1 00:00:10,669 --> 00:00:14,869 Speaker 1: My Heart podcasts, hear more kids podcasts, playlists, and listen 2 00:00:14,909 --> 00:00:18,988 Speaker 1: live on the Free Hard So the producers this morning 3 00:00:19,069 --> 00:00:23,948 Speaker 1: sent me a TikTok of something that I found incredibly relatable. 4 00:00:24,669 --> 00:00:29,389 Speaker 1: I just I couldn't believe that someone else experiences this 5 00:00:29,509 --> 00:00:33,069 Speaker 1: problem when one person goes to the supermarket in a relationship. 6 00:00:33,108 --> 00:00:36,468 Speaker 2: Okay, here's the audio of the TikTok. My boyfriend's at 7 00:00:36,509 --> 00:00:38,149 Speaker 2: the shops and he called me to ask if I 8 00:00:38,189 --> 00:00:39,589 Speaker 2: wanted anything, and I said no. 9 00:00:40,388 --> 00:00:43,548 Speaker 3: If he walked through that door without a treat for me, 10 00:00:43,989 --> 00:00:45,229 Speaker 3: he's going to have the worst night. 11 00:00:45,108 --> 00:00:45,788 Speaker 4: Of his life. 12 00:00:46,349 --> 00:00:49,388 Speaker 2: Right, So I live this. I live this all the time. 13 00:00:49,589 --> 00:00:52,068 Speaker 1: Yeah, if I'm going to the supermarket on the way home, 14 00:00:52,589 --> 00:00:55,029 Speaker 1: and I will always call my wife Mim and I'll 15 00:00:55,109 --> 00:00:56,548 Speaker 1: just go, do you want me to get you a 16 00:00:56,549 --> 00:00:57,069 Speaker 1: sweet treat? 17 00:00:57,109 --> 00:00:58,109 Speaker 2: I'm going to get you a Chucky. 18 00:00:58,589 --> 00:01:00,909 Speaker 1: And she always wants the Whittakers with the coconut the 19 00:01:00,909 --> 00:01:01,509 Speaker 1: coconut cream. 20 00:01:01,509 --> 00:01:04,548 Speaker 2: Whitkers that's her go to, right, she loves it. And 21 00:01:04,589 --> 00:01:09,109 Speaker 2: I'll say that Johnny comes in blocks as well, that Whittakers. Gordo. Yeah, sorry, 22 00:01:09,109 --> 00:01:11,548 Speaker 2: a slab, that's the word. I'm the slab. She loves 23 00:01:11,549 --> 00:01:14,589 Speaker 2: the slab. Loves the slab. It's marketing, isn't it, because 24 00:01:14,589 --> 00:01:17,669 Speaker 2: you want a slab and she wants the slab. She 25 00:01:17,709 --> 00:01:19,389 Speaker 2: always wants the slab. But I'll call her and say 26 00:01:19,429 --> 00:01:19,869 Speaker 2: do you want it? 27 00:01:19,909 --> 00:01:21,869 Speaker 1: And she goes, no, I don't want to do not 28 00:01:21,909 --> 00:01:24,149 Speaker 1: bring that home, and I go, okay, understood it, and 29 00:01:24,269 --> 00:01:26,669 Speaker 1: I come home. And then when she goes, she'll literally 30 00:01:26,709 --> 00:01:28,149 Speaker 1: say to me, oh, did you get me the Wickkers? 31 00:01:28,189 --> 00:01:31,669 Speaker 1: And I'll be like, we had this conversation and you 32 00:01:31,709 --> 00:01:34,549 Speaker 1: said no, and then she goes, oh, but like I 33 00:01:34,589 --> 00:01:37,309 Speaker 1: thought you'd still get it. Wow, what do you mean 34 00:01:37,549 --> 00:01:39,949 Speaker 1: you just said no? You couldn't have been more clear. 35 00:01:40,229 --> 00:01:43,269 Speaker 1: And she gets especially angry when I've got myself a 36 00:01:43,269 --> 00:01:45,909 Speaker 1: sweet treat, because of of course I'm going to get 37 00:01:45,909 --> 00:01:46,749 Speaker 1: myself a sweet treat. 38 00:01:46,789 --> 00:01:48,709 Speaker 2: But then she has the nerve sometimes to. 39 00:01:48,669 --> 00:01:51,509 Speaker 1: Say, well, if you didn't get my sweet treat, how 40 00:01:51,589 --> 00:01:53,869 Speaker 1: dare you get yourself a sweet treat? 