WEBVTT - Have Our Boundaries Destroyed Our Sense of Community? 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:12.720 This episode was recorded on Cameragle Land. Hi guys, and 0:00:12.800 --> 0:00:15.160 welcome back to another episode of Laugh on Cut. 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:16.360 I'm Laura, I'm Brittany. 0:00:16.760 --> 0:00:19.079 Brittany has gastro no. I. 0:00:19.360 --> 0:00:21.919 Firstly, I just had this thought. I often forget the 0:00:21.960 --> 0:00:23.200 stuff that we talk about on here. 0:00:23.280 --> 0:00:23.880 I forget them. 0:00:23.880 --> 0:00:26.280 My biggest fan in the world is my dad. Puny 0:00:26.440 --> 0:00:29.680 listens shout out. He listens to every episode. 0:00:29.800 --> 0:00:33.200 Does he listen to every single one? Still every episode. 0:00:33.240 --> 0:00:35.800 He gets up at four thirty am every day to 0:00:35.880 --> 0:00:37.519 work out, to do his pull ups yep, to do 0:00:38.320 --> 0:00:41.520 but big big tomes. He's keeping fear and he listens 0:00:41.560 --> 0:00:43.920 to the podcast. And I often get messages from him, 0:00:44.040 --> 0:00:46.880 you know, if he is inspired by an interview, or 0:00:46.960 --> 0:00:49.360 he gives me really good feedback, like he genuinely listens. 0:00:49.400 --> 0:00:51.199 He's like, hey, Britty, I loved what this such and 0:00:51.200 --> 0:00:53.560 such sett in this episode and was really thought, Perican, 0:00:53.600 --> 0:00:55.200 it was interesting to hear your guys opinion on this, 0:00:55.280 --> 0:00:57.800 and it's always like quite deep, you know, good feedback, 0:00:57.840 --> 0:00:58.600 solid feedback. 0:00:58.720 --> 0:01:00.920 We stand as supportive daddy. That's nice. 0:01:01.280 --> 0:01:04.240 The other day it was like, ah, heard you had 0:01:04.240 --> 0:01:06.440 a little bit of fun at the laser clinic. 0:01:06.920 --> 0:01:07.200 Sorry. 0:01:07.560 --> 0:01:09.800 So remember when I was talking about laser getting laser 0:01:09.840 --> 0:01:12.160 and the blowing air was on my vagina and I 0:01:12.200 --> 0:01:15.000 said it was ticklish, and he's like, excuse, like, hey, bringing, 0:01:15.000 --> 0:01:17.280 it's just good to know what you're keeping maintenance down there, 0:01:17.280 --> 0:01:18.840 and like he just jokes about it. I'm like, I 0:01:18.959 --> 0:01:20.800 just forget that. My dad listens to me. 0:01:21.120 --> 0:01:23.679 We kind of different version of the audio that your 0:01:23.760 --> 0:01:26.800 dad will cut of anything to do with body or 0:01:26.840 --> 0:01:29.440 sex with Ben, Like we're just an amended version. 0:01:29.480 --> 0:01:32.279 But also it's game of your dad to say anything, 0:01:32.360 --> 0:01:34.880 like you can listen. They're the conversations you don't bring up. 0:01:35.160 --> 0:01:36.520 They're the found mention. 0:01:37.000 --> 0:01:39.440 Nah, there's My family is one of those families, the 0:01:39.600 --> 0:01:41.840 six of us. My parents been married forty eight years 0:01:41.920 --> 0:01:43.880 or something, and that would be a dinner table conversation, 0:01:43.959 --> 0:01:46.920 like there's nothing that is off limits, like the idea 0:01:46.959 --> 0:01:49.080 of talking about sex and all that stuff. We were 0:01:49.120 --> 0:01:52.040 such an open family, which I love now I love 0:01:52.080 --> 0:01:54.760 and I didn't realize it was so open at the time. 0:01:54.840 --> 0:01:57.320 I thought it was normal, Like it just created an 0:01:57.360 --> 0:02:00.200 environment where you could talk about anything. And like my parents, 0:02:00.720 --> 0:02:02.800 it used to make us cringe, but we would know 0:02:02.840 --> 0:02:05.920 when they'd had sex growing up, not as kids, but 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:06.480 as teach. 0:02:06.960 --> 0:02:10.880 I'm disgusted for you. 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:12.680 Laura and I shudder in divorced parents totally. 