1 00:00:00,520 --> 00:00:03,640 Speaker 1: I'd like to acknowledge the traditional owners on which this 2 00:00:03,720 --> 00:00:08,160 Speaker 1: episode is being recorded, the combo marry people. We pay 3 00:00:08,320 --> 00:00:12,360 Speaker 1: our respects to elders past, present and emerging and extend 4 00:00:12,480 --> 00:00:16,520 Speaker 1: that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples. 5 00:00:16,560 --> 00:00:24,279 Speaker 1: Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, and this is the 6 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:32,080 Speaker 1: Rise and Conquer Podcast. This is the podcast where which 7 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:36,560 Speaker 1: have mindset, self development and becoming your higher self mix 8 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:39,440 Speaker 1: soon with a lot of laughs, plus behind the scenes 9 00:00:39,479 --> 00:00:43,040 Speaker 1: of my life running two businesses and being among Think 10 00:00:43,080 --> 00:00:45,599 Speaker 1: of us as the perfect combo of brunch with your 11 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:49,239 Speaker 1: besties mixed with self development. No matter where you are 12 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:52,040 Speaker 1: in your journey, We're here to help you be curious, 13 00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:57,880 Speaker 1: pull yourself out, and embrace radical self awareness. If you're 14 00:00:57,920 --> 00:01:00,280 Speaker 1: ready to get into the driver's seat of your own 15 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:03,600 Speaker 1: life and stop letting life past you by, then you're 16 00:01:03,640 --> 00:01:13,560 Speaker 1: in the right place. Hello everybody, and welcome back to 17 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:17,759 Speaker 1: the Rise and Conquer Podcast. On today's episode, we are 18 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:21,520 Speaker 1: talking about the seven rules that have changed my life. 19 00:01:22,160 --> 00:01:24,840 Speaker 1: So I've been doing a lot of self development at 20 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:28,280 Speaker 1: the moment, and I really I feel like I'm going 21 00:01:28,319 --> 00:01:30,480 Speaker 1: to a new level. Guys, I don't know if you 22 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:35,319 Speaker 1: feel it too. We do, but I guess it's like, 23 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:37,319 Speaker 1: you know, I've been on my self development journey for 24 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:40,120 Speaker 1: like ten years now, and I truly believe like you 25 00:01:40,160 --> 00:01:44,280 Speaker 1: go through certain stages and through certain seasons and phases 26 00:01:44,319 --> 00:01:47,560 Speaker 1: and levels, and I feel like from the start of 27 00:01:47,600 --> 00:01:51,280 Speaker 1: this year, I really have like locked into this new 28 00:01:51,400 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 1: awareness with myself and really doing a lot of reflection 29 00:01:57,200 --> 00:01:59,400 Speaker 1: in how I do things and how I show up. 30 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 1: And also the big catalyst for that was having my 31 00:02:03,840 --> 00:02:07,800 Speaker 1: baby girl, Ivy last year and struggling with being a 32 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:11,959 Speaker 1: new mum and really struggling with my whole identity around it, 33 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:14,520 Speaker 1: and I knew I kind of needed to shift and 34 00:02:14,560 --> 00:02:19,520 Speaker 1: go to this next level really to support obviously her, 35 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:23,359 Speaker 1: but also my evolution in this new season of life, 36 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:29,000 Speaker 1: because yeah, it was really hard. And it's interesting because 37 00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:33,400 Speaker 1: now having this little human, everything feels so much more 38 00:02:33,840 --> 00:02:37,360 Speaker 1: important to do in regards to doing my own self 39 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:40,640 Speaker 1: development work, because it's kind of like when you get 40 00:02:40,680 --> 00:02:43,760 Speaker 1: a little child, especially when they're toddlers, you find out 41 00:02:43,840 --> 00:02:47,560 Speaker 1: how much they model you. Yes, And it's interesting because 42 00:02:47,639 --> 00:02:50,720 Speaker 1: we were at the table the other day and Ivy 43 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:53,320 Speaker 1: was throwing her food and Tim's like, Ivy, don't for 44 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:55,600 Speaker 1: your food, and we were like, oh, why is she 45 00:02:55,760 --> 00:02:58,320 Speaker 1: doing that? And then it's really funny because we have 46 00:02:58,800 --> 00:03:01,440 Speaker 1: we lived next to a now reserve, we have little birdies. 47 00:03:01,760 --> 00:03:04,080 Speaker 1: And then like literally the next moment, like Tim was 48 00:03:04,120 --> 00:03:07,079 Speaker 1: like throwing food to the birds. And then I looked 49 00:03:07,120 --> 00:03:08,960 Speaker 1: at him and I was like, well, this is why 50 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:11,840 Speaker 1: she's throwing food And me and him are like, oh, yeah, 51 00:03:13,320 --> 00:03:14,920 Speaker 1: because we feed the birds all the time and we 52 00:03:15,400 --> 00:03:17,720 Speaker 1: throw food to them. And then we're like, don't throw food, Ivy. 53 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:20,359 Speaker 1: And I'm like, well, she's just seeing what we do. 54 00:03:20,680 --> 00:03:23,360 Speaker 1: And you know, monkey see, monkey do Yeah, And you 55 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:26,480 Speaker 1: really like when they're told that, You're like, wow, they 56 00:03:26,480 --> 00:03:31,359 Speaker 1: are watching everything. And I remember having this beautiful aha 57 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 1: moment at the start of the year where I thought, 58 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:38,440 Speaker 1: you know, if you're so like I led, I read 59 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:42,200 Speaker 1: this stat that in the first one to seven years 60 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:45,240 Speaker 1: of a child, they're core beliefs. That's when they're really 61 00:03:45,280 --> 00:03:50,600 Speaker 1: like imprinted and the most strongest, and I thought, wow, 62 00:03:50,680 --> 00:03:53,240 Speaker 1: I've got, you know, the next seven years to really 63 00:03:53,280 --> 00:03:57,000 Speaker 1: help create Ivy. Have them like the best core beliefs. Yeah, 64 00:03:57,040 --> 00:03:59,720 Speaker 1: and she's only gonna know those core beliefs if I 65 00:03:59,840 --> 00:04:02,760 Speaker 1: have them, and I think I have amazing core beliefs, 66 00:04:02,760 --> 00:04:04,760 Speaker 1: but it was really a moment where I was like, yeah, 67 00:04:04,800 --> 00:04:07,120 Speaker 1: but also I can go upper level, yeah, and I 68 00:04:07,200 --> 00:04:09,880 Speaker 1: can make sure I'm being so integral and really model 69 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:13,960 Speaker 1: these for Ivy. And that's when kind of this journey 70 00:04:14,080 --> 00:04:16,680 Speaker 1: of creating the seven Rules of being your own Best 71 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:21,000 Speaker 1: Friend started and I started thinking about, Okay, well, how 72 00:04:21,040 --> 00:04:23,920 Speaker 1: do I want Ivy to be? And then I noticed 73 00:04:23,960 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 1: how much I wasn't doing simple things like having a 74 00:04:27,800 --> 00:04:32,040 Speaker 1: beautiful internal dialogue instead of like being very passive aggressive 75 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:36,279 Speaker 1: like we say in the episode. So the seven rules 76 00:04:36,279 --> 00:04:39,039 Speaker 1: that you're about to hear is what I created with 77 00:04:39,200 --> 00:04:42,120 Speaker 1: my co lab with Naked Harvest. So I released my 78 00:04:42,320 --> 00:04:47,240 Speaker 1: limited edition products which is white Swell Caramel is that right? 79 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 2: White top Caramel Swell and men get passion Fruit pre Workout. 80 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:52,599 Speaker 1: Guys. I actually don't know what it's called because I 81 00:04:52,680 --> 00:04:57,120 Speaker 1: just call it CARAMELK but like legally we got so 82 00:04:57,360 --> 00:04:59,560 Speaker 1: yeah what a tea said, and then Mengo passion Fruit 83 00:04:59,600 --> 00:05:02,800 Speaker 1: pre work Out, and then beautiful little accessories to go 84 00:05:02,880 --> 00:05:05,680 Speaker 1: with it. And of course, if I'm going to do 85 00:05:05,960 --> 00:05:08,920 Speaker 1: something with you know, anything, it's got to do with 86 00:05:08,920 --> 00:05:12,919 Speaker 1: self development. So this collection launched with the seven Rules 87 00:05:12,920 --> 00:05:14,800 Speaker 1: of Being Your Best Friend, and so you guys would 88 00:05:14,839 --> 00:05:16,720 Speaker 1: have seen them on social media, but I thought it 89 00:05:16,720 --> 00:05:20,400 Speaker 1: would be really cool to actually dive a bit deeper 90 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:24,279 Speaker 1: and really get into what these seven rules mean to 91 00:05:24,520 --> 00:05:28,000 Speaker 1: me and also how you possibly could apply these to 92 00:05:28,160 --> 00:05:31,159 Speaker 1: your life. I truly believe these rules are life changing, 93 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:35,479 Speaker 1: oh one hundred and they're so simple. But everyone who 94 00:05:35,520 --> 00:05:39,359 Speaker 1: I've had the discussion about these rules too have those 95 00:05:39,440 --> 00:05:43,080 Speaker 1: aha moments and are like, wow, yeah, if I really reflect, 96 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:46,760 Speaker 1: I can apply these to my life and really step 97 00:05:46,760 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: it up or not? Can you restock? No, guys, this 98 00:05:55,120 --> 00:05:58,680 Speaker 1: is the actual conversation I've been having twenty four seven 99 00:05:58,920 --> 00:06:05,240 Speaker 1: of people being like, visually, you're not killing me, I know, 100 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:09,520 Speaker 1: but also you've got your bags, the teams all stocked up, 101 00:06:09,960 --> 00:06:14,360 Speaker 1: We're ready to go. The NH kitchen stopped up, so funny. 