WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - I Had a baby and now my partner won't go down town 👅 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:05.280 Life Uncut podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:09.119 Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:11.920 pay our respect to their elders past and present and 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:15.360 extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait islander 0:00:15.360 --> 0:00:16.120 peoples today. 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:19.560 This episode is recorded on Gaddigal Land of the Aurora Nation. 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:41.559 Hi guys, and are welcome back to another episode of 0:00:41.640 --> 0:00:45.720 Life Uncut. I'm Laura and I'm Brittany, and this is Thursday. 0:00:45.800 --> 0:00:48.720 Ask on the cut, Well, we answer your deep, dark 0:00:48.720 --> 0:00:50.280 and burning questions your. 0:00:50.280 --> 0:00:51.800 Sexy little saucy numbers. 0:00:51.880 --> 0:00:53.600 Do we have any sexy saucy numbers today? 0:00:53.680 --> 0:00:55.440 No? I did want to answer the question about the 0:00:55.480 --> 0:00:58.200 girl who wanted to lick her boyfriend's butthole, and you're 0:00:58.600 --> 0:00:59.080 I said no. 0:00:59.280 --> 0:00:59.960 Your answer to. 0:01:00.120 --> 0:01:03.000 That was, Laura, i am not going to answer that question. 0:01:03.080 --> 0:01:04.840 And I said why, it would be funny and you said, 0:01:04.880 --> 0:01:06.840 I'm not going to talk about licking an asshole on 0:01:06.880 --> 0:01:09.600 the podcast. And I said, Britt, it'll be funny that 0:01:09.680 --> 0:01:12.200 you're giving a blow by blow and I kept on 0:01:12.280 --> 0:01:14.080 with it. It would be funny thing. And then Britt 0:01:14.120 --> 0:01:17.720 said no because she turns her nose up at l Let's. 0:01:17.560 --> 0:01:20.040 Put it this way, Laura, would you like an article 0:01:20.120 --> 0:01:22.120 this week about you licking a buttole tell me that 0:01:22.160 --> 0:01:25.720 because this is this is what this questions about. No, exactly, 0:01:25.800 --> 0:01:28.360 I'm doing you a favor, but I also just think, 0:01:28.400 --> 0:01:28.960 go for it. 0:01:29.000 --> 0:01:35.160 Whatever. What's the worst that could happen anyway? Hellot, actually 0:01:35.240 --> 0:01:35.479 a lot. 0:01:36.120 --> 0:01:38.720 Yeah, things could turn terribly, terribly wrong. We have some 0:01:38.760 --> 0:01:41.440 really great questions today. We have some diverse and different 0:01:41.480 --> 0:01:44.760 questions that hit a whole lot of different areas of 0:01:44.800 --> 0:01:47.640 life and the body and the body. But none of 0:01:47.680 --> 0:01:50.000 them hit the bum Let's put it that way. Now, 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:51.640 they don't unfortunately. 0:01:51.080 --> 0:01:53.440 Got left out. But Britt, you have a story. Something 0:01:53.480 --> 0:01:53.920 happened to you? 0:01:54.000 --> 0:01:55.640 Yeah, well I thought this was something funny, just one 0:01:55.680 --> 0:01:56.800 of those really awkward moments. 0:01:56.800 --> 0:01:58.080 It was bound to happen. 0:01:58.360 --> 0:02:01.560 In the little circle that I run in bond Eyed. 0:02:01.600 --> 0:02:04.320 The little is one suburb. Keisha and I spend a 0:02:04.480 --> 0:02:07.880 lot of time together. Now, now this was bound to happen, 0:02:07.960 --> 0:02:11.440 but producer, Keisha and I we are both single, and 0:02:11.480 --> 0:02:13.280 a lot of people don't know this. Keisha just doesn't 0:02:13.320 --> 0:02:15.720 work for us. But she's a very very good friend. 