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:15.760 But as teenagers you just know that come out Dad 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:17.800 give like mom a little hit on the bottom and 0:02:17.840 --> 0:02:19.160 you'd know. And I'd be like, you guys had sex, 0:02:19.200 --> 0:02:21.320 didn't you, And Dad'd be like, yeah we did, Mo'm 0:02:21.360 --> 0:02:24.440 and be like, tell me of the kids, Like it 0:02:24.520 --> 0:02:27.400 was just that kind of a family. And I get 0:02:27.480 --> 0:02:30.400 now as an adult that that I was a minority. 0:02:30.880 --> 0:02:33.680 And actually I drove my friend to work today and 0:02:33.720 --> 0:02:35.720 she said, you know how rare it is to have 0:02:35.840 --> 0:02:38.320 your family unit these days, Like to have parents that 0:02:38.320 --> 0:02:39.680 are still together for so long. 0:02:39.520 --> 0:02:41.600 And that's still like each other and still like each other, 0:02:41.760 --> 0:02:43.040 is still attracted to each other. 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:46.200 Yeah, lots of parents like live amicably and like they 0:02:46.280 --> 0:02:48.080 co parent and they're like, you know, they're in the 0:02:48.080 --> 0:02:48.840 comfort stage. 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:53.760 I've never related to something you've ever said less same same. 0:02:54.320 --> 0:02:59.200 I literally have broken home, Like I've never once seen 0:02:59.240 --> 0:03:03.040 my parents even thinking all the way back when tap 0:03:03.080 --> 0:03:05.200 each other on the bum in a cheeky way. 0:03:05.720 --> 0:03:08.480 If anyone wants to talk about parents fighting over child support, 0:03:08.560 --> 0:03:11.440 like I can really relate to that slide into my DM. 0:03:11.639 --> 0:03:13.680 If anyone has like a three month period where they 0:03:13.680 --> 0:03:15.560 didn't see their parents speak, I'm with you. 0:03:16.120 --> 0:03:17.320 You know what's so funny. 0:03:17.520 --> 0:03:19.280 I can't imagine my dad. 0:03:19.360 --> 0:03:22.080 You guys will know Terry Byurn. He lives on Magnetic Island. 0:03:22.840 --> 0:03:25.360 He lives with the Koalas. He's like one with the koalas. 0:03:25.600 --> 0:03:29.480 No wi fi, no, no, absolutely no wi fi. Oh, 0:03:29.560 --> 0:03:32.239 actually he might have it now. He's definitely got a 0:03:32.280 --> 0:03:34.800 mobile phone. Every day I get a nature update from 0:03:34.840 --> 0:03:37.240 my dad. He still doesn't really understand what a podcast is. 0:03:37.280 --> 0:03:38.240 He calls it a pod book. 0:03:38.440 --> 0:03:40.400 I actually love that so much. 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:42.640 And I never ever have to worry about him hearing 0:03:42.760 --> 0:03:44.240 or knowing anything that I say or do. 0:03:44.320 --> 0:03:46.240 So that's fine. I'm in the clear with Terry Burrn. 0:03:46.400 --> 0:03:47.320 You're in the same bone. 0:03:47.440 --> 0:03:50.480 And my dad doesn't know that I have ADHD. He 0:03:50.640 --> 0:03:52.800 created a whole timpart mini series about it. 0:03:52.840 --> 0:03:54.160 But I was like, it's fine. 0:03:54.200 --> 0:03:56.320 He doesn't have Instagram or he doesn't know how to 0:03:56.360 --> 0:03:57.960 listen to podcasts, So I'm in the clear. 0:03:58.080 --> 0:04:03.000 Should you just maybe send him, would you? Yeah, it's probably. 0:04:02.720 --> 0:04:03.080 Things in it. 0:04:03.160 --> 0:04:06.280 Kusha doesn't want him to hear to be honest it Yeah. 0:04:05.960 --> 0:04:07.600 Well, like that time that you got the liplip and 0:04:07.600 --> 0:04:10.360 couldn't give a blow jobs. I don't want you to 0:04:10.400 --> 0:04:11.920 hear Dad, you don't want you hear that. 0:04:13.160 --> 0:04:13.640 This is my. 0:04:13.680 --> 0:04:15.520 Career, aren't you for us? 0:04:15.520 --> 0:04:17.240 Something else I did want to say is and I 0:04:17.279 --> 0:04:19.680 know that Laura, you're gonna hate what I'm about to say. 0:04:20.720 --> 0:04:24.520 I was, well, I was because it's about like manifesting. 