102 00:06:14,360 --> 00:06:17,719 Speaker 1: Ellie literally was like, Hey, can I take three bags 103 00:06:17,760 --> 00:06:21,040 Speaker 1: because I need to ear my roommate once and I 104 00:06:21,080 --> 00:06:25,080 Speaker 1: was like, yes, just for you, Ellie. So everyone is 105 00:06:25,120 --> 00:06:29,440 Speaker 1: stocking up. But as we're recording like this intro, we 106 00:06:29,760 --> 00:06:32,920 Speaker 1: I think let me actually check the units. Oh my god, guys, 107 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:36,960 Speaker 1: we literally have like less five hundred units. So this 108 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:40,640 Speaker 1: is like, this is the last call vibes when this 109 00:06:40,720 --> 00:06:44,800 Speaker 1: episode goes out. If you have tried the protein pre 110 00:06:44,839 --> 00:06:46,960 Speaker 1: Worker and you're like, yes, this is my flavor and 111 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 1: you want to grab it for another month, this is 112 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:52,840 Speaker 1: the time grab it please, because it's not coming back. 113 00:06:52,880 --> 00:06:56,640 Speaker 1: I've been begging. No it's not. Well, it's it's you know, 114 00:06:56,680 --> 00:06:59,600 Speaker 1: it's one of the real absolutely, but the promises you 115 00:06:59,640 --> 00:07:03,880 Speaker 1: make to yourself, and I feel such a new level 116 00:07:04,160 --> 00:07:06,719 Speaker 1: of integrity with what I say this year. I don't 117 00:07:06,760 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 1: know if you guys have noticed that too. So for example, 118 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:12,720 Speaker 1: I know in business, like a lot of people like 119 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:15,160 Speaker 1: it's the last time, and then you know, they bring 120 00:07:15,160 --> 00:07:17,640 Speaker 1: it back. And I've definitely been guilty of doing that 121 00:07:17,760 --> 00:07:21,160 Speaker 1: in n H Errancy obviously because it's like everybody wants it. 122 00:07:21,240 --> 00:07:23,080 Speaker 1: You have so much demand and you want to give 123 00:07:23,080 --> 00:07:26,240 Speaker 1: it to the community. But also for me now it's 124 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:30,280 Speaker 1: more about am I being integral with my words and 125 00:07:30,280 --> 00:07:33,200 Speaker 1: what I say and how I how I be with 126 00:07:33,240 --> 00:07:36,160 Speaker 1: my community too, So for sure, yeah, no she's not 127 00:07:36,240 --> 00:07:39,280 Speaker 1: coming back, but look, we always do new fun stuff. 128 00:07:39,320 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 1: But if you true, if you love her, this is 129 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:44,800 Speaker 1: the last time. But this is such a cool campaign 130 00:07:44,920 --> 00:07:48,120 Speaker 1: to do with our end h products because it's really 131 00:07:48,160 --> 00:07:51,840 Speaker 1: like bringing my two favorite things in the whole entire 132 00:07:51,880 --> 00:07:56,200 Speaker 1: world like together in one campaign. I loved the campaign. 133 00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:58,440 Speaker 1: It was so much fun. So guys, yeah, if you 134 00:07:58,440 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 1: don't want to grab the flavors, makes you get on 135 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:02,840 Speaker 1: to them because they're about to sell out. Put links 136 00:08:02,840 --> 00:08:05,080 Speaker 1: in the show notes. But I really hope you enjoy 137 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:07,880 Speaker 1: this dive deep into the seven rules of being your 138 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:08,520 Speaker 1: best Friend. 139 00:08:08,880 --> 00:08:11,600 Speaker 2: But before you get into it, Jogy, what's to a 140 00:08:11,600 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 2: weekly recommendation? 141 00:08:12,840 --> 00:08:15,320 Speaker 1: Oh my god, did I just pulle forget the recommendation. 142 00:08:16,800 --> 00:08:20,120 Speaker 1: I'm actually reading a new book, are you, guys. I've 143 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:24,960 Speaker 1: been smacking out the books since doing like, no social media, 144 00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:29,239 Speaker 1: no Netflix vibes, I have been smacking out the books. 145 00:08:29,320 --> 00:08:34,840 Speaker 1: So new book i'm reading it is called The Breakthrough Experience. 146 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:38,880 Speaker 1: And what's it about. I'm actually only three chapters deep. 147 00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:41,480 Speaker 1: It's about this guy. He's a chiropractor. I don't know 148 00:08:41,520 --> 00:08:44,760 Speaker 1: what's the thing with chiropractice because Joe Dispenser is a chiropractice. 149 00:08:45,120 --> 00:08:50,319 Speaker 1: The chiropracter they just fix a I love chiropractor. My 150 00:08:50,520 --> 00:08:57,679 Speaker 1: chiropractor used to be really hot. I don't know why 151 00:08:57,720 --> 00:09:00,719 Speaker 1: I had to say that, but anyway, So it's the 152 00:09:00,760 --> 00:09:05,760 Speaker 1: Breakthrough Experience by doctor John F. DeMartini. I think could 153 00:09:05,760 --> 00:09:08,480 Speaker 1: be pronouncing and yeah, I'm many a couple of chapters in, 154 00:09:08,559 --> 00:09:15,680 Speaker 1: but it's like it's weird. It's like manifesting mindset. Heel 155 00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:19,400 Speaker 1: your fucking life vibes. I love it, but it's really good. 156 00:09:19,440 --> 00:09:23,680 Speaker 1: I'm very captivating, and you know, it's a lot about 157 00:09:24,120 --> 00:09:26,800 Speaker 1: gratitude and getting clear on your goals, but he just 158 00:09:27,240 --> 00:09:29,720 Speaker 1: he says it in a really different way that I 159 00:09:29,760 --> 00:09:33,360 Speaker 1: haven't heard before. And it's just I guess when I 160 00:09:33,440 --> 00:09:35,520 Speaker 1: read books now, it's like a lot of the stuff 161 00:09:35,520 --> 00:09:39,000 Speaker 1: I already know because I've read that many books. But 162 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:42,679 Speaker 1: it's also like it's so good to re read stuff 163 00:09:43,320 --> 00:09:46,240 Speaker 1: and reread ideas and be like, oh cool, he's talking 164 00:09:46,240 --> 00:09:49,400 Speaker 1: about gratitude or manifesting, but he's saying it this way 165 00:09:49,679 --> 00:09:51,240 Speaker 1: and how interesting. 166 00:09:50,920 --> 00:09:53,280 Speaker 2: And sometimes it just doesn't hit till you read it 167 00:09:53,320 --> 00:09:54,160 Speaker 2: a certain way. 168 00:09:54,640 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 1: One hundred and ten percent. That's honestly why, Like you know, 169 00:09:58,280 --> 00:10:00,920 Speaker 1: if you even think about the Rhysycle project, like that's 170 00:10:00,960 --> 00:10:03,840 Speaker 1: a manifesting course. Yeah, And it's like there's thousands of 171 00:10:03,920 --> 00:10:08,000 Speaker 1: manifesting course, but there's people who literally have the most 172 00:10:08,080 --> 00:10:11,880 Speaker 1: life changing experience because it's me teaching that course. Yes, 173 00:10:11,960 --> 00:10:13,960 Speaker 1: and I say it in a certain way, and maybe 174 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:17,480 Speaker 1: they are a similar archetype or you know, whatever it is, 175 00:10:17,520 --> 00:10:20,320 Speaker 1: and it really hits them. It's like, that's what I 176 00:10:20,400 --> 00:10:23,040 Speaker 1: really find is like when you find those people where 177 00:10:23,080 --> 00:10:28,760 Speaker 1: you're like captivated, activated, captivated and activated and you just 178 00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:32,319 Speaker 1: like it feels right and you're like, oh, wow, that's powerful. 179 00:10:32,880 --> 00:10:35,760 Speaker 1: Really hold on to those because they're probably saying the 180 00:10:35,920 --> 00:10:38,480 Speaker 1: stuff you've heard before, but they're saying it in a 181 00:10:38,520 --> 00:10:42,079 Speaker 1: way that is like your brain's eating it up exactly. 182 00:10:42,240 --> 00:10:45,920 Speaker 1: Sometimes it depends on the time too, Yeah, in your life. 183 00:10:46,280 --> 00:10:49,199 Speaker 1: I think also this book it does feel a little 184 00:10:49,240 --> 00:10:52,600 Speaker 1: bit high level in the way of I'm like, oh, 185 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:56,240 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm grasping and understanding this now, but 186 00:10:56,400 --> 00:11:00,400 Speaker 1: maybe I wouldn't have at the start of my journey. Wow, 187 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:02,959 Speaker 1: that's interesting. So that's maybe I don't know. If you're 188 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:05,160 Speaker 1: a full beginner, I don't know if this would be 189 00:11:05,160 --> 00:11:07,319 Speaker 1: the book for you. Might go a little bit over 190 00:11:07,360 --> 00:11:09,280 Speaker 1: your head but not over your head, but just not 191 00:11:09,360 --> 00:11:10,640 Speaker 1: be as impactful. 