WEBVTT - #129 It's Finally Caught Up To Me

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know one thing I hate at a kid's

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<v Speaker 1>path meth addicts? No, I like them, they're they're good fun.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, what do I hate? What do you hate? Can

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<v Speaker 2>I have one more guess?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes? What would Ash hate? Should I just get to it?

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<v Speaker 2>Bubblers that don't work?

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<v Speaker 1>No? I hate the flying fox. When you go to

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<v Speaker 1>a park that has a big flying fox. Have you

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<v Speaker 1>seen those? They're great, great fun. But I always get

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<v Speaker 1>roped into the one parent who keeps going back and forth,

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<v Speaker 1>but for not just my kid, all the kids that

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<v Speaker 1>join in. What do you mean, how are you getting

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<v Speaker 1>roped into that? Okay, so I go with Oscar one second.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome back to two doting dads. I'm Maddie Jay and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Ash. This is a podcast all about parenting. It

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<v Speaker 2>is the good, it is the bad. And look, we

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<v Speaker 2>don't give any advice. But what we do do do

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<v Speaker 2>do is talk about flying foxes. Continue we do do.

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<v Speaker 1>Indeed talk about flying foxes. So Oscar just bear with me, Oscar, Daddy,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to go on the flying fox. No problems,

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<v Speaker 1>go over, help him onto the flying fox. It goes down,

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<v Speaker 1>you've got to bring it back up. Usually you'd bring

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<v Speaker 1>it back up for the next parent to help their

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<v Speaker 1>child on. But for some reason, every time I do

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<v Speaker 1>it with Oscar, I go to take it back. There's

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<v Speaker 1>no other parent and there's like ten kids, and then

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<v Speaker 1>they all can't reach it, so I've got to go

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<v Speaker 1>back and forth and back and forth.

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<v Speaker 2>Feel like the age of a child to use a

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<v Speaker 2>flying fox without parental supervision is around about five. Anything

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<v Speaker 2>under concerning anything out.

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<v Speaker 1>Of that, I'm looking for consent from a parent.

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<v Speaker 2>Would you hand a four year old a flying fox

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<v Speaker 2>unaccompanied by an adult?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, you got it, man, you got it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a a harsh world out there, and these kids

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<v Speaker 2>need to learn.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but the thing is like, what, like why can't

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<v Speaker 1>other parents come over and help me?

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<v Speaker 2>They just yeah, they're like it's okay, no do it

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<v Speaker 2>because they're like, oh my god, look at that good

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<v Speaker 2>Samaradan dad out there who's relaying like back and forth.

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<v Speaker 1>I hate that you have set this up, You set

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<v Speaker 1>the standard. I hate that so much. You just want

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<v Speaker 1>to I've got I had two kids. If I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to do that for ten kids, I would have had

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<v Speaker 1>ten kids. Fuck the other kids to stop them, just

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<v Speaker 1>push them off. You reckon, just like another parent they don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been starting, like all of Christmas holidays, we would

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<v Speaker 1>go to this one park called Flying Fox Park. If

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<v Speaker 1>you go to a flying Fox park with your kids,

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<v Speaker 1>the expectation is that you have to help your kid

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<v Speaker 1>on the flying Fox, not a random other parent. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>It's unlike you to be so caring. I don't care.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just I wouldn't.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't. I wouldn't expect you to be the one.

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<v Speaker 2>Who being like that idiot dad helping out all these

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<v Speaker 2>other kids who doesn't even know.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's me.

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<v Speaker 2>It's weird. Why how have you? How has this happened?

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<v Speaker 1>It just happened too many times in the heat of summer.

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<v Speaker 1>But just tell us, like, that's the thing. Then I

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<v Speaker 1>have to deprive my kid from going on it. So

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<v Speaker 1>now I was like, can we go? I'm like, oh, soon, soon, soon,

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<v Speaker 1>we're doing something else because I know as soon as

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<v Speaker 1>I go over there, Timmy, Jimmy, Sally and Susie, you're

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<v Speaker 1>going to come up and I'm doing laps of the

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<v Speaker 1>flying Fox. Let him, let him be, let him suffer. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>then they're just going to stand there. That's life, bro,

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<v Speaker 1>that is life.

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<v Speaker 2>Flying Fox Park is really just a lesson for what

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<v Speaker 2>life is like in the real world.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if you're on my side or not.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know either. I had a little session at

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<v Speaker 2>the park. Hang on, I got a sneeze. One second.

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<v Speaker 1>You're a plane. That was good, bless you. I reckon

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<v Speaker 1>it was a cessna. You are autistic. You're a divergent actually, which.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll get into later. Before before we do that, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>before do that. Do you remember Tom Williams from Benhams

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<v Speaker 2>and Gardens. Tom Williams very handsome man, what.

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<v Speaker 1>I recall, very hand gorgeous. He's a bit older than us.

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<v Speaker 2>Right now, he's I think he's let me just check,

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<v Speaker 2>can confirm that his age. He's fifty four, Still gorgeous, stunning.

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<v Speaker 2>He's a carpenter. Imagine that rocking up to your house

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<v Speaker 2>to fix your back, like.

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<v Speaker 1>Hire a hubby. Yeah, imagine if I know what sort

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<v Speaker 1>of person he would be on a night out. You

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<v Speaker 1>know what you're getting right there?

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<v Speaker 2>What are you getting? Don't disrespect him? I'm not What

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<v Speaker 2>are you getting? I don't want to say, because I'll

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<v Speaker 2>just respect him.

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<v Speaker 1>He's the loveliest, but the haircut. He's probably really lovely guy.

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<v Speaker 1>That haircut back in the day, screamed one thing.

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<v Speaker 2>We all had haircuts like that. He has like a

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<v Speaker 2>bit for those he has a bit of a mohawk

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<v Speaker 2>kind of cut. But he saved my life.

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<v Speaker 1>He looks like Ben Cousins, look like Ben Cousins, and

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<v Speaker 1>we all know what he was about.

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<v Speaker 2>How do you how doare you compare the two? He

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<v Speaker 2>saved my life. I was at a park literally or

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<v Speaker 2>just literally. I was back back in the od stomping

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<v Speaker 2>ground around Bondai. Decided Thursday Daddy day. Take my kid

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<v Speaker 2>plus my niece from the jungle to the urban jungle.

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<v Speaker 2>Some might say, very good from you, Thank you. You should

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<v Speaker 2>be a copywriter.

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<v Speaker 1>That's it for me.

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<v Speaker 2>Went to what's called not Flying Fox Park rocket Ship Park.

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<v Speaker 1>We have a rocket ship park too.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not about you, it's about me. Isn't have a

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<v Speaker 2>big rocket in the middle, hence the name it does

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<v Speaker 2>you know your rocket ship? It was a chain of

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<v Speaker 2>parks called rocket Ship Park. It's a great park. It's

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<v Speaker 2>a cracking park. I've just finished. It's really beautiful. Went there,

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<v Speaker 2>went there, must have been there for like I want

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<v Speaker 2>to say, were there for about five minutes.

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<v Speaker 1>What happened started raining. Oh yeah, I don't have enough.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't have any cover, no cover at the rocket

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<v Speaker 1>Ship parks. It's the cover. The rocket ship's too high

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<v Speaker 1>for cover. It's a nightmare.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's it's the Achilles heel of the rocket ship.