0:04:25.080 --> 0:04:26.320 I don't hate manifesting. 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:27.920 We can talk about that in a second, but like, 0:04:28.360 --> 0:04:31.320 I don't hate it, I have reasons to dislike the 0:04:31.480 --> 0:04:33.799 version of manifesting that's kind of touted. 0:04:34.000 --> 0:04:36.679 Yeah, well this is like the it's like an anti 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:38.960 manifest manifest probably isn't the word, but you know how 0:04:38.960 --> 0:04:40.800 a couple of weeks ago, we were talking about how 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:43.960 I had said Delilah's never been to the hospital, she 0:04:44.000 --> 0:04:46.599 has never been sick before, and then three hours later 0:04:46.640 --> 0:04:48.359 I was taking it to the emergency VET and I 0:04:48.400 --> 0:04:50.680 was like, wow, I wieled that into fruition. That day. 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:53.479 I did it again. A couple of days ago, so 0:04:53.560 --> 0:04:57.040 on the weekend, I was talking to a girl and 0:04:57.160 --> 0:05:00.000 we were talking about food poisoning. That day, I haven't 0:05:00.160 --> 0:05:03.240 not talked about food poisoning in it's not something that 0:05:03.320 --> 0:05:05.960 comes up right. And I literally said to her, She's like, 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:07.279 care if you don't get it when you go to 0:05:07.320 --> 0:05:09.119 Balley and I said, oh, yeah, I've been to Bili loads. 0:05:09.120 --> 0:05:11.120 I don't get it. I was like, I actually don't 0:05:11.160 --> 0:05:13.240 get food poisoning, like I couldn't total last time I 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:16.000 got food poisoning. And she's like, wow, you're so lucky, 0:05:16.000 --> 0:05:17.560 and I was like, yeah, I must have guts of steel. 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:20.400 So then all of us go out as a group 0:05:20.440 --> 0:05:22.640 that day on National Carbonara Day. 0:05:22.680 --> 0:05:25.520 Mind you, it was also the late celebration for my birthday, 0:05:25.600 --> 0:05:28.240 but I think we were celebrating Carbinara Day. 0:05:27.520 --> 0:05:31.200 It was a week later celebration for Laura's birthday, but 0:05:31.400 --> 0:05:33.480 it was also National Carbonara Day. I only know that 0:05:33.560 --> 0:05:35.479 because carbonara would be the meal that I had on 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:39.440 my deathbed. Anyway, So we went to this amazing restaurant, 0:05:39.480 --> 0:05:43.480 like quite high end, quite classy, quite expensive, and I 0:05:43.520 --> 0:05:46.760 was like, the Carbonaro is going to be amazing. Waited 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:49.240 an hour and a half for it. They were very slow. 0:05:50.200 --> 0:05:52.320 We did have a five point thirty booking because it 0:05:52.400 --> 0:05:54.359 was so it was actually so busy that that's the 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:55.279 only time we could get in. 0:05:55.360 --> 0:05:57.160 It was like a geriatric booking, isn't it. We were like, 0:05:57.200 --> 0:05:57.560 we'll take it. 0:05:57.560 --> 0:05:59.360 It's not a it's a parenting booking. 0:05:59.560 --> 0:06:01.599 Well, I had five thirty or eight thirty when I 0:06:01.640 --> 0:06:03.320 went to book and I knew us well enough to 0:06:03.320 --> 0:06:04.400 know which of those options. 0:06:04.560 --> 0:06:06.440 Five thirty is the mum time slot. 0:06:06.480 --> 0:06:08.640 Okay, five thirty is also my time slot. I don't 0:06:08.640 --> 0:06:10.839 want to go out and start the evening at eight thirty. 