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Speaker 1: It's a woman Woody podcast Mini.

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Speaker 2: So when you're in a rush or just can't be

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Speaker 2: bothered listening to them blather on for half an hour.

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Speaker 2: The question we're posing right now, which is a really

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Speaker 2: interesting one, thirteen one oh six five is the number?

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Speaker 2: Is it ever okay to fall in love with your

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Speaker 2: friend's partner? You think yes, will because you can't control it.

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Speaker 2: If you do forge these feelings for a mate's partner,

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Speaker 2: What do you do and you like? Do you do

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Speaker 2: you bring it up? Or do you just catch the

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Speaker 2: first flight to Juarez?

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Speaker 3: Ask Gamber? Yeah, Chi can chicken and lightness? Amber? Can

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Speaker 3: you fall in love with your mate's partner?

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Speaker 1: Absolutely not?

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Speaker 2: So how do you control it? Though? Amber?

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Speaker 4: Well, you don't take.

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Speaker 1: Your mates your friend out for dinner and movies and

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Speaker 1: brush her hair and wash her hair in the shower.

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Speaker 2: Do that's definitely a good way to go about it.

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Speaker 2: Definitely don't do that.

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Speaker 3: You're not talking about doing that though. We were just

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Speaker 3: saying can you fall in love?

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Speaker 1: Do you fall in love with somebody liking someone's it's different,

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Speaker 1: but to fall in love with them a specialist, I

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Speaker 1: don't know.

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Speaker 3: I have them pretty quickly in my experience, I don't

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Speaker 3: have to be brushing their hair and giving them a

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Speaker 3: shower to fall in love with them. And then what

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Speaker 3: she's in, well, give a bath and have to fall

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Speaker 3: in love with them. Well, so she Yeah, had a

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Speaker 3: couple of conversations. I would have thought straight to having

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Speaker 2: But so can you stop it? At some point that

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Speaker 2: I would say, agreeing with am but to an extent,

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Speaker 2: I'd say, if you're at a dinner part and you're

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Speaker 2: maybe going like I'm really getting along with let's just

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Speaker 2: say the name Sofia, Yeah, I would Then I think

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Speaker 2: if it was my friend's partner, I would go, I

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Speaker 2: need to distance myself from Sofia. And so that's what

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Speaker 2: Amber was saying, don't don't then take Sofia out for

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Speaker 2: dinner and brush her hair and have a bath with

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Speaker 2: her or whatever else she was saying there, So I

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Speaker 2: can understand that.

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Speaker 3: Well, look, I don't know. I think I think that

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Speaker 3: it really depends where your priorities lie as well, doesn't it?

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Speaker 3: I mean, like you know, does it? Because if the

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Speaker 3: person you're with loves you, if they love you, then

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Speaker 3: then they will let you explore something that you should

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Speaker 3: be able to explore.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a progressive thought, though it'll be hard to

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Speaker 2: get that mindset my friends.

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Speaker 3: I don't think it's that out real. H let's go

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Speaker 3: to Lyndall.

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Speaker 2: Lindall, this situation is close to you falling for a

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Speaker 2: friend's partner.

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Speaker 1: Unfortunately, Yes, not myself though, but I do have a

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Speaker 1: girlfriend and she's married, and she's fallen in love with

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Speaker 1: another girlfriend's husband, and they're both doing the deed behind

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Speaker 1: in the see that I don't agree with.

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Speaker 3: The secrecy and the lies is where people get.

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Speaker 1: Hurt and everybody else knows. We all know that, all

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Speaker 1: the friends know Linda.

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Speaker 2: As a friend. At some point, do you want to

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Speaker 2: say sathing or are you talking to the to the

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Speaker 2: you know, the cheating friend and saying hey, if you

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Speaker 2: don't say sathing, I will well.

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Speaker 1: To be honest, I had to just back off. Couldn't

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Speaker 1: handle it anymore. And I certainly wouldn't want to around

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Speaker 1: my partner, that's for sure.

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Speaker 3: So no, and this is this, see Lindall, there's a

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Speaker 3: distinction here because, as I said, you can't help her

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Speaker 3: you fall in love with. But but what you can

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Speaker 3: help is lying to people. Yes no for me, yes,

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Speaker 3: because if you're dissecting the dingo behind people's back with

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Speaker 3: somebody else's partner. Big noga, big noga.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but you can fall with someone before dissecting their

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Speaker 2: dingo and then have the conversation. Yeah, absolutely, yeah, yeah, yeah, let's.

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Speaker 3: Meet as soon as you are in and around the dingo.

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Speaker 3: You got to back out if you're not being honest

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Speaker 3: with each other.

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Speaker 2: Yes, let's go to tea here thirty one six y

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Speaker 2: five tier. You've also got some personal experience here with

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Speaker 2: falling in love with with a friend's partner.

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Speaker 5: Well, yeah, so it sort of happened to me, and

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Speaker 5: so I had a partner at the time, obviously an

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Speaker 5: X right now, and my friend just came to me

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Speaker 5: and said, hey, listen, like, I've fallen in love with

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Speaker 5: this guy. He's so like just like the guy of

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Speaker 5: my dreams. And I'm like, all right, but what's going

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Speaker 5: to happen after this? Obviously, you know what, She had

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Speaker 5: so much respect to tell me, obviously.

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Speaker 4: About the issue, and then I don't know, nothing progressed,

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Speaker 4: but end of the day, because she valued our friendship

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Speaker 4: over asked this guy that when on the day nothing happened,

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Speaker 4: then yes, what.

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Speaker 2: Hang one, are you saying that you allowed her to

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Speaker 2: go on a date.

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Speaker 5: Well, that's the thing I would like.

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Speaker 3: If you love this, thank you to you? What are

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Speaker 3: you going to do? You can't get in the way.

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Speaker 3: The heart doesn't lie, You can't get in the way

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Speaker 3: this sort of get You can pretend it didn't happen.

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Speaker 3: You can carry on. But that's where the hurt happens

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Speaker 3: for mine.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, wow, tell you like allowing that to happen. And

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Speaker 2: I mean, obviously it didn't work out anyway. The block's

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Speaker 2: missed out on both fronts. What's that?

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Speaker 5: Would you do that? So?

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Speaker 2: If I found out that one of my friends was

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Speaker 2: in love with Mimi.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're good. I'm glad we're calling your partner with there,

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Speaker 3: I'd kill him. Yeah right. More of the boys on

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Speaker 3: the Poor Show podcast.

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Speaker 2: You know you want to