Speaker 1: Are you ready?
Speaker 2: Good pickup with brit Hockley and Laura Burn.
Speaker 3: Bady your work, our windows done?
Speaker 4: That's my world reason the dust only good babs.
Speaker 5: As all day.
Speaker 2: I don't much, but yeah I'm not. I'll big get
Speaker 2: and what I want.
Speaker 5: It don't matter where does? This is the pickup?
Speaker 1: Hello everybody, It's the pick up with brid Hockley and
Speaker 1: Laura Burn.
Speaker 5: How are you feeling today?
Speaker 4: It's Thursday? Feeling great? Thanks for reminding me, you know.
Speaker 4: That's why I do that intentionally, because you often forget
Speaker 4: what date of the week it is, so I feel
Speaker 4: like I say it to you at the start.
Speaker 1: I appreciate that you can always say it to me
Speaker 1: before we actually get onto.
Speaker 2: The show, though I do.
Speaker 4: This is a double down reminder because you get on
Speaker 4: and you're like, happy Friday. Do you know I got
Speaker 4: the funniest message. So the other week we were talking
Speaker 4: about on the show the stupidest meltdowns that your kids
Speaker 4: have had, like the tantrums that were just irrational and
Speaker 4: made absolutely no sense. And I thought that this this
Speaker 4: one might even get a snort out of your bread.
Speaker 5: No, I'm not allowed to snort either.
Speaker 4: You've been burned I'm actually so many rules in put
Speaker 4: on me on this show.
Speaker 2: No singing, no snorting.
Speaker 4: This the two things that define who I am, and
Speaker 4: also the laugh you can keep laughing.
Speaker 5: Oh thanks, you were Oh wow, so generous. What's the message?
Speaker 1: Okay, last week you guys were discussing toddler meltdowns on
Speaker 1: the show. My almost three year old lost his absolute
Speaker 1: shit tonight because he couldn't get the ball out of
Speaker 1: his ballsack.
Speaker 5: Hang on, bullsack is in?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 5: Is that a game or his testicles?
Speaker 2: His testicles?
Speaker 4: He couldn't get the hard ball out of it, and
Speaker 4: so we would frustrate me.
Speaker 5: That would frustrate me too.
Speaker 4: I understand, God, you're not a man bridge. It's like
Speaker 4: a puzzle, like a maze. When you can't get out
Speaker 4: of a maze, it's frustrating. So if you're trying to
Speaker 4: find the opening for the ball to gather ball sack,
Speaker 4: you can't, that would.
Speaker 5: Be really annoying.
Speaker 1: It's just it screams to me that this three year
Speaker 1: old only just discovered that that's what he has, and
Speaker 1: he was like, I want that, I want that marble.
Speaker 2: How can I get it? You can't? Unfortunate?
Speaker 5: Alrighty well, on the show.
Speaker 4: Today, we have a caller with a really big problem
Speaker 4: coming up.
Speaker 2: Actually, is it worse than trying to get a ball
Speaker 2: out of ball?
Speaker 5: You think she has an issue? No, we have Christie.
Speaker 5: It's going to be on the phone. She's she's been
Speaker 5: with a partner.
Speaker 4: Since she was eighteen, so a very very long time,
Speaker 4: and she's feeling like she's missing out. You know those
Speaker 4: moments of like is the grass always greener? I'm trying
Speaker 4: to decide if you go or if you stay. That's
Speaker 4: the predicament she's in. So we're gonna be talking to
Speaker 4: her a little bit later. It is time for one
Speaker 4: of the segments that Laura and I do every single
Speaker 4: week on our podcast Life Uncut.
Speaker 5: It is called Ask Uncut and it's.
Speaker 4: Where you guys writing or you call up with your biggest, darkest,
Speaker 4: deepest problems and we give our best uneducated I don't.
Speaker 1: Want to say unsolicited, and it's kind of solicited. It's
Speaker 1: just not yeah, it's not qualified.