192 00:11:10,720 --> 00:11:15,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, what about you. Mine is an app called Open. 193 00:11:16,480 --> 00:11:19,480 Speaker 2: So I've been trying to stay or like not stay 194 00:11:19,520 --> 00:11:22,360 Speaker 2: off socials, but limit my time because I noticed that 195 00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:25,960 Speaker 2: I was just doing a lot of mindless scrolling. And 196 00:11:26,240 --> 00:11:29,480 Speaker 2: it's just one of those ones that like blocks the apps. 197 00:11:30,040 --> 00:11:32,280 Speaker 2: But what I like about it is you can set 198 00:11:32,520 --> 00:11:37,280 Speaker 2: zones of times and apps to block. So, for example, 199 00:11:38,040 --> 00:11:41,520 Speaker 2: work obviously can't block socials because I have to go 200 00:11:41,559 --> 00:11:42,080 Speaker 2: on them. 201 00:11:42,559 --> 00:11:43,520 Speaker 1: I have to be in my life. 202 00:11:43,520 --> 00:11:45,840 Speaker 2: I have to be on my socials or work. But 203 00:11:48,480 --> 00:11:50,920 Speaker 2: so like from five pm, I go into like a 204 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:54,040 Speaker 2: log off thing and that's when my socials shut off. 205 00:11:54,080 --> 00:11:56,400 Speaker 2: And then I can shut off all my entertainment apps 206 00:11:56,400 --> 00:11:59,120 Speaker 2: at seven pm, which means like no Netflix, Disney Plus 207 00:11:59,120 --> 00:12:02,960 Speaker 2: and all that's blocked from seven pm. So that's what 208 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:04,920 Speaker 2: I really like about the app, because I find a 209 00:12:04,960 --> 00:12:07,080 Speaker 2: lot of those other blocking ones it just like makes 210 00:12:07,080 --> 00:12:09,960 Speaker 2: you wait three seconds or whatever before you get into 211 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:12,640 Speaker 2: the app instead, but this one fully blocks it and 212 00:12:12,679 --> 00:12:13,480 Speaker 2: you can't open it. 213 00:12:13,679 --> 00:12:17,319 Speaker 1: So that's my recommendation. Oh my god, Yeah, so interesting. 214 00:12:17,440 --> 00:12:21,439 Speaker 2: Yeah, And I would recommend even if you don't want 215 00:12:21,440 --> 00:12:25,160 Speaker 2: to download an app like that, but try not watching 216 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:27,760 Speaker 2: TV before bed. If that's a habit you currently have. 217 00:12:28,000 --> 00:12:29,160 Speaker 2: Swap it out for something else. 218 00:12:30,000 --> 00:12:31,959 Speaker 1: Love amazing. 219 00:12:32,040 --> 00:13:01,439 Speaker 3: Let's get into the episode. 220 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:53,360 Speaker 1: Rule number one, shift your internal dialogue. So this rule 221 00:12:53,520 --> 00:12:57,480 Speaker 1: really was like the catalyst for creating the whole seven rules, 222 00:12:57,520 --> 00:13:00,280 Speaker 1: because the whole seven rules really came from a place 223 00:13:00,280 --> 00:13:04,280 Speaker 1: and explained this at the NH event of I started 224 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:07,480 Speaker 1: doing a lot of internal work and I realized how 225 00:13:07,520 --> 00:13:12,880 Speaker 1: fucked up my internal system was. Well, just like, mind' 226 00:13:12,880 --> 00:13:16,200 Speaker 1: stop crazy For someone who has done so much self development, 227 00:13:16,280 --> 00:13:23,080 Speaker 1: I was like, fuck, I'm running on mostly shame. You'll 228 00:13:23,120 --> 00:13:27,920 Speaker 1: think I'm running on motivation, and it's shame. No, no, no, 229 00:13:28,240 --> 00:13:32,280 Speaker 1: But I just notice in the way of I thought 230 00:13:32,360 --> 00:13:35,560 Speaker 1: my internal dialogue and my internal story was fine and 231 00:13:35,600 --> 00:13:39,920 Speaker 1: even like great, But then when I really looked at 232 00:13:39,960 --> 00:13:43,080 Speaker 1: how I made decisions or how I spoke to myself internally, 233 00:13:43,160 --> 00:13:45,680 Speaker 1: I was like, oh wait, no, this comes from a 234 00:13:45,840 --> 00:13:51,480 Speaker 1: lot of stories of shame or guilt or being really 235 00:13:51,520 --> 00:13:55,199 Speaker 1: hard on myself. And the whole reason why these seven 236 00:13:55,280 --> 00:13:58,800 Speaker 1: rules were born was because I remember hearing a fact 237 00:13:58,880 --> 00:14:02,920 Speaker 1: that children from the age one to seven is when 238 00:14:03,040 --> 00:14:06,480 Speaker 1: they create their belief system. And I've heard that for years, 239 00:14:06,559 --> 00:14:10,400 Speaker 1: but this really resonates now because of how I teach 240 00:14:10,480 --> 00:14:14,240 Speaker 1: on core beliefs and how much a single belief from 241 00:14:14,600 --> 00:14:19,040 Speaker 1: your childhood can really fuck you up or be the 242 00:14:19,120 --> 00:14:22,680 Speaker 1: catalyst to you doing great things. So true. So it 243 00:14:22,720 --> 00:14:24,920 Speaker 1: really made me think of like, holy shit, Okay, what 244 00:14:25,160 --> 00:14:27,600 Speaker 1: beliefs am I giving Ivy? And I knew I was 245 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:30,200 Speaker 1: giving her a lot of great beliefs, But also I 246 00:14:30,200 --> 00:14:33,000 Speaker 1: had to be very honest about what was happening internally, 247 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:38,160 Speaker 1: because what I remember was listening of like children don't 248 00:14:38,200 --> 00:14:41,080 Speaker 1: like listen to what you say, they listen to how 249 00:14:41,120 --> 00:14:45,920 Speaker 1: you model how you be, So it's just how you are, yeah, 250 00:14:45,960 --> 00:14:49,200 Speaker 1: And it's like the beliefs are always going to show themselves. 251 00:14:49,480 --> 00:14:52,720 Speaker 1: When I remember kind of discovering this and really unpacking 252 00:14:52,760 --> 00:14:56,320 Speaker 1: and really thinking and diving deep, I realized my internal 253 00:14:56,400 --> 00:15:01,600 Speaker 1: dialogue was like it was fine, but it did run 254 00:15:01,720 --> 00:15:06,480 Speaker 1: a lot off this shame thing of It's like, it's 255 00:15:06,520 --> 00:15:09,600 Speaker 1: not like my internal dialogue was like you're a shit human. Yeah, 256 00:15:09,720 --> 00:15:12,480 Speaker 1: you're a piece of crap. But it was just like, well, Georgia, 257 00:15:12,560 --> 00:15:15,000 Speaker 1: you should work more because you do have a big 258 00:15:15,040 --> 00:15:17,080 Speaker 1: mortgage and you want it to be the sole provider. 259 00:15:17,240 --> 00:15:22,200 Speaker 1: It's almost like passive. It's so passive as isn't it 260 00:15:22,360 --> 00:15:24,960 Speaker 1: or like you know, yeah, you can eat that bit. 261 00:15:25,120 --> 00:15:31,400 Speaker 1: Is it being healthy? You know? Yeah? And then I 262 00:15:31,440 --> 00:15:33,760 Speaker 1: know exactly what you mean, like it's not bad, but 263 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:36,400 Speaker 1: if you if I would say it to anyone else, 264 00:15:36,520 --> 00:15:38,880 Speaker 1: I would be embarrassed of how I spoke to them. 265 00:15:39,080 --> 00:15:40,560 Speaker 1: So I was like, what, yeah, black, am I talking 266 00:15:40,600 --> 00:15:43,080 Speaker 1: to myself like that? I feel like it's come a 267 00:15:43,120 --> 00:15:45,280 Speaker 1: long way, but it was like it can do better. 268 00:15:45,360 --> 00:15:49,160 Speaker 1: So rule number one, have an actual good look at 269 00:15:49,160 --> 00:15:52,960 Speaker 1: your internal dialogue. And like the whole tagline is like 270 00:15:53,120 --> 00:15:55,480 Speaker 1: if you wouldn't say it to your bestie, don't say 271 00:15:55,480 --> 00:15:58,760 Speaker 1: it to yourself. And also even if I think of 272 00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:01,760 Speaker 1: you know, like this morning, Brookie from NH was like, Hey, 273 00:16:01,880 --> 00:16:03,800 Speaker 1: I woke up with a headache. I'm really not feeling well. 274 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:05,400 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna work from home. I might try and 275 00:16:05,440 --> 00:16:07,600 Speaker 1: log in to do some stuff that I'm like, I'm 276 00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:09,960 Speaker 1: not feeling good. And I was like, oh go babe, 277 00:16:09,960 --> 00:16:11,880 Speaker 1: Like I hope you feel better. Don't worry about logging in. 278 00:16:11,960 --> 00:16:14,680 Speaker 1: We've got it sorted. And it's like when we speak 279 00:16:14,720 --> 00:16:17,720 Speaker 1: to others, like because generally if you're listening to this podcast, 280 00:16:17,720 --> 00:16:21,480 Speaker 1: You're a great person. Yeah, And so like I really 281 00:16:21,560 --> 00:16:24,280 Speaker 1: how I interact and talk to other people and just 282 00:16:24,360 --> 00:16:27,840 Speaker 1: be with other people. It is like I'm over generous 283 00:16:27,840 --> 00:16:31,840 Speaker 1: with wanting to be caring and loving for them. But 284 00:16:31,880 --> 00:16:34,760 Speaker 1: it's like we never give that to ourselves. No, because 285 00:16:34,800 --> 00:16:37,360 Speaker 1: if you woke up with a headache, you'd guild yourself 286 00:16:37,360 --> 00:16:41,080 Speaker 1: and to go into work. Yeah, exactly, You'll be like, well, 287 00:16:41,080 --> 00:16:43,080 Speaker 1: this is your fault because all the chocolate you wan't 288 00:16:45,320 --> 00:16:50,080 Speaker 1: not me doing that yesterday. So it's just interesting of 289 00:16:50,160 --> 00:16:54,200 Speaker 1: like clocking that and just being like, oh, okay, my 290 00:16:54,280 --> 00:17:00,560 Speaker 1: internal dialogue is very passive, aggressive, and it's not very nice, 291 00:17:00,640 --> 00:17:02,680 Speaker 1: and so let's just turn it up a notch of 292 00:17:02,720 --> 00:17:05,040 Speaker 1: just being like a tiny bit nicer to ourselves and 293 00:17:05,400 --> 00:17:09,240 Speaker 1: giving ourselves that compassion but also realizing and we'll get 294 00:17:09,240 --> 00:17:12,600 Speaker 1: in this in some other rules of like internal dialogue 295 00:17:12,600 --> 00:17:14,400 Speaker 1: of how you would speak to your bestie, because also 296 00:17:14,480 --> 00:17:16,480 Speaker 1: like how I speak to my best friend. You know, 297 00:17:16,560 --> 00:17:19,399 Speaker 1: she has a small business, she has babies. But also 298 00:17:19,640 --> 00:17:22,200 Speaker 1: if I see an excuse, I'm gonna say like, but 299 00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:25,359 Speaker 1: is that an excuse? Yeah, And I'm going to say 300 00:17:25,400 --> 00:17:29,040 Speaker 1: it in a loving and caring, supportive way. So it 301 00:17:29,160 --> 00:17:33,560 Speaker 1: doesn't just mean being overly nice and just like it's 302 00:17:33,640 --> 00:17:36,720 Speaker 1: letting everything slide, letting everything side, or anything like that. 303 00:17:36,920 --> 00:17:39,359 Speaker 1: It's having a lot of self trust with yourself. But 304 00:17:39,400 --> 00:17:41,720 Speaker 1: I just think this is a huge thing we can 305 00:17:41,960 --> 00:17:44,640 Speaker 1: all think about and change just that tiny bit, because 306 00:17:44,680 --> 00:17:46,439 Speaker 1: I guarantee you we're all fucking bitches to us. 307 00:17:46,440 --> 00:17:49,960 Speaker 2: So internally, something that helped me with this is saying 308 00:17:50,000 --> 00:17:53,320 Speaker 2: it out loud, Like if I'm thinking something, I look 309 00:17:53,400 --> 00:17:55,720 Speaker 2: like a crazy person. I can tell you that, but 310 00:17:55,800 --> 00:17:57,720 Speaker 2: I say it out loud, Like if I'm not gone 311 00:17:57,760 --> 00:17:59,800 Speaker 2: to the gym, I say it out loud to myself 312 00:18:00,119 --> 00:18:02,520 Speaker 2: what I'm thinking about why I'm not going to the gym, 313 00:18:02,840 --> 00:18:04,960 Speaker 2: And I find it so much easier to process and 314 00:18:05,040 --> 00:18:10,000 Speaker 2: distinguish excuses versus actual valid reasons of why I can't 315 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:12,760 Speaker 2: do something, And it's so much easier to like, I 316 00:18:12,760 --> 00:18:15,080 Speaker 2: don't know why, but I find it easier to rationalize 317 00:18:15,080 --> 00:18:18,040 Speaker 2: out loud because you're almost talking to another person and 318 00:18:18,080 --> 00:18:19,040 Speaker 2: you can catch yourself. 