WEBVTT - 7 Rules that have changed my life 🌻 0:00:00.520 --> 0:00:03.640 I'd like to acknowledge the traditional owners on which this 0:00:03.720 --> 0:00:08.160 episode is being recorded, the combo marry people. We pay 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:12.360 our respects to elders past, present and emerging and extend 0:00:12.480 --> 0:00:16.520 that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples. 0:00:16.560 --> 0:00:24.279 Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, and this is the 0:00:24.400 --> 0:00:32.080 Rise and Conquer Podcast. This is the podcast where which 0:00:32.120 --> 0:00:36.560 have mindset, self development and becoming your higher self mix 0:00:36.640 --> 0:00:39.440 soon with a lot of laughs, plus behind the scenes 0:00:39.479 --> 0:00:43.040 of my life running two businesses and being among Think 0:00:43.080 --> 0:00:45.599 of us as the perfect combo of brunch with your 0:00:45.640 --> 0:00:49.239 besties mixed with self development. No matter where you are 0:00:49.320 --> 0:00:52.040 in your journey, We're here to help you be curious, 0:00:52.280 --> 0:00:57.880 pull yourself out, and embrace radical self awareness. If you're 0:00:57.920 --> 0:01:00.280 ready to get into the driver's seat of your own 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:03.600 life and stop letting life past you by, then you're 0:01:03.640 --> 0:01:13.560 in the right place. Hello everybody, and welcome back to 0:01:13.600 --> 0:01:17.759 the Rise and Conquer Podcast. On today's episode, we are 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:21.520 talking about the seven rules that have changed my life. 0:01:22.160 --> 0:01:24.840 So I've been doing a lot of self development at 0:01:24.880 --> 0:01:28.280 the moment, and I really I feel like I'm going 0:01:28.319 --> 0:01:30.480 to a new level. Guys, I don't know if you 0:01:30.520 --> 0:01:35.319 feel it too. We do, but I guess it's like, 0:01:35.480 --> 0:01:37.319 you know, I've been on my self development journey for 0:01:37.360 --> 0:01:40.120 like ten years now, and I truly believe like you 0:01:40.160 --> 0:01:44.280 go through certain stages and through certain seasons and phases 0:01:44.319 --> 0:01:47.560 and levels, and I feel like from the start of 0:01:47.600 --> 0:01:51.280 this year, I really have like locked into this new 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:56.520 awareness with myself and really doing a lot of reflection 0:01:57.200 --> 0:01:59.400 in how I do things and how I show up. 0:02:00.040 --> 0:02:03.760 And also the big catalyst for that was having my 0:02:03.840 --> 0:02:07.800 baby girl, Ivy last year and struggling with being a 0:02:07.840 --> 0:02:11.959 new mum and really struggling with my whole identity around it, 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:14.520 and I knew I kind of needed to shift and 0:02:14.560 --> 0:02:19.520 go to this next level really to support obviously her, 0:02:19.720 --> 0:02:23.359 but also my evolution in this new season of life, 0:02:23.400 --> 0:02:29.000 because yeah, it was really hard. And it's interesting because 0:02:29.120 --> 0:02:33.400 now having this little human, everything feels so much more 0:02:33.840 --> 0:02:37.360 important to do in regards to doing my own self 0:02:37.400 --> 0:02:40.640 development work, because it's kind of like when you get 0:02:40.680 --> 0:02:43.760 a little child, especially when they're toddlers, you find out 0:02:43.840 --> 0:02:47.560 how much they model you. Yes, And it's interesting because 0:02:47.639 --> 0:02:50.720 we were at the table the other day and Ivy 0:02:50.800 --> 0:02:53.320 was throwing her food and Tim's like, Ivy, don't for 0:02:53.400 --> 0:02:55.600 your food, and we were like, oh, why is she 0:02:55.760 --> 0:02:58.320 doing that? And then it's really funny because we have 0:02:58.800 --> 0:03:01.440 we lived next to a now reserve, we have little birdies. 