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:13.440 It was quite expensive, like it cost me a couple 0:06:13.440 --> 0:06:16.799 of hundred bucks for the meal. And then I got 0:06:16.800 --> 0:06:20.960 home and that Carbonara did me so dirty that about 0:06:21.000 --> 0:06:25.000 four hours, almost to the minute, I got this pang 0:06:25.040 --> 0:06:27.800 in my stomach and I was like, what's that. I 0:06:27.839 --> 0:06:30.479 was like, oh, that doesn't feel good. Within ten minutes, 0:06:30.560 --> 0:06:34.520 I was on all fours in the bathroom, both ends 0:06:34.560 --> 0:06:35.520 like heaving. 0:06:35.839 --> 0:06:37.240 They are the moments where you're happy you live on 0:06:37.279 --> 0:06:38.680 your own, no. 0:06:38.560 --> 0:06:41.599 There the moments yes, like I don't want Ben to 0:06:41.640 --> 0:06:44.039 be seen that, but also someone to help you in 0:06:44.040 --> 0:06:46.640 those moments would so be good, like don't come in 0:06:46.680 --> 0:06:48.560 the room, don't see it, but like sliding stuff on 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:48.960 the door. 0:06:49.320 --> 0:06:51.240 I'll never forget I'll never forget when I used to it. 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:58.440 I mean, so everyone, we have a new videographer, Vanessa. 0:06:57.480 --> 0:06:59.159 Keeping here in the background for a couple of weeks. 0:06:59.240 --> 0:07:01.599 Our video edited Vanessa. So, Nas and I have lived 0:07:01.640 --> 0:07:03.720 together for I mean we were housemates, like when I 0:07:03.760 --> 0:07:05.440 went to the Bachelor, right, So we lived together for 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:06.240 a really long time. 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:07.479 Yeah, this job's nepotism. 0:07:07.640 --> 0:07:09.600 Yes, she's my child. 0:07:10.360 --> 0:07:12.800 We've been We've been like the closest friends for over 0:07:12.840 --> 0:07:15.440 a decade now decade, he almost a decade. 0:07:15.560 --> 0:07:15.880 Yeah. 0:07:16.240 --> 0:07:19.520 And Nessa's wife, Jess, we all lived together before that. 0:07:19.560 --> 0:07:21.760 They were like a married couple. And one night Jess 0:07:21.800 --> 0:07:24.040 got food poisoning so bad. But I was like, is 0:07:24.080 --> 0:07:24.520 she okay? 0:07:24.640 --> 0:07:25.480 Opened the door up. 0:07:25.560 --> 0:07:27.720 There was just like poor thing in the midst of 0:07:27.760 --> 0:07:30.640 both ends dying. And she still hates me and will 0:07:30.640 --> 0:07:31.920 probably hate me telling that story. 0:07:32.160 --> 0:07:33.080 That's okay. I love her. 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:35.080 It's been seven years six She was like looked at 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:36.320 me like she was an animal. 0:07:36.600 --> 0:07:39.960 Was like, god, yeah, no one needs to see that. 0:07:40.400 --> 0:07:42.320 I pictured column from Lord of the Rings. 0:07:43.080 --> 0:07:46.240 No, it's like it was another type of ring any 0:07:46.280 --> 0:07:49.000 of us. 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:51.240 Well, I did message. So I was heaving in the 0:07:51.240 --> 0:07:53.360 bathroom for a long time, and then it sort of 0:07:53.360 --> 0:07:55.880 faded down a little bit and I crawled back into bed, 0:07:55.960 --> 0:07:58.200 like my column, and I messaged the group and I 0:07:58.240 --> 0:08:00.480 was like, is anyone else scuse anyone else feel sick? 0:08:00.920 --> 0:08:03.360 Message Keisha privately. He She's like, are you sure it's 0:08:03.400 --> 0:08:05.640 food poisoning not something else? And I was like, Bro, 0:08:06.040 --> 0:08:08.080 if you saw me right now, you would not be 0:08:08.160 --> 0:08:08.760 questioning that. 0:08:08.880 --> 0:08:10.640 The only thing, though, is and like, you can't say 0:08:10.640 --> 0:08:12.160 that I'm going to hate this. I don't think you 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:15.720 manifested fantasting. These moments, to me are coincidences. I know 0:08:15.760 --> 0:08:18.160 that there's been two of them recently. Even someone who's 0:08:18.200 --> 0:08:21.200 really into manifesting would say that that's not how manifesting works. 