319 00:18:19,200 --> 00:18:21,080 Speaker 1: I love that so much because even see how I 320 00:18:21,119 --> 00:18:22,760 Speaker 1: set out loud my thing and you're like, oh wow, 321 00:18:22,760 --> 00:18:25,280 Speaker 1: that's passive aggressive. Yeah was in your head. You're like, oh, 322 00:18:25,280 --> 00:18:27,760 Speaker 1: that's just normal. Yeah, it's just like in your head. 323 00:18:28,040 --> 00:18:31,800 Speaker 1: And that's even like journaling. Often when I'm like feeling 324 00:18:31,800 --> 00:18:35,280 Speaker 1: anxious or like overwhelmed or something, I journal because often 325 00:18:35,320 --> 00:18:38,760 Speaker 1: when I put things on pages, I'm like, oh, that's 326 00:18:38,760 --> 00:18:42,239 Speaker 1: a bit traumatic to order, you know, yeah, and you 327 00:18:42,280 --> 00:18:44,239 Speaker 1: put it down. And so I love that of like 328 00:18:44,359 --> 00:18:48,280 Speaker 1: even speaking it and being like, oh, just checking in. 329 00:18:48,520 --> 00:18:50,919 Speaker 1: How am I speaking to myself? Yeah, so just something 330 00:18:51,000 --> 00:18:53,199 Speaker 1: to check in. I think that's a great thing. A 331 00:18:53,240 --> 00:18:56,040 Speaker 1: tear of like saying the thing or writing it down 332 00:18:56,520 --> 00:18:59,680 Speaker 1: and noticing, like, would I actually speak this or say 333 00:18:59,680 --> 00:19:02,120 Speaker 1: this to my best friend? What's the second rule? Keep 334 00:19:02,160 --> 00:19:07,560 Speaker 1: the promises you make with yourself, my dear. It's what 335 00:19:07,600 --> 00:19:10,560 Speaker 1: I'm working on this year. I love it. So guys. 336 00:19:10,720 --> 00:19:13,200 Speaker 1: If you remember the podcast I told you guys about 337 00:19:13,200 --> 00:19:16,639 Speaker 1: that book called Infinite Self, Wait fifty five Steps to 338 00:19:16,720 --> 00:19:19,200 Speaker 1: Your Infinite Self. I believe I think it was thirty three. 339 00:19:19,440 --> 00:19:26,080 Speaker 1: Ah fuck, then Age Talk guys had fifty Anyway, I 340 00:19:26,160 --> 00:19:28,160 Speaker 1: think it's thirty three. It's s thirty. It is step 341 00:19:28,320 --> 00:19:31,240 Speaker 1: It's by Stuart Wild And one of the steps he said, 342 00:19:31,480 --> 00:19:34,080 Speaker 1: this was so profound to me in the moment, and 343 00:19:34,119 --> 00:19:39,000 Speaker 1: he said make your word law, meaning what you say 344 00:19:39,040 --> 00:19:42,240 Speaker 1: to yourself, you follow through, otherwise you don't say you're 345 00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:45,200 Speaker 1: going to do the thing. And I loved this because 346 00:19:45,240 --> 00:19:47,840 Speaker 1: he said if you're constantly saying things and then not 347 00:19:47,960 --> 00:19:51,879 Speaker 1: following through, that is telling your own brain that you 348 00:19:51,960 --> 00:19:55,159 Speaker 1: don't follow through. And so he's he's like, you're just 349 00:19:55,160 --> 00:19:57,000 Speaker 1: going to end up in this cycle of not falling 350 00:19:57,000 --> 00:19:59,520 Speaker 1: through because that's what we all do. And you don't 351 00:19:59,520 --> 00:20:01,679 Speaker 1: want to be that person. It's like that fleaky friend. 352 00:20:02,400 --> 00:20:04,639 Speaker 1: You're like they always fucking bail or like you just 353 00:20:04,680 --> 00:20:05,520 Speaker 1: know what they're going to do. 354 00:20:05,560 --> 00:20:07,960 Speaker 2: You'll make plans, but you'll make plans at the same 355 00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:09,879 Speaker 2: time as the plans because you know it won't happen. 356 00:20:10,119 --> 00:20:13,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's like that's not the vibe. No, And 357 00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:16,600 Speaker 1: I think just such a huge thing we can start doing. 358 00:20:17,119 --> 00:20:21,399 Speaker 1: And even noticing the part in us that wants to 359 00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:24,560 Speaker 1: make the promise and wants to say I'm going to 360 00:20:24,600 --> 00:20:26,720 Speaker 1: go to gym seventeen times and I'm going to be 361 00:20:26,840 --> 00:20:29,680 Speaker 1: this person and blah blah blah blah, and like where's 362 00:20:29,720 --> 00:20:33,480 Speaker 1: that coming from? So true? Who are you saying that for? 363 00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:36,080 Speaker 1: What are you saying that for? Even that's cooled to 364 00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:38,840 Speaker 1: like look at that that yeah, and just even notice 365 00:20:38,840 --> 00:20:43,679 Speaker 1: yourself of like wanting to like make these promises, but 366 00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:46,800 Speaker 1: then taking it back to Okay, I have to be 367 00:20:46,960 --> 00:20:50,679 Speaker 1: really sure and I have to follow through because this 368 00:20:50,840 --> 00:20:54,080 Speaker 1: is going to be build self trust and this is 369 00:20:54,160 --> 00:20:57,879 Speaker 1: going to help me become the person I want to become. Yeah, 370 00:20:57,920 --> 00:21:00,760 Speaker 1: Because I think when you feel so solid yourself off, 371 00:21:00,840 --> 00:21:03,440 Speaker 1: you know, if you're going to say something, you're going 372 00:21:03,480 --> 00:21:07,719 Speaker 1: to do it. Like that's a pretty fucking incredible feeling. Absolutely, 373 00:21:07,760 --> 00:21:11,720 Speaker 1: it's like unwavering. There'll just be no doubt because. 374 00:21:11,440 --> 00:21:13,600 Speaker 2: You'll know that no matter what comes into your path, 375 00:21:13,840 --> 00:21:14,720 Speaker 2: you will get it done. 376 00:21:15,240 --> 00:21:17,720 Speaker 1: Yes, And I think you know, even taking it back 377 00:21:17,760 --> 00:21:19,440 Speaker 1: to the seven rules of being your own best friend, 378 00:21:19,560 --> 00:21:22,080 Speaker 1: it's like you wouldn't tell your bestie Okay, i'll be 379 00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:24,159 Speaker 1: in the morning, I'll meet you in the morning at 380 00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:26,760 Speaker 1: seven am gym class that you know she doesn't want 381 00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:28,720 Speaker 1: to go to alone too, and then just bail last minute, 382 00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:31,679 Speaker 1: Like dog, you don't do that, and if you do, 383 00:21:32,400 --> 00:21:38,760 Speaker 1: you're a dog. Yees, Like look, it's like if you 384 00:21:38,760 --> 00:21:43,720 Speaker 1: can't help it, that's fine, You're not a dog. That's 385 00:21:43,760 --> 00:21:46,360 Speaker 1: so true. So that's a big thing of like why 386 00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:49,560 Speaker 1: do we do this to ourselves? And also my big 387 00:21:49,560 --> 00:21:51,720 Speaker 1: thing too is like if you don't think you're gonna 388 00:21:51,760 --> 00:21:56,159 Speaker 1: do it, just don't say it. That's exactly it. And 389 00:21:56,200 --> 00:21:58,160 Speaker 1: that's why I said before, I like, notice that part 390 00:21:58,200 --> 00:22:00,159 Speaker 1: of you that wants to say something even though you no, 391 00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:02,320 Speaker 1: you're not going to follow through. Yeah, because that's like 392 00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:05,880 Speaker 1: that's all ego, so true. So a big thing with 393 00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:08,800 Speaker 1: this rule, what I wanted to start doing is simply 394 00:22:08,920 --> 00:22:12,399 Speaker 1: that if you not, like, if you don't think or 395 00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:14,800 Speaker 1: there's a possibility that you're going to bail or you're 396 00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:17,480 Speaker 1: like not going to do the thing, just don't say it. 397 00:22:18,160 --> 00:22:21,040 Speaker 1: And notice how many things come up. 398 00:22:21,280 --> 00:22:25,440 Speaker 2: That's so interesting because that's something I started doing as well, 399 00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:28,080 Speaker 2: is just being so mindful of what I commit to 400 00:22:29,040 --> 00:22:31,520 Speaker 2: so that I can make my word law. And the 401 00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:35,000 Speaker 2: other thing that I did on especially with things like Jim, 402 00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:36,960 Speaker 2: is probably the easiest one for me, because that was 403 00:22:36,960 --> 00:22:39,600 Speaker 2: something I was super flaky with with myself. Like it's 404 00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:41,719 Speaker 2: like I'd never make plans with my friend and then 405 00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:45,400 Speaker 2: bail a gym session, but if I made plans with myself, 406 00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:50,480 Speaker 2: I would just not go. And interesting, so you almost 407 00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:53,400 Speaker 2: held your you hold your friends above yourself. 