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<v Speaker 2>The rain. Yeah, it's over, it's over. So I was,

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<v Speaker 2>I did. There's a metal slide and Laola was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going on it, and I was like, oh nuts.

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<v Speaker 2>You know when metal gets wet, it gets very slippery.

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<v Speaker 2>She she flew out of there. You know, you know

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<v Speaker 2>when something's happening and it text you a second to realize,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was, I was about three meters away from

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<v Speaker 2>the slide, but I saw her flying down.

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<v Speaker 1>I just kind of went. I was frozen. She flying

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<v Speaker 1>off the end and she it was like long jump.

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<v Speaker 1>She must have got four meters straight onto her like

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<v Speaker 1>bumps straight onto the back. Combo were like, was it

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<v Speaker 1>like it was?

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<v Speaker 2>Thank Heaven, it's the rocket ship parks. All the new

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<v Speaker 2>ones have soft landing parks.

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<v Speaker 1>Would have been like back in parents. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I went too fast in the slide.

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<v Speaker 2>She would have had a bottom skin. Luckily she was okay.

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<v Speaker 2>But then I was like, this is too dangerous. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>pulling the pin on the rocket ship park. Okay, problem, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't have a car, it's with him walking. Just nah,

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<v Speaker 2>I got the bus there, didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>I bustin they've got a bus. I got the basket

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<v Speaker 1>of the bus.

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<v Speaker 2>But the issue is ash issue is it was a

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<v Speaker 2>bit of a walk from the bus stop, so I

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<v Speaker 2>couldn't get a bus back home. Tried to call a

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<v Speaker 2>TAXI couldn't get my mate.

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<v Speaker 1>Why do they even have a phone number anymore? Like

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<v Speaker 1>you just sit there on all day to fifteen minutes.

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<v Speaker 1>It reminds me of the city to serve.

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<v Speaker 2>Remember, yes, can we just allow children, babies and ubers,

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<v Speaker 2>like if they're allowed in calves, let them in an

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<v Speaker 2>uber without.

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<v Speaker 1>A baby seat.

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<v Speaker 2>Canning, Queensland may change the rules. We're living in the

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<v Speaker 2>dark ages here in New South Wales.

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<v Speaker 1>State state by state laws is a joke.

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<v Speaker 2>Isn't there an election coming up? We should campaign the

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<v Speaker 2>dad party the dad party no baby seats and ubers?

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<v Speaker 1>That could be no, yeah, that could be our main thing,

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<v Speaker 1>Like any man, woman or child should be able to

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<v Speaker 1>ride an uber without discrimination.

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<v Speaker 2>And more parental supervision at Flying Fox Parks.

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<v Speaker 1>More shade and more cover. Oh, we are onto something.

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<v Speaker 1>This is good. Think of the people that would actually,

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<v Speaker 1>can you please look up how to create a political party? Please?

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes. Also, just to put another spanner in the works,

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<v Speaker 2>I had my knees. I had Lola. Guess who else

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<v Speaker 2>I had?

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<v Speaker 1>Nana had Nana.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what nana's are like in the wet Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know who.

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<v Speaker 1>I was more worried about Lola. On Nana.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, don't touch, that's OK, You're fine, And

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, how the hell am I going to get home?

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<v Speaker 2>And then out of nowhere, Tom Williams. Tom Williams comes

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<v Speaker 2>walking through the park. He's just finished a meeting. Walking Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>he don't tell me. He piggybacked you all and he said.

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<v Speaker 1>What are you doing?

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<v Speaker 2>And I said, I'm trying to get home, and he goes,

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<v Speaker 2>don't worry, you can hop in my car.

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<v Speaker 1>And Lola was like, who is this guy? Not a stranger?

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<v Speaker 1>Nana was very happy to get the car of time.

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<v Speaker 1>Was she in front seat? No?

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<v Speaker 2>I put her in the back. Smart Tom Williams saved

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<v Speaker 2>my life.

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<v Speaker 1>That it's just dad's looking out for each other, just

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<v Speaker 1>one dad to another, one dad to another. So vote

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<v Speaker 1>one the political the dad political party. We look out.

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<v Speaker 1>We call it the party for the Dad party.

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<v Speaker 2>Like it's I now have to like with that good deed.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I'm now looking to give my good deed

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<v Speaker 2>to another parent. You don't need any good deeds.

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<v Speaker 1>You're fine. Well I'm not, actually, and I have a

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<v Speaker 1>story about that. Not fine. Hemorrhoids. Hemorrhoids about the hemorrhoids

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<v Speaker 1>were vicious while you were gone, And that was from

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<v Speaker 1>stress because stressed about you. I was worried about you,

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<v Speaker 1>not about me or my terrible lifestyle and my horrible

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<v Speaker 1>habits had nothing to do with that. It's all stress.

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<v Speaker 1>But we have some answers Matthew to why I am

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<v Speaker 1>like the way that I am? Okay, it's formal, so

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<v Speaker 1>we always joke. We joke a lot on these podcasts

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<v Speaker 1>about the poster boy for a particular it's a disorder disorder. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>there's got enough d's in there to add of disorder.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a disorder. I have formerly been diagnosed bias like

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<v Speaker 1>high triss as a severe let me finish a severe

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<v Speaker 1>case of adult ADHD. Do we class? Look, I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>know what to do. I was like, congratulations, I can't

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<v Speaker 1>say I'm surprised. I'm not surprised. We all knew. Now

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<v Speaker 1>that I know, it's it's way worse. I'm just like,

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<v Speaker 1>I found myself yesterday. Better. It's better the disorder. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, Yeah, I found myself yesterday. We're at the

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<v Speaker 1>PM's house for that thing you're doing, and I was

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<v Speaker 1>like staring off into the like into no man's landlight,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I'd be like, oh, oh shit. If someone's

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<v Speaker 1>like talking, was like ash, just this echo, like yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's quite a long process. I thought Matt's scaring at

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<v Speaker 1>the jungle and he pulled my finger out and do

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<v Speaker 1>something for myself off here? And can I ask?

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<v Speaker 2>Can I ask what made you want to get tested?

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<v Speaker 2>Because you've you're now in your.

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<v Speaker 1>About one hundred and seventeen episodes of this podcast. I

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<v Speaker 1>listened back to all them. I was like, Fuck, that

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<v Speaker 1>guy needs some help.

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<v Speaker 2>Because you kind of think you've come this far. You're

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<v Speaker 2>in your mid thirties, you come this far, you know surely,

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<v Speaker 2>surely you know you're fine.

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<v Speaker 1>No, it's getting worse. It's getting progressively worse. Really in

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<v Speaker 1>what way? Look, I know I know that I've always

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<v Speaker 1>had problems focusing. I know that I always I'm real scattery,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm real up and down, I move everything.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't? I'm happy? Shut up? And honestly it was I

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<v Speaker 1>knew it was getting worse. And then I started to

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<v Speaker 1>pay attention to some things that Oscar would do and

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<v Speaker 1>how okay, and you know he's five, he's he's you

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<v Speaker 1>know not. He just reminded me so much of what

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<v Speaker 1>of what I what like my brain and like what

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<v Speaker 1>the mannerisms and things like he cannot focus on anything?