0:08:21.320 --> 0:08:24.520 What's also I'm joking it's the anti manifest anyways. 0:08:24.200 --> 0:08:26.280 Like doing bad things and bad things will happen. 0:08:26.440 --> 0:08:28.600 Yeah, yes, there's got to be something in that, but 0:08:28.640 --> 0:08:30.080 I've been doing it a lot lately. 0:08:30.480 --> 0:08:33.040 For anyone who's really into manifesting, please don't think that 0:08:33.080 --> 0:08:35.440 I don't think it has a purpose. I just don't 0:08:35.480 --> 0:08:37.640 like the simplified version of it. I don't think that 0:08:37.720 --> 0:08:39.719 it is like think good thoughts and you're going to 0:08:39.800 --> 0:08:41.719 get out of situations. I think there are a lot 0:08:41.760 --> 0:08:44.800 of complexities in the lives that we all live, and 0:08:44.840 --> 0:08:47.160 I think that it is a luxury in a lot 0:08:47.200 --> 0:08:50.440 of times to be able to prioritize manifesting. That's not 0:08:50.440 --> 0:08:51.720 to say that I don't think you should have goals 0:08:51.760 --> 0:08:53.400 and work towards achievements and whatnot. 0:08:53.600 --> 0:08:56.480 The thing I don't seem to resonate with is that 0:08:56.760 --> 0:08:58.760 I often will hear people and I think it is 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:00.000 like a different type of goal set. 0:09:00.200 --> 0:09:00.320 Right. 0:09:00.360 --> 0:09:02.679 You know, you've got the thing that you want written down, 0:09:02.840 --> 0:09:04.960 or maybe you say it, or however you actually go 0:09:05.000 --> 0:09:07.000 about manifesting and then if. 0:09:06.960 --> 0:09:07.719 You achieve it. 0:09:08.200 --> 0:09:10.479 Sometimes I think that if you label it as manifesting, 0:09:10.520 --> 0:09:12.480 I'm like, are you taking it away from the fact 0:09:12.480 --> 0:09:15.000 that you worked really hard towards something like you are 0:09:15.080 --> 0:09:17.400 the reason that that happens. So don't put it down 0:09:17.440 --> 0:09:21.360 to like some spiritual thing you made that happen for yourself. 0:09:21.360 --> 0:09:23.600 And does it maybe take away from like your sense 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:25.840 of pride about that or your sense of feeling like 0:09:25.960 --> 0:09:29.960 you had determination to reach a certain goal or achieve 0:09:30.040 --> 0:09:31.120 something that you wanted. 0:09:31.320 --> 0:09:33.720 Well, I don't look at manifesting like it's spiritual. I 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:36.559 look at it as a step in achieving goals. It 0:09:36.679 --> 0:09:39.920 is just another step. Whether it's subconsciously, it makes people 0:09:40.640 --> 0:09:43.480 chase that goal harder when you've written it down and 0:09:43.480 --> 0:09:45.320 you're working towards it and you're thinking about it all 0:09:45.320 --> 0:09:47.079 the time, because that's a big part of manifesting, right, 0:09:47.080 --> 0:09:49.080 It's like thinking about it, looking for it, working for it. 0:09:49.120 --> 0:09:51.240 Then you see opportunities that you might not have seen before. 0:09:51.440 --> 0:09:53.520 You take opportunities you might not have seen before, and 0:09:53.559 --> 0:09:56.120 it all comes back to that idea of like really 0:09:56.440 --> 0:09:59.880 putting into fruition what you want. So it's not that 0:09:59.880 --> 0:10:01.480 you you sit at home and we've spoken about this 0:10:01.559 --> 0:10:05.920 so much, but I believe Ben's new football job came 0:10:06.120 --> 0:10:09.320 off the back of manifesting. And that's a whole another chat, 0:10:09.360 --> 0:10:11.439 and that's not just manifesting. But I taught him how 0:10:11.440 --> 0:10:14.920 