408 00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:53,840 Speaker 1: Yes. 409 00:22:54,520 --> 00:22:58,080 Speaker 2: And when I decided to make my word law, if 410 00:22:58,119 --> 00:23:02,000 Speaker 2: I said I'm going to gym, even if I really 411 00:23:02,080 --> 00:23:05,720 Speaker 2: didn't feel like it, I would physically make myself go, 412 00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:07,600 Speaker 2: even if it took me half now to get into 413 00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:10,240 Speaker 2: my active word twenty minutes to get into the car. 414 00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:13,399 Speaker 2: I'd go to the gym and I'd get on the 415 00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:17,280 Speaker 2: treadmill or something and do fuck all. Yeah, I just 416 00:23:17,320 --> 00:23:18,240 Speaker 2: physically get. 417 00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:20,600 Speaker 1: There and then I'd go. But my word was a 418 00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:24,480 Speaker 1: long yeah, no, no, But then how shout there? It's fine, 419 00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:25,200 Speaker 1: it's great. 420 00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:28,879 Speaker 2: Until I started fasting, obviously, but yeah, Like I was 421 00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:31,359 Speaker 2: going three or four times a week by myself. And 422 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:33,320 Speaker 2: it even got to the point where my best friend, 423 00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:34,960 Speaker 2: who I was going to gym with all the time, 424 00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:37,679 Speaker 2: was like said to me, She's like, you're just going 425 00:23:37,720 --> 00:23:39,800 Speaker 2: all the time, and I feel like, now I'm relying 426 00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:41,040 Speaker 2: on you to go to gym. 427 00:23:40,960 --> 00:23:43,720 Speaker 1: When you were relying on me. And I was like, yeah, 428 00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:46,919 Speaker 1: but how cool is I feeling a good feeling? Like no, 429 00:23:47,000 --> 00:23:48,640 Speaker 1: I just go for myself exactly. 430 00:23:48,720 --> 00:23:50,840 Speaker 2: And when you build that habit, it's so much easier 431 00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:52,680 Speaker 2: to make your word law in everything else. 432 00:23:53,080 --> 00:23:57,119 Speaker 1: I love that so much. Rule three, turn up the 433 00:23:57,200 --> 00:24:01,600 Speaker 1: volume of your inter wish am You guys know, my 434 00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:04,800 Speaker 1: life change when I started trusting my intuition, And it 435 00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:08,480 Speaker 1: honestly started with that very first step. Fuck it was 436 00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:11,760 Speaker 1: a big one, but quitting my corporate job and like 437 00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:15,040 Speaker 1: doing this thing where it's like, logically, it didn't make 438 00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:17,760 Speaker 1: sense for me to leave law when I had nothing 439 00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:20,760 Speaker 1: to go to and I had this great, shiny new 440 00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:23,399 Speaker 1: law job after I had done a six year degree 441 00:24:23,760 --> 00:24:26,280 Speaker 1: like literally got to the end finish, got the certificate 442 00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:31,240 Speaker 1: could practice law, and I was like, see, yeah, like 443 00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:35,600 Speaker 1: logically that makes zero sense. Yeah, but intuitively it made 444 00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:38,480 Speaker 1: perfect sense to me. And it was probably the first 445 00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:42,160 Speaker 1: time in my life that I ever trusted my intuition wholeheartedly, 446 00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:45,280 Speaker 1: and it was the best decision I ever made. And 447 00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:47,159 Speaker 1: it was such a moment for me to be like, 448 00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:50,440 Speaker 1: oh no, I've got my own back, Like I've got 449 00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:52,679 Speaker 1: my own back and I can do hard things and 450 00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:56,120 Speaker 1: they It was also the first time ever I made 451 00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:59,640 Speaker 1: like an a not logical choice because I'm a huge 452 00:24:59,720 --> 00:25:03,679 Speaker 1: logic person. Yeah, and that was just yeah, that was 453 00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:06,040 Speaker 1: such a catalyst for me. And then ever since then, 454 00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:09,639 Speaker 1: I've been really working on strengthening my intuition, listening to 455 00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:12,840 Speaker 1: my intuition, And I think it's like, you know, it's 456 00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:15,439 Speaker 1: the whole thing of you know, when you just know 457 00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:18,040 Speaker 1: something and then you don't listen to it and then 458 00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:20,280 Speaker 1: it kind of bites you on the ass. Yeah, you're 459 00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:24,280 Speaker 1: like wuck. And I think we all have those moments 460 00:25:24,320 --> 00:25:26,880 Speaker 1: where we really just should have locked into our intuition 461 00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:29,520 Speaker 1: and then even a tear what we were talking about the 462 00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:32,120 Speaker 1: other day at the team lunch of every single one 463 00:25:32,160 --> 00:25:35,320 Speaker 1: of you had these really beautiful moments of it didn't 464 00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:39,119 Speaker 1: logically make sense, but then it made you step or 465 00:25:39,280 --> 00:25:43,040 Speaker 1: lead into something where you're like wow, like you know 466 00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:46,560 Speaker 1: this is my dream path? Yeah? Literally hmmm. And so 467 00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:50,200 Speaker 1: that's why I think, oh, so many people don't listen 468 00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:53,240 Speaker 1: to their intuition or just think it's like, well, I 469 00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:55,400 Speaker 1: should always use my logical brain, I should be quote 470 00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:59,200 Speaker 1: unquote smart, and how much that's all fucking us up? Well, 471 00:25:59,240 --> 00:26:01,600 Speaker 1: I also feel like listening to your intuition. 472 00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:06,320 Speaker 2: I did, and I feel like other people might maybe 473 00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:08,879 Speaker 2: even have rose colored glasses of what it'll feel like 474 00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:12,000 Speaker 2: listening to your intuition, Like it's gonna feel easy and 475 00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:15,160 Speaker 2: great and everything's gonna be happy and fall into place 476 00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:19,399 Speaker 2: straight away. Listening to your intuition is hard. Can we 477 00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:21,919 Speaker 2: actually speak on this. I'm so glad you brought this up. 478 00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:24,200 Speaker 2: I'm trying to remember what was the decision I made 479 00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:24,760 Speaker 2: the other day. 480 00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:31,400 Speaker 1: Oh, I actually can't tell you the details. I can't 481 00:26:31,440 --> 00:26:35,040 Speaker 1: tell Yeah, I just not appropriate. But I had to 482 00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:39,119 Speaker 1: make a really hard decision, and it was that it 483 00:26:39,160 --> 00:26:42,679 Speaker 1: was an intuitive decision. Logically, I'm like, I can't do 484 00:26:42,680 --> 00:26:45,560 Speaker 1: the logical side. I've got to trust. But it's not 485 00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:49,360 Speaker 1: like because often even and I'm going to contradict myself, yeah, 486 00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:51,760 Speaker 1: even on this podcast, I'm like, it's gonna feel like 487 00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:55,320 Speaker 1: flowy in a line, but it's like it actually didn't 488 00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:58,800 Speaker 1: feel good the whole time. Literally, Now I'm like, yeah, 489 00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:02,359 Speaker 1: it feels good, but it's like during the actual decision making, 490 00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:08,480 Speaker 1: I'm like fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck, and it feels hard. 491 00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:10,479 Speaker 1: And I remember plugging to my coach about this and 492 00:27:10,520 --> 00:27:15,439 Speaker 1: her saying, like it does, like it doesn't always have 493 00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:18,040 Speaker 1: to feel good. But then this gets to be the 494 00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:22,200 Speaker 1: part where you strengthen this side of yourself, yes, where 495 00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:25,479 Speaker 1: you lock in and you're like, every decision doesn't have 496 00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:28,399 Speaker 1: to feel easy and flowy. It actually gets to be hard, 497 00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:30,480 Speaker 1: but still be in the direction I want to go. 498 00:27:31,040 --> 00:27:32,879 Speaker 1: Because also, if you think about it, it's like, if 499 00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:35,720 Speaker 1: you want something different, you've got to fucking move different exactly. 