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<v Speaker 1>What was Oscar doing that? He can't focus on me,

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<v Speaker 1>but he can hyper focus on a small on a

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<v Speaker 1>one small task and like for me, I used to

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<v Speaker 1>be able to hyper focus on things. And then can

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<v Speaker 1>I just refresh your memory? And I you know this,

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<v Speaker 1>But for the listeners, Ash, I don't know what it was.

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<v Speaker 1>But he was like, I'm really into Pokemon cards and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, what do you mean?

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<v Speaker 2>And you would watch you would watch people live stream

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<v Speaker 2>opening Pokemon cards and then you started collecting Pokemon cards.

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<v Speaker 1>And now I'm in severe debt.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeap just you were like locked into Pokemon car locked in.

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<v Speaker 1>Still bro, I am locked in. Actually I guess I

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<v Speaker 1>can harp a focus on that. But like I would

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<v Speaker 1>find that, I was like, Okay, well I can't. I can't.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm starting to become as focused as Oscar is, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm an adult who like should be able to focus on.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't read an email. I can read like a

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<v Speaker 1>head of an email. I could learn a new skill

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<v Speaker 1>like Rubik's cube. Took me one day to learn the

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<v Speaker 1>Rubik's cube, you know what I mean. But I can't.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't form a new habit. I can't build a

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<v Speaker 1>new habit, like just shit like that. And it's progressively

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<v Speaker 1>getting worse to the point where like I'm unmotivated to

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<v Speaker 1>do anything, like I'm unmotivated to get out of bed,

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<v Speaker 1>all this sort of stuff. That it was like, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>probably need to do something about it. Do you remember

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<v Speaker 1>and tell me if this is the case or not.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you remember?

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<v Speaker 2>It must have been like six months ago we had

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<v Speaker 2>a conversation about potentially getting diagnosed, and you said something

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<v Speaker 2>along the lines of you don't want to get medicated

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<v Speaker 2>because it's going to change who you are.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a common concern they say it because it's like

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<v Speaker 1>we talk about ADHD as you know, like a disorder

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<v Speaker 1>like a it's really bad, but it's also a superpowerful.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of people, Like the psychiatrist said to me,

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<v Speaker 1>he said, you've gotten as far as you have done

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<v Speaker 1>now with what's going on in your head, but you're

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<v Speaker 1>obviously at a point in your life where you need

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<v Speaker 1>you need. I need to be able to create a routine,

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<v Speaker 1>have some sort of structure. I need to be able

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<v Speaker 1>to sleep properly. Like this's so like it takes me

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<v Speaker 1>like four hours to go to sleep. I'll just lay

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<v Speaker 1>there bro and my head will just just run the

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<v Speaker 1>whole time, the biggest one. And you'll notice it when

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<v Speaker 1>and you probably already notice it when that I noticed

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<v Speaker 1>when I come on the phone to someone and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>invested in our conversation and something so minute will get

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<v Speaker 1>my attention and I'll pull on that piece of string

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<v Speaker 1>and the complete conversation changes to me just I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>there anymore. And I've gotten to the point where I'm

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<v Speaker 1>doing that to family and stuff like that, and I'll

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<v Speaker 1>get off the phone and I'll go, fuck, I just

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<v Speaker 1>did that again. I'll have to ring, Like I rang

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<v Speaker 1>my sister back up yesterday and I was like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so sorry. You would having an actual important conversation with me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I didn't digest him. I didn't digest the back

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<v Speaker 1>end of I don't even know what happened because something

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<v Speaker 1>had caught my eye and I cannot refocus on that conversation.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's tough because obviously your sister's going to be

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<v Speaker 2>very sympathetic because she understands you and you and who

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<v Speaker 2>you are. But I guess other people might be like

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<v Speaker 2>fuck ash, like that's.

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<v Speaker 1>Rude so many people, and I feel really bad. So

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<v Speaker 1>if you are on the phone to me and I

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<v Speaker 1>do tune out, it's a disorder now, okay, but yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's yeah, it just was getting to the point where

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<v Speaker 1>I have that's just put yourself in my shoes for

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<v Speaker 1>a moment. No motivation, no routine, no structure, no goals,

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<v Speaker 1>no interests. Like I was just like a blob. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>pretty much. And it's like I can't. It really really

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<v Speaker 1>hit me when I surfed the wavepool before you it

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<v Speaker 1>was before you left or during your left, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I did hurt my back on the same session, but

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<v Speaker 1>I literally paddled out and I was like, I fucking

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<v Speaker 1>hate this and it was like why though, why is that?

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<v Speaker 1>Like why is your brain now associating this with something

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<v Speaker 1>that you hate, Like, yeah, is it because maybe that

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<v Speaker 1>I put too much pressure on myself to be the

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<v Speaker 1>best that I can be, but I don't have the

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<v Speaker 1>patience to work to be the best I could be.

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<v Speaker 2>So what was the process? Because I remember you saying

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<v Speaker 2>it was hard. I know you were kind of like

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<v Speaker 2>tiptoeing around getting tested. But it's not just a simple

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<v Speaker 2>make an appointment. Oh yeah, you like to do this test?

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<v Speaker 1>You have it? What does it look like? Step by step?

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<v Speaker 1>So this is the second time I've been down it

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<v Speaker 1>because we spoke about it last year. But it was

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<v Speaker 1>the referral I got then was to a particular clinic

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<v Speaker 1>that feel like they were quite big. So you sort

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<v Speaker 1>of get you sort of go into the conveyor belt

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<v Speaker 1>of process, if you will. And I felt like the

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<v Speaker 1>information was like the step was like it felt like

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<v Speaker 1>the test, you know what I mean? It was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to get through all this shit. I

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<v Speaker 1>can't focus on one thing. How do you want me

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<v Speaker 1>to focus on fifteen different things before I can see

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<v Speaker 1>a psychiatrist who to say, Okay, what's going on, which

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<v Speaker 1>probably deters a lot of people. I got really lucky

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<v Speaker 1>because of Kisha. Keisha's such an advocate for it.

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<v Speaker 2>For people who don't know. It's Keisha from Life Uncut.

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<v Speaker 1>She created Cloud, which is on the Life on Cut network,

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<v Speaker 1>which is a podcast all about ADHD, and she was

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<v Speaker 1>able to point me in the right direction of how

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<v Speaker 1>she went through it where it wasn't as painful, which look,

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<v Speaker 1>the steps are essentially the same, but there was more

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<v Speaker 1>guidance instead of just being like, here go, this is

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<v Speaker 1>what you need to do because you're one of a

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<v Speaker 1>million people in this in the in the start of

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<v Speaker 1>this clinic here where you need to go do this,

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<v Speaker 1>do that? Do this? Do that? What do they make

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<v Speaker 1>you do? So stuff Like there's a lot of like

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<v Speaker 1>cognitive testing, Like when you go for a new job

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<v Speaker 1>in a corporate situation ago, you go through an online questionnaire. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's long. Again, you feel like this is the

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<v Speaker 1>ADHD test, but it's just to find out what sort

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<v Speaker 1>of person you are, Like what what makes you tick?

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<v Speaker 1>What doesn't make your tick? Are you depressed? Are you sad? So?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you do that?

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<v Speaker 2>You do that test and then what happens after that?

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<v Speaker 1>You've got to they say that you need to provide

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<v Speaker 1>some like character references. Why I wasn't I called up?

