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Speaker 1: We need to talk about mental health.

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Speaker 2: So I'm going to assume that you don't have to

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Speaker 1: No, no, not at all. Now, let's be clear. Mental

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Speaker 1: illness is any condition that includes cognitive or emotional disturbances,

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Speaker 1: all of us mentally illum one way or another.

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Speaker 2: Well, just last week I had an absolute meltdown. You've

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Speaker 1: So I'm going to share five principles tonight. We don't

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Speaker 1: I know they lie to us about relationships. They lied

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I should say anything else, because

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Speaker 1: No, I'm not being a teaser, Like I can't wait

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Speaker 1: to share this webinars. It's so important for our well being, Like,

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Speaker 1: if we want to be really great parents, we've got

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Speaker 1: Doing hard things makes us happier. You almost cry some

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Speaker 1: I'm just going to mention, now I need another story

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Speaker 1: find another great story for tonight doing hard things, all right.

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Speaker 1: So we're going to talk about that tonight in the webinar.

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Speaker 1: Looking forward to it. So that's tonight, eight pm. Australian

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