to do it. It was definitely a move that was not 0:10:15.920 --> 0:10:18.439 on the cards in any capacity, and we didn't think 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:21.600 was possible for a multitude of reasons. But I taught 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:23.680 him how I do it, to write it down and 0:10:23.679 --> 0:10:25.559 think about it, and then off the back of that 0:10:25.679 --> 0:10:28.439 he did things that he probably wouldn't have done otherwise, 0:10:28.720 --> 0:10:30.320 just because it's in the front of your mind. So 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:34.160 it's just about another step in the road to achieving 0:10:34.160 --> 0:10:34.480 a goal. 0:10:34.679 --> 0:10:37.079 Yeah, And I guess maybe it is the difference in 0:10:37.160 --> 0:10:39.080 how people describe it, Like I look at it as 0:10:39.200 --> 0:10:42.520 it's a goal setting activity. I think I struggle with 0:10:42.559 --> 0:10:44.520 some people who agree with me, and some people absolutely won't. 0:10:44.559 --> 0:10:47.120 And that's totally fine, Like, please know that me disagreeing 0:10:47.160 --> 0:10:49.480 with it is not me shitting on people's beliefs around it. 0:10:49.520 --> 0:10:52.400 If it works for you, fantastic, totally. But there is 0:10:52.440 --> 0:10:54.560 like a lot of conversations if you've really gone down 0:10:54.559 --> 0:10:59.079 the manifesting research about like raising your vibrations and like 0:10:59.160 --> 0:11:01.720 you know, putting it out into the universe, And there 0:11:01.760 --> 0:11:04.480 is a spirituality element to it for a lot of people. 0:11:04.840 --> 0:11:07.000 And I think that is probably the side of it 0:11:07.040 --> 0:11:07.800 that I struggle with. 0:11:07.920 --> 0:11:08.600 Don't get me wrong. 0:11:08.640 --> 0:11:11.160 I think like good mental health is important. Having all 0:11:11.240 --> 0:11:13.520 of your goals set out is so important for keeping 0:11:13.559 --> 0:11:15.960 it front of mind and achieving things. I just don't 0:11:16.040 --> 0:11:19.160 use that terminology. I don't use high vibration low vibration. 0:11:19.280 --> 0:11:23.560 It doesn't resonate with me and with my skepticism. 0:11:22.920 --> 0:11:24.880 That's all. There's also that thing I've just googled it 0:11:24.880 --> 0:11:27.000 because I couldn't remember what it was actually called. It's 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:31.160 I could be mispronouncing this the beta Mainhoff phenomenon, also 0:11:31.200 --> 0:11:33.280 known as the frequency illusion, and that's when you think 0:11:33.280 --> 0:11:36.120 about something then suddenly you notice it everywhere totally like 0:11:36.160 --> 0:11:37.800 it's a proven psychological concept. 0:11:37.920 --> 0:11:42.000 This is very similar to the theories around angel numbers. 0:11:42.200 --> 0:11:43.960 And don't get me wrong, like I said, some of 0:11:43.960 --> 0:11:45.280 this stuff I do believe it, and some of the 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:48.920 stuff I like find it contradictory in myself. But angel numbers, 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:51.240 if you start seeing you know one one one or 0:11:51.240 --> 0:11:53.000 one one one one or whatever, that there's quite a 0:11:53.000 --> 0:11:53.360 few of them. 0:11:53.360 --> 0:11:54.440 They all mean different things. 