Speaker 5: It's solicited. It's just yeah, it's just not qualified. But
Speaker 5: we have today a bit of a predicament with Christie.
Speaker 5: She's been with a partner since she was eighteen years old.
Speaker 5: Wants to know is she missing out?
Speaker 3: Hey Christy, Hey yeah, look I love him so much,
Speaker 3: but I do think about all the years of kind
Speaker 3: of missed out on what my friends always talk about.
Speaker 4: How old are if you do not my umy're asking,
Speaker 4: like calling you guys together.
Speaker 3: For I'm twenty nine, so it's been eleven years.
Speaker 4: Wow, that's great these days you'ven last that long. I mean,
Speaker 4: what is it that your friends are saying you're missing
Speaker 4: out on? If you're saying you're in love with your
Speaker 4: partner and you're having a great time, like what the
Speaker 4: dating scene is not what people cut it out to be.
Speaker 3: I don't know, there's a sort of romanticized idea around
Speaker 3: just spreading your wild oats or whatever they're saying, is,
Speaker 3: you know, just getting out there and kind of having
Speaker 3: some fun and playing around. I mean, I love my
Speaker 3: partner and I'm glad I don't have to do that,
Speaker 3: but I'm like, you know, the grass is always green?
Speaker 2: Do you know?
Speaker 4: I actually do understand what you're saying. You can be
Speaker 4: so in love and so happy, but when you haven't
Speaker 4: had any other experiences to compare it to, that's what
Speaker 4: plants the seed of doubt. Because you're like, how do
Speaker 4: I know there's not better? How do I know there's
Speaker 4: not worse? How do I know there's not someone better suited?
Speaker 4: I understand why those feelings come. I do want you
Speaker 4: to know that the dating world is grim.
Speaker 2: It's really grim.
Speaker 4: It's probably not as good as people are making it out.
Speaker 3: Do you know?
Speaker 1: The thing is, no one wants to learn that lesson though.
Speaker 1: You're never going to break up from a great relationship
Speaker 1: with a person that you're saying that you love for
Speaker 1: the potential of going out there and just seeing if
Speaker 1: you get hurt and then realizing actually, that was pretty good.
Speaker 2: Like that, it sounds like a terrible idea.
Speaker 1: If you're happy and he's great, it just means you
Speaker 1: got so lucky that you met someone so young that
Speaker 1: you didn't have to go through the trenches and kids
Speaker 1: a holy betose.
Speaker 4: I agree, But I do think that there is something
Speaker 4: to not necessarily not wanting to be with your partner,
Speaker 4: but wanting different experiences. And maybe that's different sexual experiences.
Speaker 4: Maybe it's it's I understand that that there's a thought
Speaker 4: for you saying, hey, maybe I'll just know one person
Speaker 4: intimately for my entire life. But that doesn't mean there
Speaker 4: can't bit at least be a conversation with your partner
Speaker 4: on maybe they're feeling the same way, maybe you could
Speaker 4: open up the relationship.
Speaker 5: There are so many different ways to have.
Speaker 4: A relationship now, but of course in that situation, it
Speaker 4: has to be a very consensual conversation, like it can't
Speaker 4: be one of you being like.
Speaker 2: I'm opening it up, I'm going out. H Yeah, I
Speaker 2: don't know.
Speaker 4: I think we romanticize this idea of like the grass
Speaker 4: is greener. I mean, I have a really good friend
Speaker 4: of mine who she got married not lastly, the other
Speaker 4: year before, and she's been with her partner since she
Speaker 4: was nineteen years old, only like first boyfriend, first sexual experience,
Speaker 4: all of that stuff.
Speaker 1: And I remember when we were in our early twenties
Speaker 1: and having this exact conversation with her, and we because
Speaker 1: we were also in our early twenties, and gave terrible advice.
Speaker 2: We were like, yeah, it's weird to only be with
Speaker 2: one person your whole life.