0:02:15.720 --> 0:02:18.360 I see Keisha every single day, and if I don't 0:02:18.400 --> 0:02:21.120 see her, I speak to her, or we carry a pigeon, 0:02:21.160 --> 0:02:23.480 or we text or we whatever. We are like very 0:02:23.680 --> 0:02:27.240 in constant contact, constant conduct. Anyway. We are both single, 0:02:27.840 --> 0:02:31.040 we are both on the dating app ready to mingle, babby, 0:02:31.320 --> 0:02:35.160 but we have never really had the problem of matching 0:02:35.280 --> 0:02:37.480 or talking to the same person or wanting to date 0:02:37.480 --> 0:02:40.280 the same person. We've always had different types, different vibes, 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:41.799 like it just hasn't happened yet. 0:02:41.919 --> 0:02:44.240 I find that surprising because I actually think you guys 0:02:44.280 --> 0:02:47.880 have kind of a similar taste in men in some ways. 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:49.359 Yeah, some ways, but not there. 0:02:49.440 --> 0:02:51.240 It's funny because Keisha will show me someone. She's like, 0:02:51.320 --> 0:02:53.040 look at this babe, I'm talking to it. And I 0:02:53.080 --> 0:02:55.880 was like, oh, yeah, babe, not my kind of babe, 0:02:55.919 --> 0:02:57.440 but for you. And then I will show her someone. 0:02:57.440 --> 0:02:59.280 I'm like, oh, look at this guy, and she's the 0:02:59.320 --> 0:03:01.120 same She's like, oh, or yours kind of thing. You know, 0:03:01.480 --> 0:03:03.120 it hasn't happened often anyway. 0:03:03.480 --> 0:03:06.160 A couple of weeks ago, I showed her. 0:03:06.200 --> 0:03:08.160 I said, hey, look I'm talking to this babe, and 0:03:08.200 --> 0:03:10.200 I showed her were at the dog park, I showed 0:03:10.240 --> 0:03:13.720 her his profile and she goes, fuck off. She was like, 0:03:13.760 --> 0:03:15.560 it's happened. I was like, what's happened? She's like, I'm 0:03:15.600 --> 0:03:18.359 talking to him too. She was talking to him too. 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:19.960 She's like, how often are you talking? 0:03:20.000 --> 0:03:21.120 I was like, well, actually a lot. 0:03:21.480 --> 0:03:23.639 But he hasn't replied to the last thing I said 0:03:23.680 --> 0:03:25.040 a couple of days ago. She's like same. 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:27.200 I was like, because he met a girl and started 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:27.720 dating someone. 0:03:27.840 --> 0:03:29.880 No, no, But she's like, oh, he just stopped replying 0:03:29.880 --> 0:03:30.480 to me as well. 0:03:30.480 --> 0:03:33.360 And I was like, in this situation, when you just 0:03:33.480 --> 0:03:37.200 realized you're speaking to the same person who dips like 0:03:37.400 --> 0:03:40.360 as as her employer, do you get to just continue 0:03:40.360 --> 0:03:41.880 the comment or are you like you can I'll take this 0:03:41.880 --> 0:03:46.320 one for the team, like this one you can continue 0:03:46.320 --> 0:03:48.760 because you can't both continue. It's not like it's not 0:03:48.840 --> 0:03:52.240 Hunger Game Survival of the Fittest, like you have to decide. 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:53.880 Who's going to continue. Because I set out my bow. 0:03:53.840 --> 0:03:58.920 And arrow and I was like, runs anyhow, I will 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:00.800 not know the answer to that because we haven't actually 0:04:00.800 --> 0:04:03.080 been in that position yet, because he hadn't responded to 0:04:03.080 --> 0:04:05.160 either of it. So I guess to answer the question 0:04:05.280 --> 0:04:07.360 if that had happened and we were still talking as much, 0:04:07.480 --> 0:04:10.080 we would probably just work out who had organized to 0:04:10.120 --> 0:04:11.520 meet up or who had spoken the longest, and the 0:04:11.560 --> 0:04:13.360 other one would have to just like like if Keisha 0:04:13.400 --> 0:04:14.920 was to the point where she's like, oh, he's taking 0:04:14.960 --> 0:04:17.599 me to dinner, I would stop texting immediately, and I 0:04:17.600 --> 0:04:18.560 think vice versa. 