0:03:01.760 --> 0:03:04.080 And then like literally the next moment, like Tim was 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:07.079 like throwing food to the birds. And then I looked 0:03:07.120 --> 0:03:08.960 at him and I was like, well, this is why 0:03:09.040 --> 0:03:11.840 she's throwing food And me and him are like, oh, yeah, 0:03:13.320 --> 0:03:14.920 because we feed the birds all the time and we 0:03:15.400 --> 0:03:17.720 throw food to them. And then we're like, don't throw food, Ivy. 0:03:18.240 --> 0:03:20.359 And I'm like, well, she's just seeing what we do. 0:03:20.680 --> 0:03:23.360 And you know, monkey see, monkey do Yeah, And you 0:03:23.639 --> 0:03:26.480 really like when they're told that, You're like, wow, they 0:03:26.480 --> 0:03:31.359 are watching everything. And I remember having this beautiful aha 0:03:31.400 --> 0:03:34.400 moment at the start of the year where I thought, 0:03:34.600 --> 0:03:38.440 you know, if you're so like I led, I read 0:03:38.560 --> 0:03:42.200 this stat that in the first one to seven years 0:03:42.200 --> 0:03:45.240 of a child, they're core beliefs. That's when they're really 0:03:45.280 --> 0:03:50.600 like imprinted and the most strongest, and I thought, wow, 0:03:50.680 --> 0:03:53.240 I've got, you know, the next seven years to really 0:03:53.280 --> 0:03:57.000 help create Ivy. Have them like the best core beliefs. Yeah, 0:03:57.040 --> 0:03:59.720 and she's only gonna know those core beliefs if I 0:03:59.840 --> 0:04:02.760 have them, and I think I have amazing core beliefs, 0:04:02.760 --> 0:04:04.760 but it was really a moment where I was like, yeah, 0:04:04.800 --> 0:04:07.120 but also I can go upper level, yeah, and I 0:04:07.200 --> 0:04:09.880 can make sure I'm being so integral and really model 0:04:09.960 --> 0:04:13.960 these for Ivy. And that's when kind of this journey 0:04:14.080 --> 0:04:16.680 of creating the seven Rules of being your own Best 0:04:16.680 --> 0:04:21.000 Friend started and I started thinking about, Okay, well, how 0:04:21.040 --> 0:04:23.920 do I want Ivy to be? And then I noticed 0:04:23.960 --> 0:04:27.760 how much I wasn't doing simple things like having a 0:04:27.800 --> 0:04:32.040 beautiful internal dialogue instead of like being very passive aggressive 0:04:33.120 --> 0:04:36.279 like we say in the episode. So the seven rules 0:04:36.279 --> 0:04:39.039 that you're about to hear is what I created with 0:04:39.200 --> 0:04:42.120 my co lab with Naked Harvest. So I released my 0:04:42.320 --> 0:04:47.240 limited edition products which is white Swell Caramel is that right? 0:04:47.480 --> 0:04:50.760 White top Caramel Swell and men get passion Fruit pre Workout. 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:52.599 Guys. I actually don't know what it's called because I 0:04:52.680 --> 0:04:57.120 just call it CARAMELK but like legally we got so 0:04:57.360 --> 0:04:59.560 yeah what a tea said, and then Mengo passion Fruit 0:04:59.600 --> 0:05:02.800 pre work Out, and then beautiful little accessories to go 0:05:02.880 --> 0:05:05.680 with it. And of course, if I'm going to do 0:05:05.960 --> 0:05:08.920 something with you know, anything, it's got to do with 0:05:08.920 --> 0:05:12.919 self development. So this collection launched with the seven Rules 0:05:12.920 --> 0:05:14.800 of Being Your Best Friend, and so you guys would 0:05:14.839 --> 0:05:16.720 have seen them on social media, but I thought it 0:05:16.720 --> 0:05:20.400 would be really cool to actually dive a bit deeper 0:05:20.600 --> 0:05:24.279 and really get into what these seven rules mean to 0:05:24.520 --> 0:05:28.000 me and also how you possibly could apply these to 0:05:28.160 --> 0:05:31.159 your life. I truly believe these rules are life changing, 0:05:31.680 --> 0:05:35.479 oh one hundred and they're so simple. But everyone who 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:39.359 I've had the discussion about these rules too have those 0:05:39.440 --> 0:05:43.080 aha moments and are like, wow, yeah, if I really reflect, 0:05:43.240 --> 0:05:46.760 I can apply these to my life and really step 0:05:46.760 --> 0:05:55.080 it up or not? Can you restock? No, guys, this 0:05:55.120 --> 0:05:58.680 is the actual conversation I've been having twenty four seven 0:05:58.920 --> 0:06:05.240 of people being like, visually, you're not killing me, I know, 0:06:05.440 --> 0:06:09.520 but also you've got your bags, the teams all stocked up, 0:06:09.960 --> 0:06:14.360 We're ready to go. The NH kitchen stopped up, so funny. 