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Speaker 1: Drill podcasting.

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Speaker 2: Now, well, it's impressing your partner. Isn't healthy? Is it destructive?

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Speaker 2: The reason I'm asking this question is because I and

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Speaker 2: I said, I've got permission for my girlfriend to talk

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Speaker 2: about this, so please don't hate me. I don't think

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Speaker 2: I can't figure out whether it is hate worthy. But

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Speaker 2: I walked in the other day to my girlfriend doing

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Speaker 2: a really intense workout in the living room.

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Speaker 3: Classic.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I did record her without her knowing, but I

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Speaker 2: was just blown away by the whole thing and it

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Speaker 2: looked really intense. But lots of people that have done

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Speaker 2: those sort of home workout things titely, but not my girlfriend.

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Speaker 2: Sim's not really into that sort of get you know,

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Speaker 2: she'll dance your walk, She's not doing her homework out.

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Speaker 2: So I actually sat down with her after I was like,

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Speaker 2: why are you doing that? Like, and I didn't want

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Speaker 2: to get in the way of her motivation or whatever.

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Speaker 2: But what happened a couple of weeks ago is I'd

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Speaker 2: asked her to go on my Instagram. I don't like

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Speaker 2: going on my Instagram. I hate Instagram, but I don't

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Speaker 2: like going on there. And I asked her to go

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Speaker 2: on there to find an old photo for a photo

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Speaker 2: board I was making, mum, and she clicked on my

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Speaker 2: She wasn't snooping or anything. She just clicked on my

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Speaker 2: archived photos. And in the archived photos was only one photo,

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Speaker 2: and it was a photo of a model that I'd

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Speaker 2: saved from a few years ago. Gross in a bikini.

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Speaker 3: Gross.

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Speaker 2: Well it's not gross.

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Speaker 3: Appreciate your honesty.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I wouldn't want to go into your right give photos.

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Speaker 2: So anyway, so she had this moment where she looked

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Speaker 2: at it and she thought, oh wow, that's obviously something

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Speaker 2: that wheels into and she all of a sudden was

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Speaker 2: really determined to get her body looking that way. Oh yeah, Well,

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Speaker 2: I said, look, whatever motivation is going to get your fit,

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Speaker 2: that's fine. But it made me feel super awkward that

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Speaker 2: she was getting or she was changing her body for me.

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Speaker 3: You're based on what she thinks you want, yes, yeah, yeah, yeah, yes, And.

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Speaker 2: I just found that really awkward because and this is

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Speaker 2: kind of what I want to talk about here is

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Speaker 2: her side of the coin was like, look, you know,

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Speaker 2: I want to be sexy for you, like I want

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Speaker 2: to impress here. Yeah, and you know, like sure, this

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Speaker 2: girl on the photo had a beautiful body. But my

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Speaker 2: thought to her was that one of the best parts

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Speaker 2: about being in a relationship is feeling like you don't

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Speaker 2: you don't have to impress the other one. You know,

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Speaker 2: it's a nice thing to do as a surprise or whatever.

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Speaker 2: But I also quite like how relaxed we are around

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Speaker 2: each other. You know, there is no like need to

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Speaker 2: impress each other. And that's why I thought i'd ask

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Speaker 2: everybody else right now if they've been in that situation,

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Speaker 2: because where you're trying to impress the person you're with,

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Speaker 2: and whether that's healthy or whether that's destructive, because I

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Speaker 2: can imagine if you're constantly trying to impress someone, that

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Speaker 2: kind of got this undercurrent of the fact that you

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Speaker 2: don't think that you're good enough for them, and I

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Speaker 2: hated that feeling. As soon as we had that, I

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Speaker 2: was like, please don't do this for me, Like you're

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Speaker 2: sexy ass right now. I love how sexy you are.

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Speaker 2: There's no you don't need to trim your body up

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Speaker 2: to get there. But it just scared me, and it

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Speaker 2: just got me thinking that it's a hard line to

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Speaker 2: tread because from her side of it, she was like, well,

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Speaker 2: but what if I do want to impress you. What

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Speaker 2: if I do want to try and up the antie

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Speaker 2: and look sexy, and maybe it's for myself as well.

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Speaker 2: So look, I'd love to hear some people's thoughts on this.

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Speaker 3: I've been on the other side from you. I'll tell

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Speaker 3: you go to a song. Yeah, but I've actually been

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Speaker 3: on the other side and it's led to me having

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Speaker 3: now a lifelong ailment.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, a bit of a hook for everyone.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well you can reveal it up next for everybody

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Speaker 2: else though, thirty one o six ' five impressing your partner?

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Speaker 2: Has that ever become destructive for you? Or do you

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Speaker 2: see it is a really healthy thing in a relationship.

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Speaker 2: We'll talk about it up next to post. Now. I've

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Speaker 2: just got a prevacy by saying I have got permission

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Speaker 2: for my girlfriend Sam to talk about this woods. I

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Speaker 2: walked in on her doing a workout in our living

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Speaker 2: room the other day. Wasn't that glamorous? Have got audio

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Speaker 2: of the actual workout. I was stomping sound levels, a

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Speaker 2: stampede going on into the living room and she never

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Speaker 2: does it. She never normally does it. I no one's

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Speaker 2: ever doing it in ISO. So I sat down with

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Speaker 2: her and I was like, why are you doing this now?

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Speaker 2: And she said to me, I love how honor she is.