0:04:18.720 --> 0:04:21.520 But it's when you have met in IRL that that's 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:24.080 when whoever you don't touch that with TECH, for whoever 0:04:24.200 --> 0:04:26.400 meets first in IRL gets the man. 0:04:26.560 --> 0:04:26.680 Well. 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:27.839 If talking to. 0:04:27.880 --> 0:04:30.880 Him longer as well, or more in depth or whatever. 0:04:30.800 --> 0:04:31.640 Of course you wouldn't. 0:04:31.640 --> 0:04:32.960 You'd back off because you don't want to be in 0:04:32.960 --> 0:04:35.160 that situation. But we were pretty much the conversations were 0:04:35.160 --> 0:04:38.320 about the same level, but anyway irrelevant. He'd stopped replying 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:40.280 to us, and it was a shame because he was 0:04:40.360 --> 0:04:42.839 He seems funny and nice. He was very good looking. 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:45.520 He was foreign, which we all know I love. 0:04:45.800 --> 0:04:47.880 So I was he wearing a turtleneck. 0:04:47.880 --> 0:04:49.400 Nobo, He would look good in one. You can tell 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:52.000 that as a man that would look good in. 0:04:52.120 --> 0:04:55.840 Turtle neck anyway, he's got a neck for it. Put 0:04:55.880 --> 0:04:56.520 it that way. 0:04:57.720 --> 0:05:00.320 We're at the pub on Saturday night, Keisha and I out. 0:05:00.360 --> 0:05:03.120 We're at the pub and it's pumping and it's very busy. 0:05:03.160 --> 0:05:05.440 I see this guy walking towards me and it's just 0:05:05.560 --> 0:05:07.200 a guy that I used to train at a gym 0:05:07.240 --> 0:05:10.919 with nine years ago. He was a coach there and 0:05:10.960 --> 0:05:12.440 I hadn't seen him in all this time, and I 0:05:12.480 --> 0:05:13.840 recognized him and I was. 0:05:13.800 --> 0:05:14.440 Like, oh my god. 0:05:14.480 --> 0:05:15.919 I was like, hey stopped him and I was like, 0:05:16.040 --> 0:05:18.480 how are you happen, say even ten years Like, we 0:05:18.520 --> 0:05:20.000 used to train on the other side of the city 0:05:20.000 --> 0:05:22.120 in North Sydney. Now we live in the East. We 0:05:22.120 --> 0:05:24.400 were chatting and having this really great catch up and 0:05:24.400 --> 0:05:25.960 I was with Keisa on a friend and then his 0:05:26.480 --> 0:05:28.880 two friends walk up and stand behind him and I 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:32.039 look at his friend. I have this moment of realization. 0:05:32.120 --> 0:05:33.520 He looks at me and I'm like, oh my god, 0:05:33.560 --> 0:05:35.479 that I look at Keisha. Keisha looks at me, sees 0:05:35.480 --> 0:05:37.080 my face, looks at him, he looks at her, he 0:05:37.080 --> 0:05:37.480 looks at me. 0:05:37.520 --> 0:05:39.200 We're all looking at each other. There's like looking in 0:05:40.600 --> 0:05:45.920 and he walks away. It's this guy. It's the guy 0:05:45.960 --> 0:05:47.960 that we both matched with, both liked. He was like, 0:05:47.960 --> 0:05:49.400 this is way too much to deal with. The two 0:05:49.440 --> 0:05:50.200 of you that I ghosted. 0:05:50.240 --> 0:05:52.440 At the same time, I'm still not convinced. I don't 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:54.520 know if he put it together right. I know he 0:05:54.080 --> 0:05:56.359 put Keisha's like he definitely recognized me. I was like, 0:05:56.440 --> 0:05:58.320 I'm not convinced he actually recognized me. But there was 0:05:58.320 --> 0:06:01.240 this awkward moment, right, so he walks away. I think 0:06:01.240 --> 0:06:03.560 this is hilarious, and because I don't have a filter, 0:06:03.880 --> 0:06:06.320 instead of just like pretending it didn't happen, the guy 0:06:06.360 --> 0:06:09.200 that I'm talking to, who's a common friend, I start laughing. 