Speaker 1: Now she's married with him, and thank god she didn't
Speaker 1: listen to us, because she's like, I just met my
Speaker 1: soulmate early and he's amazing, and I got so lucky,
Speaker 1: great for Sharon, and then she she.
Speaker 5: Happy for she witnessed me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, go through the trenches for ten years.
Speaker 5: But is that what you think it is? Christy? You
Speaker 5: think like that you actually want to be stuff.
Speaker 3: I could probably learn about myself if I was, But
Speaker 3: I don't know what that is, you know, and it's
Speaker 3: the unknown. And it's also spending too much time watching
Speaker 3: Sex in the City and Samantha.
Speaker 2: No, no one wants to actually be Samantha.
Speaker 5: That's also very produced.
Speaker 2: She's a terrible hot mess.
Speaker 4: It's not a reality show, it's fiction.
Speaker 2: Christy.
Speaker 1: I think if you're happy and your partner is great
Speaker 1: to you, and you honestly can say that you're in
Speaker 1: love with him, and I would not be giving or
Speaker 1: entertaining too much this idea that maybe there's something better out.
Speaker 2: There, but it might not be.
Speaker 5: No, I think best of both worlds.
Speaker 4: You can stay and also go to swingers club or experience.
Speaker 5: The best of both world you do what. Yeah, there's
Speaker 5: no normal.
Speaker 4: There's no normal, So there's ways that you can tick
Speaker 4: all your boxes.
Speaker 1: Imagine if your partner after ten years was like I'd
Speaker 1: allowed to go to swingers.
Speaker 2: Club, you'd go it.
Speaker 4: You'd go for sure, but I'd be the person just
Speaker 4: watches yeah, like the creep from the corner, just like
Speaker 4: go and watch through like.
Speaker 5: A little piggy hot.
Speaker 2: Okay, if you want some.
Speaker 1: Terrible advice like that, please give us a call and
Speaker 1: you might end up on the show next week. There
Speaker 1: is a very famous Australian influencer and TikToker named Indy Clinton.
Speaker 4: I'm pretty sure she won the TikTok Awards last year
Speaker 4: or something for the Creator of the Year. She's Hugh
Speaker 4: the Akma Awards, I don't know it's called. It's like
Speaker 4: the Social Media Awards.
Speaker 1: Well, Indy, she's only twenty seven years old and she
Speaker 1: has three children. She's got a Navy who's four years old,
Speaker 1: Bambi who's two, and Soul who is ten months. She
Speaker 1: has three kids under the age of four. Like that
Speaker 1: is wild times for anyone, let alone a twenty seven
Speaker 1: year old busy Yeah, and she shares a lot. I
Speaker 1: mean the reason why she's become very famous is that
Speaker 1: she is kind of a modern mummy blogger in terms
Speaker 1: and a mummy vlogger in terms of the fact that
Speaker 1: she shares so much about hers and her children's lives.
Speaker 1: And their family life across all of her social media platforms. Well,
Speaker 1: she's come under fire recently. There is a pretty aggressive
Speaker 1: Reddit thread and also some Daily Mail articles that have
Speaker 1: come out about her and about people's reaction to the
Speaker 1: way that her kids have behaved at a cafe recently.
Speaker 1: So Indy puts some photos and some stories up of
Speaker 1: her three children at a cafe. And I want to
Speaker 1: describe this to you because they're outside. They're clearly on
Speaker 1: a deck area, and the three children, all under the
Speaker 1: age of four, are making a total mess and they
Speaker 1: are pouring their baby chinos out, And like I said,
Speaker 1: it's outside, so I think part of the aur fresco
Speaker 1: vibes of it makes it slightly better. But have a
Speaker 1: listen to this. That just sounds like some very describable babies.
Speaker 5: Is it annoying? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Is it just?
Speaker 4: Does it just sound like three normal kids that are
Speaker 4: running around a cafe?
Speaker 5: Also, yeah, I just you know, I saw this and
Speaker 5: there is a.
