1: average of the five people you hang around the most. 685 00:39:17,880 --> 00:39:19,520 Speaker 1: How do you feel when I say that to you? Too? 686 00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:20,920 Speaker 1: Pretty good? 687 00:39:20,960 --> 00:39:21,160 Speaker 2: Now? 688 00:39:23,200 --> 00:39:25,879 Speaker 1: I love that my five people are pretty good now. 689 00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:32,680 Speaker 2: I never realized how true that was until Yeah, I 690 00:39:32,760 --> 00:39:35,279 Speaker 2: was surrounded by a completely different bunch of people that 691 00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:38,960 Speaker 2: had different values, and it shifts how you think about things. 692 00:39:38,960 --> 00:39:41,799 Speaker 2: You're like, well, that's not like it's a rare thing 693 00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:43,960 Speaker 2: to have. It's normal and I can do it too. 694 00:39:44,239 --> 00:39:48,040 Speaker 1: Everyone literally does it. It rubs off. Yeah, it rubs off. 695 00:39:48,120 --> 00:39:51,880 Speaker 1: The people around you rub off on you so much, 696 00:39:51,960 --> 00:39:56,239 Speaker 1: and it's often hard to see it's really hard because 697 00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:59,000 Speaker 1: you're like you're so in it. And so this has 698 00:39:59,080 --> 00:40:03,080 Speaker 1: been something this year that I've really been intentional about 699 00:40:03,160 --> 00:40:06,680 Speaker 1: with like just who I'm spending my time with and 700 00:40:06,760 --> 00:40:11,080 Speaker 1: like you know, after whether I'm hanging out with someone 701 00:40:11,280 --> 00:40:13,600 Speaker 1: and it's like is my cup full? 702 00:40:14,160 --> 00:40:14,560 Speaker 2: Yeah? 703 00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:18,560 Speaker 1: Or is it empty? And like does this does this 704 00:40:18,719 --> 00:40:23,520 Speaker 1: serve me? And then also kind of thinking even you know, 705 00:40:23,600 --> 00:40:27,759 Speaker 1: like even in Naked Harvest and ironc being like, you know, 706 00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:32,240 Speaker 1: the people around me, are they amplifying up? Like are 707 00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:36,960 Speaker 1: they dreaming big? Because that's really important of like you know, 708 00:40:37,080 --> 00:40:40,160 Speaker 1: you need to obviously have that common goal and business, 709 00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:45,480 Speaker 1: but also have those goals and ambitions like outside of business, 710 00:40:45,480 --> 00:40:47,680 Speaker 1: and just be even in the type of people. And 711 00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:50,839 Speaker 1: that's why in the business episode we recorded quite a 712 00:40:50,840 --> 00:40:55,440 Speaker 1: while ago to here, I said, like it way matters, 713 00:40:55,480 --> 00:40:59,600 Speaker 1: Like if someone's resume is amazing, but they come in 714 00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:04,240 Speaker 1: and into and I'm like, this is culturally like workplace culture, 715 00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:07,000 Speaker 1: this is not gonna work. I will always hire off, 716 00:41:07,080 --> 00:41:10,000 Speaker 1: Like are they going to fit in? Are we on 717 00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:13,560 Speaker 1: the same vibe? Yeah? For sure? And I think this 718 00:41:13,800 --> 00:41:17,920 Speaker 1: is like something that we get very comfortable with the 719 00:41:17,960 --> 00:41:20,560 Speaker 1: people around us. And I like I'm not saying like 720 00:41:20,640 --> 00:41:23,400 Speaker 1: go out and you know, break up with your partner 721 00:41:23,520 --> 00:41:28,480 Speaker 1: and get new friends, leave your family behind and stuff 722 00:41:28,520 --> 00:41:30,719 Speaker 1: like that, because often you know there are people that 723 00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:33,719 Speaker 1: maybe aren't serving you and maybe are training you a 724 00:41:33,760 --> 00:41:36,320 Speaker 1: little bit. Who are family? Who are you know? People 725 00:41:36,360 --> 00:41:41,319 Speaker 1: you can't exactly get rid of. And it's not about that, 726 00:41:41,360 --> 00:41:43,520 Speaker 1: but it's just about being conscious of like the amount 727 00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:45,640 Speaker 1: of time you spend with that person, or really putting 728 00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:49,040 Speaker 1: boundaries in about what you talk about with those those people, 729 00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:53,000 Speaker 1: and just being so intentionalble And I think also, like 730 00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:56,840 Speaker 1: I said, like always auditing that and checking with yourself 731 00:41:56,880 --> 00:41:59,120 Speaker 1: and checking around with like, hey, who am I actually 732 00:41:59,200 --> 00:42:01,600 Speaker 1: spending most of my time with? What are their values? 