0:06:09.320 --> 0:06:11.359 And so these two friends walk away, right, and so 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:16.000 I'm laughing saying I matched with your friend and he 0:06:16.040 --> 0:06:18.320 ghosted me, and he's like what. I was like, oh 0:06:18.360 --> 0:06:20.640 we He's like, hey really and he's like's like, that's 0:06:20.680 --> 0:06:22.520 not like him. And I'm like, yeah really, And I'd 0:06:22.520 --> 0:06:25.080 pointed over to them and he's like and I showed it. 0:06:25.320 --> 0:06:27.520 I was like we were talking that we're having the banter, 0:06:27.680 --> 0:06:30.000 and he asked me this question and I answered and 0:06:30.040 --> 0:06:30.960 asked him the question back. 0:06:31.040 --> 0:06:32.480 It was just all having in the right direction. 0:06:32.680 --> 0:06:34.680 Yeah, And he's like, that's crazy. Do you want me 0:06:34.680 --> 0:06:36.880 to say something? And I was like, yeah, I care. 0:06:37.200 --> 0:06:40.279 So he goes over to this guy. You don't do that. 0:06:40.480 --> 0:06:42.920 If someone ghosts, you don't get their friend to go 0:06:42.960 --> 0:06:45.480 and do like the like the interrogation. 0:06:45.920 --> 0:06:47.599 He comes, he brings him back. 0:06:47.640 --> 0:06:50.320 He goes over and he brings him back over to 0:06:50.480 --> 0:06:53.200 the circle. He puts him in front of me and 0:06:53.200 --> 0:06:55.080 he goes, I think you two have some stuff you 0:06:55.120 --> 0:06:57.240 need to work out. And I looked at this guy. 0:06:58.120 --> 0:06:59.440 He looked at me and he goes, you have a 0:06:59.480 --> 0:07:01.000 crush on each don't you. And I looked at him. 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:02.640 I was like, that's not that's the wrong guy. You've 0:07:02.680 --> 0:07:08.040 just rushed. He just might have bought a random guy. 0:07:07.920 --> 0:07:10.040 Over, put him in front of my face and said 0:07:10.080 --> 0:07:11.920 you do you need to work some shit out? And 0:07:11.960 --> 0:07:14.440 I was like, this is so awkward. We both never 0:07:14.440 --> 0:07:15.960 spoke to the other guy again. He stayed on the 0:07:16.000 --> 0:07:18.280 other side of the bar the whole time, didn't say 0:07:18.280 --> 0:07:20.080 a word, didn't look at us, didn't do anything. 0:07:20.120 --> 0:07:23.040 I bet you he has a girlfriend. That's my that 0:07:23.280 --> 0:07:23.920 is my no. 0:07:24.080 --> 0:07:25.880 His friend told us he does. Hey, that is like 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:27.240 my go to. 0:07:27.400 --> 0:07:29.480 Anytime that a guy just disappears and then ignores you, 0:07:29.520 --> 0:07:31.600 I'm like, oh, he's a cheating asshole, Like that's how 0:07:31.640 --> 0:07:32.520 affected I've been. 0:07:32.440 --> 0:07:32.920 In my life. 0:07:32.920 --> 0:07:34.640 I'm like, oh, he's doing the dirty. 0:07:34.880 --> 0:07:37.160 Part of me wanted I had to control myself. I 0:07:37.200 --> 0:07:38.520 had a few dreams. Part of me wanted to go 0:07:38.640 --> 0:07:40.760 up and just not anything bad because he didn't do 0:07:40.760 --> 0:07:42.240 anything wrong. Just put him on the spot and say, so, 0:07:42.280 --> 0:07:44.200 where did we go wrong? Like what happened there? But 0:07:44.360 --> 0:07:46.680 I just don't think he was ready for the awkward interaction. 0:07:46.880 --> 0:07:50.280 As somebody who typically says that they don't like confrontation, 0:07:50.520 --> 0:07:53.400 the fact that you wanted to go and confront a 0:07:53.480 --> 0:07:56.160 tinder match who you had never seen in real life 0:07:56.320 --> 0:07:59.080 who stopped speaking to you is possibly the weirdest thing 0:07:59.080 --> 0:07:59.880 that you've ever said. 0:08:00.000 --> 0:08:01.240 And I'm so glad. 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:03.240 For you that you didn't do that, because to me, 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:05.559 that's not the confrontation. I would have thought it was funny. 