0:06:14.360 --> 0:06:17.719 Ellie literally was like, Hey, can I take three bags 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:21.040 because I need to ear my roommate once and I 0:06:21.080 --> 0:06:25.080 was like, yes, just for you, Ellie. So everyone is 0:06:25.120 --> 0:06:29.440 stocking up. But as we're recording like this intro, we 0:06:29.760 --> 0:06:32.920 I think let me actually check the units. Oh my god, guys, 0:06:33.000 --> 0:06:36.960 we literally have like less five hundred units. So this 0:06:37.160 --> 0:06:40.640 is like, this is the last call vibes when this 0:06:40.720 --> 0:06:44.800 episode goes out. If you have tried the protein pre 0:06:44.839 --> 0:06:46.960 Worker and you're like, yes, this is my flavor and 0:06:47.000 --> 0:06:49.640 you want to grab it for another month, this is 0:06:49.720 --> 0:06:52.840 the time grab it please, because it's not coming back. 0:06:52.880 --> 0:06:56.640 I've been begging. No it's not. Well, it's it's you know, 0:06:56.680 --> 0:06:59.600 it's one of the real absolutely, but the promises you 0:06:59.640 --> 0:07:03.880 make to yourself, and I feel such a new level 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:06.719 of integrity with what I say this year. I don't 0:07:06.760 --> 0:07:09.720 know if you guys have noticed that too. So for example, 0:07:09.880 --> 0:07:12.720 I know in business, like a lot of people like 0:07:13.120 --> 0:07:15.160 it's the last time, and then you know, they bring 0:07:15.160 --> 0:07:17.640 it back. And I've definitely been guilty of doing that 0:07:17.760 --> 0:07:21.160 in n H Errancy obviously because it's like everybody wants it. 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:23.080 You have so much demand and you want to give 0:07:23.080 --> 0:07:26.240 it to the community. But also for me now it's 0:07:26.320 --> 0:07:30.280 more about am I being integral with my words and 0:07:30.280 --> 0:07:33.200 what I say and how I how I be with 0:07:33.240 --> 0:07:36.160 my community too, So for sure, yeah, no she's not 0:07:36.240 --> 0:07:39.280 coming back, but look, we always do new fun stuff. 0:07:39.320 --> 0:07:41.960 But if you true, if you love her, this is 0:07:42.000 --> 0:07:44.800 the last time. But this is such a cool campaign 0:07:44.920 --> 0:07:48.120 to do with our end h products because it's really 0:07:48.160 --> 0:07:51.840 like bringing my two favorite things in the whole entire 0:07:51.880 --> 0:07:56.200 world like together in one campaign. I loved the campaign. 0:07:56.360 --> 0:07:58.440 It was so much fun. So guys, yeah, if you 0:07:58.440 --> 0:08:01.000 don't want to grab the flavors, makes you get on 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:02.840 to them because they're about to sell out. Put links 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:05.080 in the show notes. But I really hope you enjoy 0:08:05.200 --> 0:08:07.880 this dive deep into the seven rules of being your 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:08.520 best Friend. 0:08:08.880 --> 0:08:11.600 But before you get into it, Jogy, what's to a 0:08:11.600 --> 0:08:12.600 weekly recommendation? 0:08:12.840 --> 0:08:15.320 Oh my god, did I just pulle forget the recommendation. 0:08:16.800 --> 0:08:20.120 I'm actually reading a new book, are you, guys. I've 0:08:20.160 --> 0:08:24.960 been smacking out the books since doing like, no social media, 0:08:25.120 --> 0:08:29.239 no Netflix vibes, I have been smacking out the books. 0:08:29.320 --> 0:08:34.840 So new book i'm reading it is called The Breakthrough Experience. 