41 00:01:54,389 --> 00:01:59,029 Speaker 2: Yeah, which I think is outrageous. The whole thing is outrageous. Trap. 42 00:01:59,069 --> 00:02:01,989 Speaker 2: It's a trap. It's outrageous, it's unwinnable. Okay. But then 43 00:02:02,029 --> 00:02:03,789 Speaker 2: on the other side, it's tough being a guy, right, 44 00:02:04,949 --> 00:02:06,549 Speaker 2: we don't have to go there. That's I don't have 45 00:02:06,629 --> 00:02:09,148 Speaker 2: to go there. We're struggling in the men in the matter. 46 00:02:09,269 --> 00:02:11,948 Speaker 2: It's just one small struggling out of here, guys, there's 47 00:02:11,989 --> 00:02:13,989 Speaker 2: one small example of something stresses is out. 48 00:02:14,029 --> 00:02:17,069 Speaker 4: Oh that's all we're going with that because on the 49 00:02:17,069 --> 00:02:18,949 Speaker 4: other side, I thought we were talking. 50 00:02:18,989 --> 00:02:20,549 Speaker 2: I thought we were talking male grievances. 51 00:02:20,629 --> 00:02:20,869 Speaker 5: Is that. 52 00:02:22,549 --> 00:02:24,909 Speaker 1: No, will we're not doing where my bros at no 53 00:02:25,029 --> 00:02:27,029 Speaker 1: and thank you. 54 00:02:27,669 --> 00:02:30,429 Speaker 2: One has to say it. Turny's mic offt Because on the. 55 00:02:32,589 --> 00:02:35,389 Speaker 1: Other side, if my wife ever says, yes, get me 56 00:02:35,389 --> 00:02:37,909 Speaker 1: a sweet treat, come back with me, man, I'm here. 57 00:02:37,949 --> 00:02:40,789 Speaker 1: If my wife says to a sweet tree, yeah, yeah, right, 58 00:02:40,949 --> 00:02:42,909 Speaker 1: and then I come home with that sweet treat, she 59 00:02:42,989 --> 00:02:46,069 Speaker 1: gets angry at me again. Yes, I'm saying you can't win, mate, 60 00:02:46,989 --> 00:02:48,749 Speaker 1: because because even if the yes, and then I bring 61 00:02:48,789 --> 00:02:50,749 Speaker 1: it home and then she goes, I'm angry at you 62 00:02:50,749 --> 00:02:53,469 Speaker 1: because you're now my behavior. So look that that can't 63 00:02:53,469 --> 00:02:55,189 Speaker 1: be in the house, is what they say. Thirteen one 64 00:02:55,189 --> 00:02:59,509 Speaker 1: oh sixty five is our number. Ladies, Do you also 65 00:03:00,029 --> 00:03:02,069 Speaker 1: lie to your partner in this situation? 66 00:03:02,189 --> 00:03:04,109 Speaker 2: Do you lie about wanting a sweet treat? 67 00:03:04,109 --> 00:03:06,349 Speaker 1: Do you get angry in this situation, and then I 68 00:03:06,389 --> 00:03:09,029 Speaker 1: think where we want to get to here is what 69 00:03:09,189 --> 00:03:09,909 Speaker 1: is the solution? 70 00:03:10,069 --> 00:03:12,109 Speaker 2: Like, what what is the right thing to do? 71 00:03:12,189 --> 00:03:14,869 Speaker 4: Prean up, brother, That's what I've done, preen up. That's 72 00:03:14,909 --> 00:03:16,829 Speaker 4: what I've done. I've got I've got it down in writing. 73 00:03:17,189 --> 00:03:19,309 Speaker 4: I just take sem on what she says. 74 00:03:19,429 --> 00:03:21,349 Speaker 2: Did you not get much? No words? Did you not 75 00:03:21,349 --> 00:03:22,389 Speaker 2: get my face value? 76 00:03:22,429 --> 00:03:24,509 Speaker 4: If she says she doesn't want something, she does not 77 00:03:24,629 --> 00:03:27,829 Speaker 4: get it? Clause two, can't winge about it? You need 78 00:03:27,829 --> 00:03:29,149 Speaker 4: a coffee? Clause three? 79 00:03:29,429 --> 00:03:31,549 Speaker 2: Do you want a coffee or a cold bar? 80 00:03:31,869 --> 00:03:31,989 Speaker 3: No? 81 00:03:31,869 --> 00:03:33,668 Speaker 4: No, no, this is a good topic. Let's tell you 82 00:03:33,749 --> 00:03:35,069 Speaker 4: kills thirteen one O six five. 83 00:03:37,389 --> 00:03:39,869 Speaker 2: Someone do something. I won't put him out. I don't 84 00:03:39,869 --> 00:03:42,549 Speaker 2: know what to do. I think a coffee. 