500 00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:38,040 Speaker 1: So it's like if you just say, if you're just 501 00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:40,840 Speaker 1: in that zone of like I'm just gonna pick the 502 00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:45,160 Speaker 1: thing that's like most comfortable, you're always going to be comfortable. Yes, 503 00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:48,280 Speaker 1: And I feel like some people might start listening to 504 00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:51,640 Speaker 1: the intuition, feel things getting hard, and then go, oh, 505 00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:53,679 Speaker 1: I must have made the wrong decision. I need to 506 00:27:53,680 --> 00:27:55,480 Speaker 1: turn around and go back and do a three sixty. 507 00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:58,800 Speaker 1: Oh go that, No, don't, just you gotta like fight 508 00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:01,119 Speaker 1: through the mud, because to my intuison was one of 509 00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:04,040 Speaker 1: the hardest things I've ever did. Yeah, many meltdowns like 510 00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:08,120 Speaker 1: melt down. I'd love to see it here. In a meltdown. 511 00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:13,240 Speaker 1: It's pretty entertaining. When you start trusting your intuition, life 512 00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:15,880 Speaker 1: does change, but it's not always going to feel good. 513 00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:21,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, remember that, really, remember that if you take anything 514 00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:21,480 Speaker 2: from this. 515 00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:28,400 Speaker 1: Episode, Gosh You're funny rule for stay true to your boundaries. 516 00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:34,359 Speaker 1: Oh sounds hard. It's also hard. They were all a 517 00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:37,040 Speaker 1: bit hard, are they? Again, this is something I've really 518 00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:41,520 Speaker 1: been delving into, and I think it's like, let's just 519 00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:45,480 Speaker 1: be fucking honest. If you're not respecting your own boundaries, 520 00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:50,200 Speaker 1: how do you expect anyone else to respect your boundaries? Yep. 521 00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:53,520 Speaker 1: If you're that friend who's getting walked over, who's not 522 00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:58,280 Speaker 1: getting treated right, I would really be looking internally what's 523 00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:02,080 Speaker 1: happening with your boundaries because I really guarantee people only 524 00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:05,200 Speaker 1: treat you in a way, not that you let them, 525 00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:10,080 Speaker 1: but it's like, let's just say it this way, and 526 00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:13,200 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna be really fucking honest with you. There's 527 00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:17,800 Speaker 1: certain people where it's like I know their boundaries and 528 00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:20,400 Speaker 1: it's like I don't fuck with them, yeah. And then 529 00:29:20,440 --> 00:29:22,720 Speaker 1: there's other people where I know I can kind of 530 00:29:22,760 --> 00:29:28,680 Speaker 1: fuck with them, like let's just be really honest. Yeah, 531 00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:31,840 Speaker 1: And it's like and I like, I'm not saying each 532 00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:34,640 Speaker 1: one is like right or wrong, but it's like that's 533 00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:39,920 Speaker 1: the energetic of what boundaries are. Yes. So, if you're 534 00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:45,480 Speaker 1: someone where you're feeling resentment towards other people, you're feeling 535 00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:47,680 Speaker 1: like you're getting walked over, you feel like you're not 536 00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:51,280 Speaker 1: getting treated right, you feel like you're putting more into 537 00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:54,760 Speaker 1: the relationship than they are. Yeah, I think you gotta 538 00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:58,960 Speaker 1: look at your boundaries and tided them up, tidy them up, 539 00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:04,720 Speaker 1: clean them up, because there's probably some leaky boundaries happening there. Yeah, 540 00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:06,120 Speaker 1: and you kind of you don't know how to put 541 00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:08,480 Speaker 1: them in and how to be because trust me, like 542 00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:11,600 Speaker 1: energetically I can feel if someone's got strong boundaries, like 543 00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:14,840 Speaker 1: I'm not fucking with them. No, it's just like you're 544 00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:17,160 Speaker 1: just like that's how it is. You work around it. 545 00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:20,160 Speaker 1: And that's even a thing like that's I guarantee you 546 00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:22,600 Speaker 1: in your life you'll have people who you just don't 547 00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:25,480 Speaker 1: fuck with. You're like, oh no, I'm not going there exactly. 548 00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:28,880 Speaker 1: I guarantee they have the strongest boundaries or just certain boundaries. 549 00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:31,040 Speaker 1: So true. So that's what I want you guys to 550 00:30:31,080 --> 00:30:34,960 Speaker 1: think about. And I think, like even from the perspective 551 00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:39,200 Speaker 1: of getting really fucking honest with yourself and being like, 552 00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:44,200 Speaker 1: where am I actually feeling really drained or really not good? 553 00:30:44,560 --> 00:30:46,800 Speaker 1: And where do I need to tighten up my boundaries, 554 00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:49,640 Speaker 1: whether that's having more time for myself, for my family, 555 00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:53,560 Speaker 1: for my hobbies, this and that. So I can feel 556 00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:57,000 Speaker 1: a certain way because for instance, I think a lot 557 00:30:57,080 --> 00:30:59,680 Speaker 1: of people. They can get in this victim mentality of 558 00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:02,240 Speaker 1: like I feel a certain way and poor me, and 559 00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:06,000 Speaker 1: then not taking the action of like okay, well where 560 00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:10,400 Speaker 1: you actually, you know, spending your time? Where are you 561 00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:16,800 Speaker 1: actually not putting in things for yourself? And I think 562 00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:19,600 Speaker 1: a big thing is like being okay with that, and 563 00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:22,040 Speaker 1: I like going back to seven rules of being your 564 00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:24,320 Speaker 1: own best friend. It's if your best friend is like, hey, 565 00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:26,880 Speaker 1: I need the weekend, I need some chill time, I 566 00:31:26,920 --> 00:31:29,520 Speaker 1: need time to myself. I'm not going to be like no, 567 00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:32,200 Speaker 1: you must be you must say that with me, You're 568 00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:35,120 Speaker 1: like cool, amazing. So it's like why don't we do 569 00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:39,440 Speaker 1: that to ourselves, especially if we're feeling drained, but also 570 00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:42,920 Speaker 1: in other avenues of like if someone speaks to you 571 00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:45,800 Speaker 1: in a way that doesn't feel you know, great to 572 00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:50,840 Speaker 1: your appropriate have that conversation where you say, hey, that 573 00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:53,440 Speaker 1: didn't feel good when that you spoke to me like that? 574 00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:57,080 Speaker 1: Moving forward? Can you not speak to me like that? Yes? 575 00:31:57,160 --> 00:32:00,600 Speaker 1: So simple, so simple. Yeah, we don't say it, And 576 00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:02,760 Speaker 1: then in our head we're like, can't believe she spoke 577 00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:06,840 Speaker 1: to me like that? How dash she? But also I'm 578 00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:12,400 Speaker 1: not gonna say anything to her, they were just upset. Literally, 579 00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:17,440 Speaker 1: So boundaries is such a huge thing and it's also 580 00:32:17,600 --> 00:32:19,320 Speaker 1: like what you allow will continue. 