0:08:35.520 --> 0:08:38.880 And what's it about. I'm actually only three chapters deep. 0:08:38.960 --> 0:08:41.480 It's about this guy. He's a chiropractor. I don't know 0:08:41.520 --> 0:08:44.760 what's the thing with chiropractice because Joe Dispenser is a chiropractice. 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:50.319 The chiropracter they just fix a I love chiropractor. My 0:08:50.520 --> 0:08:57.679 chiropractor used to be really hot. I don't know why 0:08:57.720 --> 0:09:00.719 I had to say that, but anyway, So it's the 0:09:00.760 --> 0:09:05.760 Breakthrough Experience by doctor John F. DeMartini. I think could 0:09:05.760 --> 0:09:08.480 be pronouncing and yeah, I'm many a couple of chapters in, 0:09:08.559 --> 0:09:15.680 but it's like it's weird. It's like manifesting mindset. Heel 0:09:15.800 --> 0:09:19.400 your fucking life vibes. I love it, but it's really good. 0:09:19.440 --> 0:09:23.680 I'm very captivating, and you know, it's a lot about 0:09:24.120 --> 0:09:26.800 gratitude and getting clear on your goals, but he just 0:09:27.240 --> 0:09:29.720 he says it in a really different way that I 0:09:29.760 --> 0:09:33.360 haven't heard before. And it's just I guess when I 0:09:33.440 --> 0:09:35.520 read books now, it's like a lot of the stuff 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:39.000 I already know because I've read that many books. But 0:09:39.040 --> 0:09:42.679 it's also like it's so good to re read stuff 0:09:43.320 --> 0:09:46.240 and reread ideas and be like, oh cool, he's talking 0:09:46.240 --> 0:09:49.400 about gratitude or manifesting, but he's saying it this way 0:09:49.679 --> 0:09:51.240 and how interesting. 0:09:50.920 --> 0:09:53.280 And sometimes it just doesn't hit till you read it 0:09:53.320 --> 0:09:54.160 a certain way. 0:09:54.640 --> 0:09:58.160 One hundred and ten percent. That's honestly why, Like you know, 0:09:58.280 --> 0:10:00.920 if you even think about the Rhysycle project, like that's 0:10:00.960 --> 0:10:03.840 a manifesting course. Yeah, And it's like there's thousands of 0:10:03.920 --> 0:10:08.000 manifesting course, but there's people who literally have the most 0:10:08.080 --> 0:10:11.880 life changing experience because it's me teaching that course. Yes, 0:10:11.960 --> 0:10:13.960 and I say it in a certain way, and maybe 0:10:14.000 --> 0:10:17.480 they are a similar archetype or you know, whatever it is, 0:10:17.520 --> 0:10:20.320 and it really hits them. It's like, that's what I 0:10:20.400 --> 0:10:23.040 really find is like when you find those people where 0:10:23.080 --> 0:10:28.760 you're like captivated, activated, captivated and activated and you just 0:10:29.000 --> 0:10:32.319 like it feels right and you're like, oh, wow, that's powerful. 0:10:32.880 --> 0:10:35.760 Really hold on to those because they're probably saying the 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:38.480 stuff you've heard before, but they're saying it in a 0:10:38.520 --> 0:10:42.079 way that is like your brain's eating it up exactly. 0:10:42.240 --> 0:10:45.920 Sometimes it depends on the time too, Yeah, in your life. 0:10:46.280 --> 0:10:49.199 I think also this book it does feel a little 0:10:49.240 --> 0:10:52.600 bit high level in the way of I'm like, oh, 0:10:52.840 --> 0:10:56.240 I feel like I'm grasping and understanding this now, but 0:10:56.400 --> 0:11:00.400 maybe I wouldn't have at the start of my journey. Wow, 0:11:00.520 --> 0:11:02.959 that's interesting. So that's maybe I don't know. If you're 0:11:02.960 --> 0:11:05.160 a full beginner, I don't know if this would be 0:11:05.160 --> 0:11:07.319 the book for you. Might go a little bit over 0:11:07.360 --> 0:11:09.280 your head but not over your head, but just not 0:11:09.360 --> 0:11:10.640 be as impactful. 