85 00:03:43,029 --> 00:03:46,989 Speaker 1: So when one of you goes to the supermarket, generally speaking, 86 00:03:47,029 --> 00:03:49,029 Speaker 1: if I'm going to the supermarket and I call my 87 00:03:49,069 --> 00:03:51,429 Speaker 1: wife and I will say, do you want a sweet treat? 88 00:03:51,829 --> 00:03:54,469 Speaker 1: And she says no, And then I go home and 89 00:03:54,469 --> 00:03:56,029 Speaker 1: then she gets angry that I haven't got her a 90 00:03:56,029 --> 00:03:58,589 Speaker 1: sweet treat, and I just no, matter how many times 91 00:03:58,629 --> 00:04:00,909 Speaker 1: I live this, I don't know the right thing to 92 00:04:00,989 --> 00:04:02,269 Speaker 1: do in the situation. 93 00:04:02,429 --> 00:04:03,469 Speaker 2: So we just we want to. 94 00:04:03,429 --> 00:04:04,949 Speaker 1: Solve it because I think a lot of people go 95 00:04:04,949 --> 00:04:07,509 Speaker 1: through it. We've got Trinity here on thirteen, one of 96 00:04:07,589 --> 00:04:08,029 Speaker 1: six five. 97 00:04:08,029 --> 00:04:08,429 Speaker 2: Trinity. 98 00:04:08,549 --> 00:04:12,989 Speaker 1: Hell so, Trinity, what what do you are? 99 00:04:13,029 --> 00:04:13,149 Speaker 4: You? 100 00:04:13,269 --> 00:04:15,189 Speaker 1: Are you the person who says that you don't want 101 00:04:15,189 --> 00:04:18,188 Speaker 1: a sweet treat and then get angry when you don't 102 00:04:18,188 --> 00:04:18,509 Speaker 1: get it? 103 00:04:19,308 --> 00:04:22,549 Speaker 5: Definitely I'm bit of boast like sometimes I'm in like 104 00:04:22,628 --> 00:04:25,429 Speaker 5: I'm right on my oh no, like, don't get me anything. 105 00:04:25,509 --> 00:04:27,269 Speaker 5: But if you come through the door and you haven't 106 00:04:27,269 --> 00:04:31,229 Speaker 5: got a sweet treat, I'm going to be annoyed. I 107 00:04:31,269 --> 00:04:32,309 Speaker 5: have to have a sweet treat. 108 00:04:32,629 --> 00:04:33,029 Speaker 2: Trinity? 109 00:04:33,109 --> 00:04:33,628 Speaker 3: What so? What? 110 00:04:33,909 --> 00:04:35,628 Speaker 2: Why say no? Then? Trinity? 111 00:04:35,709 --> 00:04:35,909 Speaker 5: There? 112 00:04:37,269 --> 00:04:37,589 Speaker 3: I don't know. 113 00:04:37,629 --> 00:04:39,429 Speaker 5: I feel like in the moment, you're kind of like, oh, 114 00:04:39,509 --> 00:04:43,428 Speaker 5: you're calling me fat, But then you no, like you 115 00:04:43,429 --> 00:04:45,389 Speaker 5: non't get me a sweet treat? You know I'm better 116 00:04:45,469 --> 00:04:47,309 Speaker 5: be like me a sweet treat? 117 00:04:48,069 --> 00:04:50,789 Speaker 2: WHOA Okay? Call you fat? 118 00:04:51,069 --> 00:04:51,349 Speaker 1: Wow? 119 00:04:51,429 --> 00:04:54,629 Speaker 5: I know in the moment you're like wow, if. 120 00:04:54,469 --> 00:04:56,549 Speaker 4: I wasn't, if he didn't think that I was struggling 121 00:04:56,549 --> 00:04:58,829 Speaker 4: with my weight, he would have got it because then 122 00:04:58,869 --> 00:04:59,669 Speaker 4: it wouldn't have mattered. 123 00:05:00,029 --> 00:05:05,269 Speaker 2: This is just pretty good though. You'll get Meinity. 124 00:05:05,309 --> 00:05:07,589 Speaker 1: Do you ever get So here's the other side though, 125 00:05:07,709 --> 00:05:09,789 Speaker 1: and this is where, in my opinion, it is a 126 00:05:09,869 --> 00:05:13,949 Speaker 1: lose lose. Sometimes my wife says like, yes, I want 127 00:05:13,949 --> 00:05:15,189 Speaker 1: the sweet treat, or even though I don't want the 128 00:05:15,189 --> 00:05:17,269 Speaker 1: sweet treat, and then I bring the sweet treat, thinking 129 00:05:17,389 --> 00:05:18,949 Speaker 1: you're gonna get angry at me if you're not bringing 130 00:05:18,949 --> 00:05:21,829 Speaker 1: the sweet treat. But then she's like, oh, why did 131 00:05:21,829 --> 00:05:23,349 Speaker 1: you bring me the sweet treat because you know I'm 132 00:05:23,389 --> 00:05:24,508 Speaker 1: going to eat the whole thing tonight. 