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<v Speaker 1>Uh what do you think it was? Like? Thankfully you

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<v Speaker 1>don't necessarily have to I think there is you do

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<v Speaker 1>enough cognitive testing about your character, and then they're also

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<v Speaker 1>asked for like penis. I don't know, I haven't seen

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<v Speaker 1>it in ages, and it's like like old school reports

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<v Speaker 1>and stuff like that, because there's no way you would

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<v Speaker 1>have had that. Oh no, no, definitely not no, no no.

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<v Speaker 1>And thankfully through this channel, I didn't have to do

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<v Speaker 1>any of that. So like your reports would have said,

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<v Speaker 1>easily distracted bam. Yeah, losers focus bam, cannot focus on

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<v Speaker 1>tausk bam. My advice to anyone who's who wants to

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<v Speaker 1>go down the track and looks at it and goes, fuck,

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<v Speaker 1>it looks like a long thing. Just do your due

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<v Speaker 1>diligence on where you do it. Because this was really

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<v Speaker 1>quick opposed to it being really really long. So this

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<v Speaker 1>was like a couple of week wait to see a

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<v Speaker 1>psychiatrist off the back of your testing.

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<v Speaker 2>It was telehealth. We spent an hour together. So just

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<v Speaker 2>so I know, so you've done your online online test,

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<v Speaker 2>I'll go from.

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<v Speaker 1>Stuff GP to with your concerns as you should do

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<v Speaker 1>with everything. Really, go and see your GP. Just tell

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<v Speaker 1>them what's going on and what makes you think, and

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<v Speaker 1>they'll ask you some general questions there too, because they're

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<v Speaker 1>trained to do so as well. But then they'll go, O,

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<v Speaker 1>do you have a clinic in mind, which thankfully from

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<v Speaker 1>Keisha I did, and then you essentially the referel goes

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<v Speaker 1>to them, They reach out to you. They essentially give

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<v Speaker 1>you all the information about what comes next.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm really dumb here, but is a clinic like an

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<v Speaker 2>ADHD clinic?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Yeah, it's like an ADHD clinic and like like

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<v Speaker 1>brain neurodiversion, they specialize and all that sort of stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>And then you do the online. Yeah, they sort of

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<v Speaker 1>give what's going to happen next. And the cost. That's

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<v Speaker 1>another thing too. It's because how much does it costs?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh look, it's like it's upwards as three grands. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>it's not cheap, it's not cheap. Wow, it's for me.

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<v Speaker 1>I was at a point where I felt like I

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<v Speaker 1>needed to invest it so that I don't essentially become

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<v Speaker 1>you know, depressed really, because it's where it was headed. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it was headed to like impacting you that much. It

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<v Speaker 1>was impacting you to the point where there was thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>of suicide, like just completely honest, like very minor. But

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<v Speaker 1>I've felt that before, but I thought, this is getting

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<v Speaker 1>worse and this is the trigger for that. It was

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<v Speaker 1>sort of like for me, that was my how I

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<v Speaker 1>felt because I had no motivation, no, no structure, no no, no, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>don't don't don't at all. Like I've I've sort of

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<v Speaker 1>stuffered with this sort of stuff for long and a

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<v Speaker 1>half that I'm like, okay, well, but what was getting

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<v Speaker 1>me down was that I couldn't. I would do the thing.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, here's an example, like you would go, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to do this, right. See what you do

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<v Speaker 1>is you put the steps in place to get to there.

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<v Speaker 1>I would go, I want to do this, get to

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<v Speaker 1>the first step in my brain and go this is

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<v Speaker 1>all too hard and that's it, you know, Like here's

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<v Speaker 1>a good one. I started doing laps at the pool.

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<v Speaker 1>So what did I bought? Like one hundred dollars pair

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<v Speaker 1>of goggles. They're still in the packet and that was

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<v Speaker 1>two weeks ago. Yeah, yeah, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, so after after you do your you went to

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<v Speaker 2>the clinic, did are you testing there? And is that

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<v Speaker 2>off the back of that, do they say you like

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<v Speaker 2>you have it?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, yeah, so you do the testing and then you

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<v Speaker 1>have your consultation with with a psychiatrist, and there's a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>They dive into a lot like childhood, family life, both

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<v Speaker 1>your immediate family and then obviously my wife and kids,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, school and hobbies and habits like alcohol,

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<v Speaker 1>drug or they do into everything in a family loss. Look,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're not at a position where you want to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about all that stuff, then maybe it's not worth

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<v Speaker 1>going down there. Front. It's really confronted. It's like exhausting.

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<v Speaker 1>At the end of it, you're like fuck like like

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<v Speaker 1>it's like a it's a proper therapy session, which thankfully

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<v Speaker 1>I've got some experience in so I wasn't, but I

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<v Speaker 1>can imagine if that's your first Oh yeah, you'd be

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<v Speaker 1>like holy Like I had to take it in the

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<v Speaker 1>car because it's just like I needed zero distractions. I

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<v Speaker 1>just needed to I was like, if I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>spend all this money and do it to improve my life,

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<v Speaker 1>I need to just lock myself away and get it done.

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<v Speaker 1>And then, based off that in the conversation, he said, look,

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<v Speaker 1>in my professional opinion you do have adult ADHD along

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<v Speaker 1>with there's a couple other things that's in the They

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<v Speaker 1>give you a diagnosis, which is the diagnosis goes back

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<v Speaker 1>to my GP for next steps, which is next steps

0:23:23.840 --> 0:23:27.119
<v Speaker 1>is blood work ECG and for me, blood work and

0:23:27.160 --> 0:23:29.159
<v Speaker 1>ECG is really important because I've got heart disease. Out

0:23:29.400 --> 0:23:33.080
<v Speaker 1>for medication, for medication, yeah, because he openly says, hey,

0:23:33.280 --> 0:23:37.680
<v Speaker 1>we can treat this with medication whatever that's going to

0:23:37.720 --> 0:23:41.240
<v Speaker 1>look like, I don't know yet, or we can. You

0:23:41.320 --> 0:23:45.800
<v Speaker 1>can look at you unpacking. It's like a fast way

0:23:45.880 --> 0:23:48.639
<v Speaker 1>or slow like that's the way they put it. And

0:23:48.720 --> 0:23:51.879
<v Speaker 1>I was like, look, I'm open to being medicated, but

0:23:52.040 --> 0:23:53.959
<v Speaker 1>that's what I was worried about losing my spark, right,

0:23:54.000 --> 0:23:55.680
<v Speaker 1>I was losing like I didn't want to lose my

0:23:55.760 --> 0:23:59.280
<v Speaker 1>personality and will lose how my brain works in certain ways.

0:23:59.320 --> 0:24:01.160
<v Speaker 1>And he was like, no, no, I will. Yeah.

0:24:01.200 --> 0:24:04.479
<v Speaker 2>But then at the same time you talk about your spark,

0:24:04.880 --> 0:24:09.080
<v Speaker 2>it's like, I don't I look think about that moment

0:24:09.080 --> 0:24:11.840
<v Speaker 2>where you say you're thinking about self harm and you're like, well,

0:24:11.880 --> 0:24:14.320
<v Speaker 2>that's not it's not helping it. It's it's not a

0:24:14.359 --> 0:24:15.320
<v Speaker 2>spark that you think it is.

