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Speaker 1: Need a lift.

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Speaker 2: It's Will and Woody right now, I think this is amazing.

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Speaker 3: Stuff would come on here, he thinks he's found the

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Speaker 2: Thirty in single.

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Speaker 4: When you say like that, it sounds ridiculous.

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Speaker 1: What's what you need to hear is that I'm a

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Speaker 1: marriage celebrant, so it is my job and a big

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Speaker 1: part of my job is sitting down with these amazing,

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Speaker 1: loving couples and hearing their story.

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Speaker 4: So I actually asked them.

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Speaker 1: I sit down with both of them and I say,

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Speaker 1: tell me from when you're met to right now to

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Speaker 1: you getting married, and I have discovered will. I have

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Speaker 1: discovered that there is a common thing that comes up

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Speaker 1: with every single couple.

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Speaker 3: So within the two weddings that you've done, they have four.

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Speaker 4: Within the three weddings, seven before the end of the year.

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Speaker 1: Four.

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Speaker 3: Now, okay, so you've got four and you think from

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Speaker 3: four couples.

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Speaker 1: You reckon, you know what the secret to love is.

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Speaker 1: I've done the interview process with fifth, so it's five,

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Speaker 1: and for all five of them, they've all experienced this

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Speaker 1: thing in their relationship and I think I've extrapolated from

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Speaker 1: there and I believe that is the key to not

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Speaker 1: only love but a successful relationship.

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Speaker 2: And how many years have they been married for?

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Speaker 1: Well, the oldest couple has been married for ten months now. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: really exciting for them, and they're going really well.

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Speaker 4: Watched a movie with them.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure. I'm sure they're going very very well. But

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Speaker 2: this doesn't necessarily mean they're going to be married for

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Speaker 2: thirty years.

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Speaker 3: And in fact, if we're really getting down to brass

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Speaker 3: tax here, marriage these days doesn't necessarily mean you're in

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Speaker 3: a great relationship.

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Speaker 1: Well okay, but that's a really negative and dark thing

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Speaker 1: I still support marriage. If you want to hire you,

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Speaker 1: please get in touch with me on my private Instagram account.

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Speaker 4: But I thought it would be a bit of fun.

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Speaker 1: Will so right now our number thirteen one oh sixty

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Speaker 1: what this It's a thing that couple's experience. Okay, something

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Speaker 1: that couple's experience, yep. That leads to six tessful relationship.

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Speaker 2: Have I experienced it in my relationship?

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Speaker 4: Yes, you have.

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Speaker 2: I've experienced this thing.

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Speaker 1: You have experienced this thing, and I think it is

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Speaker 1: a big factor in your relationship being what I would

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Speaker 4: You're in a happy relationships, a.

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Speaker 2: Very happy relationship.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So people just call up now thirty one or

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Speaker 3: six five if they think they can guess what this thing?

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Speaker 1: Is?

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Speaker 2: You going to give us any other clues.

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Speaker 4: Or well, you asked me a couple of questions.

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Speaker 2: Does it have to do with their location?

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Speaker 4: No, oh it can, but not necessarily location based.

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Speaker 2: Okay. Does it have anything to do with how long

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Speaker 2: Is it emotion based or is it sex based? Ummm, well,

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Speaker 2: they're probably not going to tell you their sex life.

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Speaker 3: Are you doing there?

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Speaker 4: No, that's a that's a category that i'd like to

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Speaker 4: It's an important part of marriageable. I can talk about

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Speaker 4: that maturely. Um No, wait, what was questioning?

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Speaker 1: I got distract with a sexy job. All right, it's

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Speaker 1: something the couple experiences. That's the biggest cloon I'm going

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Speaker 3: I'll have a guess up next. Yeah, everybody else can

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Speaker 3: have a guest too. Thirty one and six five? What

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Speaker 3: do he thinks he's found the secret to love? I know,

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Speaker 3: if you're just tuning in ironic for a desperately single

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Speaker 4: Oh, desperately single.

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Speaker 2: You're desperately single.

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Speaker 4: Oh not, I'm avoiding dating at you shower with your potplant?

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Speaker 2: What does the registered marriage celebrant?

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Speaker 3: And he thinks, after doing three weddings that he is

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Speaker 3: finding the secret to love. So can we just get

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Speaker 1: But I've done five interview process for a wedding I'm

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Speaker 1: So I'm asking people to call on thirteen one sixty

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Speaker 4: That all these couples.

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Speaker 3: Will have a guess by the way, at the end

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Speaker 3: of at the end of the program here, or at

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Speaker 3: relationship therapist theories.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you didn't get it last week though, Big Boy

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Speaker 1: and you had to sing topless julianders in here, so

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Speaker 1: you know, be careful with that arrogance.