Speaker 4: Lot of food on the ground, like the kids have
Speaker 4: dropped their whatever it is.
Speaker 1: I thought it looked like a Portuguese hard but yes,
Speaker 1: could be an egg and bacon roll.
Speaker 4: There's stuff around and it's noisy and it's chaotic, and
Speaker 4: she's filmed them doing it because that's what she does, right,
Speaker 4: she's a blogger. But it just makes me a little
Speaker 4: bit angry sometimes there constant shaming of women and mums
Speaker 4: for literally everything that they do. Let's give her the
Speaker 4: benefit of the doubt. She probably cleaned it up before
Speaker 4: she left, like would you not? Most normal people probably
Speaker 4: would pick up the food that their kids have dropped.
Speaker 5: On the ground.
Speaker 4: I just don't like this constant narrative of shaming women
Speaker 4: for everything.
Speaker 1: All the comments are things like this, like how dare
Speaker 1: you let your children to story a public space? If
Speaker 1: the kids can't behave themselves, then you shouldn't be taking
Speaker 1: them out. Have they cleaned up after their child and
Speaker 1: the public space to avoid causing a mess? I mean,
Speaker 1: everybody has opinions on this sort of stuff, and people
Speaker 1: get so angry.
Speaker 2: When I first saw it.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, it would not well, I have
Speaker 1: to be dealing with that situation with my kids. I
Speaker 1: think where she went wrong is sharing it on social
Speaker 1: media and allowing people to have an opinion of it.
Speaker 1: But I would be lying if I said that there
Speaker 1: hasn't been one too many times when we've taken the
Speaker 1: kids to the pub or tried to take them out
Speaker 1: for a dinner. Our kids are only eighteen months apart,
Speaker 1: so when they were really little, you'd have two in
Speaker 1: a high chair. You'd be trying to get food into them.
Speaker 1: They'd be food all over the floor, they'd spill stuff
Speaker 1: down the front of themselves. One of them would have
Speaker 1: a tantrum, and my husband and I would look at
Speaker 1: each other like why do we bother?
Speaker 2: Why are we trying?
Speaker 1: And we were trying because we were trying to have
Speaker 1: some sort of semblance of a life that was outside
Speaker 1: of our apartments, you know, our apartment at the time.
Speaker 1: And I guess like, of course we cleaned it up,
Speaker 1: and of course we tried to sit away from where
Speaker 1: patron were and everything else so that we didn't impact them.
Speaker 1: But I don't think that there would be a parent
Speaker 1: out there who hasn't been in a situation where their
Speaker 1: kids are causing chaos. And I would say that there's
Speaker 1: very few parents who just totally turn a blind eye
Speaker 1: to it and don't do the things that they need
Speaker 1: to to clean up and everything afterwards, you know, So
Speaker 1: like if.
Speaker 4: Your kid is two and three and four, and they're
Speaker 4: outside at a cafe with an area. They're going to
Speaker 4: be running around and playing. That's what they do. They're
Speaker 4: not old enough yet to say sit down, have some manners,
Speaker 4: eat with a knife and fork, like this sort of
Speaker 4: stuff's going to happen.
Speaker 2: And I don't know.
Speaker 4: Maybe I am on the wrong side. Maybe I don't
Speaker 4: know the full context. Maybe she did throw a tart
Speaker 4: against the wall and then walk out, who knows, but
Speaker 4: I just my immediate response was almost to going and
Speaker 4: defend her.
Speaker 5: I don't know.
Speaker 1: Well, it's interesting because that wasn't my immediate response. My
Speaker 1: immediate response was like, it was more the judgment around
Speaker 1: the posting it. But just because you don't post it
Speaker 1: doesn't mean it doesn't happen. And I think my bigger
Speaker 1: reaction to this is sometimes when we see things on
Speaker 1: social media, whether it.
Speaker 2: Be a story or a real or whatever.