0:11:54.760 --> 0:11:57.000 They are meant to mean different signs, and there's this 0:11:57.080 --> 0:12:00.880 belief that it is its spirits guiding you the universe, 0:12:00.920 --> 0:12:02.600 showing you that you're on the right path, or trying 0:12:02.600 --> 0:12:05.280 to redirect you or to reassure you. There's loads of 0:12:05.280 --> 0:12:08.800 different the kind of affirmations around it. But it is 0:12:08.920 --> 0:12:12.280 also something that when you become very aware of your 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:15.160 brain is wired to look for it. There's this amazing 0:12:15.320 --> 0:12:17.240 I think I've done it with you guys a while back, 0:12:17.240 --> 0:12:19.040 but I might even try it now. I went through 0:12:19.040 --> 0:12:22.000 a really really shitty time in my early twenties, like 0:12:22.040 --> 0:12:24.640 a really bad mental health space. I remember I was 0:12:24.640 --> 0:12:26.960 sitting at my work desk and I was just crying 0:12:27.000 --> 0:12:29.640 at my laptop and my boss came over and he 0:12:29.679 --> 0:12:31.080 was like, what's going on? Had just gone through a 0:12:31.080 --> 0:12:32.520 bad breakup, but it was like a lot of my 0:12:32.559 --> 0:12:34.679 mental health, I think at that age of my life 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:38.160 was revolved around my relationship, which wasn't particularly good. And 0:12:38.440 --> 0:12:41.640 he took me into a boardroom and he was like, Hey, 0:12:41.640 --> 0:12:44.040 I just really want you to listen to this experiment, 0:12:44.120 --> 0:12:47.040 this activity, and I was very negative. I was like, 0:12:47.240 --> 0:12:49.480 very upset about everything that was going on in my life, 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:51.439 not just my relationship, but the flow and effect that 0:12:51.480 --> 0:12:54.320 it had had in every facet of my life. And So, 0:12:54.600 --> 0:12:57.160 unless you're in a car, do this activity with me. Now, 0:12:57.520 --> 0:12:58.320 close your eyes. 0:12:58.800 --> 0:12:59.839 Well, this is fun closure. 0:13:00.280 --> 0:13:01.840 Don't be on a cliff walk now either. 0:13:02.600 --> 0:13:03.080 Yeah. 0:13:04.160 --> 0:13:06.320 Same, if you're somewhere safe, like in your house, in 0:13:06.360 --> 0:13:09.839 your room, whatever, close your eyes. Okay, on the count 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:12.439 of three, I'm going to ask you to open your 0:13:12.480 --> 0:13:16.080 eyes and look around the room for every single thing 0:13:16.160 --> 0:13:19.160 that you can find that is brown. You have to 0:13:19.200 --> 0:13:22.720 really focus close your eyes cicature. Focus on everything that's brown. 0:13:23.400 --> 0:13:26.920 Really remember the specificness of it, the textures, the colors 0:13:26.920 --> 0:13:28.800 of the brown, because I'm going to ask you to 0:13:28.840 --> 0:13:31.079 recite them. So you've got like three to four seconds. 0:13:31.080 --> 0:13:32.920 I'll tell you when to close your eyes again. Okay, 0:13:32.960 --> 0:13:35.360 open your eyes. Look for brown, brown, brown, brown, brown, brown. 0:13:35.400 --> 0:13:39.440 Look around behind you, look everywhere brown. Close your eyes. 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:43.360 I want you to tell me everything that you saw 0:13:44.840 --> 0:13:46.720 that was green. Keep your eyes closed. 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:48.720 The only things that I can label that are green 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:51.360 are because we're in this room consistently, and I just 0:13:51.440 --> 0:13:52.880 know the things that are green. I know that parts 0:13:52.880 --> 0:13:54.480 of the podcast machine and green. I know that there's 0:13:54.480 --> 0:13:57.200 a plant behind me. I would not have if we 0:13:57.200 --> 0:13:59.480 were in an unfamiliar room. I wouldn't be able. 0:13:59.320 --> 0:14:00.240 To tell you those things. 