0:24:16.000 --> 0:24:19.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, there's always like the negative side to my

0:24:19.960 --> 0:24:23.680
<v Speaker 1>brain and the personality that I have. But he said

0:24:23.680 --> 0:24:25.840
<v Speaker 1>to me, no, no, no, He's like, look, what we

0:24:25.960 --> 0:24:28.520
<v Speaker 1>can do is we can look to just make it

0:24:28.640 --> 0:24:32.040
<v Speaker 1>easier for you to focus on tasks and and and

0:24:32.400 --> 0:24:35.400
<v Speaker 1>achieve smaller goals than just being like, here's something kind

0:24:35.400 --> 0:24:37.440
<v Speaker 1>of completely dull who you are as a person for

0:24:37.520 --> 0:24:40.400
<v Speaker 1>the rest of your life. And that's a big stigma

0:24:40.480 --> 0:24:44.760
<v Speaker 1>around medication. When I'm medicated already now and I have

0:24:44.880 --> 0:24:48.080
<v Speaker 1>been for years, but it's like before that, I was like,

0:24:48.760 --> 0:24:50.479
<v Speaker 1>I didn't want to be medicated because I didn't want

0:24:50.480 --> 0:24:53.160
<v Speaker 1>to be seen as that person who's medicated. Right, it's

0:24:53.240 --> 0:24:56.399
<v Speaker 1>like he's had like a lobotomy, yeah, essentially, and like

0:24:56.840 --> 0:24:59.800
<v Speaker 1>but then once I went down the process the first

0:24:59.800 --> 0:25:03.680
<v Speaker 1>time with you know, with that, it's like, it's not

0:25:03.800 --> 0:25:04.200
<v Speaker 1>that bad.

0:25:05.000 --> 0:25:10.000
<v Speaker 2>Do they when you say severe? Is there like a scale?

0:25:10.160 --> 0:25:11.040
<v Speaker 2>Is it like between?

0:25:11.240 --> 0:25:14.000
<v Speaker 1>I guess it's just his medical opinion, right, He's like, Okay,

0:25:14.000 --> 0:25:15.960
<v Speaker 1>well I've heard you. I've heard what you're like, what

0:25:16.080 --> 0:25:19.080
<v Speaker 1>your brain's like, and they're very good at like drawing

0:25:19.200 --> 0:25:21.879
<v Speaker 1>stuff out of you that they are trained to do,

0:25:22.119 --> 0:25:22.880
<v Speaker 1>right if.

0:25:22.760 --> 0:25:26.159
<v Speaker 2>They could, But it's kind of I guess. On the

0:25:26.240 --> 0:25:29.120
<v Speaker 2>one hand, it's kind of daunting to know like, Okay,

0:25:29.119 --> 0:25:30.960
<v Speaker 2>I've actually got this thing now, But then at the

0:25:31.000 --> 0:25:34.760
<v Speaker 2>same time, it must be nice in a sense to know, like, hey,

0:25:34.840 --> 0:25:38.560
<v Speaker 2>it's you know, I've been living with this thing which

0:25:38.600 --> 0:25:40.840
<v Speaker 2>has been hindering me for so long. It's not you,

0:25:41.119 --> 0:25:44.840
<v Speaker 2>it's it's like, you know, it makes sense. Yeah, it's

0:25:45.000 --> 0:25:47.200
<v Speaker 2>like now that I'm aware of it.

0:25:47.359 --> 0:25:50.840
<v Speaker 1>And there's certain things that the certain behaviors that I do,

0:25:51.119 --> 0:25:55.480
<v Speaker 1>like like Mike, my doom scrolling is on a fucking

0:25:55.480 --> 0:25:58.480
<v Speaker 1>another level. It's because it's ADHD paralysis. I'm just there

0:25:59.320 --> 0:26:02.640
<v Speaker 1>searching for open mean search and that's the easiest way

0:26:02.680 --> 0:26:05.760
<v Speaker 1>for me to get it without you know, racking up

0:26:06.119 --> 0:26:08.720
<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. Like in that I'm just

0:26:08.800 --> 0:26:12.640
<v Speaker 1>like consistently searching. And it's like it's a known thing

0:26:12.760 --> 0:26:15.200
<v Speaker 1>that you go into a paralysis where you're like, I'm

0:26:15.280 --> 0:26:17.159
<v Speaker 1>just gonna sit here all day in a vortex, and

0:26:17.240 --> 0:26:19.560
<v Speaker 1>I have done that. You know what. The first day

0:26:19.640 --> 0:26:21.639
<v Speaker 1>both kids went back to school, I think you were

0:26:21.680 --> 0:26:24.560
<v Speaker 1>away and I think we had nothing on or whatever.

0:26:24.680 --> 0:26:28.760
<v Speaker 1>I literally sat there till the kids got home. He

0:26:28.920 --> 0:26:32.119
<v Speaker 1>got nothing achieved that day, and it was like, I

0:26:32.320 --> 0:26:35.639
<v Speaker 1>don't have the motivation, nor do I have this drive

0:26:35.880 --> 0:26:38.239
<v Speaker 1>the strength to move off his couch and other than

0:26:38.320 --> 0:26:44.120
<v Speaker 1>just sit there and doom scroll Yeah, maybe joke off. Yeah,

0:26:44.240 --> 0:26:45.080
<v Speaker 1>so that's where we're at.

0:26:45.280 --> 0:26:48.440
<v Speaker 2>Okay, so you haven't had any medication.

0:26:48.840 --> 0:26:52.720
<v Speaker 1>Gotta do blood test ECGs. Then you go and do

0:26:52.920 --> 0:26:56.600
<v Speaker 1>another psych appointment to talk about medications, the pros, the

0:26:56.680 --> 0:26:59.520
<v Speaker 1>con all that sort of stuff. Like another hour, and

0:26:59.680 --> 0:27:02.560
<v Speaker 1>then they see you again, just make any adjustments, and

0:27:02.680 --> 0:27:04.720
<v Speaker 1>then it's up to you how often you want to

0:27:04.760 --> 0:27:07.040
<v Speaker 1>see them, like check in. So like I think Keish

0:27:07.160 --> 0:27:11.159
<v Speaker 1>was saying that she did the first initial appointments and

0:27:11.200 --> 0:27:14.080
<v Speaker 1>they adjusted the medication and everything seems to be working fine.

0:27:14.080 --> 0:27:17.800
<v Speaker 1>But if her if her brain chemistry changes or something changes,

0:27:17.880 --> 0:27:20.520
<v Speaker 1>like maybe she falls pregnant and hormones changed things that

0:27:20.600 --> 0:27:23.000
<v Speaker 1>maybe she might need to change when it came again. Yeah,

0:27:23.040 --> 0:27:25.680
<v Speaker 1>but she's gone through the harder process. Well, dude, I'm

0:27:26.359 --> 0:27:28.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm proud of you. Thank you, very proud of you.

0:27:28.800 --> 0:27:30.800
<v Speaker 1>That's the most serious conversation I've had in a very

0:27:30.840 --> 0:27:31.640
<v Speaker 1>long time. Yeah.

0:27:33.160 --> 0:27:35.720
<v Speaker 2>I think it would have been so easy to kick

0:27:35.800 --> 0:27:37.680
<v Speaker 2>this bucket down the road. A little bit longer, a

0:27:37.680 --> 0:27:41.480
<v Speaker 2>little bit longer, knowing how hard the process is. I think,

0:27:42.040 --> 0:27:44.440
<v Speaker 2>well done, thank you, well done. I feel better about

0:27:44.480 --> 0:27:44.959
<v Speaker 2>it already.