0:08:05.560 --> 0:08:07.400 I would have taken the piss a little bit. This 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:08.920 wouldn't have been an argument, like I would have given 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:10.240 him a hard time and then just walked off. But 0:08:10.240 --> 0:08:11.960 a hard time is in like having a lull. But 0:08:12.080 --> 0:08:14.680 I wonder if any of you are out there listening, 0:08:15.080 --> 0:08:16.720 or you're all out there listening, But if. 0:08:16.560 --> 0:08:18.560 Any of you that are listening, hopefully you're listening. 0:08:19.200 --> 0:08:20.880 No, but if there's anyone that stated the same, If 0:08:20.880 --> 0:08:22.200 your friends, if this, I would love to know what 0:08:22.240 --> 0:08:23.680 you did or how you handle it, or who gets 0:08:23.680 --> 0:08:25.720 first DIBs. What are the rules in your group if 0:08:25.720 --> 0:08:28.080 you've found out you're matching the same person, who backs off? 0:08:28.080 --> 0:08:29.480 Who steps away? And who is it? 0:08:29.560 --> 0:08:30.880 Just like, oh, you haven't had a hot one in 0:08:30.880 --> 0:08:32.880 a while? Will given to you? What's the rules of 0:08:32.920 --> 0:08:33.720 engagement or is. 0:08:33.720 --> 0:08:35.720 It survival of the fittest? Is it whoever gets in 0:08:35.760 --> 0:08:38.400 there first? Does he get to does he get to choose? 0:08:38.480 --> 0:08:40.920 Is it like a Bachelor not choose? 0:08:41.040 --> 0:08:41.199 No? 0:08:41.640 --> 0:08:43.199 Is it like an episode of The Bachelor soft just 0:08:43.240 --> 0:08:44.840 not on TV? Like you both go on dates and 0:08:44.840 --> 0:08:46.320 he gets to pick the one he wants the best 0:08:46.440 --> 0:08:49.160 irl bachelor? No, you're Sicico, That is not what you're doing. 0:08:49.280 --> 0:08:49.600 All right? 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:52.000 Well speaking, I have an article I want to discuss 0:08:52.040 --> 0:08:54.400 before we get into answering your questions. And since we've 0:08:54.440 --> 0:08:58.080 just started with people ghosting and people disappearing, here's one 0:08:58.200 --> 0:09:01.000 that's really going to tickle your fancy. It certainly didn't 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:03.200 tickle this girl's fancy, but this is probably the most 0:09:03.240 --> 0:09:06.640 messed up ghosting experience I have ever heard of when 0:09:06.640 --> 0:09:09.280 it comes to dating. There is an Australian woman. She 0:09:09.320 --> 0:09:11.319 has gone viral on TikTok. You know we love a 0:09:11.360 --> 0:09:13.800 good TikTok here. Her name is at Bris Deval. She 0:09:13.920 --> 0:09:16.000 is twenty five years old and she was living in 0:09:16.000 --> 0:09:19.920 Canada with her fiance. Now this is where things really 0:09:19.960 --> 0:09:23.040 take a turn for the worst. So her fiance ghosted her. 0:09:24.280 --> 0:09:28.040 But he ghosted her after she fell from a ten 0:09:28.120 --> 0:09:32.120 meter retaining wall. She fell head first into the pavement. 0:09:32.400 --> 0:09:34.440 Can you think about how horrific this is? Even saying 0:09:34.440 --> 0:09:36.199 those words makes me feel physically sick. 0:09:36.320 --> 0:09:36.840 Horrific. 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:40.160 She ended up in a coma for three months and 0:09:40.320 --> 0:09:43.559 woke up after being in a coma to find out 0:09:43.640 --> 0:09:46.559 that her fiance not only had he ghosted her when 0:09:46.559 --> 0:09:49.840 she'd had this accident, but he fucking vanished and was 0:09:49.880 --> 0:09:53.600 in a relationship and had moved in with somebody else. 0:09:54.280 --> 0:09:55.160 He was living with them. 0:09:55.160 --> 0:09:56.440 Howd he move in in three months? 0:09:56.559 --> 0:09:58.160 I mean things move quickly for this man. 0:09:58.360 --> 0:10:00.800 This so they were actually engaged. I read the article, 0:10:00.840 --> 0:10:03.080 but I couldn't remember they were actually engaged. So she yeah, 0:10:03.240 --> 0:10:04.840 and so it's actually so horrific. 