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:15.800 Yeah, yeah, what about you. Mine is an app called Open. 0:11:16.480 --> 0:11:19.480 So I've been trying to stay or like not stay 0:11:19.520 --> 0:11:22.360 off socials, but limit my time because I noticed that 0:11:22.400 --> 0:11:25.960 I was just doing a lot of mindless scrolling. And 0:11:26.240 --> 0:11:29.480 it's just one of those ones that like blocks the apps. 0:11:30.040 --> 0:11:32.280 But what I like about it is you can set 0:11:32.520 --> 0:11:37.280 zones of times and apps to block. So, for example, 0:11:38.040 --> 0:11:41.520 work obviously can't block socials because I have to go 0:11:41.559 --> 0:11:42.080 on them. 0:11:42.559 --> 0:11:43.520 I have to be in my life. 0:11:43.520 --> 0:11:45.840 I have to be on my socials or work. But 0:11:48.480 --> 0:11:50.920 so like from five pm, I go into like a 0:11:50.960 --> 0:11:54.040 log off thing and that's when my socials shut off. 0:11:54.080 --> 0:11:56.400 And then I can shut off all my entertainment apps 0:11:56.400 --> 0:11:59.120 at seven pm, which means like no Netflix, Disney Plus 0:11:59.120 --> 0:12:02.960 and all that's blocked from seven pm. So that's what 0:12:03.000 --> 0:12:04.920 I really like about the app, because I find a 0:12:04.960 --> 0:12:07.080 lot of those other blocking ones it just like makes 0:12:07.080 --> 0:12:09.960 you wait three seconds or whatever before you get into 0:12:10.000 --> 0:12:12.640 the app instead, but this one fully blocks it and 0:12:12.679 --> 0:12:13.480 you can't open it. 0:12:13.679 --> 0:12:17.319 So that's my recommendation. Oh my god, Yeah, so interesting. 0:12:17.440 --> 0:12:21.439 Yeah, And I would recommend even if you don't want 0:12:21.440 --> 0:12:25.160 to download an app like that, but try not watching 0:12:25.240 --> 0:12:27.760 TV before bed. If that's a habit you currently have. 0:12:28.000 --> 0:12:29.160 Swap it out for something else. 0:12:30.000 --> 0:12:31.959 Love amazing. 0:12:32.040 --> 0:13:01.439 Let's get into the episode. 0:12:48.960 --> 0:12:53.360 Rule number one, shift your internal dialogue. So this rule 0:12:53.520 --> 0:12:57.480 really was like the catalyst for creating the whole seven rules, 0:12:57.520 --> 0:13:00.280 because the whole seven rules really came from a place 0:13:00.280 --> 0:13:04.280 and explained this at the NH event of I started 0:13:04.360 --> 0:13:07.480 doing a lot of internal work and I realized how 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:12.880 fucked up my internal system was. Well, just like, mind' 0:13:12.880 --> 0:13:16.200 stop crazy For someone who has done so much self development, 0:13:16.280 --> 0:13:23.080 I was like, fuck, I'm running on mostly shame. You'll 0:13:23.120 --> 0:13:27.920 think I'm running on motivation, and it's shame. No, no, no, 0:13:28.240 --> 0:13:32.280 But I just notice in the way of I thought 0:13:32.360 --> 0:13:35.560 my internal dialogue and my internal story was fine and 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:39.920 even like great, But then when I really looked at 0:13:39.960 --> 0:13:43.080 how I made decisions or how I spoke to myself internally, 0:13:43.160 --> 0:13:45.680 I was like, oh wait, no, this comes from a 0:13:45.840 --> 0:13:51.480 lot of stories of shame or guilt or being really 0:13:51.520 --> 0:13:55.199 hard on myself. And the whole reason why these seven 0:13:55.280 --> 0:13:58.800 rules were born was because I remember hearing a fact 0:13:58.880 --> 0:14:02.920 that children from the age one to seven is when 0:14:03.040 --> 0:14:06.480 they create their belief system. And I've heard that for years, 0:14:06.559 --> 0:14:10.400 but this really resonates now because of how I teach 0:14:10.480 --> 0:14:14.240 on core beliefs and how much a single belief from 0:14:14.600 --> 0:14:19.040 your childhood can really fuck you up or be the 0:14:19.120 --> 0:14:22.680 catalyst to you doing great things. So true. So it 0:14:22.720 --> 0:14:24.920 really made me think of like, holy shit, Okay, what 0:14:25.160 --> 0:14:27.600 beliefs am I giving Ivy? And I knew I was 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:30.200 giving her a lot of great beliefs, But also I 0:14:30.200 --> 0:14:33.000 had to be very honest about what was happening internally, 0:14:33.040 --> 0:14:38.160 because what I remember was listening of like children don't 0:14:38.200 --> 0:14:41.080 like listen to what you say, they listen to how 0:14:41.120 --> 0:14:45.920 you model how you be, So it's just how you are, yeah, 0:14:45.960 --> 0:14:49.200 And it's like the beliefs are always going to show themselves. 