133 00:05:24,549 --> 00:05:25,509 Speaker 2: Do you do that as well? 134 00:05:26,269 --> 00:05:26,429 Speaker 4: Yeah? 135 00:05:26,469 --> 00:05:30,669 Speaker 2: No, I agree, Yeah, there's nothing. 136 00:05:30,789 --> 00:05:33,589 Speaker 1: Okay, thanks for the culture. I appreciate that. It's got 137 00:05:33,589 --> 00:05:36,628 Speaker 1: to Maddie here. Maddie, you've got a new angle to 138 00:05:36,629 --> 00:05:38,189 Speaker 1: bring to this. Your dad does something. 139 00:05:38,909 --> 00:05:41,549 Speaker 3: Yes, so my parents you thank you. Guys sound like 140 00:05:41,589 --> 00:05:44,829 Speaker 3: my parents. My mum's also obsessed with the wittykers little blocks. 141 00:05:45,269 --> 00:05:48,149 Speaker 3: You're like the arm and one they call them, not 142 00:05:48,229 --> 00:05:49,989 Speaker 3: the slab, the little tiny ones. 143 00:05:50,029 --> 00:05:52,109 Speaker 2: You know, they're called the slab. I think it's called 144 00:05:52,109 --> 00:05:52,429 Speaker 2: a slab. 145 00:05:53,229 --> 00:05:56,389 Speaker 4: Yeah, they're like, it's like it's because it's not. I 146 00:05:56,389 --> 00:05:58,589 Speaker 4: think they wanted to call it a fun size, but 147 00:05:58,669 --> 00:06:02,629 Speaker 4: it's not a fun size. We're all pocket If they're 148 00:06:02,629 --> 00:06:04,549 Speaker 4: telling is it's a fun size because if. 149 00:06:04,469 --> 00:06:05,829 Speaker 2: You bring home the block and then you do a 150 00:06:05,829 --> 00:06:08,189 Speaker 2: whole nightmare where you get a block, you're going to 151 00:06:08,229 --> 00:06:09,109 Speaker 2: block a week. 152 00:06:09,309 --> 00:06:11,949 Speaker 1: My wife loves the slabs, So sorry, Mattie, go and 153 00:06:12,029 --> 00:06:15,229 Speaker 1: your parents ticket, golden ticket, golden ticket. 154 00:06:15,349 --> 00:06:18,109 Speaker 3: So it's what dad does is he buys about ten 155 00:06:18,149 --> 00:06:20,269 Speaker 3: of them, and then he hides them around the house 156 00:06:20,429 --> 00:06:22,229 Speaker 3: so that if he ever comes home without them and 157 00:06:22,309 --> 00:06:24,469 Speaker 3: she feels like what he says, No, I didn't, but 158 00:06:24,509 --> 00:06:28,388 Speaker 3: there is some hidden somewhere, and then she'll search around 159 00:06:28,389 --> 00:06:30,469 Speaker 3: and that's pretty good about herself, and. 160 00:06:30,429 --> 00:06:32,989 Speaker 2: Then she burns the calories looking for it. 161 00:06:33,349 --> 00:06:34,428 Speaker 3: Yeah, there you carry everyone? 162 00:06:35,069 --> 00:06:35,909 Speaker 2: Is that the bit? 163 00:06:36,669 --> 00:06:37,589 Speaker 3: Yeah? 164 00:06:36,909 --> 00:06:40,749 Speaker 2: That could be it. That could be it. Also, it's 165 00:06:40,829 --> 00:06:42,109 Speaker 2: just a backup guy. 166 00:06:42,709 --> 00:06:44,469 Speaker 4: Guys, we're talking about the menosphere up next, and I 167 00:06:44,469 --> 00:06:46,149 Speaker 4: feel like I keep falling into it and I'm not 168 00:06:46,309 --> 00:06:46,748 Speaker 4: meaning to. 169 00:06:47,269 --> 00:06:51,508 Speaker 2: I'm not meaning to. That was that was? There's actually 170 00:06:52,389 --> 00:06:54,029 Speaker 2: you're identifying his mum. 171 00:06:54,269 --> 00:06:59,629 Speaker 1: Wait, I don't know at all, No, how could you? 172 00:06:57,589 --> 00:07:02,589 Speaker 2: Well, we'll stop talking, can I there's also just something 173 00:07:02,589 --> 00:07:05,229 Speaker 2: that genius can say for Maddie. I actually that's very smart. 