Speaker 1: It is, especially when it's been filmed as one continuous piece,
Speaker 1: you are seeing a snapshot in time, and in this
Speaker 1: particular story set, it was just kind of like all
Speaker 1: you could see was the outdoor area.
Speaker 2: There were no other people around.
Speaker 1: You could just see her kids, assuming that she was
Speaker 1: in an area, whether she wasn't disrupting other people, and
Speaker 1: she wasn't just like absolutely trashing the joint. But I
Speaker 1: think we often draw a lot of conclusions from a tiny,
Speaker 1: little slither of something that's just happened.
Speaker 2: They are the little snippets.
Speaker 4: I do see though, that it's like, yep, that's probably
Speaker 4: why I'm going to put the kids off for another year,
Speaker 4: one more year piece and quiet three.
Speaker 1: Kids under four is I can only imagine she's got
Speaker 1: a handsful.
Speaker 5: Well, praying for you, India Clinton.
Speaker 2: I don't think she needs us. She's fine.
Speaker 1: She's living a luxurious life doing well.
Speaker 4: So most of you have been following along, you'll know
Speaker 4: that I have been doing Dancing with the Stars. So
Speaker 4: it's a show that has been going on for the
Speaker 4: last two months, and it's aggressive.
Speaker 2: It has taken over your entire life.
Speaker 5: Wow, I just didn't know the hours you have to
Speaker 5: put in.
Speaker 4: It is NonStop, and especially when it comes to shoot time,
Speaker 4: it's even more intense. So just to give you, like
Speaker 4: an indication, sometimes I'll leave for work in the morning
Speaker 4: because I still have to work. I still have two jobs,
Speaker 4: but most of the other people are off work. I
Speaker 4: didn't know that. I didn't know, people like removed themselves
Speaker 4: from work and just dedicated the like that's blessed for
Speaker 4: them to be able to do that. I think that
Speaker 4: that's very unique to your season because at my season
Speaker 4: that was a couple of years ago, like Emily Weir
Speaker 4: was still shooting home and away and like everybody else
Speaker 4: had other work commitments. Anyway, I'm only saying that because
Speaker 4: what it means is I'll leave in the morning sometimes
Speaker 4: for work at like six thirty in the morning, and
Speaker 4: I'm getting home at nine thirty at night, and then
Speaker 4: I have to prep for the next day. And when
Speaker 4: I say prep, because we're shooting, you have to be
Speaker 4: like primmed, premed and proper. You have to be tan,
Speaker 4: slicked back, shade, moisturized like you need to be on point, brows, lashes,
Speaker 4: laser ten, laser whatever, whatever it is.
Speaker 5: Got in trouble the other day because I didn't wash
Speaker 5: my hair. I was supposed to wash my hair.
Speaker 4: Then I got in trouble because I washed my hair
Speaker 4: and I wasn't supposed to wash my hair.
Speaker 5: It's the whole thing.
Speaker 2: I don't know how you possibly keep up. It's terrible.
Speaker 4: But what happened to me was I feel like you
Speaker 4: were wondering where this is going. So I got home
Speaker 4: the other night, and I got home at nine thirty,
Speaker 4: and I had something to eat, and I was like,
Speaker 4: oh my god, I'm shooting again, first thing in the morning,
Speaker 4: and I had to put my tan on. Because you're
Speaker 4: putting tan on every two to three days, the other
Speaker 4: ten hasn't come off yet you have started to look
Speaker 4: particularly dark and patchy. So there's something called a tan exfoliator,
Speaker 4: which what you do is it's it's like a tan,
Speaker 4: but it's white, and you put it all over your
Speaker 4: entire body and you soak in it for ten minutes.
Speaker 4: Then you shower and scrub it off and it takes
Speaker 4: the tan off. Then you could proceed to retan. So
Speaker 4: that's the evolution of a tan. So I'm lad, thank
Speaker 4: god well, because you're looking at me like you were
Speaker 4: Laura's looking at me like what is a tan eraser?