0:14:49.480 --> 0:14:52.720 When I remember kind of discovering this and really unpacking 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:56.320 and really thinking and diving deep, I realized my internal 0:14:56.400 --> 0:15:01.600 dialogue was like it was fine, but it did run 0:15:01.720 --> 0:15:06.480 a lot off this shame thing of It's like, it's 0:15:06.520 --> 0:15:09.600 not like my internal dialogue was like you're a shit human. Yeah, 0:15:09.720 --> 0:15:12.480 you're a piece of crap. But it was just like, well, Georgia, 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:15.000 you should work more because you do have a big 0:15:15.040 --> 0:15:17.080 mortgage and you want it to be the sole provider. 0:15:17.240 --> 0:15:22.200 It's almost like passive. It's so passive as isn't it 0:15:22.360 --> 0:15:24.960 or like you know, yeah, you can eat that bit. 0:15:25.120 --> 0:15:31.400 Is it being healthy? You know? Yeah? And then I 0:15:31.440 --> 0:15:33.760 know exactly what you mean, like it's not bad, but 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:36.400 if you if I would say it to anyone else, 0:15:36.520 --> 0:15:38.880 I would be embarrassed of how I spoke to them. 0:15:39.080 --> 0:15:40.560 So I was like, what, yeah, black, am I talking 0:15:40.600 --> 0:15:43.080 to myself like that? I feel like it's come a 0:15:43.120 --> 0:15:45.280 long way, but it was like it can do better. 0:15:45.360 --> 0:15:49.160 So rule number one, have an actual good look at 0:15:49.160 --> 0:15:52.960 your internal dialogue. And like the whole tagline is like 0:15:53.120 --> 0:15:55.480 if you wouldn't say it to your bestie, don't say 0:15:55.480 --> 0:15:58.760 it to yourself. And also even if I think of 0:15:59.000 --> 0:16:01.760 you know, like this morning, Brookie from NH was like, Hey, 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:03.800 I woke up with a headache. I'm really not feeling well. 0:16:03.800 --> 0:16:05.400 I'm just gonna work from home. I might try and 0:16:05.440 --> 0:16:07.600 log in to do some stuff that I'm like, I'm 0:16:07.600 --> 0:16:09.960 not feeling good. And I was like, oh go babe, 0:16:09.960 --> 0:16:11.880 Like I hope you feel better. Don't worry about logging in. 0:16:11.960 --> 0:16:14.680 We've got it sorted. And it's like when we speak 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:17.720 to others, like because generally if you're listening to this podcast, 0:16:17.720 --> 0:16:21.480 You're a great person. Yeah, And so like I really 0:16:21.560 --> 0:16:24.280 how I interact and talk to other people and just 0:16:24.360 --> 0:16:27.840 be with other people. It is like I'm over generous 0:16:27.840 --> 0:16:31.840 with wanting to be caring and loving for them. But 0:16:31.880 --> 0:16:34.760 it's like we never give that to ourselves. No, because 0:16:34.800 --> 0:16:37.360 if you woke up with a headache, you'd guild yourself 0:16:37.360 --> 0:16:41.080 and to go into work. Yeah, exactly, You'll be like, well, 0:16:41.080 --> 0:16:43.080 this is your fault because all the chocolate you wan't 0:16:45.320 --> 0:16:50.080 not me doing that yesterday. So it's just interesting of 0:16:50.160 --> 0:16:54.200 like clocking that and just being like, oh, okay, my 0:16:54.280 --> 0:17:00.560 internal dialogue is very passive, aggressive, and it's not very nice, 0:17:00.640 --> 0:17:02.680 and so let's just turn it up a notch of 0:17:02.720 --> 0:17:05.040 just being like a tiny bit nicer to ourselves and 0:17:05.400 --> 0:17:09.240 giving ourselves that compassion but also realizing and we'll get 0:17:09.240 --> 0:17:12.600 in this in some other rules of like internal dialogue 0:17:12.600 --> 0:17:14.400 of how you would speak to your bestie, because also 0:17:14.480 --> 0:17:16.480 like how I speak to my best friend. You know, 0:17:16.560 --> 0:17:19.399 she has a small business, she has babies. But also 