581 00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:21,719 Speaker 2: And I think something that helped me with boundaries is 582 00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:25,440 Speaker 2: if you ever set a boundary and it triggers someone, 583 00:32:25,720 --> 00:32:28,360 Speaker 2: it's either a because they want to set the same 584 00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:32,920 Speaker 2: boundary for themselves and they haven't, yes, or B they 585 00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:36,960 Speaker 2: were abusing your lack of boundaries yeah, and you don't yeah, 586 00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:39,640 Speaker 2: and you don't want them around. So if someone's a 587 00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:42,080 Speaker 2: bit triggered, let them be triggered, Let them work through 588 00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:44,120 Speaker 2: it at their own pace, and they can come back 589 00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:46,720 Speaker 2: when they're ready. But they'll know that your boundary is 590 00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:48,040 Speaker 2: firm and that's what's best for you. 591 00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:53,520 Speaker 1: That what's the next rule? Rule number five is dish 592 00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:57,320 Speaker 1: out the compliments. She's simple, She's simple this one. She's 593 00:32:57,360 --> 00:33:01,000 Speaker 1: self explanatory. Again. What I want you guys to do 594 00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:05,120 Speaker 1: with this is literally, if you're not driving, go somewhere 595 00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:08,320 Speaker 1: where there's a mirror, look at yourself, look at yourself 596 00:33:08,360 --> 00:33:11,920 Speaker 1: in like little black bits of your eyes, really look 597 00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:14,959 Speaker 1: dead set at yourself, and tell yourself a compliment that 598 00:33:15,040 --> 00:33:18,480 Speaker 1: you mean can be. It doesn't have to be saying 599 00:33:18,480 --> 00:33:21,200 Speaker 1: about your physical appearance. It can be something about whatever 600 00:33:21,240 --> 00:33:24,240 Speaker 1: you like about yourself. But I just think so often 601 00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:27,120 Speaker 1: we give out so many compliments to other people, and 602 00:33:27,160 --> 00:33:30,040 Speaker 1: we constantly lift others up, but we rarely do it 603 00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:33,160 Speaker 1: to ourselves. And it's just like this whole concept of like, 604 00:33:33,400 --> 00:33:36,920 Speaker 1: oh my god, imagine if I treated myself, you know, 605 00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:40,080 Speaker 1: as well as I do the people around me. So true, 606 00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:46,920 Speaker 1: I will work on it. Will update number six, Know 607 00:33:47,360 --> 00:33:50,640 Speaker 1: your priorities. I love this one too. I love this 608 00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:54,720 Speaker 1: one so much. And this I feel like this really 609 00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:58,680 Speaker 1: came about since doing the seven day Clarity course at 610 00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:02,560 Speaker 1: the start of the year and really being like, fuck, 611 00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:06,040 Speaker 1: what's actually important to me? Yeah, because it's it's so 612 00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:08,359 Speaker 1: interesting because we make, like, you know, at the start 613 00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:10,640 Speaker 1: of the year, we make goals and we make vision boards, 614 00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:14,560 Speaker 1: and usually like they're very aspirational and they're very like 615 00:34:14,760 --> 00:34:21,080 Speaker 1: career driven and very subjective and very specific to something 616 00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:24,600 Speaker 1: we want to push forward, usually like Korea or something 617 00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:27,960 Speaker 1: health related. Yeah, but rarely do we like make them 618 00:34:28,120 --> 00:34:32,760 Speaker 1: fit everything and really understand what's important to us from 619 00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:36,880 Speaker 1: a level of for example, knowing that you need a 620 00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:40,160 Speaker 1: loan time, Yeah, like you don't make goals around that 621 00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:43,120 Speaker 1: to you, but that might be a priority for you 622 00:34:43,200 --> 00:34:46,359 Speaker 1: to thrive and be happy. That's so true. And that's yeah. 623 00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:48,400 Speaker 1: When I did the do it for the future self course, 624 00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:52,160 Speaker 1: I remember being like profounded in the way of oh 625 00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:56,120 Speaker 1: my god, like I've got these semon buckets and I 626 00:34:56,239 --> 00:35:03,440 Speaker 1: know they're all empty like except for it oken career, 627 00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:06,800 Speaker 1: but like make goals for like two of them. Yeah, 628 00:35:06,840 --> 00:35:09,200 Speaker 1: So that's like another big thing too, have like know 629 00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:12,520 Speaker 1: what actually fills you up. And of course you don't 630 00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:13,959 Speaker 1: have to do the do it for your future self 631 00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:17,680 Speaker 1: cause you can just like understand of what in life 632 00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:21,000 Speaker 1: fills you up, not just like the aspirational of like 633 00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:24,680 Speaker 1: make a million dollars or like becom a whatever in 634 00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:28,279 Speaker 1: your career. Yeah, those sorts of things. Is like knowing 635 00:35:28,320 --> 00:35:30,759 Speaker 1: your priorities of I actually really thrive when I have 636 00:35:30,800 --> 00:35:33,600 Speaker 1: a lone time, or I actually really love you know 637 00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:34,240 Speaker 1: blah blah. 638 00:35:34,040 --> 00:35:36,000 Speaker 2: Blah exactly, And I loved it, and I love to 639 00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:38,160 Speaker 2: do it for your future self course for that reason 640 00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:43,160 Speaker 2: because it's like, in for lack of a better example, 641 00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:46,000 Speaker 2: say your goal is to go to Europe that year 642 00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:49,200 Speaker 2: and have bousion euro summer, right that that will obviously 643 00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:49,799 Speaker 2: have shommy, go. 644 00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:52,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, should we all gone ready? 645 00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:58,120 Speaker 2: My back's back is like that'll have some financial goal 646 00:35:58,200 --> 00:36:02,440 Speaker 2: attached to it, but something that fills your cup and 647 00:36:02,480 --> 00:36:07,320 Speaker 2: a bucket of yours is maybe going to live music events, 648 00:36:07,360 --> 00:36:10,439 Speaker 2: because that's just something that really fills you up. And 649 00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:13,920 Speaker 2: you have one hundred dollars to spend that week and 650 00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:16,359 Speaker 2: you can save it for your trip as bonus money 651 00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:18,600 Speaker 2: on your trip, you can spend it on a concert ticket, 652 00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:21,200 Speaker 2: or you can buy yourself an outfit for something, and 653 00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:24,080 Speaker 2: actually going, oh, it's so fine for me to guilt 654 00:36:24,120 --> 00:36:26,880 Speaker 2: free spend this money on this concert because that's my 655 00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:29,640 Speaker 2: bucket and that's something that fills me up and I've 656 00:36:29,719 --> 00:36:33,319 Speaker 2: already hit other goals for my financial goal. Or go, oh, 657 00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:35,000 Speaker 2: I have one hundred dollars, do I want to spend 658 00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:36,680 Speaker 2: it on a ticket or do I want to spend 659 00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:40,520 Speaker 2: it towards my savings for my trip and actually evaluate 660 00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:43,920 Speaker 2: what would fill me up more now and for the 661 00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:44,480 Speaker 2: whole year. 662 00:36:45,040 --> 00:36:47,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think that's the thing is also it's 663 00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:49,239 Speaker 1: like no one's gonna know that answer, accept you. Yeah, 664 00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:53,440 Speaker 1: But even having a process where you know yourself, you 665 00:36:53,600 --> 00:36:57,120 Speaker 1: know what your goals are, what you're clear on what 666 00:36:57,160 --> 00:37:00,600 Speaker 1: fills you up and then having that kind of logical 667 00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:03,760 Speaker 1: process of like, cool, I actually get to pick because 668 00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:05,680 Speaker 1: I think so many people they're just like they're not. 669 00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:08,279 Speaker 2: Clear, no, and then they feel guilt if they do 670 00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:11,680 Speaker 2: something yes, maybe not aligned with their big goals, and 671 00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:14,319 Speaker 2: but that then could be filling up your other four 672 00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:16,160 Speaker 2: buckets that you've not made goals for. 673 00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:20,520 Speaker 1: Yes, exactly, love our bucket. Yeah, love this for us. 674 00:37:20,600 --> 00:37:25,360 Speaker 1: That's a good bucket, all right, guys. The last rule, 675 00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:29,640 Speaker 1: give yourself permission to go after it. I love this room, 676 00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:32,040 Speaker 1: I love them all. I love this one. But I 677 00:37:32,120 --> 00:37:34,360 Speaker 1: think I said that a tear wanted to create a 678 00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:38,160 Speaker 1: whole course on that I did. I was like, maybe 679 00:37:38,200 --> 00:37:39,520 Speaker 1: just an episode. 