0:27:45.040 --> 0:27:49.040
<v Speaker 1>I mean it's like you said, there's no surprises like

0:27:49.119 --> 0:27:52.760
<v Speaker 1>it was. You know, I can I can have a

0:27:52.840 --> 0:27:54.960
<v Speaker 1>large red Bull and go straight to sleep, like you know,

0:27:55.480 --> 0:27:59.280
<v Speaker 1>you know, it's just yeah, it just got to the

0:27:59.320 --> 0:28:02.720
<v Speaker 1>point where it was like and then I was doing

0:28:02.800 --> 0:28:04.439
<v Speaker 1>I was doing this thing where I was like.

0:28:04.640 --> 0:28:06.760
<v Speaker 2>Wish I'd known this before I started a podcast with you.

0:28:07.000 --> 0:28:13.080
<v Speaker 1>Sorry, it's two years, I'm kidding, kidding, But it was

0:28:13.119 --> 0:28:15.040
<v Speaker 1>getting to the point where I was like, you know,

0:28:15.680 --> 0:28:19.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm not yeah, like I definitely have a problem with alcohol,

0:28:19.600 --> 0:28:22.320
<v Speaker 1>Like well, that's no fucking secret. But it was getting

0:28:22.359 --> 0:28:23.399
<v Speaker 1>to the point where it was like I was just

0:28:23.480 --> 0:28:25.840
<v Speaker 1>drinking because I was just depressed about it. And it

0:28:25.960 --> 0:28:29.520
<v Speaker 1>was like, if I'm gonna be unmotivated to do things,

0:28:29.560 --> 0:28:31.920
<v Speaker 1>I might as well do the things that's like, the

0:28:32.040 --> 0:28:34.920
<v Speaker 1>the easy things that give me some sort of chemical

0:28:34.960 --> 0:28:38.320
<v Speaker 1>in my brain to make me feel a bit better. Anyway,

0:28:38.560 --> 0:28:40.480
<v Speaker 1>here we are, and I'll keep you I'll keep you

0:28:40.560 --> 0:28:43.400
<v Speaker 1>updated when I get back from Vegas. Keep us posting.

0:28:43.440 --> 0:28:47.040
<v Speaker 2>I guess if anyone has any questions specific to your

0:28:47.160 --> 0:28:50.080
<v Speaker 2>process of getting diagnosed, hit us up, let us know.

0:28:50.240 --> 0:28:53.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, for sure, Facebook, Instagram, whatever do you damn me?

0:28:53.640 --> 0:29:02.360
<v Speaker 1>I don't mind. I'll ignore it. Matt, Yes, back from

0:29:02.400 --> 0:29:05.800
<v Speaker 1>the Jungle. But you did miss quite a key moment

0:29:06.000 --> 0:29:08.560
<v Speaker 1>in Marley's life. You did make a little heart symbol

0:29:08.600 --> 0:29:11.320
<v Speaker 1>on TV. You did wish her well from the Jungle,

0:29:11.360 --> 0:29:12.120
<v Speaker 1>which she loved.

0:29:12.160 --> 0:29:14.560
<v Speaker 2>The heart loved her and I felt guilty a few times.

0:29:14.600 --> 0:29:17.160
<v Speaker 2>I'd forget to do it and I'd be like laying

0:29:17.160 --> 0:29:19.640
<v Speaker 2>there and be the first day, like.

0:29:19.680 --> 0:29:22.360
<v Speaker 1>The first recording, first episode, we're all here now, like

0:29:22.400 --> 0:29:27.400
<v Speaker 1>when's he got to do it? And then like eventually

0:29:27.480 --> 0:29:29.560
<v Speaker 1>you did it, like a little like I think when

0:29:29.600 --> 0:29:31.760
<v Speaker 1>you got the opportunity because it was hard. You don't

0:29:31.760 --> 0:29:33.440
<v Speaker 1>know what's going to air, what's not going to air. Yeah,

0:29:33.720 --> 0:29:36.760
<v Speaker 1>but the first day of school, primary school, You've you've

0:29:36.760 --> 0:29:40.400
<v Speaker 1>been back a week or so. Now now she's doing

0:29:40.440 --> 0:29:41.280
<v Speaker 1>she's done really well.

0:29:41.480 --> 0:29:43.760
<v Speaker 2>You've been doing drop offs and stuff, like I've been

0:29:43.840 --> 0:29:47.000
<v Speaker 2>doing drop offs only at the new daycare with Lola,

0:29:47.120 --> 0:29:48.840
<v Speaker 2>so I've kind of been missing school.

0:29:50.120 --> 0:29:52.320
<v Speaker 1>I haven't seen the late great Mandy j come through.

0:29:52.560 --> 0:29:55.400
<v Speaker 2>I went to We actually had a parent teacher night

0:29:55.920 --> 0:30:00.360
<v Speaker 2>where we have this three kindergarten classes and you and

0:30:00.960 --> 0:30:03.760
<v Speaker 2>all the parents go along and it's not one on one.

0:30:03.840 --> 0:30:07.560
<v Speaker 2>It's like the curriculum, and they kind of say like,

0:30:07.600 --> 0:30:10.320
<v Speaker 2>this is what the kids learning, and they made it

0:30:10.400 --> 0:30:12.320
<v Speaker 2>sound really complicated. They were like, so we're going to

0:30:12.320 --> 0:30:15.760
<v Speaker 2>be learning about maths and social studies. And I was

0:30:15.840 --> 0:30:17.680
<v Speaker 2>kind of like, what do you learn about maths? They're like, oh,

0:30:17.800 --> 0:30:21.560
<v Speaker 2>just like they count to ten. Timmy has seven oranges,

0:30:22.240 --> 0:30:25.200
<v Speaker 2>twelves and twelve plum But I was thinking, oh, wow,

0:30:25.200 --> 0:30:28.360
<v Speaker 2>they're teaching some pretty full on stuff here. But no, no, no, no, no, no,

0:30:28.720 --> 0:30:30.440
<v Speaker 2>it's all it's all like, it's all fun times.

0:30:30.720 --> 0:30:33.080
<v Speaker 1>I mean these days, they've obviously got iPads in class.

0:30:33.120 --> 0:30:36.280
<v Speaker 1>They've got like a you know, we have like a

0:30:36.440 --> 0:30:39.120
<v Speaker 1>chalkboard or a fucking whiteboard. They've got like a TV

0:30:39.400 --> 0:30:42.520
<v Speaker 1>screen board. They've got TV scoos at your school, Yeah, dude,

0:30:42.520 --> 0:30:45.200
<v Speaker 1>the whole thing. It's like interactive what I don't know,

0:30:45.480 --> 0:30:46.440
<v Speaker 1>wild public school.

0:30:46.720 --> 0:30:48.560
<v Speaker 2>We're living in the dark ages over here in Bonda.

0:30:48.720 --> 0:30:52.200
<v Speaker 2>We've got whiteboards. Still, you've still got BONDI beach. I

0:30:52.360 --> 0:30:55.080
<v Speaker 2>was like, what is this what is this rubbish? Yeah,

0:30:55.080 --> 0:30:58.080
<v Speaker 2>it's funny how you forget how much kids.

0:30:58.240 --> 0:31:00.640
<v Speaker 1>Froth on a little merit award.