174 00:07:05,349 --> 00:07:07,429 Speaker 1: Yeah, so you always you've always got to back up 175 00:07:07,469 --> 00:07:10,429 Speaker 1: some rations in your hand sweet treats. So if you 176 00:07:10,429 --> 00:07:13,509 Speaker 1: find this of a situation where your wife does want it, yeah, you. 177 00:07:13,429 --> 00:07:14,509 Speaker 2: Go to the rations. Yeah. 178 00:07:14,509 --> 00:07:17,389 Speaker 4: I love that, although in my experience hiding things in 179 00:07:17,429 --> 00:07:20,349 Speaker 4: your house, they'll always find them because once. 180 00:07:20,189 --> 00:07:22,349 Speaker 2: They know you hide them, then they'll spend. 181 00:07:22,189 --> 00:07:24,589 Speaker 4: And once you exactly you find it, you find it. 182 00:07:24,709 --> 00:07:26,989 Speaker 4: It's annoying and then also you spend the whole time 183 00:07:27,029 --> 00:07:28,829 Speaker 4: looking for it when you're in the house. I've had 184 00:07:28,829 --> 00:07:30,029 Speaker 4: this problem, or a friend of mine has had this 185 00:07:30,069 --> 00:07:33,029 Speaker 4: problem before with things like vapes and a bad problem 186 00:07:33,069 --> 00:07:35,629 Speaker 4: for them. They've spent a couple of hours in the 187 00:07:35,629 --> 00:07:38,029 Speaker 4: house just looking through their children's clothes. 188 00:07:38,189 --> 00:07:42,389 Speaker 2: Anyway, Yeah, you got duck. Can I just point something out? 189 00:07:42,429 --> 00:07:42,709 Speaker 1: Really? 190 00:07:42,829 --> 00:07:44,989 Speaker 4: I think that might spoil the fun in this bit, 191 00:07:45,149 --> 00:07:51,269 Speaker 4: but I know. 192 00:07:47,149 --> 00:07:52,269 Speaker 2: No, come back with the fun, come back all the fun. 193 00:07:52,669 --> 00:07:55,589 Speaker 4: Is this something really unhealthy about like talking about food 194 00:07:55,709 --> 00:07:58,709 Speaker 4: like this a sweet treat? Yeah, like you know, I 195 00:07:58,709 --> 00:08:01,069 Speaker 4: don't need that, and like, you know, it's just it's 196 00:08:01,109 --> 00:08:03,029 Speaker 4: not like you know, you know what I mean. The 197 00:08:03,149 --> 00:08:05,269 Speaker 4: kind of thing we should really be judging ourselves based on 198 00:08:05,309 --> 00:08:08,029 Speaker 4: what we're eating is to wear. There's a I thinks 199 00:08:08,029 --> 00:08:09,549 Speaker 4: a lot of that chet like at the end of 200 00:08:09,589 --> 00:08:11,629 Speaker 4: the day, like whatever, if you want to eat something, 201 00:08:11,669 --> 00:08:12,189 Speaker 4: go and eat it. 202 00:08:12,189 --> 00:08:13,749 Speaker 2: Feel good about yourself. I don't know, you know what 203 00:08:13,789 --> 00:08:14,989 Speaker 2: I mean, Like this whole body. 204 00:08:14,749 --> 00:08:16,469 Speaker 4: Shame thing going on here, which I just think is 205 00:08:16,509 --> 00:08:20,189 Speaker 4: worth raising and I realized not that fun, but I 206 00:08:20,269 --> 00:08:21,789 Speaker 4: just think it's all of it damaging as well. 207 00:08:21,829 --> 00:08:23,789 Speaker 2: If you're going to have some chocolate, have some chocolate, 208 00:08:24,349 --> 00:08:25,229 Speaker 2: bloody chocolate. 209 00:08:25,429 --> 00:08:28,149 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, let's go, and don't avoid the chocolate because 210 00:08:28,149 --> 00:08:29,549 Speaker 1: you're going to feel bad afterwards.