680 00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:43,799 Speaker 2: If you want to cause slide into Dotty's DMS and 681 00:37:43,840 --> 00:37:44,279 Speaker 2: tell her. 682 00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:48,239 Speaker 1: That I was right. I'm kidding. I love this rule 683 00:37:48,280 --> 00:37:52,080 Speaker 1: so much because again I think and even tell me 684 00:37:52,320 --> 00:37:56,120 Speaker 1: how you are a tea. But with my friends, I'm like, yes, 685 00:37:56,680 --> 00:37:59,840 Speaker 1: go after it, do the thing like my best friends. 686 00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:02,440 Speaker 1: He was in this midst of like, should she hire 687 00:38:02,480 --> 00:38:05,120 Speaker 1: someone because she's got a small beers? She the first person? 688 00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:08,160 Speaker 1: Should you hire someone? I'm like, hi, someone do it? 689 00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:11,600 Speaker 1: So like, oh, my God, do the thing. And then 690 00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:13,839 Speaker 1: when it comes to ourselves, we're like, should we do it? 691 00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:17,680 Speaker 1: I don't know. We call everyone, we're like, what's gonna happen? 692 00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:20,640 Speaker 1: And it's like, imagine if you gave that energy that 693 00:38:20,680 --> 00:38:22,720 Speaker 1: you give to other people who you want to see succeed, 694 00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:25,880 Speaker 1: who you're proud of, who you believe in, to yourself. 695 00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:27,839 Speaker 1: I'm like, no, I get to just go and do. 696 00:38:27,760 --> 00:38:30,279 Speaker 2: The thing, even the self assurance that you know they'll 697 00:38:30,280 --> 00:38:30,640 Speaker 2: get there. 698 00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:33,399 Speaker 1: Yes. Like, one of my best friends was a bit 699 00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:35,239 Speaker 1: nervous to apply for a job and I'm like, what 700 00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:37,359 Speaker 1: do you I'm like, this job is yours. Like it's 701 00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:39,960 Speaker 1: literally got your name on it. This ad was put 702 00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:41,320 Speaker 1: out with your name on it. 703 00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:46,440 Speaker 2: Don't be silly. But vice versa. I get anxious. I'm like, 704 00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:48,560 Speaker 2: maybe I'm not good enough, maybe this, maybe that. But 705 00:38:48,680 --> 00:38:49,880 Speaker 2: to other people, you're like, of. 706 00:38:49,920 --> 00:38:53,920 Speaker 1: Course it's in the bag. We are limiting ourselves so much. Yeah, 707 00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:56,360 Speaker 1: because also, what's the worst thing that can happen? You 708 00:38:56,400 --> 00:38:59,040 Speaker 1: go after it, you fail, and you're trying back where 709 00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:01,880 Speaker 1: you are right now. Great, and you're back where you 710 00:39:01,920 --> 00:39:05,600 Speaker 1: are right now. Oh And I love this because the 711 00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:08,680 Speaker 1: sentence that we touched. This rule was if you don't 712 00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:13,440 Speaker 1: risk failure, you'll never have the chance to succeed. And 713 00:39:13,480 --> 00:39:17,200 Speaker 1: it's like, gals, just go do the thing. I love that. 714 00:39:17,520 --> 00:39:19,560 Speaker 1: I love that phrase, follow all the rules and then 715 00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:20,759 Speaker 1: go do the thing. Yeah. 716 00:39:20,880 --> 00:39:22,759 Speaker 2: Do you have any tips on how people can maybe 717 00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:24,360 Speaker 2: reframe their concept of failure? 718 00:39:24,719 --> 00:39:27,200 Speaker 1: Well, I think it's exactly what you just said then 719 00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:30,319 Speaker 1: is like, Okay, what happens. I go try and do 720 00:39:30,400 --> 00:39:32,640 Speaker 1: the thing, the thing doesn't work out, and I'm just 721 00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:35,200 Speaker 1: back where I am now. Yeah, so it's like the 722 00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:37,560 Speaker 1: worst thing that can happen is I'm back where I am? Now? 723 00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:43,560 Speaker 1: What am I worried about it? But literally, yeah, like, 724 00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:47,920 Speaker 1: oh that's interesting. Yeah, I love that. 725 00:39:48,080 --> 00:39:50,160 Speaker 2: Another way that I love to look at it, and 726 00:39:50,200 --> 00:39:53,839 Speaker 2: I actually heard it from an interview events Sheering is 727 00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:57,480 Speaker 2: where he said, when you're getting really good at something 728 00:39:57,600 --> 00:40:01,840 Speaker 2: or you're taking risks, you're in inevitably gonna have mistakes, 729 00:40:01,840 --> 00:40:04,320 Speaker 2: You're gonna be bad at things, or you're gonna maybe 730 00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:06,480 Speaker 2: have an off day. And the example he gave was 731 00:40:06,520 --> 00:40:10,879 Speaker 2: like songwriting and performing, You're gonna write bad songs, but great, 732 00:40:11,000 --> 00:40:13,720 Speaker 2: the shit's out of you. Keep going and it's almost 733 00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:16,200 Speaker 2: like everyone has shit inside them that has to come out. 734 00:40:16,239 --> 00:40:20,160 Speaker 2: You're gonna have bad days, You're gonna make mistakes, but 735 00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:21,040 Speaker 2: better out than in. 736 00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:27,600 Speaker 1: Everyone's got shit inside them recon No. 737 00:40:27,760 --> 00:40:30,399 Speaker 2: I love that because it's like, even if it's not 738 00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:33,080 Speaker 2: as bad as you probably think it is, you're gonna 739 00:40:33,080 --> 00:40:35,359 Speaker 2: have an off day, and but don't beat yourself up 740 00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:38,239 Speaker 2: about it. Just go oh great, Like that day's over. 741 00:40:38,480 --> 00:40:39,800 Speaker 2: Now I get to have all the good ones. 742 00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:44,520 Speaker 1: And also like just who fucking cares me? Like the 743 00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:46,560 Speaker 1: amount of weight. We're like, oh but this person will 744 00:40:46,560 --> 00:40:48,319 Speaker 1: think this and this will happen, and blah blah blah. 745 00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:50,480 Speaker 1: It's like no one cares. They're probably not even looking. 746 00:40:50,640 --> 00:40:53,400 Speaker 1: No one literally no one cares. Mark, you know, just 747 00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:57,680 Speaker 1: go do the thing, all right, guys. I hope you 748 00:40:57,840 --> 00:41:02,000 Speaker 1: enjoyed this. We fucking obviously love these yeah and rules, 749 00:41:02,280 --> 00:41:05,040 Speaker 1: and again we're like I have been living by these, 750 00:41:05,160 --> 00:41:07,239 Speaker 1: I swear by them. They're incredible. I feel like we 751 00:41:07,239 --> 00:41:10,120 Speaker 1: can all make some audits and changes from this episode, 752 00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:15,399 Speaker 1: and I hope you enjoyed it. Thank you so much 753 00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:19,279 Speaker 1: for listening to another episode of the Rise and Conquer podcast. 754 00:41:19,719 --> 00:41:22,319 Speaker 1: If you enjoyed it and want more, come connect with 755 00:41:22,400 --> 00:41:27,480 Speaker 1: us on Instagram at Riseinconquer dot podcast and join our 756 00:41:27,520 --> 00:41:31,799 Speaker 1: Facebook discussion group, a Rise and Concer podcast community. We're 757 00:41:31,840 --> 00:41:34,719 Speaker 1: an independent podcast and we have a small team, so 758 00:41:34,760 --> 00:41:37,680 Speaker 1: we do appreciate your time and support. If you have 759 00:41:37,719 --> 00:41:41,759 Speaker 1: a spare moment, a follow or subscribe on whatever platform 760 00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:45,640 Speaker 1: you listen to would be so amazing, And look, if 761 00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:49,600 Speaker 1: you're feeling extra kind, a review on Apple Podcasts would 762 00:41:49,680 --> 00:41:50,120 Speaker 1: be great.