0:17:19.640 --> 0:17:22.200 if I see an excuse, I'm gonna say like, but 0:17:22.400 --> 0:17:25.359 is that an excuse? Yeah, And I'm going to say 0:17:25.400 --> 0:17:29.040 it in a loving and caring, supportive way. So it 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:33.560 doesn't just mean being overly nice and just like it's 0:17:33.640 --> 0:17:36.720 letting everything slide, letting everything side, or anything like that. 0:17:36.920 --> 0:17:39.359 It's having a lot of self trust with yourself. But 0:17:39.400 --> 0:17:41.720 I just think this is a huge thing we can 0:17:41.960 --> 0:17:44.640 all think about and change just that tiny bit, because 0:17:44.680 --> 0:17:46.439 I guarantee you we're all fucking bitches to us. 0:17:46.440 --> 0:17:49.960 So internally, something that helped me with this is saying 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:53.320 it out loud, Like if I'm thinking something, I look 0:17:53.400 --> 0:17:55.720 like a crazy person. I can tell you that, but 0:17:55.800 --> 0:17:57.720 I say it out loud, Like if I'm not gone 0:17:57.760 --> 0:17:59.800 to the gym, I say it out loud to myself 0:18:00.119 --> 0:18:02.520 what I'm thinking about why I'm not going to the gym, 0:18:02.840 --> 0:18:04.960 And I find it so much easier to process and 0:18:05.040 --> 0:18:10.000 distinguish excuses versus actual valid reasons of why I can't 0:18:10.000 --> 0:18:12.760 do something, And it's so much easier to like, I 0:18:12.760 --> 0:18:15.080 don't know why, but I find it easier to rationalize 0:18:15.080 --> 0:18:18.040 out loud because you're almost talking to another person and 0:18:18.080 --> 0:18:19.040 you can catch yourself. 0:18:19.200 --> 0:18:21.080 I love that so much because even see how I 0:18:21.119 --> 0:18:22.760 set out loud my thing and you're like, oh wow, 0:18:22.760 --> 0:18:25.280 that's passive aggressive. Yeah was in your head. You're like, oh, 0:18:25.280 --> 0:18:27.760 that's just normal. Yeah, it's just like in your head. 0:18:28.040 --> 0:18:31.800 And that's even like journaling. Often when I'm like feeling 0:18:31.800 --> 0:18:35.280 anxious or like overwhelmed or something, I journal because often 0:18:35.320 --> 0:18:38.760 when I put things on pages, I'm like, oh, that's 0:18:38.760 --> 0:18:42.239 a bit traumatic to order, you know, yeah, and you 0:18:42.280 --> 0:18:44.239 put it down. And so I love that of like 0:18:44.359 --> 0:18:48.280 even speaking it and being like, oh, just checking in. 0:18:48.520 --> 0:18:50.919 How am I speaking to myself? Yeah, so just something 0:18:51.000 --> 0:18:53.199 to check in. I think that's a great thing. A 0:18:53.240 --> 0:18:56.040 tear of like saying the thing or writing it down 0:18:56.520 --> 0:18:59.680 and noticing, like, would I actually speak this or say 0:18:59.680 --> 0:19:02.120 this to my best friend? What's the second rule? Keep 0:19:02.160 --> 0:19:07.560 the promises you make with yourself, my dear. It's what 0:19:07.600 --> 0:19:10.560 I'm working on this year. I love it. So guys. 0:19:10.720 --> 0:19:13.200 If you remember the podcast I told you guys about 0:19:13.200 --> 0:19:16.639 that book called Infinite Self, Wait fifty five Steps to 0:19:16.720 --> 0:19:19.200 Your Infinite Self. I believe I think it was thirty three. 0:19:19.440 --> 0:19:26.080 Ah fuck, then Age Talk guys had fifty Anyway, I 0:19:26.160 --> 0:19:28.160 think it's thirty three. It's s thirty. It is step 0:19:28.320 --> 0:19:31.240 It's by Stuart Wild And one of the steps he said, 0:19:31.480 --> 0:19:34.080 this was so profound to me in the moment, and 0:19:34.119 --> 0:19:39.000 he said make your word law, meaning what you say 0:19:39.040 --> 0:19:42.240 to yourself, you follow through, otherwise you don't say you're 0:19:42.240 --> 0:19:45.200 going to do the thing. And I loved this because 0:19:45.240 --> 0:19:47.840 he said if you're constantly saying things and then not 0:19:47.960 --> 0:19:51.879 following through, that is telling your own brain that you 0:19:51.960 --> 0:19:55.159 don't follow through. And so he's he's like, you're just 0:19:55.160 --> 0:19:57.000 going to end up in this cycle of not falling 0:19:57.000 --> 0:19:59.520 through because that's what we all do. And you don't 0:19:59.520 --> 0:20:01.679 want to be that person. It's like that fleaky friend. 