733 00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:04,160 Speaker 1: What's the vibe doing? Maybe need to shift things? 734 00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:09,840 Speaker 2: Yeah? And I think like it's also important to acknowledge 735 00:42:09,880 --> 00:42:11,960 Speaker 2: that you can have people in your life that fill 736 00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:16,759 Speaker 2: your cup in specific areas of your life, definitely, And 737 00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:19,839 Speaker 2: you can't expect to get everything from one person. Yeah, 738 00:42:19,840 --> 00:42:22,680 Speaker 2: And it also needs to come from yourself too. Yes, 739 00:42:22,800 --> 00:42:26,479 Speaker 2: So are you feeling your own cup? Where does who 740 00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:30,120 Speaker 2: fills your self development cup? Who feels your let's go 741 00:42:30,160 --> 00:42:32,239 Speaker 2: be fun and spontaneous cup? It doesn't have to be 742 00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:35,000 Speaker 2: the same person who feels your oh my gosh, let's 743 00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:37,919 Speaker 2: talk about all the pop culture because we both enjoy 744 00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:42,200 Speaker 2: that sort of gossipy stuff cup and find those things. 745 00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:45,200 Speaker 2: And it's like almost you can have the best friend 746 00:42:45,239 --> 00:42:47,000 Speaker 2: in the world but never be able to travel with 747 00:42:47,040 --> 00:42:48,799 Speaker 2: that best friend, And there's a friend who you might 748 00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:50,759 Speaker 2: not be as close with that you travel better with 749 00:42:50,920 --> 00:42:53,840 Speaker 2: because of how you travel. And that's like a really 750 00:42:53,920 --> 00:42:58,480 Speaker 2: left field example, but it's just not expecting everything from 751 00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:01,279 Speaker 2: one person, whether that person be a family member or 752 00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:05,560 Speaker 2: your partner or yes, a friend, Like the only person 753 00:43:05,600 --> 00:43:09,239 Speaker 2: you can expect everything from is yourself. I love that 754 00:43:09,440 --> 00:43:11,279 Speaker 2: and then pay everyone else accordingly. 755 00:43:11,760 --> 00:43:14,120 Speaker 1: Yes. And also, and that's also a big thing of 756 00:43:14,719 --> 00:43:17,040 Speaker 1: if you're maybe thinking about your friends and you have 757 00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:20,600 Speaker 1: that you know, more surface level, more just fun and 758 00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:22,239 Speaker 1: you laugh a lot with that friend, and then you 759 00:43:22,239 --> 00:43:24,719 Speaker 1: have that kind of deeper connection friend where you talk 760 00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:28,960 Speaker 1: about personal development and stuff, but also thinking about is 761 00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:34,160 Speaker 1: there anyone where you're maybe missing something from a connection 762 00:43:34,680 --> 00:43:37,000 Speaker 1: and maybe that is something that you can manifest in 763 00:43:37,040 --> 00:43:39,960 Speaker 1: the new year and you can attract, Like there's definitely 764 00:43:40,440 --> 00:43:43,320 Speaker 1: a kind of hole in like my people who surround 765 00:43:43,360 --> 00:43:46,040 Speaker 1: me that I'm like, next year, I really would love 766 00:43:46,080 --> 00:43:49,440 Speaker 1: that field with a person around me because I'm really 767 00:43:49,520 --> 00:43:50,560 Speaker 1: craving that connection. 