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Speaker 2: She said to me, the reason she was doing it

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Speaker 2: is because she saw a photo that liked online of

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Speaker 2: this model and she wanted to look like that to

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Speaker 2: impress me. And that made me feel really awkward because

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Speaker 2: it started to carry all these undercurrents of the fact

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Speaker 2: that she didn't feel good enough as she was in

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Speaker 2: our relationship, and I hated that. But her argument was

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Speaker 2: that she got a lot of joy out of impressing me.

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Speaker 2: And we're just talking about that now, impressing your partner

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Speaker 2: whether it is a good thing to be doing or

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Speaker 2: whether it can, as I said, be a really destructive thing.

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Speaker 2: And you've alluded to the fact that you've done this before.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to go to Bonnie first. It's led to

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Speaker 2: a physical ailment, a permanent, physic physical ailment. You did

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Speaker 2: something in a passwordship, which is wild. We've never discussed that.

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Speaker 2: We've got Bonnie here, Bonnie, what do you reckon?

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Speaker 1: Hey, guys, Look, that's a bit of a touchy subject.

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Speaker 1: I'm not personally I find it destructive. I think there's

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Speaker 1: both sides to it.

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Speaker 4: So it's always nice.

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Speaker 1: To do something to be partner and you know, make

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Speaker 1: sure that it's safe to see that you're putting effort,

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Speaker 1: and you know, things like getting stagnant. But for me,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't work on Fridays because of IO.

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I found myself last Friday as he sat

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Speaker 1: about three o'clock, I was like, no, still on a

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Speaker 1: lounge where I'll get changed and I'll do my hair

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Speaker 1: and my makeup.

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Speaker 4: When my man gets home.

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Speaker 1: And I don't know, there's a part of that that

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Speaker 1: makes you go, well, this feels really like nineteen sixties,

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Speaker 1: you know, like that book and dinner.

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Speaker 3: And yeah, yeah, I know where.

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Speaker 1: Where the line goes between makes it that you know,

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Speaker 1: if you're looking and feeling your best when they get home,

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Speaker 1: and what's the expectation?

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Speaker 4: And I'm not sure.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, what's the difference is Bonnie. I mean, if I'd say,

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Speaker 3: if you want to do it, and if you want

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Speaker 3: to feel sexy for your partner, then that's fine. I

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Speaker 3: think it'd be a worry of if you're if you

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Speaker 3: felt your boyfriend was telling you to do it, which

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Speaker 3: was an expectation.

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Speaker 2: Bonny said the word before, you said the word before.

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Speaker 2: It's the it's the E word, it's the expectation work.

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Speaker 2: As soon as it starts becoming you know, something that

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Speaker 2: you've done so much that he's like, I require that

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Speaker 2: you still find you sexy, that's when it tips into

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Speaker 2: a nasty's own. Thanks to the cool thanks Bonnie, really

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Speaker 2: really interesting that you reckon. It's been amplified over ISO.

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Speaker 2: We've got Olivia here, Olivia, welcome.

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Speaker 4: Thanks guys. Now I've been on the other end of it.

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Speaker 4: I've basically been in your girlfriend's physician. I was on

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Speaker 4: my partner's phone and we were watching maths at the

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Speaker 4: time and it's something funny that I found on an

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Speaker 4: account and I was like, oh, I'll bring it up.

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Speaker 4: It's so funny, and like as I went on the phone,

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Speaker 4: I went to search it and you know, for your

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Speaker 4: popular page or like everything that he kind of are

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Speaker 4: Ino comes up like on mine, it's literally like all animals,

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Speaker 4: like cats and dogs and all funny stuff. And I

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Speaker 4: don't know, not that I expected that, but I was

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Speaker 4: just so used to mine that when I opened his up,

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Speaker 4: it was all women and I was like, I was like,

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Speaker 4: I've been with him for four years. I've never been

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Speaker 4: the person that's like I need to check everything. But

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Speaker 4: I was like, oh my god, like, do.

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Speaker 2: You Oh, she's sworn there, Live Live Lived dropped a

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Speaker 2: big swear word there. She wasn't happy with the amount

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Speaker 2: of rig shots better that our husband's looking at. That's

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Speaker 2: a whole other topic, I would say, is guys private

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Speaker 2: search terms online and whether that actually has an impact

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Speaker 2: on the person there with.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's right, But I mean, while we're here, while

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Speaker 3: we cover.

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Speaker 5: That another day, why don't I tell you. Yeah, I've

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Speaker 5: had a lot of females on the other side of

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Speaker 5: you know, female, and it's a real it's a real

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Speaker 5: shame to hear that that a lot of females feel

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Speaker 5: they need to look a certain way or be a

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Speaker 5: certain way to impress their partner.

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Speaker 3: So let me just put that on its head. As

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Speaker 3: a bloke in my last relationship, so I was watching

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Speaker 3: the Thorn movies with my ex girlfriend. Watched all the

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Speaker 3: Thorn movies, and I couldn't help but notice that my

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Speaker 3: ex girlfriend kept mentioning Chris Hemsworth's rig Yes, and was

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Speaker 3: just the look at the arms on your muscles anyway,

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Speaker 3: So I heard this and and yeah, I started feeling

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Speaker 3: like I want to look like that. I need to

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Speaker 3: look bigger or stronger, wow, to impress. And I had

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Speaker 3: the hair, Will, I mean.

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Speaker 2: I was gonna say the whole four hair. Did hammer

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Speaker 2: in your I did?

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Speaker 3: I started carrying hammers around but no, but quite seriously.

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Speaker 3: I then started doing chin ups every single day, like

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Speaker 3: sometimes twice a day. And I now have I now

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Speaker 3: have this elbow tender ninis thing. Which doctor, You'll have

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Speaker 3: it for the rest of you live, you moron? And

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Speaker 3: I picked up my hammer and walked out of work.

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