0:31:01.040 --> 0:31:03.640
<v Speaker 2>They had these badge system, so if you are seen

0:31:03.720 --> 0:31:06.640
<v Speaker 2>to be doing something that's like in line with school rules,

0:31:06.680 --> 0:31:09.040
<v Speaker 2>you can get ethics yeah yeah, yeah, and then you

0:31:09.160 --> 0:31:12.040
<v Speaker 2>get these little badges like little tokens, and then if

0:31:12.080 --> 0:31:13.760
<v Speaker 2>you get three tokens, you get a merit award.

0:31:13.800 --> 0:31:15.480
<v Speaker 1>Then if you get two merrit awards, you get.

0:31:15.400 --> 0:31:18.960
<v Speaker 2>Like a Blue Award or something, and it's then you

0:31:19.040 --> 0:31:21.200
<v Speaker 2>get four Blue wards, you get a rid of Week. Yeah,

0:31:21.200 --> 0:31:25.440
<v Speaker 2>and you're like, who cares? But the kids they lose

0:31:25.520 --> 0:31:28.160
<v Speaker 2>their ship. Molly's had one badge so far, like little token,

0:31:28.400 --> 0:31:30.280
<v Speaker 2>and she's like, you're never going to believe what happened.

0:31:30.640 --> 0:31:31.840
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, well what did you get?

0:31:31.880 --> 0:31:33.680
<v Speaker 2>And she's like, I got the token. I amost that

0:31:33.760 --> 0:31:37.160
<v Speaker 2>molays in a run run the world god and losing

0:31:37.240 --> 0:31:42.360
<v Speaker 2>her mind. But she's she's taken a school Yeah fine, yeah,

0:31:42.400 --> 0:31:44.520
<v Speaker 2>same with Oscar. I mean the thing for us like

0:31:44.960 --> 0:31:49.080
<v Speaker 2>that he's frothing on is who's the fastest. That's that's

0:31:49.120 --> 0:31:50.960
<v Speaker 2>what boys do, right, They're like, who's the fastest in

0:31:51.000 --> 0:31:53.560
<v Speaker 2>the school And every week it's different. He's very quick,

0:31:53.800 --> 0:31:56.280
<v Speaker 2>he's very quick, but he was like this kid was

0:31:56.320 --> 0:31:58.440
<v Speaker 2>faster than me last week, but this week was definitely

0:31:58.440 --> 0:31:59.240
<v Speaker 2>faster than him.

0:31:59.640 --> 0:32:01.720
<v Speaker 1>Or like this is so base. Who's I know, I

0:32:01.840 --> 0:32:03.880
<v Speaker 1>know who's the fastest is the best? But all the

0:32:03.920 --> 0:32:09.800
<v Speaker 1>girls like, oh my god, there's that. It was really funny,

0:32:09.960 --> 0:32:12.080
<v Speaker 1>like we've got like a really long track to get

0:32:12.160 --> 0:32:15.840
<v Speaker 1>to school. Yeah, one entrance, one exit, and you know,

0:32:16.000 --> 0:32:17.960
<v Speaker 1>we walk all the way down with him and I

0:32:18.160 --> 0:32:20.680
<v Speaker 1>was like, what you do today, you know? And he

0:32:20.800 --> 0:32:22.560
<v Speaker 1>was like, oh, we did rhyming words and I was like,

0:32:22.600 --> 0:32:24.680
<v Speaker 1>oh yeah, like what words and he was like like

0:32:25.080 --> 0:32:29.440
<v Speaker 1>truck and I was like, okay, don't do it. Don't

0:32:29.440 --> 0:32:31.200
<v Speaker 1>do it. Don't do it rhymes with truck and he

0:32:31.320 --> 0:32:37.480
<v Speaker 1>was like fuck. I was like, and there's a little

0:32:37.560 --> 0:32:39.640
<v Speaker 1>girl in front of us that was in her grade too,

0:32:39.680 --> 0:32:42.640
<v Speaker 1>and she was like, oh yeah, does wrong with that?

0:32:43.880 --> 0:32:47.400
<v Speaker 1>And you're like my work. I was just like, oh,

0:32:47.680 --> 0:32:50.440
<v Speaker 1>this is good year. So it's how fast you are.

0:32:51.760 --> 0:32:55.440
<v Speaker 1>The running is definitely a big who's the fastest? And

0:32:55.520 --> 0:32:57.320
<v Speaker 1>another one is that I wanted to ask you about

0:32:57.600 --> 0:33:02.520
<v Speaker 1>is obviously lunches. All kids want canteen food. They just

0:33:02.720 --> 0:33:05.720
<v Speaker 1>they just want on a Friday. Yeah, so we haven't

0:33:05.720 --> 0:33:08.240
<v Speaker 1>done it at all, but the kids are trying to

0:33:08.280 --> 0:33:12.120
<v Speaker 1>manipulate all the parents by saying every oh, this kid

0:33:12.200 --> 0:33:14.880
<v Speaker 1>gets it every day, like everyone gets it but me,

0:33:15.360 --> 0:33:19.640
<v Speaker 1>And so we've figured them out. Lenny and Oscar obviously

0:33:19.800 --> 0:33:22.240
<v Speaker 1>in the same cli wat trying to playoffs. They're trying

0:33:22.280 --> 0:33:24.600
<v Speaker 1>to play each other, but they don't realize that. We

0:33:24.800 --> 0:33:28.440
<v Speaker 1>talked to his parents. It's so dumb. And apparently Lenny

0:33:28.560 --> 0:33:32.840
<v Speaker 1>went home and was like, uh, everyone gets Canteen food

0:33:33.080 --> 0:33:36.040
<v Speaker 1>every day except for me, and they were like everyone

0:33:36.560 --> 0:33:40.040
<v Speaker 1>everyone gets Oscar. They're like, hang on a moment rings

0:33:40.080 --> 0:33:43.120
<v Speaker 1>April on lad Speak and He's like, does os get

0:33:43.160 --> 0:33:45.040
<v Speaker 1>Canteen food And I was like, na, not yet, and

0:33:45.040 --> 0:33:51.400
<v Speaker 1>they were like, see Lenny just trying to We were

0:33:51.400 --> 0:33:53.080
<v Speaker 1>all like showing him like that because it's all on

0:33:53.160 --> 0:33:55.760
<v Speaker 1>apps and stuff. Now that's that's a that's a crazy thing.

0:33:56.520 --> 0:33:58.360
<v Speaker 2>Like Laura was like, hey, you got to put in

0:33:58.840 --> 0:34:01.040
<v Speaker 2>eight am is a deadline in the morning of put

0:34:01.080 --> 0:34:03.000
<v Speaker 2>your order in, and she's like, just do it on the.

0:34:03.000 --> 0:34:06.920
<v Speaker 1>App and I was like, what, where's the brown paper bag?

0:34:08.480 --> 0:34:11.560
<v Speaker 2>You just ride on like sausage roll dollars sixty. Put

0:34:11.600 --> 0:34:14.200
<v Speaker 2>the money in the battle sausage roll twelve dollars sixty.

0:34:15.280 --> 0:34:18.680
<v Speaker 2>Very expensive. But they have apps now. They have apps

0:34:18.719 --> 0:34:19.120
<v Speaker 2>for Canti.