0:14:00.480 --> 0:14:02.600 Can you think of any one thing that's not something 0:14:02.600 --> 0:14:06.440 you see every day that's green? No, Okay, open your 0:14:06.480 --> 0:14:08.560 eyes and then look around the room for things that 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:11.760 might be green that you wouldn't have necessarily noticed, Like 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:15.800 over there, there's a green thing on your coffee cup, 0:14:16.160 --> 0:14:19.400 there's a green tape on the camera. The thing is 0:14:19.560 --> 0:14:21.960 you train your brain to only see what it is 0:14:21.960 --> 0:14:23.560 that you're looking for so, if you're looking for the 0:14:23.560 --> 0:14:25.720 brown in your life, i e. The shit in your life, 0:14:25.720 --> 0:14:28.120 you will only see that version of it. Your brain 0:14:28.200 --> 0:14:32.000 doesn't have the capacity to focus on multiple things. And 0:14:32.080 --> 0:14:34.240 so when we talk about this idea and this is 0:14:34.360 --> 0:14:37.840 I guess my version of manifestation, it's retraining your brain 0:14:38.080 --> 0:14:40.480 to focus on the things that are positive or are 0:14:40.520 --> 0:14:43.800 good and are not saying, you know, toxic positivity, but 0:14:43.880 --> 0:14:46.280 like really looking for those things, because if all you're 0:14:46.280 --> 0:14:48.120 seeing is brown, you will only see brown. 0:14:48.200 --> 0:14:49.120 You will never see the green. 0:14:49.240 --> 0:14:52.800 But that is the psychology behind manifestation. It's the whole thing. 0:14:52.880 --> 0:14:55.240 Once you've written it down and you're thinking about it, 0:14:55.360 --> 0:14:58.000 you are looking for those things and those opportunities when 0:14:58.040 --> 0:15:00.280 they present themselves that you wouldn't normally look for. If 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:01.760 it wasn't front of mine. 0:15:01.480 --> 0:15:03.520 I'd be so interested for anyone who actually just did 0:15:03.520 --> 0:15:06.080 that activity, Like, let me know how it went, did you, Like? 0:15:06.120 --> 0:15:08.040 Because when I did it in the room that day, 0:15:08.640 --> 0:15:11.560 I looked around and I recalled all these brown things, 0:15:11.600 --> 0:15:13.400 and then I opened my eyes and like, right in 0:15:13.400 --> 0:15:15.760 front of me was this little pop plant that had 0:15:15.760 --> 0:15:18.040 been there the whole time, this plastic green pop plant, 0:15:18.240 --> 0:15:19.440 and I just hadn't seen it. 0:15:19.480 --> 0:15:20.480 I hadn't seen anything. 0:15:20.480 --> 0:15:22.080 And the more I looked around the room, the more 0:15:22.120 --> 0:15:24.840 I was like, oh, like I really had just completely 0:15:24.920 --> 0:15:28.320 discarded all of those things, and it really helped me 0:15:28.720 --> 0:15:31.440 to rewrite how I see things when I'm going through 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:33.480 challenging negative times in my life. 0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:33.800 Yeah. 0:15:34.040 --> 0:15:35.560 Yeah, I mean that was a weird tangent. 0:15:35.600 --> 0:15:38.040 We didn't even plan to talk about manifestation today, but 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:38.520 here we are. 0:15:38.680 --> 0:15:38.880 No. 0:15:39.000 --> 0:15:41.440 But then, like, just so we know, I am joking 0:15:41.480 --> 0:15:43.960 when I said I manifested my your diarrhea and my 0:15:44.160 --> 0:15:44.800 popping in. 0:15:44.800 --> 0:15:46.640 Like that, Just to be clear, I had a bit 0:15:46.680 --> 0:15:49.320 of your carbonara and I also felt a little bit sick, 0:15:49.360 --> 0:15:50.680 and that's why I asked you. 0:15:50.800 --> 0:15:53.840 Yeah, I was like, oh, we're food sharers. I don't 0:15:53.840 --> 0:15:56.800 know if I do want to completely like shame and 0:15:56.880 --> 0:15:59.400 blame the carbon era because we did also have prosudo 0:15:59.480 --> 0:16:00.040 that it could have. 0:16:00.520 --> 0:16:03.320 I ate the precuido and I was fine, dam was 0:16:03.360 --> 0:16:04.160 a cab and Ira girls. 0:16:04.240 --> 0:16:04.360 God. 0:16:05.080 --> 0:16:07.680 Anyway, something has been going on in my life from 0:16:07.960 --> 0:16:10.520 I feel like there'll be other parents out there, particularly 0:16:10.520 --> 0:16:13.800