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Speaker 4: Let's go to Anna and you've been married, You've been

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Speaker 4: married for twenty years. Anna, congratulations, gratulations.

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Speaker 2: What do you reckon it is? And talks us It's

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Speaker 2: the art of listening.

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Speaker 3: Oh, it's a good one, very important, abstely not correct

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Speaker 3: just preface all of this by saying that what is

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Speaker 3: a tragically single thirty year old who's done four weddings

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Speaker 3: and he's trying to do it with the secret of love

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Speaker 3: is on the press for fine, I don't shut up

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Speaker 3: on the technicality. So just I don't want to feel

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Speaker 3: defeated if after their guests they're wrong.

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Speaker 4: This is a game and they're wrong if I don't

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Speaker 2: But it's not wrong for their relationship, is what I'm saying. Beck. Actually,

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Speaker 2: I don't feel disheartened here because I think listening is

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Speaker 2: a very important skill for a relationship.

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Speaker 4: Let's go to Beck here. Beck, what do you think

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Speaker 4: it is?

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Speaker 2: Hi, Well, it doesn't involve a finger and a butt crack,

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Speaker 2: but I'm thinking maybe traveling together.

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Speaker 1: Just for those that are just joining this. That's a

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Speaker 1: callback from about half an hour ago. Outstanding work that Beck, Sorry,

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Speaker 1: travel again, very important surviving a trip together.

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Speaker 3: You do get you do realize when you travel together

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Speaker 4: Gloria.

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Speaker 1: Here, Gloria, what do you think it is something that

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Speaker 1: couple's experience which I believe is the secret to a

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Speaker 1: successful relationship. I think it's experiencing a love of food together,

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Speaker 1: I think it's I think it's a good sign of

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Speaker 1: Incorrect might be a factor, but not my factor. Let's

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Speaker 1: go to Holly Holy. What do you think it is?

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Speaker 2: Hey, guys? I think it is being comfortable enough to

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Speaker 4: Interesting.

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Speaker 2: Interesting, and Holly and Holly, at what point of the

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Speaker 2: celebrant process do you think would he got this out

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Speaker 2: of all the couples he was interviewing that I've just

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Speaker 1: I think we're gonna go far because.

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Speaker 2: It is a huge moment.

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Speaker 3: It is a huge moment when you are crop dusting

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Speaker 3: in front of your partner.

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Speaker 2: It's a massive moment.

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Speaker 1: Not correct, though, Holly, hold the line though, because you

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Speaker 1: may have experienced the thing I'm about to say. Let's

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Speaker 1: go to Amy real quick, Amy, what's your guests saying?

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Speaker 1: The couple's experience beautiful?

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Speaker 2: Thanks? We can't ask much further.

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Speaker 3: Again, at what point of the celebrant process do you

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Speaker 3: think what he's asking about that?

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Speaker 2: Amy? You know what?

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Speaker 3: What do you ask about their like sexual life?

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Speaker 1: Ye? Look, actually it's important part of it, actually is

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Speaker 4: I don't go into in depth. I definitely oh the

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Speaker 2: You can't continue that chat?

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Speaker 4: Okay, Well, none of them got it right.

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Speaker 1: All great guesses, though, and all very important parts of

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Speaker 1: a relationship. It's not a commonality, though, It's not a

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Speaker 4: Will do you want to have a guess? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I think my guess is I think one of you

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Speaker 2: To be with the other person.

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Speaker 4: Mmmm, that's what my guess is. No, it's just no,

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Speaker 1: Interestingly though, this is when you hear this, I think

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Speaker 1: Yours?

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Speaker 4: Yours is actually a subcategory of mine.

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Speaker 1: I have found that with all the couples that I've met,

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Speaker 1: that person. Wow, you hit a hurdle early and at

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Speaker 1: some point you need to go is this worth it?

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Speaker 1: Because we're either making effort with distance. Yeah, maybe this

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Speaker 1: a subcategoriyal. If you can get past that, and I'm

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Speaker 1: saying the first like six months and you get through it,

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Speaker 1: like everything's easy, everything's great, and everything's because we've been

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Speaker 3: Get that together and so we can we can beat

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Speaker 3: anything else because we have to get through that together.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it makes it worth Wow.

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Speaker 4: The secrets of love, well, secrets a lot.

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Speaker 3: If you haven't got a hurdle, Like what if you

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Speaker 3: just smooth sailing early and make one make a hurdle,

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Speaker 3: like what, like I don't know, maybe like accident, well

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Speaker 3: this is bitten.

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Speaker 4: Maybe fall down?

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Speaker 1: Maybe no, just stopped talking.

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Speaker 2: Okay, see what you're hearing.

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