Speaker 1: I was looking at you as though I was surprised
Speaker 1: that you were going into so much detail to explain it.
Speaker 1: But also I'm sure there's many men in the cars
Speaker 1: and who I'm very confused, So they're along for the ride.
Speaker 5: Now now I am naked and at ten pm at night.
Speaker 4: Now you got attention? Yeah one way, yeah, butt naked
Speaker 4: ten piam at night. I have aladded my entire body
Speaker 4: in this white foam, knowing that I have to get
Speaker 4: up in literally five and a half hours.
Speaker 5: So I'm so tired. So I go to get in
Speaker 5: the shower and wash it off.
Speaker 4: No water, none, not one drop of water from any
Speaker 4: tap in my house. And I'm like, are you kidding me?
Speaker 4: I message the neighbor. I have a Russian neighbor. I
Speaker 4: messaged him. I said, check your water, check your water
Speaker 4: a mill. He messaged back, He's like, it's out. And
Speaker 4: I was like, oh my god.
Speaker 5: I couldn't even go.
Speaker 4: So I so I log online and I was like,
Speaker 4: what is happening? Meanwhile, my skin is burning. It's supposed
Speaker 4: to have a ten minute limit. So I go online
Speaker 4: and the local thing says, oh, we've cut off water
Speaker 4: to your area. It will be back on in a
Speaker 4: couple of hours. And I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 4: what am I going to do? So now my skin
Speaker 4: is burning and it's like foaming cause you're supposed to
Speaker 4: leave it on.
Speaker 2: Why don't you just get in the car and come
Speaker 2: to my house At.
Speaker 5: Ten thirty at night. I would take it with my foam.
Speaker 2: I would that would have been acceptable.
Speaker 1: I would have understood it bedde for great contemns.
Speaker 5: So anyway, I was like, what am I going to do?
Speaker 4: So I had the tiniest bit of water left in
Speaker 4: my jug from the day, and then I had a
Speaker 4: water bottle that had some water in it. But the
Speaker 4: water bottle was full of cordial because I only drink
Speaker 4: a cordial, so I start to pour. I started go
Speaker 4: into the shower. I'm pouring cordial all over my body.
Speaker 5: So now I'm sticky. It still hasn't come off properly.
Speaker 5: Thank god. An hour later, they turned the water back on.
Speaker 5: I'm like, brilliant.
Speaker 4: So I get in and I'm like, I can't believe
Speaker 4: that happened to me. My skin's still attacked. Fine, wash
Speaker 4: it off, exfolier, put my tan on. No, then it
Speaker 4: turned off again, basking my tan. It's supposed to be
Speaker 4: one hour.
Speaker 5: Guess what they did? Turn turn the wha off again,
Speaker 5: second time, second time in one night. It's one am.
Speaker 5: I am naked. I have been marinating in a tan
Speaker 5: for three hours.
Speaker 4: There's no left, there's no cordial, there's no there wasn't
Speaker 4: hose water. There wasn't any water, and so now I've
Speaker 4: got this. I'm ridiculously brown. I've got like burn patches of.
Speaker 1: Now I'm just imagining you going to the cupboard and
Speaker 1: you're like, okay, I've got I've got chickpeas.
Speaker 2: Dude.
Speaker 5: That's where I was at.
Speaker 4: And because it was so late at night, I was like,
Speaker 4: who can I call besides ghost, no one, No one
Speaker 4: was awake.
Speaker 2: What was the result of this? Nothing?
Speaker 4: At like two o'clock in the morning. I had to
Speaker 4: get up every hour to check the water came back on,
Speaker 4: and the water came back on.
Speaker 5: So I just basted in his hand for like four hours.
Speaker 1: Considering the ordeal that you've been through, you look relatively fine,
Speaker 1: well done.
Speaker 2: You just look you look great. You look like an
Speaker 2: Opol and Barye a little bit. I look like Willy.
Speaker 5: Wonka and the chocolate factory, all
Speaker 2: Right, he look guys, that is it from us,