0:10:04.920 --> 0:10:06.440 I were thinking about whether we would get her on 0:10:06.440 --> 0:10:07.760 the podcast to talk this all through. 0:10:07.920 --> 0:10:10.000 I'd love just to really unpack what happened here. But 0:10:10.000 --> 0:10:10.959 she was twenty five years old. 0:10:11.120 --> 0:10:14.600 She had this severe brain injury, and the only reason 0:10:14.600 --> 0:10:16.920 why her life support wasn't turned off was because her 0:10:16.920 --> 0:10:19.320 parents were living in Australia. She was in Canada. It 0:10:19.360 --> 0:10:22.840 was all during COVID. Her parents couldn't get the permission 0:10:22.880 --> 0:10:25.640 to travel to Canada and so they wouldn't let the 0:10:25.679 --> 0:10:28.080 doctors turn off life support until they could get there 0:10:28.120 --> 0:10:29.199 and see their daughter again. 0:10:29.520 --> 0:10:31.400 And then, incredibly, like she. 0:10:31.440 --> 0:10:35.720 Was given like the most smallest percentage chance of being 0:10:35.760 --> 0:10:39.040 able to survive this, and incredibly she started getting her 0:10:39.080 --> 0:10:41.240 faculties back, She started to become aware of what was 0:10:41.240 --> 0:10:43.319 going on around her, and she actually woke up from 0:10:43.320 --> 0:10:47.440 this coma. So like to unpack this properly. He was 0:10:47.520 --> 0:10:50.520 under the impression that she was never ever going to survive, 0:10:51.080 --> 0:10:54.360 But moving on in three months after your partner has 0:10:54.480 --> 0:10:58.160 essentially passed away in your mind is pretty fucking wild. 0:10:59.000 --> 0:11:02.000 Yeah. So, also, the fact is she hadn't passed away yet, 0:11:02.120 --> 0:11:05.319 while she think that it's looking that way, which is horrific, 0:11:05.360 --> 0:11:07.800 And you know what, we cannot imagine we cannot put 0:11:07.800 --> 0:11:11.079 ourselves in this position because we haven't been in this position. 0:11:11.400 --> 0:11:14.600 I can't imagine what he was thinking or feeling at 0:11:14.640 --> 0:11:18.439 the time. But to move on, it wasn't three months 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:20.760 after she'd passed away, after they decided to put the 0:11:20.840 --> 0:11:22.559 last It was three months after that accident. 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:23.720 That's insanity, okay. 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:26.160 But what makes this even worse is not only did 0:11:26.200 --> 0:11:27.880 he move on with somebody else, but this is how 0:11:27.920 --> 0:11:30.559 monumental the ghosting was. So when she woke up from 0:11:30.559 --> 0:11:32.880 her coma and she remembered who he was, and she 0:11:32.960 --> 0:11:35.560 remembered she had a fiance, she tried to reach out 0:11:35.559 --> 0:11:37.280 to him. So this is part of the TikTok that 0:11:37.280 --> 0:11:39.840 she's put together. So she explained that she called him 0:11:39.880 --> 0:11:42.559 after finally waking up from the coma, and he didn't 0:11:42.600 --> 0:11:44.760 answer the phone, but she did get a text from 0:11:44.800 --> 0:11:48.320 another woman, and the text said, he has moved out 0:11:48.360 --> 0:11:50.440 with me, and he has moved all of his things 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:52.720 out of your house and now we are together, so 0:11:52.800 --> 0:11:56.000 please do not contact him again. And he never ever 0:11:56.200 --> 0:11:59.920 made contact with her. Can you imagine being such a 0:12:00.600 --> 0:12:03.679 pathetic piece of scum that you avoid confrontations so much 0:12:03.920 --> 0:12:06.760 that you get your new girlfriend to contact the person 0:12:06.760 --> 0:12:08.800 who's just come out of a coma after three months 0:12:08.920 --> 0:12:10.079 when you were engaged. 0:12:10.240 --> 0:12:13.320 My jaw is literally on the ground. And if but 0:12:13.480 --> 0:12:15.319 you know what, you know, I think in this situation, 0:12:16.200 --> 0:12:18.960 if there's anything to take from this for this girl, 0:12:19.080 --> 0:12:20.560 you dodged a fucking bullet. 