0:34:19.400 --> 0:34:20.920
<v Speaker 1>Any app called I have a really good name for

0:34:20.960 --> 0:34:23.880
<v Speaker 1>that app. It's called the app should be called brown paperbag.

0:34:24.239 --> 0:34:29.680
<v Speaker 1>Just saying the app right, no good, it's not your best.

0:34:29.680 --> 0:34:31.919
<v Speaker 1>I'll put it down to yet I. I just thought

0:34:31.960 --> 0:34:32.080
<v Speaker 1>of it.

0:34:32.120 --> 0:34:33.320
<v Speaker 2>I'll put it down to your ADHD.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well, I'm not going to tell you things if

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<v Speaker 1>you're going to use it against me. So I also

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<v Speaker 1>have a massive penis.

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<v Speaker 2>But Marley today has her first exam. First example, see

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<v Speaker 2>already first test they have. They do these reading tests

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<v Speaker 2>to figure out what books you get, So you get

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<v Speaker 2>different books depending on your ability to the library at.

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<v Speaker 1>The library or do you guys have a library or school? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>I think so, I don't know school. I zoned out

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<v Speaker 2>during the parent teaching. There is some kind of a library.

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<v Speaker 3>I think, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a forty five minute meeting about school curriculum,

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<v Speaker 2>so I was twenty. Can I just say to the

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<v Speaker 2>teacher it was great.

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<v Speaker 1>Try and do it with ADHD. It's not a competition broke.

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<v Speaker 2>It's but Maria's going to find it. Maria's going to

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<v Speaker 2>find out what level her reading is. That she's so good,

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<v Speaker 2>she's very good. She's freakishly good. Like Reeds better than me.

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<v Speaker 1>Doing a running test today, mondays Marley's doing a reading.

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, what's this?

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<v Speaker 2>But Lola hates it. Lola's like, why is she going

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<v Speaker 2>to a separate school? So now we're debating. We were

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<v Speaker 2>going to hold back Lola for one more year of

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<v Speaker 2>daycare next year, but now we're like, do you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>Let's just send them both.

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<v Speaker 1>She's a fair baby, so I think I think she'll

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<v Speaker 1>be five when she starts. Yeah, fine, right, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Send her Yes, the draft, Yeah this one, fine, give

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<v Speaker 2>to this one. But it's so fast and good, so

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<v Speaker 2>fast good, and the parents that we've met are lovely.

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<v Speaker 1>I really love it.

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<v Speaker 2>And the most exciting part ash I'm going to get

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<v Speaker 2>my electric bike this weekend so I can start doing

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<v Speaker 2>drop offs.

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<v Speaker 1>In my bike. I've been doing the drop offs on

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<v Speaker 1>a bike because it's carnage down there. It's an nightmare. Absolute.

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<v Speaker 2>I would rather spend an afternoon in Hell than do

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<v Speaker 2>a drop off in the car.

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<v Speaker 1>Trying to find a part, and I'm like five hundred

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<v Speaker 1>meters from the school. But the problem is it's like

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<v Speaker 1>all uphill on the way back, which to walk. It's like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>but the electric bike. You just mosey back up because

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<v Speaker 1>Oscar must love it. Loves it every day, even April

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<v Speaker 1>and I rode the bike to parent teacher interviews April together.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Man, everyone's trying to get parks. I rode all the

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<v Speaker 1>way down to the front of the school. Where was

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<v Speaker 1>she sitting on the back. She's sitting, bitch, baby, what's

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<v Speaker 1>that the seat behind where you grab like that? There's

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<v Speaker 1>plenty of grab onto at the moment, that's for sure.

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<v Speaker 1>She was like, all this, you look great, thank you?

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, did you get the bucket one?

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<v Speaker 2>A little buck at the front, double seat at the back?

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<v Speaker 2>I got the real I got the dad Mode one.

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<v Speaker 2>You got the cool one I've got, you got the

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<v Speaker 2>cool surf one.

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<v Speaker 1>I've got a new one coming. Oh jeez, must be nice.

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<v Speaker 3>This one's just a freebie. This one just someone who

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<v Speaker 3>wants to with the odd one. Ah, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 3>that's mine. How many how many electric bikes do you need?

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<v Speaker 1>I needed a new one because the one I've got

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<v Speaker 1>is not powerful enough for all the hill.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, we have a little update. A little while ago

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<v Speaker 2>would have been last year, the end of November.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you believe it's nearly the end of fair? But

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<v Speaker 1>I can't. I cannot, I cannot. Where does the time go?

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<v Speaker 1>Where did it go? Lost it? I'm thirty five this year. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you're forty. I'm thirty eight. Yeah, your wife's forty though

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<v Speaker 1>these gray hairs.

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<v Speaker 2>Bro.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, we did the calendar, the raaunchry raunge calendar. He did.

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<v Speaker 2>You may be wondering, Ash, how much money did we

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<v Speaker 2>raise because we were donating all proceeds to a great

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<v Speaker 2>charity called rise Up. They support victims of domestic violence. Ash,

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<v Speaker 2>have a guess how much money we will be donating.

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<v Speaker 2>Fifty bucks, A little bit more than that. It is

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<v Speaker 2>three thousand, five hundred and fourteen dollars will be donated

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<v Speaker 2>to rise Up.

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<v Speaker 1>That is outstanding, and that is because of the listeners.

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<v Speaker 2>So thank you so much for your support. That is

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<v Speaker 2>a roundom applause.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's worth a round the clause.

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<v Speaker 2>Are we are a clapping podcast?

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<v Speaker 1>Now? Now where's two doting clappers?

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, I really appreciate the support. We do have

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<v Speaker 2>some calendars left, so if you would like to hit

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<v Speaker 2>your hands. I know we talked about the year going

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<v Speaker 2>so far, but.

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<v Speaker 1>There's plenty of time. We'll had two extra months at

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<v Speaker 1>the year. He got nine months to enjoy the calendar.

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<v Speaker 1>That's all they have to do is put the two

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<v Speaker 1>front months at the end. Just roll it on into

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<v Speaker 1>twenty twenty six. Yes, March twentieth.

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<v Speaker 2>This guy's good a business. We will put a link

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<v Speaker 2>in the shows. We will put the link in the

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<v Speaker 2>show notes where you can buy the calendar. But a

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<v Speaker 2>huge thanks for all your support.

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<v Speaker 1>And we obviously need to do like March twentieth as

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<v Speaker 1>a two doing Dad Day or something. Why is that

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<v Speaker 1>again because we did twice cops. Yeah, yeah, that is.

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<v Speaker 1>That is quality control on that calendar seems to.

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<v Speaker 2>But but if you haven't bought one, it's a great calendar. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>there's a couple of mistakes in there, but ignore it

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't matter.

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<v Speaker 1>Now it still rolls on. I think if it didn't

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<v Speaker 1>roll on, if it threw every other day, it's just numbers,

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<v Speaker 1>just numbers.

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't it doesn't make any major impact.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, what's the calendar exactly? No one. You should buy one,

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<v Speaker 1>no one to buy in the calendar for the dates

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<v Speaker 1>to the pictures. That's the for days anyway, that's good.

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<v Speaker 1>That's good gear.

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<v Speaker 2>And on that note, we will get out of here.

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<v Speaker 2>You've got to drive home. I'm going to pick up

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<v Speaker 2>the kids.

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<v Speaker 1>Ashy. If you've enjoyed this episode, what should you do?

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