0:20:02.400 --> 0:20:04.639 You're like they always fucking bail or like you just 0:20:04.680 --> 0:20:05.520 know what they're going to do. 0:20:05.560 --> 0:20:07.960 You'll make plans, but you'll make plans at the same 0:20:08.040 --> 0:20:09.879 time as the plans because you know it won't happen. 0:20:10.119 --> 0:20:13.480 Yeah, And it's like that's not the vibe. No, And 0:20:13.720 --> 0:20:16.600 I think just such a huge thing we can start doing. 0:20:17.119 --> 0:20:21.399 And even noticing the part in us that wants to 0:20:21.440 --> 0:20:24.560 make the promise and wants to say I'm going to 0:20:24.600 --> 0:20:26.720 go to gym seventeen times and I'm going to be 0:20:26.840 --> 0:20:29.680 this person and blah blah blah blah, and like where's 0:20:29.720 --> 0:20:33.480 that coming from? So true? Who are you saying that for? 0:20:33.720 --> 0:20:36.080 What are you saying that for? Even that's cooled to 0:20:36.119 --> 0:20:38.840 like look at that that yeah, and just even notice 0:20:38.840 --> 0:20:43.679 yourself of like wanting to like make these promises, but 0:20:43.760 --> 0:20:46.800 then taking it back to Okay, I have to be 0:20:46.960 --> 0:20:50.679 really sure and I have to follow through because this 0:20:50.840 --> 0:20:54.080 is going to be build self trust and this is 0:20:54.160 --> 0:20:57.879 going to help me become the person I want to become. Yeah, 0:20:57.920 --> 0:21:00.760 Because I think when you feel so solid yourself off, 0:21:00.840 --> 0:21:03.440 you know, if you're going to say something, you're going 0:21:03.480 --> 0:21:07.719 to do it. Like that's a pretty fucking incredible feeling. Absolutely, 0:21:07.760 --> 0:21:11.720 it's like unwavering. There'll just be no doubt because. 0:21:11.440 --> 0:21:13.600 You'll know that no matter what comes into your path, 0:21:13.840 --> 0:21:14.720 you will get it done. 0:21:15.240 --> 0:21:17.720 Yes, And I think you know, even taking it back 0:21:17.760 --> 0:21:19.440 to the seven rules of being your own best friend, 0:21:19.560 --> 0:21:22.080 it's like you wouldn't tell your bestie Okay, i'll be 0:21:22.080 --> 0:21:24.159 in the morning, I'll meet you in the morning at 0:21:24.200 --> 0:21:26.760 seven am gym class that you know she doesn't want 0:21:26.760 --> 0:21:28.720 to go to alone too, and then just bail last minute, 0:21:28.800 --> 0:21:31.679 Like dog, you don't do that, and if you do, 0:21:32.400 --> 0:21:38.760 you're a dog. Yees, Like look, it's like if you 0:21:38.760 --> 0:21:43.720 can't help it, that's fine, You're not a dog. That's 0:21:43.760 --> 0:21:46.360 so true. So that's a big thing of like why 0:21:46.400 --> 0:21:49.560 do we do this to ourselves? And also my big 0:21:49.560 --> 0:21:51.720 thing too is like if you don't think you're gonna 0:21:51.760 --> 0:21:56.159 do it, just don't say it. That's exactly it. And 0:21:56.200 --> 0:21:58.160 that's why I said before, I like, notice that part 0:21:58.200 --> 0:22:00.159 of you that wants to say something even though you no, 0:22:00.200 --> 0:22:02.320 you're not going to follow through. Yeah, because that's like 0:22:02.359 --> 0:22:05.880 that's all ego, so true. So a big thing with 0:22:05.920 --> 0:22:08.800 this rule, what I wanted to start doing is simply 0:22:08.920 --> 0:22:12.399 that if you not, like, if you don't think or 0:22:12.440 --> 0:22:14.800 there's a possibility that you're going to bail or you're 0:22:14.840 --> 0:22:17.480 like not going to do the thing, just don't say it. 0:22:18.160 --> 0:22:21.040 And notice how many things come up. 0:22:21.280 --> 0:22:25.440 That's so interesting because that's something I started doing as well, 0:22:25.560 --> 0:22:28.080 is just being so mindful of what I commit to 0:22:29.040 --> 0:22:31.520 so that I can make my word law. And the 0:22:31.600 --> 0:22:35.000