768 00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:51,360 Speaker 2: Yeah. 769 00:43:51,480 --> 00:43:55,640 Speaker 1: I think that also is really important because yeah, like 770 00:43:55,719 --> 00:43:59,160 Speaker 1: it's also about being like you actually deserve to have 771 00:43:59,400 --> 00:44:04,400 Speaker 1: the connection you want. Yes, yeah, so it's like you 772 00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:07,840 Speaker 1: can't be picky and you also if there is a 773 00:44:07,840 --> 00:44:10,279 Speaker 1: connection you're lacking, like, don't just try and fill it 774 00:44:10,360 --> 00:44:14,799 Speaker 1: with like average connection. Yeah yeah, I'm not gonna say 775 00:44:14,800 --> 00:44:18,279 Speaker 1: average people average connection and being like wait and be 776 00:44:18,400 --> 00:44:21,040 Speaker 1: like very specific with what you want and I guarantee 777 00:44:21,040 --> 00:44:23,240 Speaker 1: you will be able to attract that thing and person 778 00:44:23,320 --> 00:44:29,960 Speaker 1: in Sorry, Yeah that connection Okay, amazing and very last 779 00:44:30,239 --> 00:44:35,040 Speaker 1: lesson of twenty twenty two create space to allow things 780 00:44:35,080 --> 00:44:37,919 Speaker 1: to fall into place. So I went on a whole 781 00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:40,120 Speaker 1: rate about this in I think it was my Friday 782 00:44:40,160 --> 00:44:45,840 Speaker 1: episode and a huge thing that I'm leaning into leaning 783 00:44:45,960 --> 00:44:51,839 Speaker 1: into is creating space in you know, my life for 784 00:44:52,239 --> 00:44:56,279 Speaker 1: things to fall into place in maybe mysterious ways. I 785 00:44:56,320 --> 00:44:58,520 Speaker 1: highly suggest you go listen to that episode if you haven't, 786 00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:02,560 Speaker 1: because it's all about rendering and leaning into uncertainty because 787 00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:05,640 Speaker 1: as humans we do not like to do that, especially 788 00:45:05,680 --> 00:45:08,080 Speaker 1: if you're a control freak like me. But a big 789 00:45:08,719 --> 00:45:12,000 Speaker 1: part of this is my year was so packed filled 790 00:45:12,600 --> 00:45:16,040 Speaker 1: and it felt very unaligned because I was not checking 791 00:45:16,040 --> 00:45:18,640 Speaker 1: in with myself because you know, all these lessons I've 792 00:45:18,680 --> 00:45:21,600 Speaker 1: literally just spoken about and obviously they're lessons for a reason, 793 00:45:21,680 --> 00:45:24,200 Speaker 1: and I'm so grateful I've learned them. But a big 794 00:45:24,320 --> 00:45:28,479 Speaker 1: thing is I took space. I think it was around 795 00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:31,879 Speaker 1: October and I took a couple of weeks and it 796 00:45:32,040 --> 00:45:36,080 Speaker 1: really fuck it really like sorted me out. Yeah, and 797 00:45:36,120 --> 00:45:39,480 Speaker 1: I've realized how much I need to have space and 798 00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:41,880 Speaker 1: I don't have to just fill my calendar and my 799 00:45:42,040 --> 00:45:45,799 Speaker 1: time and you know, tick things off and being very 800 00:45:45,800 --> 00:45:49,399 Speaker 1: intentional and kind of leaving space and going some time 801 00:45:49,440 --> 00:45:51,840 Speaker 1: and then checking with yourself and then leaving space and 802 00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:54,400 Speaker 1: then going some more. And I think there is just 803 00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:57,440 Speaker 1: so much like sweetness in doing that, and that's something 804 00:45:57,520 --> 00:45:59,759 Speaker 1: I'm really really trying to step in. And I know 805 00:45:59,840 --> 00:46:03,440 Speaker 1: that it's obviously not going to be possible, you know, 806 00:46:03,480 --> 00:46:05,640 Speaker 1: for everyone in it. Actually I feel like you can. 807 00:46:05,760 --> 00:46:08,040 Speaker 1: I fee feel like you can really create space for yourself. 808 00:46:08,080 --> 00:46:14,240 Speaker 1: But yeah, I just find that that has been so 809 00:46:14,520 --> 00:46:17,839 Speaker 1: important to me, and honestly, my biggest lesson this year 810 00:46:17,880 --> 00:46:20,719 Speaker 1: and something I'm really leaning in for the new year. 811 00:46:21,400 --> 00:46:24,359 Speaker 1: I love that. That is it, my loves. I hope 812 00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:27,879 Speaker 1: you enjoyed ten lessons of twenty twenty two. And then, 813 00:46:27,920 --> 00:46:30,719 Speaker 1: of course, if you do want to join us for 814 00:46:30,800 --> 00:46:33,360 Speaker 1: the do it for your future self. There is only 815 00:46:33,840 --> 00:46:37,520 Speaker 1: I think about four or five days left to enroll 816 00:46:37,760 --> 00:46:40,720 Speaker 1: and start on the first of January, so I'll also 817 00:46:40,800 --> 00:46:42,879 Speaker 1: put a link in the show notes for that. But 818 00:46:42,960 --> 00:46:47,120 Speaker 1: I hope you're having an amazing festive season, and I 819 00:46:47,160 --> 00:46:50,200 Speaker 1: hope you had an amazing Christmas, and I hope you 820 00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:52,040 Speaker 1: have a lovely new year. So if I don't chat 821 00:46:52,080 --> 00:46:59,319 Speaker 1: to you before, then bye. 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