0:12:20.600 --> 0:12:21.199 If that was the. 0:12:21.120 --> 0:12:22.960 Person that you were going to marry, such a weak 0:12:23.040 --> 0:12:27.200 little weasel, a weak, little disloyal weasel. And that is 0:12:27.200 --> 0:12:29.040 the perfect I haven't used that term a long time. 0:12:29.080 --> 0:12:32.880 He's a weasel. He is a scummy little weasel. You 0:12:32.880 --> 0:12:36.160 you dodgedow. It's so powerful though once you say it, it 0:12:36.160 --> 0:12:37.319 feels goods soasily. 0:12:37.679 --> 0:12:38.720 Yes, this feels good. 0:12:38.760 --> 0:12:41.679 But this girl has dodged an absolute bullet. And that's 0:12:41.720 --> 0:12:44.800 the only thing that can remotely make this easier for 0:12:44.840 --> 0:12:47.440 this poor girl is to think, Wow, you are so 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:51.040 fucking detached that I'm glad that I didn't end up 0:12:51.040 --> 0:12:52.640 with you. That's what I would try to take from it. 0:12:52.640 --> 0:12:54.280 But I can't imagine the poor thing. 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:56.440 And only like he was so conflict avoidant that he 0:12:56.480 --> 0:12:58.600 also ended up going on and blocking her from all 0:12:58.640 --> 0:12:59.920 of his social media accounts. 0:13:00.240 --> 0:13:03.839 I can't even a kind of sucked in she's gone viral. 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:06.000 And also like the next time that you think you've 0:13:06.000 --> 0:13:08.280 been ghosted by someone who you were talking to, you 0:13:08.320 --> 0:13:10.880 can think of this person because like, nothing will ever 0:13:10.960 --> 0:13:11.920 compare to this level of. 0:13:11.920 --> 0:13:14.280 A Now, this takes away from my story, So my 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:16.120 ghosting is like not even bad from this. 0:13:17.320 --> 0:13:18.880 But what would you do if this happened to you? 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:21.160 Put yourself in this situation for a second. Would you 0:13:21.920 --> 0:13:24.600 like continue to call, would you show up at his house? 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:27.000 Would you call your mutual friends, because obviously you'd have 0:13:27.080 --> 0:13:29.440 mutual friends that have to be more to the story. 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:31.240 You wouldn't just be like, Okay, well you don't want 0:13:31.240 --> 0:13:33.240 to speak to me, I'm going to just disappear. You'd 0:13:33.240 --> 0:13:36.400 be so enraged and you, like, I think I would 0:13:36.440 --> 0:13:38.240 rock up at his house, and you know what you 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:38.800 would do. 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:40.319 I would be worried. 0:13:40.320 --> 0:13:42.199 I would restrain you. I would be worried what you 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:45.560 would do. I would definitely I don't think I would 0:13:45.559 --> 0:13:48.400 be able to not have any form of communication with 0:13:48.480 --> 0:13:51.240 him at all. I would have needed something one phone call, 0:13:51.320 --> 0:13:53.599 one text at a minimum, which is not going to suffice. 0:13:53.800 --> 0:13:58.280 But to have absolutely nothing, it is such a pathetic, selfish, 0:13:58.440 --> 0:14:02.000 selfish weasly move for him, but itself, that's a great 0:14:02.040 --> 0:14:05.560 word besides weasel, selfish. It's such a selfish thing to 0:14:05.640 --> 0:14:08.040 take that from her and stop her from moving on 0:14:08.200 --> 0:14:09.840 in a sense. And I know we say you don't 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:12.240 necessarily enclosure from other people to move on. You don't 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:15.520 always you're fucking getting married. You were marrying this woman. 0:14:15.559 --> 0:14:17.959 She was in a tragic accident. I'm sorry, but the 0:14:18.000 --> 0:14:21.320 whole vow is far better or worse. That includes a coma. 0:14:21.960 --> 0:14:23.520 They didn't make it to that part of the Oh, 0:14:23.640 --> 0:14:25.280 but that's what you because. 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:27.160 What you're about to do, like when you ask someone 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:27.800 to marry you. 0:14:28.520 --> 0:14:30.160 It's actually so wild if you want to go and 0:14:30.200 --> 0:14:33.160 actually look at the tiktoks. Her name is hot Comba. 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:36.200 Girl, one of the TikTok And as much as he 0:14:36.760 --> 0:14:38.680 as much as we are like laughing about it and 0:14:38.760 --> 0:14:40.960 joking about it, she definitely does it in a very 0:14:40.960 --> 0:14:43.680 positive and upbeat way. But what an incredible story, and 0:14:43.760 --> 0:14:45.920 the fact that she's been able to put a positive 0:14:45.960 --> 0:14:48.320 spin on what is truly just the most horrific and 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:51.320 traumatic story is such a testament to what a strong 0:14:51.360 --> 0:14:52.440 individual she must be. 0:14:52.960 --> 0:14:56.840 All Right, well, let's get into some of the questions. 0:14:57.640 --> 0:14:58.960 I'm gonna kick it off. 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:03.000 Hi, I am a longtime listener, first time caller. Me 0:15:03.160 --> 0:15:05.280 and my partner dated for over a year and we 0:15:05.360 --> 0:15:07.680 broke up for a couple of months. We are back 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:10.280 together now, but I have found out that while we 0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:13.240 were broken up, he was seeing someone else. And now 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:15.920 he wasn't just sleeping with them, but he was going 0:15:15.920 --> 0:15:19.280 on dates with them. When broken up. I was okay 0:15:19.320 --> 0:15:22.120 with him sleeping with other people because that's just physical, 0:15:22.360 --> 0:15:25.480 but dating is more than physical. So now I'm unsure 0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:28.080 how I feel about it all. We were also talking 0:15:28.080 --> 0:15:30.600 almost every single day when we were broken up, and 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:32.680 he was saying that he was so sad and that 0:15:32.760 --> 0:15:34.800 he missed me and all this sort of stuff. I'm 0:15:34.800 --> 0:15:37.600 really confused. Could he have actually still loved me and 0:15:37.720 --> 0:15:40.560 missed me that much even though he was technically seeing 0:15:40.600 --> 0:15:42.960 someone else. I also think that the two of us 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:45.680 might have caught up while he was actually seeing this person. 0:15:46.120 --> 0:15:47.120 Please help. 0:15:48.240 --> 0:15:53.040 He whilst not ideal, has not done anything wrong, and 0:15:53.120 --> 0:15:57.200 I think that this is morally sure. He is saying 0:15:57.200 --> 0:15:59.400 to you, I miss you, I love you, talking to 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:02.640 you every day communication, and he's sleeping with someone else. 0:16:02.680 --> 0:16:07.600 And seeing someone else. Technically, on a technicality, that's okay 0:16:07.680 --> 0:16:10.320 because you guys broke up, so he's not cheating on you. 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:13.120 And in answer to your question, can you. 0:16:13.640 --> 0:16:15.040 Can trickly one though, isn't it? 0:16:15.600 --> 0:16:16.360 I don't think it is. 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:19.440 I think it is what it is. 0:16:19.880 --> 0:16:22.360